You Messed Up…Now what?

What do we do when we’ve made a terrible decision in life? Can we come back from it? Is there hope for a better tomorrow?
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  • @Ty_Rides
    @Ty_Rides Жыл бұрын

    "Do not destroy yourself over a man that no longer exists" Thank you for this.

  • @hwanniggles187

    @hwanniggles187

    Жыл бұрын

    This could be taken out of context and sounds like we shouldnt grief.

  • @streetx1602

    @streetx1602

    Жыл бұрын

    @@hwanniggles187 no? it doesnt say that. it says dont ruin yourself because of what you cant control

  • @horniusmaximus7509

    @horniusmaximus7509

    Жыл бұрын

    @@hwanniggles187 don't take it out of context. It only gets worse if you don't move on.

  • @dougjochims7491

    @dougjochims7491

    Жыл бұрын

    Huge!

  • @JohnDoe-oj8bd

    @JohnDoe-oj8bd

    Жыл бұрын

    @@hwanniggles187 why would you take it out of context if the context is there?

  • @mikeknipp8045
    @mikeknipp8045 Жыл бұрын

    This man probably hurting so bad right now, put all his business aside to heal but still takes the time to send a message to help people who not only aren't going through as much as he is right now but also are going through things that are our own fault. Nothing but respect for you.

  • @Mrgolfboy24

    @Mrgolfboy24

    Жыл бұрын

    You know he makes money on this, right? lol

  • @erikw3105

    @erikw3105

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Mrgolfboy24so? He could've talked about his own pain. He didn't tho

  • @smilescries5325

    @smilescries5325

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Mrgolfboy24 you know this isn’t his only source of income right? Original comment still stands. He didn’t need to do this but he did, it’s respectable.

  • @mikeknipp8045

    @mikeknipp8045

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Mrgolfboy24 bahahahahaha fair point but I stand by what I said

  • @Mrgolfboy24

    @Mrgolfboy24

    Жыл бұрын

    @@mikeknipp8045 Hehe, fair enough :)

  • @theotherguy1323
    @theotherguy1323 Жыл бұрын

    Your dad raised a real man, I thank him for raising someone I respect more than the people I met in my personal life. Rest in peace.

  • @MMaggie3969

    @MMaggie3969

    2 ай бұрын

    Rip?

  • @cptwoody7103

    @cptwoody7103

    Ай бұрын

    Maybe he referred to his dad

  • @PD3a11
    @PD3a119 ай бұрын

    As a former police officer and a pastor…I can’t thank you enough for this. I messed up. Bad. Forgiving myself is a daily battle.

  • @andrewwabik5125

    @andrewwabik5125

    7 ай бұрын

    Everyone messes up. What you do after identifying it as a mess up is what defines you from that point on.

  • @brunogallego7507

    @brunogallego7507

    7 ай бұрын

    what did you do

  • @joesdocs

    @joesdocs

    6 ай бұрын

    @@brunogallego7507bro that’s what I want to know. Cause he was a pastor

  • @johnnygerard6605

    @johnnygerard6605

    6 ай бұрын

    Likewise but We can do all things thru Him who strengthens us✝️

  • @johnnygerard6605

    @johnnygerard6605

    6 ай бұрын

    @@joesdocsmaybe thats why he is aware of it. Being convicted of out past can be a good thing but like Duane says. Have the damm funeral and burry it. Thats what Im gonna do. Wanna know what I did? What dint I do….

  • @nicholaschib3068
    @nicholaschib3068 Жыл бұрын

    Hey Dewayne, I’m a 21 guy in college, feeling lost. Your videos have been a source of support, guidance, and assurance for me. Thank you for all that you do.

  • @xavlionheart

    @xavlionheart

    Жыл бұрын

    Lost how you've got your whole life ahead of you keep your chin up 😉

  • @rolersch7332

    @rolersch7332

    Жыл бұрын

    time to become a real man. Welcome zo the tribe my son

  • @John_Wood_

    @John_Wood_

    Жыл бұрын

    College is not for everyone - maybe try something more practical. Try various jobs if necessary, find out what you like.

  • @Clavitz1

    @Clavitz1

    Жыл бұрын

    go talk to the guidance counselor regarding school issues so you dont waste time getting something that isnt fitting for you

  • @gufbrindleback

    @gufbrindleback

    Жыл бұрын

    I have a feeling you're going to turn out just fine.

  • @KaiMarcad
    @KaiMarcad Жыл бұрын

    "Do not destroy yourself over a man that no longer exists". You always speak in a language that hits home to me. Thank you.

  • @dylantrent8248
    @dylantrent8248 Жыл бұрын

    This man must be protected at all costs.

  • @Robyamdam

    @Robyamdam

    Жыл бұрын

    this man does not need protection, this man provides his own protection

  • @deslacooda

    @deslacooda

    10 ай бұрын

    This man is trying to protect all of us.

  • @-Swamp_Donkey-

    @-Swamp_Donkey-

    4 ай бұрын

    Yes, Operation Human Shield is a GO

  • @HeartLockHex
    @HeartLockHex10 ай бұрын

    "Forgive yourself." The step I've always struggled so much with. Admitting when I'm wrong, owning it, accepting the consequences. Those are things I can do. But stopping my thoughts on it? Forgiving myself? I don't know how to do that. Thank you for even this little bit of thought and pressure to try and be better about that.

  • @dracodoitbest7890

    @dracodoitbest7890

    8 ай бұрын

    I have a hard time accepting consequences. Maybe because ive always tried talking my way out of punishments instead of dealing with the consequences of my actions.

  • @laurenbatson5918

    @laurenbatson5918

    5 ай бұрын

    You struggle with it because it isn't possible. You can't forgive yourself unless you think you're God. It isn't your job to forgive yourself. It's your job to confess, repent, and reconcile with the person you signed against. If it was you, then you reconcile with God. He will forgive you through Christ. You aren't supposed to forget. The memory keeps you from doing it again.

  • @DryCreekWranglerSchool

    @DryCreekWranglerSchool

    5 ай бұрын

    Your statement is not true. It doesn’t even make sense. If you can forgive someone else that did wrong, and not be God, how can you not forgive yourself the same way? Yes, God forgives us but we also forgive ourself.

