You can’t have a healthy relationship with an unhealthy person. Tough when one grows up in a toxic family system & the toxicity is ‘normalized’.

@rascallyrabbit

Жыл бұрын

i get this. slowly, as i stand firm on my moral world view, i am able to see others and choose how to react. i am building a self i lost in the womb.

@KatWoodland

11 ай бұрын

Exactly! Thank God for the pathologically narcissistic mother and father combination that has created a lifetime of damage and challenges to overcome. Thank God my body is healthy. Life my be a mess, but I have my health. Hooray for at least that. Oh ladies. Dating apps are for the men to have access to YOU, to have sexual relations with you (and any other woman they want). Get off of these apps. The men there only want sex and they are getting it! With broken women. And then they have all that GROSS energy and kooties on themselves.😮

@MindBodyStorm

9 ай бұрын

It's even tougher when the person is adopted and grows up being abused in the name of "love".

This video was extremely helpful. I am a highly empathic man and just ended a short relationship (2 months) with a narcissist. She seems to have many traits of a covert narcissist, but she's very outgoing. I fell for her lies and felt stupid for it. This video helped me understand why I did and that I'm not stupid for doing so. I wanted to believe the fantasy and she made that easy!

I discovered your channel like 2 weeks ago. Subscribed of course. Watching one by one. I've got no words to describe how precise and how profound your analysis is. You must have gone through hell in your life like I have. This is the essence of the problem. You see the red flags, you know it's wrong, you know you're being abused, insulted, robbed, resented, humilitated over and over again but you keep rationalizing and forgiving. Not once a year, not once a month but once an hour and you still wonder if this is the breaking point to finally say NO!

Your empathy moves mountains❤

Well done. A complete rendition of facts. In the logical aftermath, exploitation of normal expectations is all on them. Learning of the affliction explains it completely. Tip to newbies...if weird things are happening while you are innocently attempting to have a relationship, understand those things weren't coincidence. You can be collateral damage. Many mangled targets of the past are not the no contact, good riddens type. When bad vibes present, believe the warning. Bad people make good people make headlines everyday.

@pavithra-7429

Жыл бұрын

True. I even got several warnings from a good and strong wellwisher.. But I was a fool to demystify them. Because I believed more in his manipulations.

It's always the ones who feign innocence that are the most evil. As no one would ever want to believe that the truth was that evil exists. And is committed every minute of every hour of every day. This planet is fubar. Sick 🤮 and vile.

All your videos are So good, please keep making them, thank you.

Narcissist are inhumane i'm a empath and grew up with a narcissistic mother and my father was also not present with me. That made me fall in love with narcissists for the 4th time. We just don't get the fact how these people live so i had to repeat the cycle all over again and again. And i can finally say i'm happy alone and i can spot a toxic person or bad intentions from a mile away because they tell on themselfs you just need to go a little bit in their world to unstand it. Dark humor is a no go for me and a grooming additude as if they know you. And directly flirt with you because they want the validation themselfs at first i come across boring and they are bored because they want to tik the box first to look if you are a little bit into them😅 and if they play the victim i block them because i don't chase these people.

Love this! I have said since the beginning of my relationship that I didn’t want to be the “dumb one” that doesn’t understand what’s really going on. Now I feel so much better.

It's been four years now after ending a 35 year marriage. I still struggle with accepting what a monster he was. I noticed that something was off fifteen years ago when I had to explain to him that having a secret life online, romantically involved with three other women was wrong and it hurt me. He blamed my anger at discovery for the problems in our marriage. I searched online for what was going on with him, narcissism did not come up. I had to get over this on my own and trust him. He lost his job and I supported him. I discovered the secret life again. Again, no discussion of what hes doing or how this hurts me. I feel stupid I gave him a second chance years ago. I feel stupid I supported him all of these years. I feel stupid that I believed what he told me about myself. I'm smarter now...

This was very helpful. I always prided myself for having good judgment about people's character. For example, if somebody came to me with gossip, that right there was a red flag to me not to trust that person with information that I wanted to protect. In hindsight, I did see micro red flags with my ex narcissist friend, however, by that point that person already did such a good job at playing the role of who they thought I needed them to be that I just chalked it up to "everybody has their quirks", "we're all human", etc. I never thought of myself as being niave, but I just didn't see him for who he is. I am trustworthy, decent, and kind... but I also have my human flaws and sensitivities so I assumed he was the same. Anyhow, this video is a good message. You don't necessarily need to be a person who has patterns of unhealthy relationships to get fooled and hurt by a narcissist.

