Every single man on the planet is looking for a woman he can be at PEACE with....100 SALUTE

@missctolbertvoh

7 жыл бұрын

James Harden, much love to you! I appreciate you.

@rockit8754

6 жыл бұрын

Amen peace and harmony 👌😌

@SegaSavageMusic

6 жыл бұрын

James Harden agreed

@O1Sigma

6 жыл бұрын

💯

@quitepossible4498

6 жыл бұрын

Nah! 😂 Just betas

This video is worth a million views

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Bradley Agan, thank you!! I feel that way about this video and so many more I've made. I guess in time it'll happen.

I promise you telling the truth, because after a while a man will no longer care in his heart about his so called woman point of view because of her abuse! Trust me, he ain't gonna care after a while!

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Sho ain't

All we need is Peace and happiness !!!!

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

Hassan Johnson very true!!!

@successjohnson2595

6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your video, message well said

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

Hassan Johnson thanks. It was my pleasure!

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Yess

@magonmmen7406

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly!!!

Wow! What U are saying have just brought tears to my eyes because it is so true, I am separated now because of that reason alone my wife was putting me down I broke my fingers to the bone 12 hours a day six days a week. And when I get home there is nothing to eat & so much attitude. Be blessed and I thank you.

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

Alan Brown I'm touched that this video touched you. When we pick the wrong person to share our life with there are things with go through. We must be equally yoked to the right one. I'm sorry you experienced what you did but next time around you will get it right. Don't get discouraged.

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Aw

Ladies please don't come up here trying to make my video about how the men treat you!!! The video was made to give information so women that talk down to the man in their life can change. Please don't tell me about this topic going both ways! I know that mistreatment can go either way between men and women but you all need to stick to the topic. I don't understand how so many of you are extremely offended, defensive, and angry when the truth about how we can be is being told. Sometimes in life you have to just deal with the ugly truth whether you like it or NOT. Looking at areas you should improve in as a woman shows a sign of maturity. Stop always trying to take the spotlight off you and put it on the men when you should be taking in information that will help you to be better. This also goes for men. I create videos, raise awareness, and start topics of conversation for men, women, youth and older people. All I ask is that you guys stick to the topic and stop trying to turn the message into something else or about someone else. You don't have to be combative and always want to debate and argue about something because you're uncomfortable. God bless you all and thanks to everyone for supporting my channel. I love you.

@fanatic136

6 жыл бұрын

missctolbertvoh thats they problem....yap yap yap yap smh

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

fanatic136 😂🤣😆. Sad but true. Some of them do so much talking they can't hear others speak. I can't stand know it alls.

@fanatic136

6 жыл бұрын

missctolbertvoh clicked on your video but trying to tell u what u cant say, how to say it, people crazy....

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

fanatic136 thats why I have to shut them down. I love and support the ladies but the ignorant and combative ones can keep it moving.

@fanatic136

6 жыл бұрын

missctolbertvoh truuueee

Omg. We NEED more women like her. Respect is all he wants. Sometimes her family can get out of line too though.

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Ion like those type of women

Thank you for speaking up for the men. ❤️ I've always had a problem with this sort of thing. Ladies night out- they bash their men to eachother. Or, they complain about their man to strangers at a shop, "He throws his underwear in the floor", and the other lady laughs. What 'faults' does the complaining lady have, is what I always think. Men are as wonderful as women. Differences are good! I love your channel!! 🎉

This is a good message. I remember my Granmother telling me that when I'm good, I'm very good, but when I'm bad, I'm very bad. I won't physically harm anyone, but there is a dark side of me where an impression is left on ones soul. And this can stem from being taken for granted, advantage of, along with mistaken kindness for weakness. Also my belief in God, and being the color that I am. Women don't appreciate good men, I don't let it get to me. I'm not obligated to anyone, and if I feel mistreated in any way, no matter how close or how long I've known the person, I'd erase them out of my life with no problem. If I love someone, I would move mountains for them, that's where mistaken identity comes into play. Some girls think because you are kind, you will never leave them even when they do dirt and treat you bad. But when I told a girl in which I loved with all of my heart to never call anymore and she will never see me again, she learned the hard way, because I was so kind to her. I just don't put up with any kind of mistreatment. I hate trolls on KZread, racist and jealous people too. I just hope one day to see love. That's all I ever wanted from the beginning.

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Yup

Exactly respect goes both ways. Women say that they want respect but they can't give respect back .I have said this soo many times respect goes both ways . Not just one way .

