How to Let Go Even if You Believe You Can't (7 TIPS)
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Letting go is extremely easy when we let it be easy, but also letting go is extremely hard if we believe letting go is hard.
Now in this video I want to show you the seven tips that have made letting go so much easier for me, even at times when I believed letting go was impossible.
First tip with this is to become aware of what attachment you have and how that's helping you to avoid feeling certain emotions.
So this is an interesting part of the process is a lot of times what we do is we may have an attachment, maybe that attachment is to a belief about ourselves, maybe it's to a person, maybe it's to someone in your past, maybe the attachment is to people thinking about you in a certain way or what other people think about you.
And what happens is these attachments we think are there because we need whatever that is. The belief is if I have that person, then I'll be enough, then I'll be happy.
If these people feel this way about me and they give me the validation or approval or whatever it is, then I will finally feel enough and I can feel safe. The challenge with this is that if that's the belief, then of course it's hard to let go.
It's hard to let go when you believe somebody else has your eternal happiness, when you believe someone else has a part of you that you need. And the thing that makes all the difference in the world is when you become aware that the attachment you have is simply a distraction from feeling certain emotions.
And they say that a lot of times these emotions are either a mix of fear, grief or anger. So at a certain level, there may be an avoidance of looking at anger. Let's think about this and the whole nice guy persona thing.
Some people, especially empathic people, may identify as being a nice guy or a people pleaser. Normally under a nice guy or a people pleaser, what's happening is there's this fake facade that's (indistinct) up, the facade is, I'm gonna be very nice, and this also gets back to manipulation.
I read this book recently and it talked about manipulation and it uses words to understand the deeper meaning of it. Now think of it like this, think of like a nice guy who was once a baby, who was given the nipple of the mom and that was the source of everything.
That was the source of comfort, the source of nurturing, the source of nutrients. And then at a certain point, the nipple went away or it wasn't around.
And what happens is in order for some people to get their needs met, what they do is is they
manipulate, manipulation, manipulate other people so that they can get the teat, they can get the nipple.
And what they're doing is they're going over to people and they're like, "Are you the nipple? Are you the nipple?" And then other people feel that needy energy and they're like, get away from me, find your source within yourself.
And that's why that journey is normally you must be the source of your own happiness and let go of the belief, the attachment that everyone else become the teat.
So it's kind of a metaphor there, it's kind of a funny metaphor. But nonetheless, that's what a lot of times people pleasers and nice guys manipulation, man-nipple-asian they want the nipple in everything and they're looking for the source outside of themselves.
So the attachment is the belief, the attachment is the awareness. And a lot of times the attachment is a distraction from feeling your own emotions.
So the key to this is to actually, and this is something I've been doing recently when it comes to looking at any attachment I have and honestly feeling the patterns in my body that come from childhood and allowing myself to feel it, to heal it.
Because as you bring awareness into presence, that allows the energy to leave your body from the childhood dynamics.
Because here's an interesting thing, and this is the second one that I wanna share with you when it comes to the tip to letting go.
It's understanding that there really is no outside, there really even when you look at the triggers in your life, your friend not calling you back, somebody else saying something to you that ticks you off, somebody else showing up late.
Whatever the trigger is in your life, you think that it has to do with them. You might think there's a story there. People always do this to me, people are always late. Whatever the story is, the story is a reflection of an energy signature of an energy.
And the key is realizing that that energy, the story is not true. And the story, whatever the trigger is, that's a messenger.
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@UniversalManifest
Жыл бұрын
aaron doughty i doing school cumalmitng asignment about vaction there can you tell me about sedona
@danmahalo
Жыл бұрын
When you said: ' are you the nipple? ' made me crack up laughing. but yeah: great video.
@gonzo2335
Жыл бұрын
@@alldayalchemy-jenm. I believe so... 🤔
@graceren
Жыл бұрын
@@UniversalManifest 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊s❤
@somethingnice9800
Жыл бұрын
It's LANGUAGE not LENGUAGE.
I was homeless in Mexico couch surfing since coming back and after being clear on what I wanted, I let go of the stress and manifested the perfect house with everything I wanted for cheaper than I wanted 🤯🤯🤯🤯
@DTRMtunes
Жыл бұрын
🙏
@ligerllama
Жыл бұрын
Nifty
@sll110
11 ай бұрын
wow
@thecurlorista
11 ай бұрын
Congratulations! Getting a home after being displaced is such a big blessing! I've been in my place for a year and a half & am still overcome with gratitude for it all the time! So happy for you! 😁👏🏽💓
My challenge with letting go is accepting that they will also let me go. I’m hating the experience and the process but the outcome will be worth it. Healing is always worth it.
