BM: Lower your standards. Also BM: You should have chosen better.

@canesugar911

Жыл бұрын

Gurlllll😂😂

Don't ever settle, especially not for another human being. You'll live to regret it.

I don't think this whole thing is this complicated. I was a huge go getter, hard headed ambitious woman with astronomic standards for men. And when I was past the majority of my "actualizing oneself" journey and became the woman I always dreamed of becoming, became the superwoman I would feel so proud of if I knew I'd be her when I was a kid, God brought me the most gorgeous man I have ever met. with a mutual, unconditional and boundless love. I think that we shouldn't even talk about our standards if they are too high for most. Cause those that find them too high are always low vibration people, and not the men God created as our partner either. If you force something or if you have to make someone give it to you rather than it coming as natural to them, then it's not yours. and it's not from God.

@irenendegwa2410

Жыл бұрын

Love this

@FA9082

Жыл бұрын

This is cap🧢 You don't love him, you are just old, desperate and ur success has alienated the men you really want, so you have rationalised that he's the perfect man for you.... ...I say give it 7 years tops😂

@michaelkemas

Жыл бұрын

@@FA9082 they will drag you bro 🤣🤣

@whoneedslovewhenyouhaves..859

Жыл бұрын

@@FA9082 Imagine a dusty saying someone's success has alienated a man🤣 Wow, so women shouldn't be successful? Doesn't that mean that those men complaining are not successful and feel inferior? Lord, you can't make this up. 😭

@FA9082

Жыл бұрын

@@whoneedslovewhenyouhaves..859 The more successful a woman is it hurts her in 3 ways that reduces her chances ofba good relationship significantly: 1. makes the pool of men shes attracted to MUCH smaller 2. makes her LESS attractive to men bc men know women often dump men who are not successful as her, so why would he date her 3. makes her LESS attractive to men bc men know in this world to be successful you basically have to be "ruthless", womem are attracted to ruthlessness in men, but its NOT attractive in women

Only 30 seconds in but I just had to comment. You are glowing 🥺🫶🏾 I love this color on you!

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so so much sis x

“Because the more you don’t show up to do the things you said your going to do especially for yourself the harder it’s going to be to trust and love yourself because you’ll constantly living in a place of disappointment” What a wowwwww

I think the hardest part for me is to be a woman of my words. I know what I’m capable of, but the same time it’s just hard to keep up with myself sometimes. I’m glad you mentioned it and I felt like I wasn’t alone.

@annitamasuku8441

2 жыл бұрын

Can truly relate with this

@nicole.k5700

2 жыл бұрын

this is literally the story of my life. and the part where she mentioned feeling constant disappointment, it really plummets your self-esteem and confidence

@ornelathieba3261

2 жыл бұрын

I can relate to this so much, I find it hard to set and maintain standards for myself., basically staying accountable to ME. I think this is even more difficult for those of us who were denied basic agency and boundaries in our childhood + young adulthood through traditions and culture: it feels like your existence belongs to someone else, and you are fully accountable to them... until you become an adult. As adults, we have the sole responsibility for our existence and everything it comprises: our joy, health, relationships, career, etc...

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

You are definitely not alone and this comment has really inspired me to make a video about this x

@anne-mariekankwende2161

2 жыл бұрын

Your videos have truly inspired me since I came accros them at the beginning of this year. I was struggling with being confident in myself in several areas. I was also looking for ways to grow as disciplined women and set standards and boundaries. You don’t know how much I’ve been learning from you! May God continue to use you 🙏🏽

I really think too many people (esp women) settle because we're often socialized into not being too greedy and simply accepting what you've got so you're not 'behind'. But I also think that many can be a bit impatient on their journeys and probably don't have a supporting community around them to provide that much needed level of support

@elizabethiradukunda1950

2 жыл бұрын

No, what's wrong with you American women, i cant believe some of your comments here.. why is it that average women cant accept average men??? which settling when you are at the same level?? what KZread made me decide, even though i really wanted to, i will never take my kid to America to study.. let her do all her schooling in Africa!

