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@DiamondEyez456

2 ай бұрын

OMG..haha..'ya everyone is looking at you." then gets him to stand up "You have a look at them too!" - I LOVE THAT!! TOO GOOD!!!

@Rene-rj6lv

27 күн бұрын

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@Rene-rj6lv

27 күн бұрын

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@Sharuk28

4 күн бұрын

For me, it was the inner child part. Like yeah, we can be masochists and have dirty thoughts that are fun now, but our childhood self who didn't even know the concept of enjoying pain, also used to have fun, and that type of fun, goofing around, feels so right. The older I get I've always just looked back and cringed at younger me's actions, but now I'm just proud. I miss how expressive I was, especially the weirder cringey stuff.

“People like fakeness more than authenticity. But they will never love fakeness. And fakeness will destroy you inside.” This pretty much summed up my life experience. Needed to hear it.

@Sani-yh4dh

Ай бұрын

❤❤❤

@natashalewolfe2141

13 күн бұрын

Same David

This guy has thrown all other self help and phycology out the door. For me anyway. Keep doing what you do, our world is screaming for realness.🌟

Imagine having a communications teacher like Julien in college to help with presentations, and class speeches in front of your whole class that would be awesome.

@user-xq7to1ht2m

3 ай бұрын

that would not be aewesome, he would devalidate everyone, only authentic allowed

@user-xq7to1ht2m

3 ай бұрын

that would not be aewesome, he would devalidate everyone, only authentic allowed

@Gloriaglo0502

2 ай бұрын

@@user-xq7to1ht2m To me it would in my opinion he would help everyone to get over the hump with time and little by little you may improve. I'll take him any day. Someone who actually takes his time for you to just let go and drop the front.

@ranc1977

2 ай бұрын

Anyone who tells you that he has a solution, a cure, a system, a therapy, a course, framework, religion, love, empathy or rules for life - is a glorified con-artist. Probably a psychopathic narcissist. And anyone who tells you this is out for your money and adulation. He seeks either narcissistic supply or power, or money. They want your subservient admiration and everything you have, because they are merciless and callous, & they are very sick people. 🟥 Prof. Sam Vaknin

@usernameisunavailable8270

2 ай бұрын

If I was being real in front of this guy i would be either the goofiness one in the room or I'd be in tears. I'm either emotional angry/sad, or in a good mood with a silly level over 9000.

Thanks for your work, Julien! I'm tired of being a people pleaser and always struggling to have my family and friend's approval. I opened up about this to my closest friend and he told me the same thing as you: I don't need to chase people's approval, first love and say to myself that I'm good enough.

@JulienHimself

3 ай бұрын

You're so welcome! And yes, it comes down to valuing your own wellbeing and learning how to LET GO of being so attached to external validation... 👌

@Proximity94

3 ай бұрын

You’re lucky to have such a friend.

@scatchef

3 ай бұрын

I ❤ your realness bro! I'm taking your courage to be real today.

@daphnialxs3918

3 ай бұрын

@@JulienHimselfIt’s so easy to say and think and imagine but when it comes to the moment itself the feelings takes over. I feel so un comfortabel, stressed. I’m also a highly sensitive person so I feel these negative emotions so much more. It’s so complex, there could be so many reasons why I feel this way. I want to be able so badly to not care and just be authentic. But at the same time I am just a caring person. I care about this world and people. On the other side it is actually destroying me to care and analyse everything so much. I am lost…

@karl882

3 ай бұрын

@@daphnialxs3918 You have to accept these uncomfortable feelings. To embrace them. That's what Julien says in the "letting go" part. And btw this what almost every "spiritual leader" such as Eckhart Tolle and the likes say as well. The reason they all say this is because it's true. You have inner work to do. When the discomfort starts, pay attention to it. Face it. It's like going to a gym (only in this case, the gym is within). It's painful, but over time the muscles grow and you get better. At some point the pain won't scare you anymore. You'll smile or even laugh at it because you know that ultimately it's totally harmless and it will go away anyway. It's only so powerful because you are trying to avoid it. This fear gives it power. Not the feeling itself. They way out is through. Much love ❤️! You are already waking up, so don't worry. You'll make it!

The day you are liked by everyone is the day you are the most fake person alive. This is the best part...

impressive how the guys body language changed after he spoke out and was honest. he looked up a lot more and fidgeted less with his arms

My new therapist made me realize that I'm a people pleaser. I already knew that I had severe anxiety for other things but she pointed out that trying to please everyone has been adding to my anxiety. Thanks for your work!

