Fascinating video, Let's stop taking relationship and family for granted. I have battled depression since my wife left me. I have tried all I can to make her see that I love her with everything I am made of but she has insisted on leaving. This has made me so empty, and I do not know what to do. I can barely function properly at work. I am frustrated and miserable. I really miss her.

@josephregland

25 күн бұрын

Your pain resonates with me. Letting go of someone dear to your heart is an immense challenge. I found myself in a comparable situation when my 12-year-long relationship ended, and I struggled to accept it. Despite my efforts to reconcile, I eventually turned to a spiritual counsellor for guidance, which eventually led to a reunion. I'm now filled with joy.

@wilmerwilson23

25 күн бұрын

I'm keen on meeting the counsellor you're talking about. What steps should I take?

@josephregland

25 күн бұрын

Online, you'll find shelly renee white, revered for her expertise as a spiritual counsellor. She has the ability to reunite couples and promote holistic well-being.

@wilmerwilson23

25 күн бұрын

Thank you for this information. I have just looked her up on Google. impressive.

@milesclide3813

23 күн бұрын

It's a part of life that we can get hurts God's have plan to all of us don't focus your past.show her that your happy without her .think about your self because she left you it' means she didn't need you..then now try to show her that your happy without her don't show her your weaknesses

Happiness is a choice! My mom had a mental breakdown when I was 6 and fractured my hip. She was in and out of the mental hospital growing up and a psychiatrist sat us four girls down and said one of us would most likely to have this as well. I remember clearly saying “Oh, hell no!!”. I was not getting that death sentence. I believe I have a predisposition for chemical imbalance, but I have the CHOICE to keep my brain healthy! Thank you for pouring this health into us daily!

@woojinlee7749

28 күн бұрын

ㅅ😮ㄱㄴ2😢ㄷ🎉😮

@biancaquijano1360

28 күн бұрын

100 %

@atimnile2401

28 күн бұрын

I Agree ; mental illness in our families is the worst thing ever ; especially when that Family member doesn’t believe they’re ill; refuses Treatment, therapy . I have made A conscious decision to seek Therapy during traumatic periods of my life , exercise & eat healthier, do Yoga 🧘, meditate & exceterA. I hope to God I don’t ever get Schizophrenic or bipolar disorder; it’s A terrible illness. Positive mindset & gratitude 🙏🏿 is key to Happiness in Life!!

@mariaciobanu9882

20 күн бұрын

I am blessed to have bipolar now. In the past, I was cursed.

@lisaaamoun3520

15 күн бұрын

I am so glad that the stigma around mental health is changing through education. Also so much has been learned about addiction. My mom had mental health issues but was never diagnosed because she blamed everyone else for her problems so she never got help. My worst fear is that I will be like her. It’s hard because I loved her but she caused so much suffering to all of us kids and I’m angry. I remind myself “ but there by the grace of God go I “. LET IT GO!!!!! I am blessed beyond anything someone can due to me because of my greatest gift of faith. Amen. Sermon over !

Honestly, I never heard before about PTG (post traumatic growth). In this video I heard about it the first time. And it really interests me, I really admire those people who can grow from their unlucky situations. If I thinking about it a little it's about you have two way when you are in a miserable situation: 1. option: You start thinking you will never get out of this, and you become pessimistic, and you say to yourself "this is what life gave to me, so I just have to accept it". OR 2. option: You try to start thinking in a positive way, you become more optimistic and saying to yourself: " now I'm going to get out of this sh*t, no matter what, and I am going to throw away my victim mentality because it just makes me more miserable, and I want to feel strong and powerful" !

@atimnile2401

28 күн бұрын

I have been practicing that #2 choice daily. I don’t have everything I want in life but I am surely blessed & grateful for everything Good in my life right now . If we dwell on the negative aspects of our lives ; we’ll never be Happy or content !!! I love these Podcasts, they remind me to practice mindfulness & gratitude!!!

