Instantly BOOST Your Charisma |

One of the simplest ways to increase your perceived charisma is…⁣
to PAUSE!⁣

Studies demonstrate that charismatic people are supportive, sensitive, nurturing, and considerate. Not only that, they also exude a mysterious, almost intangible quality that’s a unique combination of quiet confidence, credibility and presence. ⁣

When they enter a room, people look.⁣
When they talk, people want to listen.⁣

And the best part about charisma is that you can develop it. ⁣

One simple way to develop charisma through your presence and perceived confidence starts with how you communicate. ⁣
Next time you’re interacting with someone, see if you can pause for 2-3 seconds before responding. ⁣

I call it the 3SP - 3 Second Pause.⁣

Of course, you’ll still want to maintain eye contact so they know you’re paying attention, and you want to have an engaged look on your face - a blank stare will probably raise some eyebrows and might even prompt an “are you ok??”… You can even take a small breath before you speak so you ‘audience’ knows something’s coming…⁣

This is a particularly useful skill when in interviews, on panels or when presenting in public and answering questions. ⁣

Have you ever seen anyone use this and what did you think? ⁣
Or have you used it? How did you find it? 👇⁣





📚 ⁣
-House, R. J., & Howell, J. M. (1992). Personality and charismatic leadership. The Leadership Quarterly, 3(2), 81-108.⁣
-De Cremer, D., & Van Knippenberg, D. (2002). How do leaders promote cooperation? The effects of charisma and procedural fairness. Journal of Applied Psychology, 87(5), 858.⁣
-Tskhay, K. O., Zhu, R., Zou, C., & Rule, N. O. (2018). Charisma in everyday life: Conceptualization and validation of the General Charisma Inventory. Journal of personality and social psychology, 114(1), 131.
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Пікірлер: 707

  • @WorldBeater123
    @WorldBeater123 Жыл бұрын

    Imagine two friends having a conversation and each one waiting 3 seconds to answer every time a question is asked 🤣🤣🤣

  • @doit7779

    @doit7779

    Жыл бұрын

    Same Like the indian dramas . 😂😂

  • @neonyoutobe5405

    @neonyoutobe5405

    Жыл бұрын

    @@doit7779 Demtananana deem tanana a Doom tanana doom tana Nana .... Graphics 😂🤣🤣

  • @babypenkinese

    @babypenkinese

    Жыл бұрын

    That definitely happens when you’re as high as a kite.

  • @mauricioesma

    @mauricioesma

    Жыл бұрын

    (Waits 3 seconds) Right!?

  • @steepdeej

    @steepdeej

    Жыл бұрын

    If this was your first thought that came to mind after this video I don’t think you got the point. Maybe, I dunno you. We’ll see

  • @romeshbhat8362
    @romeshbhat83622 жыл бұрын

    My wife asked if I love her, I tried 3SP. Now I cook my own food

  • @salmaabbasi6978

    @salmaabbasi6978

    Жыл бұрын

    You silly goose !!!!🤣🤣🤣how is it working out for you 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

  • @SarahPrincess-bh7tf

    @SarahPrincess-bh7tf

    3 ай бұрын

    😂😂

  • @DB-xo6xh

    @DB-xo6xh

    3 ай бұрын

    That's a long ass time!

  • @noemistephanie93

    @noemistephanie93

    2 ай бұрын

    🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @cornwellhampande334

    @cornwellhampande334

    Ай бұрын

    😅😅

  • @brucewayne2184
    @brucewayne2184 Жыл бұрын

    Person: *does a 3 second pause* Me: *walks away because I think they're done talking*

  • @leovylrivera1930

    @leovylrivera1930

    Жыл бұрын

    This guy is funny 😂

  • @RajinderSingh-mj6xc

    @RajinderSingh-mj6xc

    Жыл бұрын

    Love your words. Same here.

  • @Clumsy_dame

    @Clumsy_dame

    11 ай бұрын

    Thats why you have to maintain eye contact😅

  • @aberpatricia5730

    @aberpatricia5730

    10 ай бұрын

    😂😂😂😂

  • @lauraberry6081

    @lauraberry6081

    10 ай бұрын

    Maybe do a 3sp after theirs lol

  • @abba3629
    @abba3629 Жыл бұрын

    6SP = Double Charisma. 9SP = Triple Charisma. 12SP = Quadruple Charisma..., Keep going for 24 hours = Full day of Peace & Absolute Charisma.

