I think it has a lot to do with their environment and how they were raised. You can have two black girls, one grew up in the suburbs and the other grew up in the hood. You will see the difference in their personalities. Most black women act the way they do because of their upbringing and surroundings. It's all they know.

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

Eddie Walker I couldn't agree with you any more! You hit the nail on the head! The environment has a lot to do with how those types of women carry themselves. I appreciate your input.

@katyarnold6757

5 жыл бұрын

Eddie Walker thanks!! for your comment 100% agreed. And thank you! sir for explaining the different types of black women that were raised in two types of environments.

@Barber747

5 жыл бұрын

@@missctolbertvoh Age is also a factor. Women in their 30s and up are generally more mature than those under 30. And this isn't just black women either.

@missctolbertvoh

5 жыл бұрын

@@Barber747 you are absolutely right!!!! I've tried to tell people that so many times and it falls on deaf ears.

@Barber747

5 жыл бұрын

@@missctolbertvoh Tell me about it. I said the same exact same thing to a former acquaintance who claimed I was being "sexist and prejudiced". His main problem was that his head was lodged so far up his ass he could smell his own shit. In other words, he blatantly refused to listen to logic and respect my opinions. That and he enjoyed slandering me also.

To all the brothers out here, THERE ARE GREAT BLACK WOMEN out here. You just have to raise your expectations and standards. Stop chasing big butts. Check for morals and upbringing. I have a black wife and I wouldn't trade her for any other woman out here. And it took me 28 years to find her. But I never gave up and believed and prayed for her. 20 years and still in love. God bless you all. Good luck.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Terry Hodges, I appreciate you and your beautiful words! I love the fact that a man came up here not being angry, cynical and confrontational. All black women shouldn't be categorized. I know I am a good woman. I have class, integrity, compassion and self control amongst other things. Again thanks for the beautiful comment sir! ❤

@misterx4757

8 жыл бұрын

You are welcome. Keep up the good work. Blessings. I just hope the brothers see it.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

+Terry Hodges yes sir I hope the brothers see it too!!

I would like to add, I am a white Female from the UK , and after checking the web for all kinds of info......I came across lots of African/American Females that have changed their life around and I subscribe to many because the knowledge these Women hold and express all kinds of truth, the Women empowered dynamic human beings.............especially around healing wounds, within the Female.......I am a Christian and I have had to drop destructive behaviors.......prayer also works....Maybe it is time the Ebony Ladies start to lead the way ....

@missctolbertvoh

7 жыл бұрын

Purple Sunflower, I totally agree with you and this is why I made this and other numerous videos that uplift people. For over a year this has been my argument with these disrespectful and angry men who constantly tear down and categorize black women. I got so tired of it! All black women aren't the same. It's unfair that men will try to categorize us. I'm happy you're so mature and see the difference in us. You're a rare one and I appreciate you! Thanks so much for your input.

Great words of wisdom. It’s amazing what happens when you build someone up and don’t destroy their self esteem. Many women have experienced that most of their lives and it’s sad. Women need to hear these encouraging and uplifting words that you deliver. Hollywood and the media only help to spread the stereotype of the black woman. Keep doing what you’re doing!! God Bless!!

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

James Floyd thank you so very much!!! I appreciate your encouragement and compliment. I made this channel to uplift the masses for the better.

@jamesfloyd8487

6 жыл бұрын

You’re doing a great job. Your messages truly bless and educate me.

Very True🙏 No Social Skill No Communication Skills No Character

This was good. Very true. There are plenty of black women who have been molested, who never sought out counseling. It can affect there relationships with men. I used to be married to one.

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

G-notes Johnson I hope your ex wife seeks to get the help she needs. She needs to desire real healing and deliverance.

I’m at an angry black woman, im a cautious one. I’m cautious because we have so much responsibility on our own, with no help from our black male brothers cousins and men! Black woman have to do everything by ourselves!

@missctolbertvoh

5 жыл бұрын

It's so sad and unfortunate but very true that many black men, cousins and brothers are not protecting the black women. They're more against us than for us.

sister I respect your position and felt your speech was eloquent and well spoken. The issue is that we as a people have a real problem with violence, drugs, high incarnation, teen pregnancy and a host of other issues that we could write a book on. The problem with most black people is that we must acknowledge that we have a problem. This is something we never do. We have a problem! Most sisters I come across never will admit that there behavior is problematic. And as you said yourself most of you don't want to listen to the truth! how can you fix something if you don't know the problem. That's like going to the doctor, she looks at you and says you have this. No examination and no diagnosis. Take two of these and call me in the morning.

Good points, I'm well aware that black women have had traumatic childhood and upbringing and in the way it's not their fault. Here's the truth even if every black man fully understood what black women went through in America it will take several generations to break this negative stigma surrounding black woman. Bad parenting in traumatic childhood experiences is a preview of adult sometimes

First off, I have to admit that I only originally watched this to have a reference to the response video that you posted to this video. But after watching this I can honestly say that this doesn't just apply to women. There are also men that have had similar experiences which affect their perception of women and cause them to act towards women in the same way you describe the way some women act towards men. I myself am guilty of it (for personal reasons which I won't go into) but I accept it and acknowledge it and in doing so, it helps to remind me to work on those issues. I guess what I'm saying is both sexes are guilty of this. My two cents worth.

