the only point that i do disagree with is that the past is your business because all of us have certain boundaries. I might be immature but I never want to be with a cheater because I believe they will cheat again and its a character flaw that some people will always have. idk its probably just my pain but i cant trust cheaters. Also after being in an abusive relationship I never want to be in a relationship with a man who has acted abusively towards women in his past. And so it is my business to know how badly someone I'm dating has hurt others in the past

@WinyMary

4 жыл бұрын

I agree 100%, I have been with a cheater and that is my deal breaker too!!

@sabrinac8453

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah his past shows his personality and who he is.

@MichaelJordann23

4 жыл бұрын

Justin changed now and admitted his mistakes and apologized. He stopped having sexx with models because hes committed to Hailey for the rest of his life

@inxine

4 жыл бұрын

agreed. she must be head over heels in love with him to look past it. i do believe people can change, but st their core, people stay the same. they shouldnt bave married. sinply because hes got major mental health issues and needs to figure out his life first.

@brilynn930

4 жыл бұрын

This isn’t about J&H, just my personal experience. After my first serious boyfriend cheated on me, I cheated on him to get “revenge” 🙄 spoiler alert, didn’t work. My fiancé has also cheated in a previous relationship. My point is, people can change. I’ve changed, never cheated since, & same with my man. Some people live & learn. Some don’t 🤷🏼‍♀️ You can’t judge someone for the rest of their life from a mistake in a past relationship.

I don't agree that men learn how to be a good lover from multiple hook ups with different people. It's long term relationship that allows to know your partner and learn how to please her/him.

short answer: don't accept it. move on to someone that has a history of treating women with respect. history repeats itself.

Okay so here's the story of [my ex bf's trashy past]: As we started getting serious he confessed to me that he had been a shitty boyfriend to a lot of his exs before me (for example, he ghosted one of them on her 16th birthday leaving her embarrassed in front of her family and hundreds of guests at the venue because they were supposed to perform some kind of dance together). The reason he was telling me this was because he began feeling guilty and felt the need to personally apologize to each girl before moving on as a better person..for himself and for me. Okay cool. So he's super transparent and even let me read the messages he sent them (by the way I was surprised at the amount of girls...it was like 13 exs or something and we were only 19 years old at the time). It was a red flag that he treated so many girls poorly, however I respected the fact that he was acknowledging the issue and taking responsibility for it. So long story short, his attempt at a nice-guy redemption was short lived because he ended up cheating on me anyway :) This was a long time ago, but I still laugh at the fact that he went through this whole song & dance yet didn't actually change at all lmaoo #andyoudidthisforwhat #whatwasthereason

@WhatEver-mv6qi

4 жыл бұрын

Once a cheater, always a cheater. Hence why I disagree with this video.

@rosie1239

4 жыл бұрын

What the fuck !!! This guy must get karma

@audreyc1091

4 жыл бұрын

Im so sorry you had to go through all of that omg, but honestly this looks like a guy with some serious subconscious issues with women and females AS A WHOLE, hope youre doing better :)

@schnioula

4 жыл бұрын

The hashtags tho 😂

@picturelife1631

4 жыл бұрын

what a dick

Just because you date someone who has slept around incessantly, it doesn't mean he is any good in bed. Some are only out to please themselves, and it shows in their performance.

You do know that men actually prefer a girl with fewer sexual partners. Likewise for me I don't want a man who has been around Sorry.

Kinda irrelevant I remember someone said to me that if a person sleep around with alot of person, they learn to disassociate themselves with their feelings. So when they found "the one" they are not able to connect truly with this person due to all the souls they have came into contact with. Maybe this is the case with Justin, or maybe the person who told me that wasn't making any sense 😅

@JaZmine147

4 жыл бұрын

I was working as an escort(+) for 3-4 years mainly during my bachelor's degree time and I can agree up until a point with the person who shared this with you. Every time I went on dates and connected with the person it was like I was giving him/her a piece of my heart /soul. At the end I was emotionally drained although the overall experience brought me over 150k into my bank account and although I only had positive experiences since this profession is legal in my country and I was with an agency. It took me well over 7-8 years to be able to 'get my shit' together and be able to connect with people again. Maybe my personality and heart was never meant for this kind of job I don't know. But I really felt what you wrote in your comment deep. (To whoever reads this and disagrees with my decision to work in this field during my early 20ies: Keep your opinions to yourselves. I'm sharing something here and being vulnerable. No one needs your judgment. Thank you.)

