"I know she at least loves me a little" No, she loves what he provides. It's important to know that distinction.

@yourgrandpa2539

Ай бұрын

its like being "friends" while you do all the manual work around her house/give rides on car/pay for going out and maybe even gifts (jfc) she likes having you as a friend... as long as you are useful and benefit her in some way

@themanonthewallgammairradi8763

20 күн бұрын

"Loves me a little?" Love should be absolute. There should be no modifiers. He should leave, without words. Develop a plan and execute the plan. Lmao talk to her? Misunderstood? How the f*ck can you misunderstand "... willing to run away with my trailer trash Ex when he called...?" C'mon. GTFOH.

Story1: op should divorce. His marriage is a lie.

@Farmores

Ай бұрын

I totally agree.

@kebub1

14 күн бұрын

yeah she told him exactly what he wanted to hear and believe...

1 story: "I believed her. We both cried at this stage and we just hugged and sat togetger". We sat down together - she took her cake and eat it, and I ate the bull$hit that she dumped on my head. Happy end.

@tzarius78

Ай бұрын

She down played it.

Nah you don't say settled if you don't mean downgrading. You don't even consider leaving a 4 year relationship at all if you don't mean downgrading. You allowed her to spins some lies.

@Jafar545

Ай бұрын

Well no, the term is usually indicating satisfaction with a current situation in some regard, and no longer searching for a better set of circumstances. Humans also tend to get emotional and make rash decisions in this state. The idea that a person should never "even consider" doing something at all is simply and utterly bizarre... The only major red flag in this story is her talking about "recently" not regretting a choice she made half a decade ago.

@michaelblaes9847

Ай бұрын

He said he cried with her after the talk. She doesn't respect him and he allows her to spin the truth. One day she will leave him and admit she settled and break his heart. Never cry in front of your wife. It kills their attraction for you.

@Jafar545

Ай бұрын

@@michaelblaes9847 Source: Rollo Tomassi interpreting a study from the 50s with an estimated 10 participants?

@BERKE-no1ds

Ай бұрын

​@@Jafar545 The hypocrisy of yours is baffling, keep yapping.

@FrostLordOni

Ай бұрын

@@Jafar545uh… no. You don’t settle for something you’re satisfied with, you settle for something that you don’t want but is the best available. You settle for some Chicken when you really want steak, you don’t settle for chicken what that’s what you wanted in the first place

OP is like "I thought my wife was cheating when I walked in on her with another man, but she assured me it wasn't what it looked like"

Story 1 : Simp doormat deluxe Story 2 : Ultra Gigachad

@dharma391

Ай бұрын

You can clearly identify someone by the way they approach a potential confrontation. 1st OP dodged it for days and gave her enough space to yap. 2nd OP slept on it and nuked her the next morning.

@bcamplite621

Ай бұрын

Thank you. First guy will then say he was 'blindsided' by divorce papers 5 years down the line.

@omkarrasal3c185

17 күн бұрын

Thank you.. I skipped the first

@justadummy8076

11 күн бұрын

⁠@@bcamplite621 No, she won’t divorce him, he’s the ATM, you don’t kill the golden goose, you farm it’s eggs

4:17 Umm This happened 5 years ago, she clearly told her friends that she regretted it until ‘recently’, now she is telling OP that ‘recently’ meant only 1 month after the offer was made..? So by her ‘recently’ was approx 5 years ago.. That’s super sus imo!

@SteveMichael

Ай бұрын

Yeah she is lying and got caught. However actions speak louder than words. She didn't go with this dude, but stayed with him. She has by all accounts been a loyal and good wife. Again actions speak louder than words. As for the ex-boyfriend, I would tell her that if she chooses to go to the funeral or do anything with this guys death that we are done. This would include any survivors guilt crap.

@newvelaric

Ай бұрын

S1: With the ex-bf dead, her options are closed. So she has to say those words. OP is a fool, his “wife” is still looking for better options and it is clear he is not considered high enough.

@mannydcbianco

Ай бұрын

Yes, this. OP let her off the hook way too easily. He bought her bs story hook, line and sinker, without question. Seems like she fed him exactly the lies he wanted to hear, and because he's too afraid of what the truth would mean (potential divorce) he simply accepted it as truth so that he could go back to life the way it was before all this happened, even though deep down he knows that they're living a lie.