I'm so very glad to come across your video and I loved the one before it as well, saying the thing. I'm 56, Irish My Husband was Hawaiian and Samoan ( God rest His Soul ) we met when I was 14. Married 16. Together for 34yrs until he was murdered. We had a small disagreement the night before, we would have made up, only he never walked back through that door again. Ladies you need to be your children's AND Man's soft place to fall, you have to make your home and home. My Man could come home anytime with anyone and never be embarrassed or nervous about what he'd find. I came from a household where the woman cared for the house and My Father worked, now I'm not suggesting that and My Man definitely didn't tell me that. Hell, with My personality it wouldn't have done much good to tell me what I could and couldn't do anyway. But the point I'm trying to make is this, as a woman you are the heart of the home and how it looks, smells every little thing about it, things you don't even realize run deep with your man. For awhile I worked and my husband told me he missed me greeting him, the flowers on the table and the smell of food almost done. A man needs love and tenderness just like us women we just need to be sensitive to it. I'm very happy to see this video. Such a Beautiful Woman inside and out. Young Ladies please listen up. Be your mans friend, talk with him, if he doesn't open up give it time. And never leave each other on a bad note, you may never see them again and it will torture you forever, I know it is me. God bless

To this day I hate Bossy Spirited People. People like a Pleasant Environment. Men want a sacred comfy Oasis after a long hard day of work

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Y'all deserve that its just y'all meet them crazy bitches sum times 💯

You're a wise woman!! 🌌

@missctolbertvoh

7 жыл бұрын

Brandon M, thanks so much! I try lol.

@OhMyDHTfeelsSoGood

7 жыл бұрын

missctolbertvoh very welcome!! :)

So inspiring, I have been with the same man for 19 years and we share this basic yet simple rule (FOR US), talk to me the SAME WAY you would want me to talk to you. I have had to learn humility in so many of those years, but, I'm so grateful for those lessons on my part as well as his,because even tho those lessons were hard and at times very hurtful, they help us make through the storms. And, that with GODS love, we have a much better relationship. Thank you for giving women the truth that some of us so desperately need. MUCH LOVE to a beautiful woman. thanks.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

miss trish, I'm so happy you received the information I gave to the ladies in this video. The biggest complaint I've heard from men about us (women) is how we speak to them. A man has feelings no matter how macho and tough he is. When we start tearing them down the entire relationship changes for the worse. I find it so refreshing and mature that you realize and totally understand how critical our position is in a man's life. Being humble enough to admit we're flawed and need to improve as wives, girlfriends, or fiancée is a sign of growth. Godbless you queen and keep being the beautiful woman you are.

@MsTrish-ne9ew

8 жыл бұрын

missctolbertvoh Thank you, can you do a video about how to get your independence and children honoring and respecting their parents? I have friends that really need to hear this. I've told them about your videos and I'm hooked, and they asked me to ask you what are YOUR thoughts on these two subjects. You at the BEST, I LOVE the direct approach no SUGAR coat, I like that in a person. Your on the right track. Thanks again.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

+miss trish thank you so much for sharing my videos with your friends. I truly appreciate you. Yes I can definitely make a video about how you can gain independence, and children honoring their parents. Boldness has been on me pretty much all my life. When you are direct and upfront ppl usually don't BS around. Trust me when I tell you, if I wasn't bold lives wouldn't be changed for the better. When God wants to move in a situation he is very quick and bold. He has blessed me with that trait.

@MsTrish-ne9ew

8 жыл бұрын

missctolbertvoh Thank you so much. I look forward to your videos. Be blessed always.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

miss trish you do the same

I dealt with this. No matter what I did the taking here out, the provideing, paying bills, all that it didn't matter. She said I was the best man she ever had. But this here I couldn't deal with. I tried to help her through her emotional issues but it been to break me down. It had me drained. Then she started the tearing down. I can't and will not deal with that it's disrespectful. I treat ppl how i want to be treated and I would always tell her that, but she didn't believe she was tearing me down. I even communicated that to her how I felt to no avail.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Dray Frets, I can only imagine the pain and suffering you went through dealing with this type of woman. It seemed as though no matter what you did it wasn't good enough. I don't blame you for walking away because the bottom line is you should be appreciated and treated right. Don't get discouraged though! There is a woman out here who would be willing to treat you like a king. She will appreciate all the wonderful things you do for her. Look at the relationship you had with the bad woman as a learning lesson. Now you know what you won't tolerate.

