Cliques for the most part are extremely dangerous (gossip, lies, slanderers). Nothing good comes from cliques.

@missctolbertvoh

23 күн бұрын

@@beverleyreid563 that is very true!

@adrienneroxanne9833

23 күн бұрын

Lol when they fall out just sit back with some popcorn. 😅😅😅😅

@Shay4YourMind81

22 күн бұрын

⁠@@adrienneroxanne9833Exactly 😂 They all talk about one another like a dog and eventually turn on each other.

@adrienneroxanne9833

22 күн бұрын

@Shay4YourMind81 Right 🤣 and tell all their business to others. I've heard many stories from cliques. I'm like why are you telling me? You don't even like me lol!!!

@missctolbertvoh

22 күн бұрын

😆😆😆😆🤣😹

They love to act big and bad in front of their peers but get em alone and its a completely different story. Im a one man army.

@LysaChampione

21 күн бұрын

So true.... witnessed this!!

I never been a clique person because ppl in groups like that will gang up on you

@beverleyreid563

23 күн бұрын

They are attacking me as we speak. LOL

@borndreamer2735

23 күн бұрын

@@beverleyreid563 sorry you are going through that. Very weak minded individuals smh

@tiathompson6674

23 күн бұрын

​@beverleyreid563 Stand your ground, while denying them access.

@sadangel7334

22 күн бұрын

@@beverleyreid563❤

@Shay4YourMind81

22 күн бұрын

Yes. Sadly this has been my experience. I’ve never fit into groups or clique, and was often ostracized. I am alone 99% of the time, and I enjoy my peace.

Nothing but confirmation of why I’ve drawn back from my coworkers and certain family members. Pretty much to myself and keep outings with church friends to a bare minimum. Don’t care to really be connected to anyone in this season of my life.

@TheeOne4.44

22 күн бұрын

Same! I will only Trust people that God brings into my Life. Otherwise, I'm good Solo. That's the best way to be sometimes. I enjoy My Peace✨💜

I walk alone I have nobody in my circle

I've always kinda been a hi and bye type person, especially at work. Most of my coworkers are older than me, and over the years, especially these last 5 years I've buckled down on my time and energy, But Girl it's a hot hooting mess....

@missctolbertvoh

23 күн бұрын

The best thing to do is be alone. A strong and confident person can be alone.

@ayanasmithoney7365

23 күн бұрын

@@missctolbertvoh 💫💯yes ma'am

I am currently going through this at my new job. I overheard my coworkers calling me weird bc I stay to myself. But I do my work and get the job done. I almost quilted but I said nope I'm going to stay grounded and at my job!!!! Because when i go home and reality kicks in the outsiders never mattered. Thank you for these videos!

@beverleyreid563

23 күн бұрын

You are not alone my dear.

@DaeDae3434

22 күн бұрын

@@beverleyreid563 it feels like I'm alone. In spite of , I'm remaining strong.

Codependency is so yucky to me. The only person you should be reliant upon is God. I’ve never been a fan of people that have a mob mentality. It’s very childish and for the weak-minded to me. I came back to a job off of leave and had to deal with this and it felt like middle school instead of place of business.

@missctolbertvoh

22 күн бұрын

I can't stand it. I have never been a clique person. Hanging with groups of people has never been my forte. Almost all the clique type of people I know are weak minded in some way. They think, feel and do whatever the ring leader in the group or clique tells them to do.

@beverleyreid563

22 күн бұрын

@@missctolbertvoh Flying Monkeys!

That hive mentality is real

@beverleyreid563

23 күн бұрын

Yep!

@missctolbertvoh

23 күн бұрын

Hive mentality is very real!

@JoshuaAnzalone-zk5ht

23 күн бұрын

Facts

@dontbelongherefromanotherp9807

14 күн бұрын

They are followers

Yep. My husband and I are trying to detach ourselves from a "Leadership" clique at church right now. No thank you...not for us.

