I have have three kids living with her, no contact is not possible but I try to keep it to a very minimum.
@tanyadepoalo43124 сағат бұрын
I’ve seen enough of that contemptuous state, the wicked mean treatment and words, the false accusations, being told I’m hated and to burn in hell. Being broken up with and blocked countless times, 2.5 years of that was enough! I love and miss his sweet dog and he ruined it for us all!
@Justsaying38256 сағат бұрын
Every single word this kind hearted and compassionate woman said I find to be 100% accurate because I have lived it. You are helping people, I know this because you have helped me with your content. Thank you.
@blondiexday8 сағат бұрын
100%!!!
@garrimic38 сағат бұрын
When a narcissist moves on they will treat their new supply better than they did you because they have to. Just as they treated you better in the beginning. You will have to accept that or you won’t be successful in moving forward with your life. What you won’t see is that they’re not going to keep it up long. Soon the new supply will say something or do something that will upset the narcissist as you did and will start treating the new supply as they did you.
@user-cq9vk5gt7o8 сағат бұрын
The only contention I have is living your normal life is not an imperfection. Their projection has nothing to do with you at all, whether or not you are perfect. Of course I also believe that no one is perfect, but their insults have nothing to do with imperfections when we are living our normal lives. It is on them.
@diane98612 сағат бұрын
Yes, narcissists always make sure there is plausible deniability.
@Myportion44213 сағат бұрын
WOW !
@PB-md3nt13 сағат бұрын
I found it really bizarre, one of the last things she said to me was "You'll always be my #1 love" yet she stood me up for dates and threw me away way too many times to count. These people are very damaged individuals, and unless they get professional help they are going to be a very lonely old person.
@maryracette177613 сағат бұрын
I met a person. He wanted 100% of my attention and was very critical of me and a sweet talker. Dumped him within 2 days. A narrisist.
@PB-md3nt13 сағат бұрын
Their past traumas and hurts does not give someone carte blanche to treat someone that they profess to love like shit. I put up with it way too long, she can be a lonely old woman. I don't care anymore.
@doranvee594413 сағат бұрын
N like to shame and belittle you by being highly critical of something you have or haven't done. Consequently, you don't tell about the abuse, because you are forced to relay criticism of yourself.
@CurlyQxyz16 сағат бұрын
Congrats on all the wonderful things going on in your life!! It’s awesome you are going back to school. I wish you nothing but happiness and success!! Also thank you for this video. It is 100% accurate and very helpful.
@MiMa-k2w18 сағат бұрын
Someone who was involved in my abuse tried to shift the blame to me for their abuse. No you are an abuser and it wasn't a game
@YvagneКүн бұрын
Thank you for your video and you’re exactly right. It’s a CONFUSING EXPERIENCE dealing with manipulative people especially the ones who you haven’t even met but already know a lot about you.
@Tiger-dg3czКүн бұрын
I’m so screwed up I have no future and I’m 57 year old widow
@Tiger-dg3czКүн бұрын
It’s just absolutely disgusting.
@jo-ann2014Күн бұрын
Congratulations! You are so clear…the best! Thank you for your life-saving content🌹🌈
@manapeaceКүн бұрын
Jeremy Sherman on youtube distilled it down to something so simple it’s completely unconscious… If it’s good, it’s about me. if it’s bad, it’s about you. words don’t matter at all. - Jeremy’s Hero bot formula
@LisaSmith-yb2uzКүн бұрын
This perfectly describes my last ex
@ligyasouza755Күн бұрын
Narcisists dont kiss.Most dont hold hands.Why? Please make a video about
@etaokha4164Күн бұрын
His favourite gaslight phrase is " what is your problem?" Because your boundaries are too strong
@Sophie-sn8kcКүн бұрын
I don’t know anymore if I’m traumatized from being with a narcissist or if I’m the narcissist.
@naturallaw522 күн бұрын
Verbatum!