@ranc1977

2 ай бұрын

BBC Century of Self (2002)

@georgewashingtoniv8745

Ай бұрын

Well we're all people pleasers at some points in our lives so your therapist is kind of full of it to be honest. They're leaving out too much information and being vague with you. Which is why I don't like therapy anymore. It's very restrictive, controlled, and vague and it's basically a program so they can get their golden ticket paycheck at the end of it or at your expense.

@pewcfpv8056

Ай бұрын

@@georgewashingtoniv8745 well this was just during some conversation we were having. The real therapy she does is EMDR therapy and she's very good at it.

@ranc1977

Ай бұрын

@@georgewashingtoniv8745 Problem comes how to be self expressive. And it was at this point that American capitalism decided it was going to step in and help these new individuals to express themselves. And in the process make a lot of money. We were asking people to think about things that they had never taught about before and they liked thinking about them. Like what motivated them, what was important to them. 🎞 The Century of the Self (2002)

@pewcfpv8056

17 күн бұрын

@@georgewashingtoniv8745 dont be so quick to judge. This was during a brief conversation with her. She does EMDR therapy primarily and she's very good at it.

I'm a nice guy bcoz I'm very polite and respectful with everyone. But I'm not a people pleaser as I'm very comfortable in my own skin. I always mind my own business and I don't seek others approval to make myself feel better. So my point is, you can still be a nice guy without being a people pleaser. Be nice, but also set your boundaries at the same time.

@tommybinson

Ай бұрын

A fine comment, thanks. We can use tact, politeness and respect without being soft or indulgent towards anyone.

@Lilith-9223

Ай бұрын

I totally agree with you; a lot of people confuse authenticity and self reliance with arrogance and rudeness.

@keldealmeida5768

18 күн бұрын

Wow, exactly what I think. Thank you for posting this comment. 🙏🏽❤️

@marionikic6276

3 күн бұрын

Pure gold! 🪙

I get the most intense anxiety when he calls people out 😅 💀 I’d probably pass out if that was me.

@pastrami00

2 ай бұрын

I have to pause the video so my heart doesn't blow up...

@waveexistence3512

2 ай бұрын

@@pastrami00 me too. I couldn’t even finish it tbh. I’ll have to try again later.

@pastrami00

2 ай бұрын

@@waveexistence3512 I couldn't either. I saved it 'for later'.

@kitkatkatty1363

Ай бұрын

I would cry if I was called . And yes when the people get called I feel so much anxiety that there feeling and it makes me feel like I have to go up there and It’s so hard to watch

@bjnwright

Ай бұрын

Yeah, same here. Don't get me wrong, I think this guy's great - but, words and logic don't help my anxiety. I know there's nothing to be afraid of, rationally. But, simply 'knowing' this stuff isn't effective and I've read and watched a lot on this topic. 'Doing' is the only thing effective for me. Feeling the fear and doing it anyway. Diet. Exercise. Medication. But, in terms of motivation, light at the end of the tunnel, this dude is very good.

Being Loud Obnoxious and opinionated has got me into a lot of trouble in the past. I used to be worried about everything, everyone and have reached the point to where I don't care anymore and it feels wonderful.

@ranc1977

2 ай бұрын

Self consuming self. This is how we end up with Trump and climate catastrophe and Russian invasion.

Thank you Julien. I've never seen anyone tackle anxiety, insecurity and especially AUTHENTICITY the way you do. Your voice is one that is more needed than ever in this world.

@JulienHimself

3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much! I’m glad my content resonates! 🙌

@stevkelly9996

2 ай бұрын

That's true bro..... I feel same %100

@ritad3747

Ай бұрын

Perfect man for the job Amazing 😊

"We are all equal, but we are all different " WORD !

Self acceptance is a virtue

@tylerlupercio256

2 ай бұрын

HUGEEEEE virtue 🔥

I was thinking Stefan was very kind for not letting his inner child say 'this guy is cocky, huh?' ..

@ISAIAH96MARTIN

9 күн бұрын

Well that wouldn't be his inner child saying that, that would be more of an ego thing

With children nowadays, we need seminars in the schools or as events for the kids to hear this. As a 17-year old senior at a high school, I’ve certainly dealt with/ am still dealing with these kinds of issues.

