use me as a "grindr video YES" button

@al22j

3 жыл бұрын

any video YES i just love matt content

@leojalvarez1227

3 жыл бұрын

Yessss

@noemi4497

3 жыл бұрын

@@al22j trueee

@maelawanledantecgaussen756

3 жыл бұрын

I wanna like it but it's currently at 666 likes and I wouldn't want to change that

@noemi4497

3 жыл бұрын

@@maelawanledantecgaussen756 i think satan wants the video too o.o

My internalized biphobia/confusion abt sexuality: what if ur just straight and faking it for attention or smth? Me: what? My internalized biphobia/confusion: what if ur just gay and you have internalized homophobia and comphet? Me: cries and just avoids labeling myself

@ArKaneAcrumProductions

3 жыл бұрын

The 1st one is me sometimes ngl

@klarafinke4874

3 жыл бұрын

Yayy same here high five ✋

@ArKaneAcrumProductions

3 жыл бұрын

No the 2nd one too ew 😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹🤢

@juliette_lmn7204

3 жыл бұрын

oh noooo im exactly like that toooo ;(

@xmv99

3 жыл бұрын

i feel exactly like this, it took me a while coming to terms with being bi bc i kept telling myself that i was doing it for attention (which is so dumb bc literally no one but myself knew about it for over a year), and still to this day it can happen sometimes, for ex; i'll try to "test" myself by looking at girls and if i don't find them attractive then i question myself (as if I have to be attracted to every girl which is such a damn stupid idea but hhhH that's internalized biphobia for you) also recently i spent a few days thinking that i was actually a lesbian after reading abt comp het bc i related to it a lot and barely find men attractive as i do with women and when i tell you the fear i felt man, it brought out some internalized homophobia that i didn't know i had. i think for me sexuality is something fluid, as for now i'm comfortable with calling myself bi, but i've spent such a long time questioning myself bc of all of those things, it's kinda frustrating

“Let’s go make some coffee and talk about why we hate ourselves” MOOD

@ellw7830

3 жыл бұрын

IMMEDIATELY called out wow

@titaniacrawley3817

3 жыл бұрын

Me to my demons at 3am

@NoahVela

3 жыл бұрын

Hi everyone I wrote a song called *Bi Myself* it is about me coming out! Can you give it a listen It would mean the world to me🦄💕

@amitfihman7342

3 жыл бұрын

Mood

me: * reads title...slowly nods *

@bibiamor2489

3 жыл бұрын

Hahahahaah me tho

someone get this man on ted talks

@onlytlotlang

3 жыл бұрын

someone*

@elenaraeanne1352

3 жыл бұрын

Yesssssssss

@pinkforguys

3 жыл бұрын

ooo cute profile pic

@NoahVela

3 жыл бұрын

Hi everyone I wrote a song called *Bi Myself* it is about me coming out! Can you give it a listen It would mean the world to me🦄💕

@gabrielborjas7923

3 жыл бұрын

Please

i will be ignoring all symptoms of internalised homophobia and comp het for now ty very much 😍👍

@evie5298

3 жыл бұрын

pain

@sierralynn4021

3 жыл бұрын

M e t o o

@Dana-or8hw

3 жыл бұрын

Spain but the s is silent

@arialisestrellaartistry

3 жыл бұрын

Booooo!!!

@plantxarmybtsgrowth5776

3 жыл бұрын

Same 💛👏🏻

"I want a guy to like me...i eventually wanna get married...and have kids🙊🙊" My heart melted

@uwu8187

3 жыл бұрын

same 🥺

@karaday8336

3 жыл бұрын

KSBSJS SAME omg 🥺🥰

@louise4778

3 жыл бұрын

9:40 i think he'd make a great parent

It really does suck, as a lesbian I had this for such a long time and I finally came to accept myself which I’m so happy about🥰🥺

@haileypenny5893

3 жыл бұрын

right it's so painful to have to discover yourself and learn that you are not lesser bc of it

@thisisivytrying

3 жыл бұрын

@@haileypenny5893 Agreed on a whole other level. It’s a very painful process. And can lead to harmful circumstances.

@bibiamor2489

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so happy for you!

@ks9759

3 жыл бұрын

Growing up, my family/friends would say “ew” or make gagging noises when they saw gay couples, so now as a wlw I still struggle with feeling like a “gross predator” for having crushes on girls, even though I’ve been out for a couple years. :( It sucks.

