Heartbreak was what made me the man I am today. I dated a girl from the age of 19-23, and I thought she was the love of my life. Planned my whole world around her, and then she dumped me out of the blue. It was the worst thing that had ever happened to me; I didn’t know who I even was without her. I thought about doing terrible things to myself. But over time the pain lessened. I grew into myself. I graduated college, hit the gym, discovered new hobbies, found God and, one day out of the blue, found the woman I would end up marrying. And *she* is the one I was meant to spend my life with. I didn’t look for her, I didn’t even try - all I did was focus on myself and becoming a good, solid man and then things fell into place. All this to say: it gets better. I promise you. It. Gets. Better. You just have to persevere, as all humans have done before you.

@seenonyt2210

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this. God bless you!

@matthewjameson8809

Жыл бұрын

Thanks man, I don't mean to spill my own hard ships or take away from what you went through, but I find myself in a similar situation now. I dated a girl from age 18-21. She was a nice girl, but wasn't the type I wanted to settle down with and marry. I was young and immature and ungrateful for who I had. We broke things off after dealing with me getting cold feet countless times, and I've been alone since. It's been about a year and a half, I'm 23 now. I try like people say and work on myself, I'm in an apprenticeship in a trade now. It doesn't pay the most but it's liveable. I don't really have dreams of a career or anything grand like that, and I find it hard to push myself. I just want a simple, blue collar life, and peace, but I often hear that such a thing is a turn off and I'll never be good enough to marry if that's what I "settle" for in life. Do you have any advice? How long were you single for? Do you have any critiques of what I'm doing?

@ozymandias7592

Жыл бұрын

Sound advice

@_Cato_

Жыл бұрын

@@matthewjameson8809 Hey buddy, sorry it took a bit to respond. I’m sorry to hear that you’re struggling but I want to reassure you that a quiet, peaceful life is more than okay. I’m 28, so a little bit older than you, and it took me a while to realize I wanted a life like that as well. And that’s more than okay - there are still good women out there who would love nothing more than to have a reliable man and live out a peaceful, stable life. It’s definitely possible to achieve that, and a life like that is an honorable thing. I don’t have any critiques really, except to suggest attending Church in some way. You may not be religious, and that’s fine; I wasn’t until I was around 26ish and then something switched in me. And it was through finding God that I found my now wife, and I think they’re definitely related. Sorry if this isn’t too helpful, and I’ll just end by encouraging you to keep at it. You seem like a good, honest man and that is so rare these days. You’ll make it, buddy. I’m here rooting for you

@matthewjameson8809

Жыл бұрын

@@_Cato_ Thank you very much for the reply and the reassurance, it means alot. I am actually religious, but I haven't consistently attended a Church in many years. I am currently looking to find a Church where I fit in at. I'm also looking at taking up martial arts. I started boxing months ago, but I don't think I was doing it for the right reasons, I was mainly doing it to impress my family instead of because I enjoyed it, so eventually I quit. But I'm in a better state of mind now and I plan on going back soon. And thanks again for the kind words, I'm rooting for you too

Love is not about finding the right person, it’s about being the right person

@maboy8595

Жыл бұрын

Underrated comment right there.

@David-ud9ir

Жыл бұрын

Fax

@averythomas8485

Жыл бұрын

Boom!

@Alloniya

Жыл бұрын

True

@JustEatNature

Жыл бұрын

This hit me in places i didnt know existed

This Christmas I lost my Dog, my Girlfriend, my job, and my mother. Absolutely the worst time of my life. I got in my car and just headed west. Drove for 4 hours with just a blank stare forward. After 4 hours I realized I can't run from it. I turned around and went home. Everyday since has been a living hell facing it but I got to believe this is part of my journey. Gotta be better days ahead....

@zempirians

11 ай бұрын

Have the days become better?

@slaytanicx7633

11 ай бұрын

@Brother James Yes they have. The hurt and pain is always just temporary. Aslong as you keep in mind that Tomorrow is a new day. Everyday I wake up and are able to enjoy simple things like talking a walk is a gift. I'm lucky.

@davidfernandeztirado3515

10 ай бұрын

I Will pray for u , better days are coming to all of us

@Shaara1

10 ай бұрын

@@slaytanicx7633 I know it's cliche and cruel, but bad things we have to suffer for something better to come. About losing loved ones...They didn't leave they just gone ahead of us.

@JaxAndree

10 ай бұрын

Very similar situation here. Keep holding on. Sending you love.

“If you look hard enough you will convince yourself that you have found what your looking for”. Wow. Didnt know I needed to hear that. Thank you man

@UbivatVideos

2 ай бұрын

Heard it before but it's a seemingly little known but powerful piece of advice.

We love you BECAUSE you aren't a therapist. You're like America's dad. Your advice is so true and honest and it is so appreciated.

@nadiarogmati2184

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. ❤️

@ryantaccone

Жыл бұрын

Yeah! Agreed :D Say Chicken, how ya doing? 🤠

@HFBeal

Жыл бұрын

Having a therapist has been a huge gift for me, helped me process through my divorce and other challenges. And also his perspective and videos have been really helpful to me. I think there’s a lot of value in both therapy and this!

@ElyssaM9899

Жыл бұрын

@@HFBeal that’s a really awesome way to incorporate two healthy therapies! 😍🥰 I hope your healing continues in the path you need :)

@andrew3006

Жыл бұрын

Bill Cosby is America’s dad!!

When my son drowned at 17 a woman whose son had drowned told me : Time won't heal the pain of loss but in time the pain won't be as sharp as it is right now. After 22 years I've found this to be true. God Bless

@dirtyunclehubert

Жыл бұрын

man, the horrors that life gives some people. i am at a loss of words for you, my dude.

@chasvonplatten1298

Жыл бұрын

I'm deeply sorry for the loss of your son.

@mededits276

Жыл бұрын

deeply sorry for the loss

@oddjobz9858

Жыл бұрын

Sending loving energy from a far

@JudicialBrat

Жыл бұрын

My Condolences.

The hardest part for me is the dreams. It's been over two years and I still dream about her. Wish that would stop.

@1031NoOpinionv

Жыл бұрын

You got this bro

@katec9893

5 ай бұрын

If you're still experiencing this, writing, drawing or painting your dreams might help. I find when I'm having dreams and nightmares it's usually the subconscious trying to process something or make me aware of something. Expressing it creatively can help us bring it into the conscious, understand and heal it.

@grason9418

2 ай бұрын

Been about 4 years for me. Just as Dewayne says, this too shall pass. Now, I only look back and am happy for the lessons learned. Good luck brother

@DystopianApocalypse

10 күн бұрын

9 years here brother. It's absolute hell. It's like we have a soul tie and we both know there wasn't a healthy goodbye. Zero fucking closure and my subconscious is still trying to process it. I still love the harlot and she's married now with a kid...

@guccigangdavie9601

4 күн бұрын

@@DystopianApocalypseplease don’t say this is true my soul is tied. How do I break it. My girlfriend and high school sweetheart left me for a fucking homeless bum.

