Society, friends and family always infer that you're lonely because you're single and make you feel like you're missing out. Truth is people also feel lonely in healthy relationships at times....loneliness is a normal part of life single or not. As a single person, most times you're better off. You're not missing out on sleep, on crying at night, on heartbreak, disappointments and every other drama that comes with it.

@marleyhill34

2 жыл бұрын

I just don't have the time and energy for a petulant man in my life and most of them are. They constantly need their egos stroke and I have other things to do.

@MsParisiandoll

Жыл бұрын

Facts

@EbonyHoopGyal

8 ай бұрын

Exactly and if you've had multiple relationships in life, how could you be missing out? You know what is going to be happening in a relationship. You always have the memories. But there's nothing like your alone time.

@nomessnostress

3 ай бұрын

I learned that from rushing into a relationship with a man who promised so much but was a man child... anywho, he didn't care about me or my life. Like he could fix cars and I still paid to get my brakes fixed because he was going through money problems and took it out on everyone vs doing something about it.

Being single is a privilege cause you have the opportunity, even the luxury to focus on yourself deeply and still have the ability to choose wisely your partner !! Live life fully, don’t neglect to work on your past trauma and heal. Identify what is it that you want and be intentional about finding the one ☝🏾

@marleyhill34

2 жыл бұрын

Nope. No plans on finding the one ever again. A complete waste of my time. Lol!

@christinem8799

2 жыл бұрын

@@marleyhill34 Same here.

@KismetSKinNurse

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you. A big privilege indeed. I am alone after 16 years of marriage and four kids later. Talk about privilege. This is not toxic privilege but divine luck.

@candacedawn357

2 жыл бұрын

Blah, blah, blah! I'm 42 and I'm so sick of hearing that!

@FA9082

Жыл бұрын

Shes been healing for 6 years? 😳... ...thats not healing, she is broken!

I'm 51 years old and have been single and celibate for 16 years. Yes, I stopped dating and having sex when I was 35. It's the absolute best decision I've ever made. Men, sex, and dating are all overrated. I'm less stressed, happier and healthier without them. Good luck to all of you on your search for a mate. May you all find the love and partnership you deserve. ❤🧘🏽‍♀️💐🇺🇲

@marleyhill34

2 жыл бұрын

I'm 40. I have very little interest in relationships and currently sex. I have a mental illness and I am neuro-divergent. These are things that you need a lot of emotional intelligence to cope with and sadly most men are lacking in that particular skill.

@jJust_NO_

2 жыл бұрын

what do you do with your time? my fear now is hitting a point where loneliness and boredom will eat me alive. i have passion though reading, thinking i might start learning to sew and gardening.

@Kendall42971

2 жыл бұрын

@@jJust_NO_ I live in Los Angeles and work in the entertainment industry so there's always plenty to do. My circle of friends are celebrities so even with this, there is always something going on or events to attend. I travel, write, read, shop...let's just say I'm never board. I can't imagine having to share my time, energy and space with a man.😆

@marleyhill34

2 жыл бұрын

@@jJust_NO_ I am also never bored. Looking after my brain takes up a lot of time. I have to spend about 2 to 4 hours a day doing mental processing- things like journaling, winding down, puzzles, meditation and breathing exercises. then there is things we all need to do daily to keep healthy physically. Exercising- I have an outdoor fitness trainer and I go to the gym. Medical checkups. I attend two mental health groups a week and one individual therapy session. I used to play football and before the pandemic, I went to a lot of meetup groups to do with art, restaurants and museums. There are also a lot of short courses that you can do in my city. I live in London England. If you live in a smaller place it might be difficult but even the small island that I grew up in gave free university lectures from time to time and that's when you are not at the beach.

@jJust_NO_

2 жыл бұрын

@@marleyhill34 oh here in the philippines particularly in my area, theres not much you can do..its either you work in 9-5 office job, party on the weekends or while away your time on the internet. no wonder i get bored, theres no variety. there isnt even a decent park area i can go to alone.

I love being single and im 21 and a law student. I have high standars and thats okay. Hunny im chasing my life before im settiling down💅🏾. Loved the chit chat today

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

❤️ I know that's right

@caesarx8139

2 жыл бұрын

@Rosii. Genuine question: The type of Men that can accommodate these "high standards" you speak off. What do they require from a Woman?

@deltaradiance9034

2 жыл бұрын

Rosii don't be fooled honey. I'm a law student as well but I'm aware that genuine relationships are every human need.

@karenkarma0

2 жыл бұрын

If you don’t mind, could you give advice/lessons you learned from. I’m currently active duty and I intend on going to law school.