@missctolbertvoh

7 жыл бұрын

Rob Glasser, I'm so happy you did put your two cents in. I love that you talked about these things happening to men also. I've seen many men be treated the way women have. Both sexes are definitely at fault. Only the ones that acknowledge it can change for the better. I truly appreciate your input on this video. Much love too you!

Thanks for sharing beautiful lady!

Broken homes 💯

@missctolbertvoh

7 жыл бұрын

KimaBabes100 YEP. Broken homes is scratching the surface of the deeper and more serious issues though 😢

I strongly agree with your message. I've met and known plenty of black women who were very friendly, cordial, and respectful, even if it seems like a facade. But of course there are some with negative traits--particularly younger ones living in the hood or have that hood mentality.

@missctolbertvoh

5 жыл бұрын

Yes indeed! I agree with everything you said 5,000%! There are so many of us black women who are beautiful and have great attitudes.

Queen B, i believe that if ppl who bash black women tried to take time understanding why they are angry, the negative opinions they have would be different. We must have compassion. These women who operate in anger didn't wake up and choose to be angry and defiant. I have spoken to so many women. All shapes, sizes, colors, religions and backgrounds. The fact is their anger stems from so many deep, violating, condescending and hurtful situations. Not to make an excuse, but those things have made them react and behave in the manner they do.

Many youtubers need heavily edited video to hold attention like this. well spoken.

@missctolbertvoh

7 жыл бұрын

Charles Lewis, I agree with you 100%. Thank you. I was really trying to drive a point home to ppl. I'm happy some of you know that.

I’m 44 years old and I’ll admit that some of this applies to me right now. I isolate myself from people because they’ll figure it out once they start to communicate with me. It has happened to me and it’s very sad and embarrassing. I just don’t know where to start.

I've tried all of my life to make it work with black women(to no avail), I've been crushed to the absolute core of my soul each time.

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

Coley Gray you have to get you a different kind of woman. Certain kind of women will mistreat you.

@coleygray8907

6 жыл бұрын

Good morning, I love your videos by the way. I've dated female Ministers (the worst and nastiest), a woman in college, a woman in the Navy, etc . . . They all had similar things in common. They were all selfish, sneaky, and underhanded (except for the minister; add on a few more demons). All were black women.

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

Coley Gray I'm happy you enjoy my videos. Thanks! I think next time around you should really pray that God leads you to the right woman. If you do it God's way I doubt if you'll have the drama and problems you used to have.

@coleygray8907

6 жыл бұрын

missctolbertvoh :-) I just don't date anymore. Lol... as hard as it is, I'd rather not lose what little I've obtained; it's a sad state of affairs, but it just seems dating in this present climate is.... not good to say the least. But I'll pray (again) on it.

@Solebellachic

6 жыл бұрын

Coley Gray , I know this may seem a little "far out there", but have you considered what parts of yourself are reflected in the women you attract or are attracted to? The parts you don't care for? Where have you been sneaky towards yourself or others? It's hard sometimes to see these things in ourselves, but the path to healing usually starts there. I can only speak from experience, and I send you love and light as you discover your own path.

N0 Queen.The so called educated ones with careers are just as bad.

@missctolbertvoh

5 жыл бұрын

That's true!! I see it everyday.

Now this video did it! The overall message from the video itself can apply to both men and women. Good information to absorb and really think about. The ending part nearly had me in tears because I simply wanted to be heard. Listen to the hold video, not part. You will miss the whole point. Thank u for this dear

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

Thud G let me tell you how appreciative I am of you truly understanding this video and not attacking me! Thank you so much honey! So many men tried to attack me for making this video and started making vicious comments but didn't even watch the whole video. Only a few of you were mature enough to see the bigger picture, point and purpose.

DEAR BLACK WOMEN, I HAVE TO SAY THAT Y'ALL DIDN'T START THIS GENDER WAR BASHING THINGS, IT WAS BLACK MEN THAT START THIS AND WE HAVE TO BE ACCOUNTABLE FOR THAT AND YES BLACK WOMEN WENT THRU ALOT BY BITTER BLACK MEN AND I CAN'T BLAME Y'ALL FOR FIGHTING BACK....OTHER RACE OF MEN DON'T BASHED THEIR WOMEN THE WAY MOST BLACK MEN DO....I LOVE MY BEAUTIFUL SISTAS NO MATTER WHAT!!!!! WE SUPPOSED TO BE THE PROVIDERS AND PROTECTORS OF OUR BLACK WOMEN!!!!!!

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Marcus O. thanks so much! I appreciate you you for defending us! You have no idea how much that means to us. It's feels so good to see that you get it. Salute to you!

@marcuso.9603

8 жыл бұрын

+missctolbertvoh no problem queen...i had to speak the truth.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

+Marcus O. I appreciate that. So many men came up here attacking us and even me for making the video. All of us are not the same.

@marcuso.9603

8 жыл бұрын

+missctolbertvoh i don't participate in that stuffs that they do...i had to cut most of my friends go because i don't want no negativity around. imma continue to push that black love to our women!!!

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

+Marcus O. Much love to you!! I'm so happy you choose to love us, respect us and protect us. 😙❤

I'll give her her due. At least she was woman enough not acknowledge that everyone needs to share the blame for the state of the black woman today. It's not just a one size fits all thing.

@missctolbertvoh

9 жыл бұрын

*****​ thank you for viewing my video. I truly believe if we tried to understand the reason why some black women are angry, and we showed the angry ones love then we could possibly see positive changes in their behavior.