They say love is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it runs away. But the moment you stop chasing it and regain your stillness, it'll perch on you.

@smerdopsis6092

3 ай бұрын

I heard another one too, like you must protect the butterfly from the wind with your hand but not to squeeze the delicate butterfly (or love) or it will die, basically protecting but also giving freedom was my understanding

Heartbreak was the best thing that could have happened to me. At the beginning it hurts and you try to persuade the person somehow to continue. Until time heals your wounds and you start to focus on yourself. For me the process took a long time but in the end I have never felt better than I do now because of the development I have taken through it.

@dirtyunclehubert

Жыл бұрын

thats the thing. heartbreak and life crisis is always a rare great chance for total change. usually your life is like a train and at one point, the ride is decided, you will be on that train until you reach final stop. a life crisis can act like an emergency break. you can step off, re evaluate your route and get on a new train.

@abetterwaytolive_

Жыл бұрын

That’s what I went through. The Lord used that to lead me to Christ.

@IntrovertedLoLo

Жыл бұрын

Yes! My boyfriend left me for another woman, I was 25 (30 now and still single). It was absolute agony, after a 3 year relationship. I fought like heck to get him back. Compared myself to the new girl 24/7. But, I wouldn’t change it. I’ve learned never to trust, to focus on yourself and your mental health, et cetera. Definitely 100% learn to be alone and take care of yourself only. I won’t ever let someone affect me like that ever again. Now I absolutely love being alone and can hardly believe it. Learn to love yourself and you don’t “need” that other person you thought you did. EDIT* Of course you can meet someone new and start a life with them, I didn’t mean “be alone” forever. Just be okay with it, if it happens. And I’ll always keep a wall up no matter what, just in case.

@joeneighbor

Жыл бұрын

“'Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”

@thatrandomchannel2132

Жыл бұрын

I'm going through it right now

Love isn’t something you find, it’s something you build. Through action, and equal effort with someone else who also wants to love.

@anaistres3359

Жыл бұрын

This is so true for me. I have to say, I've learned a lot through my platonic relationships. I found that I've never been put in the position to look for platonic love and I never had a tight grip on it. Today, I have a community of people who love me just as much as I love them and who have been around me for decades. I don't remember when I started to love them or even when these relationships began. It seems like they've always been there. Of course, all relationships take nourishment but even that felt effortless for the most part. I think if people approach romantic relationships in a similar fashion it may not seem so tough. The chasing of anything makes it feel like it's so far away and unattainable.

@davidfernandeztirado3515

10 ай бұрын

This hit close to home beacuse i built 8 years of Love and she coudnt keep building Whit me but i feel good because It wasnt the one Who give up

@jesusisking3814

6 ай бұрын

For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life. Jesus Christ loves you so much that He died for your sins and rose from the dead. If you repent from evil ways, believe that Jesus has paid the fine for your sins on the cross and confess Him as your Lord, you will be saved. You see, we all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God, that's why Jesus Christ, fullness of Godhead bodily, lived a perfect life, fulfilled the prophecies and law, shed His Blood at the cross just so you could be forgiven, reconciled back to the Father, receive God's love, be made a new creation, whole, sanctified. It's not about religion and what good works you can do to earn salvation, it's only by grace through faith in the finished works of Jesus Christ. Read God's Word, preferably start with Gospel of John, pray for the Holy Spirit to fill you, give you wisdom and revelation that way you're born again and see your life changed by the Spirit of the Most High. Much love and God bless you!

@dylan-bf8qo

6 ай бұрын

I wish the best on you god bless

@cencations1251

Ай бұрын

say it louder! :)

My girlfriend (now wife) quite literally walked into my life, met her at a friends house, and I was just drawn to her, been married for 6 years, together for 8 years, and are expecting our first baby here in 6 weeks, your comment about stop looking, couldn’t be any more true. She’s the best thing to ever happen to me, great things happen when you least expect it.

@caffeinateddecisions6923

Жыл бұрын

Thank God a positive comment, this comment section is nothing but depressing. DCWS has become an echo chamber for sadness

@killershot257

Жыл бұрын

@@caffeinateddecisions6923 And? People can't vent their frustrations now? Sometimes people want to vent their sadness and this man is giving us general advice and wisdom from his experience. There are tons of people who've suffered from heartbreak and loss and and want to comment their own experiences and give thanks. I hope you understand that or don't come giving that here.

@TheFlowerGardenZa

Жыл бұрын

Beautiful comment! Thank you for sharing 🤩

@sonyavincent7450

Жыл бұрын

Congratulations on your relationship. There's nothing greater than a good marriage. 👍

@Precautioner

9 ай бұрын

🎉 salute to you my friend that gave me hope and I'm happy your in a good place thanks for sharing that it brought a smile to my face

"Until you find peace in who you are... you can't get that peace from somebody else." Came with questions about life. Left with a desire to smoke that cigar and a Senior moment.

About a year ago, my fiancé, and I had fallen on hard times. I'd known her since High school and we had been dating for 4 years. I moved out and tried to move on, but despite our grievances, our connection was still strong. In June my father passed away suddenly and I didn't handle it well. His death and my searching for a new place lead to me taking a 2nd job and working every day. My ex and I continued talking, sporadically, and things seemed like they could be mending. One evening in late September she had invited me back over to spend some time together, but I found myself too tired to get out of the house. She passed away early the next morning. I have become intimately familiar with loss and heartbreak and guilt and regret. If you've lost someone or some connection you've had with someone, I can certainly relate to the pains, and sorrows you feel. And I've heard all the advice you're likely to hear. But no matter your loss, the most important thing is that you keep moving. I won't say "move on". Eventually you must, and one day you will, but that's something that evolves over time. Time does heal and the pain isn't infinite, but if someone had told me to just move on back in October, I'd probably need to be physically restrained. For most people, moving on is a process. But for now, just keep moving. Get up. Get out of bed. Keep working. Work harder. Start working out. Try new things. Do not fall into the traps of depression and self pity. It's okay to be sad and sullen. Especially with death, give yourself some room to mourn. But don't dwell there too long. Misery will sit with you forever if you let it. But if you keep moving, one day you'll find that you have moved on, and you'll find that you're in a new place, and you'll find new opportunities there. I was breaking down into a mess every day in October and November. These days, maybe once a week, something strikes me and I can't hold back the tears. It still hurts, but it doesn't hurt all the time now. That's progress. And if you can progress, you can heal. Funny I found this video today. I was feeling kinda down, because today is her birthday, so she's been on my mind. Thanks for the talk Duane.

@MaricaIvica

Жыл бұрын

Wauw you are brave. Wishing you peace.!

@Savvynomad225

Жыл бұрын

There’s a really good short book I’d recommend to most men, especially after a tough loss. It’s written by a therapist who has discovered a difference between men and women and healing. It’s called “The Way Men Heal” by Tom Golden, LCSW It’s a good overview that can provide direction and understanding on how healing happens for men.

