Wow, wow, wow Mel. I love the way you are not intimidated or back down from the getting the answers, we as novices need. Without that, he made absolutely no sense to me. You are in a league of your own, dear Mel.

@vzilman

5 ай бұрын

100%

@janmoses1533

5 ай бұрын

He avoided answering several direct questions from Mel- proud of you for standing your ground!

@kimberlyjohnson587

5 ай бұрын

He is the first guest that I didn’t care for. He is a pompous butt. He was a waste of a podcast. He was a procrastination 😡

@allisontaylor7810

5 ай бұрын

I agree!

@angelicaguze3628

5 ай бұрын

Many people complaining about the guy 's personality. AND NOT FOCUSINFMG ON THE VALUE HE IS DELIVERING TO US. People personality 's are different and that not necessarily doesn't mean that they are mean or bad people. Is just the way they are.

Wow, I think my favorite part of this whole podcast was to see how composed and Mel was when it came to a difference in opinion between her and the guest speaker (whose book I will probably never read given his attitude and his complex treatments). I understand that research is difficult to explain and nuance. But Mel just proves again and again how she always puts her audience first and why she is just an amazing influence and role model inn society. She inspires me to speak up for what I believe in and never backdown. Amazing.

@mrserven

5 ай бұрын

Came to say just this. 🎉 She is a rockstar and is working for us.

@frankhildebrand6131

5 ай бұрын

And it’s the way Mel spoke. In my opinion Mel never disrespected her guest when they were having a tough conversation. I think we need to speak our truth but we don’t have to make it about making the other person wrong.

What I REALLY learned in this video is how to be a bad ass, not let rude people intimidate you, speak up, be assertive and don't take home other people's shit ways of relating to others!!! YES, thank you, you rocked!!!!

Procrastination is a coping mechanism. There is usually something behind it, like a trauma, imposter syndrome etc. As with everything, like alcoholism, eating disorders etc, it has a reason behind it that you have to face and deal with to eliminate. It's not easy.

@theforensicbadass

5 ай бұрын

Yes exactly. Everyone I know who has suffered traumatic narcissistic abusive relationships has a severe problem with procrastination after surviving. It's part of the freeze response where the amygdala is so swollen, and the hippocampus is so shrunken that the limbic system is damaged in the survival state. Trauma survivors cannot shame themselves for procrastinating. They have to heal the brain damage first before they can do daily tasks that healthy normal people do very easily. The trauma Survivor should never shame themselves that they procrastinate. Maybe theyre the 20% of the population he was talking about because domestic violence is an epidemic since the quarantine.

@the.toxic.phoenix

5 ай бұрын

@@theforensicbadass domestic abuse has been an epidemic for centuries, unfortunately, but yes, survivors of DA are prone to procrastination. They're not the sole demographic but I bet they take up a large percent. Usually people put off taking an action because of fear of the outcome, maybe they think they won't be good enough, or the unknown of what comes after etc. I didn't particularly vibe with the way this guy talked about it, like it was a life choice we could just wake up one day and ditch. The reward system works for me though, I promise myself something if I tick off something I've been procrastinating over. And breaking tasks down into smaller steps, can you do one small step today and another tomorrow, etc.

@cassiesalter5442

5 ай бұрын

Yes, and perhaps felt like you were never enough as a child. Or even now.

@julieburkhardt61

5 ай бұрын

truth

@PhoYourEyesOnly

5 ай бұрын

Once I learned this I actually become more productive! Documenting my journey on my channel!

I got the impression that he was annoyed she was "late" and that energy never really lifted. Kind of an uncomfortable watch for me personally but I appreciated the time and information that went into it. ❤

@crystalswango6563

5 ай бұрын

Agree 100%

@HAMORABIOFFICIAL

5 ай бұрын

Pfffff

@pookie1960

4 ай бұрын

My father was very impatient with those who were late. I can't say I am a fan either and have cut some people out of my life because of it. But I have some friends who are so wonderful in so many ways that I tolerate and accept their time blindness. I'm sure they overlook my crap too.

@roseschulze1647

15 күн бұрын

I think he was joking around with her a little. :) I could be wrong though!

