3:12 : self-preservation 16:27 : social 28:22 : sexual

@1er1s

3 жыл бұрын

thank you sm!

@marcelltoth710

3 жыл бұрын

whats the order of maturity for these types? Bascialy which on is the most and secondly most mature?

@abdallahamin4253

3 жыл бұрын

What a king

@vampireracheal8131

2 жыл бұрын

@@marcelltoth710 why do you need to know that lmfaoo

"The detailer...not like they'll clean your car..." They might.

@ORfMT

3 жыл бұрын

So funny. If needed then for sure they would!

The way you described the self-preservation subtype is PERFECT for me. That. That's me. To a T. In fact, my initial reaction to the 1 typing was that I'm not super critical of others. Sure, I know how they can improve, and if they want me to tell them, I will. But most of the time, who am I to correct them? I have so many of my own faults. And my inner critic hurts me enough-I don't want to unleash it on others, not without some softening. So yes, I come across as warm, gentle, friendly. I don't put "1w9" in my Twitter bio next to "INTJ" because I don't want people to worry about me judging them. I'm an editor. When people hear that, they worry about their typos and grammar mistakes. I tell them, "Bud, if you aren't paying me to correct you, I don't care. I'm busy trying to convince myself my own typos don't invalidate me as an editor." I do, however, get peeved when the people running things have set things up so I have a harder time doing my job right. That's when I need to either leave or try to help them change.

Fascinating how each enneagram has a counter type.

Type 1 is so lucky they always have the first vid in every series -type 5

@twlahue

4 жыл бұрын

Sorry about that... on the other hand, they get more of my mistakes. They get the "trial run" so to speak.

@PeacepuppysRawesome

4 жыл бұрын

Haha, I’m a type 9

@StubbornMomDotCom

3 жыл бұрын

Or last...

@SuperRobotRambo

3 жыл бұрын

Dr. Tom LaHue terrible idea to do. Giving us ones the least perfected version 🤣

@annaarmstrong4723

3 жыл бұрын

@@SuperRobotRambo Equally terrible idea to leave us I-don't-really-matter 9s til last the whole time! 😅 He should definitely try reversing the order from time to time

Sx/sp 1w2-the only reason I feel like I’m a sx/Sp versus sp/sx is because I really resonate with being able to feel and express my anger-mainly towards big picture corruption and evil. I’ll say I feel the need to perfect myself on a very deep level, im always trying to improve and kill my ego. But not in the typical 1 ways. I’m not overly clean/tidy, I occasionally let loose (definitely feel like I “earned it”-hilarious you said that). I’m a nurse and I want the absolute BEST for my patients and my strong 2 wing comes out-but when it comes to charting I’ll cut corners, because in the bigger picture I view it as irrelevant. I’d say a big thing for sexual 1’s to do is always be honest with yourself and others about your shortcomings (or unhealthy habits even).

As a self preservation one with a 2 wing. I think the anger is expressed as resentment and bitterness that I am driven incessantly to improve myself to be loved when others don't have to do all of the gym time the spiritual time the perfecting to be loved - of course this is an illusion that was learned in childhood and it's our lesson in life to switch from this perception to grace, forgiveness and metcy

This explanation is SOOOO me! My Enneagram Test result is a WINNING LOTTO TICKET! It forced me to laugh at myself, cry about the pain I've caused so many different, but good people. Thanks for sharing.

I just found your channel and I am hooked! I’m a self preservation 1 and your description was spot on. My “anger” comes out as frustration and I often cry when I feel like my family is being criticized or that others are harsh since I spend my whole life trying to forgive others and myself for being so imperfect 😜

This was painful yet accurate. Thank you Dr. LaHue. I'm a 1w2 sp/sx and I needed to hear your wisdom. On occasion, I can get into a giant web of self doubt and this helped me re-center myself. I very easily pick up on my own mistakes, try to correct them, and then try to correct the correction. I've been going to my stress arrow a lot lately, very critical of how slow I was to make a change in my life and envious when I see others handling a similar life decision faster. I've self criticized that I shouldn't be feeling like that, but then at times I've gotten mad that I was experiencing the envy at all and feeling like something larger might need fixing. Your segment about "being at war with yourself" really helped me acknowledge this. I'll work to be better and try to simply acknowledge what I'm feeling without trying to fix it.

Okay 40 mins TOTALLY works! Keep up the great content! We all have pretty trying times ahead and I think a lot of people will be seeking that inner clarity to quell the gnawing sensation that the uncertainty unfortunately provides. The guidance of the Enneagram is more helpful now than ever. Bless!