@34Dray

8 жыл бұрын

Indeed thanks alot. It was all good in the beginning but you kno after that 6 month turn around you really beginning to see who that person really is after all the dating and make up. Just hurts though she treated me wonderful in the beginning. But all of that stopped. I began to put forth all the effort. I think I need to be single for a while. I too was married and got cheated on by my exwife by a dude that just got out of prison. I had been single for 2 years and started dating her. I told her everything I been through. But she did all the things that my exwife did to me besides cheating that I know of. Idk why I keep attracting these type of women. I loved her I really did. I'm one of the ones that dates with a purpose. I don't believe in sleeping and messing around. I'm good to my partners. I did the nails and hair thing, ran rose pedal baths with the candles thing, cook, cleaned, provided, paid bills, still all that wasn't enough. Idk what I'm doing wrong. I think I need to really chill from the dating for a few years.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Dray Frets​ wow that is so sad to hear! Lol yeah they say that first 6 months the person's representative is what you see then the real them comes out. I believe you dated two very immature women. Sometimes when ppl don't know what they have they'll mess it up and take advantage thinking that person won't go anywhere. There is no way a good woman would have treated you the way those two did. Especially if you were doing those wonderful things you were. They probably couldn't handle a guy of your caliber so they went to a lower grade of a man where they felt comfortable. Stupid move on their part! I don't believe in messing around or sleeping around either. In fact I've been single since my divorce which was 5 yrs ago and I've also been celibate since my divorce. I am definitely taking my time before entering into a new relationship. I don't blame you for doing the same. For now just chill, heal from what you went through and just enjoy you. Live your life and treat yourself honey! You deserve it!

@34Dray

8 жыл бұрын

+missctolbertvoh Thank you I appreciate the advice. I think I'm gonna try the celibacy thing too. I also been thinking about becoming vegan (but its gonna be hard cause I love meat lol). I'm gonna start back working out you know get back to loving me. It amazes me how the good guy always finishes last. We're to nice and to loving. But the guy whos abusive physical, emotionally, spiritually, and verbally, doesn't do nothing for them they love his dirty drawers. At one point I felt I was done with black women. And you know whats crazy I'm not even attracted to any other type of woman.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Dray Frets you're welcome! The plans you have for yourself is great. I think I'm better and have accomplished more being single then when I was married. Sometimes a relationship holds you back especially when you're not with the right person. Lol I love meat also!! 😂😂😂 I said I was gonna start going to the gym soon. Some women love the bad boys but it never ends well. SMH. Don't give up on black women just be wise and particular about the one you pick.

Omg I love this women +respect!

@missctolbertvoh

4 жыл бұрын

I love you too handsome!!!!

Big RESPECT for self confession.

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Yup

This is SO spot on. Dealing with this currently. It is a give and take. Men have always been told to cater to the woman and that is great but it works both ways. For example, EVERY SINGLE meal my wife cooks for the kids and me , i tell her thank you BEFORE i take a single bite. My kids have picked up on that and also for anything else she does for us. But not one single friday am i told thanks . I am just asked," how much did you make this week?". And then not talked to. Big tough guys have feelings too. And i will add that our ,now teen, daughter has picked up on her Moms ways and totally disrespects me any time in any way she wants. She has gone so far as to tell me off in my face and then smirk as she says ," what are you gonna do? You cant do nothing to me because i am a minor. "

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

lost highway a marriage or relationship is definitely a give and take. I'm trying to help the ladies.

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

lost highway the ladies get mad at me not realizing I'm on their side.

@kevinbarton7181

6 жыл бұрын

missctolbertvoh , thank you for the response, i just feel that we all have our faults , both genders. We ARE different but in my opinion a couple should "compliment" each other. (Poor word choice?) But regardless of right or wrong, agree. Agree how to settle disputes while keeping dignity, and as you are saying, not to tear down or belittle one another. I almost am afraid to agree too much. Haha . I dint want to seem like i am woman bashing because i am not. But you hit the nail spot on. Respect, appreciation, adoration, companion like no other are all things plus more that BOTH are worthy of. I DO LOSE motivation to contribute more than minimum because of the way i am talked to and treated. We avoid each other daily. Here for the kids and a small hope it changes.

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Smh

We should be building each other up, you should never mistreat anyone.

@missctolbertvoh

2 жыл бұрын

That's very true! I totally agree

This is a problem that the media has perpetrated for years. They have made men out to be stupid incompetent man/boys. I am not saying we are all rocket scientist, but having one person in our lives that we love treating us as if we can do anything without her telling how, makes you say why try? I have been truly blessed, mine has been my rock . We have gone through the good ,bad, and ugly hand and hand. Have a blessed day! I hope the ladies are listening, because nobody wants to be constantly put down or belittled.

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Those types of women are ignorant

Thank you for not being that "Tyler Perry" type woman and bash those good men out their. And as a man/father of 4 boys that will become future men I thank you for speaking the truth..