@Pmetse

2 жыл бұрын

Im 20 years old and Im a first year law student. I am still a virgin and haven't had a partner my whole life. I feel very content and I know what and who is meant for me is already mine.

I have been in some traumatic relationships to say the least and currently going through the process of learning to date myself. Meaning taking myself out on solo dates, buying myself flowers, learning to love myself, and doing the internal work that will help me grow. That way that I know if I don’t ever get married in this life, I am totally okay and content with that. It’s God’s will.

@Hisdaughter85

2 жыл бұрын

Love this! I need to start doing these things again, it’s important to love on yourself, tfs

@IEVAKambarovaite

2 жыл бұрын

I also think the way we speak to ourselves is very important. Solo dates, trips and flowers are great, but do you speak kindly to yourself? Do you acknowledge yourself? Do you give yourself compliments? I think that makes a massive difference.

@Hisdaughter85

2 жыл бұрын

@@IEVAKambarovaite 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 so true, I was having that same conversation with my sis yesterday! Self talk and our thoughts can make or break us if we do not manage them properly

@marleyhill34

2 жыл бұрын

I was married and it ended in abuse. I have no desire to marry again. I've already told God not to send anyone unless he's going to be a doubting Thomas miracle and materialise in my living room.

@lovewisdom6458

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed!

“ Let me stop asking you and let me start trusting you.” That was the one

‘If it wasn’t scary, it wouldn’t require faith’ 🔥

I’m 29 and “chronically single.” I have always struggled with it. I’ve never been in a relationship. And I have been in long term depression from it, historically. For the first time, at 29, I am not depressed about being single and love my life… like finally! BUT.. partnership would be nice. Like, it’s no longer something I feel I need out of lack but, definitely a desire.

@nomessnostress

3 ай бұрын

Have you figured out why? are you scared to put yourself out there? do you deny that you want someone but do?

Love Christian women talking about all of these issues so close to heart. I'm 20 and also in uni right now and its great to hear this encouraging sharing

You know what Courtney. I’m a muslim and you’re a christian but the teachings you share from your faith absolutely resonate with my own faith. You’re absolutely brilliant and you described my situation with such a precision at such a perfect moment that i can only be thankful. You are amazing 🤩🧡

@amalmohamed5480

2 жыл бұрын

Agree 100%. Her wisdom and dedication to God touched me as a Muslim too - a lot of similar principles and she articulates it really well.

@liberatedminds8944

Жыл бұрын

Love and blessings to you both ❤

I needed to hear this conversation. I lost my fiance to Covid in 2020 and now single. At 72 yrs old. I still wonder if I will ever find another love. But now I am learning to start over and trust God with my life. This video put being single in perspective. Thank you Sis.

@brittanyb5942

2 жыл бұрын

My grandmother found love again at 70. There is still hope for you ❤️

@filhademaria3326

Жыл бұрын

Much love and blessings to you 💜

@colettejaques2559

Жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss...you will find love but it can be in a variety of souls...rescue a dog or cat and feel a purpose. Push yourself outside of your comfort zone..do things that make you feel alive. I lost my best friend 💔...to covid in 2021. Someone who I truly trusted and loved. Don't let negative friends in either...they are draining...God bless

I’ve been single for awhile. Before that I WAS ALWAYS BOOED UP. Being single I have learned Soooo much about myself. About life. About people. I realize being single helps you to be suitable for a relationship. Now I am not needy. I’m genuinely blissful. I no longer depend on another person for happiness. I’m comfortable with me. I look forward to a relationship however I am enjoying my singleness.

Okay commenting again haha. What you’re saying around 22 minutes is so true. A relationship should stem from finding someone who you think will stick with you through hard times, not someone who makes hard times harder and you stay with them for the optics. Just like having kids should be because you and that person (or you on your own) feel that you can help a person have a stable foundation in childhood for a good adult life. Not just because kids are cute and you have a “motherly” instinct. When that kid doesn’t need mothering and needs stability, is that you? Is that your partner?

@ZED2.0

2 жыл бұрын

Oooph I love what you said about someone being there during the hard times, I think this is so true. I had a recent realisation as I was on my way to help my friend out that relationships are hard work and take a lot of effort. When we're lonely, we think the answer to that is having more friends or getting into a relationship but those things require attention, sacrifice, commitment and so much more. They're more than something to fill time with. Yes, they can be fun, but true friendship, like a true romantic relationship, require showing up during the hard times as well as the fun times.