@audreyc1091

4 жыл бұрын

@@JaZmine147 What kind of work did you do in order to get back to yourself to be able to connect with people again? asking for a friend lol

@marsalexandria5707

4 жыл бұрын

I was just gunna say 7 in a day- that’s a lot of soul ties

@itsmeharperjacksons6633

4 жыл бұрын

@@JaZmine147 thank you for sharing this 🤗

@solo-de5kx

4 жыл бұрын

so true actually i have experienced that. The guy i felt the most in love with didn't feel he deserved me because he was "dirty", he had sex with so many women and probably not in the most respectful situations and then when i showed up well there was too much of a contrast.

7 girls n 24 hrs???OMG was he training for a marathon or something?? WTF?? Who even has that much energy?

@shallonlester

4 жыл бұрын

Hahah I know!! It was a full 24 hour period, that's how he tried to justify it, and some were 2 at a time 😂😂😂I was like "Who can SHOWER that much!" Imagine taking 7 showers in one day.

@cjkush5384

4 жыл бұрын

I’ve done 9 in like 5hours. #sexclubsrock

@amarjotsingh8455

4 жыл бұрын

Shallon Lester you think men actually shower that much 😂😂😂

@maheenm.k1015

4 жыл бұрын

He’s a guy, you think he’s gonna shower for random hookups, that are gonna sleep with him anyways

@s.mclovin800

4 жыл бұрын

@@cjkush5384 not cute

Guys with a past actually never change, especially if they're hot. If they do marry, they'll likely cheat

@olivialeigh5359

4 жыл бұрын

They either cheat or stay forever bachelors until they wake up one day in their mid-50s and freak out.

Shallon I watch all your videos and I love it. But I don't know why when it comes to Hailey you can't think straight. How do you believe that a man who breaks up with his girlfriend and asks for another engagement in a matter of two months is crazy in love with her? everyone knows that he proposed to Selena and she didn't accept it because she wanted him to prove that he changed. She has every right to write her album about that relationship. the one who got in the middle was hailey. When it comes to both, you lose all sense and contradict yourself.

@dajanalulaj6458

4 жыл бұрын

Juliana Carwile hailey seems really composed and classy. Idk i like her

@topnotchabantou6699

4 жыл бұрын

Do you have proof that he proposed to her in 2018? He proposed back in 2014 when he was a teenager. He and selena never had a healthy relationship after their 3013 break up. That relationship was dead long ago. Stop defending bs

@redss111

4 жыл бұрын

Agreed.

@c3po978

4 жыл бұрын

Honestly what is important is the advice, not what happened between celebrities or who Shallon ships

@MichaelJordann23

4 жыл бұрын

Justin said in 2016 hailey was the women he wanted to marry that's why he married Hailey in 2 months because he didn't wanna lose her again. He never proposed to Selena in 2018 because even when he was with Selena he was still talking to Hailey and that's why Selena got mad. If Justin really wanted to stay with selena they would of still been together because Selena loved him but Justin didn't take their relationship serious

If he doesn't have compassion, sympathy for his partners, he's not going to be good at sex.

@esha9216

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly! Just because somebody has had a lot of sex, doesn't mean they will be good at it. A lot of fuck boys don't have compassion and understanding.

I’ve never related to anything more in my life than Justin saying he wished he saved himself for marriage. I was always told I had to growing up, so when I went to college I slept with tons of people. But now I feel like shit and wish I hadn’t slept with most of the people I’ve slept with. If I was taught growing up that sex isn’t some demonic, sinful thing, I probably wouldn’t have overdone it. I feel used up now, wish I had saved myself for marriage

@___Emily__

4 жыл бұрын

You said you were raised to believe sex is sinful and wrong outside of marriage, so I wonder if you feel “used up” for similar reasons. I know it’s hard to work through a strict upbringing, but I truly hope those ghosts of inhibition aren’t haunting you yet again. So long as you have love left to give someone else (and, most importantly, to yourself), you will discover you have the infinite capacity for intimacy, peaceful relationships, and sexual fulfillment. I hope you are able to leave the past in the past, and enjoy this next chapter of your life. I wish you well. 💙

@Nina_banana

4 жыл бұрын

It’s not the same for men and women because if a guy sleeps with many girls, it’s a status symbol. If a woman does the same thing there are no positive connotations about it at all.

@ironsnowflake1076

4 жыл бұрын

You're a complicated & beautiful human being.....tubes of toothpaste get "used up" not people...let go of that dogma & know that you are worthy 💓

@thettproject4534

4 жыл бұрын

Don’t worry about it, at the end of the day it couldn’t matter less! What matters is who you are as a person. Also, if you didn’t hurt anyone in doing that, just write it off as mistakes of the past and don’t let it matter for your present ❤️

@grazielaalmeida8438

4 жыл бұрын

Your parents teach you this?