I'll try this with a sister. Thanks for explaining without all the cursing and negativety, I was able to listen to the whole video.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Reborn Afrikan, thanks so much! I'm happy you are making a decision to use the advice I gave on a sister. I'm a positive person who believes in uplifting ppl.

Thanks for the Video

@missctolbertvoh

7 жыл бұрын

lashawn ward you're more than welcome!

I have to admit that you made a whole lot of good points. it really is unfortunate the things that have happened to black women, especially at the hands of the men in their lives; by choice or not. As a black man, I could understand why many of you have a chip on your shoulder, but none of you should take it out on the men who genuinely care about you. I have a whole lot more to say on this subject, but I'll stop while I'm ahead.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Andre Jones, you are free to speak your mind as long as it's done with respect. I leave my comment section open so everyone can speak their minds respectively. However it's just unfair how all black women are lumped and put in the same category. You just said many of us have a chip on our shoulder. That's unfair. I definitely don't have a chip on my shoulder. I actually made this video and was very positive. I even gave advice to the black women that may have been a victim, or they are still a victim to the things I named. The point was for them to change their behavior and be better. Most of the ppl that commented were negative. Come to find out many of those same ppl didn't even watch the video in its entirety. Lol so many men were so busy trying to attack the video and black women that they couldn't even see what my actually point was in even making it. SMH. I appreciate you for viewing it and being respectful in your feedback sir!

@andrejones5441

8 жыл бұрын

I did say "many"; I didn't mean to imply "all". A lot of black women that I've come into contact with disrespect me on a daily basis; whether it be at work, church, or even just when I'm out and about. Like I said before, I do understand that many black women have been attacked on all sides in many different ways, but like you said, it shouldn't make you bitter/angry, but I can understand why. Not all of us black men are any good either, but unfortunately for the decent black man, society has chosen the "nigga" (the black man who embodies all of the negative lifestyle traits) to be what is considered the "strong black man" based on looks(not just physical; niggas also come highly educated, with material things, but just as indignant as the thugs). Those guys psychologically or physically scar you; leaving us to deal with whatever negative feelings and extra baggage you may have. It doesn't help that many black women have the government aiding in the destruction of the black families too.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Andre Jones​ I totally believe you when you say on a daily basis you encounter a black woman disrespecting you. I see that all the time! I actually see it more with the women in church. I have come to find out that so many of those types of women are extremely angry, bitter and ready to release their frustrations on whomever they can. You made a great point when you said how black women are putting the "nigga" title on all black men. I could never place every black man in the same category believing, and thinking all of you are the same. That's so far from the truth. The truth is just like you put it....some black women and men are no good. The good ones have been stigmatized by the world and their own ppl because it's a small amount of us that have great attitudes, good hearts, deeds, and managed to rise above adversity. Such a crying shame we have to fight and prove we're not all uneducated, lazy, trifling, loud, locked up, negligent in raising our children etc...etc. I wholeheartedly agree with everything you said. I'm so sorry you have to come in contact with black women who are ticking time bombs. Don't get discouraged brother. I ask you to just continue to show love, respect and patience. They are fighting a battle that's bigger then you. God has to deliver them.

@uriandropov1097

8 жыл бұрын

+missctolbertvoh you are so right.

Beautiful 🌹 Educated Sistah...well said!

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Latoya WithanR, thank you so much for your lovely compliment queen! Big salute too you!! 👌👍👏👏

Your right It all start with you has a person .if we want a change put the pride to the side just for a bit. Quick to listen slow to speak slow to anger .we all need that thanks for that video.

@missctolbertvoh

9 жыл бұрын

Rattybe27 yes it starts with just one woman makes making a decision to do something different then she normally does. Some black women didn't wake up angry out the blue. They have gone through things and had to fight battles. ANGER comes into play with some ppl who have had a hard life.

I agree,bitterness is deep rooted,there is hope for redemption.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

jecinta njeri, yes queen there is definitely hope for redemption.

Well said queen

Thank you .

If she is angry I'll ask what is bothering you can I be a service to help you through this can we pray together

very well said.

@missctolbertvoh

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

You make good points in this video.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Grey Smith, thank you.

Yep i totally agree

This happens when the family structure has failed. Even with the all the problems in the world a black man belong with a black woman and vice versa. 2 halves of one godly whole.

@missctolbertvoh

5 жыл бұрын

True

Hit the nail in the head

Yes!! missctolbertvoh 100% agree with your comment sis. Us black women are alway's stereotyped for no reason at all. And yes! white, asian, and latino women are loud, rude, evil too!!. But the stigma is associated with black women being loud, rude and etc. We are view in such a negative light because of slavery and this racist american system that we are still under today. If a black women is a no nonse black women she is viewed rude, mean, and can't get along with anyone. I am a no-nonse black american women because I don't have time for ignorant people to stop my progress. I am not a people pleaser it's either you like me or you don't.

@missctolbertvoh

5 жыл бұрын

OMG yes QUEEN Natural Woman!!!! You're so right!! Every word you spoke was correct. I hate how we as bkack women are categorized with every negative thing you can think about. The world is fooled believing it's just us who behave in an angry or negative manner because those types of images are showcased all over social media and television.

Really like this video

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Dexion845, thank you so much sir! I'm very happy you enjoyed it. It feels good to know someone actually watched the entire video and understood the point, and where I was coming from. I've had to delete, block, and flag some very disrespectful, rude, angry, and racist ppl/comments concerning this video. Good to see positive comments and respectful ones.