Becoming anti-fragile! Finally a term for what I'm always trying to do....sometimes with much success, sometimes with less success....but always getting at least a wee bit stronger. I have felt hopeless at times, but eventually I realized I did still have a choice left, but it was one I thought I'd never have to make and didn't want to have to make. Realizing it gave me the strength to make the choice, and once again have hope. It was HARD and PAINFUL, but I did grow by making that choice and following through! And am happier after having gone through it.

Thank you Mel and Dr. Tan Ben-Shahar for this amazing podcast! I do understand now that it is natural to experience pain and to believe that someday I'll get over it. Taking care of my well being is important in order to be happy in life. Taking small action in my present moment can make changes in my situation. Happiness is when I take simple steps in improving myself until I notice that I am are no longer in a difficult situation and moving forward. :)❤🤗 God Bless both of you!🙏👍❤

@jimmyjamessac7171

27 күн бұрын

You are amazing

You are such a passionate, empathic, educated female. My daughter suggested podcasts a while ago, and it has really been helpful. Printing & savoring every word!! 🎉🎉 Celebrating Recovery 🎈🎈 Making life 🧬 work for me🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

Time stamps for you guys 00:00 Intro 05:51: The two questions that ultimately led to Dr. Ben-Shahar's career. 10:17: The research that cautions about what you promise yourself in the morning. 13:22: The 5 major elements of happiness. 18:22: How having a goal makes you happier. 22:35: Where do you begin if you don't even know what happiness feels like? 24:06: The shocking but honest answer Dr. Ben-Shahar gave about happiness. 25:47: Try one of these 5 one-minute activities when you're feeling depressed. 32:12: How can you be happier if you feel lonely? 34:58: Research finds doing this for just 2 minutes makes you happier and healthier. 40:55: What does a morning look like for a happiness researcher? 43:07: One essential truth to know about happiness. 46:43: What does it mean to be "anti-fragile?" 52:21: How to have more hope when you're going through a hard time. 55:26: The key to systems thinking and why it matters. 1:04:43: What does the research say about LASTING change? 1:06:07: The 3 Rs of Change that should be at the core of all habit changes. 1:10:07: Two essays that Dr. Beh-Shahar recommends if you want to be happier

@lizielita

26 күн бұрын

TY

@Dahlia_lilah

26 күн бұрын

@@lizielita

@1979France

24 күн бұрын

12:34 is the correct timestamp for the “5 major elements of happiness”

'Awareness is the key that unlocks the answers that lie within' is a quote I wrote back in 1998. Awareness IS the beginning of being able to work through personal issues. And, there is a process. We need to listen to our inner voice, feel our feelings, and we will come out the other side of trauma. The process always works.

I cried!!!! This one has to be ONE OF THE MOST BEAUTIFUL AND CHANGING LIFE-SOULS EPISODE!!! I gonna share with everybody!!!! Profund as the sea aand so easy to understand😭😭😭😭 ❤‍🩹❤‍🩹❤‍🩹❤‍🩹❤‍🔥❤‍🔥❤‍🔥❤‍🔥 I LOVE YOU BOTHHH!!!! THANKKKKSSSS ♾♾♾♾♾♾♾!!!!!!!

@rosiehamid4680

18 күн бұрын

Aaaa

This was painful. I guess my expectations were high. I usually get a lot from your podcasts. This episode is like mining for gold. Three quarters in he said something very important about even meditating for one minute will change your life. Meditate for a minute three different times a day will give one the happiness of a 45 minute workout. It’s possible. If I can last through a 45 minute workout or any length workout for me it’s an achievement. For me recovering from the death of someone close means you get through it. But for me & another I talked to, you never get over it. Definitely my challenge is to establish the routines for goals that I could be in repetition. Then I will have resilience & happiness. I will have conquered the hard thing & thrived. Thanks.