Completely disagree you do not need to have a lot of casual sex to have a natural ability in bed.

Carrie Bradshaw and Mr. Big. Sex and the City has conditioned this behavior in two generations (1990’s and 2000’s). River Dale shows this behavior. The shows themes make it acceptable for women of our current generation to tolerate this behavior.

@sabrinac8453

4 жыл бұрын

Riverdale? Which characters r u talking about?

I think this is not really about sex or past relationships, but values. Knowing his past, you try to understand his values and believes, and most of all his future behavior. The hardest part is dividing mistakes from attitudes. Hurting someone could be a mistake, everyone did it at least once and can learn from that. But ghosting, cheating, going with prostitutes are bad attitudes and extremely red flags of his future behaviour. Respecting women should be the fist thing we should look for in a man. Always.

I've spent a lot of time in the 'manosphere' reading mens theories on what women want, and one I consistently come across is the idea that women want a man who has had many partners as it shows that he's attractive to other females. I always found that curious. I am totally grossed out by men who have many partners. And I don't care if men are grossed out by a woman with many sexual partners. I don't have to accept someones past. If I'm choosing a partner I won't close my eyes to the red flags.

@pandora9814

4 жыл бұрын

same here... i'm waiting for marriage and no matter how attracted I am to a guy, if I find out he's been around, i lose interest instantaneously

Your message is that if you are dating someone with a past, you basically have to accept it because you can't change it, and in fact you can benefit from it in the sense that they're likely to be more loyal because they are less curious about "what they're missing" or have picked up some skills along the way. I do think there's something to be said about your partner valuing you and not being curious about others, but I don't think this requires an advanced sexual history. Also, having a "skilled" partner is not necessarily a total benefit... For instance, some people find it intimate to learn those skills together. I think that you are trying to help others see the positive in this situation, but it also lacks the nuance your videos usually have. Sexual intimacy, history, and trust and respect between partners can be very complicated.

@WhatEver-mv6qi

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you. I thought I was the only crazy person who cant understand Hailey. Or Selena. Or anyone accepting a literal "sl*t" and living with it. Isnt it intimidating that you are inexperienced while they arent and you look like a fool and are insecure? Idk, I have a totally different view on sex and love compared to 99% of the human race anyway, and I am sexually and romantically different than most if not all almost all humans.

My husband saved himself for me, but I did not for him. My past outweighs his, so I'm interested in this next video! He never holds it against me at all, but when the thought crosses my mind I feel dirty for some reason. But without those previous relationships, who's to say that I would be with my current amazing husband? Really, God bless the broken road!! 🙏

@rahafbash2652

4 жыл бұрын

Yesss and should you tell a guy about your past sexual endeavors especially when he hadn’t had that many

Shallon, could you do another vid about Timothee? Is he just awkward or addicted to grilled cheese sandwiches? Hehehe

@cgygflkj

4 жыл бұрын

Addicted to Jesus 😂

@zellar8054

4 жыл бұрын

Yeees I want the tea on timothee

@inarijm

4 жыл бұрын

YESS

@EmilyHeartsYa

4 жыл бұрын

I’ve heard some tea (but not really tea) from people who have met & worked with him, and they all say he’s very professional & lovely, although a bit socially awkward, and isn’t too much of a partier (so not addicted to grilled cheese sandwiches, but may eat a few from time to time)

@sabrinac8453

4 жыл бұрын

I really like him but there's just something about him...

You should do a video about coming back harder and better after haters spread a smear campaign about you... your killing it girl! Loving the vids

Comparing sex to playing the guitar is a dangerous and misleading analogy. You have a young audience, think twice about what you feed them, it's not a light responsibility.

@shallonlester

4 жыл бұрын

93% of my audience is 18-34. I think they can handle the concept of "It's ok to have sex and you don't need to judge a man for it."

Shallon's videos are so addictive. She definitely knows what she's doing. Her delivery is incredible too. Love you Shallon!

@rocace6635

4 жыл бұрын

No ones videos are as addictive, it’s sad I’ve watched them all, I wish I hadn’t so I could watch them for the first time again! She’s the only person I can watch no matter what scenario, i can put her on as like a podcast when im washing up, but also I watch before bed and to calm down. Her content is so binge-able!

@Emily-dt2xy

4 жыл бұрын

Still trying to find another KZreadr who matches up to Shallon’s awesomeness. I’m still waiting.

I actually disagree with when she keeps saying you're better at sex the more you do it. Because everyone likes something different and every time you get into a new relationship you have to learn what they like. And staying with the chef analogy its like if you have severed the same dish to so many people and they all seemed to like it but then one person doesn't, it doesn't make you a bad chef but to be a "good chef" you have to learn what that other person likes. And it could be completely different from everyone else. So is there really a such thing as "good at sex" ? or just good with the person your'e with at the moment. So personally I like being with guys that don't know as much because they're more open to learning what I want.