@nothanks5520

2 ай бұрын

Don't care what others think. Quit social media too it's all toxic BS.

@thescatterpiratesquarepant7935

2 ай бұрын

Deleting socials can actually come with negative side effects. Having a decent social media page will actually give you huge reputation buffs for very low effort.

@lag00n54

Ай бұрын

@@nothanks5520 it's just social media hell most of the adults still have this issue of hiding behind some mask they all or most majority experience some bullying in school , even if it wasn't harsh the negative reaction from others even just affected us in someway, we got defensive, we started being self-concious and as he says we lock that inner child as we grow up, we got that if we do this = bad reaction, if make a mistake = people see you bad etc.. it happens eitherway without social media social media can just make it worse, amplies things

I definitely see myself in you Julien. I was so shy and now I'm a public speaker too. It's what makes me feel so alive. I still struggle with wanting to be liked but I am not inauthentic to get approval. I watch these videos because it's so satisfying to see the transformation in people. You are amazing at what you do. Kind but strong enough to battle ego.

This is the first time julian has popped up on my feed in years... glad to see you doing well. Your speaches helped me find "the real me" after 30 years of masking autism and adhd... and you were right. MFs be jello as hell. I might not have a lot of friends right now... that just means my schedule has opened up to finding real friends that appreciate me for me.

@JulienHimself

3 ай бұрын

Nice! Welcome back to the channel! 🙌

@yourdivine33

3 ай бұрын

👌👌👌👏👏👏👏 Love this for you!

@tommybinson

Ай бұрын

Fine comment and great video. My practising social freedom and conversation with strangers feels fab. Even once-shy people like me can lose their ego-based fear of people's disapproval. With practice, we can develop amazing social skills. There, Julian and Owen have inspired me. Thanks, guys!

@margaretlockhart6198

16 күн бұрын

@user-cv7kfg1z; I can especially relate to your last line or two! I am with you there, and thanks for sharing!☺️

I was drinking my own tears throughout this whole video. Thanks for the amazing content ❤

00:00 🚪 Create a safe space to drop the facade and be authentic. 01:35 🎭 De-validate the fake front and embrace realness. 04:47 💡 Trying to maintain a perfect facade creates anxiety and pressure. 07:47 💔 Authenticity may repel some, but it's crucial for self-fulfillment. 10:21 🤥 Seeking universal approval leads to a fake persona. 12:24 💎 Authenticity is valued because it's rare in a world of fakeness. 16:30 🧒 Honor your inner child and prioritize self-validation over pleasing others. 18:30 🔄 Redefine "cool" as authenticity, owning everything about yourself. 20:40 🙅‍♂ Don't shy away from uncomfortable truths about your past experiences. 22:34 🎭 Validate authenticity, even if it means revealing insecurities or vulnerabilities. 24:14 😌 Acknowledging and owning your truths can alleviate anxiety and lighten your emotional load. 25:18 🤔 Practice social intelligence by discerning when and how to share personal truths appropriately.

@redwanislam2377

3 ай бұрын

Thanks 👍👍

@not0self0explanatory

2 ай бұрын

Thanks so much for doing this.

This hit home.. I am a people pleaser and I'm just after realising that this is why I'm terrified of all kinds of situations.. Thank you

Thank you Julien, amazing content. Based on this, I think that I have a lack of self confidence that goes deep, it controlled my life so far such that I always tried to prove to myself, by means of external approval, that I was worthy of being appreciated. You are right, I kept looking for the next "fix" like a drug addict, without being able to get out of this loop, to get to the root of the problem. I hope that realizing this now will help me move on.

"You experience anxiety when you have something to hide." - That fresh perspective blew my mind away. Thank you for that. Now I’m off to ponder about it and thinking of ways how I am abusing my inner child so I can take the steps towards changing it. Thank you Julien

I wasn't looking for this kind of video but it was on my feed so I decided to watch. So glad I did, this was very inciteful and will help alot. Thanks

I love this this literally me in 26 minutes. I spoke of a lot of insecurities I have and now I can start working on the root of the problem. Thank you sir

Aaaaaahhhhh ...... such explicit truth! So very often in my life "giving to gain" causing myself and many a great deal of pain. And now I need to learn to let go - surrender - and let that inner Golden Child of mine out - listen, love, be guided by him ... nourish him. A long life lived and addicted to my Mr. Nice Guy syndrome - draining, constant inner battles, silent and 'polite' living frustrations WTF ... let go - thanks for the high quality and enlightening inspiration

Respect. Everbody has their own pace to become himself. Best path to follow. Great.