The problem that I have faced is that outside eyes do not want to believe the truth. They hold on to any scintilla of MY words or actions that help them reinforce their stubborn belief in their own opinion.

Yes, they master conflict and there is never any form of relationship that is healthy enough being involved with the narcissist

YOU MAKE SOME AWESOME POINTS IN THIS.. REALLY EXCELLENT. XO ANGELA AGAIN SERIOUSLY YOU WOULD BE SUCH A GOOD COUNCILOR.

I just started watching your videos a couple days ago and I'm blown away by your thoughtful insights and ability to clearly articulate the narcissistic abuse experience. I've spent my adult life trying to make sense of how I was treated during 2 failed marriages to narcissistic women. I've watched literally hundreds of videos on narcissism, and your's are among the best. Please keep up the fantastic work.

this was brilliant, "not knowing its a thing" is exactly what iv kept thinking.... nothing in me would have realised such people existed as "a thing".. iv now had to face my family were full of it, its "a thing" and its not normal !

Yes what a great analogy; this is so true, it is so hard for me to stay away from my abusive sisters because i find it hard to believe myself, especially when a week has passed, my sister has rung me 3 times today because i didn't respond to her 1st call, but i have been in such grief all week and not one phonecall to see if i am ok, and she started putting negative spins on everything i said especially at a time when i was having to let go of my ragdollcat who i luved to pieces, i know she was jealous of the cat of course, everytime i talked about something smart he did she would tell me her cat did the same, maybe he did, but these breeds are usually a bit different to moggies! Everything is a game and i don't trust her and i didn't want to talk to her again, she tricked me into it thru a flying monkey! I don't want to put up with it anymore, i know she doesn't have my back because she never has my back, neither does the other one and they back each other, if i speak out about behaviour! I have turned my phone off now, so i won't jump when it rings, thanks i appreciate your stream, just perfect, will listen again!❤❤❤

I’ve recently realised just how much I’ve been abused by her for years. I feel so stupid now. I gave her so many chances and ignored red flags and now I’m in a complete mess.

@Daniel-nh3qr

4 ай бұрын

Hope things are getting better. Stay strong and please get help if you need to. ❤

She’s an actress and I now realise how much was just a performance.

Beautiful healing message ❤

Feeling stupid. It’s kind of like feeling swindled from a get rich quick scheme. It seemed like a great idea in the beginning but it gradually falls apart and despite a lot of warning signs you lose all your investment. How do you feel after that? It’s, “How could I have missed the obvious red flags?” Great video!

You are doing God’s work here. May the Holy Spirit bless you. Please keep speaking the truth on these demons

the main reasons I feel stupid are staying so long, yep should have left at the first red flag but ok I didn’t know, but also being so “happy” I was always making the best of everything the whole time through all the dramas and chaos, pretended to my family that he was a great guy treating me well and we did enjoy a “happy” full life I knew I “could never provide myself” so I stayed and enjoyed it, looking back that smiling person looks so so stupid just living life like that in a fog of abuse but smiling. So weird. I don’t know how to forgive myself for this and recover. I honestly feel so stupid and incapable as a person now.

Demonic

@gregoryjohnson3509

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely! As I got closer to my narcissist, I started telling those close to me that I didn't like the person I was becoming. The day I exposed her lies and left her, my peace began to come back. It's been 4 days now and I'm sleeping better every night. It was so dark being caught up in her deception.

@djw8504

Жыл бұрын

Same here! I’ve always been a people person and great attitude, but after a 7yr relationship, he almost broke me down beyond repair. I was so depressed and isolated. I’m aware and away from him now, sleeping thru the night and growing my hair back healthier, hiking, biking, laughing, and enjoying my family like I did before he took all of that from me. We will continue to get stronger and healthier, but they won’t!🙏🙌💪😁

Looking back does make you feel stupid, but you were also likely in a compromised mental/emotional state. The abuse will get you there if you’re not already there or make it worse if you are.

The problem is these kinds of people can be among the police, the psychiatrists, the politics, and ALL the people in power (and these can work together to silence the true victims), so we as victims end up having no one to turn to but psychologists, some victims don't even have enough money to properly engage in the long treatment curve that demands such abuse. The problem is we aren't fully safe in a potentially corrupt legal and social system. People don't want to knowledge responsibility and don't want to get caught, and this includes corrupt people in positions of authority who use that given authority to mistreat or abuse others in the name of it. Victims, u end up financially depleted by the narc's behavior because it causes damage to the brain and has a direct impact on the mental health of the victim and thus in his/her ability to make to pay for treatment, so it can be very difficult to work in such circumstances. The fear of punishment it is actually worse than rejection, narcs often threaten to get their victims put in a psych guard.