I seen a white women cuss are man out at the store!!

@sweetonyxakararegem692

6 жыл бұрын

black men loved to get disrespected by white women its more acceptable to them than for black women to do it.

shes right luv her x

Ive only dated black women. I just dont like certain types of sistas. If i see a bad trait i dont like I avoided those types or i check it on sight if it comes out towards me. If the sista too bitter then i leave. Simple. Im so over the whole black man vs black woman visa versa bs smdh. My mom and grandma. Aunts and sister are great sistas. So i can never feel a way about sistas. I was born by one. Nothing wrong in dating different flavas of women but dont settle for bs! NO MATTER THE COLOR

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

xDTHECHEMISTx I agree with everything you said.

Anyone else just enjoy hearing miss talk? Her voice on this subject is pleasing, for such a subject you'd expect within the voice of a black female some spite but miss leaves you wanting her to go on and on! Idk, call me crazy but there is something different about her. Anyone notice?

@DABADAVISUAL

8 жыл бұрын

+Barry Dozier yes

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Barry Dozier thank you so much, especially for realizing my genuineness. I truly wanted to help the black women become better ppl. My video was not to make any excuses for them or justify their bad behavior. I just hate that black women are crucified and lumped in the same category. That is so unfair!

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

+DABA DAVISUAL thanks brother. I love that you get the motivation behind this video. I made it from the heart.

@DABADAVISUAL

8 жыл бұрын

+missctolbertvoh yes please, your videos are very heartfelt & helpful. I only discovered you a few weeks ago but I share your stuff on my facebook all the time.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

+DABA DAVISUAL wow I had no idea!! Thanks so much. I hope ppl use my messages and get inspired. I always come in love.

I agree ...

That stigma thing is real, deep and sad.

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

G-notes Johnson yes it is deep and sad for many black women. There is help for them but they have to be willing to do the work and desire to heal.

Great video! Very well balanced message. I love how you don't only acknowledge there is an issue. You're also resourceful in helping this population of women improve. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Guerlene Fleurantus thank you so much. BAAABY YOU'RE THE REAL MVP!!! From your comment you obviously watched the video in it's entirety! Most of the comments on this video are negative and harsh. Most ppl who viewed it were men and they came with the wrong attitude ready to attack the black woman. Nobody took the time out to focus on the key point of the video....I showed the reasons why some black women are angry, not to make an excuse, but to expose the root of the anger and bad behavior for some. After I explained that, I gave the women a few ideas on things they can do to improve their behavior, and surroundings for the better. My goal was to only get the women to understand that even though they had hardships and trials in their life, which broke them, it shouldn't keep them bitter, angry and non complacent. Wow!!! I am so thankful that you truly get it. Much love too you!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@Lvcharm

8 жыл бұрын

+missctolbertvoh ... No prob, I'm sure your vid helped many better understand their circumstances. Keep it up!👌🏾 I just subbed:)

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

G GFleur thank you pretty lady! I hope it did help many of the ladies, even the ones who aren't black. I will definitely stay positive and uplifting. Godbless you queen.

I understand what you are saying and have compassion. But the question I put to you is, why is it that when we, as black men, speak to you in public don't get a response. In a lot of cases we give a friendly smile and get a nasty frown in return.

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

Dana Alexander that's not all black women. All black women shouldn't be blamed for what you've experienced with a few ignorant ones.

@danaalexander2663

6 жыл бұрын

I am not the only black man that has experienced this. There are a lot of great guys out here that are willing to sit down and listen to you and what you are going through. But are you (black women) willing to give us a chance to listen?

@missctolbertvoh

6 жыл бұрын

Dana Alexander all black women are not the same. You've experienced some rude, mean and ignorant black women. Black women have experienced some rude, mean, ignorant and abusive men from all races, especially our own. However, I wouldn't put all men or ALL black men in the same category because of some bad seeds. There are many black women that's willing to sit down and talk, hear you out and come up with a solution for us to be better.

@danaalexander2663

6 жыл бұрын

I agree with you on that last statement. So, let me be clear and state that when I say black women, I don't mean "all black women."

Bless you, please don't let my screen name fool you. I am a proud black man who feels what you are saying, it is not a black thing it is a self hate, low self esteem, lack of education thing, which can lead to an issue of pride, it is imperative that people love them selves in order to grow and love one another.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

MrNastydread, I appreciate you understanding where I was coming from. That shows me that you were not being defensive or sensitive once I stated real issues that cause ppl to be this way. I also appreciate the fact you didn't attack or disrespect me. I wanted to uplift the women and tell them how they can be better. If nobody is kind to a bitter, misrable and mean person who will be? I'm willing to extend it, even though heat comes with it. Lack of education, resources, and positive environment has caused the breakdown of many ppl. Since we're talking about black women I find it a fact for them as well.