You are so right, nothing good is found in groups, cliques, and entourages. Usually a lot of manipulation and control. Some people are so weak minded by jumping on the bandwagon with others, even when they know the group is wrong and doing evil things. So glad I have NEVER been the jump on the bandwagon type of person. I am not desperate for anything or anyone, if it doesn’t line up with MY morals, values, principles, standards and beliefs….I want no part of it. Follow your own path and be true to yourself….. even if you have to walk alone. I know who I am and don’t need ANYONE’S approval, permission, or validation to be who GOD created me to be…. Such a freeing feeling ❤❤❤ I thank you Lord for all things🙏🏽🙏🏽😊

@beverleyreid563

22 күн бұрын

It's unbelievable that they have no idea how much harm they cause others.

Please listen to this WISE WOMAN OF GOD 🙏🏽❤️

It took me awhile to understand this concept. I’ve been in and out of various cliques throughout my life. I’m usually a pleasant, easy going and accommodating person. But I’ve also had strong boundaries about what I would and would not do. As soon as I made choices that align with my values and goals and not the group’s values or goals, or express opinions or attitudes that were different from the group’s, I notice a shift in those people’s energy towards me. Sometimes it was subtle and sometimes it was obvious. It took me awhile to understand what was happening, but now I get what’s going on. Now I can count on one hand how many true friends I have, and none of us have huge groups and cliques of people. We’re all just lone riders that that live our own lives and connect with each other every now and then.

@missctolbertvoh

23 күн бұрын

I love to hear that you've learned the distinction between who was who. Some never learn it and they continue to stay connected to toxic people

In church I like to sit different places and talk to different people. It throws people off. But Jesus loves everybody y’all ❤😊

Nothing good comes from cliques

@missctolbertvoh

22 күн бұрын

Nothing good comes from cliques at all!

@dontbelongherefromanotherp9807

14 күн бұрын

They all turn on each other

Wow sis!!! I thank G-D for you. You speak the truth and you are not afraid to. Keep going sis!!! Thank you for sharing this word. ❤❤❤

@missctolbertvoh

23 күн бұрын

All praises to the most high!

@TequilaThomas-uj8ti

23 күн бұрын

@@missctolbertvoh Amen ❤️❤️❤️

This is so very true. I joined a Facebook Group recently for the alumni of an elite elementary school back in the early seventies. The vast majority was well to do. My best friend in that school went on to become a cheerleader and she turned her back completely on me in the 8th grade. I tried to chat with a few people from that group and I was snubbed. I am 61 and I could not believe that these people were still snobby after all of these years but they are. I removed my comments and left that group. A few people were friendly there but I felt overall unwanted and so I realized as you said they had formed a clique and I was an outcast because I was poor and didn't wear cute clothes, etc.

@missctolbertvoh

18 күн бұрын

What a shame!!! I'm not surprised though because many people in cliques are disgustingly arrogant and pompous!

@LindaVanGalder-jt6yf

17 күн бұрын

@@missctolbertvoh Thanks and yes it is disgusting.

Omg you just described the woman on my job! An yes I walk alone! An my life has never been so peaceful ❤❤❤

After being employed with my last employer for 1 year and 9 months. I finally quit and walked out Thursday June 27, 2024 at 7:49am. I was starting to feel very uncomfortable around there with people constantly watching me and my every move. Thank you for this video message. I'm at peace now

@missctolbertvoh

23 күн бұрын

I'm happy you're at peace now

@beverleyreid563

23 күн бұрын

so sorry. It is heartbreaking. The devil is alive and roaming the towns.

My coworkers would try to make me feel guilty for sitting solo for lunch. It was so much gossip and backbiting. I would say” I wonder what y’all say about me when I’m not around” and they’d say. “Oh we love you” 😂

@missctolbertvoh

19 күн бұрын

You don't have to sit with them at lunch! You're a grown woman!