@TommyWest.

Жыл бұрын

@@MaricaIvica Thank you.

@TommyWest.

Жыл бұрын

@@Savvynomad225 Thanks for the recommendation, my friend.

@wesgriffin9666

Жыл бұрын

Sorry for your loss. It sounds like you guys werent willing to give up then. Dont give up now. Always here for a talk.

Believe me I can tell you about heartbreak. My Wife of 37 years, who I have known since grammar school (she was 70, I am 72), so we have known each other all our lives, passed away on 22 December, one month ago tomorrow. My life is shattered into a million pieces. I was not ready to lose her, not sure I ever will be, frankly I don’t want to be over it. My love for my Wife, my Lover, and my Best Friend will never be over. It’s so recent, I don’t know that I will ever find my way without her. I’m sure God will show me the way someday to be without her, but not yet, the pain is so intense, I can’t begin to explain it, but I Pray it never happens to you.

@tinaleeth2707

Жыл бұрын

Bless you

@1997Nico

Жыл бұрын

I wish I can give you some words to console you. But keep doing your best Danny. Stay strong and keep going forward. Your love will be forever.

@jimmyj8161

Жыл бұрын

Bless you x

@chilloften

Жыл бұрын

It hurts, all we can do now is carry the pain with us. Still see the beauty all around. I love how you wrote, really describes well and is heartfelt. Peace be with you. I’m glad you adored her, to bits. It’s beautiful.

@CMD_Line

Жыл бұрын

I think it’s ok to never be over a relationship so precious, part of your soul has gone and the things people say during the pain doesn’t always help. Only if you have experienced such great loss does one understand and thus I find comfort in those people. You don’t have to say anything, you’re both just being and that in itself brings comfort and some form of healing. At least for me.

In my humble opinion at 34 years old, if you make it to my age and haven't had any heartbreaks or some form of trauma, you haven't really lived what we call "life". Its the hardships that you struggle through that makes you stronger, smarter, and wiser. Just don't let your hardships get the best of you like they almost did to me. Give it time for the wisdom that life is trying to teach you to set in.

@BansheeKing22

9 ай бұрын

Guess I haven't lived life then. The relationships I tried to have lasted less than a week. I've long given up. Why bother trying when the result is always the same. At 32 the only thing I learned was it was stupidly delusional of me to ever think there was a girl who would want me and love me.

@kevinmoyer6224

9 ай бұрын

@@BansheeKing22 its not delusional to think the way you're thinking. And you're not stupid for wanting to find love. I've seen the people that 'try too hard' and end up destroying their chances with the girl. What's most important is that you focus on yourself first. Be happy as yourself, by yourself, and the rest will come when you least expect it. But if you beat yourself up all the time, you're already mentally defeated to everyone you meet. I hope the best for you, and im sure you have a lot of love to give to some lucky woman in the future. Be strong 💪 peace ✌

@BansheeKing22

9 ай бұрын

@@kevinmoyer6224 I get what you're doing but it doesn't matter. Ive been alone for too long and it's too late. I dont believe in the whole "when you least expect it" nonsense because that's not reality. I've long given up because its pointless to try when the result is always the same and I refuse to stupidly delude myself into thinking some girl will want me and love me. God is always silent when I've asked him about it so I can only logically conclude that his answer is a permanent no. Nothing I can do about it.

@kevinmoyer6224

9 ай бұрын

@@BansheeKing22 ok, you're 32, im about to turn 35. We're not even half way through this journey. Don't give up man. Personally, I got divorced 4 years ago and fell into a deep depression. I had to learn how to be happy alone again. Learn to love yourself like a mate. Theres nothing wrong with that. Once I learned that, I started having fun again just being alive and being me. It is essential. Even if we never find a compatible woman, atleast our lives won't be miserable

@Justcrusin

9 ай бұрын

Reading ur guys things touched me in a way, I was with this girl for almost 5 years and we split half a year ago and I feel like I will end up feeling in the long run. I’m 20 btw and if I’ve talked to girls but I want to just be alone now.

The stop "Stop looking" lesson was brilliantly put. Having just come out of a relationship and in the heartbreak phase (idolising the person, thinking of the memories and plans that never were...) I realised that I had been some desperate for her to be the one that I projected a lot onto her and checked all my boxes without checking the ones I didn't want to be checked.

Love isn’t something you find. Love is something that finds you.

@sleepisthecousinofdeath7395

Жыл бұрын

🧢

@sleepisthecousinofdeath7395

Жыл бұрын

Love is just a word to get what you want

@janelleg597

Жыл бұрын

Love is an action

@sotiristheodoris1270

Жыл бұрын

'Love' is overrated.

@Savvynomad225

Жыл бұрын

Someone has to do the finding

The hardest thing for me to find is honesty in another person.

@Rimrock300

Жыл бұрын

Are you thinking about 'white lies', that most of us have said now and then, not wanting to hurt someone else, like 'your're looking good for your age', or strait forward lies like 'I'm not married' (is married for 10 years) If meeting only dishonest persons, one might ask oneself 'why do I attract dishonest persons?', and/or one maybe look in the wrong places/enviroments.

@Kam1kas11

Жыл бұрын

AMEN TO THAT!!!

@hhlagen

Жыл бұрын

Do your part and be honest. If they can’t be honest then that’s their flaw they’re going to wake up to one day.

@Rimrock300

Жыл бұрын

@@OGpostaldude Yeah, might be

You're born in this world by yourself, you'll experience death by yourself; we must learn how to be happy and find peace by ourselves in the middle. Great wise advice you offer in this video. Thank you