@logandedloff862

4 жыл бұрын

The instinctual variants are one of the most interesting and underrepresented aspects of the enneagram. I really appreciate the effort on your part.

@twlahue

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you! Will do!

What a piece of gold among the whole internet and KZread :D thank you for making all of this, I'm a 1 and the amount of time and work you've already dedicated for EVERY of the types is just unspoken. Also, as a 1, I really somehow relate to and like your delivery (finding the laid-backness of your style as something to grow up to from my current attitude, just along the arrow :D). I have found all of your videos on 1s quite precious as in them you share these or those character pieces (quite relatable ones) that you can't get from reading 1 book or having watched just 1 video and I think it's really cool. Wish you all the best on your way regardless of where it will bring you, me and I'm sure many others will be grateful to you for what we already have here (and greetings from Russia, of course :) Off the rest and on topic of the video: just if you, by chance, had a watch of True Detective back in 2013, did you type the main character somehow? I know it may sound as a stupid and childlike question but I really wonder if the guy could fit into social 1 aerospace, like, you see, many people that I checked online have typed him as a 5. But why? Right because of this coolness and detachment in the way what he looks and acts like. But there's so much workaholicism and righteousness in his lifestyle that I have doubts of the above-mentioned opinion. If you haven't watched this, it's no problem, the upper part of my comment is of much greater importance :D

Thank you! Most descriptions insist that ones are critical of others. 90 percent of my attention to the details and values is focused on myself not others. It is self preservation, etc. Angry at self when I don’t get it right but cut myself more breaks than I used to. Great and helpful video.

I've always thought Hermione was one of the most relatable characters ever written. I love how you explained this. It helped me understand myself better. Thank you!!!

I love this! I am a one that loves to improve myself. I can see myself in all of what you talked about. Thank you so much for your insights and taking the time to educate and challenge myself to improve. Thank you!

I can't even fold his laundry; hes that particular :-O

@blank_notyou

2 жыл бұрын

I can't even hang up my own shirts I'm that particular haha

@blank_notyou

2 жыл бұрын

More accurately, I procrastinate because of the emotional energy it requires for me to do it "right"

You are loved because you are a child of God! I am a Type 1 with a 2 wing - and trying to teach and still learn. Thanks for your insight, Dr LaHue.

Transmitter is a good way to call the 1 to 1.

I've never had such a visceral reaction to a video. This is so spot-on that it's actually scary. I could not figure out the type until just recently and it was all because of all of these issues that plague the self-preservation 1. But this is so real and so helpful because now I feel like I have somehow gained some sort of control of myself back and I can start to work and grow and heal in a positive way and give myself some Grace for the first time in a really long time.

I remember the 80s counter 1s. Lol. We have to remember we are all God's children and he loves us all the same. No matter what we accomplish or fail at. Great information. Thank you for sharing.

I live with a wonderful 1 who keeps this 9-1 motivated! This is spot on. Thanks for the video 👍

This explains... a lot... Wow. I loved your explanations! Even though I leaned more towards type One, I couldn't figure out whether I was a type 1w9 or 5w6 since I felt anxiety was more relatable than anger. However, the self-preservation One you described hit home in every way possible! Thank you so much for your video. I couldn't have asked for a better one!

@speedy_comet

Жыл бұрын

Same I was mistyped as 5w6 but I'm actually 1w9 self preservation..

@donnathedead7554

2 ай бұрын

Another enneagram expert, Abby says 1w9 are often mistyped as 5s. I am a 5 and thought my coworker was another 5 but, I now think he's a 1w9. I'm still not sure though. How did you figure it out?

Thank you for this! I really identified with the 1st subtype. Explains a lot.

I had a bit of an identity crisis when I was learning about Enneagram because the free tests said I was a 1. All the paid for tests said I was a 6 with 1 coming in fourth. I was stressed because I had to get it right ;) as a self-preservation 1 this is so helpful to hear. Thank you!

I relate to the having to be the “good” kid. I didn’t take on other people’s responcibilites, they took care of their own for the most part, but I definitely tried to always be the good kid, the nice kid, tried to do the right thing, etc.

Great explanation, so insightful. Please feel free to use the word “sexual” and not be “controlled” by those that want you to use “one-on-one”. It can make it confusing to the worldwide audience that you are reaching out to!! Keep up the great work!!