  • @regi5436

    @regi5436

    4 ай бұрын

    ​for people confused, drycreekwrangler is referring to the reply made by ​@@laurenbatson5918pointing out that they're wrong for saying that one cannot forgive oneself, which i agree with. you can always forgive yourself.

  • @felipeveiga5807

    @felipeveiga5807

    2 ай бұрын

    I think when we messed up so bad, one of the consequences is live with it for the rest of our lives, wake up with it on our head and rest with it. Even though we know what we did wrong, we accept the consequences, we fight to change as people, and after all that the guilty will never leave us, and that guilty keep us moving away from the thinks we did, guilty is the worst feeling ever, but sometimes the hardest challenges shows us better

  • @greypoop1321
    @greypoop1321 Жыл бұрын

    Hey Dewayne, I'm a 16 year old porn addict and I've been that way ever since I was 8 years old. The last couple of months, I've been feeling kind of lost in life. Your videos really help me get into better mental shape, including this one. This video made me realise that I should own my mistake of letting myself get addicted and that I should own the mistake I made in order for me to be able to overcome this addiction. May your father rest easily, for he made you into a great man. I thank you from the bottom of my heart and I am forever grateful for the guidance you give to me.

  • @bradfordrobertw

    @bradfordrobertw

    Жыл бұрын

    I really pray that you can find help thru Jesus Christ..porn had me too for a long time as a grown man. It will mentally & physically affect you in a very bad way. Please resist at all times.

  • @Original-Juice

    @Original-Juice

    Жыл бұрын

    wow. that's impressive you're willing to admit that. Hopefully you got the help that you needed. I would imagine you are a leg up on your peers, you will all discover that alcohol and drugs will be around you soon if not already. If you ever start indulging in those things, remember what you've been through to fight addiction. it can hold true against other crutches. Good luck to you young man.

  • @alexbalint8718

    @alexbalint8718

    Жыл бұрын

    Much respect to you, I know that this is a hard one to acknowledge, even to oneself. I hope you will get new interests, something to pour yourself into, unapologetically. I was from 11 until 20, starting university. In many ways there's another world, that at least I can't blame myself through that for the things I fail, sometimes. But the hardest was to realize how I saw myself, and connect to something more important. You are well on your way, relax man.

  • @Original-Juice

    @Original-Juice

    Жыл бұрын

    @@alexbalint8718 well put. Hoping he reads these comments. All the best to you as well

  • @sampsqwantch4612

    @sampsqwantch4612

    Жыл бұрын

    wow i actually teared up a lil bit reading this cus ive had the same problem. it helps to know that someone else understands. stay strong my dude. thank you for sharing your experience 🤗

  • @colin641
    @colin641 Жыл бұрын

    Hey Dwayne, needed to hear this more than ever. I've been a alcoholic for 11 years. I ended up slipping in the kitchen and banged my head on the kitchens island and had a seizure. Woke up in the hospital and without hospital treatment my mortality was around 47%. The stories I heard while I was blacked out are just horrible. What it did to my friends and family made me decide to get help. I'm about almost 2 months sober and thankfully my job has been supporting me. I had to stop! It definitely woke my butt up. Everything you mentioned hit close to home and it made me realize even before watching this video a lot of things need to change for the better. One step at a time. Thank you sir

  • @johnwatson9518

    @johnwatson9518

    Жыл бұрын

    Get yourself a sponsor & work The Steps like your life depended on it. Because it does.

  • @carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi679

    @carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi679

    Жыл бұрын

    well done sir

  • @tu1469

    @tu1469

    Жыл бұрын

    Damn same thing happened to me in front of my dad, I slipped and banged my ear on a kitchen chair, split my ear but my dad saw the whole thing happen, looked at me like in a moron and went to bed..

  • @colin641

    @colin641

    Жыл бұрын

    @t u sorry man. I feel ya. My incident was in front of both my parents. Horrible

  • @Panchoproductions2069

    @Panchoproductions2069

    Жыл бұрын

    hope things get better

  • @onebridge7231
    @onebridge72312 ай бұрын

    There is no age limits to this advice. I’m 51 and it is exactly what I needed to hear today.

  • @keldrickpalmer9698

    @keldrickpalmer9698

    14 күн бұрын

    45 and same here. May God bless us all . Thanks for your knowledge and kind words . Very helpful

  • @yes3174
    @yes31745 ай бұрын

    I’m a 16 year old with dyslexia and dyscalculia I lost my mom to suicide and my step dad left I’m living with my grandparents we’re struggling financially I had dropped out of school cause of stress and they’re was just too much for me to handle I was mentally drained but I’m getting right with god spending more time with family and even tho I’m 2 grades behind im gonna finish school

  • @demli615

    @demli615

    4 ай бұрын

    and i thought my life was hard

  • @demli615

    @demli615

    4 ай бұрын

    Proud of you brother i dont even know how are you still continuing everything in yourlife you are strong brother ❤

  • @xirtam2669

    @xirtam2669

    2 ай бұрын

    I believe in you dude. Keep going

  • @miagrigore03

    @miagrigore03

    18 күн бұрын

    Man, that is the proof we all need to continue even when we are at the verge of despair. May God guide and bless you, kiddo! ❤ keep seeking the light, wonderful one!

  • @TheCarExp
    @TheCarExp Жыл бұрын

    You're like a father some of us never had. Thank you for all you do. Bless you!

  • @Pozrfb

    @Pozrfb

    11 ай бұрын

    Yeah, he is. Love him.

  • @steveg7242

    @steveg7242

    8 ай бұрын

    Yes I concur. I never had a father that taught me anything or to even talk to. So I thank you sir so much.

  • @cursedliquid2250

    @cursedliquid2250

    4 ай бұрын

    Couldn't agree more; my father stopped visiting 3 years ago, and I missed out on a lot of things I should've learned, but this man has helped me. I still have a long way to go.

  • @ShortyySpice
    @ShortyySpice7 ай бұрын

    I recently went through a breakup. I messed up, I hurt the person I love more than anything. It scares me to think I lost the love of my life.

  • @Francis-of8cw

    @Francis-of8cw

    6 ай бұрын

    Same here...

  • @user-hx1lp6fc9r

    @user-hx1lp6fc9r

    6 ай бұрын

    @@Francis-of8cw Hey, mind sharing your story?

