I’ve had persistent depressive disorder for more than 5 years now. I don’t have family support - they don’t believe in depression and look down on it as a weakness. It was caused by major heartbreaks and trauma from family and work. As I continue to go home to a depressive atmosphere, I don’t think anything will change and I am just counting the days when I will end it. My heart goes out to everyone going through this and not being taken seriously.
@jenniferschneider69793 минут бұрын
The 'let them" theory makes sense. But what if these friends or family members come to you for emotional help and support all the time. And you see they are clearly ruining there lives by abusing alcohol and prescription meds? What then? Just stay quiet?
@msdamitajo4 минут бұрын
Those chips are delicious!! 😂
@Happy2Bhlthy6 минут бұрын
Yes, go to your doctor who barely has 5 minutes to spend with you…. Go find a therapist that actually has time for you and can connect you to a specialist.
@halfasorrowfoundation7 минут бұрын
Mel. Let’s talk suicide prevention one day. Me and you
@rosiesantander523911 минут бұрын
😁🙏🏻🫶🏻
@thomasinagillum452711 минут бұрын
Extra creamy oat milk and/or full fat coconut milk is a good substitute for dairy and non dairy creamers in coffee.
@WTFactsOnStigma13 минут бұрын
Joyce, you are amazing! I loved watching your one on one with Mel today. I can see the success you already are. We let other people's words control our own thoughts way too often. I'm sure if you were helping one of your listeners experiencing exactly what you have been, you'd know exactly what to do! We often know how to take care of others, yet forget how to nurture and take care of ourselves!!!
@susannacohen523918 минут бұрын
I love what your mother in law said about doing something for someone else! I was a Hospice Volunteer for years. Very rewarding.❤
@lindathornton362626 минут бұрын
Mel, why did u start using vulgarity? It's not too ladylike.
@karenmcmillan462630 минут бұрын
Mel Robbin’s please tell the Doctor about IODINE deficiency, especially related to women. Foods like bread use to have iodine added to them until the 1970’s when food processors switched to adding BROMINE to flour and many other foods. Bromine isn’t added to foods in Europe! This switch to bromine and lack of iodine goes along with the rise in depression, obesity, breast cancer, thyroid, fertility and hormone issues for many of the US population. Compare to the Japanese population who consume an average of 30 to 50 mg of iodine daily, and almost no cancer and obesity issues by comparison.
@douxchats286832 минут бұрын
I can't even begin to recall what joy felt like and don't have the time or energy to figure it out. Just have to get my kid through college/grad school. Lots of people have got to be in this boat....so I'm not convinced this is depression, maybe it's "life burnout"?
@DoreeSeiver-vt1cm34 минут бұрын
I know someone who has lost something- A 21 year old son… And he works a lot and something Is Off… Thank You for this very important topic!!❤️
@user-in7mm7wc3z35 минут бұрын
I might be wrong, but I have an idea. Maybe the depression, which is a very real problem, is so overwhelming because of the meaning you have attached to it. I don't think it helps to view it as a sign that something is wrong with you. In general, I would say that Mel has low self esteem and thats why she wants everyone else to fixate on their flaws the way she does. Yes, self improvement is good, but it does not always begin by aiming to behave like other people. Sometimes, this can lead to the inability to recognize the gifts that can be present within our so called weaknesses or issues
@sarahgracehaynie858238 минут бұрын
I want to buy this song in this exact version so bad. The original is great but I mean this. This is beauty. I can feel her heart in the stripped piano version and it just is so… I don’t even have a word to describe it. But I feel when listening to this this song and this version. Thank you for that amazing story 💛
@abigailmoreno52739 минут бұрын
After listening to this...I think my husband committed suicide because of having high functioning depression😢
@morganmckibbon424145 минут бұрын
While this is interesting let me say that one of the biggest things missing in most women’s lives is the wisdom of our elder women. I am incredibly grateful that I was raised in a multi-generational household where information and experience about the whole journey of adolescence to pregnancy to menopause was shared. I knew that to expect and knew that my experience might be different but that nothing was wrong or weird with me. And it enabled me to advocate for myself with my doctors and get the help that I’ve needed.
@lorysipel682333 минут бұрын
Intergenerational
@LLhypno49 минут бұрын
Title assumes we want to change our lives. What if mine is great and I appreciate who I am, what I have been given and my life with all its ups and downs. I will listen with intrigue..
@Michelle-wo1fm50 минут бұрын
I've been saying that I'm a functioning depressive for years. It seems like a functioning alcoholic because they too can function but still have the underlying condition.
