No actually his wife is not a saint.

@k2barnes

Ай бұрын

Exactly

@FishAndChips2478

Ай бұрын

Not at all, this doormat doesn't realize he was simply her safety net

Dude, really? She does not deserve his support. Years of blatant disrespect should not be rewarded.

@brendadickson9583

Ай бұрын

Exactly I was disappointed when he apologized like why😢

@SnowyWolborg

4 күн бұрын

@@brendadickson9583 Reddit has a very bad habit of convincing people that just because someone is a teenager and that they're having a hard time that they should be able to get away with years worth of disrespect. After a certain point, enough has to be enough.

Reddit saying everyone was at fault for the first story is bullshit. He could have gone scorched earth on the brat when she said that "your not my real dad". Id have said "you're right, because unlike him in actually here in your life"

@brendadickson9583

Ай бұрын

Totally agree

@zinc_magnesium

Ай бұрын

“Him saying something cruel to his daughter is not bad because I would have been crueler.” God I hope you don’t have kids…

@Camuale

Ай бұрын

@@zinc_magnesiumTo be fair, she isn’t his daughter. Your logic makes no sense.

@zinc_magnesium

Ай бұрын

@@Camuale me when replacing step-daughter with daughter is an incomprehensible change that “makes no sense” Literally the whole point of the story was the daughter learning to accept her new family. You, her, or anyone saying that step-family is “not real” just shows how narrow minded you are.

@Zartzurt-b5x

12 күн бұрын

⁠@@zinc_magnesiumStep-family is not real was point of the step-daughter. He simply showed her results of this thought. Which was appropiate, it had been 12 years since he started as her “father”.

"If you try to please everyone, you'll be the most popular dead guy in town," Braun Game of Thrones - first story

@morgumal

Ай бұрын

Bronn*

@arjundhaliwal8853

Ай бұрын

@@morgumalLeBron*

Anyone saying it is inappropriate to check the phone of a rebellious teenager that drinks and sneaks out the house is stupid. And are definitely not real parents. There is no way you don't look into the life of an out of control teenager like that. Their own privacy and trust is not a right.

@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259

Ай бұрын

Fr

@melopsicodelia

Ай бұрын

100%

@Skylar_candova

Ай бұрын

Exactly!!! He would be ta if she didn't do those things but if I was her parent, I would have done the same. She had their trust, but she broke it so now she has to earn it back

@IM_GOING_TOO_HAM

Ай бұрын

I was writing this exact statement, but figured it was such a blatantly stupid comment someone else had to had wrote it.

S1 is classic reddit. Teenagers are both adults who can make their own decisions and little children that shouldn't have consequences.

@Sg190th

Ай бұрын

The world either makes teens grown up enough or kids through certain reasons.

@Jamie_Wulfyr

Ай бұрын

Schrödinger's adulthood.

First story : NTA. You have a son, pay for his tickets.

S1: she sounds like a terrible mom lol

@brendadickson9583

Ай бұрын

She sounds like a pushover

s1 you are a doormat!!!!!!!!! She needs ground rules and for you to enforce them!!!

Second story: I can understand lying to the parents, but why lie to your daughter? :( I can’t imagine the guilt and hatred she must have felt her whole life.. But kudos to OP! He did a great job handling the situation.

@Didjeue

Ай бұрын

AITAH is full of a bunch of simps and women who think they are owed the world while doing absolutely nothing. Go repost a story and flip the genders, 90% of the time people will always side with the girl no matter what happened.

@Mundanesoup4

Ай бұрын

She was SAed after they hooked up and thought the father was the person who r*ped her. Later she says she's thankful it's his and not the r*pers when she finds out he's the actual father.

Story 1, who the hell would let their 16 yearold daughter fly across the state to see a boyfriend? That is bad parenting. I don't blame OP for hos comment. The commenters who call you the AH for looking through her phone, shut the hell up. My kid ain't got no privacy in their phone in my house especially if I pay for it. The comment wasn't out of line, he gave her what she wanted. Stop defending the teen

@brendadickson9583

Ай бұрын

Wow love this comment 🎉

@chasevickers5794

Ай бұрын

@@brendadickson9583 thank you

@MrBiggyfoot69

Ай бұрын

I completely agree but stopped at the no privacy. I mean, if you paid for it yeah, I get it, but none?

@chasevickers5794

Ай бұрын

@@MrBiggyfoot69 none on their phone. Now they can have privacy at home or between them and whoever but when it comes to the phone and computer the answer is no because to many crazies out there and I rather my kid be mad at me than talk to someone they don't know and try to meet up or something and I know nothing about it

@MrBiggyfoot69

Ай бұрын

@@chasevickers5794 ohhh ok

Story 1: So let me get this straight: After all the BS your stepdaughter did, the Reddit Community convinced *you* to apologize? It wasn't mentioned, so I assume, even though all her crying and progress and stuff she didn't apologize for her wrongdoings? Furthermore: If she doesn't respect you then she gets herself an effing part time job to earn the tickets herself, that's it.