@maribelle7673

2 жыл бұрын

@@elizabethiradukunda1950 Why do you assume the comments are from American women??? You have no proof of that! Why should women, no matter where they're from, settle for an average man? What's wrong with valuing yourself more and demanding better???🤔

@elizabethiradukunda1950

2 жыл бұрын

@@maribelle7673 by 'American' i mean born in America or brainwashed by America - you really want to tell me that there are no average women? I know am beautiful but since iv never won any beauty pageant, I accept there are women prettier than me and it does not bother me coz I've found peace in my family.. and 98% of men are average.. there is nothing wrong with average - God this is exhausting

@maribelle7673

2 жыл бұрын

@@elizabethiradukunda1950 There are plenty of "average" people in America who are happily coupled. To infer that not wanting someone "average" is a mindset attributed to Americans, or an Amercan way of thinking, is very disingenuous. When I read your post, it was not clear to me that your description of being "average" was solely about looks. I think that looks aren't everything either, but "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and there's nothing wrong with wanting an attractive partner if that's your preference🤷‍♀️

@elizabethiradukunda1950

2 жыл бұрын

@@maribelle7673 🤣🤣 really! is understanding what i said so, so hard?? or does it takes too much courage to accept the truth as i put it?

Yes. Totally agree. I'm not going to settle in friendships!! Learning to be patient until I reach where I want to be.

This! I think so many people need to hear this, and not just women. In the culture I live in it’s so easy to find yourself settling in all aspects of life: relationship, career, lifestyle etc. it’s like society is constantly pressuring us to settle through fear mongering against an inexistent clock and making us believe that what’s available right now is as good as it gets. It leads people to give up on themselves and their dreams because it’s hard to wait for things that meet our standards and it takes a lot of work to be in a position to achieve our goals

Marriage, kids, coupled-up: these are brainwashed social norms that put so much pressure on women. I don’t see the appeal of being in a compromised relationship, just to keep up appearances. Women and men should have high standards and not settling down should be normalized.

This is something that I have been struggling with. It started off as small little compromises and then went into just plain settling with my relationships and lifestyle. I’m working on it a lot more the past 2 years and I’m re-learning what I love and what I can’t stand for as well as what I really want for myself and not what society expects of me or pressure from family and friends. I must admit the patience is a challenge especially since I’m not the most patient person but I feel like God is allowing me to be in this season to correct my heart’s posture and work on a feel habits that need breaking. Stay strong Courtney I love you and you inspire so much remember that ❤️

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

What a beautiful reflection! Thank you so much for being so transparent and God bless you and help you on this journey too. It sounds like it's going to be a beautiful one

Courtney is the big sister we all need.

I needed to hear this. This pulled me out of this weird slump that I didn’t even realize I fell into until I felt like it was so hard to get out of. This gave me a great perspective that will allow me to push forward. You spoke life into me and I appreciate it! 💜

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

Awww my pleasure! Thank you for watching.

I just started believing I am already that girl. Showing up became way easier, because it's that step (who I am) that leads to the second step (who I want to be) that's where you freeze in doubt. When I know that the woman I am always shows up for herself it just flows.

I don’t usually comment on videos but honestly God bless you Courtney. I recently ended a 3 year relationship because I realised that being with him (as he is at this moment) meant I was settling in a lot of aspects. It felt like he was very complacent and being around his energy, I realised that not only was I losing my drive, I was also exhausted from trying to motivate and inspire his goals AND mine mostly by myself. I’ve felt so many emotions these past few weeks. I’ve been angry, I’ve cried, I’ve felt at peace, I’ve felt alone, etc. My mental health is just not at the best place right now and this video couldn’t have popped up at a better time. I honestly feel like you’re speaking to meee directly. Thank you so much for putting this out there, because it’s just really reinforced what I know and has stopped me from slipping back into something that might not be good for me. I know in my heart of heart that that relationship, in the way that it existed wouldn’t have taken me to the places I dream of. I dream big and I want more for my life, and while he was incredibly supportive, i just felt like he wasn’t aligned in having that same thirst for life. So he tended to not lead things and drive things that were for the both of us forward without me, because “Judith is the planner”. I was always hopeful that things will change and he’d change his attitude to life and become more ambitious and driven, but you’re completely right. If I have to lose the bigger picture to be with this man and keep trying to convince myself that I’m happy then it’s not for me. Hopefully someone who is aligned with me will come along one day. But for now, I will refocus on my goals and try my best everyday to move things forward on my own.