@karishma_k

Ай бұрын

@@SteveMichael Yeah, but what if she doesn’t love him and 'settled' for stability (as she herself stated)? She didn’t leave after realizing her ex is an addict and lives in a trailer, while OP is a good provider. She could be lying about other things too, like cheating. Also packing your bags after just 1 hr call.. leaving behind a 4 year relationship? But it’s just SPECULATIONS(maybe I’m overthinking, but that lie made me suspicious!). You could be right too!

@gwenrichard7507

Ай бұрын

Story 1) shouldn't have said he overheard. If she lashed out at her friends he would have known she didn't feel guilt. I'd ask for a postnup.

Nobody in their right mind would say something like that while being in a happy marriage. Garden tools being garden tools.

Story 2: If OP was her very last resort, then CLEARLY she *couldn't* do better.

@SnowyWolborg

26 күн бұрын

Especially when the wife is still only in her mid-twenties. Nobody is going to waste their youth if they think they can do better than what they currently have.

Regarding the first story, ask yourselves this, would She have stayed with her husband if her ex came in one day, with a stable job, a home, and asked her to come back to him? Heck, with even a twinge of stability.

@eleethtahgra7182

8 күн бұрын

Even if....she still harbor feelings for the ex, she shouldn't spout it.

"Briefly on brake"... I bet you she's the one who demanded it too! That'd be when the dude should have left. For good. And found someone who doesn't act like she's still in high school.

@NanoNaps

Ай бұрын

And for some reason the ex knew about the fight and called her? How exactly did he know? OP needs to start asking more questions

@MuDkipzCHancelLOr

Ай бұрын

lol “on a break”. You don’t take breaks from people you love, family, partners, or otherwise. You’re mainly there for the hard times specifically. How some people behave is mind boggling.

@233kosta

Ай бұрын

@@NanoNaps Asking questions is counter-productive when 1. You already know the answer and 2. It will only aggravate the situation. Just leave. Leave her to her ex. And to the streets. Where she belongs.

Story2 : a real man with a steel spine and the courage to stand up for himself.

In the first story, a doormat who will be manipulated and only receive the minimum, in the second, someone with self-love.

Lmaoooo Op for story 1 deserves it all

Story 1: the trickle trusting should tell you all you need, she loves what you provide, not you.

Divorce her. You are just a meal ticket! Who is to say she doesn’t have another man on the back burner waiting for her?

The first one fooled the husband, but the second one busted.

"apologized for listening in" AYFKM??? You have every right to listen in on a conversation in a common room. "I'm glad it was a misunderstanding" Again AYFKM? She settled for him. She saw him as the stable ATM. She's going to cheat on his butt in a year or two. He should have sent her packing

@humansvd3269

28 күн бұрын

She literally just heard: "if this guy is that desperate to have me, what else can I get away with."

@arjundhaliwal8853

18 күн бұрын

I hope the girl cheats with everyone he knows then takes everything from him in the divorce cause doormats at this point just deserve it lol

Yeah the first story the dude is definately a simp doormat. She just didn't want her atm to go away.

Jesus... settled "for the stability", not even for him.

Once she realized he wasn't going to buy her shit, her true colors immediately came out.

Survivors guilt???? Yeahhh they was smooshing

You were her last resort! Gather all the evidence so she cannot deny what she said behind your back. Present the evidence to everyone and then leave. Knowing this move forward! How can you live with her knowing the truth.? 😊

Deluxe doormat edition, don’t see those very often. “I regretted it until recently” Yeah cause the dude is dead, how did he miss that???

Even if she feels that way to tell it to her friends is a disrespect of the highest order lol, disrespect is something should not be tolerated.

First story made no sense , he accepted her bullshit reasoning and even cried in front of her , she probably has zero respect for him.

@dinkyd1533

Ай бұрын

Yep she found her backup beta and she knows it. If the ex was clean and owned his own home she would have dumped OP in a heartbeat.

@His_Noodly_Appendages

Ай бұрын

He wanted to believe the lies.

Perfect marriage?!?! Such an animal doesn't exist, those that think so are delusional.

If you took a break, she 100% cheated. That's what a break is for.

Story 1: I thought she did it on impulse and quickly stopped herself. Nope, she had an hour long flirt with her ex which is already cheating then she packed her things and even regretted not leaving her BF for her EX for months. She honestly made everything WORSE when she talked but simps gonna simp

@mike_o7874

Ай бұрын

I get your point, but dude, it happened 5 years ago. And in the end she did not leave him, but i guess maybe she cheated more then just by flirting that that moment?