This class is the best treatment out there for social anxiety and etc.

Being able to share our truth, nothing to hide as we can't hide.

yeah ok, i got the point. but at some momemts id have said " shut up, you put me in front of people and only forgot to pull my pants down or what?" especially in a different language? only to hear something that you call authenticity? shyness can also be authentic. its not always the shy persons mistake. rudeness under the flag of authenticity is in my eyes a lack of respect in some way. you dudes did amazing, i wouldnt wanted to be in your position. nevertheless, i got the point, but with hard methodes, those dudes had to go through. nevertheless, thanks for your video 😊 hopp schwitz, grüsse aus Österreich 🎉

Man this was dope , had me super engaged like I was there , that’s what happens when things flow with authenticity versus a over constructed structure

Thank you my friend ❤😘. And much respect to the 2 guys who stood up as well! Keep going!

Yo I resonated big time with my second brotha! After primary school I became really shy when talking to girls because of being rejected once or twice when I tried to open up. This experience or to be more precise the fear of going through rejection again still sticks to me until today like a little mugger who steals my confidence in a confronting situation from the beginning. Watching the video and realizing that I am not the only one who is struggling with sort of the same problem defenitly encourages me but I'm still kinda pissed off that I do so little about it even though I know I have to leave my comfort zone and front my fears to change something and to be in peace with myself. I appreciate the work and the good spirit guys, I thank you a lot!

So glad I came across your channel. I'm literally tired of my people pleasing habit. Working on it for the last two years. I used to apologise for everything lol. Love from India 🇮🇳

I feel like what you're saying is totally opposite of the social media adviceses and I love that. Social media says that we should love ourselfs but in order to do that we should change the way we dress, the way we sit or basically the way we look. I was trying to be 'that girl' for loving myself and I still am occasionally but I feel like your message needs to be all over social media because we don't need no pressure to express ourselfs

Love you man ❤️🙏🏼the way you help humans is a beautiful piece of art , love you all

OR, just realize that nobody cares about you really. They are just wrapped up in themselves. We all are. Somehow, it's freeing to know this.☮

@Natty183

17 күн бұрын

Yeah, that's what helped me the most. The people in my past wouldn't have done what they did if they cared about me. Especially my family. Once I accepted that I've only ever been a mark or a useful tool and let go of the idea that anyone will ever love me, I started to climb out of CPTSD cycles.

This man is amazing I had to comment because one like isn't expressive enough of how helpful I have found this video 🙌🏼

The more i listen to him...the more i like him! and his seminars of course!!!

@JulienHimself

3 ай бұрын

🙌

Julien, you are one of the best at making people be themselves. Shyness and awkwardness stifle our personalities, and the only thing that can break our social barriers is by talking to people.

You are a great coach sir, thanks for such quality contents, Love from India

@JulienHimself

3 ай бұрын

You're very welcome!

I needed this. I don't need to get along with every last person.

Hi, Swiss guy here too... :D I'd like to note something you might not agree with, on how you react with their un-eased attitude. Don't you think pushing hard someone who's relatively shy is a little off-topic? I mean, I agree with you on how we need to acknowledge our own "fakeness" and work on it. But as someone who's struggled both to find my real-me and with my self-critic mentality since a very very young age, I think you're also confusing fake shy attitude for shyness. Moreover, I could literally turn the card back at you saying you do this and that when you're on stage, that you wouldn't need to do if you were 100% real. This is judgmental at worse and clumsy at best. But be careful not to judge too fast others' behavior based on your own biases. Thanks though for sharing this speech with us!

Regarding loudness you have to consider people don't always appreciate it for other reasons than being shy or reserved. Sometimes it's simply overwhelming and literally physically uncomfortable, just like too loud music isn't pleasurable and it starts to hurt. There is a difference between being overly loud and overly timid. Overly loud, even if you don't try to win someone over can still be too much.

You are so real!! I can see that. I can also you are still going through the journey, figuring things out, authenticity!!!!!!!!!!!

Hey Julien, love ur content. Would you please do a video on how to overcome lack of confidence due to sickness. Or physical limitations. Bdw u r awesome. Thank you.