  • @nataliagalindo4931

    @nataliagalindo4931

    5 ай бұрын

    me too... I would do anything to have him back and show that I'd never hurt him ever again. He was sent to me straight from heaven and I can only hope I'm given one last chance to put things right. It really is the scariest, most anxious, heart-breaking feeling.

  • @Zayuhhhhh

    @Zayuhhhhh

    4 ай бұрын

    same

  • @ShortyySpice

    @ShortyySpice

    4 ай бұрын

    @Sykodelik64 I'm so sorry to hear that. I understand the pain of hurting someone you love, it's been 5 months since my breakup and while I have my bad days still where I don't even want to get out of bed it does get better even if at a very slow pace. I still want to change and be a better and more kind person. I know it's hard because some days all you can do is feel guilty and feel like youre a terrible and awful person. Maybe that person will never come back to me to give me a second chance and that's the consequences of my actions I have to bear. Regardless I have to change and believe that life gets better and that I can be better. Anyways sorry for blabbing but I hope that life will be better for you, stay strong.

  • @carloscamarena6050
    @carloscamarena6050 Жыл бұрын

    I’ve never had a male figure in my life. I’ve always had to figure stuff out on my own. These videos tug at my heart in ways I can’t describe. Thank you from the bottom of my heart

  • @tnyswrld3671

    @tnyswrld3671

    Жыл бұрын

    nah fr

  • @Jeebus-un6zz

    @Jeebus-un6zz

    10 ай бұрын

    I want so badly to be a man who can have these kinds of talks with the young men around me so they don't have to live such a confused life like I have. It takes time though. You really gotta work at being humble and knowing yourself to be able to speak like this and not have it sound like you're talking out your ass.

  • @danielschannel701

    @danielschannel701

    10 ай бұрын

    @@Jeebus-un6zz I've heard that being a man of your word makes a big difference in personal development.

  • @danielschannel701

    @danielschannel701

    10 ай бұрын

    Sometimes I find guys (Like this one) to listen to. One guy's channel I've been listening to months ago collects scrap metal and I found his voice and inner dialog to be of comfort and wisdom.

  • @Davidtheservant1997

    @Davidtheservant1997

    9 ай бұрын

    same bro same. always feeling not man enough. i got you

  • @sherrypeterson2315
    @sherrypeterson2315 Жыл бұрын

    I’m a parent that has lost a child. Forgiving yourself is one of the most difficult things to do. Even if you had nothing to do with what happened to your child, you feel responsible. It gets easier over time to continue, but your never free from the pain that creeps up on birthdays or other dates significant to your loss. You learn to live with it.

  • @MisfitBiscuit218

    @MisfitBiscuit218

    Жыл бұрын

    I'm sorry for your loss. I've also lost my child this passed year. I understand that feeling of not being able to forgive yourself despite not being at fault. I know that when something so large effects you the only thing that you can do is make room for it, and I hope you've reached that point. I hope I do too. Us mommas are strong and I hope you never forget that. Again, my endless condolences to you and yours. Stay strong.

  • @splash-qi5kn

    @splash-qi5kn

    5 ай бұрын

    I pray your days are full of joy and grace

  • @raybaker8726
    @raybaker8726 Жыл бұрын

    Sorry to hear about your Dad DeWayne. Take your time. My biggest mess up in my 58 years of life was getting caught shoplifting at 17. I went to face my Father to own up to what I did. I got the worst punishment anyone could get. Dad said "I am disappointed in you". That has stuck with me all my life. Those 5 words from my Father changed my life.

  • @chrisbajema8002

    @chrisbajema8002

    Жыл бұрын

    Those five words left a lasting impression on my life aswell….followed by that dreaded nothing being said any further

  • @wyatt2ss809

    @wyatt2ss809

    Жыл бұрын

    Same thing happened to me at 17. One of the greatest things to ever happen to me was my dad letting me know I was a loser at that point in my life

  • @Nathan7041

    @Nathan7041

    Жыл бұрын

    Sounds like you broke the first three rules of shoplifting. They call it petty theft, but you got a life lesson out of it so I'd say you more than broke even. Be good or be good at it.

  • @uncleNito
    @uncleNito Жыл бұрын

    You helped me sir. I'm going through a very tough time constantly battling bad and dark thoughts about myself and others. It's a cycle of anger, sadness and loneliness catalyzed by a breakup and heartbreak. I messed up, big time. And now i am paying for it by being reminded of how unacceptable i've always been, and how alone i really am especially when relying on my family. You are a light in the dark for me, and one of the only people who can help me cry and work through what i'm feeling. I hope you and your family are OK and my condolences to you regarding your father. He has raised a true man with a heart so big it can touch someone like me, across the planet. Much love, and will keep you in my prayers.

  • @adrianwhite358

    @adrianwhite358

    Жыл бұрын

    Keep the chin up 😉. I've been true it all.

  • @Last_Chance.

    @Last_Chance.

    Жыл бұрын

    God bless you

  • @ervinwengerd4730

    @ervinwengerd4730

    Жыл бұрын

    Like the man said,if you mess up,,,,own it,,(and it sounds like you did),, now forgive yourself ,,,, don't be the man today that you were yesterday!😉 Keep your chin up man and know your not alone.🙏

  • @josephr.8344

    @josephr.8344

    Жыл бұрын

    Sounds like you're on the right path

  • @adrianwhite358

    @adrianwhite358

    Жыл бұрын

    It will be tough. When I said I went through hell. Believe me. People are scared of me..yet my 8 yr old son throughs his arms around me. Never quit.

  • @Dyle_
    @Dyle_ Жыл бұрын

    Man, this feels exactly like sitting down and having a talk about life with my grandpa before he passed. Thank you for letting me relive this feeling.

  • @ColdPizzuh
    @ColdPizzuh Жыл бұрын

    Hi Dwayne. Sorry for your father. My grandma/mom is in the hospital for heart failure. I’m 27. There is some mistakes I have made that I haven’t moved past. This video was so spot on, and as a female, thank you. We have to face the consequences of the problems we caused. “I did it. I am sorry.” Thank you for your videos, and I send you hugs and comfort.