Hey Shallon, can you make a video on Mary-Kate's recent divorce?

@mepulley7913

4 жыл бұрын

I would really like to hear her take on them.

I never really liked Hailey Baldwin but found her comments on this SO thoughtful and grounded and made me love her.

@shallonlester

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, she always comes across as very thoughtful and mature to me! Like she really thinks a lot about relationships, her place in this world and where she wants to go and who she wants to be. I like it ❤️

@muirgirl

4 жыл бұрын

@@shallonlester I hope she finds a way to speak up and out more- its a rare skill to demonstrate such grace and graciousness when you're a part of the Hollywood scene. The world could use her voice.

@laureenambani8739

4 жыл бұрын

The jelena fans kept dragging her because she is with Justin beiber, as if shes the only one that dated him , Kourtney kardashian also dated Justin beiber but she didnt get this type of hate yet shes old enough to be his mom.Jelena was another Britney and timberlake disaster. She was too toxic for him . She stood by him thats why she got the ring,

Megan fox divorce breakdown

@sabrinac8453

4 жыл бұрын

I really want her to do this. She said she's gonna do a video about Megan. But I want it NOW.

@karinaz.9182

4 жыл бұрын

Oh that would be interesting!

@olivialeigh5359

4 жыл бұрын

@Isabella Sophia It’s over though. Brian made the announcement on his podcast. He said he’s nervous about adjusting to life without her after being together for so long.

@olivialeigh5359

4 жыл бұрын

It’s obvious, the age gap strikes again. She did the marriage and babies thing quite young. In Hollywood, that’s a rare thing to stick to for as long as she did (especially with her looks). But now she’s in her mid-30s and wants to explore with the remaining youth she has left. She clearly grew bored of him. He’s a stay at home Dad type now doing small jobs here and there while she’s out of the country working on set.

You seem to make people who want to wait till marriage seem crazy. Some people want to have someone with a clean slate so that they can learn and grow together. I know a lot of people like that and I don’t think that makes them crazy. Everyone is different.

@kaleyjoplinRAWRR

4 жыл бұрын

Well said!

I'm so happy you bounced back after that weird drama and never let it affect your video quality! You're a queen forever and ever

@mayraaguilar1238

4 жыл бұрын

Amen! I love shallon!

@kendall6049

4 жыл бұрын

She didn’t clap back and look, a few weeks later nobody’s talking about it anymore! Just proves drama channels talk about whatever’s trending without actually caring if they’re speaking accurate information, or right or wrong

Hey shallon! Could you please do a video on working on ourselves over quarantine and getting rid of bad habits, like procrastination and self sabotage. I always say I’ll never procrastinate and leave a huge assignment to be last minute again, and yet I always do and I keep doing it. How do I retrain myself and fix my self sabotaging during this quarantine? Thank you, and I love your videos!

@kaleyjoplinRAWRR

4 жыл бұрын

Seriously story of my life! I got a paper due tomorrow and yet here I am lol

hey shallon, could u do a video about changing your look or your vibe in the summer. like i want to get a drastic hair cut and get a new vibe, could u do a video about how to be confident in that decision? or yk something like that. i love you so much :)

@phoebekate1468

4 жыл бұрын

Your profile picture is great 😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹

Is Shallon back home??? Isn't that the picture from her living room?? Did I miss a video??

@loonawrld

4 жыл бұрын

might be a pre-recorded video

@breannandcaleb

4 жыл бұрын

Pretty sure she’s back home, it can’t be prerecorded because she just asked about this topic yesterday on insta, based off a recent Justin and Hailey live from insta

@SuperMarkizas

4 жыл бұрын

She ran out of caftans ;)

@TMercan31

4 жыл бұрын

@@SuperMarkizas Haha 😂 😂 I think she just said she still had a whole bunch of caftans we hadn't seen lol 👘👘👘👘

@SuperMarkizas

4 жыл бұрын

@@TMercan31 obviously they were in a closet in NY :D

My boyfriend has a past. He was 28 when we met so of course he had a past. I was 23 and still a virgin, but I think it's none of my business what he did before he met me, except if he got an STD haha. Other than that I don't really care. He's wonderful to me. We just celebrated our 3 year anniversary in March. I can't really complain about anything. He got everything he wanted to do out of his system and now doesn't miss anything about his life before me. I'm his first long term serious relationship and he's mine. This quarantine only brought us closer together. Also, we just got the sweetest little puppy 2 weeks ago and we've been obsessed with her ! We named her Cora ❤️

@nazarisreyes6037

4 жыл бұрын

That so sweet ❤️❤️

@thettproject4534

4 жыл бұрын

So happy for you even tho I don’t know you, nice to hear a happy love story and a person who sees others for who they are not through their mistakes or past actions 👏🏻❤️

@annareedbeauty

4 жыл бұрын

@@thettproject4534 Thank you so much ! ❤️

I think Hailey and Justin might become a victim of what I call the Elizabeth Taylor situation. Because Taylor has described her two marriages to Richard Burton as "loving each other too much" and "trying to fix the other person", which of course didnt work out and subsequently ended in two divorces.