This might well be the best video I have seen on KZread in my whole life ❤

This is gonna be a tough task to stop as i have been one for a very long time 17 years but going into adulthood im really willing to work on this i will change this ❤️

Hey Julien! Amazing video. Thank you for creating and sharing it. The biggest insight that I had was you sharing your journey of seeing the audience as the enemy. I sometimes notice doing that myself in my conversations / presentations / posts. How did you deal with that layer?

When I was working in a call center company before, I had a team mate who's very opposite to the vast majority. She doesn't care if she looks outdated, and even not cared about being presentable to everyone. I thought she was just ignoring us coz or she thinks of herself as above us. However, I now realize that she just doesn't please people. She can have a different views from our topics and not care if someone gets mad at her. She's just being authentically herself. That is the best key take away that I've learned from this video. Thank you so much for showing us this!

I'm a little bit shocked on how he was trying to beat the self esteem guy's down to prove his point.... Really useful info, really raw way to try and prove himself right

Because we live in a world of entrepreneurial trust me projection, but behind closed doors a different person. Vulnerability and authenticity makes people really uncomfortable because they fear their front and reputation will be exposed. YET, they insist on something they know very little about: transparency. It's so one-sided. When people ask me how I am I tell them and they run away. It's about running away from emotions and that includes the emotions of others. Narcissists love to bring down authentic people too.

Man, thanks! God is great! I took me to your page!

My take (from my own experiences and this video): Authenticity takes courage. You have that courage. Courage because even thought some will love you, some will not!!!!!!!

This content just gets better and better

Julien has gained my respect by how kind and supportive he treats others aside from being a great public speaket

Do you not think the problem is that people can no longer be there authentic self because of the anxiety of being perceived as anything else but their authentic self, and that in itself is the struggle of fighting and overcoming being perceived as a shaking mess as that is not you in normal life or in your comfort zone.

Such awesome depth you take us to always!!! At 21:36 when he was trying remember the first time where he got nervous, I was following the MY trail of whys with him. Then I remembered that Julien's one of the root why was being a self-destructive artist. But I took it even further so that I can relate it to myself and asked what would be the reason he was a self-destructive artist in the first place? What does a final why look like? Julien, What was your next step during introspection once you realised that you're a self-destructive artist? Nevertheless, you, David Hawkins, Eckhart Tolle are those coaches that helped my so much!!

Literally,,, It is a amazing session Julien❤

@JulienHimself

3 ай бұрын

Thank you!

I think the guy in the white shirt was "cool and expressive" from the moment he stood up

@mubeenreminders7220

3 ай бұрын

He was. But you'll notice these self-improvement/authenticity performers seem to have a mild allergy to people already having the answers. They mock and almost gaslight them into being something they're not. Notice how triggered they get especially if the crowd likes the person.

@zoroztheg4mer

3 ай бұрын

@@mubeenreminders7220 I couldnt agree more

@pinkrey4277

Ай бұрын

@@mubeenreminders7220isn’t this plain to everyone? Are comments being deleted by julian lol. Latching on this poor swismans hands embracing was hard to watch

@ld8509

Ай бұрын

@mubeenreminders7220... completely agree with you. Well said.

Julien I watched the majority of videos where you put people on the spot and I really wonder what they enjoy more: to be authentic in front of a crowd or the intimacy you create in order to get them to do that… if I was there on stage and you’d ask me these questions that show so much care I would have butterflies

@oB_Session

2 ай бұрын

Oh my goodness girl, you smitten

Ahh, if I spoke, said or acted toward anyone (loved one’s included) the way I actually feel or want to, spoke to the ppl I’m around what’s really on my mind I’d be arrested. The reason almost everyone put’s on a “fake” persona when talking/interacting in public is to safe guard ourselves from being in legal trouble. Being fake keeps you a free person!

@jordanparanihi1947

Күн бұрын

Just parts of you that are bottling up undealt with anger bro. If you got help with that, then maybe you'd realise your truths aren't only destructive. Look up internal family systems, it's a really easy way of going into it. Being fake is the worst prison - even if a man is in prison, he could still be a free man inside himself. That's what it means to be truly free. ❤

Love you Julian, absolute legend. My question is how do I know I’m being authentic versus trying hard? I’m not sure if I’m self sabotaging or being myself when it comes to being a teacher. I have no clue if it’s in perfect alignment or I keep making excuses because it’s more work/so few are doing it/who cares? Hard to decipher clearly.