In terms of career, you've been okay from the end of your degree until now, so I think you should just go for your dreams. You have a track record of things working out for you.

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you ❤️

Women just don't leave room for a single life. If you set your standard, leave room( choice) for life time singleness so that society doesn't force you to settle.

@dennisrobinson8008

2 жыл бұрын

The system wants you to be single and wants you dating a bunch of men, never getting too close to anyone. It produces more taxable income and you are more easily controlled going along with group thinks.

Could you please do a makeup routine video? Your makeup is always flawless!

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

Sure, i'm due an updated one anyway tbh x

I wish we weren't punished as women who want to strive for more and desire to build a foundation that we can be proud of and create ABOVE surviving lifestyles for our present and our future.

Absolutely spot on! Loved every word of this! Society makes it so hard but you really have to keep thinking of the life you want to create for yourself! Lowering your standards has crazy consequences!

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely!

The most clear video for me ever!!!! On such topics. Thank you

Yes hun I completely agree and I love how you expressed this .

"There is a place where we deny our capacity BECAUSE we are IN discipline." Love this leaving our "girlish mindset" behind when it comes to feelings having its way over our decisions/ our word. Reminds me of 1 Corinthians 13:11-12 When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things. This is something I STRUGGLE with on the weekly!! But reminding myself constantly to keep giving an honest effort. Thank you for your wisdom🙏🏾

Oh Courtney I absolutely loved this chat❤️ Thank you so much! Been following you for a couple of years and your content is *chef’s kiss* Thank you!!!!

So nice to see your videos again. Straight talk to your audience. Used to enjoy it. Seeing your growth and it's beautiful. 💯📸

Halfway through the video hitting the replay... Both you & your mind are gorgeous. I wish you every happiness & joy you desire💜

An automatic subscriber! I feel like this video was posted for me. Especially when it comes to actually doing the things I set out to do but keep pushing it because I “don’t feel like it”. I really appreciate you putting it into words ❤️ I’ve listened to TMS podcast but this video just popped up on my recommended list and I’m glad I clicked on it. You inspire me to wake up tomorrow at the time I’ve always said and start anew!!

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

That's so awesome and i'm so glad this video helped you! Keep it up and take each day as it comes.

You’ve said everything I’ve ever wanted to say! Amazing articulation

@CourtneyDaniella

Жыл бұрын

Thank you

Before I even start the make-up is flawless, absolutely stunning. It's always like have confidence in yourself but also not too much/ know your place. Society tells you to settle, but then said society complains and warn you about the consequences of doing that exact thing though.

I needed to watch this video. thank you courtney , I have been feeling stuck and down the past 2 weeks. You're right. Doing a little bit of work everyday , eventually it will pay off and we will see the results

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

You got this! You're welcome x

this was a very beautiful watch!! thank you

This advice is for your age group, I like that you bring in context

You were preaching at the end of the video. Thank you for your wise words 💗

@CourtneyDaniella

Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome

Hi Courtney thanks for your input. I really don’t want to settle at all. Due to my crappy childhood I want bigger for myself but I struggle so much to keep standing for myself and do the things that I said I will do. It is a great reminder even if sometimes is due to AHDH or traumas which keep you from getting your dream and do the work. I appreciate all your words of wisdom. Thanks xoxo P.S: you are stunning as usual. Could you make a make up tutorial please ? I will love to know your make up routine.