❤ Mel I just want to say good job maintaining calm through this interview. That man needs a lesson on how to talk to people without it feeling like a personal attack ❤ he had some really good points on a few things but it's hard to listen when his approach puts the personal walls up....

@Jatzette

5 ай бұрын

Yeah, a lot of his info was useful, but he was very black and white in his thinking and then just became a giant Ahole when asked for clarification with nuance or less superficial blanket statements. Why so defensive?

@ellyansari8005

5 ай бұрын

So well said ❤

@corinnagracepegasusspirit

4 ай бұрын

Yes!

This felt like hard work for Mel but she did brilliantly and it was a great episode. I imagine she needed a lie down afterwards!

OMG Mel, you are amazing. Thank you for speaking FOR your listeners. This was a difficult podcast to listen to. His approach and explanations pushed me away. I didn't want to listen, but I noticed towards the end he started to soften. He acknowledged where you (Mel) were coming from. Very good podcast. I appreciate you both for addressing such a delicate topic. ✨️

Thanks Mel for pushing him to answer direct questions about practical advice, after he went full on defensive mode. You are so great. This guy just felt so arrogant, inflated and not actually wanting to help people, but only show how clever he is.

The last video mel did on procrastination was extremely helpful. It went over identifying triggers......and it went over talking yourself through the moment and releasing the guilt and self loathing to move past it.....and it helped me greatly. I recommend everyone go back and watch that one. Asking what happens in the brain does not mean that we are blaming a defect there....and run away from any psych that diseegards brain chemistry outright like this....run away fast is my advice....... This guys answer is to just stop doing it cause if you keep doing it you are a self centered and an excuse maker.... Then he offers up the reward yourself with a fun activity that has been the go to crappy advice for decades...... He says procrastination is from the in ability to delay gratification...then offers up delayed gratification as the answer. ..... Also he decided he was interviewed and critiquing her right off.... No thanks on this guest.. ....

@ksbs2036

Ай бұрын

Do you have a link (or date) for the video you recommend? I had a lot of issues with this guy's advice since it doesn't mesh with many of the things I have observed. For example, the "gene" for being shy. My daughter was shy from day 1. Honestly she cowered away from everybody for the first months of her life. My son was the exact opposite. Ready to accept anyone. This carried on for most of their lives, my son the extrovert and my daughter the introvert. Thanks

@cc6861

7 күн бұрын

I agree no~ thanks on this guest.

for an expert this guy doesn’t understand chronic procrastinators at all, very unhelpful on his own, as a chronic procrastinator myself i’m glad mel knew what to pull from him to actually make this worth a listen. mad respect, mel!

Well, that's a very different guest! He seemed rushed and dismissive. My thumbs up is for the way you keep your cool in the face of his abrasiveness. 👏

Am sorry mel, i love your videos and always take away lots from them but this one was irritating. Only message i got is that we are a bunch of excuse makers. Kudos to you for holding your ground 💪 lots of love from this chronic procrastinator from India 😊

This guy was so prickly and SUCH a pain in the ass!!!!! Really pompous, judgmental, and pushy at times, HARD to listen to some parts....but Mel did a GREAAAAT job of not getting too reactive to him, and staying her course. Very impressive, Mel !!!!

@pookie1960

4 ай бұрын

He came off arrogant but quite a few academics (and I know many) tend off like know it alls and can be arrogant. I have read the book though and it is good. The man has done an incredible amount of research soley and with others so he really does understand the topic and the causes. Could he be warmer and fuzzier, he sure could, but that's just not his personality. It was a good interview and I liked how Mel questioned him and didn't back off. I prefer honest discussions like this where things can get uncomfortable over other podcasts where people are so busy patting each other on the back that you really don't get any meat. Great job/

@janetcarl3578

4 ай бұрын

Very HARD to listen to !! His Hyperactivity makes my head spin LORD HELP ME!!

I think he means well. And he did say he is not a clinical psychologist… which we can tell😂

hahaha, just quickly read a few of other people's comments; it's clear we didn't get much about procrastination, but we got A LOT about how to deal with annoying people who are a pain! You should change the title of this interview! 10 x 0 to you for always being polite, super quick to react and smart. That is not easy and you were brilliant!