@VickiKruger-ul2it

27 күн бұрын

Yep!!❤

i've been out of work for 2 years now since i moved back home to take care of my elder mother. i had to move back to my old home town that is a beat down old steel mill town near pittsburgh. i moved away after high school to make and get a better life and live. i got a MS degree from a top university and was lucky to work for Pfizer for 18 years. But having to move back to a place i grew up in and worked hard to get out has been taken it's toll. there is no work here other than working in a hot dog shop standing in front of a french fryer. i had to give up my whole career and life. it's gettting harder every day....

Happiness is ever changing according to circumstances, our perceptions and ability to interpret emotions and the details of our reality.

On the subject of happiness. I have in the past been so unhappy that I just focused intently that I am going to be happy for 30 minutes. It worked 15 minutes in I realized I was happy. Sometimes I got a little too happy & became goofy like I drank 8 cups of coffee in a row. Unintentionally drank 8 cups of coffee in a row vibing through conversation with friends at a small town cafe.

Always grateful for this podcast!

I LL TELL YOU WHAT......................i am pursuing happiness for a long time I believe I in our human nature but I found out that being grateful, is the key to happiness and enjoying every moment, embracing every day looking forward to waking up tomorrow and having God in your heart is for me Happiness.......................... doing what you love as for me making my dolls, listening my favorite country music , and is possible WE CAN FEEL HAPPY INDEED

@soniafraga4893

28 күн бұрын

Definitely

@atimnile2401

27 күн бұрын

Yes, Yes & Yes 👍!!!

Be present in the NOW mindfully

Happiness is a choice

@ChissellBaker

28 күн бұрын

​@@Silence_between_waves it's good to explore positive things to uplifts Humanity. Happiness is an expression of feelings but it is not a part of the humans six senses. Our six senses are feeling, taste, touch, think, see, and smell. I am a spiritual being having a human experience. Happiness is a virtue and doesn't originate from our feelings and also can be accessed by your higher consciousness. When you refer to feelings, thoughts, etc. those are simply the faculties of the human senses. Happiness can be experienced through the six senses but happiness comes from our higher consciousness and occurs when we are in harmony with the truth of spiritual laws and virtues. These spiritual laws have been practiced by thousands of religions, and cultures for over 6,000 years. Ease and Grace to all!

Dr. Ben-Shahar's breakdown of the five elements of happiness is a powerful reminder of the multi-dimensional nature of well-being. Integrating these elements into daily life can transform personal satisfaction and effectiveness, particularly in the realm of entrepreneurship. 🌟

My Rabbi said in a recent Shiur "No, Money Can't Buy You Happiness, But it sure can help you avoid Pain" 😉

Mel, thank you for your podcasts !

I love your podcast 😊 the segments always insure me that I'm doing what's best for me and my future self 💖❤

Thank you Mel and Dr. Tan Ben-Shahar what an amazing interview very grateful 🙏 🦋💙

Thank you for this amazing interview! Love you and your guests Mel. 💜💜💜💜

My goodness, Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar just put everything into perspective. What an eye-opening discussion. I'm so glad this popped up on my KZread feed. Thanks for facilitating this talk @Mel Robbins.

I love this man! Thank you!

Absolutely true ❤

I am so grateful for your lessons and knowledge, my own teaching resonates with your podcast. Thank you for continuing to support your people.

Great show thank you Mel!

Humans were never meant to go through painful experience that's just a part of the fall in this broken world. It was perfect at one time but mankind made a selfish choice and here we are

Thank you so much!

bravo - excellent podcast - love the SPIRE, MVI, three Rs, Helen Keller's essays ... - thank you thank you thank you to both of you, Mel and Tal. 💙

Wow!! This can be applied for people that are old, with medical problems etc etc.

True happiness has nothing to do with achievement or the pursuit. That is all ego driven. True happiness is full presence and connection to source.