@chaitanyagupta6668

Ай бұрын

@@mike_o7874 how can you get the point and at the end explain the point itself. No way she didn't cheat in the 5 years.

@ChaosAngel667

Ай бұрын

@@mike_o7874 you dont know that. You dont know how many times it happened, when it happened and if it stopped happening at all. All you know is that she flirted with her ex, considered abandoning an estable relationship for said ex and kept it hidden from bf. If she had come out to the bf "this happened today and I am telling you because I can warranty it wont happen again" yes I would trust her. The bf found out by chance, thats all.

'Stability' and 'better person' translates to settling and are not the compliments women think they are. Women need to get out of their feelings and listen to men the way they demand men listen to them

First story, OP is in a world of hurt when his wife finds another guy that gives her the butterflies. Well, every guy has to get red pilled at some point in their life I guess.

Gotta give props to the wife in story 1 she knows how to think on her feet . Dude was never gonna leave her . Thats why he never told anyone so he can stay in he delusion life

I now understand what a tool is.

Story 1: OP is completely delusional and he deserves everything he gets.

Story 1: sit and be a slipper like you are... "recently" or until he died... After that, you are great for her... Sometimes it really hurts to see how many people can live in delusion

story 1: I don't wanna be settled for. I'd be gone!

She played MC Like a violin, ( he's stupid, blinded by love, she settled for stability as the ex was living in a trailer, the moment she finds a better option she'll leave for the next and make you her ex

Story 1.Never be second best. She said herself she only stayed because of the stability

Leave her immediately.

THANK GOD this 2nd guy got a prenup.

I love how these stories open with we have a great marriage. Delusional people. When they show you or tell who they are listen to them.Time for this guy to handle himself and his problem. WHY is she talking to her EX! They are a EX for a reason. Story 2 You didn't confront on the spot? STOP SIMPING! You now know where she stands and now she can get out.

Poor guy, new fear unlocked

Well...one nice argument for a future fight .... To spice things up a notch when needed.

To my fellow biological women. If you only see marriage as a temporary thing/JOKE don't get married. Like what'd you do these BS? 🤦‍♀️💢

both stories as soon as you are not providing you will be dumped

Stay single gentlemen

Story 1, yeah ask her so she can lie to you some more. 🤦

Why are women so nonchalant about incredibly intimate details about each other's romantic lives? Also, story 2: oh sweet baby child, you think a prenup will be enough legal defense at divorce court in California? Lawyer up immediately.

Story 1: OP should have hired a PI to investigate whether his wife had any affair during the course of marriage, before confronting her.

Love how both the stories show the two sides of a man. The weak and the strong.

@Takuradiorr

Ай бұрын

Mhmm i prefer the stronger dude because technically he doesn't take bullsh*t

YOU downgraded. She was into a loser who OD. Secondly that’s a ride AF thing to say. Pack your bags! Divorce her and keep being a winner brother

S2: Split finances immediately. Drop her insurance AFTER you tell her. You dodged a cannonball. EVERY time you speak to her record the conversation.x

I feel bad for this guy. Why did she marry you if she never really loved you?

What op 1 should do is leave her, go scorched earth, make sure she understands why horrible storms are given people names. He won't, but he should

If you think you are settling for someone, chances are they are the one who could do better

These ladies just cant keep their mouths shut huh?

Story 1: Jfc OP is a doormat 🤦‍♂️ he needs to wake tf up

Comments sections on these KZread videos are great. It’s as if you all just live off the drama and don’t want what’s best for people or their decision. The first guy isn’t a “mega simp”, he’s a pretty normal guy and had a brief issue with his wife

The dramatic outro of "I'm leaving" is the greatest thing a woman can say and do in a break up. You get to "misinterpret" the meaning and and use the implication to CHANGE THE LOCKS. Take pictures/video of you packing her crap; store it safely some where and move on.

