Instantly BOOST Your Charisma |
One of the simplest ways to increase your perceived charisma is…
to PAUSE!
Studies demonstrate that charismatic people are supportive, sensitive, nurturing, and considerate. Not only that, they also exude a mysterious, almost intangible quality that’s a unique combination of quiet confidence, credibility and presence.
When they enter a room, people look.
When they talk, people want to listen.
And the best part about charisma is that you can develop it.
One simple way to develop charisma through your presence and perceived confidence starts with how you communicate.
Next time you’re interacting with someone, see if you can pause for 2-3 seconds before responding.
I call it the 3SP - 3 Second Pause.
Of course, you’ll still want to maintain eye contact so they know you’re paying attention, and you want to have an engaged look on your face - a blank stare will probably raise some eyebrows and might even prompt an “are you ok??”… You can even take a small breath before you speak so you ‘audience’ knows something’s coming…
This is a particularly useful skill when in interviews, on panels or when presenting in public and answering questions.
Have you ever seen anyone use this and what did you think?
Or have you used it? How did you find it? 👇
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-House, R. J., & Howell, J. M. (1992). Personality and charismatic leadership. The Leadership Quarterly, 3(2), 81-108.
-De Cremer, D., & Van Knippenberg, D. (2002). How do leaders promote cooperation? The effects of charisma and procedural fairness. Journal of Applied Psychology, 87(5), 858.
-Tskhay, K. O., Zhu, R., Zou, C., & Rule, N. O. (2018). Charisma in everyday life: Conceptualization and validation of the General Charisma Inventory. Journal of personality and social psychology, 114(1), 131.
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Imagine two friends having a conversation and each one waiting 3 seconds to answer every time a question is asked 🤣🤣🤣
@doit7779
Жыл бұрын
Same Like the indian dramas . 😂😂
@neonyoutobe5405
Жыл бұрын
@@doit7779 Demtananana deem tanana a Doom tanana doom tana Nana .... Graphics 😂🤣🤣
@babypenkinese
Жыл бұрын
That definitely happens when you’re as high as a kite.
@mauricioesma
Жыл бұрын
(Waits 3 seconds) Right!?
@steepdeej
Жыл бұрын
If this was your first thought that came to mind after this video I don’t think you got the point. Maybe, I dunno you. We’ll see
My wife asked if I love her, I tried 3SP. Now I cook my own food
@salmaabbasi6978
Жыл бұрын
You silly goose !!!!🤣🤣🤣how is it working out for you 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
@SarahPrincess-bh7tf
3 ай бұрын
😂😂
@DB-xo6xh
3 ай бұрын
That's a long ass time!
@noemistephanie93
2 ай бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@cornwellhampande334
Ай бұрын
😅😅
Person: *does a 3 second pause* Me: *walks away because I think they're done talking*
@leovylrivera1930
Жыл бұрын
This guy is funny 😂
@RajinderSingh-mj6xc
Жыл бұрын
Love your words. Same here.
@Clumsy_dame
11 ай бұрын
Thats why you have to maintain eye contact😅
@aberpatricia5730
10 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@lauraberry6081
10 ай бұрын
Maybe do a 3sp after theirs lol
6SP = Double Charisma. 9SP = Triple Charisma. 12SP = Quadruple Charisma..., Keep going for 24 hours = Full day of Peace & Absolute Charisma.
@MindSphere861
3 ай бұрын
😂😂
@milindthakur8658
Ай бұрын
😂
@mohammeddilshanka9255
7 күн бұрын
Infinite pause, charisma is my middle name (it's not really)
@anithat.p5625
2 күн бұрын
😂😂😂
Me who can't even collect my thoughts in 5 minutes 😭 Edit: Thanks for 1.2k likes
@armandodemiguel7989
2 жыл бұрын
I tend to have the correct answer when in bed, 5 hours later.
@peaceman97amd97
2 жыл бұрын
😂
@abdotp
Жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣 me too man
@Shamuto7
Жыл бұрын
Started looking creepy staring silently for 5mins
@pubududanansooriya3548
Жыл бұрын
Bring it up guys, these conditions can be improved. 💪
Yes. You don't have to jump into everone's talk. Being patient, and waiting to respond is wonderful... and if I am talking with someone who is constantly interrupting... i can let them talk. I can let that person who needs to talk, talk. It's my gift.