@imlv2614

27 күн бұрын

yessss

Hey Mel. I’ve got my Bones headphones on, while I’m sitting in ER with my 88 yr old mother now… I gave my speech to the nurses about how, I believe we can heal ourselves. Doctors are for broken arms not broken brains!! Then I get my card, turn it over and write down your name. I list this episode and a few others that are relevant. Thank you. VK.

Pure perfection 🙏💕

@imlv2614

27 күн бұрын

❤❤❤❤❤

Love this episode! I had a rough morning today and listening to this podcast absolutely helped! ❤️❤️ Thank you 🙏

Thank you both 🙏 this was fantastic

Thank you. This is amazing.

We are alive with emotions up and down. Being happy , sad is a moment an experience not a state of mind. The power of acceptance is the key

Thank you so much, Mel, you are my favourite❤

This is the episode I was looking for my entire life! Thank you

Another wonderful informational podcast full of so much learning. Happiness is a choice.❤

Excellent interview! Thank you.

Another interesting and inspiring podcast by you Mel Robbins! Sharing this! Thank you for your time, energy, being courageous and for being so genuine! The content and wisdom you share changes lives for the better! 🎉🎉😊

Such a great listen- and I loved the last part about Helen Keller since my daughter found out she is going blind. And as difficult as it will be for her, I want to embrace the idea that through the difficulty of it, she will become an amazing woman she is meant to become. ❤

Phenomenal interview Mel !!!!! I think my life has just been changed. ❤

Love this! ❤

Happy 😊 to have you 🎉

Love all of you content!

So grateful for your podcast❤I am hooked❤Very very much valuable nuggets of wisdom here❤

His favorite it my favorite song, too. Everyone sends me videos with that song as the background music. No other can compare. I Will Always Love It!!!! ♥️ Whitney

Love this!

Great podcast,I appreciate it thank you ma'am Welcome from Nepal

I love him.

Thanks!

❤Hi Mel♥ I am watching you while having my lunch~

Thankyou very much, I listening this video, to reminder every word

"How to develop a better personality/ be a better person that people around you appreciate" Think you can make a video about it?

Mel IM so Bklessed to see you at work I do learn things .

Another great podcast! So much explained thank you so much Mel for all you do for us listeners. Have a great day 😊!

Querida Mel: ¡qué preguntas tan interesantes haces a tu invitado! ❤

This is very good!❤

Mind Body Spirit...in balance.

Mel, can you interview Sally McRae one day ? She is great and I think tje two of you would make a great match !! 🤩

I love this episode like many others:) Also, I wish Launch would be cheaper

I think this is what has happened to me I hope I can do well in something else. I got a degree but I didn’t excel in that field.

That's my favorite song too❤

ThankYou😊😊🤗🙏

seek JOY happiness is temporary.

😁 Hi Mel! 🎉

Wow❤

Happiness is not something you experience, it's something you remember.

@VickiKruger-ul2it

27 күн бұрын

Wow. That is correct to the core!! It seems like we play the same words over n over in our heads to comfort ourselves. We struggle to step outside the box. I’m living proof too. All the meds I’ve tried for nerve pain etc etc etc. I know my brain can make my body do what I tell it. I don’t have broken bones. Just broken systems. But not anymore. !! lol. Watching people fall apart makes me angry. Dialysis patients are some of the worst sadly. My husband has been an example that your mind can heal yourself. It’s a miracle for sure. Brain doctors should be our first choice to heal ourselves. Thanks Mel

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The sweet is never as sweet without the sour.😂

I guess that's why it's called " The pursuit of happiness."" "

Happiness is subjective. If people are generally miserable, they can be sold on romanticized versions of accountability.

@TheEar000

28 күн бұрын

Yes. That is why it's called the Pursuit of Happiness.

@jat6547

28 күн бұрын

Please stop ✋ you DON'T have THE answer..