@Catsgivemelife

3 жыл бұрын

I’m still struggling to except myself and be open about it, I still have homophobic thoughts every now and then and I hate it!

I see the same thing in lesbian and bi women not wanting to be masculine - i never got the short hair cut i wanted because i didnt want to be THAT gay girl.

@lachicaarte

3 жыл бұрын

Totally agree! I had the same struggle. But I do get the haircut. And believe me, it's been a rollercoaster. Some days I felt great and empowered but other days I just looked on the internet for hairstyles to make my haircut more feminine. Ugh... It's been rough (even more if I add the biphobia) , but let's keep fighting it, girl.

@sarawatson8756

3 жыл бұрын

as a lesbian who got the haircut i just wanna say it is so worth it

@disconnected9765

3 жыл бұрын

@@lachicaarte you don‘t have to fight your internalized homophobia you should integrate it. It‘s not a part of you that needs to be fought it‘s a part of you that needs to be loved. Remember your internalized homophobia is not intending to cause you harm. It‘s intention is to prevent you from being judged by judging you before someone else can so you act accordingly and avoid being judged. Fighting it only makes it worse. Try to understand where it‘s coming from and confront it with compassion.

@lachicaarte

3 жыл бұрын

@@disconnected9765 thank you so much! 🥺

@haveawonderfulday-17yearsa48

3 жыл бұрын

I like it when people rock their short hair

it has taken me so long to finally realize and accept the fact that i'm a lesbian because i'd always think that any feelings i had towards a guy was romantic, but then when i'd actually go a date with the guy or he'd flirt with me i'd be so grossed out and uncomfortable

@squeakymilichen3183

3 жыл бұрын

same. i would like full on convince myself that i was in love with guys, but flirting and stuff disgusted me

@clayrocksand

3 жыл бұрын

im so proud of you! i struggled with the same things, but just remember you are you and how you feel is valid

@linalaewen7396

3 жыл бұрын

Oh god same..

@fotinikoumantou184

3 жыл бұрын

S A M E

@woofbark4475

3 жыл бұрын

So you never dated a guy who didn't flirt...sad!

Starbucks guy wasn't even that flamboyant? Like what are they making fun of? Telling them to have a good day lol?

@paulp8028

3 жыл бұрын

Is being a decent human being gay???

@porcupinesoda

3 жыл бұрын

Fellas, is it gay to be good at customer service

@nurailidepaepe2783

3 жыл бұрын

his voice i think??

@emptycinema

3 жыл бұрын

Love your profile pic

Hey! I’m straight, and if you’re reading this please know that I support you and will always try my best to educate myself on how to be an ally in the best way.

@katie.beattie

3 жыл бұрын

i’m a straight too (unfortunately) but i completely support lgbtqia+ and love every single one of you, and i try my best to educate people that don’t think of everyone as equal human beings. love is love ❤️

@isabellavalencia8

3 жыл бұрын

that’s on period

@olliebriggsies

3 жыл бұрын

🥺 love that

@bibiamor2489

3 жыл бұрын

Love that ❤❤❤

@colinwilliams7780

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you hun❤️

A lot of the time I think that I’m just a straight girl trying to be interesting and that my crushes on women (I’m bi) aren’t valid.

@Hannah-yt4fm

3 жыл бұрын

you are valid! it doesn't matter what anyone else says, and I know it's hard to accept yourself, but you are so incredibly valid

@haileyday5305

3 жыл бұрын

Omg same

@CocoRegardless

3 жыл бұрын

Same😔

@lifeismeaningless7169

3 жыл бұрын

Same 😺

@carmesan7965

3 жыл бұрын

@Take The L _ alright man. 😂

thank you for talking about this! i don't see a lot of people talking about this :(

@ellw7830

3 жыл бұрын

^^^

I love this. I think it's important to remember that in cases like Cameron's internal homophobia is actually rooted in misogyny and hatred of the feminine.

matt making his coffee is what keeps me sane.

I've only realised in that last month or so that (as a wlw) I see wlw relationships as "less real" than mlm or straight relationships. When I see 2 girls obviously dating I will sometimes dismiss them as just "close friends" (which is ridiculous). I'm only 14 so I guess I might grow out of it but I know I need to be better. Thank you for the video!