  • @zanewalsh1812

    @zanewalsh1812

    Жыл бұрын

    Hugs to both a y'all 🕊️

  • @ColdPizzuh

    @ColdPizzuh

    Жыл бұрын

    @@zanewalsh1812 thank you!!

  • @nikitakobzar
    @nikitakobzar Жыл бұрын

    Watching this from Russia. Kinda tough times we have here. These videos make me feel alive. Thank you, grandpa Keep being strong ,everybody, we all will make it.

  • @daveharringbone8512

    @daveharringbone8512

    Жыл бұрын

    That sucks man. Hope u can survive

  • @RustyStator

    @RustyStator

    Жыл бұрын

    Wishing you well from the States, shame how the world works. Stay safe my friend

  • @Odur0

    @Odur0

    Жыл бұрын

    we in this together bro, dw, stay strong

  • @jaimhaas5170

    @jaimhaas5170

    Жыл бұрын

    I have visited your country only once. I wish you well. People are good but evil exists in the lies of certain neocons in govt. The good news is that more and more of us are starting to figure out the mainstream media as well as many politicians can never be trusted in the USA and other western nations.

  • @noneofyourbiz6885

    @noneofyourbiz6885

    Жыл бұрын

    When Sam Elliott in “ we where soldiers “ said Any of you boys call me grandpa I’ll kill you 😂

  • @ODUBlue
    @ODUBlue Жыл бұрын

    It's been feeling like it's too late for me on several things in my life. Thanks Dewayne. Sincere condolences for your dad's passing.

  • @shanenelms9740

    @shanenelms9740

    Жыл бұрын

    It’s never to late. I’ve been through some very rough storms in my life as well. But since I gave my life over to Jesus Christ my life totally changed for the better. There’s nothing better than having peace joy and happiness now. Not that I still go through storms but I have Jesus to help me through those storms these storms are defeated because I have Jesus on my side guiding me through each and every one of them. I’ll be praying for you

  • @buzas69

    @buzas69

    Жыл бұрын

    Its newer to late if you are still breathing. One choice at the time

  • @TheSket

    @TheSket

    Жыл бұрын

    It might be. It might not be. You’ll never know if you don’t go for it

  • @Ic.roseee
    @Ic.roseee8 ай бұрын

    I got 3Fs and fucked up my GPA. I still don’t know what I want to do with my life and I’m 21. I’m not school smart or street smart. I don’t have any skills or motivation. I’m just exhausted and trying to survive this mind. I feel like I went the wrong way and I’m hoping I can find a way to feel better soon.

  • @Mythic141

    @Mythic141

    7 ай бұрын

    My friend, you are a smart, hard working human being and we all fail, its a pert of the process, take a step back and see what you can improve on even if it means that you need to get help from someone, keep pushing, keep working and pray, everything is gonna be alright ok?, take care!!

  • @imjohnny08musicstation93

    @imjohnny08musicstation93

    6 ай бұрын

    This earth is a laboratory some good some bad. Forgive yourself.

  • @Ic.roseee

    @Ic.roseee

    4 ай бұрын

    @@JustMe-ki3ce what service?

  • @JustMe-ki3ce

    @JustMe-ki3ce

    4 ай бұрын

    @@Ic.roseee the military

  • @duran_doran

    @duran_doran

    2 ай бұрын

    im in a similar position, ive been trying to pick up the pieces and ive been doing better but still stumbling every now and then. i dont know exactly your poisition or why youre failing but for me it was lack of motivation constantly going back and forth from staying on top of my schoolwork and studying and overall just trying to put my best effort forward to just doing the absolute bare minimum to get by because it feels like whats the use ive already dug this far into the pit im stuck in theres no way out. some of the things i learned that helped was to stop waiting for things to get better life is inherently suffering and if you just aim to hold out and survive long enough for a miracle itll never happen. all you can really do is focus on doing as much as possible to make life better and easier for you tomorrow. to succeed and continue. and instead of looking at mistakes as just a sign of your own failure as a person its just a mistake yes you mightve messed up or some other factors involved but that doesnt mean youre doomed to be that specific way, all that youre doing is focusing on the one failure out of all the other successes which makes you feel like shit and even less motivated to really try. hope theres something useful in here for you and that your situation gets better.

  • @kccts44
    @kccts448 ай бұрын

    My father just passed, I’m sitting in his home which I guess is technically mine now. It’s hard not thinking about a lifetime of regret growing up. Thanks for the video and some insight.

  • @brookejodyhayes1360

    @brookejodyhayes1360

    8 ай бұрын

    I lost my mom at 14 and my dad is all I have left. I’m praying for you 🙏 may God bless you & your family abundantly my friend ✌️ 🖤

  • @aneshaw6964
    @aneshaw6964 Жыл бұрын

    Hey DeWayne. I lost my father in October at the age of 22. He was 61. It's the hardest thing to lose a parent. Listening to you is like listening to him. Safe, secure, solid and protected, and at ease with himself and with the world. He was a great man and a great dad. The love never dies ❤

  • @seenonyt2210

    @seenonyt2210

    Жыл бұрын

    🙏

  • @dustychayeh4878

    @dustychayeh4878

    Жыл бұрын

    Stay strong. Be encouraged

  • @michaelshawusa1

    @michaelshawusa1

    Жыл бұрын

    Mine died when I was 15. Im 33 now. If I saw him face to face right now, Id beat the shit out of him. His death caused my family so much pain. I hate him for it.

  • @liftoeslife537
    @liftoeslife5373 ай бұрын

    i messed up by being impulsive, by acting on my feelings and being in a relationship (my first) which hurt me mentally. I have broke up couple months back but that person wasn't letting me go, so I had to make the rude decision today to cut them off permanently from every place, seems like a small story, but for me this has given me a lot of lessons. i need to be working on my traumas and needless to say, not get into relationships, even platonic, so impulsively, i need to understand my own self better, so I will be working on that now. thank you for thus video sir!