I never miss a video. I love how you encourage people to be forgiving of other's past as well as their own. People should never be shamed on their past if they have learned and grown from it.

You always say that, with sex for example, you have to practice...how about bad practice? Quantity is not equal to quality. If a man have an history of bad behaviors, and learned through years how to act badly or not good enough, his past is gonna confirm how bad he is now. Lot of people don't have a clue how bad they're, also lot of them like to be bad because they're resentful or arrogant. Not everyone is using 'practice time' to better themselves...like in music, like in cooking, not everyone want to learn and evolve.

Here early! Shallon where can I watch downtown girls?

You should do a video on how to make friends after college! Since it’s graduation time

@shallonlester

4 жыл бұрын

Yes! I'm going to be moving and (hopefully 😳) making friends so I'm going to do a series on it!

@danianaa976

4 жыл бұрын

Shallon Lester can't wait for this! 💕 I recently moved from Manhattan to San Francisco for work and the people here are so much different. I have been finding it hard to adjust and meet new friends.

You are obssessed with Harley and Justin.

@infairvarona

4 жыл бұрын

Who's Harley lol

I'm going to guess... are you moving to the countryside? Excited to see where you go! Good luck with everything

@AamuAurora

4 жыл бұрын

Why would she go back to Californian superb later then?

@lipglossqueen21

4 жыл бұрын

I'm guessing somewhere warm like miami

Let’s be real, the only way to be okay with a man’s trashy past is to date women 😂😂

@BB-li1wv

4 жыл бұрын

what? lol

@HiliBStern

4 жыл бұрын

AMEN hahahaha

@infairvarona

4 жыл бұрын

I dont understand this?

@JenDoe1

4 жыл бұрын

Date women instead of men the OP is saying.

@infairvarona

4 жыл бұрын

@@JenDoe1 I mean, why would you have to date a woman to be okay with a man's past? This is flying over my head, sorry.

I needed this video so much. Thank you.

Shallon I got to say: your videos were a bit malicious in tone for a while, but you’ve bounced back in a great way. I resubscribed and I’m glad to see you’re doing better 🥰 the tone of your videos is way more positive now

@karinaz.9182

4 жыл бұрын

dentalfloss I never found them malicious. She was just expressing her opinion but it’s 2020 and people are super sensitive and easily offended, unfortunately.

@dentalfloss3930

4 жыл бұрын

Karina Z. Mmm I thought so too, until Shallon started saying Selena manipulated her friend into getting a kidney and saying she was lonely and going to overdose.. that didn’t add to the video and was highly speculative

@pambi8816

4 жыл бұрын

@@karinaz.9182 She spoke quite poorly about mental illness :/ about suicidal thoughts in a very insensitive way, to people who struggle with these can be really harmed by her comments and seeing an entire comment section agreeing with her statements does not help either. I don´t care that much about the whole celebrity shit, but she DID say ignorant things and there is nothing wrong with her admitting it and recognizing it was not a good thing to do, no more than that

Thanks for inspiring me to have more discipline in my life💫

Hey Shallon love your videos! you are truly my favorite youtuber and I think your messages are so important to spread! completely unrelated, but could you please make a video on lessons from sex and the city? also when to sleep with a guy at various ages!

My ex dumped me for the third and final time over text a week after he asked me to get a place with him. Prior to our relationship he slept around A LOT. His last girlfriend dumped him over text after three years. I wish I asked more questions about his past so I could have had a better idea of what I was getting into but I always felt like it was none of my business/he was very private. We haven’t spoken in two months after he told me he would always like to stay friends.

Your videos are the only thing keeping me sane ❤️ Your the friend i always needed but never had 😭

@shallonlester

4 жыл бұрын

You DO have me! We're all friends here, we're all sisters :)

To be honest, I have no idea what I just watched; nor did I learn something

🤣 your Maroon 5 example had me laughing

@sabrinac8453

4 жыл бұрын

That example😂😂😂😂

to me it's weird how everytime the camera is rolling he keeps repeating he loves her he is sooo lucky to have her, i mean when a man really feels that way he acts lie a man for his lady to make her feel she deserves a certain behavior and effort. He acts all childish and then is like i am sooo grateful. it doesn't feel like true love to me, something is off they need the outer world for this relationship to work, always filming and talking about their looooove.

