"What's up with the lesbians" is the perfect title for a zine or comic about this topic Fran. 💖 And big YES to queer content, because this is also you.

@voyance4elle

2 жыл бұрын

😍yaaaas!!! 👏👏👏 That's actually a great Idea 🥰

@ellstration

2 жыл бұрын

@@voyance4elle YAAAAS hehe. 🌈✨

@Hugbryggen

2 жыл бұрын

Hehe yes we need a comic about everything in this video.

@MovieTrollop

2 жыл бұрын

I love this so much.

@Lollopard4

2 жыл бұрын

Yaaas! 🥳👏

“I confused wanting to be desired by men with being attracted to men.” YES! 100% This is so helpful ❤️ thanks Fran

A huge BRAVO goes to Ed for being so supportive to you. I'm sure it was very difficult for him, but he seems so happy for you and that's amazing!

@margherita717

2 жыл бұрын

I thought the same😍

I totally understand and get the whole wanting men to look at me/fall in love with me thing. It's so weird that we've been conditioned to always make sure we look desirable and if men don't look at us then we're not worth anything.

@_sumina

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! I even noticed myself when in relationships with them, my mind is more focused on what they're seeing on the outside, and the way I act towards them so they can find me attractive or want me..even though I don't even like when they want me I just like to be admired or desired

@chellykins

2 жыл бұрын

@@_sumina Right? Sigh. Our poor messed up minds.

@chellykins

2 жыл бұрын

@savanna guzeler Preeaaccchhhhh 👑

@Aaasia3

2 жыл бұрын

I can SO relate to this... Always thought I was the only one. It feels (to clarify: feels, these are not my thoughts) like it's expected of me to always try to look attractive to men, but it gets so draining cause I get super self conscious about my appearance all the time.

@chellykins

2 жыл бұрын

@@Aaasia3 You're totally not alone. It really is exhausting to make sure we always look "good" especially when we don't feel like it. It takes a lot of emotional and mental effort and we do it ALL the time so it's a constant thing.

As a person who realized herself being a queer in adulthood, I can say that discovering your truest sexuality is tremendous work... You basically reanalyzing your whole life lol ---Be brave Fran!

As someone who is right now going through a period of questioning my sexuality, it is SO comforting hearing you talk about this!!

Omg Fran. I am on minute 14:40 and I have to stop and writing this. I turned 30 a couple of weeks ago and in June I came out as bi - even to my boyfriend of 2.5 years. And on Friday (today is Sunday in Italy), I told my therapist "I think all the mid-long relationships I had with men weren't really 'love', but attraction to their lifestyle, their possibility, their carrier". Yes: as a shy, bullied, introverted human being, I looked at the white male model as a thing I couldn't have but that I could live vicariously through them. Maybe Chile and Italy differ on a lot of other things, but their idea of both women and "right" relationships are really, eerily similar. Hugs from Italy, from a fellow Fran(cesca) ;)

@ShadeLeeds

2 жыл бұрын

"I looked at the white male model as a thing I couldn't have but that I could live vicariously through them." This is so interesting! I feel like I agree. My parents weren't terribly supportive growing up so I think I got into these back-to-back long-term relationships with men because it was nice to think I would have someone who could support me, care for me, and take the lead. Even though I didn't realize it at the time, I wasn't thinking "I'm so in love!", I was thinking "I'm so comfortable!" Being with a woman would mean I have to stand taller on my own because we'd both have the short end of the stick in society. Of course that's because of misogyny and its worth it to follow your heart.

You’re amazing for being so candid about this, Fran! You have been my art crush (and a literal crush) for several years now, and this just makes me love you more. Honestly, I can relate to your story. I’m pretty sure that I am bisexual. I haven’t actually come out or anything but I have questioned my attraction to both men and women for years. It can be very hard to see the signs when you’re okay with both heterosexuality and homosexuality. Anyway, I applaud you for being so forthcoming with your journey.