@dayanapinto1047

2 ай бұрын

LOL😂 oh! yeap!! we all learned more from Mel than from the Dr. 🤦🏽‍♀️

@dayanapinto1047

2 ай бұрын

Additionally, his body language says so much more about him.. he and his thoughts are over the place.. definitely it was hard to listen and follow his point.. he only identified the procrastinator.. which we are can certainly recognize now, but seems to refuse to give us ways to unlearn this behavior 🤦🏽‍♀️.. Thank you Mel for your efforts to narrow down his ideas! He needs to be a better listener

Woww….I kept waiting for it to get better but it only got worse. I appreciate how you were trying to advocate for the listener and sorry you kept getting shut down.🧡

What just happened? This guy basically said nothing. I have a real problem with procrastination and I didn’t take anything away from this he didn’t tell us what to do at all he just talked in circles

@victoriar999

5 ай бұрын

I totally agree... its the first video of Mel in which I dont learn anything (except that she is amazing in any circumstances 😊). This man has a problem with himself, he needs to work hard on his trauma, poor guy.

I was shocked by this guests rudeness. Seemed he got in a mood because he was kept "waiting" and let that impact the interview. Unfortunately his behaviour significantly reduced his message - hopefully he reflects on how to be a better guest speaker in future. Well done handling it, Mel! Thanks for the episode.

Now I understand that I am not bad at managing my time, I am resisting doing something for deeper reasons that I have not paid attention to and it is in my hands to improve, I was not born that way. Thank you Mel for bringing us this material ❤

It's a shame....Dr. Ferrari's delivery was all wrong, and so the message he was trying to conveyx was lost. He was rude to Mel. Insulting even. It's hard to take the advice of someone who comes at someone with negativity, and then is offended when asked to breakdown his points for the listeners. His attitude caused me to tune him out, and I've NEVER done that with any of Mel's podcasts, as they usually stay on a positive note. Mel handled this man well, and it's a testament to all that she stands for, and how she wants her audience to receive good advice. Mel, please don't have Dr. Ferrari on again. I'm sure you can find someone else to discuss percrastination who is less combative and insulting. Love ya Mel! ❤

Thank you, Mel and Team. I appreciate you being our voice, this is a tough topic I think he has the best of intentions, but we need actionable steps to at least do something. Thank you Dr. Ferrari as well.

Thank you Mel for having your listeners backs!!

Ugh, this guy is hard to take. Good job powering through, Mel.

Love her calmness and dignity in her responses.❤

I came to say what everyone else has already said. Thank you for working for your audience and not backing down when a guest won’t break it down for us. 👏🏻

I have been late and a procrastinator forever. Doesn’t matter what the reward or punishment is. Ive been fired for being late.ive been late to things im excited about. It doesn't matter. Its a loaded problem with many causes. Time blindness is a big one. Overthinking every decision & decision fatigue while preparing is another. Object permanence is another issue along with disorganization. It is totally possible to be on time or early but it requires a perfect orchestra of events which require preparation. I also have 2 toddlers which adds a few unpredictable variables. This isnt a cop-out by any means. It is my responsibility to sort out problem areas and establish effective routines. Dont let clutter bully you! Let go of the extra stuff and unnecessary obstacles that make routine tasks difficult. It is very important to be mindful and present during boring tasks instead of letting your thoughts wander. Think of what can be streamlined to lessen the dread of doing it or a way to make it engaging. Line up your target instead of aiming in the dark, praying you hit something. Things make more sense when you realize small changes lead to better and more consistent results.

Hi Mel, I love that you see the best in your guests and that you take and broadcast positive messages from the discussions you have with them. HOWEVER my (personal) opinion here is that Dr Ferrari needs to be better informed, and he damages your message of "don't make yourself wrong" and also your pledge to go by the science and research. I feel his 20% of chronic procrastinators might well be predominately made up of the traumatised and/or Neurodiverse section of all societies. The study he referred to, made up of two NT people and a ND person, informing his view (I think of whether people actually work better under pressure) is actually farcical to me?!? Did I hear that correctly?!? When you asked him hard questions he mocked you for asking them, then gave a wishy-washy response. As a newly diagnosed ADHDer (which you helped me recognise in myself, and I am forever grateful for that) I have spent the last few years reading lots about neuroscience, and he made my eye twitch. I am not surprised you asked the questions you did. Your ADHD and Dyslexia DO put you at a disadvantage in this area, it's FACT, not an excuse. Of course ND people can use strategies to help, and should be proactive, but we all also have to be kind to ourselves (as you rightly said) and although Dr Ferrari said he didn't want to be rude and shaming, that IS how he came across. I feel someone who loves the mind and research, as his title would suggest, would have read up on neuroscience and welcomed your question about the brain/neurochemistry?!? To me, this man comes across as a little *chauvinistic, rather ill-informed, and damaging to your overall message. I feel you need a hug after that interview 🤗 you are doing a lot to change yourself and us for the better, and I applaud that. This interview was a miss-hit, in my opinion, however x (*edited as had put "misogynistic" and that wasn't quite the right word)