@coldtundra1794

8 жыл бұрын

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@coldtundra1794

8 жыл бұрын

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+TheLegend810 you're correct. He seemed to only zoom in on what he felt was offensive. Several men that commented were extremely negative. Its so sad only a couple that said something about this video were positive. There are some angry ppl out here in this world!! I wanted to be positive. Look at the comments, all you see is men saying it's an excuse I'm making for black women. One guy said he bets the black women I'm speaking of are American, another brother said it's not our Job to pyschoanalize anyone. Another guy said he did'nt give a F***! I was hoping a few brothers would come up here and be positive or encouraging to the sisters. Its so sad and disappointing. 😢😢

@DJLloyd61

8 жыл бұрын

+missctolbertvoh Everything you said is very true. But at some point everyone has to stand up, face whatever issues they may have, and get professional help like adults. Instead many of our women take their "daddy" issues or other pass issues with them in their everyday lives. The sad thing is their anger, bitterness and bad attitude shows everywhere they go, even in the Caribbean. Don't believe me? Next time you travel check the attitudes of other women and then compare. Other women in the world of all races do not act the same as the sisters here in the U.S. Please understand I am not trying to put my foot on the sisters' throats. But most men are just not qualified to be therapists and every woman knows this. So women need to own up to whatever issues they have and fix themselves psychologically before letting anyone in their space.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

DJLloyd61 I totally understand where you are coming from. I agree that sisters need to seek help along with working to be a better person. I just didn't want ppl to always tear down the black women. So many men I've come across are very angry at the black women. We should be protected, loved, lifted, encouraged and respected. I know some women don't conduct themselves in a respectful manner. The ones that do shouldn't be categorized. Before ending the video I gave the sisters some advice and told them what they can do to start being better women. Now it's up to them to be interested enough to make changes for the better. Thanks so much for your input! I appreciate you for your kind, gentle words. 😊😀😃

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Dtg Red not all black women do the things you said they do. When you encounter that type of woman distance yourself from her. The video was just to expose why some black women are angry. I gave advice to the women so they could change their behavior and be better.

@jamesmorgan6194

8 жыл бұрын

It's is sad, how people in this world can be so unfair and cruel twards the blackwoman, I've seen the fucked up shit my self, and you queen's don't deserve it.Know body is perfect, the bible say " let ye without sin cast the first stone".Hint Hint to the ones judgmental towards my queen's.Love y'all blessed.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

James Morgan thanks brother! We love you too. Sad that ALL black women are put in the same category.

I love bw " As a wm that's dated both ww and bw , I can say my experience with bw have been amazing bw appreciate a man with traditional values now add the beauty of bw and believe me nothing more beautiful then a bw she is #1 in my book... I agree these videos of bashing bw are disturbing ..

@missctolbertvoh

5 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your lovely compliments about bw. The disrespect towards us has been out of hand. It's so unfair to categorize ALL black women. Good to know there are some men out here who appreciate us.

90% of what you said in the first 25 seconds is true.

They were taught that from their black mothers, and (your right) ,their environment, but it still IS NO EXCUSE. your on point, but check out ..Obsidian Media, Melissa Ortiz. DWL and others. Look it's getting very critical out now, we NEED black women to be on point.Keep up the righteous fight.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

t johnson, thanks so much for your input! I agree time is running out and black women or women period need to be on point. I definitely don't condone bad behavior from women but I know when I see it there is a issue deeper then what our eyes can see. In the meantime I will continue to try and inspire/encourage the ladies. Thanks for viewing. I appreciate you.

@tj67tj

8 жыл бұрын

Thanks, not alot of black people see it. From what we been thru, past and present, I know if we (blk men and women) don't change these attitudes and this behavior, we are not going to be safe in our future. Sometimes when I see one of us acting out, I want to hold them and tell them to hold on, don't let them and you tear you apart. We need to help each other on a individual (one on one), quietly, because they will kill or corrupt any leader that tries unite us. We are slowly and methodically getting pick off and corrupted.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

t johnson that's so true! We do need to help each other, stop competing with each other and stop tearing one another down. The way we are portrayed in the media, social media, television and real-life period is horrible. When we put aside our egos and become United we can change our current situation and circumstances.

@tj67tj

8 жыл бұрын

Right on!

you are such a beautiful person and i do agree with your message. you mentioned that most black women are bitter because of what they have been through and its causing problems in their lives, true but i think most black women live in denial that they have a problem. its always someones fault. yes i agree that they been raped and whatnot but one can not live their life treating others based on the fact that others treated them like shit. it isnt fair to the next innocent person.being male or female. black women can seek help but before that happens they need to acknowledge that they do have a problem. thats the only way they can seek peace and have a better life and relationship with men.

@missctolbertvoh

7 жыл бұрын

slimflex1, I agree with you! I couldn't cover every reason why black women are angry due to the audience attention span being short. I only covered some of the main reasons why. Typically the issues I named is the reason why some black women are angry. Self admission is necessary for help and growth. Since black women are continuously slandered, torn down, categorized and stigmatized I made this video to educate the ppl, mainly men as to why they see SOME angry black women. I don't think men have to deal with angry black women, I just suggested they have patience, show love and try to understand why they come across some black women that's angry. I explained this video further in a response video.

@slimflex1

7 жыл бұрын

missctolbertvoh thank you for the insightful reply sister. you are very right on black women being hurt, torn down and slandered and needs love, patience and understanding. the sad part is, these only applies to grown matured black women who have come to the point of self realization. most black women dont understand how it feels to be loved and cared for because they have been hurt and abused. they treat guys who actually try to love them them like crap. this is why we have sooo many black men turning away from sisters because they have been hurt by the same black woman they showed love to. its a sad situation. i have personally been through with a sister who treated me that way but i know there is hope seeing sisters like you.

@missctolbertvoh

7 жыл бұрын

slimflex1 that's the problem. Some of these women don't want to admit they have anger issues. Until you admit there's a problem nothing will change. I have guy friends that are dating women of other races because they say they're tired of dealing with black women that tear them down. I hope my channel inspires these women and evokes change for the better. I appreciate your input and utmost respect for me.