  • @MindSphere861

    @MindSphere861

    3 ай бұрын

    😂😂

  • @milindthakur8658

    @milindthakur8658

    Ай бұрын

    😂

  • @mohammeddilshanka9255

    @mohammeddilshanka9255

    7 күн бұрын

    Infinite pause, charisma is my middle name (it's not really)

  • @anithat.p5625

    @anithat.p5625

    2 күн бұрын

    😂😂😂

  • @ratnak5370
    @ratnak53702 жыл бұрын

    Me who can't even collect my thoughts in 5 minutes 😭 Edit: Thanks for 1.2k likes

  • @armandodemiguel7989

    @armandodemiguel7989

    2 жыл бұрын

    I tend to have the correct answer when in bed, 5 hours later.

  • @peaceman97amd97

    @peaceman97amd97

    2 жыл бұрын

    😂

  • @abdotp

    @abdotp

    Жыл бұрын

    🤣🤣🤣 me too man

  • @Shamuto7

    @Shamuto7

    Жыл бұрын

    Started looking creepy staring silently for 5mins

  • @pubududanansooriya3548

    @pubududanansooriya3548

    Жыл бұрын

    Bring it up guys, these conditions can be improved. 💪

  • @smallfootprint2961
    @smallfootprint29612 жыл бұрын

    Yes. You don't have to jump into everone's talk. Being patient, and waiting to respond is wonderful... and if I am talking with someone who is constantly interrupting... i can let them talk. I can let that person who needs to talk, talk. It's my gift.

  • @Catthepunk

    @Catthepunk

    Жыл бұрын

    So charismatic.

  • @ambriaashley3383

    @ambriaashley3383

    Жыл бұрын

    Same.

  • @pawelpawlowin95

    @pawelpawlowin95

    10 ай бұрын

    You're speaking to slow. I would left the room if you talked to me like that.

  • @joniman6899

    @joniman6899

    9 ай бұрын

    @@pawelpawlowin95 work on your patience

  • @pawelpawlowin95

    @pawelpawlowin95

    9 ай бұрын

    @@joniman6899 Sorry I was high when I wrote that

  • @superkowstar
    @superkowstar Жыл бұрын

    I can’t stop looking at her hair ❤

  • @Onmysheet

    @Onmysheet

    5 ай бұрын

    And her.....assets

  • @matadorlksh
    @matadorlksh2 жыл бұрын

    I’m using this in my fights with wifey! I can think of better comebacks now

  • @kshitijguleria8594

    @kshitijguleria8594

    Жыл бұрын

    🤣🤣🤣

  • @peaceofmindofpeace1650

    @peaceofmindofpeace1650

    Жыл бұрын

    Haha that's funny and kind of cute

  • @suntzu1409

    @suntzu1409

    Жыл бұрын

    You can think of better comebacks now, right? Right?

  • @user-hv5oe1zx1x

    @user-hv5oe1zx1x

    5 ай бұрын

    she'll be furious and defeated lmao man u guys r cute mashallah

  • @sihamben2806
    @sihamben28062 жыл бұрын

    I use this technique naturally just so I can collect my thoughts and have better response. 👌🏼 nailed it

  • @yehfish88
    @yehfish882 жыл бұрын

    This is true. I always make “um…well” sort of fill-in words before answering. I do find people that use the 3SP tip really attractive and professional. Thanks for pointing this out!

  • @nabadayhalder
    @nabadayhalder2 жыл бұрын

    I paused 30 seconds and made Eye contact with you 😂

  • @jackmorley7444
    @jackmorley7444 Жыл бұрын

    I happen to do this naturally, I didn't realise it was a thing for charisma lol. I always thought it was better to come out with a well constructed sentence than a muddled one

  • @itsalaynnaguys
    @itsalaynnaguys2 жыл бұрын

    My 3sp goes: “…uh…. *answer*”

  • @Dissociatedaf

    @Dissociatedaf

    Жыл бұрын

    That’s the only way it’ll go. I don’t think she realizes other people in the world actually exist 🥴

  • @Bananabear20

    @Bananabear20

    9 ай бұрын

    You’re just used to never improving

  • @ryuk6517
    @ryuk65172 жыл бұрын

    Me : taking a 3sp Someone else jumps to answer the asked question.

  • @RajinderSingh-mj6xc

    @RajinderSingh-mj6xc

    Жыл бұрын

    Great. Happens with me often. 😊😅❤

  • @chaossage8852
    @chaossage88522 жыл бұрын

    Okay, that one was a really good advice, especially for someone with social anxiety

  • @gteixeira

    @gteixeira

    2 жыл бұрын

    It is not, don't follow that. People will pick on you.