@candicemichellecoaching

5 ай бұрын

Whoa, great comment and I’m ALSO CWright. Random thing to notice but hey 😅

@cwright821

5 ай бұрын

@@candicemichellecoachingThank you, and I'm all about the random 🙃 high five, fellow C Wright 🙋‍♀️

I feel called out and I love it lol I also love how Mel goes about this! Dr. Ferrari is so blunt and I do appreciate that too

I loved listening to this podcast and decided to reward myself for clearing off my desk! I hate paperwork, filing. I used to jokingly tell friends, "Some people have a junk drawer: I have a junk room," in reference to my home office. Yay! I know what to do now. Reward myself for keeping that vow to file for 15 minutes a day. Thank you Mel and Dr. Ferrari.

@MrsThollo

2 ай бұрын

That's good! I love Dr. Ferrari! Glad you still got the message. So many others focused on the messenger.

The last few minutes made me think *** LET THEM *** . I think that the procrastinator has to do it but they decide when! Thanks so much for the knowledge and insights.

Great podcast. Very informative. Loved your style and thank you for being our advocate Mel! Love you!

I listened to this podcast on AP and just wanted to read comments because… yeah. It was kind of uncomfortable to listen to him. But you Mel, amazing as always, thank ya 🫶

Dr. Ferrari brings good research and insights, and also got schooled by Mel in an appropriate way that I hope he takes to heart. As a chronic procrastinator, I get his point that CBT means taking action to change the patterns. And he is clearly out of patience with the many excuses we always give. However, if he wants to truly be heard, he needs figure out how to communicate better and not like the cranky old guy he is. Mel, as always, you were smart and curious - the perfect combo. ❤

Mel, your illustration of the ways you have procrastinated was completely relatable! Thank you for always being honest and open in that way during interviews. I so appreciate your thoughtful interview questions that pushed for information for those of us who genuinely wanted it. I so wish Dr. Ferrari would have provided specific steps in how to create this change he encouraged rather than just telling us that we are capable of it. We wouldn’t have been listening for nearly an hour if we didn’t know that much already.

Dang, Mel. This is why you’re so amazing to me. You stay on task, and on mission without disturbing your peace, and without losing your composure. You are such a role model for moving forward your dreams with grace and honesty. ❤

I honestly enjoyed his bluntness but I knew lots of people would take issue with it. You can tell that he really cares and has done some incredible work. I also then needed Mel's softening of it and making it very relatble. It was needed for me to hear it from him.. and it was needed to have the additional breakdown she requested. Really enjoyed the whole episode.

@PurpleStarsaver

3 ай бұрын

I completely agree with your comment! I feel the same way

You’re soooooo magnificently relatable and helpful. Thanks for being you and giving so freely to help all of us.

well the light bulb went on ... how simple was this... i have been trying to declutter for ever... i made it impossible.. i had a huge bag i was trying to fill.. always got tired and overwhelmed and gave up. the analogy of the one leaf, one branch, one tree... was the light blub life got in the way .. traumas not being able to deal with it ... life and a lot of out my control .... just after listening to this .... i came up with one small bag at a time... fill the small bag and empty it into the large bag that is out of sight .... this will be doable ... thanks for this