@plantmama7442
Жыл бұрын
You deserve to have someone in your life who wants you in their life as much as you want them in yours:). Let them go… once the pain is processed you can make space for even greater energy ✨
@plantmama7442
Жыл бұрын
Also in my experience once I completely let them go and accepted never seeing them again… they came back! But by then you’re so happy & have moved on you don’t even care 😂😂 Life’s a trip.
@86Kera
Жыл бұрын
@@plantmama7442 lol that has happened before but thanks for the kind words 😂 and I’m a plant Mama too 😄
@grays13371
11 ай бұрын
be like whore , think money, have 50 partners a day who cares ? 😂
@michelle14548
10 ай бұрын
Male nipple lastion 😂 I'm sure that's what I heard
Make a list of wrongs what this person did to u, read it in the morning, during the day, before bed. Everyday. Every day. Every day. Don’t drown in illusions, help yourself… I cried one month everyday, now feel better. Ex is not your entire life, it’s just some part of it. Hugs for everyone! Pain will pass, I promise. Help yourself, support yourself, cry as much as it feels. Respect yourself ❤
@xdvriuss
7 ай бұрын
Thank you for this ❤️
I figured out last week that Ive been avoiding sadness and grief for 35 years
Just watched this video 3 days ago,I realised I was doing something wrong, I was letting go so that they come to me- Manipulation and I used to get overwhelmed when they don't act the way I thought it. This video along with your other videos have been a big help,I set out to be the source of my own happiness and its going so verrrry well ,now I don't care wether he comes back or not ,am enough ,I can be a source of my own happiness 😊
@terrijones1167
6 ай бұрын
I otally get where you are coming from....yes....letting go as a form of manipulating outcomes❤❤
You have NO IDEA how many people you are helping with this information!!! I’m going through codependency attachments. Going through divorce and it’s like I have lost my identity without him. I was super strong and independent before him, I cannot recognise myself after him. I need him to be happy all the time. Now he’s gone I feel like he’s taken my happiness with him 😢
@NinaDewone
2 ай бұрын
Noooo!!!! Your happiness is up to you! You have to find it Deep within your innermost being. Its too many GOOD MEN IN THIS BIG WORLD....DON'T LET JUST THAT ONE HAVE THAT KINDA POWER OVER YOU....THE DEVIL IS LIER!!! YOU ARE A QUEEN! GOD CREATED YOU TO BE JUST THAT. NOW STRAIGHTEN UP YOUR CROWN BE HAPPY QUEEN!! READ SCRIPTURES, PRAY, PRAISE AND TRUST THAT GOD CAN AND SAY....GOD WILL GIVE ME BACK MY HAPPINESS WITHOUT HIM. BELIEVE IT AND CONTINUE TO SPEAK IT!!! YOU ARE STRONGER THAN YOU THINK!!! Praying for you.
So basically, I've been afraid of loosing someone and being attached to that fear of abandonment has kept me from letting go..when In reality, the person and situation is already gone. And obviously, I survived and didn't need it anyway. So knowing now that there's nothing to fear because it's already happened, means I can choose to accept it and let it go. Why fear a storm that's already passed over!! Thanks, I've binged your letting go videos several times over the last few years..and the sad part is, it's always because of the same avoidant person......
Please God help me to always remember these 4 things when it comes to my friendship with him... 1) This is about HIM. HIS BEAHVIOR. This does not reflect in any way, whatsoever, on my own worth. 2) My self esteem needs boosting and healing; this is why the loss of him, leaves me so despaired. 3) I'm in the driver's seat. It's not just up to him to dictate how this is going to go! 4) I need to be with myself, invested in my self, present with me.
Emotional attachment is what I am attached too I’m working on finding my own emotional fulfilment .. ❤
I wonder if you could make a video about that kind of attachment where you are attached NOT to what you want, but to what you don't want: negative relationships, negative outcomes, negative self-concepts, etc. You usually talk about letting go of our desire for things we want (health, money, love), but a lot of us neurotic people pleasers are actually attached to outcomes and situations we don't want. How do we let go of these attachments? I'd appreciate your insights about this very much. I love your energy and insights! Thank you!!