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Smh those types

Omfg i really needed to hear this. I've been giving my man all kinds of attitude and hes a good man. We're 22 yrs old. I love him so much you reallt made me appreciate what i had in front of me. Thankyou

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

June Jara -.- I'm so happy this video helped you. Life is all about learning. I believe you love your man with all your heart but sometimes your attitude may be a bit too much. Now things will change for the better. God bless both of you guys!!!

@HelloKittyFreak96

6 жыл бұрын

Gregory KEROR Davis when someone reminds you of what you could lose in a heart to heart well yeah, especially when your relationship is in its Rocky moments. Either way i don't get your point, you don't know nothing about my relationship

@HelloKittyFreak96

6 жыл бұрын

Gregory KEROR Davis you're so judgemental, why even reply months later? Not everyone is prefect and learning from other people is what living is all about. I don't know how old you are but you sound like you like to put yourself on a high horse and you're a little too offended by what i said... Live and let live i honestly have nothing else to tell sour people like you.

@africanqueen1147

6 жыл бұрын

June Jara -.- Why are you so offensive, my dear . I hope that you are taking good advice . Good luck.

No doubt. Theres nothing like a woman who has been through some thangs and can be able to teach those who lack wisdom... I appreciate you.

So true ! 🙌🏿 sister

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

Fils de colonisé Avisé 😊❤

U made some good good points, it would be common sense for most women to understand that respecting the man you're with is normal.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

JDBTv, you're correct. I agree that the points I made should be common sense to women, but let's be honest, they all don't have it. The upbringing, environment, and lack of self control causes so many women to conduct themselves in a disrespectful manner towards a man.

@JDBClipsChannel

8 жыл бұрын

missctolbertvoh Yeah,also fear of a strong man being in control but women who want a man to lead should welcome that.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

JDBTv once again you are correct. Women need to be open, trust and welcome a man to lead. It would cut out all the other unnecessary crap.

@JDBClipsChannel

8 жыл бұрын

missctolbertvoh Exactly, honesty & respect.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

+JDBTv yes sir 😉😊

Hi +missctolbertvoh, I appreciate what you're saying and it's very welcome from a woman. I think many women don't know how to talk to men without being sexual, without flirtation; they confuse lust with love, just like men do. I think there's a practical side to finding a partner, you have to like who they are, their values and how they behave; sexual attraction is not enough. I think women get lost in the fantasy of a man and then punish him when he fails to live up to it.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Valelacerte, I couldn't agree with you more! I truly believe this is the problem with many women. Once we get these fantasies out of our head of how a man should be and love him for who he is, then things would go smoother in the relationship/marriage. Women want to be accepted for who they are but don't want to do the same for a man. That's so unfair.

Real shit you’re the first woman who i actually heard admit she was wrong that’s very attractive ladies out here don’t do that at all

Sister, I just love you. you are just tooo real. thanks for posting.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Maya thanks so much sister. I love you too! I have to be honest with you guys. Change can't come when things are sugar coated. I appreciate you watching the video.

You are a strong positive woman. Just know its appreciated.

Amen!!!!! I use to be that nagging Women in my 20s. It came from growing up w a Domineering Aggressive Mother. My Father was Passive and a Functional Alcoholic. I grow up watching him cheat and drink. He took care of home. He stepped out for years. I took on this Bossy Role and it enabled guys to leave me and cheat. I had a Epiphany and checked self. I refuse to be that Nagging Hell raising Women. I made peace w self

All of this should already be obvious, so I'm actually glad you talked about this, the most common stuff is also commonly looked over. If you care about someone and really love them, let your actions let them know. Also the idea of asking why your with someone is good for everyone.

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

Just some bird it's obvious but like you said it gets overlooked all the time. Basic things that most people should know in a relationship is absent.

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Yup

This is so true. I'm currently working on this because I have been reckless with my mouth in the past. I'm not going to lie, my husband, like many other husband's, work my NERVES😂😂😂. That does not mean that I have the right to tear him down because that makes them act up even more truth be told. I cannot control what he does but I can control how I respond. I need to master this not only for his peace but mine too.

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

Sherita, thanks so much for your maturity and honesty sweetie! We'v all been guilty of it at some point.

You are truthful and humble.I got married to a woman that I loved for 13 years and been tolerating and forgiving in hope that one day wisdom and understanding will kick in with age but that is the contrary.I recently quit my job to join her abroad do to her new job .Upon arrival she started dictating me and much more and I snapped.She think that she has evolve ...Bringing to my attention that she is the one that just wrote a manual forgetting that I was the one paying for her rent ,electricity,phone bill ,Heat and hot water she love to enjoy...Combining hard physical demanding job while I manage to take care of kids and dogs while she is abroad for work .She think she outgrown me!