0:15: ⏳ The podcast discusses the impact of procrastination and strategies to overcome it. 5:23: ⏳ Procrastination is a learned tendency that can be unlearned, affecting 20% of adults. 10:00: 🌍 Procrastination is a global phenomenon, affecting people of all ages, genders, and backgrounds. 14:58: 🗂 The video discusses academic procrastination and its impact on college students. 19:38: ⏰ Decisional procrastination is reinforced by our culture, which punishes early action and rewards last-minute behavior. 24:20: ⏳ Procrastinators are more concerned about protecting their social esteem than their self-esteem, leading to attributing their delays to lack of time rather than lack of effort. 29:01: 🤔 The video discusses the issue of indecisiveness and the consequences of letting others make decisions for you. 34:09: 🌳 The video discusses breaking down intellectual topics and research into practical takeaways. 39:07: 🤔 The video discusses the challenges of self-criticism and procrastination, and provides insight for those living with or loving a procrastinator. Recapped using Tammy AI

@5thdimension625

5 ай бұрын

Thank you. I stole your notes so I don’t have to listen.

@tannascreative6130

5 ай бұрын

I have difficulty taking advice from someone who is not a "procrastinator"...about "procrastination." I have learned 50xs more from you, Mel, than I have from this guy. Is he referencing a study on ADHD from the 90s? BTW, I climbed down a very high ladder while painting my ceiling to type this at 10pm. I love procrastinators. I LOVE THEM! I am a chronic procrastinator and I love myself anyway. My Christmas tree isn't up because I need to finish painting my living room AND I will finish AND the tree will go up. Merry Christmas.The end.

@pennyobernyer7914

3 ай бұрын

😊 Thank You so very much !!!! I watched it, now I can go back to the parts that resonated the most . . . .

😳 Yikes! 😳 Well handled, Mel. 👍🏽 If you're new here, Mel has several other teachings on Procrastination. Check those out too! ❤️

@BevMargaret

5 ай бұрын

Or just watch those.....even better idea .......

Mel this was awesome and thank you for fighting for the listener/viewers like myself who struggle with procrastination every day. It’s good to know the reason behind procrastination and know that we can change but I’m glad you pushed on the tactical ways to do it. I’m so tired of knowing I have a problem not knowing how to fix it.

The amount of times the guest interrupted Mel and snapped at her made it really hard to get through the episode.

@LostCatFindersDrippingSprings

5 ай бұрын

She also interrupted him.

Hi Mel, after this interview, you need to back it with a podcast on "how to keep your cool." You are obviously brilliant with that!

This was a difficult podcast for me to watch/ listen to. I am not sure why he had the arrogant dismissive attitude he did as an "educator" when Mel had questions. All I got from his talking in circles was that 1. Procrastination is not a time management problem 2. Stop making excuses 3.Procrastination is a learned behavior you need to change 4. You need CBT for personalized strategies, he's not willing to give specific examples. After this interview and his demeanor I'm definitely NOT feeling inclined to rush out and buy his book, which i often do after Mel's podcasts, and I feel is the only reason he did this interview. Her composure was unmatched and I applaud her for ability to remain calm and unwavered in her goal to help get us valuable information. Thank you, Mel! I'll stick to the 5 Second Rule, as I've personally gotten far more from that!❤

Wow! Dr. Ferrari is a no BS motivator! He steers us away from overthinking and guilt and encourages self compassion and offers solid actionable solutions. He's clear as a bell. He doesn't wear out the inside of your head with drawn out psych analysis. I benefitted from and appreciate his rapid fire targeted expertise. This interview flew by, it was pure gold and SO refreshing! I have to read his book! Many thanks.

@BevMargaret

5 ай бұрын

Where was the self compassion? I missed it......😅

@mary-ue4ir

5 ай бұрын

@@BevMargaret Yes, you did miss it in several places but @40:40 Mel speaks and Dr. Ferrari in his closing words to her says: "Thank you, and you know, you've touched on something..." (speaking to Mel) "I failed is not the same as I'm a failure. I'm not a failure, I failed...I procrastinated doesn't mean I have to be a procrastinator. Life is short and I can make my life and other peoples lives better, enriching other peoples lives."

@BevMargaret

5 ай бұрын

That wasn't compassionate. I listened to ot again....saying you will be able to make the world better only when you mange to stop procrastination is awful.......the kind of you have to be perfect to matter thinking that is anything but self compassion

@mary-ue4ir

5 ай бұрын

@@BevMargaret Take from it what you will or leave it

@BevMargaret

5 ай бұрын

@@mary-ue4ir I wish I could leave it....I wish I hadn't watched it. It left aggravated and feeling shame.