I'm also struggling with people pleasing tendencies. And it's painful. Especially when you know you're doing it. Because you're so used to it, you resort to those behaviors by default because it's comfortable. And then you feel mad at yourself for doing it. It's a vicious cycle that I'm starting to break. Also, it got to a point where I was just thinking whether or not people liked me, and not whether I liked them or not. I was trying to be liked by people I didn't like or even wanted to be around. 😂

My boyfriend introduced me to your videos and in the beginning I thought you were a real douche. This morning I found myself waking up depressed and clicking on your video and now feeling SO MUCH BETTER. Really great video. You’re amazing at what you do. You’re like opening up a portal into a world of authenticity and aliveness Thank you!

I love this. It's the opposite of "fake it until you make it"

@JulienHimself

5 күн бұрын

Instead of "fake it until you make it" 👉 "Act real until you remember" 👌

The 1 video i was really searching for. Thank you😊

@JulienHimself

3 ай бұрын

You're so welcome! Glad this resonated so deeply with you!

Julien, incredible content. Thank you so much. On an entirely unrelated note, where can I get pants like yours? 🙏 I love them so much.

I learned this the hard way with a job. I do awesome at interviews. Got the job. I went in the first day and put my “best foot forward.” Every one was like….. she is AMAZING! Then when I finally showed my regular daily self …everyone thought something was wrong with me. They thought I was sick or something. It actually sabotaged my job. My next job, I purposely was rather bland in my interview. My first few days, I just acted like my average self. Then when I did something cool… everyone was pleasantly surprised but didn’t hold me to an impossible standard.

Julien thanks for this video. Greetings from Lucerne

For me helping to be me is to accept that I myself must also stop judging others just like I fear they will judge me. Also, who are afraid of authentic people? Narcissists. Who love to controle people pleasers? Narcissists.

julien is the master of public speaking which is no easy task to do...

A lot of this also relates to the gynocentric society we grew up in. Men are taught to act a certain way around women which stifles us. Amazing content Julien!

You are amazing!!

Thank you Julien !

Nice video , thank you Julien for being yourself and helping a sad soul like myself to recognize and work on my anxieties and insecurities . Gold content . Merci beaucoup ☺️

Eh, I think it’s a balance. Just started a new job and I’m a bit more careful, and become more authentic with people individually when I sense they’re down with it. There is such a thing as being too authentic (thanks alcohol).

@hummingbird4934

Ай бұрын

True I’m guilty of this. I try not to trauma dump when I’m having a bad day but it’s not easy! Luckily I have great relationships with the people I work with and it’s nice that we feel safe enough to express ourselves (I’m not alone in doing it!)

@georgewashingtoniv8745

Ай бұрын

Yeah I work at a coal mine. If I were to be more "authentic" then I'd probably end up getting in a full blown fight and possibly losing my job. Not to mention the headache of having to face it over and over again day after day because now these meat and potato heads got their little sparkly sprinkle fairy glitter egos "challenged." People are hypocritical is the problem and don't like to be challenged to where you just lose family members and jobs now a days. Authenticity has essentially become a regulated, robotic, and programmed "entity."

What's tricky for me is being around too many anxious/angry people and having to battle with turning into one. Its such a common occurrence to be authentic and get dog-piled by other people's insecurities.

I like how he calls it out when someone shakes or shying when they aren't supposed to. It's like waking them up, shaking them up. Except this was a safe place to be called out like that bec everyone's into one thing going on.

I think the main issue for people who don't speak English fluently is culture change. 1) I moved from Europe with the belief that Americans are too polite, try to look nice, it's almost always fake, but that's their culture. Therefore, as a newcomer, it is absolutely necessary for me to imitate the same behavior in order to fit in with this kind of society. 2) If I say something loudly and confidently, and a native speaker asks me to repeat it (any reason), I will lose all confidence in my knowledge, my language, and start thinking: “Did I pronounce that incorrectly or do I just need to repeat it or whatever ???" 3) sometimes I didn’t catch smth , sometimes I lost words to describe my thoughts, this also affects the loss of confidence and as a result I will start talking like a little mouse in the corner and worrying about everyone thinks I’m stupid If I come to my homeland, I can do anything, but here... Maybe it would be better to shift the focus to the fact that the local society will accept us for who we are, and no one will end up on the street among the homeless just because stopped licking the asses of the colleagues, bosses and the guy from the network party? Ps: while I was looking at this guy on stage, I saw myself 😅😢