@n4musica

2 жыл бұрын

@@ZED2.0 Right! And I realized today that where friendship differs is that it’s totally okay to have fair weather friends as long as you understand that. To put all your needs on one relationship (platonic or not) is a lot for one person. I have my club friends, my travel buddies, reality tv friends, friends with children, potluck friends, vent sesh friends… some of them intersect, some don’t, and my inner circle, “hard times” friends would probably hate being my friend if I forced them to party with me all the time and they’re not down. But I also know that most of my party friends might not know how to handle me at my lowest, and that’s OKAY! Sometimes you also want people who have only seen positive times with you to get you out of a slump. Haha idk where I’m going with this but I totally agree. Deep friendship/relationship is for the hard and fun times, but it’s totally fine to keep it light with others too and not put the burden of all your needs on one friend or partners.

@n4musica

2 жыл бұрын

@@ZED2.0 lol second comment, but I’m a teacher and my student was having a hard time and wanted to chat with me privately. She said (this girl is 14 btw) “I’m so TIRED of relationships! Friend and friend, girlfriend and boyfriend, parents and children, teacher and student, they’re always SO complicated!” 😭I tried to comfort her so I didn’t say this, but it never ends girly… 😂

@ZED2.0

2 жыл бұрын

@@n4musica I agree with this 100%! Friends for different occasions 🤣

@ZED2.0

2 жыл бұрын

@@n4musica 🥲 poor girl, she sounds very intelligent and insightful. Lool yes, it's just the beginning 😅

Hey Sis...I'm single again after being married for 28 years then becoming a widow in 2020. I'm learning how to navigate this part of my journey honoring God and myself, your video was right on time . Thank you for sharing and keeping it 💯.

A little over 4.5 years here 🙋‍♀️ I suffer from PTSD and Depression and after a lot of bad relationships (also with friends and family) I've been down and focusing lately on getting better. Thank you for the video, it's very helpful 🧡🧡

I AM SINGLE AND SATISFIED!!! I have been single now for 7 years. I love my peace, sanity and me time and my hobbies. I currently do not desire nor yearn for a partner. Maybe one day I will, but today ain't it lol. I am totally loving God, myself and my life right now.

Proverbs 4:23 NIV Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.

@oyindabello554

Жыл бұрын

100%

I'm turning 27 soon and I've been single basically all my life and it has been a rollercoaster of highs and lows... I'm just so thankful that you started the chat because sis I NEEDED IT! Being single is the best thing ever but touch on that lonely part girl cause wow - I related far too much to that.

@jozigalm8159

2 жыл бұрын

Especially in SA, SA is the last place to get into a relationship just nje because you want it. Too much rubbish.

@nxobilemahamba7694

2 жыл бұрын

@@jozigalm8159 you can say that again mtase, the dating and marriage climate in SA is trash 😒

All my friends are either married women or in a relationship that is heading towards marriage. I have definitely questioned myself a couple times like "why is everyone getting married around me and I'm the only one who's single and never been in a relationship before." I've had a number of lonely and sad thoughts whilst sitting in a room full of couples or third wheeling one couple and I just end up going home by myself whilst they all go home with their life partners. However, hanging around them a lot (because we're so close) has taught me that all that glitters isn't gold. Marriage and relationships are WORK and when you add children on top.. whew chile. You have to take on so many new responsibilities because you're now accountable to this person for life. I get to go home and sleep in peace whilst they go home to a screaming baby all night LOL. I do what I want and can pour as little and as much time into what I need to whilst they have to constantly consider "what about my husband/wife" "what about my kids". I am blessed to be surrounded by these people because it gives me such a realistic image of marriage that isn't the romance central, glitz and glam, instagram family picture stuff. Whilst those are nice and part of the package, I get to see the hard stuff; the day-to-day struggles like post-partum depression, not having as much sex as you thought you would have in marriage, the struggle to keep your house in order, the daily self-sacrifice etc. These things always sober me up when my mind starts wondering. I would suggest single people to get around some married folks and folks that keep it all the way real; not some pretenders that act like everything is perfect meanwhile it's a Mr and Mrs Smith situation at yard 😂 Biggest lesson I've learned so far: successful marriages are for selfless people. If you don't want to be selfless, just don't bother going down the aisle because that marriage will tank as soon as the honeymoon period dries up. I'm enjoying the freedom of singleness but I'm also mentally prepared to be a married woman with realistic expectations when the time is right.

@fittomakeup9890

2 жыл бұрын

Well said, on point and very observant.

@westq2

2 жыл бұрын

Whilst those things are challenging, l still hope to have a family one day.

@wshelby83

2 жыл бұрын

@@westq2 true!! I definitely do as well

@DebFap

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing this!