Wow, this is so so so fcking amazing, i love how mel insist in deconstructing and explaining better every concept, is not that she wanted "the cure", she was just thinking in everyone who struggles with this

Thank you for saving me money on buying Dr Joseph Ferrari’s book, if this guy is world renowned on the subject of procrastination, we procrastinators don’t have a chance! What an absolute tool, you Mel have given us more help on this subject then this idiot will ever do.

This is me and I’m grateful for not being alone. Healing the root cause of WHY I procrastinate by acknowledging that this habit I’ve created earlier on was to cope during a stressful period of my younger life. I realized that I’ve programmed my nervous system to either go for FIGHT/FLIGHT/FAWN/FREEZE. Committing to the little promises I made with myself is IMPORTANT. Unlearning PROCRASTINATION is definitely great news. I’m making progress now no matter what. Our brains 🧠 are plastic, meaning we can replace old neural networks that’s causing any unproductive habit that’s holding us back from creating a life we truly deserve to have and enJOY. Some days are challenging and I’m here for it. “Old dogs can learn new tricks that are healthy, fun, and easy to use in our daily lives.” We just have to figure out what works for us. It’s all about enJOYing the process instead of being attached to the RESULT. I am willing to create new happy and healthy habits. Now. Thank you Mel & Dr. Ferrari. ❤

You bad ass woman you! Thank you for sharing that profound voice! Your such an inspiration!❤

You can change coz you can learn new behaviors all the time. I loved this episode so much! Let's go get things done! TY Mel!!

Why my life has already improved from watching Mel Robbins videos is bc I can watch them as me. Knowing that I have accomplished good things that i wanted, have helped others and am proud of. So many other people (like this man) come out in a way that can make you feel hopeless if you cant get it all right today. And also as if youre a loser filled with excuses. I'm sure his approach works for others. Thanks Mel Robbins.

I was procrastinating even listening to this video Mel. Everyone I know who has suffered traumatic narcissistic abusive relationships has a severe problem with procrastination after surviving. It's part of the freeze response where the amygdala is so swollen, and the hippocampus is so shrunken, that the limbic system is damaged in the survival state. Trauma survivors cannot shame themselves for procrastinating. They have to heal the brain damage first, before they can do daily tasks that healthy normal people do very easily. The trauma Survivor should never shame themselves that they procrastinate. Maybe theyre the 20% of the population he was talking about w chronic procrastinating, because domestic violence via narcissistic and psychopathic abuse is an epidemic since the quarantine. Thank you Mel for this informative interview. I won't give anything to the guests who was nothing but a pompous ass with his accusations and he goes superiority trying to demean you over n over again. I would love if Dr Ferrari would study trauma survivors and procrastination because we could certainly use some help to feel less shameful about this chronic condition. The doctor Ferrari would probably traumatize people worse because he's nothing but a superior pompous creep who clearly has severe abuse of power. We won't ever let our gas tanks be near empty ever. Survival. We will always be on time. Survival. But we have severe procrastination when it comes to making simple phone calls, or going to court, or filing paperwork, getting bills paid, speaking up, or standing up for ourselves or even being able to focus at our jobs or getting our daily tasks done. Chronic procrastination rules our survivalship. Pete Walker in his famous book complex PTSD from surviving to thriving, talks about chronic procrastination as symptomology of emotional flashbacks and inner critic introjects from the abuser, from the psychological manipulation and the brain damage that it causes.

@JulieK-fu1dy

5 ай бұрын

Thank you for the information! I never knew that this kind of coping mechanisms are also part of the “brain damage” so to speak. I had a narcissisic parent growing up and I wanted to ask: how to start healing properly (especially brain)? *not a native speaker, sorry if I got something wrong

@theforensicbadass

5 ай бұрын

​@@JulieK-fu1dy You are allowed to ask any kind of questions without any fear or shame or guilt that you did something wrong. Chronic procrastination also makes us trauma survivors doubt ourselves when we make a decision to speak for instance or ask a question. There's much more than CBT therapy as Dr Ferrari recommends. There's plenty of other modalities trauma survivors can utilize. Just promise yourself you will never shame yourself ever again for any doubtful decisions or procrastinating. For many of us coming out of family narcissistic Dynamics as a scapegoat, it could take us years girl. It could take us the rest of our lives to make our own decisions and feel safe. And there's no shame in that either. Sending you hugs of healing, strength endurance and validation on your recovery journey ❤❤❤