Damn shallon it's like you're reading my mind. I can't wait for tomorrow's video it is much needed. 💘

Are you in nyc again? Also I have to thank you for how much your videos have helped me dealing with the current crisis

@shallonlester

4 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome! I'm so happy I'm even the tiniest bit helpful ❤️

@91clarie

4 жыл бұрын

@@shallonlester ❤❤❤ more than a tiny bit actually!🙏

“Just me... just... playin it!” Lmaoo!!

Humans are creatures of habit. If he's/she's been sleeping around for years, he's/she's probably not gonna stop doing it. 🤷🏾‍♀️ I personally don't think sl*ts/cheaters can be reformed because deep down inside they don't want to be tied down.

Shallon you really have a way with words and analogies that helps explains everything. Thank you for not giving up and always continuing to do your best. That is what counts and will lead you to success in the long run. Xoxo

This video looks brighter than her usual videos! I like it

Omg I really needed this video.....

Wait a minute Shallon, this set up and camera quality is hitting different!

Aaahhhh i'm a 30 year old virgin and Justin talking about saving himself for marriage made me feel a little validated. But mostly i am just ashamed to be a virgin at my age.

@WinyMary

4 жыл бұрын

You should not be ashamed!! // allow yourself to be okay with the idea and also I know in my heart God is going to bring you someone who loves the hell out of you and will treat you like a Queen and respect you!// Please don't feel that way, look at it like a blessing, you know damm well ain't you got no TSI!

@cerisedil8481

4 жыл бұрын

Don't be ashamed. I'm a 19 year old virgin... We don't have to justify ourselves. Remember that being a virgin doesn't make you inferior.

@cerisedil8481

4 жыл бұрын

Don't be ashamed. I'm a 19 year old virgin... We don't have to justify ourselves. Remember that being a virgin doesn't make you inferior.

@sabrinac8453

4 жыл бұрын

Girl, don't. Society pressures us to have sex in high school otherwise we're losers. Getting laid is not an accomplishment, focus on who you are, who you want to be and your success and happiness. You should have sex when YOU're ready and YOU want to.

@stiorra2023

4 жыл бұрын

Giving yourself to someone who doesn't value you and who you are should not be allowed to touch you. You're doing fine.

I believe shanon but comparing sexual experiences to mastering a guitar is a bit too much .😂 They’re completely different things. As we’re talking about being “okay “ with your partners past ,we should also be educated with repercussions like “HIV aids” for having a “well experienced sexual partner/guitar player”😝

@emilya9606

4 жыл бұрын

Shubhi M nah knowing how to be in sync with your partner and navigating the female body is a true talent

That's the brutal truth! I've been processing a discovery about bae-to-be and have been on an emotional roller coaster last weekend.. hearing this calmed me down. Spot on, Shallon!

I never got comfortable with his past and thought that he would do the same to me as what he did to the other girls which is exactly what happened. Your hair is on point, as always!

YAY QUEEN POSTED. I literally just thought I NEED SHALLON TO POST RIGHT NOW!! Also can we please get a video on Megan Fox(i know you said we'll get one) and Brian Austin Green, since he confirmed the breakup?? This couple always seemed a bit off to me. AND she's hanging out with MGK??

@PureSparkles22

4 жыл бұрын

IKR!!

@99bambieyes

4 жыл бұрын

I served Megan and Brian once years ago around 2013/2014 at Max Brenner in New York. she seemed very flirty and he was very serious and on his phone. idk. he's older and it was obvious he was much more mature but I got the vibe that she was more into him than her. but once again idk them and that was only one instance. I'm surprised they lasted this long cause the vibe on their date was not it (BTW she's actually stunning in person like geez)

early!!!!!! i'm 17 and you give amazing advice shallon avoid the drama you're basically like my mentor idk what i truly would do without you!!!

@lauraakers

4 жыл бұрын

I am old enough to be your mother and I so wish I had a Shallon to advise me at your age! Of course you will make mistakes (and thats alright) but she really can help you avoid so many pitfalls! Good luck!!

@haneenrazzaq1496

4 жыл бұрын

Laura Akers thank you that means a lot!!💗😩

OMG shallon! You reminded me of MY SONG....GOD BLESS THE BROKEN ROAD...reminds me of hot summers in the 90s in denim shorts and Dawson’s creek

I feel like you're moving to Texas or somewhere extremely lowkey.