"My last resort is something I am still comfortable with!" Amazing.

I agree with this message and this pink colour and make up sis , chef’ s kiss 💋

OMG ...THIS HAS HIT HOME ... FELT !!! ESP THE CAREER PART 🥺♥️

Thank God I been thinking the same thing but I thought I was loosing it lol. The norms are not always normal and more importantly it's okay to want different.

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

It sure is!

This was a much needed and beautifully expressed video. Thank you

thank you Courtney, this was a lovely message. Stay beautiful and stay blessed to you too xxx

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much x

Beautiful daughter of Zion from the tribe of Judah (Yisolele). May Yahuah bless you and give you the family of your desires Courtney. I love the fact that you are a woman of goals but desire the Provers 31 woman lifestyle. Woman of Yah not modern women, KEEP IT UP!!!! Psalm 37:4 Delight thyself also in Yahuah; and He shall give thee the desires of thine heart. 1 Peter 2:9 But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called.

Love this , so many yes I can relate. Thanks for the content like this. This is what will keep up reflecting and keep going.

@CourtneyDaniella

Жыл бұрын

Thank you and glad you enjoyed it 💕

you are PREACHING!

I am in my 40's and do not plan to settle. Especially when I have a divine assignment. Do I believe in REST and RESET, Yes. But settling, nah. Tfs

Your content is so valuable. I have no doubt that you will reach your goals♥️

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much ❤️

This was so good. Thank you for sharing this, Courtney

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

Stumbled upon this, and I seriously need to do some deep thinking about my life. You got a new subscriber😇

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much and welcome x

What a video. Like literally everything me and my sis discuss on the daily. Thanks for sharing and your skin is gorgeous! ❤️🙌🏾

@CourtneyDaniella

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much 💕

I never understood how a lot of men say women will be happy when they are married and have children. Then why are most divorces initiated by women?

"Show up and put in the work" 😭😭😭🙌🙌🙌

This video is right on time for me 😓. So hard to wait for what’s right for you

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

I know sis, but its worth the wait x

I was DISTRACTEDDDDD by your flawless makeup 😍...ok back to watching

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

Hehehe, thank you girl

What helped me is to create a to do list in my notes and write time to do it ,it helps me do what I said I would do

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

This is exactly what I do. I just write a list to guide me through the day and making sure everything gets done and doesn't slip away from me.

I NEEDED this!!!!

Love you so much Courtney 😭❤️full of wisdom

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you ❤️

“Not saying it’s[these dating streets] ghetto..it’s ghetto adjacent” 😂😂😂

Makeup look 🔥🔥🔥

i love this.

Absolutely 💯

Your videos are so valuable sis❤

As a sidenote …. guurl in loving this makeup look!

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

Awww thank you!!

I enjoyed this episode, ALOT! THANK U

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

You are more than welcome, thank you for watching

I needed this 🙂

Too many people think finding someone at your level is “settling” which just keeps them single.

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with this to an extent, if we're looking at where everyone is holistically in terms of maturity, resources, capability etc.

@Chi_di

2 жыл бұрын

@@CourtneyDaniella I just mean level in the purest sense of the word since men and women don’t judge attractiveness by the same criteria. Your level are the people who are attracted to you and willing to commit to you. You will know you’ve gone beyond that level when the people you are consistently meeting are no longer interested in commitment.

@sharifs649

Жыл бұрын

@@Chi_di Bingo Most women dont want to admit this

Love this video

Honour your word!

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

For Real!!

I just love your wisdom ! Chilee I can listen to you talk about a raising a cat !

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

LOOOL Thank you ❤️

I feel likw you have just become my best friend! SUBSCRIBED!

@CourtneyDaniella

Жыл бұрын

Welcome to the party sis x

Thank you Queen for this video❤️🎯

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

My pleasure sis x

I like your personality. I wish you all the best!

@CourtneyDaniella

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, and you too 💕

The power in your speech 🤩🤩🔥

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you x

Girrlllllll I had to clap a few times for this!!!!!