@LisaSmith-yb2uz2 күн бұрын
❤so true. It’s always transactional with someone who has no capacity towards real empathy
@jennykim62202 күн бұрын
I live with narcissist. Everyday is hell on earth! 😰
@clairesweeney43342 күн бұрын
Jelly coworkers do this all the time
@stevelangely80042 күн бұрын
Ex: I really love you. Me: Yours is not the kind of love I need.
@marionthompson33652 күн бұрын
There are countless situations where people are insulting and rude, but the sting of the attacks from a narcissist, (unwarranted and nonsensical) hits hard. My ex started the insults and criticism about two months in. Left me in a permanent state of confusion and bewilderment. When someone you love suddenly is another person, like a split personality or something like it. A real Jekyll and Hyde. Devastation for many many years. Been solo ever since. Peace at last.
@user-gk8vb6dl9l2 күн бұрын
It's hard work having no empathy. It's like special needs in reverse.
@MrBdl322 күн бұрын
".. Geez I wasn't talking about you... Don't know why you felt alluded.."
@nicholecornes19152 күн бұрын
My life WAS GREAT
@nicholecornes19152 күн бұрын
I had no idea holy smokes
@AMA-c9o2 күн бұрын
Not everyone who sticks up for themselves are narcs.❤
@davidjoshua10752 күн бұрын
Never care for people who are trying to kill you. It's much worse than them projecting their faults on you. They are literally soul sucking vampires moving from victim to victim. Hope we all recover soon.
@m.o.s.h.18362 күн бұрын
I was a target supply and my discerment told me not to bite their bait. I'm so grateful to God because of his wisdom and protections. 🙏🙏🙏
@ligyasouza7553 күн бұрын
Great video
@Ghettobank693 күн бұрын
Not only is it a projection of your emotions, it's you gaslighting yourself. Still I love all your metaphors. It makes things so simple. For me it's icing on the cake
@Ghettobank693 күн бұрын
Not only is it a projection of your emotions, it's you also Gaslighting yourself. Love still your metaphors
@dianeclayton49363 күн бұрын
Your channel is a true reflection of my experience very validating! Thank You!
@BingoMomi3 күн бұрын
I had a pulmonary embolism that nearly killed me. While recuperating, i concluded that life is too short to listen to narcissistic crap my whole life. I respect their right to say and act anyway they want, but count me out. I said goodbye, I have better things to do.
@s.williamc.3 күн бұрын
Thank you.
@leeschloss48403 күн бұрын
Make it simple.. what they do is the psychological equivalent of scarring you with acid. If you never see them in a positive light after what they've done, and want nothing to do with them, that's on them.
@amyapplegate43563 күн бұрын
Terrible audio
@LookingBehindtheMirror2 күн бұрын
You know, it’s true that I put very little effort into my audio. But the reason I haven’t invested in anything to do with audio is because you are the very first person in over 4 years that has ever said anything about it. I think if I get a couple more comments about it, I’ll look into audio equipment. I know absolutely nothing about how audio works, and I’m too busy to look into it when it doesn’t seem to be a problem.
@amyapplegate43562 күн бұрын
@@LookingBehindtheMirror 4 years is a long time to be unaware of audio quality when audio is half of your message.
@@LookingBehindtheMirror I can hear you just fine. I like the way your audio sounds.
@Ghettobank693 күн бұрын
I just love your metaphors. Like this one about the ship and sailing. Wow, that in a nutshell. All your words are beautifully spoken and expounded upon. Thank You.
@loreleiletslivetogether37673 күн бұрын
My narcissistic mother rationalized her every bad according to a “domino effect”. If you hadn’t left the toilet seat up in 1969 then you wouldn’t have set in motion a “chain of events” that led to the present situation and thus she would not have been forced to do whatever happened in the present time frame. It’s type of alloplastic defense mechanism where she perceives an imagined connection between someone else’s actions of the distant past and her bad behavior in the present which is retroactive culpability
@LookingBehindtheMirror3 күн бұрын
Oh that is clever. I don’t know if I should laugh or roll my eyes. 😂 If only they could put half as much effort into self reflection.