@marsalexandria5707

4 жыл бұрын

Austin would be cool!

@gingerlee726

4 жыл бұрын

Paris

@lau.e.3316

4 жыл бұрын

I think of Florida !

@BB-ty6iy

4 жыл бұрын

Ugh please no. Too many Californians

This video is just what I needed 💕 My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months now. I’m 23 and was a virgin before we started dating, but he’s 25 and has about 10 years of sexual experiences. Our relationship is incredible, but his past is the one thing that bothers me. Of course I like that he is skilled but it makes me question how sexually disciplined he is now. A guy who sleeps around casually with a lot of women says to me that he cares more about the sex than the actual relationship and true intimacy. He’s also French (they are much more open about sex) so our mindsets are just very different about it.

19:51 whisper goose returns 😂

was just searching for a video from you!!! yay

1AM in Zambia, this is making my insomnia bearable.

@Sarah-km2ec

4 жыл бұрын

Same lol 3 am in israel

in line with the “i’m a whole person” conversation around the intro of the video, please do a video on the “manic pixie dream girl” trope because I literally had to break up with my bf because he wanted me to be a one dimensional, butterflies and rainbows girl all the time. I would love to hear your thoughts on this!!

@nowaymae

4 жыл бұрын

she talked about it a little more in her "cool girl" video with jennifer lawrence in the thumbnail, it was really interesting

Sometimes he needs you to know his past so you can both get past it. Ignoring his past is a bomb waiting to detonate and u have no idea why.

I support you on leaving the city, I’ve been living in Beijing and shanghai from age 18 and now I’m 32, due to different reasons I had to spend 12 month back at home in my small town, and now I appreciate the small town. It’s just different, cheaper lifestyle, clean air, less people, less commute and more simple life, better food quality too.

hey Shallon, could you do a video on summer walker? lots of people are bullying her online for her personality, not having social anxiety, and lots of rumors. as a fan of her music it’s hard to see someone you care about get so much criticism.

Beauty and the Beast. It's not about her changing him - it's about him having the propensity for evil but choosing to do good for her. I'd rather have someone who chooses to do right by me, than someone who's default setting is "good". The redeeming quality of love is that it creates a transformative safe space for us to do better and to be better, should we choose to.

@novellamaleki5510

4 жыл бұрын

TBH that seems a little narcissistic to me. Like.. "I don't WANT a genuinely good guy! I want a guy to be good for ME! I'm the special one!" I would rather be with a guy who was already good when I met him, someone who already had integrity and a good head on his shoulders. That way I don't need to "teach" him to be better, and there's no danger of him reverting back into his old ways, cause he already had his shit together before we met.

Noooo I liked the last background 😭😭😭😭 It looked so refreshing

I saw something the other day that said ghosting is so uncommon, but BENCHING is so common. My jaw was on the flooooooor. I don’t think I’ve been completely ghosted, but guys have definitely strung me along

You’re moving?! I am oddly happy to see you back in your apartment, it makes like feel like life is more “normal”. That being said, so happy for you and your new venture!

This video was a tad bit edited and idk why :( I like the awkward pauses, the spontaneous hair flips, and especially the overzealous digressions!! It just feels like we’re actually talking instead of a broadcasted television show. Sorry for the rant, just speaking imo.

@doctorajaguar

4 жыл бұрын

Maybe it got too long and Shallon just decided it got rambly.

@PS-hi9os

4 жыл бұрын

probably because before people would abuse her when she’d get carried away with her jokes and people would say she’s being too harsh or mean or unreasonable. she’s probably trying to tone it down unfortunately

Camera Quality is so clear!

Anyone upset at their partner's sexual past is being ridiculous. The only sexual past anyone should be upset about is abuse. I would not be upset if he is a virgin because that doesn't mean he will be bad in bed, he actually may be more open than a whore. Having multiple experiences/partners doesn't speak to the quality of those experiences and/or whether there have been some useful lessons.

Ur amazing. I love you so much for what you said. it’s so true! Even if we want to know we don’t have a right to, and what matters is growth and coming out the other side. 🌷🙏🏼

3 AM in Transilvania... Shallon is the reason vampires lose beauty sleep over

@elli__sa

4 жыл бұрын

But vampires sleep during day right? 😂

@dariabatrin1605

4 жыл бұрын

@@elli__sa yes but beauty sleep is something else, means going to sleep early or getting more hours of sleep than usualy.

Baby Shallon, i feel to move out too, I got bored of my city with nothing interesting to do, i want a fresh restart after this pandemic. I want to discover new places, to travel, to meet new people. Ahhh i want this soooo bad. I can't wait you to tell us more details and show us your new home. Girl, i'm excited like i am moving out :D can't wait.