@Amar4nthine

5 ай бұрын

100% this. I responded to someone else's comment regarding ADHD before getting very far into this interview and it only got worse as it went on. In addition to my ADHD, I have been diagnosed with CPTSD and have been stuck in a chronic freeze response for years now. It is a real problem and his research sounds incredibly myopic to the point of lacking any validity at all.

@nicolepelletier5336

4 ай бұрын

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lol, I’m working out and listening to this podcast. I always pair my workouts with something good to watch on you tube! Same with my walks, I always listen to a good podcast. Great job Mel

Mel you are awesome!!! He keeps talking about street corner😒

Great podcast Mel! Something I've just started a little while ago are baby steps. Always overwhelmed by housework nothing has worked. I have stopped looking at the forest and I now focus on the leaves. Every time I put anything away or bin rubbish I high five myself, the idea that I start to create dopamine hits rather than the ugggh feeling. And I believe its working the house is not all tidy, but my perception or relationship to doing the work is slowly changing.

Mel, thank you for jumping in to help us understand all that Dr. Ferrari is providing. You are the best! I am a chronic procrastinator on anything that makes me anxious to start, or I may start and never finish until it is an emergency. I have a framed phrase "Procrastinators Unite Tomorrow" which I picked up in a local antique shop. I hate that I procrastinate because it causes me more anxiety and stress. I am working on it and also using your suggestion from another podcast - pick just 3 things to tackle today. Thank you for all you do Mel!

@lgpop3347

5 ай бұрын

Procrastinators unite tomorrow 😅😅😅😅😅 good one

Wow mel, good job on staying composed and respectful of this guest! It was hard to listen to. Reminded me of old school philosophies about just pulling the boot straps up and working hard but not having compassion for oneself and peoples situations such as adhd etc., and disregarding the science behind it. But mel, you managed to stand your ground, pull out some tips from him for your listeners instead of just metaphors, and he began to soften at the end which was because of you! AND you were still grateful to him for his advice. Really great job!

His ego and lack of empathy and compassion makes it really hard to connect with him. You way you handled this Mel was a great lesson to me.

So much fun to watch Mel’s courtroom skills kick in! 🙌 And extremely helpful info for me - it can be unlearned - thank you!

I loved this episode, the energy was awesome! Insightful and so much energy! Thanks Mell.

no doubt, always love you Mel, you opening my mind and thank you for bringing up this topic and to amazing Dr. Ferrari you're awesome. This topic has been discussed and uploaded by many people in the entire universe but both of you create the discussion in natural ways. God Bless both of you and all people who watched this outstanding podcast.

Mel I love you. I had a very hard time listening to this podcast. Im not even a procrastinator.... but i loved how you stood your ground. Asked questions for us and kept your cool. Only one f bomb. ❤

I did learn a few things tho. I always do when it's Mel ❤. 1. Decision making procrastination can be for fear of taking responsibility for failure. 2. Society doesn't reward doing things early and punishes doing things late.

My sure fire way of NOT procrastinating is using the 5 second rule 🥰

Thank You Mel for your transparency & honesty

This podcast was informative and entertaining. Your energy is amazing! Keep these coming Mel!

Thank you Mel, great podcast and hit home for me. Love you too ❤

Such a self-control! You have Mel!

I really appreciate your podcast Mel! I have been struggling so much with every aspect of my life. Your show is one of the ones that's on my list every week. I'm almost 49. I was going through a messy divorce, which I had to put on hold because I have no money. So at the moment ex and I are cohabitating tolerably enough. But I NEED to move out this summer and strive towards a life that is best for me and our girls. So that means making more money, finding an apartment that takes dogs, and progressing with the divorce. There is so much to do, and i definitely don't feel up to the task

Holy shit! There was so much in this episode to unpack. And yet I didn't understand every bit so I feel like I have to watch it again. And I can relate to so much of it and just so much of you said Mel. Mel thank you for being so open and humble.