@angiehayes7397Күн бұрын
Wow!! Love this analogy. So true yet I've never looked at it this way. Great eye opener!!! Thx 🙂
@lorenzodossantos11113 күн бұрын
Best Narc insult ever: You were so much better looking when you were younger (35 years earlier), want proof? Go look at you high school year book. (True story)
@LookingBehindtheMirror2 күн бұрын
Oh my gosh. We all looked like children when we were in high school!! What does that say about that particular narc?
@Joe-hf3cn3 күн бұрын
This situation happened. Upon seeing each other after 30+ years of no contact, as we were walking into lunch meeting she said to me that she cares about me -after all the years went by. There wasn’t any eye contact, as if she was saying it to herself. It seemed as if she was patting herself on her back. It’s true that certain people are put into your life for a reason. She returned to destroy me, little was I aware… So many lessons learned
@ogpatrice3 күн бұрын
Most Narcissist has some form of addiction (s) and they have mood swings Big time. They love to smear campaign you when you don't go with their narrative or program. 🤢
@lulalane13453 күн бұрын
Was just called dumb by my mother after speaking about and incident that took place when I was 5yrs old. It hurt!!! and I et her know but I also said" no I had dumb parents who left a 6, 5 and four year old in the house alone."
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I have have three kids living with her, no contact is not possible but I try to keep it to a very minimum.
I’ve seen enough of that contemptuous state, the wicked mean treatment and words, the false accusations, being told I’m hated and to burn in hell. Being broken up with and blocked countless times, 2.5 years of that was enough! I love and miss his sweet dog and he ruined it for us all!
Every single word this kind hearted and compassionate woman said I find to be 100% accurate because I have lived it. You are helping people, I know this because you have helped me with your content. Thank you.
100%!!!
When a narcissist moves on they will treat their new supply better than they did you because they have to. Just as they treated you better in the beginning. You will have to accept that or you won’t be successful in moving forward with your life. What you won’t see is that they’re not going to keep it up long. Soon the new supply will say something or do something that will upset the narcissist as you did and will start treating the new supply as they did you.
The only contention I have is living your normal life is not an imperfection. Their projection has nothing to do with you at all, whether or not you are perfect. Of course I also believe that no one is perfect, but their insults have nothing to do with imperfections when we are living our normal lives. It is on them.
Yes, narcissists always make sure there is plausible deniability.
WOW !
I found it really bizarre, one of the last things she said to me was "You'll always be my #1 love" yet she stood me up for dates and threw me away way too many times to count. These people are very damaged individuals, and unless they get professional help they are going to be a very lonely old person.
I met a person. He wanted 100% of my attention and was very critical of me and a sweet talker. Dumped him within 2 days. A narrisist.
Their past traumas and hurts does not give someone carte blanche to treat someone that they profess to love like shit. I put up with it way too long, she can be a lonely old woman. I don't care anymore.
N like to shame and belittle you by being highly critical of something you have or haven't done. Consequently, you don't tell about the abuse, because you are forced to relay criticism of yourself.
Congrats on all the wonderful things going on in your life!! It’s awesome you are going back to school. I wish you nothing but happiness and success!! Also thank you for this video. It is 100% accurate and very helpful.
Someone who was involved in my abuse tried to shift the blame to me for their abuse. No you are an abuser and it wasn't a game
Thank you for your video and you’re exactly right. It’s a CONFUSING EXPERIENCE dealing with manipulative people especially the ones who you haven’t even met but already know a lot about you.
I’m so screwed up I have no future and I’m 57 year old widow
It’s just absolutely disgusting.
Congratulations! You are so clear…the best! Thank you for your life-saving content🌹🌈
Jeremy Sherman on youtube distilled it down to something so simple it’s completely unconscious… If it’s good, it’s about me. if it’s bad, it’s about you. words don’t matter at all. - Jeremy’s Hero bot formula
This perfectly describes my last ex
Narcisists dont kiss.Most dont hold hands.Why? Please make a video about
His favourite gaslight phrase is " what is your problem?" Because your boundaries are too strong
I don’t know anymore if I’m traumatized from being with a narcissist or if I’m the narcissist.
Verbatum!