@jJust_NO_

2 жыл бұрын

yup.. been inkling that already... marriage only work if you know how to be selfless.. if the woman knows how to sacrifice herself for the benefit of the family. i just cant. im too selfish for it. i even resent it. i can only marry if the guy wants it more than i do. if he has more feminine characteristics than i do because im too aloof and distant as a person. well lets just assume im a woman and do have a masculine mind

I found myself smiling through this video because it spoke to me so beautifully. I have been single all 24 years of my life. I love love being alone but I do get lonely at times. As someone with a vivid imagination the horniness is real sometimes. But in this season God has been helping me with lust and I don't have that feeling as much anymore. Yaaas to having more time to be selfish. In high school because of family obligations I wasn't able to pursue my hobbies. So now as a single adult I'm enjoying my free time reading, drawing and learning a second language. When the husband and eventually children come then I can embrace that season knowing that I enjoyed my single season to the fullest.

Since my last relationship 'ended' 8 years ago I became celibate by circumstance. Up until today, I am learning how to love and respect myself as other people will do the same. This video is a wake up call to focus on putting God first.

@zachianggandu774

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with you, some of us think is hard to get a good Christian lady!! Don’t ignore your physic, weight, character etc because we men are move by what we see first. I am not saying you should dress sexual!! If you go to any church the must beautiful woman is the pastors wife, it is not a coincidence. For instance for me if you wear wigs or makeup no matter your level of spirituality I will not even look at you at all!!

@kelliejones752

2 жыл бұрын

@@zachianggandu774 Will y'all please stop with the wigs and makeup. You do know that most women wear makeup right, even those that don't wear it on a daily basis like to wear a little bit of it when they go out on dates or out with their friends. So many of you really want BW to be broke, busted and disgusted. You don't want us to look nice or have the things that all other women have. It's beyond embarrassing. "If you wear wigs and makeup I won't even look at you". meanwhile those are the women nearly all of you are chasing after. Stop with the foolishness.

@zachianggandu774

2 жыл бұрын

@@kelliejones752 My Sister I am an end time message believer!! Please watch bride assembly in Lagos Nigeria and Jesus Christ Temple ministry Warri Nigeria!! and pastor Gino Jennings See how Godly women are looking like!! I will not marry a woman full of demons!! Never!! Once you wear those wigs, you are full of (Jezebel spirit) demonic spirits!! I can spend money on expensive bags and clothes!! But wigs, eye lashes, makeup!! Count me out!! I want to live long; I don’t believe in divorce that is why I must not make any mistake!! My eye of understanding are open; God will open your eyes!! Shalom! My kid Sister was lucky she was warm in the dream; I pray for you to have that personal encounter!!

@berthamaoka2519

2 жыл бұрын

@@kelliejones752 exactly, it's a form of abuse and reverse psychology that some men put women through in the name of 'being natural'. I always say then find your natural lady somewhere else, I was wearing wigs and makeup when we met so don't try to change and control me. So silly

Thank you for being so transparent and for speaking so eloquently. I was your age when I broke with my boyfriend, I am now 32 and haven't been in any relationship since then. I do think that people around us (society) often sees accomplished single people as individuals who are picky, difficult with too many unrealistic standards and I wholeheartedly disagree. I do think that the more time one spends living their true authentic lives, the more they know what they want, what they will focus on and what they truly don't want in an intimate relationship. As you beautifully said, sometimes we think that the feelings of love, being worthy is only attached to romance. You are young and striving, if it will happen, it will happen in due time. I wish you all the best! Isabelle from Haiti:)

Hey Sister, I'm a 19-year-old girl and I just wanted to let you know that you've made me realize so much about myself and I'm so thankful for this advice at such an early stage( not that it matters) but I learned so much and am grateful to be a new member of the sisterhood.

Courtney the WISDOM in everything you said gurllll!

I’ve been on a journey with this for so long and I think it has to start with making peace with potentially not ever being in a relationship. I used to imagine what my life would be like with a romantic partner, and almost designed my life according to that image. That meant that I missed out on a lot of things because in the back of my mind I thought unintentionally “I can’t wait to do that with a partner.” And just wouldn’t do that thing. Now, I think about what my life would be like if I never found a partner, and think “What would I want my life to be?” And I realized, all the things I want for myself also would be great with a partner. So why not do all those things now?? I’ve stopped waiting for a partner to live my life, and now I’m living a life I love, focusing on me, and as it turns out, dating has been so much easier!!