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

So glad you enjoyed it ❤️

You're so beautiful 😍, especially in this colour 🥺🤩

Your voice is so soothing

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

Aww thank you so much! You should definitely listen to my podcast then; it's called 'To My Sisters,'

You look Fab 💕

Would definitely love a response video!

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

Coming soon!

Great video!

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it

I want you as a daughter-in-law one day Lady! Beautiful, wise, insightful, mature!

Giiirrrrllll, I'm torn about a "response video" Part of me is thinking "Don't respond to idiots" Another part of me is thinking "I see how you responding would be helpful especially with how unapologetic, sober and articulate you can be. I see how someone may need to hear you respond to find encouragement and support in their own situation. " All in all, I say do what you feel genuine peace about ❤️

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

This is what I've been going back and forth between too! Thank you ❤️

No settling for less this year

Girl I hope you enjoy this heat you're experiencing in the UK, because it reached 120° in Los Angeles last year 😭 just a warning

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

Lord have mercy! haha

There's actually nothing tempting about settling, i rather be single, successful and have peace then be with a loser dusty.

@mahoganymuffin2628

Жыл бұрын

this!

@whoneedslovewhenyouhaves..859

Жыл бұрын

Amen

It's always better to seek God for the way to go....because as scripture says: There is a way that seems right to a man, But its end is the way of death. Proverbs 14:12 NKJV There is a way that seems right to a man, But its end is the way of death. Proverbs 16:25 NKJV Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths. Proverbs 3:5‭-‬6 NKJV I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will guide you with My eye. Do not be like the horse or like the mule, Which have no understanding, Which must be harnessed with bit and bridle, Else they will not come near you. Psalms 32:8‭-‬9 NKJV

The consistency Courtney, the consistency !!!❤️❤️❤️

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

Wheeewwwww I am trying haha thank you ❤️

Don't forget about the Dutch sis, It's also hot here 😁 Much love from the Netherlands👋🏾

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

Oh wow! I hope you're all doing good out there now x

🙋🏽‍♀️ I’d love a response video please xx

If I submit to you, you better be worthy of my submission 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

@CourtneyDaniella

2 жыл бұрын

Loud it!

I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE WHO SAID THINGS WERE ADJACENT!!!!!!

🤣 lol. I'm definitely on the wrong channel .

Great video. Question: what do you do when you start feeling depressed after years of being felt crumbs and losers and can’t seem to find a good guy that meets your standards? I have entertained lowering my standards and be less “ critical” but then I won’t be happy. I feel I’m going to be alone forever. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you ☺️

@Cherabreena

Жыл бұрын

Focus on building a strong community and meet people organically. If you surround yourself with people of all genders with the same goals in life, your chances of finding a likeminded partner increases.

LOL I haven't been in a relationship for like 9 years. I feel like men dont mature until their over 26 or 27 and often aren't ready for marriage until over 30s

I always think I have managed with the help of God to lto ive a very fruitful life, so why make the latter part of years miserable. Why put my peace, my bag, my health in jeopardy for one area of my life. That can never be me, I am in my early 30s and I have made peace that when the time is right God will make it happen and I don't waver on that. Some say maybe it's God's will for some people to be alone, I beg to differ, biblically he said it's not good for man to be alone. I have not seen any corrections to that.

Common now 😂😂😂

All I’m thinking about while watching is how beautiful you are! 😍

You are so beautiful 😍.

@CourtneyDaniella

Жыл бұрын

Oh thank you!

You lose weight and they say you are too skinny just be and love you.

...So you're saying I need a cushion husband? lol

Lower her standards AND lose some weight????? Nonononono.... No. Stop the record. You MIGHT get one OR the other from me.... This platter WILL NOT come with both, I PROMISE. 😂😂😂😂

It’s ghetto adjacent lololool

@pattiamoh1136

2 жыл бұрын

Someone opinion if me isn't. my concern I could care less

I can almost promise, you’ll will be single forever.