@paulp8028

3 жыл бұрын

It's okay, as you said, you'll grow out of it. And if you realize what you do you can correct yourself in your head, even say it out loud if it helps, and in the end it will become a habit. It might take time, my girlfriend and I are 21 and she still struggles with this, while I have a lot of doubts about my own attractions (the "am I really into girls or is it to attract attention?" thing). Don't worry, weather you are in our community or an ally, you're gonna be ok ♥

@ahu9150

3 жыл бұрын

me too !! and then i feel so bad because im more 'accepting' of mlm relationships, and i wonder whether im just a straight girl pretending to be gay so i can fetishize mlms.

@plantxarmybtsgrowth5776

3 жыл бұрын

@@paulp8028 same here!! Ugh I gotta work on it I know it’s just my brain being silly 😂👍🏻

@paigedevine5796

3 жыл бұрын

I’m also 14 and realized I’m bi. To be fair I’ve never kissed a guy or a girl

@erinab4295

3 жыл бұрын

@@paigedevine5796 neither have I. we're both valid as hell xox

i’m bi and still suffer from the internalized biphobia - always thinking i’m faking it or i’m not really bi and it hurts.

@godischungha4599

3 жыл бұрын

i’m bi as well, and same :( people can’t wrap their mind around the concept that someone can be attracted to both men AND women, the biphobia is y i k e s

@pearlspacejam8639

3 жыл бұрын

High key bi men are the most oppressed whereas lesbians and bisexual women seem to be completely accepted by society at this point and that’s probably due to the over-sexualization of women in media and just the patriarchy in general sadly

@chrisd3637

3 жыл бұрын

@@pearlspacejam8639This. As a guy I honestly just find it easier to tell people I’m gay because most people get the binary straight/gay/lesbian narrative as opposed to bi. Although my attractions definitely lean more towards men, I can’t deny I still feel sexually attracted to women, so I do feel guilty every time I say I’m just gay. Classic biphobia in my head of ‘your attraction to women aren’t real, you’re just denying being completely gay’ and ‘not straight enough for the straights, not gay enough for the gays’ sort of thing :(

@pearlspacejam8639

3 жыл бұрын

@@chrisd3637 honestly just tell them you’re bi because it’s who you are. Don’t let people’s ignorance affect how you define yourself.

@sianthompson8638

3 жыл бұрын

I'm lesbian and I'm still struggling

where are my religious traumatized individuals at 🤩🤩🤩

@sallycinammon1478

3 жыл бұрын

I’m here bitch✨✨✨✨✨

@vriannewojtowicz8408

3 жыл бұрын

yesss we stan religious trauma 😻

@donaldducksazzcheeks

3 жыл бұрын

You summoned me? But not like a demon of course as that is wrong 🙏😜🙄

@abbya5751

3 жыл бұрын

hellooooo

@Leeontherecord

3 жыл бұрын

here 😌

Shoutout to all my amazing straight friends who have told me that I "really don't look gay" and that it's "a good thing"... You're really helping....

@awkwardteen9200

3 жыл бұрын

I can relate 😂😂

@fisharecool2849

3 жыл бұрын

oof I'm sorry you had to go through that :(

matt i’m a lesbian but you’re still the loml😩

@emilian7052

3 жыл бұрын

What does loml mean

@angellove1872

3 жыл бұрын

@@emilian7052 Love of my life

@evien190

3 жыл бұрын

@@emilian7052 love of my life

@emilian7052

3 жыл бұрын

@@evien190 okay thx

@emilian7052

3 жыл бұрын

@SkinnyThicc Legend not really lol

I'll never forget my friend in high school turned to me randomly & said "i don't think gay people should be able to get married" & i was so confused. He later came out as gay, it's heart breaking to reflect on how much self hatred he must have had to say that

"let's go make coffee and talk about why we hate ourselves" is the gayest intro ever and I love it

I remember when I found out what gay meant when I was about 13 and how long it took me to accept it as a label for my self. My grandma once had a talk with me saying she didn't like people lying and I immediately went to my room and broke down because I felt like I was lying to her by not telling her I was gay, I remember the times where I'd cry my self to sleep asking my self why I was gay and why couldn't I be "normal" (straight...). It was awful and I am glad that I'm in a much better place with my sexuality now.