Was he procrastinating on giving solutions? Well done Mel for pushing for a direct answer

I had to, HAD TO come here to comment my applause to you, Mel. Bravo!! I've been following you since the 5 second rule, years ago, and only just started listening to your podcast about a month ago. Procrastination is a huge issue for me. The irony is, out of all the podcasts I've listened to, this one I have procrastinated on! It has taken me weeks to finish (I haven't even finished it yet). Bravo to your composure near the end of this, and thank you for your advocacy for us, the listeners, cause that's exactly what we need to help give us a head start. I love the examples of how to implement strategies into practice. Thank you! Now I will go and finish this podcast 😅 xx

This is so me since I was a kid! It got worse in college and became a badge of honor to wait until the last minute, and I still got good grades. I had given up until hearing this. It's exhausting to have wasted so much time and missed so many opportunities.

Love this episode! It opened my eyes to my own procrastination habits! And even though he didn’t want to offer street-corner therapy, I do have some actionable takeaways like break big tasks up into smaller “trees”.

Another excellent session. Than you Mel and Dr. Ferrari. I learned a lot about myself. And now can remove things that I thought I had no control over.

For the dishes and such I now love to do it because I listen to podcasts while doing it 😉

There is not much to talk on the topic probably yet. As the guest says, he goes and pays for the bills when they come without wasting much energy on delaying it. That’s it. Get up and do to have more energy and joy afterwards…Thank you Mel❤❤❤

I loved your chemistry w this guy. Like siblings bickering but truly caring about the message.

it would be a good follow-up to interview Dr. Timothy Pychyl, who is THE world's leading researcher in Procrastination (and he's not an arrogant, bombastic asshole, either).

Thank you so much! Both of you.

oohhh ruthless! I'm not late for other people but I am a chronic procrastinator on big or multitask projects even though I'm pretty good at multitasking (or doing many small tasks in a blindingly small amount of time). The trouble is starting the longer term tasks. I can do procrastor-cleaning, procrastor-learning etc. It's not a time management problem, it's a nervous system or emotional regulation problem. Thank you for taking it seriously alongside depression etc. I feel like it's mixed in with anxiety/overthinking.

I don’t know, not paying bills on time and not responding to events is largely a financial issue for many people. I procrastinate to avoid stress, there’s definitely truth to that, but a lot of those things come down too well I don’t know if I’ll have the money

Mel’s bringing her trial experience on in!

What an amazing Goddess that you are Mel! Thank you enormously for being so authentic!! ❤

Thanks for the talks on the subjects I need help with as I was diagnosed with a BPD in my earlier twenties but still struggling now almost fifty years old but your expertise helps me help my kids n grankids I see suffer the same 👌💞💞💞

Difficult to listen to while driving. As I got pump up to fight 😂 but… just finally watch it calmly on my own terms. Thanks for the info. Going to reflect and over analyze for a minute… then move forward to a better me.

Since the day you posted this episode, I have procrastinated to watch it 🙂, and now I take the challenge to watch it till the end 🌟

I'm hearing some things that I think will be useful to me. 🎉 Thank you! 😁

Amazing interview, amazing guest! So many great takeaways from this one. I've learned so much! ❤

Boy, ol boy, Mel, you sound like me. I'm always so mad at myself and not to kind to myself.

Mel! Your face when he started to speak 😂😂🩷 Just started this video. 🙏🙌 Thanks for this, Mel!

Thank you so much for this! I LOVE YOU TOO MEL ❤😊

Whew Mel is me 😩 .. I felt that

Mel, thank you so much for addressing the fact that there are so many people that can’t afford therapy

Thank you Mel for being so upfront about your procrastination! I wonder if I have ADD - I understand it is linked to dyslexia!

Thank you both. Great value "let's not be sensitive "

All I can say is Thank You! Thank you for doing this episode! It is exactly what I needed to hear. Now… I have to go because I have some changing to do!🥰(and I can change it)!

Everything he’s saying makes so much sense thank you Mel

This is the guest…this is the topic…this is forum that says life choices need not cripple, but can lead to healing no matter what you have allowed life to serve you. I respect and appreciate this dialogue. Not a fan of the F-bomb, but a life impacting pod cast. Thank you so much!!!!