@slimflex1

7 жыл бұрын

missctolbertvoh yes sister; i know exactly what your male friends are going through with regards to black women. collectively we have alot of work to do. i have alot of respect for you because you are doing your best to make a positive change in both male and female blacks. you speak truth and i encourage you to keep on doing what you doing. you have my support.

@missctolbertvoh

7 жыл бұрын

slimflex1 awwwe thanks so much for your encouragement. My heart is so happy when ppl come on my channel that understand my goal, motive and intentions.

you made alot of good points,and i know theres alot of blk wmn who come from broken homes too,but u cant always use that as a crutch. iv'e shown compassion for alot of blk wmn before and in the end all i got was their ass to kiss,but u know who got treated with respect... the thug. but at the end of the day, we can learn to be a little compassionate too.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Rodney Shaw, you are so right and I totally understand your frustration! Trust me when I tell you that there are some women who respect a man that's not a thug. I just think if compassion is shown to some of these angry black women then they would be softer and more approachable. I thank you so much for recognizing the angle I was coming from in this video.

I think the reason we get this stigma is because in other cultures women and men with ghetto mentalities are separated from the rest of that culture. We are the only ones that still try to deal with those types, go to any club in the hood you will see a few people who made it out of the hood but they still hang out in the hood, white people who make it out of the trailer park are never seen there again so there is a clear distinction between upper class whites and lower class whites so they arent lumped together the way we are. I dont get the angry sista treatment because I dont act like an angry sista.

@missctolbertvoh

10 жыл бұрын

Kim, beautiful Queen thank you so much for sharing my video. I appreciate you and your support from the bottom of my heart! Next, everything you just said was on point. I completely agree. Stigmas are constantly attached to certain colors or classes of ppl for many different reasons. While so many are criticizing and critiquing the black woman, nobody takes the time to understand why so many are angry. These Queens didnt wake up and decide to be angry. There was a progression of the anger stemming from deeper, serious issues. Life can beat you down and change how you react or conduct yourself completely. I lift the black women up. Angry or not. Period.

@missctolbertvoh

9 жыл бұрын

***** i cant under any circumstances argue with that!!! I agree. I have tried to council and uplift women, and be positive. After all the hard work they still choose to be loud, boisterous, rude, angry and mean. God is the only one that can fix that. I just pray for them, love them and keep it moving girl 😉😀

@missctolbertvoh

9 жыл бұрын

***** lol!!! Its to many Beyonce wanna be's. Smh.

Everyone get hurt that don't mean you should speak to people in a degrading way I been through a lot but I am nice

@missctolbertvoh

7 жыл бұрын

Simply Gorgeous by Melanie Tm, I don't think anyone should speak to other people in a degrading way either.

At first I thought this was pure ignorance until maybe 5 or 6 minutes in(most of what you say is true). Here is my opinion MOST back women are NOT loud, angry and trifling. The problem is this group that does fit this stereotype is making the most noise.(media framing? yes but that's another topic) The question is what would you have people do? Compassion? Ok, many us do understand but should a man be with an angry chick because he understands? Should a person accept ignorance or anger cause they understand? I read a comment in which you said "These women who operate in anger didn't wake up and choose to be angry and defiant." Well here is where we disagree, you control you. Until you accept that you are the responsible for your actions , you can not change. Maturation, change and progress come from with in! I was once a young angry, violent, ignorant ass dude. I was trapped in a cycle, I blamed lack of a father, the hood I grew up in, my financial status. Yet I was able to change that because I recognized that I was broken! An NOBODY else could fix ME. Broken by design? Yes but that's another topic. Instead of encouraging people to be silent which is good advice but it will only make the anger build to an explosion. Encourage self inflexion. You have to get rid of the anger on the inside before you can calm the externalization of anger.Be careful what you throw out. My honest first impression was "sheesh you are perpetuating the stereotypes". In essence helping to further the stereotype.Don't ask others to accept foolishness. FREE YOURSELF FROM THE CHAINS OF FOOLISHNESS!

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

+Black Thought, first let me say I appreciate you viewing the entire video. I believe that most of the men who pressed play only viewed the first few minutes and begin to attack and come for me accusing me of making excuses for black women. What seemed to go over many ppl's head is the title. I said find out WHY black women are angry. I don't have to defend what I know is truth! Each one of us has a certain way we act, think, behave, and deal with ppl and things on a day to day basis. However, there are ppl who have compassion for us. No matter how we feel, or what we think, something about us and how we react, behave, or think needs understanding. This video was to encourage and be positive. Nothing more. Nothing less. When I spoke of silence, I meant that for the women who are always talking and angrily lashing out, or responding in situations harshly but they don't listen. This is a common problem with angry women. I told the ladies to get control of their emotions and hear the other person out before speaking. That part of my video seemed to go over the men's head. When a man loves a woman no he shouldn't stay with her and she is angry, disrespectful or boisterous but he should at least try to get to the root of why she behaves the way she does. Thats what ppl in relationships and marriages do. They work together by problem solving and exercising patience with the woman they deal with. Its always OPTIONAL. How have ppl gotten to a place where we don't care about trying yo be positive, compassionate, or understanding for someone who is lost? You stated that you once were an angry guy. You also stated that change starts within us. That is true, but one must first come into the knowledge of how to change inside before it takes place. Once these angry women are shown love or told in love that they need to change how they walk, talk, behave or speak then you see a transformation. The ones who behave like this ARE ABSOLUTELY not making the most noise. If they are it's because black women continue to get tore down! I have yet to see a man come up here and be positive. All I see is men cursing, making excuses as to why they can't be positive and uplifting to the women ,which leads me to believe there are very angry, negative men. Several men who commented completely twisted my video around, started debates, and responded very angrily and negatively. I doubt if most of the viewers even watched the full 9 minutes and 15 seconds of this in full. I can see the percentage on my KZread chart and how long a viewer watches each video. The rest of what I said was not even considered or heard because the men kept PERPETRATING negativity and only addressing what they felt was excuses. I actually admitted that some of what is said about black women is true. When we are positive it changes things. period. Point blank. I have compassion, understanding and patience. I love ppl. I will continue to be positive and uplifting whether I have others backing me up or not. Thanks for viewing my video sir. I appreciate you!