@user-in7mm7wc3z36 минут бұрын
I might be wrong, but I have an idea. Maybe the depression, which is a very real problem, is so overwhelming because of the meaning you have attached to it. I don't think it helps to view it as a sign that something is wrong with you. In general, I would say that Mel has low self esteem and thats why she wants everyone else to fixate on their flaws the way she does. Yes, self improvement is good, but it does not always begin by aiming to behave like other people. Sometimes, this can lead to the inability to recognize the gifts that can be present within our so called weaknesses or issues
@user-eq7jb3gx4g56 минут бұрын
Thank very much 🙏. ❤ .I tell my friends stop blaming someone else for your own foliar and change your mind and your ways of life, no one's fault but you are own, stop being lazy get up and kick your self from behind and be active
@kathleenwhite842056 минут бұрын
What if you did a vision board and liked at it with grateful and excited emotions with belief and none of it came to life! I made it with my children making theirs back in 2007 after becoming a wholistic nutritionist and despite my true intentions and to this day my life is nothing of what I had put in my board. It makes me feel sad to look at it - I kept it all these years so what does that mean ?
@misalignrealignСағат бұрын
Sometimes the “work” is internal, not all money and hustle.
@ashleyannephdСағат бұрын
This is so important, thank you so much for addressing the issue in such a beautiful way.
@ritcha02Сағат бұрын
Dr Joseph is such a brilliant communicator. She’s so calm and reassuring. Great interview and guest.
@rebeccagilman2020Сағат бұрын
Thank you, Mel! 🫶🏼 ❤️
@ROMANEMPIRE69Сағат бұрын
Most jobs are like marriages that don’t work out. It’s like your life has to revolve around your job. Have to drive far out for them. They take up all your time. At the end of the day/week you feel so drained. Usually results in seeking another relationship with someone new that feels better.
@marinaantunes6090Сағат бұрын
Wow that is amazing, thank you for sharing 🙏
@hannatudalhat6500Сағат бұрын
Mel love the podcast however you talked too much before she came on and we keep missing some info that she wanted to give, because you keep cutting her short and you keep talking
@hannatudalhat6500Сағат бұрын
its about us getting info not about what you want please
@christinehcanadaСағат бұрын
High functioning depression sounds like the burnout I’ve been feeling. Retirement can’t come fast enough!
@trimughat9980Сағат бұрын
Hay I love ❤ you mrs mel Robbins. I like your tough and about 5second..thanks..from Batam Kep riau Indonesia..successful your video
@lorysipel6823Сағат бұрын
What! I didn't know that we are down to 10% of our eggs by 30. And 1% by 40. That should be well known! Why has it been kept a secret? This is really devastating for our culture who continually puts off marriage and family. 💔
@KarenNielsen-qe7nuСағат бұрын
Can you give us some of the resources she talked about for midlife women who are depressed?
@Dare2chanceСағат бұрын
I was high functioning to a degree but when it came to personal success I would crash and burn , I was told the reason why I …. Was because I would never slow down, know I was physically forced to slow down I’m struggling with energy to do anything that brings me joy
@tracifoster614Сағат бұрын
Thank You So Much For All Your help ❤
@martamitchelldesigns2 сағат бұрын
Fantastic episode! Thanks Mel, thanks Dr Judith!
@nikkigarcia80842 сағат бұрын
Explain how to change a trauma damaged brain with a positive mindset. I'd like to see more for trauma survivors.
@kspencer51292 сағат бұрын
"way beyond the budget of a starving artist" LOL. GREAT INTERVIEW :)
@alainawhitley48172 сағат бұрын
I didn’t think I could learn more about budgeting but I did from watching this. And the end was the best. I know some women that are grieving the loss of their husbands and it helps to talk about it.
@axthelmsr2 сағат бұрын
I NEEDED this! And I love the Budgetnista!! She makes me WANT to do this! It doesn’t feel like an overwhelming drag. I feel empowered!
@morrisfamily68b2 сағат бұрын
Thank you for this exceptional summary!
@audacein50632 сағат бұрын
Very interesting
@alyscstudjo69092 сағат бұрын
I listened intently to this entire broadcast and there just wasn’t any useful information or good examples of success. Actually if one tries any of the strategies it could create an escalation. I think I had the worst combination, my narc was my business partner, my son in law, father of my grandchild and my next door neighbor …. Nothing worked with this guy. He didn’t display any signs of being dangerous or even imbalanced until 18 years after we first met! Maybe he had others in his world that gave him his coal and we just didn’t know so when I became the target it was a real stumper at first but so text book and maniacal. First he started laying the foundation to degrade me in all our circles from business to friends to family, “ I’m really worried about her” “ She’s doing drugs” the moment he made that accusation I went to our doctor the same day (who he respected ) had her draw my blood and do a full drug screen. He dropped the drug addict accusations and then switched to “She’s mentally unstable” and got our doctor to recommend a psychiatrist! Because of that I’m the only person I know with legal documentation of sanity 🤣… but in the end it escalated to physical violence, torture and poisoning! Financial ruin and complete ostracism from my family and loss of my reputation in the community of business and friends. My point is if you’re dealing with one of these people and they have any kind entanglement with you never underestimate them EVER! You have to get good lawyers, save what you can to start a new and sever all ties no matter how hard. Learn the signs and never let another one back into your life. I think the best tactic in the beginning is gray rocking so they get bored with you and move on.