  • @aleksandrtest8431
    @aleksandrtest84319 ай бұрын

    I broke a girls heart for being stupid and regretting it every day, I broke a promise about drinking and now I’m getting out of my house and I know I fell heartbroken and unwanted but I know now I need to become better thank you Dwayne

  • @braxtonagee412
    @braxtonagee412 Жыл бұрын

    I needed to hear this. I did something phenomeonally stupid while under the influence of drugs. Its eating at me. Ive been struggling with addiction for over a decade and finally got clean over a year ago. Then I relapsed and did something i would have never, ever done in my sober mind. I know the only way I can potentially get past it is to get and stay sober. I have to do this. Become a better man. It's not the end of the world. Thank you, sir. I needed this. Thank you.

  • @imover9999
    @imover9999 Жыл бұрын

    Really needed to hear this, Dewayne. I really messed up bad about 3 months ago. I apologized profusely for it, I owned it from the start, I was honest from the start... But I still can't forgive myself and that's the hardest part. Hurting someone that means the world to you is the absolute worst feeling in the world. There is redemption for sinners, even the worst of us, but damn it's hard to let go of that regret and grief. Knowing you've hurt one of the sweetest people in the world with your own ignorance and sin. I'll try to learn to forgive myself. Thank you for this video and God bless you and yours. And my condolences for your loss.

  • @johncorley8930

    @johncorley8930

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Dewayne. I have owned it and forgiven myself was the hardest part. I'm living my life for the lord now and happy as I've ever been. Im truly sorry for your loss.

  • @imover9999

    @imover9999

    Жыл бұрын

    @@AdolfHitler-wo1my It's a bit personal. But I broke the trust of someone I love and it caused irreconcilable damage to the relationship. Satan whispers sweet sounding words into your ear if you let him, and it's best to flee from the temptations that will later cause us much grief and suffering.

  • @nightowl6811

    @nightowl6811

    10 ай бұрын

    ​@@imover9999my advice is let her go, and break up cuz it's not going to work anymore, move on. I'm 51 and done it before

  • @imover9999

    @imover9999

    10 ай бұрын

    @@nightowl6811 I appreciate the wisdom and advice. Honestly you're probably right. As painful as it is. Gotta focus on God and bettering myself and someone else will come into my life. Thank you for the harsh truth. Can only come from someone else who's been through it.

  • @janegray7881
    @janegray7881 Жыл бұрын

    Very sorry for your loss. Your videos (and Momma's) have been a tremendous source of inspiration and comfort for me in recent months. I concur with all of the commenters saying, please take your time to heal and get caught up with your awesome projects, and we'll be patiently waiting for whatever you have coming. Thank you kindly for taking the time to share your Godly wisdom and love with the world. I see what you're doing as a ministry and I pray that it will continue to be as fruitful as ever for you guys.

  • @cobymcclain2039
    @cobymcclain2039 Жыл бұрын

    I’m 21 years old struggling with alcoholism the past several weekends I have gotten drunk and acted a fool and thinking abt it has made me very ashamed. This video really just lifted me up and I appreciate you a lot. God bless you.

  • @lucapoquet8828

    @lucapoquet8828

    Жыл бұрын

    my brother you are blessed, don't quit we support what you do

  • @LuisHernandez-rn7uw

    @LuisHernandez-rn7uw

    10 ай бұрын

    Man youre going to realize that alcohol is a poison. Ive almost drank myself to death a few times in the past couple of years. Ive woken up in my own piss and just fallen back asleep. Stay away from Porn and alcohol and you will be way better off.

  • @nightowl6811

    @nightowl6811

    10 ай бұрын

    I'm 50 and did lots of stupid things and lost lots of friends family girlfriends friends etc etc. Believe me it was really bad but now I get to start fresh new beginning at 50. New friends new business partners, new girlfriends! Nobody is innocent not even our parents

  • @fordakacar

    @fordakacar

    8 ай бұрын

    the hardest part is thinking “how am i even gonna have fun if i can’t drink” i’m still trying to get past this

  • @robertvilain1920
    @robertvilain1920 Жыл бұрын

    How’s it going DeWayne! Just want to say you gave me the courage to pursue the ranching life and eventually I will work towards becoming a wrangler. I retired from truck driving and I’m currently earning my keep working as a ranch hand. It’s been tough getting used to physical work again but it feels good at the end of the day. Thank you!

  • @heyron3554
    @heyron3554 Жыл бұрын

    I’m terribly sorry to hear of your father, Dewayne. You take all the time you need. You don’t have to explain yourself too swiftly. Take care of yourself!

  • @PaulBrizlinger
    @PaulBrizlinger5 ай бұрын

    I looked in the mirror and asked myself, Why are you angry all the time?

  • @archer7500

    @archer7500

    2 ай бұрын

    i'm so happy that you did that. it's hell of realization. i mean just admitting your deep feelings about yourself and your view of the world is one of the hardest things to do, especially when you've been in this state for a long time

  • @JesusisTheWay70x7
    @JesusisTheWay70x75 ай бұрын

    I’m a woman from uk 32, and I rely on this dude for life advice. Thank you. Thought u might be interested to know some of the weird corners of your demographic. I recently just managed to blow up my whole life during a massive depression and lose a ten year friendship. Had just finally started (one taster appointment) treatment for mental health but now I have no one in my life. It seems early and chronic life long trauma may have caused a personality disorder and other stuff that I didn’t even know I had, if I do (undiagnosed). I also live in the middle of nowhere with no car or money so your attitude towards country life really helps me accept my unusual situation and ur wisdom appearing today thanks to the algorithm, may have just saved my life today. Thank u.

  • @peachpie3597

    @peachpie3597

    Ай бұрын

    Also a woman here, 24 years old, and it always seems like I find his videos when I need them most

  • @CassFilms
    @CassFilms Жыл бұрын

    Hi Dewayne, Just wanted to let you know that your videos and podcasts have really helped me through some dark times recently. I’ve been watching for a little over a year now and have started eating healthier, exercising regularly, reading, breaking bad habits, attending church, and seeking mental health. You remind me of my grandpa who lived in Montana that I didn’t get to spend much time with. Thanks for giving young men advice and the truth that we need to hear. Keep up the good work!

  • @fernandoprado686
    @fernandoprado686 Жыл бұрын

    I don't comment very often, no matter the video nor the channel, but in this occasion I felt the need of giving you my deepest condolences. Very sorry for your loss Dwayne. Greetings from Spain.