@paulp8028

3 жыл бұрын

I'm happy you feel better about yourself ♥

@giopyui

3 жыл бұрын

@@paulp8028 Thank you! It's not easy but it's nice to be in the place that I am now!

when I was 7 I had a friend who has lesbian moms and I thought it was so cool that they cool kiss and I would think to myself "I wish I could kiss girls too, too bad I can't :(" but when I finally realized that I could, it was terrifying and I was like "this is so cool for other people, but I can't" it sucks to accept other people, but hate yourself for the same thing

@EuropaeusOrigo

Жыл бұрын

brainwashed by devils when you were only 7 you never stood a chance

@EuropaeusOrigo

Жыл бұрын

>lesbian moms quite the oxymoron

is there no sip 4 me :((

@fionathepersona9409

3 жыл бұрын

If you follow his Insta, he does sips 4 you almost every day. It makes me so happy and it’s about the only thing keeping me sane

my parents were the parents like "we love gays! unless its our kids

GAHHH I'M SO EARLY. I've been binging gay youtube to procrastinate writing a coming out letter to my mom

@carmesan7965

3 жыл бұрын

Go you, boo!

@ellw7830

3 жыл бұрын

hey you'll do great!! live your truth bb, we're all here to support you

@katie.beattie

3 жыл бұрын

rania (beautiful name btw) we love you, you are strong and amazing, don’t forget that

@olliebriggsies

3 жыл бұрын

i wish you luck!!!!! ❤️❤️❤️

@raniaj8462

3 жыл бұрын

@@olliebriggsies thank you!

"I hate myself lol" Finally some relatable content

as a lesbian, i’ll judge myself for being both too masculine (maybe the butch people i’m attracted to won’t like me) and too feminine (i look like i’m wearing a straight-person costume). i’m working on expressing my genuine self without these worries that are, in the end, all in my head!

this video is so accurate, i feel attacked. honestly as a bi/pan woman i feel like a perv when showing interest in other women, like i’m disrespecting them and they’ll see me as a freak... yayyy ✨sound effect of kids cheering✨

@katespaulding4563

3 жыл бұрын

me too me too me too. it feels awful

@diamondust2054

3 жыл бұрын

@@katespaulding4563 ikr 😭

@lerapol

3 жыл бұрын

Oh god, that's sad :(

i feel like u would be the best parent ever.

It's like you knew I was gay deprived. Also thank you for the frothy sips in the morning

me: *has finally come to completely accept my sexuality* also me: *is extremely confused about my gender identity but too scared to try and figure it out*

@plasticfrog4533

3 жыл бұрын

I feel you!

@EuropaeusOrigo

Жыл бұрын

its quite simple you were either born a boy or a girl

I came out as a lesbian 10 years ago and I have made huge progress in being out and proud since then, but sometimes I still struggle with internalized homophobia even in the most silly little things. Like recently I bought my first car and I am so excited I wanted to decorate it with a rainbow flag sticker, then I stopped myself from buying it because it would be "too much" and "what will other people (aka the straights) think?" Thank you for this video, now I am definitely gonna buy that rainbow sticker.

@baguettegott3409

3 жыл бұрын

I feel you. I have these really cute little rainbow pins, for like a backpack or a jean jacket, and I've never worn them. My mom bought them for me (she feels really sorry that I still don't have a girlfriend I think lol), and that was so sweet of her, and I love them. But I don't wanna be *that* gay, you know? What are the straights gonna think? Specifically the straight guys?

The moment I learned to deal with internalized homophobia and transphobia, was the moment I finally learned to accept myself fully. The feeling of "Im not THAT kind of trans, or Im not THAT kind of gay" is so real and unlearning that self destructive mindset is healing

This video made me remember my freshman year of high school when I got constantly made fun by this one guy. Everyone thought he was gay but he always denied it. Eventually he did come out as gay. For a long time I never understood what his motivation was for bothering me, but it makes sense now. He was just looking for a freak to feel superior to. Obviously that doesn't make what he did okay, but I'm so glad I can finally understand where he might have been coming from. Thank you.

this is great i hope cameron see's this and thinks about it a little

I'm writing an essay on internalized homophobia and this was really helpful because I was struggling to address my own internalized homophobia :)

@justarandomgirllol7428

3 жыл бұрын

wow, that's the coolest assignment ever

@sketchcrunch599

3 жыл бұрын

@@justarandomgirllol7428 i got an 81% on it but that's just because I suck at essay structure and grammar :P but it was really interesting to write

@EuropaeusOrigo

Жыл бұрын

you people make up new words every day lol this "internalized homophobia" is your body telling you to quit this sodomy and be normal again

Hi Matt! I'm a straight person that comes from a Christian family. I'm doing my best to educate myself on what LGBTQ+ members struggle with and how I can help advocate for equality. Thank you for sharing, I'm sure it's not easy!