Man, I’m 42 and all my life has been is heartbreak and loss. My first funeral was when I was 5 (in 1985). It was my grandpa (Dad’s side) and I remember being just tall enough to see him in his coffin wearing his medals and ribbons on his WWII Class A’s. That was the first time I remember contemplating what it meant to be “dead”. I also remember my dad as he dealt with the loss. My dad, nicknamed “Pie”, was always a stoic man. He didn’t say much until he thought deeply about it. He was measured and was also a walking encyclopedia 😂. But, I remember him as he dealt with grief and loss. He and his father weren’t close, the war will do that to a person. I recall feeling his grief (I’m kind of what they call an “empath”…..so is my mom). By the time I was 17 I had been to over a dozen funerals. My family went through a bad time filled with deadly accidents, suicides, and loss of loved ones through health issues. At the same time I even had close friends that passed away. I lost friends that were my age at the time. It’s a very difficult thing to attend the funeral of peers when you are still a kid. It hits harder in its own way. I got to the point where I refuse to attend funerals anymore. Not out of anything negative…..it’s just that I can’t handle it anymore. The departed just don’t look real. Their souls aren’t there. It’s just feels off on top of the grief that not only I have felt at those times……but also feeling the grief all around me. It’s rough. The hardest one that hit me ever was in 2015. I lost my dad. Pie was my greatest friend, my biggest fan, my most cherished inspiration, my anchor to this plane of existence and most importantly he was my rudder that always steered via trust and wisdom. I was 35. I’m still not over it. There are lots of times where something happens in my life and my reaction will be to call my dad to tell him. One of my Sons does something great? Call dad. I got a new truck? Call dad. I heard a great joke? Call dad. You get the picture. It’s torture. The night before he passed he was coming down with a head cold and was about to go to bed, we were talking on the phone. He was telling me “Yeah, I’m getting sick Jim….I need to go to bed.” to which I replied “Ok man, I’ll chat with you later….get some rest and feel better….I love you” to which he replied in a way that looking back makes me feel like he knew it was his end. He emphasized “I love YOU”. He had never said it that way before ever. It was always said in a way that intended to talk again. When I found out he passed (his neighbor friend found him, he passed in his sleep and she called me after she called the coroner) I collapsed. My brain just froze into overload. This is hard even reliving this in my mind now. I then got back up and walked to the stairs and just sobbed and fell apart. My wife tried consoling me to no avail. I was undone. He was my hero. He always will be. The whole world has gone even more crazy since then and a part of me feels as though it’s in part because he (and folks like him) left this realm. Love, patience, acceptance, compassion, true wisdom left this Earth when he left. The world is worse for it. I still have my mom, and we get along but my mom has always had baggage. She cheated and left my dad when I was 17. I’m almost thankful for her leaving because she took her needless drama with her. I got 4 years (before I left for the Army) to be with Pie without any BS. I learned so much from him. I feel that we bonded more in those 4 years than we ever did before. My only good takeaway from him passing is he isn’t dealing with his bad back, his high blood pressure, and his emphysema anymore. He’s free from the burden of pain. For that I’m thankful. I still miss him. As far as love goes, I agree. Don’t look for it, it WILL find you. My dad always told me “Jim, be friends with them all” (talking about women). I became friends with a great girl back in 1996 and through that friendship we became best friends. Our lives took differing paths as time slowly churned on, but, eventually everything aligned with no effort and we started dating based on the foundation of our friendship and the fact that a not so secret love started forming for each other. We’ve been married and going strong since 2004. We took the review mirror and ripped it off, threw it out the window. We just keep racing into the future together, always. Thick as thieves, stronger than all. My advice to young folks would be mixed with some of Pie’s advice. Be friends with them all, build a friendship that can last. Base a true love on heart because heart (and guts) are what matters the most in trying times. Intertwine with someone that can lean on you as you lean on them. Don’t be afraid to be wrong, and learn from mistakes. Learn together, grow together, keep your eyes on the prize…..and finally do NOT, whatever you do do, let the world in all of it’s fading glory poison the well in your hearts. This life is yours, it doesn’t belong to the latest cultural fad. Be a rock, be an anchor…..be steadfast. When you are old and gray and fading from this life you will do so with a smile. Peace.

@braco8422

Жыл бұрын

Beautifully written young man....all of it from the ❤️ heart. Great way to remember all the father's in today's world. Not many of us father's get the respect....but Thankfully my children are beautiful human beings. Love sharing all l can with them and you seem to have done that with your father. Stay strong Love and respect to you...... 😊 from this old man.

@hoaglandranch2485

Жыл бұрын

Your father “Pie” sounds sweet as “Pie” ! I am truly sorry for your loss. You were both very blessed to have had each other. XX

@kevinmoyer6224

9 ай бұрын

Im glad you had such a great relationship with your dad. Cherish those memories because those are yours and yours only. Sorry for your loss, but the lessons he taught you in life will be brought back in your future to help you make the right decisions.

@bam8606

8 ай бұрын

Same here brother… my old man died 3 days after thanksgiving turkey suddenly unexpected when I was 15 years old. One of the most wisest, giving, and sharped eye Man I knew. Sister called me and broke the news I just went blank in the mind and got on my knees leaning on the bed. Thinking about it hurts still and 2015 it was as well when it happened. “A Father’s death is the most important event. The more heartbreaking and poignant loss in a man’s life”- Sigmund Freud

@yung_wog4180

7 ай бұрын

Thanks for this man

At 24 years old I experienced my first relationship. She ended it and it broke my heart, the most real pain I’ve felt in a long time. But I’m grateful, because I almost settled for a life and a career that was below my potential. This heartbreak serves as a catalyst for me to grow and have a sense of urgency.

@RowdyElectron

Жыл бұрын

I hope you have a long a prosperous journey 💪

@defectdetectorrailvideos3186

Жыл бұрын

Hey King, go out there and make her regret dumping you. Flip the script 👌

@stuartadamsrailfanningvideos

Жыл бұрын

@@defectdetectorrailvideos3186 Hello fellow railfan and Dry Creek enthusiast!

@DudeWatIsThis

Жыл бұрын

Oh I feel you bro. 25-30 is possibly the worst time of your life (if you live in the beginning of the 21st century), so brace for it and consider this a character-building experience. Most of your grandparents will die in this age range. Your parents will start getting their first illnesses and start visibly aging. Everyone expects you to perform better than you're doing. Partying is no longer as fun as it was, and relationships become a much more serious thing. It does get better after your 30's, but brace for impact now. Again, hang in there - by the time you're 35, you'll have left all the bad stuff behind.

@cullenferguson6373

Жыл бұрын

@@DudeWatIsThis why do you say 25-30 is bad beyond the reasons you stated? Give me more examples, I just turned 25. But the example you already pointed out are correct!

"I'm just a dude" You do enough on youtube to give some folks a foundation for better livin'. You're just a good dude.

As someone who spent 20+ years not even trying to find a woman. Don't go out and try to force a relationship.. but it is still important to make some kind of communication if you are interested in someone. If you close yourself off to everyone your chances of meeting the one is very small. Also be yourself

Relationships come and go: no matter what you are going thru regarding love, friendships, family; remember that you will get thru this! As a Vietnam Era veteran and homeless off and on the last 10 years, I can tell you this: You will get thru your present situation... You will be STRONGER... You will be WISER... it's all about learning and getting to know YOU! Make YOU be the one in the "drivers seat" of YOUR life and not others!!

@BullMarketBandit

Ай бұрын

Thank you

@charlesmiddleton3247

Ай бұрын

@@BullMarketBandit Namaste! Be Strong and kind to yourself. Thank you.

@charlesmiddleton3247

Ай бұрын

@@BullMarketBandit I hope you are doing well and staying strong and positive! Let your "Light" shine brightly. From a Vietnam Era Marine Corps veteran.

@BullMarketBandit

Ай бұрын

@@charlesmiddleton3247 Thank you brother, the same to you. May the father with with you

Adversity builds us gentlemen, it does not feel good at the time but the results pay off in spades. In the meantime pray your way through. Dry Creek Wrangler thank you! 🙏🏿

@SouthernJaeger

Жыл бұрын

Cheers to the that.

@kevindavis1281

Жыл бұрын

Yup!

@dirtyunclehubert

Жыл бұрын

word.