  • @dustinpeking2977
    @dustinpeking297710 ай бұрын

    I've been living in financial anguish, health issues and a lot insecurities and regrets at age 25. I'm starting a new job soon and I'm working on turning it around, and hopefully doing so without missing too many bills. God is good to me and I can't stay worried for too long without realizing that it's just a season and it's not my lot in life. Thank you for these talks, Dewayne. And thank you to the rest of you in these comments who share your stories.

  • @kevinmulvey8759

    @kevinmulvey8759

    9 ай бұрын

    Dustin your so guy I hope ya can shake the funk off ..I know it’s not easy … I’m 66 and having start life over again .. with out anger !! But I’ve got a little hope today !!

  • @jasonclever4592

    @jasonclever4592

    6 ай бұрын

    Start bodybuilding

  • @pro4xtrdpro376

    @pro4xtrdpro376

    3 ай бұрын

    Look up dr Garrett smith the nutrition detective.

  • @Ryan-co9xc
    @Ryan-co9xcАй бұрын

    I’m 26 years old and in grad school. I’ve been negligent towards an assignment, and as a result I’m probably going to fail a class. I’m having a meeting with some of my professors about it this week. I’ve been sick to my stomach and full of anxiety, but your videos have been giving me the courage to face my mistake with integrity. Thank you

  • @kosuzumotoori

    @kosuzumotoori

    Ай бұрын

    That's really impressive nonetheless. Good luck with your exams

  • @grutt82
    @grutt82 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you I needed this, my drinking and drug use cost me my marriage and most of my friends. I've been trying to get better and today I've been 4 months sober 🙏

  • @blackwoodslawn

    @blackwoodslawn

    Жыл бұрын

    Congrats!!! Stick with the winners.

  • @alexmurphy5289

    @alexmurphy5289

    Ай бұрын

    One day at a time brother, stay strong.

  • @marknewton6984

    @marknewton6984

    6 күн бұрын

    Same here. We can do it.😮

  • @peacefuljalapeno
    @peacefuljalapeno Жыл бұрын

    Sorry to hear about your dad Dewayne . He left a hell of a legacy behind in you . Your his will of fire. And you’ve helped me find my will of fire . I grew up without my pops in the picture and I never had any good male role models in my life . until I stumbled onto your channel . Some of your advice has put 20 years ahead of the curb of the guys around me and I don’t gate keep your content i put ‘em on .and I’m only 23 but I feel like I’ve been taught a lot from you.Thanks for being such a father figure to everyone who didn’t have one . Thank you ,Appreciate you , and love you sending prayers yours and mommas way ❤

  • @daveharringbone8512

    @daveharringbone8512

    Жыл бұрын

    Chariot of fire

  • @RoanokeGaming
    @RoanokeGaming Жыл бұрын

    As always fantastic and grounded advice for a younger generation that needs it. My condolences on your father as well

  • @kirkprospector4958
    @kirkprospector4958 Жыл бұрын

    My father commit suicide in 2020 when I was twenty five years old. I’m glad you got thirty more years of your father’s wisdom and friendship. I know you know he’s resting easy now, but that doesn’t make it any easier necessarily. Appreciate your channel and you sharing this part of your life with us.

  • @mycool_p6483

    @mycool_p6483

    10 ай бұрын

    I’m sorry man

  • @BigOlBoof

    @BigOlBoof

    8 ай бұрын

    Lost my father the same way in June last year when I was 22 years old, I know how you feel.

  • @PrairieChickenCO
    @PrairieChickenCO Жыл бұрын

    I'm so sorry for your loss. The man he raised tells us a lot about who your father was as a person. Now you can keep his spirit alive by spreading the wisdom he gave to you. You are in my thoughts and prayers as is your family.

  • @jt9989
    @jt9989 Жыл бұрын

    I just stumbled on this channel, this is the first video I've seen. I needed this SO badly today, what a gift from the universe 😭

  • @timw7514
    @timw7514Ай бұрын

    Fighting against my past and feeling the pain it inflicted will forge my new character.

  • @mel.xnx._
    @mel.xnx._ Жыл бұрын

    I love these videos of yours, so inspirational. Thank you for sharing, sending much love 💜

  • @tenlmao
    @tenlmao Жыл бұрын

    You always upload at the perfect time Mr. Dewayne. Sorry to hear about your father, may he Rest in Power.

  • @JondeksFin
    @JondeksFin10 ай бұрын

    Thank you. This saved me and really cleared my thoughts. Messed up. Admitted and after that she left me. I have been recovering since, it's been 6 months. Hardest times of my life so far. Forgiving myself has been the hardest part. I'm taking it one day at a time. Trying to be a better man. Thanks again. Greetings from Finland.

  • @brentreimer6411

    @brentreimer6411

    6 ай бұрын

    And how are you doing now? It's been about 10 months at this point, yes? I hope you're healing, and I hope that you get a second chance with her one day.

  • @negrosuave9315
    @negrosuave931510 ай бұрын

    Sorry for your loss and thank you for the message!

  • @DarkRevan36
    @DarkRevan36 Жыл бұрын

    I’m grateful I found your channel. I fell harder than I ever imagined and I needed this video and a few others you’ve posted. Thank you for these types of videos 🙏🏼

  • @Coxeyjohn
    @Coxeyjohn Жыл бұрын

    Needed to hear this, So sorry to hear about your dad Dewayne praying for you and your family in this time of mourning. My wife and I listen in regularly and your and mamas words have been a been a huge encouragement to our relationship to others and to our marriage. Going through the same thing with you my wife’s younger brother just unexpectedly passed on the 22nd and we buried him on the 27th. Poor kid was only 23. I hate it happened but I’m glad to have grounded was in the words that God gives and the words of encouragement that you speak on. Much love brother, Johnny & Lauren

  • @u.e.s.2982
    @u.e.s.2982 Жыл бұрын

    This video seemed to come up at the best time for me. I’m struggling, losing myself. Wondering where to start or restart. And this has given me some foundation to grip onto. From a man that’s falling down, thank you sir! Thank you!

  • @stariytwitch3960

    @stariytwitch3960

    Жыл бұрын

    Same here

  • @BottlegardenUK

    @BottlegardenUK

    Жыл бұрын

    Start from where you are. Make your bed, tidy your room and take aim at something good in your life. You can be better. Life can be better. This too shall pass. God loves you.