@EuropaeusOrigo

Жыл бұрын

dont even say youre christian while also defending sodomy you heretical man stop this and read your bible

king im crying omg :'( this video is so important to me wow

Just wanted you to know that 1) you’re a catch and any man would be lucky to have you, and 2) I always make sure to open KZread and like your vids after watching them on insta cuz I’m too lazy to sign in to KZread again via Insta...but you deserve the 👍🏼

thank you for speaking about this! i love your content soo much 💗

honestly this is so relatable... when i first figured out my feelings, I just pushed them away and put down my tomboyish side to be more feminine to seem straight to other people. it was probably to seem straight to myself as well... its sad how much internalized homophobia is caused by today's unaccepting society.

I struggled a lot with internalised homophobia so yep. It does suck XD

@puffcatco

3 жыл бұрын

do you also have homophobic jokes slip out at times? I gotta know.

*comment about the nails*

@jayjabrams6094

3 жыл бұрын

*Comments on this comment with something extraordinarily funny and refreshing*

when I had my first coming out at like 12 (Go me) my mom said "No you´re not gay". That´s where the spiral started for me luvs

@finder_

3 жыл бұрын

it's like I know how I feel but go ahead tell me more about myself ig

@sarabrenna5525

3 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry this happened to you. My mum said the same thing when I came out as a lesbian she was like "no you are not" and completely dismissed it. I was really hurt and felt invalidated at the beginning but with time I learned that my sexuality is real and valid and it doesn't matter what other people think, no one can know how i feel better than myself, and my mum is no exception.

@katespaulding4563

3 жыл бұрын

retweet a million times

Oh good, there was far too much straight in my life. I needed some gay.

@fla8623

3 жыл бұрын

technically 97% of people are straight so I think that it would be normal if most of the people around you were straight. You would actually be lucky if everyone around you was gay.

thank you so much for talking abt this, god, internalised homophobia can be so fucking tiring but also i just wanted to say that you have such a soothing voice that you could say literally anything and id still listen

the ability of which he speaks is incredibly well spoken and eloquent but his voice is also so calm 🥺 asmr but make it social justice

Matt and coffee, coffee and Matt...perfect couple

watching this as i’m having a mental breakdown again 🥰🥰 love being confused and depressed

matt has such a vibe. we love u 💗

very important things i've learned from this video: 1) wanting to change/evolve the way i dress to express myself is not being "too gay" or "unnecessarily over the top" and i shouldn't say that to myself 2) i like this guy and i like his makeup and i think i'll subscribe

Once I was out with my ex- boyfriend and we were sitting at a park... And we were just sitting there not really talking and all of a sudden he starts laughing and I obviously look at him, like why was he laughing... And that's when I see what he was laughing at... So a gay couple just passed by us and they were holding hands and just talking to each other and he was laughing at them... Bcs they were a gay couple... when I say I WAS PISSED...oof... Like that really rubbed me the wrong way about him and shortly after I broke up with him ( thank god I did) ...

You literally appeared in my life at the perfect time to make me realise that I should stop fighting myself and stop upholding the internalised homophobia/biphobia I have and this fear of femininity that came from a childhood of being called girly, a sissy and denied my gender. I am a man but I've always been attracted to things that are stereotypically seen as feminine. Seeing someone like you that makes me start to believe I could be myself truly is heartwarming. I've honestly had a wild journey and I'm just happy to see myself getting closer to who I truly am. Thank you and I hope you have a wonderful day/week/month/year!