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

rasibou1, I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this. On my facebook page, I just spoke about how some women will become arrogant and look down on others, not realizing they make it because a man is taking Care of them. I totally get your frustration. Now you know what you will and wont tolerate, and you have to make a decision whether or not to keep that woman in your life. So many men have left women because of the way they talk too them and treat them. If after everything that has happened doesn't convince you to stay with her, move on and get a woman that not only respects you,but appreciates what you do for her. Don't settle for less!! Hopefully she'll realize how good you were to her and come to her senses.

@rasibou1

8 жыл бұрын

+missctolbertvoh I am so thankful and grateful that you took considered and took time to write back.Very good advise.I am currently a Karate instructor and Ali NYS champion.My son under my guidance is twelve years old and became black belt at age 10 and vice champion in the USA national championship.My daughter a purple belt at age 10.I am away from NYC due to my wife job abroad and I am coaching football and teaching karate.I am truly bless to be around my children and building them.Before I left my job wrote an exclusive article in our job gazette! Few days ago she told me that one of her friend and her got invited to a party and I told that I don't like her hanging out with single women and that I am not please and comfortable with her going out without me and she went off saying that I was policing which was not the case .Her sign is Leo and I am Scorpio .By the way the only time I go out by myself is when I dj or rent out my sound system...I am on Facebook as Rasibou S Diallo.Tnx

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

rasibou1 Wow that's my son's name, Diallo. YOU sound like an awesome, excellent, involved father. That is so great to hear how you have taught your children those skills. Don't feel bad about telling your wife how you were uncomfortable going out or hanging with single ppl. Most single ppl don't understand nor respect that married ppl do things differently then they do. When they don't respect that you definitely should distance yourself from them. A concerned husband shouldn't be looked at as policing. Overtime, your wife will see how the ppl she keeps company with don't have her best interest at heart. Trust me she will find out! In the event she is mature enough to admit you were right all along, show her compassion and uderstanding. Forgiveness in marriage is critical but I also found out when I was married that once your spouse wants to do something you gotta let them be. Still act accordingly anyway. Congrats on your article in the job Gazette!! Keep up the great work sir. I'll always write back when someone comments on my video's.

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Sum women don't change

Listen to this Lady she is Correct! !!

Dammmnnnnn!!!!! So honest. Too much respect for you.

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

Salim Kebe awwwe I appreciate you honey!

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Ikr

You THE G.O A.T. ..💯💯💯

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

Adrian Flowers thanks!

@kufarimahdi9636

6 жыл бұрын

Adrian Flowers she really is

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Aw

Real,Real,thank you for the words.

@missctolbertvoh

3 жыл бұрын

You're so welcome honey!

I'm lost for words thank you so much for expressing truth.. my beautiful sister not too many out there that I know talk this way.. not saying they're not...please keep bringing light

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Facts

Beautiful woman speaking the truth, thank u again

@missctolbertvoh

5 жыл бұрын

You're welcome

The teachings of a wise person gives life, it is like a fountain that can save people from death. Proverbs 13:14. I am finding this is the case with all of your videos please keep doing what you are doing.

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Yup

Damn! A woman who gets it. great video! I hope the single, bitter, desperate and lonely women (regardless of race) are hearing this. This woman is right on point. Much of what this woman says I have personally experienced. Keep up the good video.

@missctolbertvoh

7 жыл бұрын

applejack47 thanks!

@applejack47

7 жыл бұрын

you're welcome

@missctolbertvoh

7 жыл бұрын

applejack47 it's sad and unfortunate but some women get very angry and defensive when I make videos like this. Believe it or not sone men have tried to get argumentative and combative with me from a few of my videos like this and I'm trying to help them. SMH! Glad you saw and understood my point.

@applejack47

7 жыл бұрын

Your messages should heard by everybody with a listening ear, especially women and more so than ever black women. The people who trash your videos are proving your point, they don't want to face the truth because you are describing them. I'm originally from Chicago (south side) and now live in California and it's pretty much the same everywhere I look. Very sad to say the least.

@missctolbertvoh

7 жыл бұрын

applejack47 I appreciate you so much. I agree. I literally just had a man give a huge three paragraph response on my video about men not allowing women to manipulate them. I deleted it. My thing is if the video doesn't apply to someone they shouldn't be commenting on mine. Now I don't even respond. I'll instantly delete or block a buffoon for commenting something ignorant or getting off the topic. People on KZread have a very bad habit of doing that. I live in Chicago! I was born and raised here.