@Catthepunk
Жыл бұрын
So charismatic.
@ambriaashley3383
Жыл бұрын
Same.
@pawelpawlowin95
10 ай бұрын
You're speaking to slow. I would left the room if you talked to me like that.
@joniman6899
9 ай бұрын
@@pawelpawlowin95 work on your patience
@pawelpawlowin95
9 ай бұрын
@@joniman6899 Sorry I was high when I wrote that
I can’t stop looking at her hair ❤
@Onmysheet
5 ай бұрын
And her.....assets
I’m using this in my fights with wifey! I can think of better comebacks now
@kshitijguleria8594
Жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣
@peaceofmindofpeace1650
Жыл бұрын
Haha that's funny and kind of cute
@suntzu1409
Жыл бұрын
You can think of better comebacks now, right? Right?
@user-hv5oe1zx1x
5 ай бұрын
she'll be furious and defeated lmao man u guys r cute mashallah
I use this technique naturally just so I can collect my thoughts and have better response. 👌🏼 nailed it
This is true. I always make “um…well” sort of fill-in words before answering. I do find people that use the 3SP tip really attractive and professional. Thanks for pointing this out!
I paused 30 seconds and made Eye contact with you 😂
I happen to do this naturally, I didn't realise it was a thing for charisma lol. I always thought it was better to come out with a well constructed sentence than a muddled one
My 3sp goes: “…uh…. *answer*”
@Dissociatedaf
Жыл бұрын
That’s the only way it’ll go. I don’t think she realizes other people in the world actually exist 🥴
@Bananabear20
9 ай бұрын
You’re just used to never improving
Me : taking a 3sp Someone else jumps to answer the asked question.
@RajinderSingh-mj6xc
Жыл бұрын
Great. Happens with me often. 😊😅❤
Okay, that one was a really good advice, especially for someone with social anxiety
@gteixeira
2 жыл бұрын
It is not, don't follow that. People will pick on you.
@souravupadhyay2029
Жыл бұрын
Just go out of your house with friends for morning walk somewhere you will learn to socialize slowly im progressing too.
@Bananabear20
9 ай бұрын
No they won’t
@Luey-E
9 ай бұрын
@@gteixeirayou seem like you got some anxiety to work on lol
@gteixeira
9 ай бұрын
@@Luey-E Not at all, I'm not anxious. If you give people a silent stare of 3 seconds they will call you a creep.
I am highly impressed by the personality you've created, your utter delivery, mannerism, along with charisma you pour in your confidence. There's too much to learn from you. Just Thank you! keep making more videos regarding Personality Development.
I usually do this but glad to know it is a formal way of communicating👍🏾
Being who you are and being authentic is the best way to express yourself.
Yes, like Jordon Peterson as an example. I noticed that with him.
You are an exceptional lady having enormous faculties of heart and soul.
She is so charismatic😍
It's too surface level. The confidence comes from self esteem. Knowing that you're awesome how you are. 3sp just comes out naturally. High range of emotions and expressiveness comes from high self esteem
@ThePojengsidur
Жыл бұрын
Confidence comes from knowledge, relevant critique, calmness, achievement, the way others look at you anf vice versa, etc. and when you know your own knowledge, then the pause comes naturally from conteplating. If the question was complex forming an answer might also take some time. I now think that self esteem is crap.
@Luey-E
9 ай бұрын
@@ThePojengsiduri liked everything except for the way others look at you. People who are prepared but not afraid to be wrong are truly confident. They do care about what people think but only people who are close to them and who they respect
3SP...😊..self confidence is key..😊
I can't keep eye contact for three seconds.
@stephirothermy9938
2 жыл бұрын
I feel like if you did it could read creepy. Maybe allow your eyes to relax & look slightly to the side or behind the person you’re speaking with instead of staring into their soul through their eyes 👀 lol
@syedahmedyoutube
Жыл бұрын
Try for a minute
You are so high on confidence
Maam you have an amazing positive vibe. Bless you.