@agamdc2 сағат бұрын
What if I have insulin resistance, can I still do the IF?
@pindermalhi76592 сағат бұрын
Being OCD ruins relationships. It's hard to live with someone who is not organized
@audacein50632 сағат бұрын
It’s a real battle
@audacein50632 сағат бұрын
Ding ding ding
@yolandastrickling18153 сағат бұрын
My daughter married a narc so now there are two narcs and 3 small children lord take the wheel.
@laurahedlund7333 сағат бұрын
My fears started in prison with not having enough to survive. And then because of my actions my many trips to segregation and the impact of loss every time just broke me. The last time I went to segregation I got sent for being "too happy" and failed a drug test for a medication the prison put me on. I sat in segregation for 11 days before they let me out for a false positive test.
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I’ve had persistent depressive disorder for more than 5 years now. I don’t have family support - they don’t believe in depression and look down on it as a weakness. It was caused by major heartbreaks and trauma from family and work. As I continue to go home to a depressive atmosphere, I don’t think anything will change and I am just counting the days when I will end it. My heart goes out to everyone going through this and not being taken seriously.
The 'let them" theory makes sense. But what if these friends or family members come to you for emotional help and support all the time. And you see they are clearly ruining there lives by abusing alcohol and prescription meds? What then? Just stay quiet?
Those chips are delicious!! 😂
Yes, go to your doctor who barely has 5 minutes to spend with you…. Go find a therapist that actually has time for you and can connect you to a specialist.
Mel. Let’s talk suicide prevention one day. Me and you
😁🙏🏻🫶🏻
Extra creamy oat milk and/or full fat coconut milk is a good substitute for dairy and non dairy creamers in coffee.
Joyce, you are amazing! I loved watching your one on one with Mel today. I can see the success you already are. We let other people's words control our own thoughts way too often. I'm sure if you were helping one of your listeners experiencing exactly what you have been, you'd know exactly what to do! We often know how to take care of others, yet forget how to nurture and take care of ourselves!!!
I love what your mother in law said about doing something for someone else! I was a Hospice Volunteer for years. Very rewarding.❤
Mel, why did u start using vulgarity? It's not too ladylike.
Mel Robbin’s please tell the Doctor about IODINE deficiency, especially related to women. Foods like bread use to have iodine added to them until the 1970’s when food processors switched to adding BROMINE to flour and many other foods. Bromine isn’t added to foods in Europe! This switch to bromine and lack of iodine goes along with the rise in depression, obesity, breast cancer, thyroid, fertility and hormone issues for many of the US population. Compare to the Japanese population who consume an average of 30 to 50 mg of iodine daily, and almost no cancer and obesity issues by comparison.
I can't even begin to recall what joy felt like and don't have the time or energy to figure it out. Just have to get my kid through college/grad school. Lots of people have got to be in this boat....so I'm not convinced this is depression, maybe it's "life burnout"?
I know someone who has lost something- A 21 year old son… And he works a lot and something Is Off… Thank You for this very important topic!!❤️
I might be wrong, but I have an idea. Maybe the depression, which is a very real problem, is so overwhelming because of the meaning you have attached to it. I don't think it helps to view it as a sign that something is wrong with you. In general, I would say that Mel has low self esteem and thats why she wants everyone else to fixate on their flaws the way she does. Yes, self improvement is good, but it does not always begin by aiming to behave like other people. Sometimes, this can lead to the inability to recognize the gifts that can be present within our so called weaknesses or issues
I want to buy this song in this exact version so bad. The original is great but I mean this. This is beauty. I can feel her heart in the stripped piano version and it just is so… I don’t even have a word to describe it. But I feel when listening to this this song and this version. Thank you for that amazing story 💛
After listening to this...I think my husband committed suicide because of having high functioning depression😢
While this is interesting let me say that one of the biggest things missing in most women’s lives is the wisdom of our elder women. I am incredibly grateful that I was raised in a multi-generational household where information and experience about the whole journey of adolescence to pregnancy to menopause was shared. I knew that to expect and knew that my experience might be different but that nothing was wrong or weird with me. And it enabled me to advocate for myself with my doctors and get the help that I’ve needed.
Intergenerational
Title assumes we want to change our lives. What if mine is great and I appreciate who I am, what I have been given and my life with all its ups and downs. I will listen with intrigue..
I've been saying that I'm a functioning depressive for years. It seems like a functioning alcoholic because they too can function but still have the underlying condition.