@turbo1gts

Жыл бұрын

Pray, and praise God for what you do have in the meantime. When you praise Him it takes the focus off the negative things you are feeling at the moment and it allows Him to fill you with the peace that passes all understanding.

@SevenHunnid

Жыл бұрын

Im a regular hood dude doing food reviews on my KZread channel slime

Everything this man has said is true I'm 27 and I've been through break ups, disappointments, jail time, job loss, all kinds of things since 17... in ten years ive learned what most don't experience in their life but it's true to work on your self and get where you need to in life regardless if your spouse leaves and doesn't return... anyone who gives up on you during your worst times doesn't earn to be with you during your best ones 👍

@AllbusinessfitnessDFACBUFFALO

Жыл бұрын

That's not true those of you who give up on people in there worst times are showing self worth.

@topheavyteggy8232

Жыл бұрын

Amen

@TheCoreyDeal

Жыл бұрын

In all seriousness, how do you pronounce your name?

@theadeebster

Жыл бұрын

Just tried to pronounce your name and my furniture started floating

@Boomstick___

Жыл бұрын

His name is a dinosaur

This video really resonates with me. Got broken up with by a woman I could've swore was it. Just like you said, I found ways to make sure she checked every box. Not only that, but I ignored red flags along the way too. When she left, it shattered every illusion I've ever had about love. Rather than lashing out I looked inward. I came to terms with what really went on, who she really was, how I contributed to things going sideways, and the faulty lenses I looked at relationships through. I worked on myself, took up new hobbies and interests, got a better job, and came up with a more realistic way of looking at the world. I haven't found my partner yet, but I've never felt like more of a man.

@raphalmeida746

6 ай бұрын

I’m going through this rn man I’m 26, I wish I could get better like you did

@therandomdude7347

2 ай бұрын

@@raphalmeida746you will bratha I’m sure you’re feeling a bit better

@solidsnake0706

14 күн бұрын

Hey man im going through the same thing you are thank you for sharing. Did the pain ever come back and did you find that partner?

If every boy had a dad like you, we would have a much better world. Thanks for giving all this great wisdom and insight and for changing lots of lives. I know your podcast will be a hit!

My dad saw some horrific stuff in WWII and he and I were never very close or spoke freely to each other. It was amazing to hear you say it because to this day at age 60 the only piece of wisdom I can remember from my dad was "this too shall pass".

@synthozy

Жыл бұрын

I’m 25, about to turn 26 in 34 days, not much experienced in life but I can confirm (and agree) that your dad was 100% right. Everything we pass through may hurt when we are living that moment but it will get better.

@jaimhaas5170

Жыл бұрын

@@synthozy it's true. So many people don't think about this when they are experiencing the pain.

@DudeWatIsThis

Жыл бұрын

Amazing. "This, too, will pass." (including the pauses at the commas) is also my personal "mental catchphrase" for life as well. Whenever I'm in a horrible moment, I tell it to myself and it gives me a lot of strength. Likewise, when I'm in a great moment, I tell it to myself so I make sure I savor the happiness of that day.

@hhlagen

Жыл бұрын

Understood. My dad was in the European theater. His advice was “Never loose your sense of humor.” And “5 years from now those people won’t even remember you.” He was a good dad.

@kbmrigveda5419

Жыл бұрын

I thank you for your service. King Solomon had that maxim on his Ring. This Too Shall Pass. Stay strong.

Work on yourself. Work on your grind, whatever it might be. A mate will just show up. When a mate does show up, don't hold on too tightly. If you decide to try therapy, be very selective. Don't be afraid to move on & try someone else.

@carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi679

Жыл бұрын

now THIS is wisdom!

My 81 yr old husband passed away two weeks ago. He had been ill for years and suffered terribly. His passing was a blessing. I miss him, but i don't miss him being sick. We were married for 13 years. My life is now different and each day i know that i have things to do. I'm reinventing my life. Life goes on. I'm grateful for the time we had and the memories we made.

i recently lost my girl. We were together for 4.5 years. I've devasted and I cant stop things of things i could have changed, done better and regret. Regrets man.... biggest fucker out of them all.. So many sleepless nights but i am aware of the fact that our mind is our own worst enemy. I have faith that time will heal all wounds and i'll come back stronger. I hope the same for all of you.

@gjorgji9339

4 ай бұрын

How are you doing now brother

@superOify

Ай бұрын

Khs

@SpyOnDeck

8 күн бұрын

Hope you've been doing better brother

@ArunSingh-zt6bl

8 күн бұрын

Update: You slowly start to care less. It takes time but every day you care a little less everyday. Don't follow them, don't look at their social media and DO NOT message them lol Now I'm at the point where i think about it around 10% of what i used to. Women move on quicker for obvious reasons. guys have to find purposes. Find your purpose and control your mind. Its tough af but you'll look back and be proud of what you've learned. Be happy that this has happened and you learn how to deal with it. it could be worse when you have a wife & kids and you don't know how to deal with the emotional stress. This is better. It will get better, trust me

I’m 55 1/2. 21 was yesterday. That’s almost 35 yrs ago. In another 35 yrs, I’ll be over 90. Time truly does fly and it becomes very apparent as we age. My point: focus on helping others and not your own happiness. In the end, it will be the most fulfilling and will be something you can actually take with you when you die. The only things you can take with you are the things you gave away and the people you helped.

@MatheusRangel_

Жыл бұрын

God Bless, your advice was a confirmation for me! altruism is the key brother.

@JayN4GO

Жыл бұрын

I always remember the good men and the way they treated me. The way they took time for me. No amount of money could ever replace that. Bc now I want to be that guy

@rlovesyou

Жыл бұрын

Thanks man

I needed the heartbreak in my life. I could not be alone. My boyfriend left me for another woman, I was 25 (30 now and still single). It was absolute agony, after a 3 year relationship. I couldn’t eat and lost 20 pounds. Mind you, I started at 120. I fought like heck to get him back. Compared myself to the new girl 24/7. But, I wouldn’t change it. I’ve learned never to trust, to focus on yourself and your mental health, et cetera. Definitely 100% learn to be alone and take care of yourself only. I won’t ever let someone affect me like that ever again. Now I absolutely love being alone and can hardly believe it. Learn to love yourself and you don’t “need” that other person you thought you did.

@Rimrock300

Жыл бұрын

Are'nt you being a bit rough on yourself saying 'never ever again' because of a relationship going bad at age 25? Would understood better if someone being 40, going through 3 long term relations that end with a bad heart break, said 'okay, I'm done here'. Having in mind at 20-25 most people are still in development towards the 'grown up version' of themselves. 30 years is still very young, looking back on it later in life. Hey, many people can, and do, have a fine life as single, having good friends and hobbies and so on. But at your yong age, maybe have the door a little bit open for someone suddenly passing by, one just never know)

@IntrovertedLoLo

Жыл бұрын

@@Rimrock300Yes thank you. I do hope to meet someone of course, I just know 100% trust will never be possible for me again. Thanks! And i do not have any friends, but a sister I love dearly and many outdoor hobbies. THanks for writing.