  • @maddawgzzzz

    @maddawgzzzz

    5 ай бұрын

    Sameeee bro

  • @bear-wolfandmscathy626
    @bear-wolfandmscathy626 Жыл бұрын

    So sorry for the loss of your father. Will send up prayers for you and your family. Love the message of this video.

  • @onlythereal6067
    @onlythereal60677 ай бұрын

    Needed this, thanks for all the words of wisdom on every video.

  • @mtd1089
    @mtd1089 Жыл бұрын

    So sorry for your loss, Dwayne. My condolences to you and your family

  • @lewa444141
    @lewa444141 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this video Sir, I didn't think I needed to hear it quite as much as I ended up actually needing to hear it. Sorry for your loss brother.

  • @christiansteven9930
    @christiansteven9930 Жыл бұрын

    Sorry for your loss brother. Thank you for the wisdom

  • @aliciakorn
    @aliciakorn6 ай бұрын

    Just found this channel and really needed this video. Thank you so much for putting out the content that you do.

  • @Britishwolf89
    @Britishwolf899 ай бұрын

    You always inspire me to be a better man with your wisdom and i always feel better after watching your videos. This one arrived on my feed just at the right moment as if it was some kind of intervention. Thank you for everything you do, you're very much loved and appreciated by myself and so many others around the world.

  • @JMerwede
    @JMerwede Жыл бұрын

    So very sorry to hear about your family’s loss Dwayne. I am sure that your father’s heart was overfilled with pride and joy at seeing the truly extraordinary man that you have become. (Couldn’t imagine losing my Dad and doubt I would be as strong as you under similar circumstances.)

  • @classicrocklover5615
    @classicrocklover5615 Жыл бұрын

    Great pep talk and life lessons shared. Thank you!

  • @user-lz7lr1xi9r
    @user-lz7lr1xi9r5 ай бұрын

    You have really helped me out! Thank you soo much

  • @odinsonthered9226
    @odinsonthered9226 Жыл бұрын

    I really needed this right now… I think I ruined my marriage. My wife and I are talking about it later today. She’s my wife, my best friend, my everything and I hurt her. I hope we can settle it and move forward, but I’ll find out soon.. wish us luck everyone…

  • @dragonblaze3419

    @dragonblaze3419

    Жыл бұрын

    Hope everything went well with the talk man ❤️💪

  • @ggbooliano

    @ggbooliano

    Жыл бұрын

    Hey man. I lost my girl of 5+ years last month because of hurtful things I’ve done in the distant past along with my refusal to change and improve my communication skills and listening. it’s been a lot of guilt, remorse, and sadness on my end. I feel as if I lost my soulmate and my best friend as well. I hope that conversation went well with your wife. Praying you guys figure it out

  • @tatoriety

    @tatoriety

    Жыл бұрын

    @@ggbooliano I'm on the same wave as you my friend, i'm praying for yous all! just know this isn't the end brothers, what's meant to be will be. GodBless

  • @anthonyrivera7915

    @anthonyrivera7915

    9 ай бұрын

    Hope everything went well brother.

  • @snhn_20

    @snhn_20

    8 ай бұрын

    ​@@ggboolianoI'm 21, My wrong actions ended my 8 year relationship and I've broken her trust many times. I feel like a piece of shit i wanna be better so i can take her back someday..

  • @hamiltonhomestead9650
    @hamiltonhomestead9650 Жыл бұрын

    Dewayne, our condolences to you and all your family on the loss of your father. Great message today.

  • @Humanumikey
    @Humanumikey11 ай бұрын

    “Apologize to yourself” Damnit Dwayne you got me tearing up. I was an awful drunk and “apologized” so many times. But I had to get sober.. not just booze but my anger issues to. Taken me a long long time to apologize to myself.. it’s a good feeling I won’t lie. These days I really cherish every moment I have with my loved especially, especially my wife and daughter. Thanks again sir.

  • @ogearbox6132
    @ogearbox61328 ай бұрын

    Wow, just wow DeWayne! This video is hands down the best and most important one I’ve yet to watch. I am 69 yrs old and I gotta say this one is a huge nugget of truth surrounded by pearls of lost wisdom. From my perspective I can peer back at my life and see the mess ups. While I owned up to them (as you said you have to own them to go forward) quite a few I never forgave myself for. So even I at my age gained wisdom. I lost my 84 yr old dad 9 yrs ago, he passed peacefully in my house surrounded by his family. It was my first death of immediate family and quite surreal. I’m an old Marine and now and then I still cry at the fond memories. DeWayne I hope you continue with these vids, you have no idea how many young, rudderless men are getting helped by your easy delivery of wisdom. I can see where you could eventually be called America’s father, if ever there was a time for you it is NOW sir!

  • @lukebyrne141
    @lukebyrne1418 ай бұрын

    Thank you for your words, I really needed to hear them and you’re helping me get through the days and nights right now.

  • @briankraklau2432
    @briankraklau24329 ай бұрын

    Let me start of with my condolences. I lost someone close to me recently as well. Saying goodbye was very hard. Now, on the topic, thank you so much for this video. I needed to hear this. I have made a ton of mistakes and have been struggling with them. The past 10 years (I'll be 33 in December) has been full of very terrible choices. Deliberate or not. Up until about 6 years ago, I made absolutely no effort to "man up" to any of it. I deliberately chose to be that person even if it meant hurting others and myself. Finally, in the last 5 years, I have made it an every day goal to improve and try to move on from all of it. This past week was hard. Losing a loved one reopened some stuff and get me dwelling on it all. I am extremely grateful to have stumbled upon this video because I needed to hear that talk. For what it's worth, I will continue to keep pushing and keep working on making things right because I still have a long road to go before things are right again. Thank you.

  • @kruppert54
    @kruppert54 Жыл бұрын

    I extend my condolences to you and your family Dewayne. I went through the same scenario with my Dad several years ago. They were trying days all by themselves so cut yourself a little slack and let the grieving process also heal this loss instead of burying it in busyness. I’ll be praying for you brother. This video is a good and an introspective one, as usual!

  • @kraven8864
    @kraven8864 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this. I’m sorry for your dad and much love to you and yours.