@audreyestelle687

19 күн бұрын

@@missctolbertvoh 💯

You’ve just explained a whole seven years I worked at a company. I also have relatives like that. My God! This video is the truth! I pray that folks like these you described in this video is brought to conviction and change. May they have a moment with God that changes them for the better! 🙏🏾

@missctolbertvoh

23 күн бұрын

I can only imagine the magnitude of what you went through for those seven years. I'm sure it left some level of trauma in you

It's definitely a hard pill to swallow, but im currently in a season where God wants me away from "friends." In a short span, I was able to see who is actually there for me and who isn't. God is shifting me from the mindset of "i want everyone to like me." I didn't grow up with good boundaries, and when i set them with people, to me it feels like Im mean, but really its just me renewing my mind of whats healthy and whats not. Now that God has me alone, im easily able to spot this hive mentality amongst others. Ive also gotten really good with discerning who is actually kind, verus people who are nice nasty. Thinking back, most of my friends were two-faced and nice nasty, and because i didn't do confrontation, it was easier for them to control me.

@sadangel7334

22 күн бұрын

❤

Nope! Clique with God! 🙌🏽❤️

@missctolbertvoh

22 күн бұрын

Yes indeed!! No doubt about it!

@sadangel7334

22 күн бұрын

@@missctolbertvoh❤️💐

I’m glad you hit on this topic, thanks! 💐 I’ve never really fit into groups, and always felt left out. I used to think I was the problem, but I really wasn’t. Looking back, I really didn’t need to be a part of it anyway. I used that time to work on myself, so now I enjoy being alone. Many groups give “cult” energy. There’s always a leader, their minions, and a scapegoat😒 It’s a sheep mentality. And don’t get me started on the hazing rituals…

@missctolbertvoh

22 күн бұрын

I have always felt that people who hang in groups are weaker minded and insecure. Groups of people rarely think independently from the way others think in the click. This is how those individuals are easily controlled

Dang…why you always gotta read my mind??!! 🤣❤

@missctolbertvoh

22 күн бұрын

😆

Thanks Keke! I needed this especially what you said about those in leadership. Now I understand why I never “fit in”. Can’t show favoritism as a leader

@missctolbertvoh

19 күн бұрын

Favoritism was something I despised in leadership. I knew the reason behind it with certain people wasn't pure.

@audreyestelle687

19 күн бұрын

@@missctolbertvoh yes I’m seeing it’s one of the reasons why some churches don’t grow

@missctolbertvoh

19 күн бұрын

That's a fact!

Powerful message Sis ❤️and encouraging word for those who have to interact with people in various sittings. You’re right about being around certain groups you have to be very careful and mindful of who you interact with. God ❤️🙏wants us to be strong believers and be who He called us to be. It’s okay to be speak, be kind and keep it moving. You are right about how it might be one person try to get to other ppl ears to have ppl dislike you just because they really have a distain for you. This happened to me last week, this person had got into this person ear talking about me in front of my face. I looked and pull back on speaking it’s best that way, some ppl don’t look like they start up confusion but you’ll be surprised who secretly keep confusion due to their own perceptions of you. Watch those who laugh at it too, they secretly don’t really like you like that. If a person like a person they gonna stand up for that person. Also, just because you are friendly with ppl it doesn’t mean they will respect you too, they might change on you. You’ll think church sittings will be on one accord not always true, you might find groups who have a distain there as well. You just taking a chance, although be who God called you to be. Always remember everyone will not always like you, although continue being who God called you to be.

Makes so much sense Keekee❤

Psalms Chapter 1 Sis I was very Blessed By this video I have always Been a Loner since childhood I have been praying 🙏🏾 against the spirit of Double mindedness that is why I Love being alone ❤❤❤❤Blessings to You Sis!!!!

@missctolbertvoh

15 күн бұрын

Blessings to you too!! I'm not comfortable being around groups of people because I see that people who run in packs are controlled. They don't really know who they are

Great video Ms. Ke Ke! This message was tight but right for me!

@missctolbertvoh

18 күн бұрын

I'm happy you enjoyed it

Facts Family Facts 😢

Come thru Sis! We have to make God sufficient

Sister, this is literally my favorite video of yours so far me im the complete opposite. I’m actually very strong when I’m by myself when I’m with clocks I feel more weaker because me personally all my life I’ve been misunderstood because I learned differently to most people and don’t comprehend things well like most people do so over the years I just been alone im 29 now It actually made me more stronger person. I’m bettering myself Financially more learning more on who God is letting his word guide me only

@missctolbertvoh

5 күн бұрын

@@TonyAdams95 to be honest bro I learned more on my own and with God's guidance than being in a group. I've never been a clicky type of person.

