Should We Get Back Together? 5 Terrible Reasons To Give Up

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Ends on Sept 13th, 2022: docs.google.com/document/d/15...
we get back together or not? It's a common concern or question that you might have.
And there are no shortage of people out there telling you to give up or move on.
But should you?
In this video I'll be sharing with you 5 terrible reasons to give up on your relationship. And I'll also be sharing with you when it actually does make sense to give up or to call it quits.

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  • @ClayAndrews
    @ClayAndrews Жыл бұрын

    Ends on Sept 13th, 2022: docs.google.com/document/d/15m29V9dat9uAXdn2p1uKpjKYwEIjxL-J2cABz25zxtM/edit?usp=sharing

  • @user-es5gx2di7h
    @user-es5gx2di7h Жыл бұрын

    Basically, you should challenge any midwit fortune cookie style advice you hear. 1. "The breakup happened for a reason". However, you also got together for a reason. These ought to be weighed against each other. Do your 5x5! 2. "You're weak to get back with an ex". Myth that it's low status/needy to get back with an ex. You should seek INTERNAL validation for your decisions, not external. 3. "If we get back together, we'll just break up again". Only if nothing has changed, the dynamic hasn't changed, same situation or context. HOWEVER, if you focus on changing yourself, you can show your ex that they're not walking back into the same relationship. You must therefore have a GROWTH mindset. 4. "Plenty of fish in the sea". Scrapping things or not is your decision. But think about what you're looking for in a partner. Be specific. Define the ideal partner for you, the ideal relationship. 5. "Time heals all wounds". It only heals it if you grow, process it, feel the pain and learn from it.

  • @viehl2221

    @viehl2221

    Жыл бұрын

    Heartfelt comment with great elaborations, hope others healing up a relationship read this. God bless

  • @dianelambert2016
    @dianelambert2016 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for these recent videos, they really help with coping with friend and family pushback.

  • @alaalfa8839
    @alaalfa88395 ай бұрын

    There is plenty of fish in the sea but there is a limited amount of time for investment or only one investment in the relationship, This means the person who tried 20 relationships starts all over 20 times while the one who sticks with one relationship creates much more and is in a higher position with his work and investment in the relationship, is just enjoying the fruits of relationship.

  • @joelwilson7571
    @joelwilson7571 Жыл бұрын

    Hi Clay thank you so much for your genuine and realistic advice on navigating honest relationships, my long distance partner and I just broke up, I flew to see them but the answer remained the same as they said we should just be friends, after being there I realized that the love was still there but they were hesitant and stuck to their descison even tho we got really close. Its been almost three years we've been together and half of that long distance. I want to make it work but I'm confused as to what I should do at this point did I blow my chance ?

  • @alexandre9328
    @alexandre9328 Жыл бұрын

    Be careful of not taking a bad turn..

  • @chrismcevoy2503
    @chrismcevoy2503 Жыл бұрын

    I’m so sorry about your mother Clay.

  • @shibbydbz5046
    @shibbydbz5046 Жыл бұрын

    Is there a vid that explains that if u got back together more then once ?

  • @jonathandenga8014
    @jonathandenga8014 Жыл бұрын

    Hi Clay, me and my ex broke up two months ago after a two months break (recess). We dated almost 3 years and got engaged February 2022. Since then her family hates the idea and pressured us for about 7 months until we broke up. I’ve been in no contact since breaking up in January but broke contact on text for her birthday which I also gave her a financial gift (she appreciated it) and went back to no contact. Recently last week I broke contact and she responded on text we needed more time and space to heal. She does respond to text but doesn’t initiate any communication.

  • @reginamanson4454
    @reginamanson4454 Жыл бұрын

    I was with my guy for 19 teen years now in a rebound within one week still together going. On three years. Still make sure that he stays involved with my family my grandkids he's just simply in my family's life after all this time. OMG. WHY??

  • @pandorapink1227
    @pandorapink1227 Жыл бұрын

    Good vid

  • @cantgobck69
    @cantgobck696 ай бұрын

    I have believe all these to be garbage except this guy I have started watching and he shows respect and touch of care on each case non judgemental or a side basher 👍

  • @AdamNotaro
    @AdamNotaro Жыл бұрын

    Hi Clay.. me and my ex are broken up 2 months now.. at first there was no contact.. then we chatted for a bit.. she opened up to me a lot about problems in her life.. given me hot and cold treatment. She said there's something there still but the issues with her life need her full attention.. she hasn't said never again.. should I just get on with life and remain hopeful that we can get back together? Or just leave it altogether.

  • @megajeffrey999

    @megajeffrey999

    4 ай бұрын

    Hey, I think I am in a similar situation as you were. Would love to hear an update on how things went. Hopefully well for you :)

  • @bellapadmalakshmi47
    @bellapadmalakshmi47 Жыл бұрын

    My ex and I aren’t in contact. Should I send a accountability letter.

  • @pimpindistress101
    @pimpindistress101 Жыл бұрын

    I was dating someone for 6 months but they were a gambler. I found out just before she disappeared just how bad her habit really was. She didn't ask for space but I felt that she needed space because she told me that she was really stressed out so I was just letting her figure herself out and I let her be. She reaches out every now and then by text or she calls me, but we haven't brought up hanging out together. I told her I'm just giving her the space she needs for now to get things straightened out. Where do I go from here?

  • @chazrooks4681

    @chazrooks4681

    Жыл бұрын

    Move on. She hasn't grown up, you need to grow and keep it moving. Wish her the best of luck, and move on. She'll only hold you back in your life

  • @kitty2doggyMeow
    @kitty2doggyMeow5 ай бұрын

    What are our 5 signs? not the person that we are dating. Do you have a video like that?

  • @AmirOnzo-vp5pq
    @AmirOnzo-vp5pq8 ай бұрын

    @clay Hello. My ex is pulling away after we reconnected and we have been sexually intimate. She is more and more distant and hesitant to talk to me and it's hard to build emotional connection and intimacy. I am having a hard time and need help. I dropped the romantic pressure but she is very stubborn and doesn't initiate at all. It has 2 1/2 months since reconnecting and we were in no contact for 6 months.

  • @chrismcevoy2503
    @chrismcevoy2503 Жыл бұрын

    So Time Heals All Wounds is really a crock Clay.

  • @jerrycundiff6748

    @jerrycundiff6748

    Жыл бұрын

    Dude, shut up.

  • @chrismcevoy2503
    @chrismcevoy2503 Жыл бұрын

    The reason I broke up with my ex-girlfriend Tracci Ludwick because she took me for granted.

  • @chrismcevoy2503
    @chrismcevoy2503 Жыл бұрын

    I got together with my ex-girlfriend Tracci Ludwick because she was my high school sweetheart.

  • @lLuke.c

    @lLuke.c

    Ай бұрын

    so bro just doxed his girl for the whole internet to see 😂

  • @shandy41709
    @shandy41709 Жыл бұрын

    Should u listen to ur family and friends.

  • @nickolazcarters
    @nickolazcarters Жыл бұрын

    11:11

  • @kiavang8658
    @kiavang8658 Жыл бұрын

    There’s a lot of fish in the sea, but there’s only one of a kind of a fish..call Baobei. Li…

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