@VOID-Venture

28 күн бұрын

@@jat6547 I was not asked a question. Why would I need an answer. . . level up!

@jat6547

28 күн бұрын

That was meant to be a comment only. I made a mistake and addressed it to you....... However I will not take this opportunity to " talk down " ( level up ) to you, kindness goes a long way. Blessings.

@VOID-Venture

28 күн бұрын

@@jat6547 Your virtue signaling does not go unnoticed. It is alarming how many people attempt to manipulate on a level they haven't reached yet.

Listen to Hole - "Malibu" - good happy song - relatable lyrics - great chords

My name is Christine I did that I didn't wait for my husband or my sons wild hu I really haven't done it yet though is it possible to do that in my head cause I got free in my mind and it made me happy.

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It is hard to be 😊happy when you have illnesses. I hope people are aware of that. It is a struggle for them.

@Michelle-md5kd

28 күн бұрын

Not always. I am a cancer researcher and a lot of my patients are super happy. Not happy that they have an illness, sometimes fatal, but rather they choose to appreciate all aspects of life. I wish you good health 🤗

@12:42 If you only have a few minutes, listen to this bit. SPIRE

Oh the retrograde does his job 😂❤❤❤

I can do 45 seconds of exercise, three times a day for happiness.

Because a narcissist doesn't want you to be happy .. well I stopped being happy at age 5 and stopped smiling altogethe. I had to hide anything I was happy about. Because my covert Narcissist mother and malignant narcissist are now both dead 😌 I can actually show that I'm happy and smile now. So now I have to learn how to enjoy life because I want to know how to do that

@VOID-Venture

28 күн бұрын

Assume all accountability for your actions, deeds and thoughts. Don't shift blame, circumvent or deflect. Growth happens when we realize there is still growing to be done.

@vickibazter3446

28 күн бұрын

The children of narcissistic parents have a tough road in life. I give you credit for being resilient.

You are beautiful Sister you are very beautiful!❤ We love you Vivian NAUD and Melanie and Vivian NAUD GGM Global Ambassador God Government Ministry worldwide outreach

34:00 OMG priceless

Who is this? Why is guests name not in title

@melrobbins

28 күн бұрын

You can find our guest, Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar, and his credentials in the description of this video. You might just need to click “...more” to see the full description, as KZread only automatically shows the first few lines. - Team Mel

Anti-fragile FTW!!!

Happiness is being content. If you pursue happiness, you’re not content about something in your life so you have to address the underlying cause of that specific thing. With all do respect, the guest seems to be discontent from the very beginning. He keeps changing from one pursuit to another. Imagine, being privileged to be in Harvard and being “unhappy”. Something else is wrong.

Wow no wonder enemy doesn't want God's people to worship... focus joy peace

Nothing has Gone right for me I have had a crap life.Gold diggers and narcissists in my life.Thats why I have stayed single.I don't trust.

Brilliant talk… however, the suggestion to experiment with the truths is exceptionally delusional, dangerous and deceptive… and that’s exactly what had happened to M. Gandhi. He came to study in London, received the Bible, was so moved by the Beatitudes like nothing else moved him. Then he practiced Hinduism and died without hope. It’s a terrible gamble with practicing experimenting with the truth (s).

really ? kind of realistic you think ?

Is that the goal? To be happy everyday?😂

we can't avoid suffering and pain. if it wasn't for Jesus' suffering................it ads meaning to my suffering.

What are you work with the children children's support you play my personal the children support me laughing what the children in need me help you what did you need dancing with the children in you read the book what the children he said running is Delilah about the chilling is tell me I love you Mr Laila I love you give me help me Delilah Chinese food at me happy everyday with children and I'm laughing but my heart inside is crying for the the person I love you my heart is is is is God inside and believe and I say every people forever you want or try making mistake for me and tell that I put in my problem and you hang is making me happy in the day

If it didn't make people money it wouldn't have a name....dont identify with absolutely nothing like that