My first time seeing your view. I must say excellent. Respecting your man is top notch. It is time for us to encourage our kings. No one is perfect. We are all a work in- progress. Thank you for knowledge, wisdom and change. Blessings to you.

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

Melissa Franklin blessings to you also!! I'm so happy you're mature enough to understand and appreciate this video.

Yyyyyeeessssss i love your videos PLEASE CONTINUE TO HELP Broken sistas.. because yall words do hurt

That creepin' turns into leaving eventually.

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

yUP

You are right you speak the truth with wisdom , God made the Man to be the leader not a boss !!! Many times we men folk think we are God gift to women and God already gave the man how to treat his wife , and the women how to treat her husband and if you do not do it God's way it is going to fail !!! Don't deceive yourself whatever a Man or a Women soweth that shall they also reap. And if you don't believe it then take it up with God himself and you will loose everytime. Go read the book of Genesis there is a reason why The All - Mighty made the Man first and it's not because God is sexist like some believe. God isn't a gender but Spirit , God is a Father and a Mother of us All !!! There are no comparison he is set apart and has no equal but the God head.

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

Gregory Dotson you're on point with this!! It's nothing but truth.

@wshelby83

5 жыл бұрын

Gregory I totally agree with you!! He made man first for a reason

Omg. You are on point. How do you know all of this when other women don't?

@missctolbertvoh

7 жыл бұрын

skilled black, I started to observe the men in my life (father, stepfather, brothers, and male friends) I would listen to them talk about reasons why they left women or disrespected them. This is how I learned. I've only had one relationship in my life. I got married at 20 yrs old and stayed married for almost 11 yrs. I left my husband and divorced him. However, I begin to look at myself along with observing men as a whole. There were times I was disrespectful to my ex husband. Even though he disrespected me first, I still should have held my peace and kept my mouth closed, still acting like a lady. My emotions got the best of me. Over time my husband continued to disrespect me amongst other things so I eventually left him. In order for a relationship to work with a man women must learn to listen and not always try to be right.

@realmichaud

7 жыл бұрын

how did he disrespect you

@menoverse

6 жыл бұрын

Christopher Michaud oh come come now, brother ;-)

@jaco7675

5 жыл бұрын

skilled black It’s because of the “it’s all about me” attitude most Western Women Have and project today. Even if told (as here), they don’t care.

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Sad women

I LOVE and agree with every single word. Mutual respect is lost in relationships and it's women to blame most (not ALL) of the time. I also agree with your later comment to the negative women who took unnecessary offense. It's hard for women to look in the mirror and be held accountable. Always placing blame. That's disguised as projecting. Sometimes women are the common denominator. I could talk to you about this all day. Thank you so very much for this point of view. I was beginning to think women like us were becoming a dying breed. New subbie!! Keep up the good work, Sis 🙌🏾👏🏾👍🏾🥰

wow!! you are one in a million, my beautiful sister.

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

Slobodan Svirosovich thanks so much! I appreciate your love.

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Aw

Another great video a tremendous amount of woman think there always right and don't analyze themselves but always trying to check us on our faults,flaws and conduct.I analyze myself daily.

Thank you! Your video is perfect timing for me.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Tiffany Hearn, thanks so much beautiful queen!! I appreciate you for watching my video. In time whatever you need to improve, you will get there. I'm so happy it helped you.

There are a lot of real good men out here but females want him to be perfect and no man is.

You are so right!!! If half the things women say to men was uttered the other way around women would wine he is verbally abusive. But women don't take responsibility for what comes out of there mouths! It's sick !

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

baby girl thats very true! Only a certain caliber of women will respect and appreciate this video. They must be mature to understand why I made it. There are so many things that's off limits for a man to say to us as women. We must remember the same goes for them.

i think any man should never let his wife disrespect hem seriously from the biginnig even though she may try every now and then

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Facts

So true 💯

I love the fact that you are so upfront and honest. Love your videos. Keep growing my dear.

@missctolbertvoh

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! I appreciate you.

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Ikr

Thank u for stating it's not jus black woman that gets me so angry how much so many of these black men acting like black woman is the only one that has this negative energy it's like they date outside of there race litterally jus to bash there race.

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

Deion Hubbard it gets so annoying! They're obsessed with saying black women are this and that. ALL women have been guilty of having a negative side and bad behavior.

Peace of mind.... Simple... You're doing great..