Towards the end, there’s a little bit of a communication problem, that the lecture does not quite seem to completely comprehend. The gentleman in the white shirt not completely understanding initially that he’s looking for an incident I believe when there was a transition to not cool. I could be wrong, but I know learning German as an American, and being in school in Germany they were instances were I just didn’t understand The totality of what was being asked of me. Still a very good exercise and I have learned so much

@usernameisunavailable8270

2 ай бұрын

Yeah the language barrier made it very awkward when it didnt have to be. He was deemed anxious but I guarantee if he was asked to speak in his own language, his body language would ease up.

Mostly we are pretending to be someone else then we are because of the fear which is running in our body-mind system and very often we are not even aware of it. It's not just that I wanna be liked by others, first and foremost I wanna feel safe that's why I pretend to be someone else. And very often under the fear it's a lot of buried hurt from childhood which most adults are terrified to face. From my own inner work and from a woman perspective gentle and soft approach it is crucial if it comes to feeling these buried emotions.

@wojownicza12

Ай бұрын

Tak

Julien keep up the good work

@JulienHimself

3 ай бұрын

🔥👊

This man again

Loved that 1st chap who stood up. That was very real.❤

Been watching for years but I kinda feel badly for the second guy. I think he knew what changed but was trying to find a way to say the truth without saying something he didn't want to reveal to strangers and on a recording that anybody in his life could potentially watch as well. He got slightly more comfortable at the end, but I think it was more relief from finding a way out than from an actual feeling of being validated for authenticity. I'm pretty sure he figured out a way to get around the truth but not in a way that felt authentic to him or made him feel truly seen. Maybe he's not ready to really expose some parts of himself in public and that's ok too. Your point was made before he stepped on stage. I understand that pushing people out of their fake persona and comfort zones is important, but so is reading between the lines. I believe you missed important social cues from the guy you picked to make your point. I hope he managed to walk away unscathed.

Julien. You are a stud.

Man, just one beer with Julien can change your life! Please come to Bregenz

Where is the line drawn between making your inner child happy, and being selfish?

SUCH GOOD BRO

This guy was bang! super aware right from the start damm

Won't it be chaotic if everyone keeps speaking what's in their heads.. I know it feels better but what about discipline. I'm 30 and my whole life has been trained to think before speaking cause my words could hurt the sentiments of others, and they actually do. I'm fine if they don't like me but I do believe in Karma. Hurting others could hurt you in return in some or other ways.

@user-xq7to1ht2m

3 ай бұрын

shut up, atleast watch full video

Thank you Julien.

Glad i found this video!

Can anyone come up here and flow like me? Guy goes up Immediately heckles him

Bottom line… IF you CARE about what other people think about you… then, you are sunk. Social Anxiety comes from needing others approval, fear of being judged and not being accepted into a certain tribe… instead of owning our own approval. Own your own approval. It’s been a long 6 decade climb out of my introversion and awkward shyness AND being walked all over in many areas of my life…. I am a 62 year old INFJ female with Aspergers… way too over analytical over strategic and extremely artistic. I’ve been a social mediator, chameleon… and high masking fake Aspie as could be people pleaser and now due to Julian’s content over the past two years on YT… I am Finally living FREE as a retired people pleaser. At 62 years of age, I feel like a kid again being able to be myself and kindly and quietly walk away from low vibe humans. It’s so Liberating to NOT CARE WHAT OTHER INSECURE HUMANS THINK ABOUT ME. It’s none of my business what’s they think about me. What a paradigm shift, what a gift.

Notification Squad!🔥🔥🔥

@JulienHimself

3 ай бұрын

Boom! 🔥

@jonnybravo4745

Ай бұрын

Killed it on this one

Thanks Julien!

@JulienHimself

3 ай бұрын

🙏🙏🙏

i help people out bigtime in my small isolated community and by god if anyone turns on me then that help disappears. The looks on their faces when they see me helping out others...i hope they understand themselves a bit better in the future.

Just look at these people they look on the face of it perfect right, so where has it gone so wrong for them, Im so sure its social media and war on men(mostly men on his content), Im the same so insecure shy quiet stifled scared rejection fake fronts adapting etc. Love julian.