@sabrinac8453

4 жыл бұрын

Do you mind me asking where you live?

Seriously so eager to find out where Shallon is moving hahah. thought maybe LA but hmm guess not

@marsalexandria5707

4 жыл бұрын

I was hoping LA, but she said she was moving and then going back to California...

@oonakoivula4937

4 жыл бұрын

mars alexandria exactlyy..

Please do a video about coming from a family with a bad reputation

I FEEL like you’re making the right move! I’m so excited for you xxx

You don’t think Justin will eventually get bored? He’s still pretty young and although she seems like a very sweet girl..very “together”..I find her a bit on the dull side while he’s been around the block a few times..seen and done so much. Sometimes I find as though he’s kinda “acting”..like trying to convince himself. I could be wrong of course. Just an observation. Love your videos!

My husband and I waited until marriage and we learned ALL about the many ways to pleasure within the safety and trust and joy of a happy marriage. I do agree however, that not many people (especially men) are that mature so young or have valued marriage and purity. But, I just want to voice my opinion on that. As a point to prove my case, I lost my husband after a terrible car crash and years later married again. The second guy was a reformed bad boy and he kept saying that I was THE BEST sex he EVER had. And although he was great in bed (no doubt from all his practice) he was no better in bed than my first husband. I felt even more safety and love in my first marriage than in the second also because the first one was from a really stable, loving home with very sturdy morals and values they lived by faithfully all around so I think he really absorbed that and brought the HIGHEST quality possible into the relationship. If hubby #2 dies, I'll choose to be alone because the dating scene looks tragic at this point and after being treated right, I'd NEVER be happy settling for the breadcrumbs people are tolerating these days.

I just want her to be safe. Glow up and glow on Queen! 👑♥️💅

This advice reminded me of a beautiful song by Maty Noyes called In my mind where she says; " I know I messed it up with every other guy I swear you're different and this time I'm gonna try We can start fresh if you'd just let go of the past, yeah I don't get it 'cause I don't judge you like that, Can't just love me in pieces, gotta love it all, You try to make me feel like being human's wrong You got a lot to say about me and my past Well I don't get it 'cause I don't judge you like that"

She’s not sitting in her usual place and I CANT HANDLE IT

I love you shallon but this video made noooo sense 🤣 "ask about his past and log data points" "who are you to judge him to log data points?" "Leave him if he is not an expert in love making" what?!?! 😂💔

There are two types of men in this world. Men who take sex seriously and give it respect and men who don't. If he has only ever had sex within the confines of a committed monogamous relationship and had no one night stands then that shows he dosen't take intimacy lightly. The latter type of man sees sex as nothing more than a physical release....entertainment or for fun.

what about if a boyfriend WONT STOP talking about his sexual past. and bringing up specifics. what’s behind that

@ThingsILikke

4 жыл бұрын

He’s a nobody that is trying really hard to look like a somebody, plain and simple. All manner of bad behavior can boil down to that one principle. He’s trying to make you jealous and insecure like him. Who wants a man like that.

Hey Shallon, good advice. But I felt like you were contradicting yourself a bit in this video. You said that somebody's past is a data point and you also said that a man's past shouldn't be any of our business. Personally, I think it is a data point and a VERY relevant one, because people don't really change a lot over a period of a few years. I've learned this from experience, because of a fuck boy I used to know who kept repeating the same patterns and Gosh it was exhausting to keep giving him chances and hoping to see if it would be different this time. But it wasn't. I'm all for giving people chances but some people actually don't change and to be honest, they don't want to. They just want to drag other women along on their self centered journey of not knowing what they want and satisfying their own needs.! So to me, the past is pretty telling of what you could be dealing with.!

Congratulation on the upcoming move!

I’m ashamed to be a virgin at 27 because that is all that guys want and I’ve had two guys try to coerce me so I’m done dating for good. There aren’t many good men out there

@shallonlester

4 жыл бұрын

Amarjot, did you get the reply to your question? I sent it 5 times and ask you to confirm that you got it.

@amarjotsingh8455

4 жыл бұрын

@@shallonlester yes i did email back to confirm it and i closed the PayPal dispute

oh wow such exciting news to hear you’re moving ! Godspeed on this new adventure of yours shallon and hope everything moves smoothly and swiftly despite the pandemic.

@shallonlester

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you angel fish!

I think the sexual experience thing really depends, you need to be with the same partner and actually care about them to get better at sex because then you can tune in and fully realise what works rather than what someone is pitting up with. If it’s pure hit and quits he’s learning nothing.

"Girl I know, but listen...." 😂😂😂😂