@tailong9548

2 жыл бұрын

I think you can be both at various times throughout life. Hell, I think you can be both at the same time and it's perfectly normal. What isn't normal is our analytic mind trying to label and dissect sexuality. Forget about all of it and focus more on understanding your own energy. Our sexuality is the majority of what we are. This physical vessel is comprised of 85% h2O, right? The energy body must be close to that with our sexuality being comprised of most of the components of our being, many of which reside in our subconscious. Sexual energy is pure creative life force, it founts from the source of creation, of imagination and ingenuity. You could say it's the core of humanity. Once you realize this, you can start to understand why certain groups would be interested in manipulating people's sexual identities. Get people confused about their sexual identity and you can watch their lives implode. Yet, understanding our sexual nature (at least on a very basic, personal level) is necessary for us to feel secure as individuals. So go with your gut (subconscious). Analyzing sexuality with the scientific method yields very inaccurate results. Go with the flow, focus more on your reasons why you're you and who you is and what you need to do for you to feel at ease, safe and ready to flourish. The rest will come.

As a straight man, i love seeing you discover and accept your sexuality. I have never had to experience it myself and i am happy you managed to eventually escape the religious judgement and come out as you truly are!

Thank you for such a candid video, I am so glad that you were finally able to learn more about yourself

@bunnybaker2289

2 жыл бұрын

Omg! Ily! I didn’t expect to see your channel here💕 love your stuff🥰

love you Fran! "sexuality is fluid" is a keeper 🤍🌿✨🦋🌾🌈

@cmmndrblu

2 жыл бұрын

Sexuality being fluid is more of a reality for bisexuals than it is for the average gay or straight person- and that's absolutely ok

I always appreciate how you make your experiences educational/ bonding with your community outside of art or business stuff.

I've had a few realisations about sexuality and gender throughout my life and it's always scary and liberating and frustrating and such a relief to sort through it all. What I've found is the good always seems to outweigh the bad because feeling like yourself is a comfort that outlasts anyone else's disapproval. Keep being yourself and loving it!

"i was solving the wrong puzzle" daaaaang. love u fran! thank you for candidly sharing, always, and for being out and brave! 💖

fran, thank you for sharing such a vulnerable part of yourself - i cant express how much this means to me personally, and how much i know itll mean to so many other queer folk, especially those struggling with their identity. thank you for being candid, for being honest, and for sharing yourself. sending so much love your way fran - and pride as well !!

Thank you so much for this Fran, it was super relatable and helps me on my own journey. Best of luck on your new journey. 💕

You are amazing Fran. You have been through so much and still turned into such a brave, outspoken, smart, beautiful woman who is now speaking to over a quarter of a million people. Way to go. ❤️

Fran, thanks for your bravery and honesty. I think you have created an amazing resource for people who are not only questioning their sexuality, but people who are going through any type of self discovery. Proving how important it is to slow down, and find the emotional space to discover and explore your own believes, influences, tendencies and actions. Its very inspirational to hear. I wish you the best of luck on your journey and hope you find comfort, confidence and happiness! Looking forward to more videos!

I resonate so, so much with this. I was a very late bloomer, I wasn't really that interested in boyfriends and my parents actually questioned me several times about whether I was gay. I grew up to think I was bisexual, never realising that what I had mistaken for desire for men was actually wanting to be desired, and that while I was romantically attracted to men, I wasn't sexually attracted to them. First time I was with a woman things clicked into place, but it was really, really hard for me to accept as it alsi meant leaving the man I was building a life with, and what if I was wrong. I was in my mid-thirties, and I just could not comprehend how I hadn't known. I felt so stupid and scared. Compulsive heterosexuality is so pervasive. So yeah. I'm so relived, somehow, when I hear other people also went through this, though I wish we'd been allowed/able to figure this out much sooner..

This video is so heartwarming, i can't. Fran, you are wonderful!

A lot of people are scared to have these discussions. Thank you for making this video.

Thank you for making this and sharing your story! I had a similar experience (grew up in a very religious community where it wasn't accepted to be gay) and not even realizing I was gay until I moved away in my mid twenties. Congrats on learning more about yourself and I hope it only gets better from here! :)

As someone who is somewhere in the asexual spectrum, i can relate to being mindblown to the idea that there are different types of attractions too. It really helps me to map how i feel toward the people around me and what kind of attitude i need to work on.