16:46 (Tip 5# Feel the Trigger) "...Until you feel it, you will continue to attract it. All the outer reality is, is a reflection of the inner emotional state..." Thankyou Aaron, so powerful, life changing 🙏🙏
@joev7014
Жыл бұрын
I don’t get it
@jessicalong6011
5 ай бұрын
I believe he is saying that until you recognize the unhealthy feelings, traumas, experiences, or emotions that you have inside, why they are there, and actually feel them (shed light on them); you will not be able to heal them. A lot of times they are there and you do not know it and it comes on in many ways. When you become aware of why you are doing, feeling, believing, thinking, and living the way that you do because of bad past experiences, you will show up for yourself and become different by healing those places and others will be able to see this change on the outside. You do it so that you can live a better more peaceful loving life and give that to others rather than the bad that you had inside. It’s like, you feel sick. The doctor tells you that you have a disease but does not tell you what it is. How will you heal it if you don’t know what it is? They will have ask questions, run analysis, dive deep, discover when the symptoms occurred and where the disease ( came from) etc. in order to correctly provide a solution or cure. Idk… That’s what I think…
@karmasutra4774
Ай бұрын
We need all the tips outlined like this
Found your channel only a week ago, after watching countless “breakup” channels (bc I was dumped) your way of thinking changed everything for me. Especially the analogy of her being just a cameo in my life, not the other way around.
Its so hard to let go. I dont deserve to be abandoned.
This is another way of saying allowing change, sometimes we are in circumstances thats not healthy but still in fear of change. Started to allow feelings be my guidance system and accept all spectrum of feelings.
This channel is so high value. Thank you for breaking this information down 🙏🏻
@shjh798
Жыл бұрын
He's one of the best on here :) Helped me so much...
@ollieewin4757
Жыл бұрын
Yeah letting go is pretty insane, feels like dying while I simultaneously start feeling more and more like myself, the more I do that the more cool things start to happen and The more I enjoy life too, also I’ve got a bunch of comedy skits on my channel about this sort of thing that you might like too! 😈🎉💪👍🔥🕺🏻🏋️♂️💥☯️
The day you decide finally to let her go, the tears will roll down your face and with it the pain. You need to let her go. It took me 90 days after breakup to make the heavy decision of letting her go.
7 is when I lost my mom.. im 42 now going thru all the healing from my whole life.. I treated myself so horribly..things I've went thru, put myself thru, allowed myself to go thru I can write books.. I now see it all.. had a SA 7 weeks ago and been working on my heart, grief, guilt, pain ,all of it.. im doing meditations and letting myself feel all those pains.. crying like a baby and purging.. and I'm already feeling so much better.. honoponopono has been a game changer.. also doing guided meditations and all the visions (also seen my mom, was insane!) And yoga ... my life's changing for thr better soon quick!!. ❤
@biatae2713
4 ай бұрын
What you’ve written is so powerful. I hope you’re doing well now that it’s been a couple of months since your comment. Praying for healing and blessings to you.
@karmasutra4774
Ай бұрын
I just learned about that practice recently and have been trying the guided meditations
People don’t do things because they don’t want to.. the sooner I learned to accept that the less disappointed I got
I love how he explains it because I crack up 😂 through my pain. It’s so true
finding this channel has begun to change my life. i moved to Seattle a month ago after years of feeling like i was stuck. shortly after moving i realized that no matter where i went, there i was. Sure i was better because of the change in environment but somewhere in my mind i had an unrealistic expectation that if i moved to the place i wanted to live in i would automatically align to the person i always wanted to be. And thats just not how it works, i quickly realized i was still the exact same person, and although i took one huge leap there is so much work to be done. i am excited and terrified at the same time but there is nothing scarier than staying the same as the person you don’t like being. i don’t want the past to continue interfering with my life. (another scary part is that i recognize all the people i attract are the exact same people/type of people) to anybody that is feeling stuck i want you to know that you are one choice away from changing everything, believe me. take care! and thank you aaron for helping us out, this video was a necessary 10 out of 10
@santabala6314
5 ай бұрын
Same, i attracts the same people event they looks physically too, how can i change that pattern, i don’t want to be hurt again and again!
I needed this today, thanks brother ✊
You always have the right words. Thank you for sharing this 💜
Thank you Aaron. Love your work x
I really needed this, thank u aaron❤
This was so powerful and spot on! Thank you. I realized I kept attracting the same experiences to relieve the trauma cause there was painful memories unsolved and not processed pain. 💯❤️🔥✨
This is a great addition to my therapy sessions 😂 Thank you Aaron!
This popped up at such a good time, thank you Aaron 🙏 ❤
Thank you Aaron for this video!
So grateful for this video ❤❤❤❤
Been watching you since last week. Thank you for helping us ♥
This is my favorite video by you. You’ve helped me a lot. Thank you
Thank you Aaron for your profound message ❤️
Wow this video was exactly what I needed for a long time,Thank you ❤
Man, thank you do much. You're helping so much ❤
Aaron being the best and getting me through all 2022! Thanks for your pearls of wisdom.
wow..especially the insights at the end
This is kind of genius ❤ wishing you the best ❤
impressive, like always!