I was single for over 5 years before I got into a relationship last August. 3 months and it ended, wasn't even worth it. FYI NEVER go on dating sites if you're lonely, you may settle for anything or anyone. I never consulted with God before going on and though he wasn't a bad guy I definitely could have chosen better or just refrained from going online at all. Since it was 3 months I really don't count it as a relationship because I got over him after like a week. However, I realize that he just wasn't for me, and I really sold myself short rather than working on myself and what I like and forming myself as an individual. All of which I am doing now little by little.

@EMK164

2 жыл бұрын

So many gems in your comment!

@ughnotuagainughnotuagain4275

2 жыл бұрын

This right here. Dating apps can expose you to people you were NEVER meant to come into contact with, who also could delay your destiny. They may not destroy you, but they may distract you. I'm learning to commit every little thing to Him

@marleyhill34

2 жыл бұрын

@@ughnotuagainughnotuagain4275 I find all men an unnecessary distraction now at age 40.

@susan7374

2 жыл бұрын

True, i made the same mistake. Going online to meet a guy and end up abruptly btw us when things doesn't go out way. I leaned my lesson and i will never go back to online dating. We definitely sell ourselves short. Now im focusing on building my own happy life, when the right person come, he will be the right fit into my beautiful life☺️

Im 21 and never been in a real relationship and its hard not to feel a certain way about it

22, went on my very first date with a guy on Bumble who said he is a believer. There's plenty of red flags but glad God protected me & I knew he wasn't the one. Thought character matters the most but I've learned that I need to be physically attracted to him too 😂 Anyway, I'm focusing on myself. God's timing is the best.

@ughnotuagainughnotuagain4275

2 жыл бұрын

Sis yes! Kudos to you for seeing the flags and taking action!

@nikchar4642

2 жыл бұрын

Def nothing to do w/god….unless god has favorites & pick & choose who to protect. That’s why they say you lose common sense when you follow religion.

This is such a great video. I recently wrote a Christian book about being single called “Since when did Single Mean Sad?” because it’s a true season and I got so sick of the media telling us all of these lies about being single. I love how real this video is. Currently single and have been for about 2 years. Also I love your vibe!!

@alwaysbefifi

2 жыл бұрын

Wow this sounds amazing! Do you have a link or social media to get access to or information about this book?

Honestly, I’m claiming you as my twin Courtney because HOW do you always post videos on topics I’m thinking about??! Girlllll!

I felt like sitting with you cosy on your couch and just conversing about love, singleness & basically our reality at the moment. Thank you sis Courtney Daniella Boateng. With love, Your fellow Ghanaian sister from Germany ❣️🌹

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

Aww thank you so so much sis, glad you enjoyed the feel x

You’re only 24, being single should be the default at that age unless you meet someone super special and just right for you. People in their early 20s have plenty of time.

@yogigoyi

2 жыл бұрын

Facts! Me... a baby at 24,married at 25 and divorced at 29...I'm 32 and wondering WHY/WHAT I was thinking...don't waste your 20s,its a time to get to know you,your desires,to break down things passed down from generations which we are unaware of and to just live...I now realised that I was not really searching for love or sex,I was searching for a connection from people,men and women...I just didnt know how to get my needs met or to even communicate what I really wanted. I'm so protective of my 30s now because I dont want to be crying in my 40s because of reckless behavior again...its just going to be my son,the lord and myself for now...😂🧡😪

@AMMA83

2 жыл бұрын

@@yogigoyi it's understandable how some people panic or sleepwalk into committed relationships (children/marriage)in their 20s - society is set up to tell women they need to have it all by 30! I'm in my 30s and am single/never been married and I feel that's frowned upon. Sounds like a smart decision to focus on God and your son!

@Softsoul.

Ай бұрын

She’s 24? Dammm

@jilliansmith8080

Ай бұрын

If God is on your side. His timing is the best timing even if it never happens

Sometimes when we are not dealing with trauma and hurts from the past and just "self-indulging", we do not move forward!! Meaning also staying single because God is waiting on you!!❤ Talking from experience, going on 5 years but now I'm helping myself more now than ever and I know that I am getting close to moving forward with God's Plans for my life! God Bless!!💕💕💕

I appreciate you keeping it 100, because everything you said is true! Guarding your mind and thoughts are crucial because it can derail you into some unnecessary mess. There is beauty in singleness if we choose to see and embrace it.

Ayeeee new video, let me get some popcorn and relax. I've never been in a relationship so I've pretty much been single my whole life.

I truly enjoy being single. You have to date yourself and be in a relationship with yourself as if there are two people. Once I understood this, I can't imagine a better life partner than myself. I am not interested in any man that's not a better man than i am to myself. Sex is an issue as a Christian but if you're not a Christian shoot.