@missctolbertvoh

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!

good day ,I am guilty on some of the points you mention because I have trust issues from past relationships but thank you for keeping it real

@missctolbertvoh

7 жыл бұрын

Angella Joseph, I truly respect your honesty and transparency! It's ok if at one time you were guilty of this. Today is a new day and new time. We grow and evolve each day. The fact that you can admit it and not be angry about this video shows how mature and accountable you are for your actions.

Love your videos to the UP MOST RESPECT yes it's written in the book of law GOD put man over a woman for a reason is to guide them in the right direction. When most of these sista's constantly putting a man down they breaking them down mentally and spiritually Then miss Becky comes into the picture and SNATCHE y'all good brothers away as for that SHALOM 👍❤

@missctolbertvoh

5 жыл бұрын

I hope the ladies listened to this message.

Thank you for this message

@missctolbertvoh

2 жыл бұрын

You're so welcome! I'm glad you enjoyed it

"What needs to stop is us (men) tearing them down. Most wo/men who ][ are now single, and continue to stay single because of how they talk to and treat the wo/man in their life. ][ When you ][ fly into rages and speak whatever comes to your mind towards your man. Typically this happens when you're angry. Start working on your attitude. Learn that building up the wo/man will keep longevity in your marriage/relationship with them. Many woman are able to pull a MAN but they always have trouble KEEPING ONE. A attitude adjustment can change this fact." gold! thanks, love ;)

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

James Kemp you're more than welcome honey!! 😗❤

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Yup

Excellent video. I agree. I find that there are many women who say things to their men, that are very insulted by the same phrases. That is, a woman will say something the man finds insulting. The man waits a month and says the exact same thing to the woman at the right time for him. Next thing she is in tears. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

BadlndsBob doing to others the way you want things done to you is critical. I don't think everyone understands that. This is why so many women keep missing put on great men. They may have it together in every area besides the bad mouth and attitude.

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Yup

We never get appreciated..but I've never allowed that kinda mess in my presence. I salute your honesty sis..

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

Mr Unique74 I appreciate you for watching!

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

By us good women y'all do

I think it's been driven into certain heads that way, believe me; I've been there and thought this ex was my mother or wanted to be, but she just couldn't understand why I refused to accept that (crap) from her, my goodness it was like being on her potter's wheel or like I was her science project and all I wanted was "out". I walked away and after walking away I've been very very observant and I understand the patterns of what I hated, dang it's just crazy that people aren't working together. ps: there's so much more to be said about this and I could talk about it all night, I promise!

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Tossmc, you are so right about what you just spoke about. I think it's devastating how selfish some ppl become in relationships. A woman with no self control of herself or mouth is doom!!! So many great men have been damaged at the hands of a woman. I think the main problem comes in when the mother role is not being played by the actual mother! We are not our mans mother. No need for a power struggle, respect is the key. I believe you and I would be up here all night talking about what you experienced with your ex/exes. Be strong and stay open to love again. In due time you will get a woman perfect for you.

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Facts

Speechless. Uplifting, it's amazing all this is still so relevant

You're amazing! You could write a book with all kinds of advice and knowledge

@missctolbertvoh

5 жыл бұрын

One day I plan on writing a book.

Thank you so much for sharing your videos . I have learned so much and love the positivity and encouragement.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Malta Nelson you are more then welcome queen. I'm so happy you have taken some of what I've shared and applied it to your life. I praise God for moving on behalf of the ppl.

This was the 1st video I watched of you that bought you to my attention. It truly helped me @ a rough, dark, & hard time in my life. I was that man that walked away. God bless you.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Pastor Ron Thompson, wow praise God! I'm so happy that this video helped you. When I made it i knew someone would be able to relate to what I talked about. Most marriages and relationships are destroyed because one person chooses to tear down the other. Godbless you as well.

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Aw

I been watching your videos.. One smart women you are. I here respect in your voice.. 100% all women

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

Steven Grimm that's very nice of you to say. Thank you so much. I try to be respectful of everyone.

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Respect here too

Great video!! There is a lot of women I know who need to hear this message. It's not always about the man. There needs to be some self reflection that women need to look at.

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Facts

Thank you thank you thank you for this video

@missctolbertvoh

2 жыл бұрын

You're so welcome! I'm glad you enjoyed it.

Preach it, thank you

@missctolbertvoh

2 жыл бұрын

You're so welcome honey ❤

All I can say is God bless you Missy. I believe this advice is heavenly. If only the females will hear you. The world out there is telling our women out there something different and evil - and the sad thing is that they are listening. It will destroy their relationships and happiness. Keep up the good work.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Isaac S, thank you sir. Godbless you as well! I hope the ladies take this video as well as my other videos and apply it to their lives. For so many years of trial and error when I was married, finally I came out and looked at how my attitude contributed to the breakdown of my ex husband. Now I know how to conduct myself and be life to my future husband and not a problem.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Isaac S, thank you sir. Godbless you as well! I hope the ladies take this video as well as my other videos and apply it to their lives. For so many years of trial and error when I was married, finally I came out and looked at how my attitude contributed to the breakdown of my ex husband. Now I know how to conduct myself and be life to my future husband and not a problem.

man this is so real and you said that at best.....