The ending is really comforting, labels are scary🥺

💛🧡❤️💜💙💚 We are here for you and this new exciting chapter of your life 💗 I wish you the best adventure of being yourself and exploring what that means 🙏

Sending hugs and love and high fives, Fran! I’m so happy for you that you can be your true self no matter how long it took to figure out- most of us spend our whole lives just stumbling around trying figure out who we are at our core. And you’re getting there and that’s a beautiful thing🌈✨

Fran amo la naturalidad y la gracia con las que explicas cosas que son tan traumáticas y que siguen siendo bastante tabú aún hoy en día. Te admiro mucho

So so brutally honest and wonderful. This was super eye opening for me. I can’t thank you enough for the trust. We love you!

Yo me di cuenta de que era muy altamente probable que mi persona fuese bisexual a los 26 años. Básicamente este año. Hacia principios. Estoy en una relación con un hombre y, dado que también me gustan los hombres, esto es fantástico para mi; pero quiero que sepas que darse cuenta "tarde" es perfectamente normal. No es algo que todo el mundo se plantee en la adolescencia o que "les llegue de forma natural". Estoy muy orgullosa de lo que estás haciendo, Fran. Todo mi ánimo y amor.

@aderita209

2 жыл бұрын

Totalmente a mi me paso lo mismo. Yo tengo 34 y recién en el 2018 me di cuenta de que me también me gustan las mujeres y los hombres y que soy bisexual. Y en verdad como dice Fran, todos los ingredientes de no tener representación y que tu familia no acepta hace que te des cuenta más tarde. Ahora que tenemos tanta representación especialmente en cosas importantes como Loki o Brooklyn 99. Y so también anima mucho a salir ☺️

FRAAAAN 💕💕 FELICIDADES ♡♡ i also recently realized i'm not bisexual, but lesbian :D congrats, desde el fondo de mi corazón.

You are completely relaxed! You can see it a mile off with your body movements, expressions etc, you are naturally flowing. Amazing!

Omg the feeling in the pit of my stomach when you were talking about the fear of getting called a lesbian in school! I came out so early and I still remember the intensity of this feeling. 💚

I've been watching you for years and you feel so comfortable and confident here. I mean you always had a quiet confidence to you, but here you're just radiant and I feel so proud and happy for you 😭❤️

I’m 20 and your journey through coming out I feel like takes awhile and I put me being queer so much in the back burner. I remember first coming out as demi sexual to friends in middle school and I got negative feedback because the people surrounding me just believed it wasn’t real and my sexuality was not real. I would just now identify as bisexual so it would be easy for everyone else but I don’t 100% believe in me being bisexual. It’s been 10 years and I’m still figuring myself out, so please don’t rush and realize your journey is your own and please don’t compare your journey through others. Thank your for being raw and open about this important of yourself it means the world, I love and support you and I hope everyone who is questioning that they find comfort that they are not alone. 💛

You are sooo amazing. My favorite person on the internet

This is going to get buried in the comments but I've been going through very similar struggles where I'm so confused and plagued by the same thoughts as you. I LOVE how honest you are even with things that may be a bit embarrassing or tmi which makes me feel so comfortable. I just wanted to say thank you for putting this out there, its a huge relief to know I'm not the only one and that its okay to have these thoughts! its a process. if anyone sees this, its okay, you dont have to figure it all out now and please remember that you're not alone in this.

I’m sure you will help someone else who is struggling to figure out their sexual preferences. I’m happy for you having figured out this major thing in your life.💗💗🌸🌸

I'm so happy for you that you're finding your truth and are putting yourself and discovering who you are at number 1 💕💕

Fran!!! I literally had such a similar experience last month 👁👁 I got a huge crush on a lady at work then came across the comphet doc on twitter, read it through, and started crying so. Hard. And it was also the "I confuse wanting to be desired by men with being attracted to them" that got me lol but thank you so much for making this video. It was so comforting to see an artist I really look up to going through the same things I am.