@TonyAdams95

4 күн бұрын

@@missctolbertvoh same here clicks weren’t for me and once I get treated the way I didn’t I decided to go on my own and I learned so much about life in general 😀 and thanks for the response

@TonyAdams95

4 күн бұрын

@@missctolbertvoh because God has shown me

Right on time I was just thinking of making new friends my options have not been well

@missctolbertvoh

22 күн бұрын

There are still some decent people out here but you have to take time getting to know them. You'll usually see a few things about the person you don't care for after a couple conversations

Become secure alone!❤🙏

@missctolbertvoh

12 күн бұрын

Bingo!

Thank you thank you thank you for this video. You're right on point.💯❤️🙌🏿

@missctolbertvoh

9 күн бұрын

@@rebagandy1133 you're so welcome my beautiful sister 💕

Going along to get along.

Nope not at all lol!

Awesome message

@missctolbertvoh

16 күн бұрын

@@aleciaupson9977 thanks!

💯… 🙏🏾 ❤

Great Message ❤❤❤

@missctolbertvoh

22 күн бұрын

Thanks sis!

Jesus is my entourage 😊

@missctolbertvoh

22 күн бұрын

Bingo! Absolutely 💯

🙏🏾💜🙌🏾

💯 👍🏻

💯🎯❤️

Hello Miss Keke. I've been wondering this. Since the people you hang around with are usually a reflection of how you are, what if you don't particularly like these types of groups, yet you always find yourself around these types of cliques? I'm in 9th grade, and I have been imagining in my head for certain types of friends. I've prayed to God sometimes for the types of friends I want. I can't seem to find these types of friends for myself, and if I do find them, they are in their own groups. I don’t slander other people, yet my classmates and people around me do (I don't hang out with them). Im usually humble and etc. but highschool is just full of unnecessary gossip. It's been rubbing off of me alot, and I find myself indulging in gossip when I'm in highschool and being more confrontational. It's started in the 8th/7th grade and it's just a perpetuous cycle. It's school holidays, and I always feel way better when I'm by myself at home with no one from school to bother me. I love the holidays when I don't have to deal with people from school or not having the worry of what's going to happen or what the latest gossip is. What does this mean for myself? Is God telling me to be alone? I don't like to be alone at school, I just want the certain friends I have in my head. It's been hard finding a friendgroup that I belong to and feel not drained.

@missctolbertvoh

9 күн бұрын

I know you don't like to be alone but it's nothing wrong with it. In actuality, the people who see you alone may want to hang around you and get to know you. I just think naturally you find yourself around certain people because you're a teenager. It takes time to find your niche and who you truly are at that age. Give yourself more grace to grow and learn.

@levitaifau

7 күн бұрын

@missctolbertvoh Thank you once again, Miss Keke. I apologise for some of the times I've come here and just dumped so much onto the channel. But I thank you that you still have time to respond to it. I really do hope that it helps me grow even more. God bless you !! 😊

@missctolbertvoh

7 күн бұрын

Its ok. You can come here anytime and speak your mind

Cliques make me uncomfortable. Family is better. The Most High is the Best. The love from the world isn't satisfactory to me.

@missctolbertvoh

18 күн бұрын

@@MakedaMix yes! Definitely!

10th grade behavior or mentality

Am I a part of your team or “clique”?

@missctolbertvoh

23 күн бұрын

@@RandyJ1219 both Randy 😆😹🤣

@RandyJ1219

23 күн бұрын

@@missctolbertvoh Whew! Thank you! It’s an honor and a blessing to be a part of this amazing community 😁❤️!

@missctolbertvoh

23 күн бұрын

@@RandyJ1219 🫂🤝🏽❤

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@missctolbertvoh

23 күн бұрын

Thanks for your subscription! Thank you for sharing me on your Facebook as well. I appreciate you ❤

@BJSJAZZYJEWERLY

22 күн бұрын

I meant I love all your positive content dear

@missctolbertvoh

22 күн бұрын

@@BJSJAZZYJEWERLY oh I know what you meant❤