I might be wrong, but I have an idea. Maybe the depression, which is a very real problem, is so overwhelming because of the meaning you have attached to it. I don't think it helps to view it as a sign that something is wrong with you. In general, I would say that Mel has low self esteem and thats why she wants everyone else to fixate on their flaws the way she does. Yes, self improvement is good, but it does not always begin by aiming to behave like other people. Sometimes, this can lead to the inability to recognize the gifts that can be present within our so called weaknesses or issues
Thank very much 🙏. ❤ .I tell my friends stop blaming someone else for your own foliar and change your mind and your ways of life, no one's fault but you are own, stop being lazy get up and kick your self from behind and be active
What if you did a vision board and liked at it with grateful and excited emotions with belief and none of it came to life! I made it with my children making theirs back in 2007 after becoming a wholistic nutritionist and despite my true intentions and to this day my life is nothing of what I had put in my board. It makes me feel sad to look at it - I kept it all these years so what does that mean ?
Sometimes the “work” is internal, not all money and hustle.
This is so important, thank you so much for addressing the issue in such a beautiful way.
Dr Joseph is such a brilliant communicator. She’s so calm and reassuring. Great interview and guest.
Thank you, Mel! 🫶🏼 ❤️
Most jobs are like marriages that don’t work out. It’s like your life has to revolve around your job. Have to drive far out for them. They take up all your time. At the end of the day/week you feel so drained. Usually results in seeking another relationship with someone new that feels better.
Wow that is amazing, thank you for sharing 🙏
Mel love the podcast however you talked too much before she came on and we keep missing some info that she wanted to give, because you keep cutting her short and you keep talking
its about us getting info not about what you want please
High functioning depression sounds like the burnout I’ve been feeling. Retirement can’t come fast enough!
Hay I love ❤ you mrs mel Robbins. I like your tough and about 5second..thanks..from Batam Kep riau Indonesia..successful your video
What! I didn't know that we are down to 10% of our eggs by 30. And 1% by 40. That should be well known! Why has it been kept a secret? This is really devastating for our culture who continually puts off marriage and family. 💔
Can you give us some of the resources she talked about for midlife women who are depressed?
I was high functioning to a degree but when it came to personal success I would crash and burn , I was told the reason why I …. Was because I would never slow down, know I was physically forced to slow down I’m struggling with energy to do anything that brings me joy
Thank You So Much For All Your help ❤
Fantastic episode! Thanks Mel, thanks Dr Judith!
Explain how to change a trauma damaged brain with a positive mindset. I'd like to see more for trauma survivors.
"way beyond the budget of a starving artist" LOL. GREAT INTERVIEW :)
I didn’t think I could learn more about budgeting but I did from watching this. And the end was the best. I know some women that are grieving the loss of their husbands and it helps to talk about it.
I NEEDED this! And I love the Budgetnista!! She makes me WANT to do this! It doesn’t feel like an overwhelming drag. I feel empowered!
Thank you for this exceptional summary!
Very interesting
I listened intently to this entire broadcast and there just wasn’t any useful information or good examples of success. Actually if one tries any of the strategies it could create an escalation. I think I had the worst combination, my narc was my business partner, my son in law, father of my grandchild and my next door neighbor …. Nothing worked with this guy. He didn’t display any signs of being dangerous or even imbalanced until 18 years after we first met! Maybe he had others in his world that gave him his coal and we just didn’t know so when I became the target it was a real stumper at first but so text book and maniacal. First he started laying the foundation to degrade me in all our circles from business to friends to family, “ I’m really worried about her” “ She’s doing drugs” the moment he made that accusation I went to our doctor the same day (who he respected ) had her draw my blood and do a full drug screen. He dropped the drug addict accusations and then switched to “She’s mentally unstable” and got our doctor to recommend a psychiatrist! Because of that I’m the only person I know with legal documentation of sanity 🤣… but in the end it escalated to physical violence, torture and poisoning! Financial ruin and complete ostracism from my family and loss of my reputation in the community of business and friends. My point is if you’re dealing with one of these people and they have any kind entanglement with you never underestimate them EVER! You have to get good lawyers, save what you can to start a new and sever all ties no matter how hard. Learn the signs and never let another one back into your life. I think the best tactic in the beginning is gray rocking so they get bored with you and move on.
What if I have insulin resistance, can I still do the IF?
Being OCD ruins relationships. It's hard to live with someone who is not organized
It’s a real battle
Ding ding ding
My daughter married a narc so now there are two narcs and 3 small children lord take the wheel.
My fears started in prison with not having enough to survive. And then because of my actions my many trips to segregation and the impact of loss every time just broke me. The last time I went to segregation I got sent for being "too happy" and failed a drug test for a medication the prison put me on. I sat in segregation for 11 days before they let me out for a false positive test.
wow, eyes opened
What do you do about this kind of depression??