@littlelily4

4 ай бұрын

I'm 30 too and single It's tough out there I was rejected a few weeks ago by a guy who I was convinced he liked me...anyway years go by and the window I have of finding the right guy and one day having a family gets smaller and smaller... it's rough but we will make it eventually Sending you love and light 💙 you are not alone

Facts. I lost a 7 year relationship. The night it ended I committed to being the man I was meant to be. Lost 45 pounds, got myself disciplined, got a small promotion at work, cleared some debt, and radically improved my diet. I am still working on myself to be the man that can earn the traditional woman I am after. I know my own worth and will not compromise. Better to be single than to settle for less. I am done, so done settling for less.

@jrmckim

3 ай бұрын

So you did this afterwards? Ill never understand why people wait to improve themselves. I have been married 16 years and together almost 18. We work hard to improve each other. We aren't the same people we were back then. We grew together. Sometimes you need patience. People are so quick to give up.

@shuvra-kumar-das

3 ай бұрын

@azzystyle94 how's it going now mate?

@DarkArcticTV

3 ай бұрын

​@jrmckim8980 Some people have wake up calls. Instead of being negative, applaud him.

@SpyOnDeck

8 күн бұрын

Just got out of a 7 year relationship myself. It's been really hard, but gotta keep moving forward and focus on ourselves

One of the best advice for heartbreak that I ever heard of was for a son who told his dad about how he got dumped and how bad it hurts and it was like "Son I know you're hurting now, and nothing will fix that quick. But I promise you, that in a few years, you'll look back on this moment and you'll be ashamed that you let someone who cares for you so little hurt you so bad." and it hit me, because at the end of the day, that father was so right.

@skrelijs

9 ай бұрын

Wise words. Thank you. :)

@felliesweetie

7 ай бұрын

Word

@tylerbutterfras3421

6 ай бұрын

True! It’s so hard to get through the process because that’s the painful journey. Every day bearing a pain while trying to live a normal life. But I’ve finally realized we are forged in fire, we have to accept and move on from our pain and painful experiences in order to grow into who were meant to be, and from what I’ve heard and seen that person who comes out the other side is almost always happier with life!

My mom who was 62 years old, she passed away unexpectedly in September after a 5 year struggle with cancer. I thought I knew what pain was, I had no idea.

@carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi679

Жыл бұрын

It took me 8 years to get over my mother's death. Now i can look back and smile, and say "thank you". I can laugh at my mistakes that she told me not to make. I can smell something, hear something, see something..she comes to mind. Sometimes i even hear her words coming out of my mouth. I would still cut off my left pinky for 5 more minutes with her. Time DOES heal heart wounds. Sometimes, though, time can only deaden the pain, but it will never heal. Be gentle with yourself on the second one.

@falafelkeeper

Жыл бұрын

I am so sorry for your loss 😔.

@bkr528

Жыл бұрын

Hey. I am so sorry for your loss.

@imissyoumom7644

Жыл бұрын

@@carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi679 what does be gentle with your self mean? You aren’t the first to advise that.

@carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi679

Жыл бұрын

@@imissyoumom7644 it means "don't beat yourself up when there is an error. Learn how to dispassionately look at it, see your errors, make corrections, and don't hate yourserlf."

When I stopped looking, surprisingly, things were there. Right in front of me... Stay in the present. You'll be surprised where you are when you do. You can't work on a better future if you don't know where you are today, for tomorrow. Great message Dwayne!

She left me 2 months ago, it was my fault and it’s still hurting, thanks for the kind words.

@JustinQuinn623

9 ай бұрын

It wasn't your fault!

Just when I was getting dragged back into a slump of self-pity for messing up a relationship with someone I didn't learn to appreciate until it was too late, this video gets uploaded. Can't thank you and your infinite wisdom enough, Mr. Noel.

@elisee9935

9 ай бұрын

Same here

@raphalmeida746

6 ай бұрын

Same here man, was going through depression didn’t have energy to be the man I needed for her and lost her, but realized she’s not as perfect as I thought because she left at my worst moment, and 3 years of “love” she moved within 3 months after the break up, with a guy she always talked about as a childhood friend she’d look at like a brother haha

@zayybrazy

4 ай бұрын

@@raphalmeida746same happened to me bro. im so lost:(

@hatesacred

2 ай бұрын

Literally in the same boat

I could write paragraphs right now (and have on previous videos). But I feel all I NEED to say, is thank you, Duane. You're a real stand up guy, and helping a lot of people.

@thomasboutin6045

Жыл бұрын

I agree with you ! 100%

Time doesn’t heal, you just get used to the pain, the pain stays forever.

@GLC-1979

Жыл бұрын

100%....but at least Uncle Dewayne tried here.

@Churlz

8 ай бұрын

Find professional help. You deserve to be happy.

@nicknuno9451

7 ай бұрын

Time definitely heals you just gotta focus and really just do you

@felliesweetie

7 ай бұрын

NO. Maybe if you choose not to heal. There is a guy who hurt me terribly a few years back. I got over him and the heartbreak to the point that I remember him maybe once in every 6 months.

@seamusmoran4776

3 ай бұрын

This is only true if you never learned how to move on.

Glad I came across this video. 7 year relationship ended on Sunday. The pain is pretty strong right now. I hope to look back at this comment a year from now, and be bigger better and stronger. I pray that for all of you struggling with loss and heartache right now, too 🙏

@nebraskagains967

Күн бұрын

I'm right next to you mate ❤ mine left of 10 years on Friday last week hope I see you back here happy to update us I'll do the same focuse on yourself we can do this ❤ I'm 27 years old

Thank you Dewayne. I have been struggling to get over a girlfriend, we’ve been separated 4 months and it’s been super hard to move on. Your words help a lot. This too shall pass. Take care.

@colmroche927

Жыл бұрын

Right in there with you brother

@Kaiser43

Жыл бұрын

same here, man. But stay strong, keep your head up and keep working on yourself. Happiness is made by you, not found. Best of luck soldier

@Hustler1_

11 ай бұрын

I’ll throw my hat in the ring also boys. Been on a break for 2 months that she wanted out of the blue. This hit just about as hard as my mom dying of cancer senior year of high school just in a different way.

@pscribs8391

2 ай бұрын

I am curious, how are you doing nowadays? Has the pain passed? It’s been 1 month since she left me.

"This, too, shall pass" has been powerful for me since I was a young teen first experiencing debilitating mental illness.

The hard truth is that for some, you may always love someone who abandons and rejects you or who dies - as you say cherish and move forward. It doesn’t always ease and I speak from experience. You learn to live with the pain.

Going through a breakup myself right now. From 20-23 I’d been with this girl and it hurts. I know I’ll be okay, but it’s so hard. It’s nice to know that I’m not the only one, because at times it does feel like that. But yeah, my heart hurts for now and it will for a little while after this.

i lost a child forty years ago. Just today I told someone about my lost and even after all these years tears came to my eyes. But the tears that are shead waters the memories that remain...