@blackthought4169

8 жыл бұрын

+missctolbertvoh Here is the thing, in reading your response your stance is easily understood. For the most part I agree with you. I do believe as black people need more compassion for each other. Even more specifically I think as black men we need to do better by our women. We need to love, protect and uplift our women. We need to put our women on a pedestal(Because we put non black women on a pedestal) . Also, I have to correct myself on the silence thing you are absolutely correct. Understand this where as men interpret things one way, women see them completely different. So while women may easily understand where you going with the video most of us dude didn't, at least I didn't. Not until I was over half way into the video. We see something completely different. Like many of the dudes who commented, my first thought was "next video, another chick making excuses for bad behavior". For some reason I just stayed and watched to make sure I was understanding where you were going with it. Sweetheart you have to understand this. Most of us men know why women are mad. Its the cycle. The whole anger thing is a trap. A woman comes into this world soft, loving, and nurturing. Only problem is we live in a fallen world were people prey on that nature. Many women in our communities never had that father that showed her how she should be loved by loving her and mother the way a man should. They never were the princess in their fathers eyes. Never had the protection of a man. So they go out seeking that love. In doin so they get burned by the game. What happens when you get burned? You start to protect yourself from things that burn you. You get bitter, angry, and jaded, you start to build up walls to protect your self from being hurt again but all it really does is stop you from ever being loved again. Now you meet men who may be attracted to you but cant deal with or wont deal with the angry disposition. So now you block your chances at love. I stand by what I said . Change comes from within. Where does the knowledge comes from? Its all around us. We just have to want change. I didn't change until I got tired of anger destroying my education, my jobs, my relationships. Hell anger was destroying my life. So I started trying to walk away from altercations. I stopped expecting the worst out of people. I started to examine what I did wrong in my relationships. I started to forgive. Eventually I started overcoming my issues. I am far from perfect but I am progressing and all of my change came from within. What will these women do if that compassion never comes? I would hate to see anyone more of our women like the countless older women on youtube talking about how wrong they had it when they were young. Sorry, I don't want to spam your comment section just hoping you see where I am coming from. You make good videos, keep it up!

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Black Thought​ I absolutely love your response. Again I truly appreciate you understanding my side and where I was coming from. I'm so sure you know that there is a reason why we all act the way we act. Some behaviour is just not out of control or offensive as others. When I told that fact I was told I was making excuses for black women. I won't ever make an excuse for nonsense, but I know when it's present it's a reason. I know you stand by what you said, and I would never ask or want you to change it. I just wanted the audience to understand why so many women are angry. I didn't even want to make it a color thing but since black women are torn down so much and categorized I did the video about them. Its so refreshing to see that finally a man has come up here and responded with actual knowledge of the black woman. I think these angry, hostile women want to be better but they don't know how or where to start. The Hood and a negative environment plays a big role in how one behaves. Everyone hasn't gotten to the awakening place where they know to change and shift their inside to be better. If the compassion never comes I imagine with age and being around ppl who are different for the better can inspire them to transform or at least desire it for the better. Thanks for the compliment also honey!! My passion is counseling and speaking to ppl. I do these videos for the ppl to see things from a different perspective. 

it is a devil world

Some of your points are true,black have gone through a lot of abuse too, ut most men have no choice but to keep trying,women want the easy way out,so im sorry,90% of what you're saying is bullshit,I know too many women who have pull themselves together,this video can't justify ratchet behavior

Is the cause men?

@missctolbertvoh

5 жыл бұрын

No the cause is many things

I won't leave anymore comments, yeah without a stable family and black ownership of businesses our community is destined to fail and let's not forget the BS war drugs

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

+Asaad Dennis, feel free to leave as many comments as you want! Like I told you in my reply to your first two comments, you are correct about what you're speaking. I appreciate your feedback on this video.

But it's not just the black woman who are like this, it's really sad. Some people are loud, some people are quite, some people are ghetto, some people are uneducated, some people have split homes, and the list goes on. I will never be that one person to label individuals for others behaviors. I have my options, and feelings but they stay to me where they're safe. Do what you do and you'll be who you are not what others make you out to be. So you're are who you're You show people what you want to show them, you tell people what YOU want them to know. So let's represent our self and stop letting others define us.