I love my relationship but it isn't easy and it isn't always fun. The growth you do in a committed relationship is particularly different from growth on your own. Appreciate the single season for what it provides: the opportunity to prioritize yourself selfishly, the honor of getting to enjoy your own company, and everything else you explained in this video

I know I’ve commented twice already lol but I feel a need to type this. Courtney you are a blessing and I really look forward to watching your videos. It’s such a joy just listening to you speak, I wish I was as eloquent as you! Please do not ever doubt yourself, be it with KZread, ventures/ personal endeavours. You are destined for greatness, a lot more than you can probably fathom now. I want you to understand that all this is not in vain. Please, please, please keep going. Wishing you nothing but success.

'I don't have to put everything in use until the season is right "....so awesome!

Wow idk why but I’m listening to this and got so emotional!!! I’ve only seen traumatic relationships and thought I wouldn’t internalize anything from those relationships but every time I give my body I feel lost and hurt!!! Hearing this just gave me faith and reassured me that I have my own power and my own peace!! Thank you❤

2 1/2 years celibate! My mind is Crystal clear! Ready for Love; not sex!!!!!!!😊

You just phrase things so well, love the eloquence, always

At 24 i got out of an almost 5 year relationship and its been hard to say the least, feeling confident again and not lonely since I have lost my friends among those years that I was in that relationship and the ones that I had left... were part of the hurt that my ex bf made me go through but your podcast have been an amazing blessing in my life. Thanks for this sisters🥰

I've been single all my life and I'm 37 .

4 minutes in and I’m already loving how blatantly honest you’re being 🥺

I been in a 3 year relationship and honestly doing a lot of things by yourself is healthy too even with a partner you shouldn’t suffocate them or yourself with them and you should still have your own life for sure and I don’t think I have high standards I think there’s just the minimum as a human you should do and some people don’t have that, I feel like a relationship should make your life better which mines has and I know if my partner weren’t on good terms we would still be great friends because he was always my friend first and everything is just a journey ❤️

I really enjoyed this conversation. My fiance passed in July and it's been hard. Dating is crazy and it seems as if no one is authentic. Still working on myself and learning how to enjoy this time as I have a 8 year old daughter. Thank you so much for the encouragement. He was a wonderful man who taught me and daughter alot even in times when I didn't love myself.

There is good and bad to being single and being in a relationship. Its important to be happy on your own and not depend on your happiness on someone else because if they leave....you get it. Same goes for money. Being independent and not relying on someone else is important so you arent with someone because financially you cant leave. You are in your 20s, enjoy being single and enjoying this stage of your life. I can say my mother was married twice. She has three kids. She is single and she is literally the happiest person I know. My mom is in her 80s BUT she looks 50 and retired from being a waitress just 3 years ago and has more energy than anyone I know. I tell her she is crazy lol. She loves her independence, she loves being alone, she too is a Christian and says Jesus is her best friend and she doesn't need a man lol. She loves doing what she wants, when she wants and having no one to answer or explain to ....she is adorable lol. Its not better to be single or married....its what you want. As long as you are you and are happy is what is important. Thank you for your honest talks

Girl you are filled with so much wisdom. This is literally me to the T. For the most part, I am content in the season I’m in. But when I start feeling impatient, I remind myself that I am making the most out of my 20s and that I’m never going to get this time back again. I’m going to savor this season because I love my own company. Love this video ❤️

@waalegbara1325

2 жыл бұрын

This is random but I absolutely love your videos! Thank you for using your gift to make us laugh and learn💕

@BeverlyAdaeze

2 жыл бұрын

@@waalegbara1325 thank you so much! I really appreciate it ❤️

I have literally been talking to God about everything that was discussed today, I am meant to even be catching zzzzz’s right now but this just gave me so much more clarity never knew how to articulate how I was feeling nor the response to that feeling but this vid helped put things in perspective for me sooo much. Sister fren prophetess women of gadddd thank you for this video. You are truly relatable and very humble, and generally have a lovely way at looking at different situations. Hope you enjoy your day if you ever read this lol😂❤️

You are still 24 and you are confident (I love it). But honey, we hit a whole another level of anxiety when we are getting closer to 30. I am 27 now. I have been single sonce I was 22. I stopped dating people for the sake of dating. I feel like it's a waste of time and energy. There have been guys approached me throughout this 5+ years. But I am not going to involve with anyone other than my ideal type of man. But it is scary. All my friends are married and almost all of them have toddlers now. I have been naturally excluded from my friends groups and sometimes it feels so scary. I wonder if I am going to grow old alone.

