They are loyal hypocrites, wanting your loyalty, allegiance and obedience while they are only loyal to themselves.

They are not confused, they just want your compliance

Yes they're committed to misunderstanding you

WE don't owe the NARC a damn thing !!!!!!!! INCLUDING family members !!!!!!!!!! Especially family members !!!!!!!!!!

Remember they want your silence while they demean you to others to cover their asses

It’s so strange… that feeling of being “disloyal” to them by talking about what they’ve done… in an attempt to save your own emotional/empathic sanity… Anyway, thank you for pointing these things out.

@rascallyrabbit

Жыл бұрын

they accuse us of being disloyal. this silence shows our acceptance of their evil.

@cassiebennet4262

10 ай бұрын

They want a partner in denial. They need you to turn against yourself.

I recently reached out to a friend to check up on them, and got no response for a whole week. Then after messaging them on FB, found out they forgot to tell me they changed their phone number. Ok. Sometime after this friend went through a break up with a short fling, tried to reach out to vent and I was busy so I could not get back to them. I was going to reach back out once I got free, but then I hesitated. I realized I did not really want to talk to this friend. Because this same friend is someone who once called me fake when I was trying to offer sympathy to them, has insulted me about the things I'm passionate about and said I suck at them, and overall when we talk it just does not feel very uplifting. I realized this friend is toxic. I realized that I don't want this type of toxicity in my life and don't feel like having to explain anything to them.

Well Said ~ it's a TRAP ~ dead end entrapment

sh it, i grew up in this and learned to lie about everything all the time just to survive🤥

Yup. They don't deserve closure. Giving them a second chance only leads to more of the same heartache. Go no contact and keep them out.

And yeah… I tried to explain leaving, too… And, of course, some time later is when the vague/fake “apology” came in… It’s been a year now since I went no contact… and I’m still haunted by the vestiges of this living poltergeist…

@ptlovelight2971

Жыл бұрын

Same here...watching them unravel and devolve into what they truly are, is like an episode of the Twilight Zone

@ally_in_exodus

Жыл бұрын

@@ptlovelight2971 spot on. And well said 💯

She was living on second chances- and then I decided to stop giving those.

Relationship....the only one relating is you ~ sad but true Its an empty lonely one sided entanglement...the only person who has your back is YOU.

This lady is a very effective educator

They mess up 24/7 on purpose, that's all they have🙏😂😇

Thank you so much for saying we don’t owe the narcissist the truth. In the beginning of the relationship, I was very open and honest and truthful and it resulted in rage and name calling and I wish I would have walked away then but he came back saying I’m so sorry you don’t deserve this, this is how my dad treated me and because I hadn’t been in relationship in 10 years and thought he was my soulmate, I took him back, at some point months down the road after several breakups and getting back together, I had made plans to go Mtn biking with a male friend that was truely only a friend. He was at my house and I was telling him I needed to go meet a friend and when he asked who it was I tried to lie and say it was a girl since the first time he raged at me was when I was honest about someone I slept with 7 years prior!! That he knew. So I could feel the rage coming, he was in my house and I didn’t want to deal with it so I lied and said it was a girl friend. He grilled me and intimidated me and wouldn’t get out of my house til I told him it was a guy and then of course I got accused of having sec with him and the whole gammit, I felt horrible for lying but then tried to tell myself that I was actually trying to protect myself since he has raged many time before and is much bigger than me and in my bedroom overpowering me. I still felt bad for lying and he still holds it it my face on the times I. Have broken no contact and says what a lier I am which is so frustrating because his whole persona and life is a lie, ugh

@timweedon2785

6 ай бұрын

It's not ok to see somebody of the opposite sex and lie. That's what borderlines and narcissists do. No excuse for that

This is exactly what's going on. It's so good to hear this, thank you

I've dealt with so much guilt for finally leaving .Wow ! Such an eye opening video ! Thank you so very much for an amazing amount of clarity . Spot on ! 🙏💪

I grew up with some individuals with these traits and believe I am in a relationship with someone who has them as well. One of the hardest issues amongst all you discuss, is the double standards, their bondage to control and sense of superiority and entitlement. Regarding double standards… They expect you to be perfectly ok with things they would never be ok with and yet, if reversed, would cause WWIII. I’d really love to hear more about the double standards they place as rules and regulations within the relationship that are one sided, designed and reserved only for you while they expect and demand loyalty. You lose a piece of yourself every time they disrespect you with their double standards and lines they cross without consequences and then face their rage and blame shifting saying you are the problem, are crazy or jealous, etc. for simply asserting a basic healthy boundary.

Your videos are so helpful. Thank you 🖤

@LookingBehindtheMirror

Жыл бұрын

You are welcome! Thanks for watching!

You are the best! I’ve been following you for a long time and I can’t thank you enough for your help!! You helped me understand everything I was going thru my abusive relationship! Thank you so much!💝

@LookingBehindtheMirror

Жыл бұрын

I’m so glad to hear that I’ve been able to help! You’re welcome! ❤️

I’m having a hard time not answering his Happy Birthday and Mother Day messages, I did answer but with just a thank you. I’m not even in love with him anymore but I guess it’s the trauma bond? 😤

@Oceanaaaz

Жыл бұрын

Ignore his assssss

Thank you for always reminding me of what I was dealing with. Your content has been very helpful in my recovery. 🌻

It's okay to lie to a horrible person, I agree, you have to be a narcissist to the narcissist, these people are monsters who have no soul, save yourself because they lie to and just for fun.

Sept îles Québec Canada

You touched on so many things in this video that really spoke to me and I'm glad I came across it. Thank you.

@bohammondlee7472

4 ай бұрын

She wouldn't want me to speak to anyone about the relationship. She didn't like that I shared stuff with friends but I felt I could not talk to her she would never understand where I was coming from so I would constantly feel confused. Have to keep things to myself with no outlet.

@bohammondlee7472

4 ай бұрын

The endless arguments to where she would beat me into submission. The need to be constantly praised while leaving me feeling I could never do enough.

Period.

Yes ots strange how i feel i owe her, my sister, the solicitor, especially mot the other one, she did get ,e a lot of $ thru court case but she doesn't ask for anything, different dynamic, she knows now i don't want visit het! and she is wealthy!

Is the NARC entitled to get help !!!!!!! 😁😁😁😁😁😁

Great video, Thank you! Could you make a video on forgiving yourself?

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Are you an empathy too? Y are we so weak to the narc??

What if the narcissist claims that i owed him $5000 but i didn't borrow money from him. Its juet a favour that i had to pay him. I gave him $1400 last feb, remaining $3600. But i went no contact on 14 march 2023. I heard from his flying monkey that i apparently owed him $5000.: what the hell. What should i do?

@LookingBehindtheMirror

8 ай бұрын

Anyone could call anyone and tell them that they owe someone $5,000. Why would it matter unless you actually do?