Well said! Agree with everything!
Thank you so much Aaron.
This is so based. Thank you🙏
You got me Aaron. Signed up for another 21 day challenge. Ready to move some of this stuff out
Woop Aaron in da house! Super smart video dude, thank you.
This was ur best video so far. Great reminders in here that r elemental
You are changing my life. Thanks deeply! I haven’t found another who’s words resonate and teach me as much as yours.
Love this❤️
Amazing Video!!!
This was the most helpful viewpoint,
This video helped me immensely, and I can't thank you enough.
Such wise advice from a young man. Always spot on 🤓
Thank you Aaron💛💛💛🙏
THANK YOU SO MUCH! Your authenticity is so inspiring. The vibes you give off are total guru. You have really got to be vibing at a frequency to bring this video into your awareness. Anyways, I think a lot and I'm getting closer to letting that idea go. Your video is awesome. :)
this is one of your best videos ....
u just hit the nail right on the hammer brother thank u
Feeling the emotion behind the story, that was the key for me
Love the Trampoline in the back
Just incredible amazing , thanks Aaron
Cried and laughed during this video. So powerful and relevant, thank you
Thank you aaron ❤
This is so helpful! Thank you so very much ❤
This video is absolutely amazing and will help me beyond belief! Can’t wait to do the meditation!! Thank you so much 🙏♥️
Aaron, thank you! You're helping me so much, I wish you the best❤
Already sent it to a friend. Thank you🙏❤️ didnt know how to say she is manipulated. Many thanks 👍
Some really extraordinary nuggets of wisdom here today. Thank you 🙏🏻
Awesome Video, Aaron!
Good video Aaron.
This has been so helpful. I understand what I'm experiencing so much better now. THANK YOU!
I like how you break it all down 🤯
Wowow!!!!!! Life changer
Smart conversation!!😮
Thankyou for putting this in perspective. This video came to me at the right time.
I have that same driving dream at times when I'm not in control of my life. Actually had one last week after not having it for over a year
Great metaphor for manipulation, I’ve never heard that one before. “Feel it to heal it”, another great one. This video is full of gems 💎 one of your best…
Thank you for the video. This has helped me.
Thanks Aaron ❤
Feel it to heal it
This video spoke tobme more than most others. I realize there are a lot of things from when i was a kid that im still allowing to affect my beliefs.
A thank you Aaron. I have a lot of past trauma with the way my parents have treated me and I have been running away from it my whole life.
Thank you for saving my life brother
Thank you so much 💓
I always come back to this video when I need it in my life. Thank you Aaron.
This video doesnt have as many views as it should. Its likely the most practical video Ive seen from you Aaron.
You dont know how much you have helped me... When ever i feel the fear i come and listen to your videos.. And then i can breath again. Thank you..
Amazing wisdom
Wow Thank you ❤❤
Thank you I mentally new this But you just helped me to push Forward everything you said I am feeling Thank you again mate For the clarity
Your videos are life changing ❤ thank you for being a source of knowledge and positivity 🎉 I admire your work and passion 🙏🏻 god bless you always
Thank you Aaron
Thank you! ✨💕✨
Awesome!!!My favourite❤soooo helpful for empaths!Thank you!!!!!❤❤❤
This came out just in time
Aaron I truly follow you, you’re genuinely a great mentor Can you please make a video on dreams? Some times the stories doesn’t make sense to real life and nothing related to past traumas. It would be great to Learn something about it
Thanks !! You're so right
@ireland278
8 ай бұрын
This is great felling 😊👍
Very deep on this one I'm gonna listen to this twice. People pleaser to .anger....to loss... to grief...to heart break 💔
I can't tell you how much you have helped me with my growth over the past few years! I have shared your podcasts with multiple people over the past 3 years. You are on the RIGHT path! Keep going!!
So nice vid,...ll view this soon
Thanks for this video Aaron, your videos have helped me a lot through a really turbulent time in my life.
@ollieewin4757
Жыл бұрын
Yeah letting go is pretty insane, feels like dying while I simultaneously start feeling more and more like myself, the more I do that the more cool things start to happen and The more I enjoy life too, also I’ve got a bunch of comedy skits on my channel about this sort of thing that you might like too! 😈🎉💪👍🔥🕺🏻🏋️♂️💥☯️
you are awesome i love your videos it helps a lot🙌
Thank you, Aaron. You're one of the best. You explain things in a simple, clear and understandable way. ❤