@jozigalm8159

2 жыл бұрын

I remember when that anxiety at 27. Covid just swallowed 2yrs of my life and I'm now 31. Put yourself out there.

@sssssssssuv

2 жыл бұрын

@@jozigalm8159 omg I really hope we find our happiness

@jozigalm8159

2 жыл бұрын

@@sssssssssuv we will, just need to get out there. It won't just happen. People can't know what they can't find. Do it all, the apps, all that, painful as it is lol. My mom is already joking with me about sperm banks 😂😭

@sssssssssuv

2 жыл бұрын

@@jozigalm8159 yes yes. We gotta try everything.

@susan7374

2 жыл бұрын

38 now and yes, the situation doesn't get better. We just learn to accept and let go. If the right person come, accept it. If it never mean to be, accept it.

You sound like the big sister I never had. Just subscribed! You explain ppl’s anxieties in such an empathetic way. Thank you!

The only KZreadr I have my notifications switched on for... absolutely adore you Courts x This girl raised me

Wowie. It’s always the videos you don’t want to watch that speak to you the most. Thanks for sharing this with us. Your words are honest, to the point and encouraging. ❤️

Thank you for putting it so well and being so open! Keep shining in your gifting. This was a whole sermon.🔥

Wow...I love your confidence. I wish I knew this when I was at your age. I got divorced after being in a 12 year abusive marriage. 2 years out and I am loving being single again, using this period to get to know me more!

@KeemSmilez1989

2 жыл бұрын

You go girl!

Thank you Courtney for being the big sister I never had. Your advice is convicting in just the right way, and your transparency makes me realize how much I’m not alone in my thoughts and challenges. May God bless you abundantly!

I loved this! So many gems dropped from the first minute to the last! Thank you Sis 💐

Preahhh ! Omg Thank you for this Courtney 💯💯

Just clicked & loving this, let me get my glass sis 🥂

When you said “I’m 24” I did a double take, my make dropped, wow wow. You speak and hold yourself so maturely. I thought you were around 28-33

Thank you for putting this video up, I've not come across your channel before, but you've been a breath of fresh air. The humility and the fact that the advice is so truthful is great (and hurtful) to hear, especially from a Black British woman's perspective (even though I say it all to myself all the time). As a single black woman, 27, with no boyfriends to reminisce about, I feel as though I've been letting my emotions and my sight lead my life and not my soul and my heart that should be lead by the spirit, what a Christian woman is to strive for. What I need to find now are hobbies and friends who care about my wellbeing as a whole. I pray that this journey to find the person who I was be gentle yet abrasive, hard yet easy and encouraging to have me act in faith yet be still and listen. Even if I do get in a relationship now it'll be God and only God who could do it. So whenever the time will be, let me be ready and willing to let someone in, so the walls I've become so accustomed to seeing, be ripped down (compassionately) and built around us as a couple. Amen 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💯

.. I just feel so shocked. I’m not Christian but I do have very profound belief in God and often listen toPrayer to Heavenly Father and some bible audio.. I just find it calming. I suffer from PCOS, anxiety and mild depression. Just a couple days ago.. I was struggling, I had a breakdown in the middle of the night: I’m 22, never been in a physically intimate long term relationship. All my friends have dated, been with a lot of guys, are confident of their bodies.. are still continue to date/hookup. I feel like I can’t share my pain with any of them. The self-hatred of your body.. can really feel like a slow blunt dagger to your soul. I pray everyday to give me the strength, to give me some relief from my mind, my anxiety.. And today I got your channel recommended. I know it might sound silly and maybe it’s just algorithm, but I’ve had too many incidences to not believe in some cosmic entity reaching out to me. I want to say you’re just so beautiful and elegant- and I’m going to be scrolling through your videos. Lots of well wishes ♥️

@empirelyricschannel

2 жыл бұрын

I’d like to know, are you getting any therapeutic treatment?

@oyindabello554

Жыл бұрын

God loves you girl. He calls you "more precious than rubies". Lean into His truth and believe in His power because He is there and He wants you to realise your worth and your beauty! Because He created YOU!