First story sounds like heavy gaslighting to me

@blackfire6009

Ай бұрын

If op believes it, ya can't do anything. I understand the dilemma of hoping it could be a misunderstanding VS having heard what was said. It remains that she decided to talk to her ex after a big fight she had with her husband, something she probably never would've forgiven him for. Call it semantics but "I used to regret it, but not recently" doesn't feel like "I only regretted it for a month, then decided he was better and never thought about it again". "used" mean, well, something "usual" so, for a "long" time, and "recently" well, if she says in the same sentence her having a bag ready was a" long time ago", and she "recently" stopped regretting it, "recently" cannot, be even in the same year as "that time" All that to say, if I were in those shoes, I would find it incredibly hard to trust anything from now on.

Story 1: why does it matter? Your marriage is happy and you love each other and get along well. Everyone needs to "settle" at some point. The comments are full of incel "alpha" wannabes who don't understand the fine nuances of human relationships. Given that her ex was a junkie, maybe her decision was based on impulse rather than reason, and when reason took over, she realized that she was better off staying with her husband.

First one is the simpest of the simpers of the simps

Easy answer….secretly plan your escape….then let her go out and settle for someone else.

S1 Well someone is in denial

S1: Simp wimp etc

"At that moment, I felt like I was on one of those dramatic sitcoms you can find on TV." What was the comedic relief in the situation?

Second story: once the water works proved ineffective that mask came off real quick didn’t it? He’s got spine for standing his ground and moving in from a “partner” that never cared for him.

Second story was great, that "wife" was absolute trash who thought she was the "absolute prize". Her waterworks didn't last long 😂

@humansvd3269

28 күн бұрын

The waterworks were a lie. Women are Oscar worthy actresses.

She clarified to him what she meant but didn't say any of that to her friends.

S1 now this simp can compete with a ghost. That never ends well.

Sometimes you need to lie to yourself in order to sleep

Story 1. She had her bags ready to go to her ex. She was playing hard to keep for the x. She would have left if the x picked her up. OP is a simp. Next time they have another fight she would take her bag and leave him when she finds another lover. Story 2. OP is a real man. His wife does not deserves him.

Story 2: At least she showed her true colours and revealed it was true really easily

Money. Money. Money.

90% of all marriages I know around me is a 'settled down' marriage, and one thing i realised is a marriage like that, crosses the stage of love and directly becomes family.

That means that his earnings are greater than her ex, nothing more. I guess that she needs to use that condescending tone to avoid accountability for her actions and decisions. After all, we all know that we, the men, are the ones to blame for everything. If she has to "SETTLE" for him, it's his damned fault.

You have a perfect marriage but your wife was going to leave you but used you as her back up ATM. Time to divorce.

S1, the dude cries in front of her. You’re gd right she settled for the resources you provide and her explanations when you confronted her were what she thought would satisfy you. Guess what she doing on those girls night out she you mention she has often…

first dude has no spine

05:04 Second Story

First story, what a simp...

Yuck.

For fuck sake, don't talk behind your partner's back to sound interesting tonyour friends.

You do not have perfect marriage! Living in ultra reality. If the x shows up she will dump you hard and fast. lol.😮

I agree, most of them are definitely fake

st1 basic simp. they always need some space to process then just have long, deep conversations 😀😀 disgusting. st2 he is young and fool but obviously getting progress.

@mike_o7874

Ай бұрын

I dont get it, have you ever been in a relationship? I mean its easy to SAY YES DUMP THAT BIETCH you been with for 9 years she is A BITCH. You do realize they been together for 9 years? and that incident happened 5 years ago? like dude chill. I mean at least from that you cant know that she has cheated, if she actually did, then okay i get the point.

First story, the idiots saying he needed to divorce her, why? 😂

@Franatomy

Ай бұрын

She's clearly lying but ignorance is bliss

@chaitanyagupta6668

Ай бұрын

I sometimes think how can men be such doormats and suffer abuse happily, then i see comments like this.

A trailer really

Getting in touch and talking with her ex is cheating. Who knows may be they already had sex again. Feel sorry for OP for being a simp doormat,

Woman uses man until he's no longer convenient... a tale as old as time.

In both cases, the wife never loved the husband, but that isn't the problem. Most married women do not love their husbands, and it is not reasonable for most men to expect their wives to love them. The real problem is that both women disrespected their husbands, and that is intolerable. A man has every right to expect his wife to treat him with respect. In the first case, OP allowed his wife to make up a story to mollify his hurt feelings, and maybe that will turn out okay. As long as she treats him with respect and loyalty from now on, their marriage might work out. In the second case, though, OP was definitely right to end things. That level of disrespect is just unforgivable.