  • @shlxng1787
    @shlxng178711 ай бұрын

    Sorry for your father🙏 And thank you for your speaking from out of your heart❤ Very helpful

  • @jeters9620
    @jeters9620 Жыл бұрын

    As someone who’s recently lost his grandfather in the late summer of 2022 I went through the same situation and I love to share story’s and the tales of my grandpa to everyone I know and just as he use to tell tales and share his life’s stories with everyone he met, to me it’s not focusing on them being gone it’s remembering the life they lived and all the memories of things you learned and loved about that person. God bless

  • @soraomega3088
    @soraomega308810 ай бұрын

    Just lost my dad on the fourth and did something regrettable this helped a lot thank you for your words

  • @Poppomatic64
    @Poppomatic64 Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for posting this. So sorry for your loss… same thing happened to my father… ❤️❤️ it was years ago. Time is our friend with these kinds of problems. Oh, and yes I’ve also messed up a bunch, really needed this ahaha

  • @WhiteHartKane
    @WhiteHartKane Жыл бұрын

    Thank you! I really needed this video where I’m at in my life right now.

  • @franciscotrevino1412
    @franciscotrevino1412 Жыл бұрын

    Your advice eases my struggles with self-forgiveness. Thank you.

  • @natew5593
    @natew5593 Жыл бұрын

    My deepest condolences for your father, sir, he sounds like a great man. Also I’m really enjoying your videos. Even though we may come down differently on politics or religion, I always see your good intentions behind your messages and I get a lot out of listening to these talks. I’m in my 30’s and feel like I’m finally starting to put the pieces of my life together in a way that will last. Thanks for making positive content like this. You’re like that cool and wise uncle a lot of people never had 😂

  • @haliec4713
    @haliec4713 Жыл бұрын

    Just found your channel and I like your tone of voice it’s very soothing and your wisdom comforting. My mother died in 2018 and only today I had a real moment of heartbreak of missing her. It hasn’t happened for awhile. I send you so many hugs in your loss. After my mother passed I chose a really bad relationship, I wanted to escape my grief so I jumped straight in. I was weak, numbed by grief and when I became stronger I left him a year later. He was a very abusive man. That’s a huge mistake that nearly cost me my life, I trying to come to terms with that awful decision, your words have helped me feel stronger and I hope everyone’s words here will help you feel stronger at this time.

  • @mikenowitzki6732
    @mikenowitzki67327 ай бұрын

    Glad to have found this Chanel and thank you for making this great content.

  • @CiciHylo
    @CiciHylo Жыл бұрын

    Very sorry for your loss Dwayne. No need to explain. Thank you for your grace and empathy❤️

  • @JoshuaMedina181
    @JoshuaMedina181 Жыл бұрын

    My sincere condolences Dwayne, my prayers go out to you and your family. Thank you for being the light in the world for so many people, you don’t know just how much of an impact you made. You’re a blessing to so many struggling individuals, including myself. Thank you!

  • @joaogalrito7091
    @joaogalrito70918 ай бұрын

    Man this video hits me so hard, it´s like every point making is relatable almos as it was being said directly towards me. Thank you a lot OG bless you and your family sir 🙌🕊🕊

  • @thecapone45
    @thecapone45 Жыл бұрын

    Very good video sir. I am so sorry for your loss, your father and mother raised a good man. Thanks for sharing that with us and still teaching us about being a better person.

  • @derrick6848
    @derrick6848 Жыл бұрын

    Dewayne…I needed this today. Thank you. My condolences for the lost of your father. You and your family will be in my prayers. Thank you for the encouraging words. This video was right on time.

  • @85gjw
    @85gjw Жыл бұрын

    Just wanted to say thank you from Canada. Condolences to you and your family. Some of your father's wisdom passed along to you and reached us. 🙌

  • @lukaspettersson7648
    @lukaspettersson76487 ай бұрын

    I needed this today, i remembered this video and came back when i needed it. THANK YOU

  • @Gump1224
    @Gump1224 Жыл бұрын

    Very fortunate to have your videos come into my life at this time. I've had many struggles in my life lately, many changes come my way and with them came a great deal of pain, it helps to have a different perspective in times like these. Much Love Dwane

  • @Satsui_No_Hado
    @Satsui_No_Hado Жыл бұрын

    Needed this , thank you Dwane 🙏 may your father rest in peace 🕊️

  • @letsgobrandon5334
    @letsgobrandon53349 ай бұрын

    My mistake was 27 years ago. Its caused me to be excluded from many things i regret not being able to participate in. I regret this daily. I'm finally going to the state to ask for forgiveness to allow me to feel whole again. Ive felt like less of a man and havent been able to forgive myself. I needed to hear this today and will try to move forward with forgiveness.

  • @siskfjkfkk
    @siskfjkfkk Жыл бұрын

    Thank you! I needed this. 🙏🏻

  • @johndubeansky6547
    @johndubeansky654711 ай бұрын

    Sorry for your loss Sir! My dad and younger sister passed and it is a process. I appreciate your videos & wisdom!

  • @thomasthenextwalt2739
    @thomasthenextwalt27399 ай бұрын

    Hey man! I really screwed up today but watching this vid made me feel so much better

  • @jonschlegel2961
    @jonschlegel2961 Жыл бұрын

    RIP to your father. This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear today. Love from CA

  • @CbanTheMan
    @CbanTheMan Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this message. The video I really needed tonight.

  • @mojojojo560
    @mojojojo560 Жыл бұрын

    Sorry for your loss, best wishes to you and your family.

  • @ksami107
    @ksami1075 ай бұрын

    Thank you sir for the way you’re helping. Love from india 🇮🇳

  • @shortty05
    @shortty05 Жыл бұрын

    Dwayne, I had a very distant father growing up and he basically didn’t teach me shit. Thanks for these words every man needs to hear at some point. Very helpful, thanks again

  • @Dylan-cu4ty
    @Dylan-cu4ty3 ай бұрын

    Got my first DWI, Im terrified, ashamed, and cant even begin to forgive myself. It was a terrible mistake and I thank God no one was hurt. I really needed this, thank you.

  • @kylegreen6545
    @kylegreen6545 Жыл бұрын

    I need this. Seriously this was very helpful and I can't thank you enough.