@nachtwaya8721

Ай бұрын

Reddit thinks that women/girls should be allowed to do whatever they want with no consequences, and that parents aren't allowed to discipline their kids.

@brendadickson9583

Ай бұрын

He is not being a good parent at all WHY did he have to apologize to her, she will never respect him, as an African am shocked at what is happening to some parents that side I swear😢like you reward disrespect

Second story: she lied for years telling people she was SA'd and got away with it basically nothing she said to explain herself made any sense whatsoever..

First Story: Your first mistake was not respecting yourself enough as man and trying to raise and provide for some else's kid, now you are surprised that this blew in your face, amazing!

S1: Sounds like the step-daughter needed that comment to wake up to be honest. Considering how she was opened for dialogue after hearing it I believe she needed it so she could free up whatever pent up frustrations and pain she had. Sometimes, it's not the gentle hand that fixes issue; sometimes you need the right tone and words to get people out of it.

NTA... She can improve her attitude or grow out of it in someone else's house. No one will ever pull that shit in my house.

@brendadickson9583

Ай бұрын

Straight up she is spoiled I don't get such parenting I swear, so he is rewarding her rudeness, n what is this nonsense of parents not suppose to look into their children phones, even some couples say do calling it invading of privacy like we are a couple what privacy.

His problem. Never should have married her mom.

For story 1, I'd say NTA. OP is a great stepfather who did everything for stepdaughter, much more than what her deadbeat bio father could have done. And yet, what this girl does in return is being a rude, ungrateful brat who chooses absent AH bio father over the person who truly cared about her.

stroy 2: " my family has distinctive noise" sure you do buddy

The daughter should be the one apologizing. Not OP.

I think it's insane for someone to be a stay at home parent when your kid isn't your husband's biologically

@MindOfACouch

Ай бұрын

Honestly was thinking the same thing and I hope it started only after they had they're own kid. I'd be dammed before I take that disrespect in my household while I'm actively trying to provide for you and your mother

First story she wants to be a stay-at-home mom she needs to have some sort of income to support her child that child is right you're not her father you are not responsible to pay for a darn thing of hers

@Flarizel

Ай бұрын

If OP income is more than enough and they set this ground rule before they made a 2nd kid - I don't see an issue. But ultimately, you don't just cut financial support from the kid, just bc "it's not mine". If you treat your kids and stepkids differently - your family is doomed.

She is 16 and you know your wife for 12 years so she was 4 at the time and she is still scared of you ?

@RemixerUltimate

Ай бұрын

She’s not scared, clearly, she was just acting like a jackass.

@katyagrad3704

Ай бұрын

And her mother never did anything to help her husband and daughter in their relationship

@brendadickson9583

Ай бұрын

​@@RemixerUltimateTrue

@brendadickson9583

Ай бұрын

​@@katyagrad3704Because she is a saint remember 😂😂😂😂This man doesn't see he is being played by mom n daughter

Story 1 is perfect example how step parent will have responsibilities of a real parent and none of the privileges. He is literally paying for everything while she still spits on his face saying he isn't her real father lol

Where is her father’s child support? If you pay for her phone turn it off.

@matthewhuszarik4173

Ай бұрын

It doesn’t matter if she is your daughter or step daughter. If she is rebellious take the phone away. She shouldn’t get plane tickets unless she is a responsible young women.

@brendadickson9583

Ай бұрын

​@@matthewhuszarik4173Yes she doesn't nothing until she behave herself

I think people forget that privacy and trust is a privilege not a right, the only right you get as a kid is unconditional love, food, shelter, and clothing, everything else is privilege

@brendadickson9583

Ай бұрын

Exactly

First story, NTA. Why doesn't the wife work? Then she can pay for her brats needs. He is TAH for apologizing. Let her live with her real father. I would have taken the phone from her as a punishment. The daughter is acting nice from pressure by her mom. She doesn't really mean it.

S1: I don’t like that people pushed him to apologized, but I guess everything seems to be getting on track now, if only slightly. That comment was definitely the wake up call she needed.