I enjoy your talks. I find it ironic that my wife and I are in the mist of a 1910 farmhouse renovation located on Dry Creek Road. Thank you for your sincerity. Every time I get frustrated by my wife, I am reminded that I too create frustration. More often than not, my wife puts up with a lot more from me than I do from her. I love her dearly for this quality and I am humbled by her tolerance.

At 11:20 Dwayne sums it up. “Yesterday’s gone. PURGE it and MOVE ON.” I’m going to listen to the rest of it anyway bc I really enjoy the man. But that’s all I needed to hear. Thank you, Dwayne.

Praying is everything, everyone will discover that in the end😌

Heartbreak is awful but never giving up. Time does heal all wounds.

I went through my first heartbreak two years ago and it still hurts. All you can do is keep living and not dwell on the pain. It gets easier slowly but surely

3 years ago, I lost 5 close friends. Last year almost to the day, I lost my father. It was devastating. People couldn't believe the next day I went to work. I simply said that life doesn't stop because someone else's did. Process your grief and keep moving. Life has to happen

The most important sentence here was "find peace and fulfillment in yourself"! As long as you're not happy and enjoying your own company, nobody on earth will fill this gap. The loss of loved ones is a different story. My father died 7 years ago, I still miss him every day. I just have to accept the fact that this is just the way nature goes, - we all have to leave some day. It hurts bad, but you have to go another day, another week, another month ... Some day you can look back with loving thoughts and the pain will be manageable. Thank you for the video!

I found the positive male role model life had thus far denied me here on KZread. Looking and sounding exactly as my imagination would of had him look and sound despite my being Scottish and never setting foot in the US 😂, my male role models were weak and abusive/toxic, the females just left ( can't really blame them ). Thanks for your advice, it really hits home 😊

@Alpinewild444

9 ай бұрын

You should come here, you’ll feel right at home with western culture and our Highland games/ Celtic festival next month! Here in northern Arizona there is quite a population of Scottish citizens and the games have been celebrated in Prescott for 17 years now😊

This type of content is why KZread is great

Thank you, I need to hear this. I refused to grieve and rushed into another relationship (desperately checking off all the boxes) and about 6 months later I got hit hard with my heartbreak and am now single again. I really need to fix this heart, and I guess focus on myself. I hate that I have this burning desire for a woman and family when clearly that’s just not how things are right now😕

I don’t believe in god.. But, when he said *”I pray for you”* I felt that !

For the record I think your probably way more qualified in the advice you give then alot of so called professionals with a degree. Your thoughtful perspective on life through experience is hard to come by and much appreciated ♥️

@bradfordcparker

Жыл бұрын

Spot on

@marab4391

Жыл бұрын

Yeah but believe a cowboy sitting in a rocking chair smoking a pipe way more then I do someone in an office with a clipboard and pen. He speaks in a more human relatable way from experience, not so clinical and text booky. I get what your saying for the record though 😉

@Danny328DT

Жыл бұрын

​@@marab4391 Cowboy guy tells you a story, sometimes from all that smoking, it actually makes sense.

Losing someone you love is the worst pain and it’s also where you learn the most about what matters in life, stay strong and remember that the best medicine is laughter☀️ peace and love!

It’s crazy to me that people have such a lack of self awareness that they expect you to be their personal therapist. You handled this with grace. Congrats on your podcast! I think it’s a great idea to help spread the wisdom you’ve so generously shared with us. Thank you.

I’m moving out of state in three months and randomly met a girl that I really thought could be the one. But I had to let her go because I’m only doing a disservice to both of us due to the expiration date set when I move across the country…

Hoping y’all will keep me in your prayers this week. My wife told me earlier this week she wants a divorce. I’m heartbroken. Thank you to this video.

@justinharrison5138

Жыл бұрын

Sorry brother.

@redeyes6882

Жыл бұрын

How’s it going bro. Hope you’re well

@jayplay3412

Жыл бұрын

Welcome to the club brother… it gets worse before it gets better.. hang in there cat u ain’t alone….

@kingjoseph5901

6 ай бұрын

How are you doing now?

@goodwrench838

6 ай бұрын

My life has totally changed in the last 5 months. It was hard but maybe the best learning experience I’ve ever had. I’m proud to say that I can sit here and tell the world that I am happy. I never thought I would ever be able to again. Keep your head up guys, put your self out there, take a risk, and don’t give up. There’s always hope even when you don’t see it.

This could not have come at a better time. Thank you for the wise words, you are always so eloquent and say exactly what I need to hear. Much love!

My Mom's dying of cancer and we're at the final few days. The sense of devastation is something I don't even know how to describe. I already feel the hole that is going to be left in my heart and in my soul. Two mini-strokes have made communicating with her so very sad and hard. I'm 46 years old and cannot believe the sense of devastation I am feeling. I remember my childhood with Mom like it was yesterday and it's crushing to think about life without her. I related to when you said honor them because that is what I am going to do. Thank you Dwayne.

@addisonpage1

2 ай бұрын

Hey man, I’m 22 and lost my mom last September, just know you ain’t alone brother

Never ask the Lord why he takes our loved ones, Just Thank him for the time he gave us with them...

@hhlagen

Жыл бұрын

Yep, you are correct. In time your genuine smile and love of life will return.

@warcrimeconnoisseur5238

4 ай бұрын

No, that´s a thing I will never forgive him, for putting me here with this misery, f him

"Stop looking" Amen! When I focus on being my true self... my best self... I am blessed with love from others. Whether it be friendship, family, neighbors, colleagues, a romantic partnership, whatever... these have been my most fulfilling blessings. ❤🙏❤ ~Carolyn (Texas gal)

I’ve been through some tough things but loosing a child is the worst by far. There are no words

I found out the other morning my girl of 8 years is cheating. My heart is shattered. I searched KZread to find something to help ease the pain and console me. I just found this video and it has helped me immensely. I know there is more to life, but at the moment it just feels empty.

@serbianwarpropaganda5533

10 ай бұрын

I hope your okay bro ❤

@JustinQuinn623

9 ай бұрын

I'm 26 and my first love of 9 years just dumped me for a homeless guy after insulting my career. Sometimes they just become terrible people. Just have standards and acknowledge red flags. You have to take care of yourself, not a stranger. First.

This channel and these kind of comments are just the medicine I need right now. I appreciate your advice Dwayne, I have the feeling that you are a great person that has a lot teach, I will listen to your advice. Thank you Dwayne ❤

Amen- Find peace first, peace that surpasses all understanding , that guards your heart and minds in Christ Jesus. Not easy, but it's the only way. I've been with my wife almost 40 years now, and still struggle at times. Don't give up- 🙏🙏

The only thing I have found from rushing into relationships looking for love is that falling for the first person who appears to love you and want to be with you can sometimes be because the other person has so many issues and red flags. Met a woman after my Mom had passed and she treated me well, but she would casually mention shooting her ex-husband and harming people who disagreed with her. No amount of wanting love could make her worth settling down with.