❤so true. It’s always transactional with someone who has no capacity towards real empathy
I live with narcissist. Everyday is hell on earth! 😰
Jelly coworkers do this all the time
Ex: I really love you. Me: Yours is not the kind of love I need.
There are countless situations where people are insulting and rude, but the sting of the attacks from a narcissist, (unwarranted and nonsensical) hits hard. My ex started the insults and criticism about two months in. Left me in a permanent state of confusion and bewilderment. When someone you love suddenly is another person, like a split personality or something like it. A real Jekyll and Hyde. Devastation for many many years. Been solo ever since. Peace at last.
It's hard work having no empathy. It's like special needs in reverse.
".. Geez I wasn't talking about you... Don't know why you felt alluded.."
My life WAS GREAT
I had no idea holy smokes
Not everyone who sticks up for themselves are narcs.❤
Never care for people who are trying to kill you. It's much worse than them projecting their faults on you. They are literally soul sucking vampires moving from victim to victim. Hope we all recover soon.
I was a target supply and my discerment told me not to bite their bait. I'm so grateful to God because of his wisdom and protections. 🙏🙏🙏
Great video
Not only is it a projection of your emotions, it's you gaslighting yourself. Still I love all your metaphors. It makes things so simple. For me it's icing on the cake
Not only is it a projection of your emotions, it's you also Gaslighting yourself. Love still your metaphors
Your channel is a true reflection of my experience very validating! Thank You!
I had a pulmonary embolism that nearly killed me. While recuperating, i concluded that life is too short to listen to narcissistic crap my whole life. I respect their right to say and act anyway they want, but count me out. I said goodbye, I have better things to do.
Thank you.
Make it simple.. what they do is the psychological equivalent of scarring you with acid. If you never see them in a positive light after what they've done, and want nothing to do with them, that's on them.
Terrible audio
You know, it’s true that I put very little effort into my audio. But the reason I haven’t invested in anything to do with audio is because you are the very first person in over 4 years that has ever said anything about it. I think if I get a couple more comments about it, I’ll look into audio equipment. I know absolutely nothing about how audio works, and I’m too busy to look into it when it doesn’t seem to be a problem.
@@LookingBehindtheMirror 4 years is a long time to be unaware of audio quality when audio is half of your message.
Dnt defend explain justify etc@@LookingBehindtheMirror
@@LookingBehindtheMirror I can hear you just fine. I like the way your audio sounds.
I just love your metaphors. Like this one about the ship and sailing. Wow, that in a nutshell. All your words are beautifully spoken and expounded upon. Thank You.
My narcissistic mother rationalized her every bad according to a “domino effect”. If you hadn’t left the toilet seat up in 1969 then you wouldn’t have set in motion a “chain of events” that led to the present situation and thus she would not have been forced to do whatever happened in the present time frame. It’s type of alloplastic defense mechanism where she perceives an imagined connection between someone else’s actions of the distant past and her bad behavior in the present which is retroactive culpability
Oh that is clever. I don’t know if I should laugh or roll my eyes. 😂 If only they could put half as much effort into self reflection.
Wow!! Love this analogy. So true yet I've never looked at it this way. Great eye opener!!! Thx 🙂
Best Narc insult ever: You were so much better looking when you were younger (35 years earlier), want proof? Go look at you high school year book. (True story)
Oh my gosh. We all looked like children when we were in high school!! What does that say about that particular narc?
This situation happened. Upon seeing each other after 30+ years of no contact, as we were walking into lunch meeting she said to me that she cares about me -after all the years went by. There wasn’t any eye contact, as if she was saying it to herself. It seemed as if she was patting herself on her back. It’s true that certain people are put into your life for a reason. She returned to destroy me, little was I aware… So many lessons learned
Most Narcissist has some form of addiction (s) and they have mood swings Big time. They love to smear campaign you when you don't go with their narrative or program. 🤢
Was just called dumb by my mother after speaking about and incident that took place when I was 5yrs old. It hurt!!! and I et her know but I also said" no I had dumb parents who left a 6, 5 and four year old in the house alone."