You say she is the most "thoughtful, caring, loyal person" you know. You need to get to know some more people.

@JamesL0717

Ай бұрын

The problem is, many people are good at hiding their true selves, even against their own family. These people just need some push to reveal their true nature.

@VRDejaVu

Ай бұрын

I am actually worried that OP has never met anyone else, ever.

@paulefstathiou1819

Ай бұрын

Hopefully the sex was worth it .

@littlemisstink921

Ай бұрын

Exactly what I said

@JimPippin-wc7fq

Ай бұрын

That ain't anywhere close to loyalty

If you ever hear "male toxicity" or "insecure" run fast, and get out = divorce or dump

@MrModaman

Ай бұрын

Those are codewords that comes out of a cheaters mouth.

@littlemisstink921

Ай бұрын

Hell yeah

@jonvicmamon2529

Ай бұрын

All her friends husband should know what they did and face the consequences

@SnowyWolborg

21 күн бұрын

Look at how quickly the wife just came out of the gate with those accusations before anything could even happen. Her entire plan was to gaslight an emotionally manipulate this man from the jump.

@kimmogensen5390

21 күн бұрын

Oooh but but but PATRIACHY!

Calling someone toxic and insecure for not wanting their monogamous partner sleeping around is 100% emotional manipulation

@-lord1754

Ай бұрын

If emotional manipulation had picture in a textbook itd be the first line of this reddit post

You could say he lost is wife to cancer. She wasn't the same person afterwards.

@JimPippin-wc7fq

Ай бұрын

He lost her to the cu*ts that she works with. It was they who were encouraging her to do this. Not a single one of them was happy in their own relationship and they didn't think twice about convincing her to destroy hers.

@frankblasky1296

Ай бұрын

This is the best comment made on this post.

@tanura5830

25 күн бұрын

😂 it's not the cancer she is selfish and primitive

@tanura5830

25 күн бұрын

This sounds like cancer is the one that is blamed but it's the women's own choice

@mar10gaming

18 күн бұрын

yo, so true. lost my mum to cancer. She's still alive but not the same

"Unless she wins the lottery and I find it in my heart to forgive her" 🤣🤣🤣

Bro wasn't Gaslit, bro was GasTorched

@penelopeisgoingofftopic6786

28 күн бұрын

Bro wasn't GasTorched, bro was GasBombed

@conq1273

17 күн бұрын

​@penelopeisgoingofftopic6786 bro got warcrimed

She could have done some crazy stuff with her husband, lived life to the fullest with her husband, fallen more deeply in love with her husband after getting a new outlook on life. Nah, she decided to cheat. Tells you what kind of person she was/became.

I can only image how tough it must have been for OP as well when his wife got diagnosed and treatment. Yet she chose to be selfish. How’s cheating on your partner of 20 years equals to “living life to the fullest”?

@OWnIshiiTrolling

Ай бұрын

"Living life to the fullest" is often code for doing whatever you want and pretending that there are no consequences. Just like the wife here was surprised that her actions had consequences.

@Haxkarl

Ай бұрын

Thats how you know that the wife never really loved him, she just settled for him.

I didn’t even need to hear the details. You’re not wrong she is! LEAVE HER! Run forest ruuuuuunn!!🏃‍♂️

@Roshea

23 күн бұрын

the west is ruined!

There is never a "one time pass" - it is just a first time pass. Her level of disrespect toward you was amazing. It is incredible that the object of her infidelity was a fat, bald loser. Good on you for moving along with your life.

@jacksongunner7122

18 күн бұрын

Cheaters usually cheat down.

If this comment is seen by a single person, and makes the slightest difference in a single relationship, it will be worth saying this. People, when you cheat, offering your partner to cheat back, or offering them a 3-some, it isn't a quick fix, at least from my point of view. having been in this position, I didn't want to sleep with anyone else, or have a 3-some. I wanted something that my then wife was no longer able to give me no matter how hard she tried, her unwavering loyalty, as I had given to her. I was put in a position like this, told what was going to happen beforehand, and told I had no choice, but I did have a choice, to leave, and I did. If you crave someone else, then break up, or divorce, and THEN go do it, otherwise you're just a useless gardening tool, male or female, goes both ways. If you want someone else, that's fine, heart wants what the heart wants, but do it the right way.