  • @souravupadhyay2029

    @souravupadhyay2029

    Жыл бұрын

    Just go out of your house with friends for morning walk somewhere you will learn to socialize slowly im progressing too.

  • @Bananabear20

    @Bananabear20

    9 ай бұрын

    No they won’t

  • @Luey-E

    @Luey-E

    9 ай бұрын

    ​@@gteixeirayou seem like you got some anxiety to work on lol

  • @gteixeira

    @gteixeira

    9 ай бұрын

    @@Luey-E Not at all, I'm not anxious. If you give people a silent stare of 3 seconds they will call you a creep.

  • @rohitjagtap14
    @rohitjagtap14 Жыл бұрын

    I am highly impressed by the personality you've created, your utter delivery, mannerism, along with charisma you pour in your confidence. There's too much to learn from you. Just Thank you! keep making more videos regarding Personality Development.

  • @Jonathan-mm5zx
    @Jonathan-mm5zx2 жыл бұрын

    I usually do this but glad to know it is a formal way of communicating👍🏾

  • @charleybrown5713
    @charleybrown57132 жыл бұрын

    Being who you are and being authentic is the best way to express yourself.

  • @salmaabbasi6978
    @salmaabbasi6978 Жыл бұрын

    Yes, like Jordon Peterson as an example. I noticed that with him.

  • @azamthaheem994
    @azamthaheem994 Жыл бұрын

    You are an exceptional lady having enormous faculties of heart and soul.

  • @HiteshP22
    @HiteshP22 Жыл бұрын

    She is so charismatic😍

  • @olivertaveras9896
    @olivertaveras9896 Жыл бұрын

    It's too surface level. The confidence comes from self esteem. Knowing that you're awesome how you are. 3sp just comes out naturally. High range of emotions and expressiveness comes from high self esteem

  • @ThePojengsidur

    @ThePojengsidur

    Жыл бұрын

    Confidence comes from knowledge, relevant critique, calmness, achievement, the way others look at you anf vice versa, etc. and when you know your own knowledge, then the pause comes naturally from conteplating. If the question was complex forming an answer might also take some time. I now think that self esteem is crap.

  • @Luey-E

    @Luey-E

    9 ай бұрын

    ​@@ThePojengsiduri liked everything except for the way others look at you. People who are prepared but not afraid to be wrong are truly confident. They do care about what people think but only people who are close to them and who they respect

  • @gladstoneb879
    @gladstoneb8796 ай бұрын

    3SP...😊..self confidence is key..😊

  • @jlib7389
    @jlib73892 жыл бұрын

    I can't keep eye contact for three seconds.

  • @stephirothermy9938

    @stephirothermy9938

    2 жыл бұрын

    I feel like if you did it could read creepy. Maybe allow your eyes to relax & look slightly to the side or behind the person you’re speaking with instead of staring into their soul through their eyes 👀 lol

  • @syedahmedyoutube

    @syedahmedyoutube

    Жыл бұрын

    Try for a minute

  • @shekhargupta6718
    @shekhargupta6718 Жыл бұрын

    You are so high on confidence

  • @pankajdabholkar4939
    @pankajdabholkar49392 жыл бұрын

    Maam you have an amazing positive vibe. Bless you.

  • @aabdille
    @aabdille2 жыл бұрын

    How amazing those little tips Zarai 😍

  • @terrencenizam1775
    @terrencenizam1775 Жыл бұрын

    Ya so true you are the epitome of that person...❤❤❤ Pause

  • @Chris-pj7jg
    @Chris-pj7jg Жыл бұрын

    Thank you very much for the advice given. I will surely adopt this. Kind regards.

  • @vishalprasadacoustic
    @vishalprasadacoustic2 жыл бұрын

    Shadè thanks much. You deliver such good quality content.

  • @bigloudandnoisy3601
    @bigloudandnoisy3601 Жыл бұрын

    I’ve always respected people who I can visibly see their thinking process unfold as you tell them a problem and don’t blurt out in emotion instead. Those are the best managers and leaders In the workplace imo

  • @mandoball1980s
    @mandoball1980s Жыл бұрын

    You said all that without pausing or taking a breath. Very impressive

  • @bethbaldrias1778
    @bethbaldrias177810 ай бұрын

    Thank you for your shared tips

  • @madanmohan3896
    @madanmohan3896 Жыл бұрын

    You are amazing in your content.