@missctolbertvoh

7 жыл бұрын

KAM MAK, wow! Finally someone with my way of thinking. I appreciate you so much for not responding negatively and angrily. Most of the comments were angry black men that came up here categorizing, slandering, shaming and being condescending to the black women. I totally agree with what you said. Skin color has nothing to do with ignorance and how ppl act. There are angry women out here of all races. Ignorance has no color. Ppl came up here pulling the culture card making it seem as though it's in our culture (African Americans ) to be loud, ghetto, mean and angry. I truly appreciate you for seeing the point of this video and looking at each person as a individual, not a race. Much love to you!

@kelly_1111

7 жыл бұрын

missctolbertvoh Your very much welcome. You just have to know how to deal with people and the best way in a negative situation is to NOT DEAL WITH THEM AT ALL.. I'm so grateful for how I was raised I did not have everything growing up but one thing I had was love, guidance with mother and father. Now I'm not perfect but it's all about how we grow and learn. I have grown to love and if not to keep it moving. I also try and live life like tomorrow could be my last. So I personally don't have time to nip pick. I always stand by this. Don't live life in the fast lane because one day that lane will end. Take it easy drive slow. Teach others who want to learn let's grow together. If I can tell people one thing it will be this. You don't have to love everyone, you don't have to like everyone, but you sure as heck don't have to spend your time hating, you don't have to spend your time bullying. If you don't want to help others understand keep it moving. If you don't like people don't waste your time hating someone even more. Just keep it moving. Always try first if at first you don't succeed try again, and if it fails at least you know you tried without hate in your heart.

@missctolbertvoh

7 жыл бұрын

KAM MAK I love you! Your comment on my channel made my day sweetie. This is so refreshing and wonderful to come across ppl like you. There are so many angry and hateful ppl in this world. Racism is at an all time high also. When I see ppl with a heart like mine I love it. I wish I could hug and kiss your mom and dad right now. You obviously grew up in a house of love, respect and good character. This is rare! In the beginning of starting my channel I would let all types of ppl come up here and say stupid, ignorant things. Now I demand respect. Whether it's from a subscriber or non subscriber, if I see any hateful comments or someone disrespects me I immediately delete the comment, report it or block the person. I no longer argue with anyone about my video topics. Everyone doesn't have to agree. However, we all need to respect each other. I'm really happy you spoke out. I hope someone reads your comments and learns a few lessons.

@kelly_1111

7 жыл бұрын

That's very sweet of you. I appreciate your words as much as you appreciate mine. Much love here!!

@missctolbertvoh

7 жыл бұрын

KAM MAK thank you 😙

You are very beautiful

@missctolbertvoh

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much honey. That's so sweet of you to say. ❤🥰

@dominantman1780

3 жыл бұрын

@@missctolbertvoh you are very welcome

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@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Prince Slice, lol please don't tear me up for the video sir 😂. Be nice. I don't know what that hmmmm means.

@supersaiyanslice

8 жыл бұрын

+missctolbertvoh It means lets just say I get your point

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

Prince Slice whew (wipes sweat from brow) thank you for seeing the points I was trying to make. I appreciate you.

I love the fact that you are trying to teach black women how to better themselves But it seems like you're throwing men under the bus as to say we are the cause of black women's pain and anger. I've been hurt by black women and I don't take it out on the next black woman I date. I love our women but the anger should be bestowed on a man if he deserves it

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

PharaohLawLess1 I don't understand how your interpretation of my video was throwing men under the bus. What you heard me saying was some of the things that have caused some black women to be angry. These are just facts. Not one time did I bash or throw any man under the bus. That's why some women have anger because of things that have happened in their past. Actually I tell the women to stop tearing down the men amongst other things. I'm not sure if you're familiar with all of my other videos. I am positive and don't tear anybody down or throw ppl under the bus. Thank you for viewing my video sir. I appreciate your feedback. Godbless you.

@PharaohLawLess1

8 жыл бұрын

+missctolbertvoh You mentioned how men did something to the woman like beating her, verbally abusing her and cheating and that caused the black woman to be angry so maybe yes, I can see how that cause such a state with black women but the root of what you're saying is that a man caused it. Maybe I should've used a better choice of words. I commend you none the less for making the video and posting it and please believe me that I passed this video on to almost every woman I know

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

+PharaohLawLess1 thank you sir for passing the video to others! I truly appreciate you. But let me explain, those things I named honestly were not to put all the blame on men. I just know that many of these angry black women have these types of backgrounds. Some don't know how to read, or write. Some have been molested or abandoned by a parent, whether it was the mother or father. I just happened to cover what I see more frequently and that's the abuse by the hands of a man. I'm not saying in any way that men are the reason why the black women are angry. The root was being abused period. Life situations whether it was men or women doing the things I named, it played a part in the bad attitudes of SOME black women.

@missctolbertvoh

8 жыл бұрын

+PharaohLawLess1 some angry women have horrible environments to live in and this further adds to the anger.

@PharaohLawLess1

8 жыл бұрын

+missctolbertvoh Ok. And I like how you put "SOME" black women bcuz I'll be really honest I have met black women who are angry and I have met black women who went through the ringer and had it a turbulent life but they still smiled and they we NOT angry. Lol. Maybe a little jaded and guarded somewhat but they have a positive outlook on life and dating and would be a great asset to any man that has them. I tell brothas all the time there are really really good sisters out there. They may not be the most attractive but what else they bring to the table way more than makes up for the superficial outward looks and I tell my brothers those should be the ones you go after. Not the gold diggin, weavr down her back, finger nails so long she can't possibly cook nor wash her behind, fake eye lashes, went to the Dominican Republic to get the booty shots, small brained type of girl