Yay big hugs Fran! It's not easy coming out x

i loved this, thanks for sharing and i'm so happy you've gotten to know yourself better :-)

Thank you for being so brave and honest to put this all out there. I'm so happy for you! xo

I admire you even more than I did before :D That was so brave. And you spoke about it so naturally. Love your drawings, your illustration style, your personality and your channel! Thank you for sharing your life :)

You seem so much lighter and happier, great to see you feeling more content 😊

You seem so much happier in this video!!! Like a huge weight has been lifted, I am so happy for you.

Your truth is important for all women to hear, lesbian or straight - It's like a woman cannot be whole unless a man deems it so...."I am not your EVE!" thank you for sharing

Me a straight: Omg, but women are prettier than men tho. Fran’s Friend: Lol no. Men are hotter. Me a “straight”: 👁👄👁

@mdust8409

2 жыл бұрын

Bruh xD, literally me. Although i dont have my sexuallity defined i've always think this and i always thought this was the rule xD.

@jelkafabianova2801

2 жыл бұрын

@@mdust8409 i am an ace but i notice pretty people all the time and well... 9 out of 10 times it's a girl

@mdust8409

2 жыл бұрын

@@jelkafabianova2801 HAHAHAH i know what you mean xD . I think I'm ace or demi but one thing I'm sure about is when I like someone in an aesthetic way it happens more with women .

Thank you so so much for telling us about this! You can't even imagine how helpful it was for me to hear all that💖

Hey girl, new fan, this video has validated a lot of feelings I’ve been working through for years as well 💕 thank you for sharing

Gracias Fran por tanto! Creo que muchos empezamos a seguirte por tu arte, pero con el tiempo, tu gran persona ha sido fundamental para aprender de tus experiencias ❤️

@junioralejandroguardado7524

Жыл бұрын

Yo guarde un video que subió hablando de inseguridades, me ayudo mucho, lo veo siempre que me siento inseguro. La forma en que expresa sus ideas crea una conexión increíble con todos los que la seguimos. Te queremos mucho Fran

I'm definitely straight, but I think girls are hands down prettier than men. 🤭 Also, this isn't * now * a queer artsy channel. It's been. We just didn't know lol I'm happy you're able to live more truthfully to yourself, Fran. ❤️

@explicitlyme7497

2 жыл бұрын

I agree lol. I'm very confident in my sexuality as a straight person, and women are aesthetically pleasing I just don't feel the need to kiss or sleep with them or even date them.

@angelavanart7138

2 жыл бұрын

Same. I’m straight and find women are so pretty to look at. I did question it at one point but I don’t see them in sexual way.

@rickslick1943

2 жыл бұрын

I think you're a bit in denial. If you think objectively that women are more attractive than men, that's definitely not straight.

@angelavanart7138

2 жыл бұрын

rickslick19 there’s nothing wrong with admiring a woman’s beauty. You can still be secure about your sexuality and still think they are pretty. If you think it’s gay to think that maybe you’re the insecure one.

@rickslick1943

2 жыл бұрын

@@angelavanart7138 Oh, the old reverse psychology trick I see. I just want you to try and apply logic to your statement. You're saying you're a straight woman. But you find yourself looking at pretty women, probably more than men. I mean honestly it was enough that it made you question yourself. Clearly this wasn't just "admiring beauty." Anyone can look at Chris Hemsworth and notice he's attractive. But if I found myself constantly "admiring the beauty" of other men I'd be questioning myself too. Maybe you should question this admiration a bit more?

Being able to live more truthfully to ourselves is the biggest gift, so happy for you Fran❤️

¡Hermoso video! Gracias por animarte a hablar de manera tan honesta sobre las presiones que te impidieron aceptar tu propia sexualidad durante tanto tiempo. Me parece super valioso que compartas tu experiencia para ayudar a otros que se encuentren todavía en la duda. Lamento mucho las cosas tan duras por las que tuviste que pasar en tu infancia y adolescencia, y espero que este nuevo comienzo te traiga un montón de felicidad

Interesting and insightful. Especially since I cannot relate but it’s nice to see you open up about it! I hope that now you can express yourself in your own authentic way! 💛 will keep coming back to the arty stuff too!