So much wisdom in this vessel! It wasn't a chit chat, it was conviction! Thank you Courtney! x

This is soo good Courtney and your transparency is so so refreshing! God bless you always 🤍

It’s only been a year for me but honestly I’ve been feeling like “God, are you still working on it?” And it’s been really frustrating so thank you for this timely video. ❤️✨

This was such great video! So many gems were dropped in this video

Thank you!! I’ve been searching for celibacy videos and they where all super shallow but u got down to it and kept it all the real!!! I’m 37 and haven’t been by myself since grade school now I have been celibate since December of last year.. plan on staying this way til I find self love and worth within myself 💙💙 thank you sis

I only saw the title and thought: "this is what I need now"! Thanksss :)

You popped off of this! Soo helpful! Thank you! 💗🤞🏽

I needed to hear this today, thank you❤

Courtney! This is soooo good. Genuinely. Thank you for your openness, girl. ❤️

Wow miss Courtney!!! This is exactly the kind of conversation we needed to have 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

You're speaking FACTS Courtney! This episode is everything 💫

Thank you so much for sharing this ❤️ I've been in a similar situation, only a year though but still, the feelings are very real and very similar. Thank you for speaking on this and keep doing your EXCELLENT work

You have the wisdom I wish I had at your age. I love what you guys are doing with TMS and I wish you both continued success. Thx for sharing and being obedient sis. You out here blessing the girls❤️

You’re so wise Courtney! Loved every bit of this. You make so much sense it’s actually admirable ❤️

I love listening to you so much! You are so smart and eloquent, funny and authentic at the same time! Please do more videos like this!

Oh my gosh! I love this video. You made me enjoy this season of my life. Being single isn’t so bad after all. Thank you for sharing. ❤️🙌🏽

If you haven't heard of Authentic Intimacy, I highly recommend listening to the Java with Julie podcast that they do. They are doing great work with teaching about godly sexuality in a wholesome way. The way you are speaking here reminds me of how they cover these topics, and I think you would find it validating

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

Ooo thank you for the suggestion, i'll look it up

@graciem6562

2 жыл бұрын

I've just looked the podcast up and the topics are super interesting! Thanks for sharing lovely ☺

This video is good sis! I'm so upset that I'm just now finding your channel! This is exactly what I needed!!!

This is the best advice I've heard in forever. Thank you so much!

I found you channel this week and binge watching . Sis thank you for being such a blessing in my life. I could watch u all day, your character is so welcoming and i feel like ive known u for years . Truly blessed . May God continue to bless you with wisdom so you can shower us with such amazing content.

This was such a good conversation thank you Courtney. Absolutely love how you articulate yourself ❤ You’ve definitely given me a new perspective on navigating the single season 😊

This is such a great video, and I could relate so much. Been singel between 20-23 so 3 years now. I’ve learned so much about myself, and I think I’ve become a healthier person during this period. Before I just wanted attention and love so much from guys to fill my self esteem, I never showed but I was so needy on the inside. Only my last relationship with a guy I actually really liked and cared for taught me that I need self love and to focus on myself not a relationship. Now I don’t determine my worth on if I’m entertaining a guy or not.

i needed this so much. your words are so strong and powerful.

Amen! This was for me! Praise God for leading me here! Thank you for this encouraging message!

Preach sister. You really hit the nail on the head. Thank you

I been needing this ❤️🙏🏾

Literally the roadmap for this phase in my life. Thank you for all the insights I resonate with but haven’t been able to untangle on my own. I will be coming back to this video a lot to programme this into my brain

Thank you for this. It is very encouraging and re-affirming on this journey

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for watching x

This was great. Needed this. Thank ya

this is a video that I will come back to over & over again. Thank you 🤍

I truly enjoyed everything that you talked about. Some of it was in relation to what I am going through and my healing process. I truly enjoy this. Thanks for the being amazing. You’re beautiful.

loved this video! Thank you for this

Girl you are very well spoken ✨😍

This was powerful 🙏🏾 God bless u for sharing your journey with all of us.

I truly enjoyed this video!! You shared your thoughts so eloquently. I relate to so much of what you were saying. Right now, I am single and I'm focused on making myself the best version of myself that I can be. I'm growing in my relationship with God and enjoying my career. I'm healing and loving me!!

Thank you so much for your content. I appreciate it and you ❤. I just turned 35 and have been separated from my husband for four years. This is the first time I've been single my whole life. It's taken some acclimation on my part, a Life review and also a valid assessment of where my standards need to be raised. I'm so glad for your content because it's nice to hear people who are in similar situations and how they handle being single as well. Blessings to you!😊

This was an amazing talk. We are the same age and I’m going through the EXACT SAME THING.. My ex and I broke up day before valentines 2021. I was the dumpee and I’m not upset about it anymore because I brought me closer to God. But the loneliness gets crazy sometimes. You should create a Facebook group so we can fellowship. I’m definitely a new subscriber! Love this. May God grant you a king sis!