How amazing those little tips Zarai 😍
Ya so true you are the epitome of that person...❤❤❤ Pause
Thank you very much for the advice given. I will surely adopt this. Kind regards.
Shadè thanks much. You deliver such good quality content.
I’ve always respected people who I can visibly see their thinking process unfold as you tell them a problem and don’t blurt out in emotion instead. Those are the best managers and leaders In the workplace imo
You said all that without pausing or taking a breath. Very impressive
Thank you for your shared tips
You are amazing in your content.
Mindblowing accuracy in pronunciation.
Amazing way to explain keep up the work
I thought I needed to roll for a charisma saving throw
I love the part that you often repeats your clothes ❤️❤️..........and away from the sick mentality of not repeating clothes ..... that's great indeed
@phoenixkb134
Жыл бұрын
What a Fucken weird comment
You look fabulous 🤩
great content !!, & discovered the pause works.. 😊😊
Like your advice. Thank you for sharing.
Loved hearing your thoughts! Keep up helping people with nice contents
Spot on!
Thank You🙏
Thank you queen
Grey colour wow 😮
I find your tips very useful. Thank you!
@ShadeZahrai
Жыл бұрын
Glad you like them!
I like this woman 🧠
Aweeee...Nice tip. The way you articulate the tips makes a big impact. Thank you.
It’s always refreshing to listen to her…!
Agreed! 💯
Love it 🫶⚡️⚡️
I do this naturally but im just dissassociating lol
Such a brilliant information, thanks Shade
@ShadeZahrai
11 ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
If you interview me I will be entirely silent😂 No pause which is called “NOSP”
Great stuff as always Shade
What an actual great, practical and easy to apply tip. Thank you!
Love this ❤ yes I have to work on the 3Sp 😂 I think I sit in the other camp right now 😮
I recollects my face expression with your video 😊
Your content is awesome 💯
True...
Super information!
Absolutely! … I’m loving your intelligence charisma generosity and teachings.
😍😍😍 so simple and so empowering
thank you Shadé.
Nothing beats sincerety. Say what you mean and mean what you and stand your ground. Sincerety requires courage...
Good advice, thanks
Thank you miss, now im a certified "Charizzma Of Oz"
Great advice. I took 3 seconds before I wrote my response.
Aha that's nice ... Thanks for sharing
My dad taught me this and it's really helped me out.
Thank you so much ❤️
You nailed it
Your hair tho🌌😍
Great advice
Shadé! I randomly came across this in my Shorts feed. So fantastic to see you spreading helpful tips. I hope you're doing well. Hope to dance with you again soon. - Tim
@ShadeZahrai
Жыл бұрын
Tim! What a lovely surprise. Hope you're doing great too! Yes, thanks to social media we've had an amazing journey that's taken our business global in a big way. Faysal and I moved base to Koh Samui Island so look us up if you're ever in the area.
Thanks for sharing.
Girl I just landed here from KZread shorts, and I really have to say I love your outfit 🤍🤍🤍
You are wonderful lady....everyday I listen to your video 5-10 minutes. Thanks for spreading your knowledge God bless
Gosto muito sim das suas aulas prof
Great ...Your left eye adds more charisma..
Thanks, Sis.❤️💞🙏🥰
I love it✨
let it flow and dont overthinking it
Thank you so much 🙏
Help full for second language learning. I'm Indian and my first language is hindi and when I start speaking specially English front of my friends they don't understand my points so I'd give them couple of seconds to understand that for better reply. And that's really work for me after all language is only a way to correspond with anyone so they real accept it.
This might actually be really helpful! Thanks for sharing!
You are full of charisma ❣️
You are really a wonderful speaker, thank you very much for those words🙏🏻🌷
❤❤❤ thank you
In your videos you speak quite fast without the 3SP yet the charisma is so strong 😊
Amazing suggestion .
Love this! I see EXACTLY what she’s talking about👌🏼
You don't see to apply the 3SP in this clip yet you are still very charismatic.
U hav a great charisma...
You're amazing
Nice conversation
Thanks ❤❤
Love the Content. Thank Yiu for Sharing !
There is so much knowledge in such a short video