He did a lot of things, but the first i got really mad was when he punch me jn the arm “as a joke” this happened on July and he apologized. On early August i decided never see him again because he embarrassed me in front of my daughter, he didnt addressed my complain, and because we were neighbours continue everyday doing “funny things”. I didnt want that behaviour i wanted he to apologize, but he continue doing stupid things. I didnt reply until one day starting to yelled outside my door “Marcita i love u dont be mad” i went out and said to him if you are not apologizing i wont talking with u again. I decided give some things he gave me back, and left them outside his door and he freaked out. Went into my room punched me, slapped me, and i ran into his room. He broke his door and continue punched me until i could stand and ran saying i will call the police. I didnt move out ontime, and i feel so bad, because i feel i cant take care of myself properly 😭.

Just to answer the questioon around 15:00 . I've thought i should end relation when she told me "If you upset me i will break your gas meter and let the gas escape". It lasted few months to exit without upsetting her :) There was other bad things but this actually scared me. Now back to video.

I so look forward to your videos! Your points are excellent! Thank you so much!!!

I feel so stupid

So true … great videos.

iadore you and your vids thank you heal on diva good stuff. Angela in Montana

Best thing that ever happened to me

❤ Thank you!! I love your videos! I just found your channel tonight and I am so glad!

For 3 years i was fooled by a covert narc cancer survivor. She blames and projects her pain and dissatisfaction in life on everyone else. I found out she had been balancing multiple online intimate relationships with ppl she had never even met. Having video sex and exchanging nude photos with one another the entire relationship and for years prior to us. She had claimed to have never been in a relationship and was a virgin and even her family confirmed. She was always awkward and anyone that ever persued her were only met with her inability to be intimate physically or otherwise. I was completely shattered when i found out. Absolutely NO ONE knew. It's so weird she was a lot more open when she texted me than if i initiated face to face conflict resolution within our relationship. She would completely shut down, be non verbal, storm off, or run away and cry to her dog. I was so patient and comprimising, giving, and loving. I thought i was doing everything right. I just didnt know she was incapable of recieving it. It was all too much for her and so she made me pay for all her feelings of inadequacy. This is the strangest and most illogical experience ive ever been apart of. Me always being outgoing and happy and pushing to be better only pushed her further away. And now i am lost. I have never in my life not valued myself or life and now atleast once a day i can just see myself being hit by a bus and not even bothering to get out of the way. This is psychological rape.

I really am doing well its been 8 months 🎉never going back

We weren't indeed stupid because actually, the narcissist would have bored in a long-term relationship with a person without inner brightness or super intelligence because there would have been anything of high value (more value than they actually could ever hope to have) in such a person to steal from or to ruin, thus obtaining no narcissistic supply from it. Actually, we were acting from a place of utter authenticity in terms of goodness, and THAT is something that a true INTELLIGENT empath would always do with people naturally. Because being nice to good people gets you good things in life. It is intelligent. I personally had no choice in the matter at all for the first and main narc in my life was my own father. Obviously, no child of heaven would expect his own father to be a traitor, right? Narcissists only feel superior by ruining something that they know is better than what they have, therefore proving the higher worth in terms of emotional intelligence of their victims. With a stupid person, there would have been no potential for any twisted game at all. I used to be more intelligent before my narc father caused actual damage to my brain.

Thank you.❤

Nice 🥰

Thank you for this. 😊

Thankyou. Yes

I really needed to hear this, thank you very much ❤

Omg i know

Thank you for your validation ❤

This helps..need to hear it again

Thank you. Thank you so much.

This is such a powerful video! My go to! Thank you so much!

Vos vidéos sont extraordinaires !

@LookingBehindtheMirror

Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Thank you!

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I forgive you seven labosky

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100% i love this channel i love your energy your work and reasoning skills. This channel helps me allot very glad i discovered it yesterday and subscribed

@LookingBehindtheMirror

Жыл бұрын

I’m so happy to hear that! Thank you for subscribing!

I love the pie and mechanic analogies. Explains it perfectly. These people open our eyes to true evil in this world.