@chetp8423

3 күн бұрын

Told you had no choice.... smh. Well done showing the cheater you did indeed have a choice. Very sorry you had to go through that - must have been gut wrenching.

@Yazevski

3 күн бұрын

@@chetp8423 For a bit yeah, but I eventually got over it, we had no assets, and rented our living quarters at the time, so it was fairly easy to separate from the legal standpoint

So she is probably already in an emotional affair, wants permission to cheat and tries to gaslight/shame language him along with a not so subtle hint that he will pay a price if he doesn’t lay down and accept it. Yeah, she sounds like a real gem. The whole toxic masculinity/insecure thing would have done it for me. Yeah, don’t worry about that I can 100% guarantee you will not be exposed to that ever again.

Dude did the right thing. I was impressed by how he conducted himself.

The way she cheated & her excuses & then refusal to accept the reality of an impending divorce afterwards shows a level of contempt for her husband that is quite extraordinary - he should never speak to her again…

The fact this guy even has to ask is why I hate Reddit. Strong men don't even question themselves, they dump their girl the moment the words "insecure," "toxic masculinity," or "fragile male ego" come out of their mouth. And Reddit is 100% on board with people using those terms. Back to SSM.

@kimmogensen5390

21 күн бұрын

Oooh but but but PATRIACHY!

Someone getting cancer doesn't give that person the right to change the rules of a monogamous relationship.

Emotional blackmail. That's an immediate grounds for divorce right there, as it's a fundamental violation of trust for the sake of hedonism.

So let me get this straight: She wants something that will hurt him with a complete disregard for his feelings AND tells him he is insecure and toxic if he doesn't want to get hurt? Wild.

How was there even a moment where he needed time to think about whether or not you wanted to stay with his wife? There's not even a reasonable justification to try to put yourself in her shoes after making a request like that. If my wife or I were to ask the other if we could have a hall pass for any possible reason while one is still breathing and married to the other, we might as well rephrase that question with the words I want to divorce so I could sleep with other people. Because there's no possible way in hell either of us would see that as an option in our marriage and anyone who does, is either already cheating or planning on cheating whether you give them permission or not. The level of manipulation and gas lighting shown by this woman was clearly a direct result of being influenced by her friends and social media, which should have made it that much more simpler for him to remove her from his life. Women who take advice from their harpy friends instead of trusted and married family members, have a higher propensity to sabotage their marriage.

divorce immediately. she's a cheater and probably never was wife material. You married an illusion, however painful it is. save you from future misery and save this 304 from a "toxic unsecure" uhusband

10:54 Wow the audacity 😪

Yeah/Nah, get rid of her NOW, engage a lawyer, ghost her and let the lawyer deal with it.

Wow, this woman is awful. He didn't want her to cheat so she decided to just do it and "take the decision out of his hands" wtaf, leave her dude. Christ

I swear marriage used to be about love but now it's all about transaction Once the wedding happens the love dies off

@sproutedquinoa5179

Ай бұрын

Yeah nah, for like one brief shining second after birth control pills but before social media, marriage was about love, in one small sliver of demographic, for one small sliver of western cultures. For all other times, locations, and years, it's been transactional.

@bud5084

21 күн бұрын

It is like a business with two owners, they end up trying to shite the other one out of everything.

I'm sorry but if my daughter ever told me to get back with a cheater I'll just ask her one question. "Will you change your last name or should i change mine?" Cuz that's not my daughter anymore

@derSchmarte

13 күн бұрын

actually this are 2 questions... jokes aside, i think its clear that it wasnt a rational request of the daughter, but instead only bc noone wants mum and dad to divorce, especially in the very moment you get the news

dude, none of those words describe her. if she were any of those things, she wouldn't be making demands to sleep with other guys while basically telling you to get over it

I am a 2 time cancer survivor. Been with the same person since high school and have been married for 14 years. This is just nuts. It's an excuse she is using. I have a feeling she has been hanging out with the wrong people, and she has changed her viewpoint and expects him to as well. I could never ask my wife for a hall pass after she stuck by me through everything and sacrificed herself.