I’ve finally started to see femininity as confidence, definitely have tiktok and consuming loads of LGBTQ media over quarantine to thank for that 🙌🏻

@lerapol

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! :D

this is such a mood and a struggle, i actually used to think that being gay was a choice LOL and as someone who is bi i suppressed it so much but still knew i was bi but “chose” not to be.... funny now that i finally came out HAHA

I relate to this as a bisexual (took me so long to accept that I'm way more attracted to women than men), but also as someone on the spectrum? I've spent my entire 36 year old life trying to figure out how to fit into a neurotypical world, how to "pass" as someone without autism, but I'm finally getting to the point where it's just too exhausting and I'd rather be with someone who accepts me as I am, or not be with them at all. They don't love me for me if I'm constantly having to put on an act just to keep them happy.

You NEED to do a video on Grindr!

I really appreciate your videos! I am not part of the lgbtqia+ community but im working towards trying to be a better ally. I think your videos are able to help me to kind of put myself in another persons shoes! Thx for being you🥰

@belflor

3 жыл бұрын

aw u are very appreciated 🥰

@elkleponis

3 жыл бұрын

@@belflor 💞💞

just noticed the 'women don't owe you pretty' book in the back!!! I've been wanting to read that

THANK YOU. Thank you for talking about this. It is so, so important to be open about this share experiences. I realized that I'm a trans boy and then that I'm gay a few month ago and I struggle with both internalized trans- and homophobia. So again thank you so fucking much for talking about it. ❤

This is why it was kind of easy for me to come out as a trans man, but very difficult to come out as a gay trans man, because of what my dad said about gay trans men and how they should “stay straight women” and that fucked me up.

*me literally never planning on coming out*

@jayjabrams6094

3 жыл бұрын

The plan is to just ✨vanish✨

@XxAshaWxX

3 жыл бұрын

@@jayjabrams6094 yess queen

idk for some reason your videos feel so warm and comforting even though you often talk about heavy topics.. i sometimes watch them when i feel down and they always make me feel so much better..keep up the amazing-ass work :))))

i can’t express how much i love what matt does

I could listen to you talk about anything for hours, you're explaining all the stuff so good and there's still a lot of positivity even if it's a topic like this. Thank you.

It's the internal misogyny for me

the way you were so well spoken about this!! like yeah i know what it is but when you speak about it it’s so clear. you deserve all the coffee in the world

Americans be like "let's make some coffee" then drink cold sweet milk (lots of gay love to you though)

@14sakuya26

3 жыл бұрын

Agdhfkkty so true

your voice and way of speaking and topic of conversation and maybe the fact that I'm watching this in the middle of the night makes this video feel like such an intimate friendly chat, I'm loving this so much

your videos are about topics that make me very angry and sad, like anti-lgbtq+ stuff, but somehow you make me even calmer because you use all the good arguments and touch on everything so constructively and your arguments are thought thru

Oh my god, Matt, thank you so much. I've been thinking about this within myself a lot lately (especially being raised Catholic), and this video validated those feelings so much and is helping me address this homophobia in how I treat myself an others. I cried a bit during this video. It was a good cry. Thank you so much for being involved in this community in the ways you are, you're amazing

The fact that Matt posted this vid exactly a year after I came out to both of my siblings just blows my mind. Love you, Matt. 💜💜💜💜

@paulp8028

3 жыл бұрын

Happy Coming out! I hope it went good! (In either cases, you are loved ♥)

@sad_lil_enby

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@@paulp8028 Aww, thank you so much. It went really great. 😊😊😊

y'all rmb that scene in love, simon where simon does this fantasy rainbow dance break thing and goes "not THAT gay",,

i'm so glad you made this video bc it sucks so much and nobody talks about it. i really struggled with it last year and i've got to understand and accept myself now :)

wtf why is your voice so comfortable to listen to? I love it? like I could listen to you talk about anything for hours and be happy with the world ?

thank you so much for making this! I was pausing and talking about how spot on everything was the entire video❤️

Those guys in the car, I can't even.... They're mocking someone for being nice and wishing them a good day. They're so full of internalised homophobia that they think being kind to each other is something effeminate and therefore shameful 🙈

the description 😩 i felt that

The calm way you described this topic and how down to earth you are made this video extremely easy to watch. You are amazing. You just gained another subscriber.