Truthfully Fran...you look freer!! Thank you for your Honesty and know that we all support you on your journey!!! xo

Thank you for sharing so much of yourself. I’m happy you’re learning more about yourself. Also, you calling us “my loves” makes the video feel so intimate and just lovely.

thank you for this video!! i think my brain works very similarly to yours, so this video was much more helpful to me than most others

I was blessed and privileged to have grown up in an open and tolerant atmosphere. I appreciate your honesty always and enjoy listening to you talking about yourself. And yes, you are free to change your mind as much as you want. Or not (-:

thank you for being so open and vulnerable, sending lots of love your way! so happy you have been/are so gentle with yourself along this journey to your self. my baby gay self would have been so lucky to have stumbled upon a vid like this years ago. You communicate in a manner that is so comforting, honest, and loving 🌸❤️

i'm so incredibly happy for you fran

thank you so much for being so forthcoming about your journey!

Your story just breaks my heart 💔😭 But I'm so glad you're here now, thanks for sharing your story so openly ❤️

you look so radiant and more confident than ever and i love it! you already seem so much more comfortable in your own skin to me and i’m sure it’s because you’re learning so much about accepting who you are regardless of any labels from society that tell us we need to tick one box forever otherwise our whole life experiences gets invalidated. it’s been beautiful to watch you grow so much in such a short time. i’m looking forward to seeing more of you being YOU queen! 💗

I found this so interesting, Fran! Especially the story about how emotional repression can make you drift away from who you really are. Thanks for sharing! I have such a better understanding of how this works.

I'm so happy for you! It's so heartwarming seeing how open and honest you are about your experiences; I think it's extremely important for the community, since there are many different ways of being queer and each person has their own journey figuring it out. Thank you for this video

I’ve never clicked on a video this fast. Adore you, Fran. LOVE to see you ✨THRIVING✨

@Hugbryggen

2 жыл бұрын

Hehe me too!

@Hikariichanellu

2 жыл бұрын

Me too 💕

Thank you!!! Thank you for talking about this!! I think so many of us have these realizations later in life and we feel alone….so the importance of your vulnerability is so grand. Sending so my gratitude 🥰

Never feel like you have to be chained to a label! Labels are there to help you quantify your own experiences, and to help explain them to others. The label SERVES YOU! If it doesn't any longer, off with its head! 💜 So glad you finally accepted this part of yourself, and omg the list was hilarious in hindsight 🤣

Thank you for sharing this, Fran! You're so brave and amazing, love everything you do!! Have an awesome weekend to you and everyone in the comment section :D

THE LIST!! 💯🤣❤️ I’m so happy for you in all of this. Looks like a big weight has been lifted off your shoulders.

omg fran!! ilysm i’m so happy you’re able to live as your true self now!! 💗💗

the "intrusive thoughts" part speaks to me more than I would like. Very happy for you that you found the courage to figure it all out ❤️

thank you for letting us into your world like this, im glad you're happy with yourself and i hope you can feel assured and REassured about your identity, your life and knowing you're an awesome human being no matter how you identify

Oh my god Fran. I'm so happy for you. It's so great to see you feel so much more comfortable and free even in the way you talk and emote. Just wonderful.

thank you so much for sharing your experience with us, Fran! there's a couple things that you made me think while watching the vid, plus a bonus. first, the things you mentioned from the list that you joked about being a creepo, it was soooo refreshing to see someone talk about it! it's not creepier than anyone else, i think that everybody does that and many ppl are not aware or pretend they don't. it's a taboo, those little moments of inconsequential sexuality, bc we only recognise sexuality when it is like stamped, labeled and packed in a bikini. these little intimacies to me are much more interesting as a fellow human being than hollywood's idea of sex, you know. second, as a fellow latin-mother-language speaker, i think we have something that may either help or make it worse to grasp the concept of fluidity in sexuality, that is the difference between the two "beings" (soy/estoy). when we describe ourselves, we say "I am yaddayaddayadda", you are attaching a characteristic to yourself, but does that apply for that moment or forever? why, when we learn something about someone, we expect that that's it and that's never gonna change? there will always be closed-minded ppl that will expect you to be that person you were when they met you. but we are so multiple it's offensive to try and fit in a photographic capture of oneself. also bonus: i kept remembering sailors neptune and uranus when you mentioned your childhood haha the one good queer representation we had as kids, i think (clamp is good but also tragic)