  • @adnanezerraf9821
    @adnanezerraf9821 Жыл бұрын

    Mindblowing accuracy in pronunciation.

  • @faisaladris1225
    @faisaladris1225 Жыл бұрын

    Amazing way to explain keep up the work

  • @ekamonthewise2395
    @ekamonthewise2395 Жыл бұрын

    I thought I needed to roll for a charisma saving throw

  • @healthtips7687
    @healthtips76872 жыл бұрын

    I love the part that you often repeats your clothes ❤️❤️..........and away from the sick mentality of not repeating clothes ..... that's great indeed

  • @phoenixkb134

    @phoenixkb134

    Жыл бұрын

    What a Fucken weird comment

  • @princeps722
    @princeps722 Жыл бұрын

    You look fabulous 🤩

  • @Mushroom321-
    @Mushroom321- Жыл бұрын

    great content !!, & discovered the pause works.. 😊😊

  • @nicoldavis-johnson7080
    @nicoldavis-johnson708010 ай бұрын

    Like your advice. Thank you for sharing.

  • @careercoachcorporateleader7008
    @careercoachcorporateleader70082 жыл бұрын

    Loved hearing your thoughts! Keep up helping people with nice contents

  • @kelvynjayy
    @kelvynjayy2 жыл бұрын

    Spot on!

  • @AnshumanAnandMantrVani
    @AnshumanAnandMantrVani3 күн бұрын

    Thank You🙏

  • @azafu8942
    @azafu8942 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you queen

  • @VIJAY-io1hz
    @VIJAY-io1hz5 ай бұрын

    Grey colour wow 😮

  • @mujimax007
    @mujimax007 Жыл бұрын

    I find your tips very useful. Thank you!

  • @ShadeZahrai

    @ShadeZahrai

    Жыл бұрын

    Glad you like them!

  • @rorisangmodisane6894
    @rorisangmodisane6894 Жыл бұрын

    I like this woman 🧠

  • @itsmebuddy4580
    @itsmebuddy458011 ай бұрын

    Aweeee...Nice tip. The way you articulate the tips makes a big impact. Thank you.

  • @bennguyen9847
    @bennguyen98472 ай бұрын

    It’s always refreshing to listen to her…!

  • @footwyse
    @footwyse2 жыл бұрын

    Agreed! 💯

  • @jlurodriguez8262
    @jlurodriguez8262Күн бұрын

    Love it 🫶⚡️⚡️

  • @ailispique1245
    @ailispique12454 ай бұрын

    I do this naturally but im just dissassociating lol

  • @asmatkhan5906
    @asmatkhan590611 ай бұрын

    Such a brilliant information, thanks Shade

  • @ShadeZahrai

    @ShadeZahrai

    11 ай бұрын

    Glad it was helpful!

  • @arupsan
    @arupsan Жыл бұрын

    If you interview me I will be entirely silent😂 No pause which is called “NOSP”

  • @germanshepherd8187
    @germanshepherd8187 Жыл бұрын

    Great stuff as always Shade

  • @belpri633
    @belpri6332 жыл бұрын

    What an actual great, practical and easy to apply tip. Thank you!

  • @marcosg20248
    @marcosg20248 Жыл бұрын

    Love this ❤ yes I have to work on the 3Sp 😂 I think I sit in the other camp right now 😮

  • @cdt_pranaykzala1024
    @cdt_pranaykzala102411 ай бұрын

    I recollects my face expression with your video 😊

  • @KINGTANISH07
    @KINGTANISH077 ай бұрын

    Your content is awesome 💯

  • @vanessapehl7581
    @vanessapehl75812 жыл бұрын

    True...

  • @akadirnilavane2861
    @akadirnilavane2861 Жыл бұрын

    Super information!

  • @becg6832
    @becg68322 жыл бұрын

    Absolutely! … I’m loving your intelligence charisma generosity and teachings.

  • @pjeromardesic
    @pjeromardesic2 жыл бұрын

    😍😍😍 so simple and so empowering

  • @Agonyrate
    @Agonyrate2 жыл бұрын

    thank you Shadé.

  • @nurazlan74
    @nurazlan742 жыл бұрын

    Nothing beats sincerety. Say what you mean and mean what you and stand your ground. Sincerety requires courage...

  • @sachinsharma2609
    @sachinsharma26092 жыл бұрын

    Good advice, thanks

  • @DeezNuts-zz1mi
    @DeezNuts-zz1mi10 ай бұрын

    Thank you miss, now im a certified "Charizzma Of Oz"

  • @gregoryclark7566
    @gregoryclark7566 Жыл бұрын

    Great advice. I took 3 seconds before I wrote my response.