@elade7857

Ай бұрын

Goddamn, good on you bro for beating that shit twice! I hope it won't come back for another rematch, you've allready kicked it's ass!

@ciromaccarone7494

Ай бұрын

All spot on, i bet her friends suggested her to go with that approach with him, to gaslight him in having no choice but to accept her affair, good for him to realize he had a choice afterall

Gaslighting 101 This is common tactic cheater use to manipulate their partner n to guilt trip them

Say no Divorce is the only answer .

He took her to expensive, international vacations and now she wants to cheat?

The wife offers him nothing a husband needs. Loyalty, honestly, selflessness, family, respect, peace... She can give him NONE of it. Get rid of her.

I remember this story. This story was out for a couple of years. OP's wife is truly a POS. She cheated on her husband who did nothing but the absolute best for her. Stood by her with the cancer and took her out for trips around the world. He could have just abandoned her and left her to fend for herself. But he didn't and what did she do to repay him? She tells him that she's going to have sex with some asshole that has been courting her for a while which she known because she says that she deserves it and it was going to happen regardless whatever he like it or not. She's no wife at all but a absolute despicable 403. OP really should have done more like tell her that if she does it, he divorces her. Especially he should have gotten out of the car to confront that asshole and lay down the law. If he had done anything of that, he would still be married or have a lot more self respect for himself. The wife's friends are complete trash too especially the best friend. I'm willing to bet that she's the one who told the wife to sleep with that asshole and cause this situation. The daughter really should just cut off her mom and completely support OP as he deserves it and he needs someone at his side. People, appreciate the people who stood by you through hard times. Don't ever pay back good with evil.

If you are ever sad that you are unwanted, unloved and single, imagine that you have long term relationship with "love of your life" and then you get backstabbed just because your partner is "bored". Only imagining it feels like living hell.

there's no way in hell this would have been a one time thing if he tolerated it.

"I want your permission." "No." "I'm doing it anyway." Instant divorce.

@bud5084

21 күн бұрын

Even wanting to do it is cheating

Bruh, how can he even consider that this is okay?

He's the toxic one? That's some low quality gaslighting.

bro kept his balls by divorcing

I thought she promised to be faithful as long as you both lived on your wedding day?

She does not sound at all like the OP described in the opening of the video. She sounds like a terrible person to attempt a relationship with, I would advise not doing so.

Your marriage is over . PERIOD !!!

The way I see it? She can go back to the other guy if he's good enough to screw while she's married. Being married means you stick with the person unless there are circumstances that change things. But the funny thing is if you wanna get with other people? Break it off first. That way it's not cheating and you truly show how much you care about the other person by respecting them and not expecting them to be some safety net. Cancer or not, ask her this. Would she be ok if you used the same excuse while she was still dealing with cancer? Saying how your needs need to be met and she can't meet them? Would she have been perfectly fine back then? If no? Double standards, plain and simple.

Spoiler alert; her comments reveal that she is in fact *not* the most intelligent, thoughtful, caring and loyal person you know. If you still believe that, then you should stay with her because you deserve each other.

I am pretty sure she has been already cheating. She was only too lazy to actually try to hide it anymore.

i guess the cancer really did take his wife...

So, she really took the "for better or for worse" part of those vows to heart, huh? Give her a permanent hall pass and divorce her.

Op just make sure in divorce that you're ex wife has to return to her mating name.

THEY don't need counseling. SHE does. When asked why she cheated so easily, her response was "because I could". That answer was a huge red fu#king flag...

Hmm... Wife definitely wanted a divorce from the start. Otherwise, what's the point of telling hubby about the plans?

The moment she took it out of your hands is the moment you divorce. Your only choice is divorce.