NTA! respect, treat others how you want to be treated. she wanted to be treated that way apparently 👏

Never pay for the step kids stuff I repeat never pay for step kids stuff

@brendadickson9583

Ай бұрын

😂😂Totally agree she should get a job

@humanbetterthanai

Ай бұрын

Both of you sucks. Is it the child's problem that her mom and dad divorced? Honestly you guys should never had any children. Also she just turned 16, she couldn't get a job so early. Children are children, whether yours or someone else. If they were adult like 18 or 19 then I could understand. You guys are truly a horrible person

Story 1: Just leave, man! Get out! Even if your wife loves you, it's not worth your mental, physical, and financial health to raise a child that is not only not yours biologically, but one that clearly doesn't love you (and may not ever love you) Divorce would suck for the wife, but it has be done. You are not her father, she's made it clear to you that this is the case. So act like you're not.

Story 1: What does OPs wife do? I wouldnt need to go through a phone that wouldnt work anymore.

It's only in America that's parents are raised by their kids, What the hell is it parents are not allowed to check their children's phones???? no wonder kids that side are disrespectful n feel they can say n do as they wish n nothing will be done, Not saying in general by the way, Parents must set boundaries n kids must follow them, yes love n care for your children but they must respect their parents period. I am African, South African if anyone is curious 😊

Read between the lines 3:00 in, clearly they had an affair. She was married and he gave her "platonic" advice to leave her husband and they immediately began dating and married soon after. They both suck, its no wonder the daughter never got a long with him and hates him for "tearing her family apart"

Dating a single stay at home mom, moving in and marrying one, is risky. Because of delu kids.

@brendadickson9583

Ай бұрын

😂😂

Regarding the comment about whether the home DNA testing is reliable- what kind of stupid question is it in that situation? Does someone really think it’s not actually OP’s kid, but just happened to march with someone he’s had sex with at the right time, with circumstances matching? That’s “grain of sand in all the beaches” improbable.

Don’t get serious with a single mom. Never date ones with daughters.

"A lot has happened since the last time I posted." Translation: "Everything after this was made up by this KZreadr."

S2: The comment about the test being off lacks so much logic to get there. I'm not saying mistakes don't happen but let's look at what has to happen. The mismatch has to happen first, then it just happens to be from a random person who your mother hooked up with 30 years ago and have not seen since. 3 different things would have needed to happen, the test failed (plausable), matches with a known person (unlikely) and that person did have a sexual relationship with the mother (cosmic levels of chance) Just to use some math lets say the tests have a 20% chance to fail so a 1 in 5 chance, now lets say the mother has had a few partners during that time, 3 sounds reasonable, well considering the earth has 7 billion people and only about 1/2 are male that still would be about 1 / 1,000,000,000 in itself then factor in the test fail chance and you end up with 1 in 5,000,000,000 chance of this all lining up. To put it in better perspective you have a 1 in 15,300 chance to be struck by lightning in your life, even getting struck twice in a lifetime has a higher chance at under 1 in

Why would you marry a single mom.

@Hoki4

Ай бұрын

Some just fall in love with the woman and don't care about the package deal. I don't know if its desperation or what, but I would never take single mom seriously, because of the package deal bs that comes with it.

@ihatepeopleyes9492

Ай бұрын

​@@Hoki4yea we call them fools.

@itzurswar

Ай бұрын

Why tf u r being so rude? Its op's choice enough of ur bs

@NoReaSoN2CaR3

Ай бұрын

@@itzurswar Triggered Single M.O.M.

@fyoutube9410

Ай бұрын

@itzurswar lol, ironic you calling me rude but calling my question bs. I did not question whether it's his choice or not, i asked why is he making that choice giving all the downside to it. Answer the why.

Haha, Why would you pick up the garbage another man clearly doesn't want. 😂 Just leave bro

I don’t like OP. First, I don’t believe for a second he was “platonic” with his wife while she was still married, only dating her “a few months after the divorce”. That’s BS-speak for “we were having an affair”. Also, I could understand taking her electronics altogether, but routinely riffling through his step-daughter’s phone is an excellent way to elicit the most extreme of negative reactions. No teen will willingly give their private communications over for inspection. He also stated that he forced her to go to therapy… how gross. I wouldn’t tolerate the “FU, you’re not my real dad” BS when he’s the one paying all her bills, but the way he has been responding sounds controlling and invasive, so it’s no wonder she hasn’t opened up.

@davidnash8208

Ай бұрын

Sometimes I think these forums will implode. People won't post if they are going to be accused of lying by someone who can't possibly know.

Yep ! Why spend money on her ? Not his problem ! Also maby not date single mothers then !

If he wanted his own family he should have started his own family rather than take over another man's

@1986trinder

Ай бұрын

Never play another mans save game

Lmao, single mothers.

Story 1 leave tf

Fake

@davidnash8208

Ай бұрын

Always at least one.

Here’s a lesson from this story, don’t be a dumbass and get involved with a single mother, it’s not worth the hassle or headaches