S2 old story and she just showed her true colors now He’ll be fine and she can go back to the CC

That first dude lmao, gentlemen if you cry infront of your women(wife or gf), women lose their respect for you and immediately consider you a beta. When they say they like an emotional man, it means she likes a man who can listen to her emotions and react accordingly, or maybe be like that one boxer who is in the final fight and is in his emotional state before overcoming them to win the match against his eternal rival. What women say and what women want is completely different. No woman likes a man who cries.

@GretgorPooper

Ай бұрын

What kind of incel bullshit venue are you getting your information on women from?

These Reddit posts are making me scared to death of marriage... what a convoluted bag of lies

lol first story was like bro... married for 9 years or something and great intimate relationship? Plus the Ex was even dead at that point, he overreacted. Reddit telling him to divorce her was really uncalled for, just a talk would be good.

@mike_o7874

Ай бұрын

Yep that's what i was thinking.

@Franatomy

Ай бұрын

Nope, he should have left her but of course he was never going to.

@chaitanyagupta6668

Ай бұрын

ultra gigadoormat comment.

@filosahoge947

Ай бұрын

@@chaitanyagupta6668 you're free to think that, but eavesdropping on someone without even giving them a chance to explain themselves I find even more cowardly. She had the choice between the adventure of her ex or "settling" with OP, and she chose to settle because it was safer. That's a perfectly reasonable criteria, choosing safety over adventure in a drugged out trailer park.

@humansvd3269

28 күн бұрын

​@@filosahoge947dude, 4 years she felt like she was settling and was ready to leave him over 1 phone call. For a guy who was near homeless and on drugs. That says a lot about her character. She clearly likes the guy for stability and nothing more.

Not blaming the dude but a way to prevent this from happening to you is to not be the sort of dude who cries with his wife. Masculinity is stable. Control yourself for the benefit of people around you.

@ragingsaviorkami9862

28 күн бұрын

Nah. If I can't cry with my wife, I don't want her.

@ROSHing1

28 күн бұрын

@@ragingsaviorkami9862 consider dating men

"Also she mentioned possibly having survivor's guilt." Reclusiarch Grimaldus (Warhammer 40.000): "She is welcomed to join the Black Templars. As a Chapter Serf."

Find a new wife

Story one yikes… grow a backbone homie

Story 1: I'm on team "wife didn't mean it like that." What she MEANT was that a life of adventure with dangerous ex made her excitement endorphins go brrrrrrr, and then the smart part of her brain shut that whole line of thought down. "Settled" in that case doesn't mean "could have done better," it means she chose to eat the balanced meal instead of the entire birthday cake. It's be nice if she didn't even consider the ex's offer, but, if she were the kind of person who could do that, then she wouldn't have had an exciting druggie ex at all.

@sugarbeef

Ай бұрын

There's a big difference in the word that follows "settled". If you settle WITH, that's not an insult. If you settle FOR, that's an insult. It's like the standard cheater line of "it's not what it looks like!" in that it can't be anything else, they're just trying to convince you otherwise.

@miceltusav88

Ай бұрын

Excuse me, why do you simp?

@VitorHugoOliveiraSousa

Ай бұрын

There is one big problem in your interpretation, she regretted her decision until recently. And I don't buy her lie of recently being one month after the decision 5 years ago. No one would say recently to define this situation, what she means is literally recently, days, weeks or at best a few months ago. And I bet that the recently was the death of her druggy ex, only them she had a final epiphany that if she had stayed with him she would be dead by overdose just like him. This was not a momentary lapse of judgment driven by hormones, this was a lifelong calculated decision that she regretted until reality showed her beyond reasonable doubt that if she had choose the other path her life would have ended. And until that point she was a actress play a character and living a lie.

@sproutedquinoa5179

Ай бұрын

Nah, I still think she gets a pass. She made the right call. And everybody embellishes a little when they're talking to a friend, it adds to the drama. Story 2 though, holy shit bro dodged a narcissitic bullet for sure.

@chaitanyagupta6668

Ай бұрын

I sense a generational gap here. Most men back then can suffice knowing their wife is with them just for their money. Men today can't. They have expectations and one of them is respect and another thing called love. What you said will be happily interpreted like that by a man from 80s. But men of today will immediately take offense as they should. Being with a woman who has absoluteyl no respect for you and is in there only and only for your money. Naaah.