  • @k.k3260
    @k.k32602 жыл бұрын

    Aha that's nice ... Thanks for sharing

  • @yvettedejesus3109
    @yvettedejesus3109 Жыл бұрын

    My dad taught me this and it's really helped me out.

  • @giotapapageorgiou489
    @giotapapageorgiou489 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much ❤️

  • @chanelschannel4705
    @chanelschannel4705 Жыл бұрын

    You nailed it

  • @user-pn6qh7nk5q
    @user-pn6qh7nk5q2 жыл бұрын

    Your hair tho🌌😍

  • @KenHoyer
    @KenHoyer2 жыл бұрын

    Great advice

  • @TimothysDream
    @TimothysDream Жыл бұрын

    Shadé! I randomly came across this in my Shorts feed. So fantastic to see you spreading helpful tips. I hope you're doing well. Hope to dance with you again soon. - Tim

  • @ShadeZahrai

    @ShadeZahrai

    Жыл бұрын

    Tim! What a lovely surprise. Hope you're doing great too! Yes, thanks to social media we've had an amazing journey that's taken our business global in a big way. Faysal and I moved base to Koh Samui Island so look us up if you're ever in the area.

  • @ritikarishi3916
    @ritikarishi3916 Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for sharing.

  • @tamiressoares9303
    @tamiressoares9303 Жыл бұрын

    Girl I just landed here from KZread shorts, and I really have to say I love your outfit 🤍🤍🤍

  • @manojdarak2815
    @manojdarak28156 ай бұрын

    You are wonderful lady....everyday I listen to your video 5-10 minutes. Thanks for spreading your knowledge God bless

  • @elianamoreira4075
    @elianamoreira4075 Жыл бұрын

    Gosto muito sim das suas aulas prof

  • @MANDEEPSINGH-ls6uv
    @MANDEEPSINGH-ls6uv9 ай бұрын

    Great ...Your left eye adds more charisma..

  • @jsarkar1091
    @jsarkar10912 жыл бұрын

    Thanks, Sis.❤️💞🙏🥰

  • @Miami11155
    @Miami11155 Жыл бұрын

    I love it✨

  • @lordvenus7999
    @lordvenus7999 Жыл бұрын

    let it flow and dont overthinking it

  • @ashimrai4260
    @ashimrai4260 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much 🙏

  • @ZhiznTV
    @ZhiznTV Жыл бұрын

    Help full for second language learning. I'm Indian and my first language is hindi and when I start speaking specially English front of my friends they don't understand my points so I'd give them couple of seconds to understand that for better reply. And that's really work for me after all language is only a way to correspond with anyone so they real accept it.

  • @1007amir
    @1007amir Жыл бұрын

    This might actually be really helpful! Thanks for sharing!

  • @casabellakollam3663
    @casabellakollam36637 ай бұрын

    You are full of charisma ❣️

  • @reshanyousef8178
    @reshanyousef8178 Жыл бұрын

    You are really a wonderful speaker, thank you very much for those words🙏🏻🌷

  • @rauthers1286
    @rauthers1286 Жыл бұрын

    ❤❤❤ thank you

  • @SandeepKSinha
    @SandeepKSinha Жыл бұрын

    In your videos you speak quite fast without the 3SP yet the charisma is so strong 😊

  • @poonamkamdar6415
    @poonamkamdar6415 Жыл бұрын

    Amazing suggestion .

  • @lovegoddess29
    @lovegoddess29 Жыл бұрын

    Love this! I see EXACTLY what she’s talking about👌🏼

  • @jeffersonchen4680
    @jeffersonchen4680 Жыл бұрын

    You don't see to apply the 3SP in this clip yet you are still very charismatic.

  • @resyjr.2645
    @resyjr.2645 Жыл бұрын

    U hav a great charisma...

  • @ismamsakib5382
    @ismamsakib5382 Жыл бұрын

    You're amazing

  • @alimroz1421
    @alimroz1421 Жыл бұрын

    Nice conversation

  • @saviorodrigues7852
    @saviorodrigues7852 Жыл бұрын

    Thanks ❤❤

  • @gregmoverley7525
    @gregmoverley7525 Жыл бұрын

    Love the Content. Thank Yiu for Sharing !

  • @willsalberg
    @willsalberg6 ай бұрын

    There is so much knowledge in such a short video