Yes, tell her that you agree as long as she let's you do the same with someone she knows. Do not tell her who that person is because you don't want to ruin anything between them, but say you have been denying her requests in respect for you. If she proceeds, then go visit ahooker and ask for a divorce.

This woman has likely done this before but knows she can't hide it. Divorce and ghost.

I would really like to know what her AP has to say to this. Just out of curiosity... OOP was dealt a crappy hand with her...

OP should tell her, "Fine, I'll just be a toxically masculine, insecure single/divorced man."

Deargod leave her

Please pay attention how and army of women. Even HIS daughter made excuses for a cheater. And like OP said, "i doubt i would have been given those same considerations if was the one on her shoes"

Just simply say " hallpasses do not exist in any relationship I am in" I would not need advice on the issue. If she goes anyway the marriage is over. This guy is a wimp. I detest such guys.

Her and all of her friends, nothing but 304s.

The furthest distance between any two numbers, is 0 and 1. If he would have been fine with it, such a thing will happen again, and again. That said, a lot of the things he'd put kind of convince me as to why she thought thia would go over in her favor.

My first thought on hearing "male toxicity": utterance of the phrase is a manifestation of feminist toxicity.

Sometimes I get more annoyed by the OP than the supposed villain in the story, like what kinda dumbass question is this?

The guy has kissed her feet so long she looks down on him like a pet instead of a partner. She's not a wife anymore, time for the 'Dog' to show some teeth... She wants a 'Break', it's called a divorce.

Cameras and Microphones (or she will blame you as of she never said anything wrong to you! No witnesses!)

Tell you met a woman you want to get to know better and see her reaction.

No way was this a one time thing with this guy , anyone man or woman who suggest this doesn't love or respect you .

It reminds me of the sister that slept with her sisters bf and used the escuse of cancer that she had as a child

gas lighting.... OP put her up on a pedestal and now she thinks she deserves to be there, regardless of her actions. She's just using OP. It's already over. Move on

Time to leave her my guy. Sucks but it is time to let her go. She made her decision with out you thats not a marriage anymore.

Would have filed the moment she said that bullshit

i mean ask her for one and she will show her true colors

stage 1 yeah f off i had worse and it never crossed my mind to cheat on my wife,,,,,god danm H

when will people understand that when your partner asks you to swing, open relationship, hall pass, you already know the answer no one should want to do any of these things in a real marriage. you had your answer when she told you about this stupidty

Tell your wife to Honor her marriage vow period or face divorce.

Nope, dump.

Yiu should simply ask for a "hall pass" as well, and then they're fucked. Just go see a prozzy or something.. that way, you can get back on her shit, and trust me: she will DEFINITELY respect you a lot more.

What do you mean you don’t know what to do??????

did he just say “short, fat and bald” and proceed to say “All things I couldn’t compete with”? what?? this is all negative things and not positive

@dinkyd1533

Ай бұрын

He was being sarcastic.

Damn maybe islam has some good ideas

ragebait

Guys need to stop putting up with this feminist BS. If a girl doesn’t respect you, then dump them.

it's good story but it's a recycled one. Third time hearing it.

@ESNchris

Ай бұрын

very true. answer is the same, dump the cheater, expose her and go NC. she can go take her fling for her old days,

@momohouse44komodocriss

Ай бұрын

All stories here are recycled

@chetp8423

2 күн бұрын

I've heard it before, too. Not sure why, but I binge on stories like this from time to time. Probably dealing with my own marital trauma (though not involving infidelity). I have rarely had a story make me more angry than this one.

Get divirce and proper partner

When you heard words "male toxicity" that means is time to get a brand new wife. Congratulations.

Is this real?

This shit never happened

The wife perceived OP as weak. Thats why man need have iron fist in marriage, or will had too deal with this kind kf BS

The moment my husband asked for a hall pass is the moment our marriage would be over. I would leave him in the middle of cancer treatment or survived a bear attack, i don't give a single fuck. The way he was asking to many questions and begging her to not cheat on him a because she had cancer 🤡🤡🤡🤡

She already has. She just wants your consent for it to continue. Walk away and never look back.