I’m still not out because I’m getting over my extreme internalized homophobia 😭

I've struggled with this shit for years, even after I came out. I've been trying to learn as much as I can and be better over the past year and this video is LIFE-CHANGING. Wish I had better influences growing up. Unlearning something that is so radically internalised is hard. But I'm trying... Thanks Matt ❤️

Love this. This needs to be discussed more. I didn’t realise just how much I had been internalising. It’s really affected my life and relationships. Thanks.

I am gay and there is a certain level of discomfort I still feel regarding my sexuality. I must admit that I am glad I am not "flamboyant".

Thank you so much for this Matt, almost made me cry. Internalized homophobia really truly sucks and makes have waay too many rough times

i love this video. it made me cry several times also i love the aesthetic of your room

Nails Any way 😂 I don’t know when I realized I was bisexual, I’ve always been attracted to girls the same way I was attracted to boys, but I was so unaware of my own feelings or attraction, that I considered myself as ace for a long time. I’ve also dealt with internalized and externalized homophobia because I grew up in a somewhat crappy environment. It’s something I’ve been fighting with myself for a long time. It took me 21 years to admit to myself I’m not straight, and that’s ok. There’s many people out there like me, it’s not something we can control. At 23 years now, I’m not trying to hide it anymore, occasionally I do panic and worry what others think, and there are certain people I will probably never come out to, but I’ve worked on accepting myself and others.

"and have kids 🤭" 🥰BRUH THAT WAS SO CUTE

You explained this so beautifully well. Thank you for educating others and making it honest and funny and eye-opening all at the same time :)

Thank you for this! You’re such a blessing 💜

Your uploads are always the highlight of my week 🥺🥺🥺🥺

Thank you very much for this video, Matt. I'm a lurker and i'm in the closet in real life, but I'm demisexual and panromantic and even while i'm getting close to my 30s, I've been strongly questioning my gender identity. I've had a lot of struggles with wanting to fit in where ever I went, but I think I hurt myself with my own Acephobia more than I've actually faced it from other people. As a result, I've messed up so much. There's so many arguments I regret having, there's so many times where I wish I had stopped and asked myself, "why am I judging this person? Why am I arguing with this person? Why am I picking this fight?" Every single time, it was because of some sort of shame I still held. I was angry today from something that I saw, and I was ready to go to twitter and rant about it. But it's not worth it.

this video was amazing 🥺 i literally love your content so so much and i think you're an amazing person. during the past few months you've educated me a lot and helped me come to terms with myself more than before. today i was finally brave enough to come out to my parents and i'm so happy i did it. once again, thank you so much, i hope you're having the best day 🥺

you are SO well spoken!! and calming!! i am a straight ally, but this was absolutely amazing and YES wow

I'm so blessed with the fact that I'm aloof af and sometimes completely detached from reality so I developed a healthy amount of scepticism very early. Growing up as a minority I instinctively understood the point of prejudice and how not to have it. Having a homosexual experience at the age of 13 also helped. I'm also blessed having parents who were super chill about most things although they were strict. They weren't necessarily woke but I'm sure they knew I was... different so they just let me be, let me figure it out on my own. God, I gotta call my parents now.

thank you SO MUCH for your transparency and candour. You're such an inspiration. There's definitely loads of misogyny inside homophobia, so the patriarchy (and classism/racism( is pretty much to blame for just about everything that marginalises everyone except straight white male MASC. I've been writing about sexuality for a long time, but mainly focussed on female (FAAB) orgasmic empowerment, which has blossomed over the years into Bi activism. and in more recent years, trans Ally-ship. I'm currently midway through an interview series - 1. interview with my son who is bi (and I'm bi) it was bilateral thinking!... 2. Bi, Non Binary FAAB. 3. Older, closeted Trans woman. 4. Young, vibrant and optimistic Trans man (which is out next week). And ...I thought I was aware of my own internalized misogyny, and my own predeliction towards androgyny and my slight gender fluidity, but because I'd had mostly het relationhships I didn't have enough time to figure stuff out. but now that I'm podcasting about it, I'm SO immersed in the deconstruction that the MATRIX is really becoming visible to me everywhere. And brilliant young minds like you are leaders, lighting the path. So thank you again. I would like to see you also address why drag queens can be so mean to each other. This really bothers me - and reflects a level of misogyny that I, as a cis woman feel really confused about). :) LOVE YOU! (for anyone reading this who would like to listen to my podcast, the link is in my bio.

Thanks so much for this Video

I get so happy every time there's a new videooo