Fran, you are amazingggggg. You open up so much in this video and I feel honored to be able to share in your story and your journey! Thankyou for trusting your community

I’m so proud and happy for you Fran for getting to this point in your personal growth and journey!!! Best love and wishes!!

You are so amazing. I really appreciate being able to follow your journey❤️

your honest conversation was so refreshing and warm! this video is now one of my fav videos on this topic

amazing! thanks Frannerd!

very comforting to see someone ive been looking up to for a while be queer just like me. as a gay latino trans man who also grew up in queerphobic surroundings, your words make me feel so much more human. sending you lots of love

This is so overwhelming. I love you💗

You go Fran, I'm so happy/proud you found out that about yourself!

❤️❤️❤️ FANTASTIC VIDEO FRAN. BEAUTIFULLY edited, well spoken, transparent and full of HEART.

I can't relate at all, but I'm glad you're figuring yourself out and finding who you are. You look radiant and ahem. I don't know, keep being awesome! ^^

COMPHET MASTERDOC!!!! Congratulations, Fran, and thank you for your openness. ❤️

Lovely to hear your story of discovery, Fran. Sending lots of love 💙

What a warm, gentle, and welcoming person you are! I am amazed by your point of emotional availability to yourself. A mustwatch video for anyone to learn emotional intelligence, for lack of a better word🥰

i recently came to terms with my sexuality and came out to my parents, and the way you described your thoughts, feelings, and journey was as if you were reciting my own. so thank you for sharing this video

Fran, I've been following you since way back when you still did HiFest, and I always use your empty calendar for yearly planning. Thank you so much for sharing all of this < 3 We love you and we're excited to support you on this new journey + adventure of discovering yourself!

You are such an inspiration Fran!! Speaking your truth so honestly, so confidently! And making people that go through similar situations to feel less alone. The new chapter in your life sounds very exciting! I wish you all the best🥰

Thank you for open so open and honest about your story! I somehow found myself relating to every single point in your list and its been quite a relief to hear that i am not the only one for some of them!

Fran, thank you so much for sharing your experience with us. I'm on a similiar boat, maybe... I'm not even sure, and it's hard to know, as you said. I'm in my thirties and ended an hetero relationship of 10 years... Lately, I have wondered about my sexuality, especially because of some points you mentioned. Like only liking famous women rather than men, finding women more attractive and I might add that I've even had fantasies with some gay women I've known... Is it crazy? Am I crazy? I don't know, I know nothing! I feel so lost, and I'd truly appreciate if you could continue sharing your pov with us! I'm so proud of you, sending you big hugs!

im so glad you’re opening up about your sexuality with us! i’ve always identified as bi but lately i’ve been questioning if i’m actually a lesbian. thank you 💕

fran i'm so happy for you and proud that you've come to know yourself better, that's not an easy thing to do!! you make some great and helpful points in this. sending lots of love to you!

I'm so proud of you !

I feel very proud of you! Thank you for helping me getting trough similar situation. I hope you'll find happiness and love as you deserve it. Hugs!

Oh amazing, youtube at its best. Your courage is extraordinary, and you have never failed to impress me - but never more so than now. All the love in the world and thank you for sharing!

So happy for you Fran! Even though I'm sure it was hard. I also realized late-ish, for a lot of the same reasons.

Fran, I'm so in awe of you. I love how happy you look and sound. I know this is a stressful time but so glad you can be free in your mind and body. I love your art and your video and I'm just really happy for you.