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Twin MuziQ, thank you so much! I was very transparent and honest with the men in this video. I appreciate you for watching it. ❤

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Yup

Great message!! God Bless you!!

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

James Floyd thank you! God bless you too sweetie!

Can't no one tear a brother apart like the sisters. I once saw a school of Piranha with notepads & pencils taking notes on their techniques. 💯

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

1000 Hand God wow!

I know Empress, and I'm Jamaican. And trust me, females out here,, very hard to deal.

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Yup sum is

Miss Tolbert, love it! Wow! This is exactly what I tried and tried to say, but couldn't because I was interrupted. Thanks for this

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

Thud G you're so welcome!

Couldn't have said it any better than that. God bless, Sister.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Nick Genius, Godbless you as well brother. I'm happy you enjoyed the video.

@Jeezyfan8590

8 жыл бұрын

Absolutely. Very encouraging, articulate, and soulful.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Nick Genius awwwe thanks a bunch.

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Facts

Thanks for this video,big learn for list .all man in world love you.

Dam we need real woman like you you are the real deal

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

Varian Larose I appreciate you. I'm really just here to help the masses if I can. I make videos for everyone. Men, women, youth, married, unmarried and single, broken and hurt people can get something from this channel.

Lol my boyfriend does act like a child sometimes. However he isnt always like that. He is the strongest, sweetest and most loving person I have ever met. He encourages me to be better, protects me and respects me. Which is why when he makes an annoying childish joke from time to time I dont call him names, I just keep my mouth shut because I love and respect him. Calling him names isn't worth losing him.

@missctolbertvoh

5 жыл бұрын

I love it!!! You're an awesome girlfriend.

@daniellemelendez3544

5 жыл бұрын

@@missctolbertvoh Thank you!! Keep posting these videos! You have great advice 😁

@missctolbertvoh

5 жыл бұрын

@@daniellemelendez3544 you're so welcome! Thank you for being so mature, understanding and seeing another point of view without getting angry and disrespectful. That speaks volumes!

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Gurlllllllllll 🦷🙅🏽‍♀🙅🏽‍♀🙅🏽‍♀🙅🏽‍♀🙅🏽‍♀Your Childish it's no excuse

U are awesome !!!! All the ladies need to listen to this. Can u do more of this plz? This need to vo viral !!!

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Those types needs too just stay single

amazing respect i salute you great video

Wow! Speak! 💯

Great message

@missctolbertvoh

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks!

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Yup

PREACH 💪🏾💪🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾💯💯💯

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Facts

Amen.

You're right, women and their emotions -_-

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Davion Mclean, sad but true.

@davionmclean3474

8 жыл бұрын

I understand beautiful.

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Those types

Keep It going with positive I will continue to check out the positive work your doing much respect

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

Varian Larose I appreciate you. Thanks!

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Facts

I love you facts

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

Jarvis Williams thanks. I love you too.

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Aw

Speak the truth!

My dad's eating habits untimately lead to his death. He was from a place called Monroe, Louisiana and down there, they cooked everything in grease which is no good for you. He also smoked and drinked as well

@missctolbertvoh

7 жыл бұрын

applejack47 I have a few friends that live down South so they tell me about how they always eat the fried and greasy foods.

Thank you Miss.your amazing

thank you so much for that video I already share it more then four time to my wife cause I want her to get the message. also I wish you could do a video about woman's who keep taken bad advice about they relationship from friend who don't care about them from friends who's mess up and end up been single, who never got married before or never got engaged before , friends that they relationship going down the drain. friend who's out there destroying others relationship just because they relationship not working it could be a family member a cousin. And also stop letting friend or family controlling your relationship or your marriage....if you ever decided to make that video I would like to thank you in advance

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

caonabo100 thank you for your compliment. I will do a video and speak on what you asked of me.

Your videos alone help me feel at peace. Thank you

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

rondeau hall wow praise God!!!!

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Aw

True talk.

@peopleas1healingtrauma

3 жыл бұрын

Yup

Truth

You earned a new subscriber

If you added a soundtrack to what you are saying , it would be the number one single of the year. Sweet music to ones soul.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

t johnson, lol I never thought of that! That sounds good. You should do it for me.