@MaricaIvica

Жыл бұрын

I did same after my died. I know for sure when a parent dies, we get confused. Your vision is blurry. So it is possible that you want love so bad . Because you do not want to be alone. You ignore the things you do not want. That what he means. When you want it to bad, you see you check what you want. But you ignore what you do not want.

Everything that can happen has a possibility of happening. With that said, let things be. If it’s meant to be then it’ll stay.

I love this, every bit of it. I've been recovering from a toxic relationship and motorcycle accident from 2 years ago. I loved her to death, but she was a prime example of someone who just didn't love herself and placed her self worth & validation onto relationship partners. Low self esteem, compared herself to others constantly (even me), physical abuse at one point, and much more. This eventually eroded my own self esteem and I was convinced I was the problem and that everything that happened was my fault. Been going to therapy since January, traveling more to places I've put off, picking up new hobbies, rediscovering my old hobbies, finding new friends who challenge me and don't fuel bad behaviors I picked up, and life has been improving for me since. It can be hard still on some days, but I've learned to recognize those negative thoughts and acknowledge them. I'm staying single to focus on myself again and finding that self love so I can be the best man for the next one.

This couldn't have come at a better time. Thank you for the advice. I haven't ever really been the religious sort, but I'll say a prayer for you.

This man could talk about anything and it just puts me in the most peaceful mood. I hope to be the type of man like this someday

thank you so much for this!

A lot of the times people can't handle a bad situation because they are wishing for a life with no problems when a life with no problems doesn't exist so when a bad problem does come along people are not equipped to handle the situation.

To me this is the most meaningful video you've ever made. It's as if you've answered the most pertinent question that has just been eating away at me. I hope that time does heal all wounds as I really can't seem to move no matter what I try. Thank you, Dewayne.

All I can say is well spoken and you said the right thing. It's not easy getting so many folk asking for help. Just keep on doing what your doing. :)

Fantastic stuff man, I had your videos started being recommended to me, and I’ve seen enough in a row by this point I’ll probably just be a regular viewer now, I appreciate your experience that you pass on, you’re a real bright fellow, metaphorically and literally, you got a great aura.

She left me late last week but when I hear this it described the way we met how we just found each other without hunting for it, this brought me peace knowing if it was meant to be she’ll come back around

@Ltchg

8 ай бұрын

I have the same hopes for my situation, souls that are meant to be always gravitate towards each other

Mr. Dwayne, what you do is better than any response you could provide in an email. I have not emailed you before, but the fact that you are praying for those of your following, myself included, who are struggling means more than you could know. I loved the three legged dog video, reminded me of stories my dad tells. This just ties it all together. I appreciate what you are doing and it’s helping a lot

That remote control analogy got me. Totally true. Coming out from another break-up. 41 years old, third girl that lived together with and couldn't make it work (3 years of relationship) so I'm not feeling great about myself honestly. Thanks for this kind of videos, you are literally helping folks from the other side of the World. I wish you all the best for you and your family.

God bless you and your kind heart, Sir - thank you for this nugget of advice

I'm 62. When I was 57, love happened. I had never in my imagination described or pictured this fine woman... but here she was. She was 11 years younger. Almost two years ago now, I lost here. We were in a motorcycle accident where her leg was severely injured. On the sixth week of her recovery, she succumbed to a blood clot. It was devastating. We had plans to be married and had a date picked out. Without disagreeing with anything you've said, I will confirm that time does make a difference... but it does not heal. It hardens, like a scar. Loss is like the crushing waves of a storm, they eventually subside. The waves become smaller and farther apart. You can breathe, exist, think and do again. But there will always be another wave. Thank you for what you do here.

Thank God Almighty your not one of the therapists we’re tired of them and politicians. God bless you and your wife 🙏🏻

As I have mentioned, I am a Pagan and a Witch. With that being said, I have had people want to pray for me. For me, it is positive energy on my behalf, and I am very grateful for it.

The podcast will be a strong move but I will say this format that you already do is gold. There's something real peaceful about tuning into these being a city slicker. This was a solid message delivered in such a humbled way. 🤙

*calmly tears apart that drawing she made of me*

Sometimes the right people meet at the wrong time.

I appreciate your channel so much. My best friend showed me your video about not feeling like I would ever have it all together. I’m going through a break up after a 10 year relationship. She is in fact the love of my life. So seeing you upload this today really seemed right. Thanks for all of your videos I watch them all the time and it has really been helpful in trying to better myself regardless of what I’m going through. I just turned 28 in December. I am in a bad place and don’t see myself getting out of it tomorrow but I’m starting to see myself get out of it one day. I’m an alcoholic who’s been trying to get sober since I was 15. I’m 5 days no drinking now and it’s such an achievement to do it without a rehab (I’ve been 8 times) I’m doing it because I genuinely want to get sober for the first time. I’m not doing it for my mother or my now ex. I’m doing it for me. Anyway I’m ranting now. Thanks a lot.

What a savior I really needed this just got out of a 3 almost 4 year relationship and things have been rough not as rough as it was when it initially happened but still it really does get hard at times when I get caught up in those bitter sweet memories but ultimately I hope I can move forward from this naturally because I find myself trying to do anything to numb the pain and I’m just trying to move on so hastily when I just need to go along with it.

if you need a therapist, go to one... but this man right here is trying his best to answer some questions that are worth answering. 1:13

Dewayne, as someone currently going through grad school for mental health counseling in pursuit of a career as an LPC, I cannot express to you how much I appreciate your approach. You are one of the most wise men I’ve ever listened to, and the fact that you know and speak to your limitations really shines to that wisdom.

Not sure the correct spelling of your name, D; but the genuine temperament of your words, thoughts and advice on life are sincere and pleasant to listen to; and the topics and things you cover are nice to hear, when there is so much brain rotting crap on this platform. You are certainly appreciated for your wisdom and insight on life; thank you!

@jillcampbell8019

Жыл бұрын

On his profile he spells his name DEWAYNE. Hope that helps. Have a good Sunday.

@HalfWarrior

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@@jillcampbell8019 Thank you Jill; I appreciate your help and have a good day too!

I appreciate this so much, acknowledging the potential dangers of giving advice & causing more harm! I am a licensed counselor and I don’t give advice. We are trained to be an objective helper but it’s so much about the client/counselor relationship that helps the individual find the answers within themselves because the majority of counseling happens outside of the session in daily life (when using coping skills in your daily life).

Hello, a girl here from India. Recently, found your videos and it really helps. Appreciating your way of putting these things in a simple, really helps a lot. Even, helps with loneliness. And you're like my metaphorical grandfather on KZread haha. Thank you so much. Sending lots of love and happiness.

Man these words and your even-headed way of saying everything is really more helpful than you could ever know. Thanks for putting these videos out.