@BSingh-on4qr

3 жыл бұрын

He avoids using it only because he might get demonetised be KZread

I love your videos!!! You explain things very well. Thank you so much for sharing these! “the one-on-one....one.” haha

The sp 1 description reminded me of the protagonist of Demon Slayer, Tanjiro. He was the oldest brother of a family of six, and he took to become the breadwinner once his father passed away, as his duty. When his family got slaughtered in his absence by a demon, he took becoming a demon slayer as his life duty, as a way to focus his anger to a greater goal. He's very warm and friendly and worries about doing what's right and safe at all times. In one instance he gets stabbed by a person and he refuses to die because it'd make the attacker a murderer. 1s are usually thought of as boring and stuck up, but they can absolutely be forces to be reckoned with. They are amazing in fiction.

love your videos, hope you keep making them

"There's your smudgeness." Perfect 😂

@twlahue

Ай бұрын

Right

intimate instead of one-on-one

@anthonywritesfantasy

11 ай бұрын

I like that!

Thanks for this video! Very interesting, I’m a 1w2. I think I have been both self preservation and social depending on the situation. When I managed a Starbucks I was definitely a social 1. But I think more day to day life at home I’m a self preservation 1. 🧐

@twlahue

4 жыл бұрын

You got this!

@abracadabra2395

4 жыл бұрын

Hey! I could say all these same things about myself (except replace Starbucks with my own leadership experiences and professional roles). How neat!

P.S. the one on one 1 is interesting. I was just telling my husband I don’t think a 1 is capable of doing drugs, excessively drinking, etc. but this shows me they are! My inner critic is so strong I’ve never been able to rationalize or convince myself to do something I inherently believe to be bad. If you ever have questions about what it’s like to have an inner critic I’d be happy to give you some insight!

@twlahue

4 жыл бұрын

Ha ha...1 is my place of unhealth... I can only imagine.

When you started describing the social 1, I laughed out loud. That is my husband exactly. I'm a self pres 4 and we've learned over the years to be an awesome team. Thanks so much for your videos, I love them!

@juliowhatever

2 жыл бұрын

I'm a social 1 and my wife is a Self preservation 4! I am happy to know this combination can be a great team. Because I sometimes feel we are so different we may never be able to really support each other fully...

@jessmckale2794

2 жыл бұрын

@@juliowhatever It took a long time (several years) of figuring each other out. It's not easy that's for sure, even now sometimes! I had to learn to communicate better instead of assuming my husband would be able to tell how I was feeling, because he's not the most in touch with emotions in general. lol He has gotten better the longer we've been married though. :) Can't stress open communication enough from both spouses. It can definitely work, I have faith in you guys!

Dr. Tom, I totally appreciate your tendency to -usually right at the end of each video - move to the spiritual, loving components at the very roots of the enneagram. 🙏

@twlahue

Ай бұрын

Thanks... Thanks for sharing that.

Re-listening. Thanks for the trigger warning on "owning the truth" I've (never!) been told that... 🤭😉 But the dishwasher thing hit me right in my gut...

I think your examples are all of unhealthy subtypes. I think I'm healthy and would love to see a healthy trait video. There are definately strengths to each type and the enneagram can be very encouraging and uplifting depending on how it is explained and portrayed. My studies of the enneagram have showed me some areas of weakness, but has helped me mostly. It has encouraged me, helped me not feel alone, helped me not judge myself so harshly unto discouragement and despair, has helped me see I was fearfully and wonderfully created and made by God and have a purpose! When we focus on unhealthy only it exacerbates the negative and in my humble opinion makes people see us (unfairly) in a negative light. But we are all created to be how we are. We just need to be healthy versions of ourselves to make that impact and be happy and satisfied in who we are.

@twlahue

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, thank you for this. I will work on that.

@julianbailot1

2 жыл бұрын

It is correct to focus on showing the unhealthy (negative side) of the personality because the most significant blockage to self-growth is a denial of one's ego (harmful qualities to oneself and others).

@mindyvalle6595

2 жыл бұрын

If I see all the positive things I have I may look like a type 7. was so hard for me to find me in the enneagram. I thought I was a 7, then a type 5.. and now watching your videos and some others talking about the "negative part" I've realized I could be a type 1. cause now I can see how strict I'm with my kids sometimes with my husband too trying to show them how to do everything good, and how I put my energy on organizing, cleaning, etc..

@petergomberg6472

Жыл бұрын

@@twlahue what you said in the video is accurate. The Enneagram shows us where we are broken. That's the point! We need more of this information. Don't worry about trying to please the egos of those who are offended by not getting their ego stroked. Keep up the good work👍

@Sensei_Sean

Жыл бұрын

@@petergomberg6472 focusing on the strengths is not about ego stroking, its about efficiency & empowerment. You sound like such a narcissist, not everything revolves around ego, grow up.

I wish I'd heard all this before I tried to live my life. I might have seen myself better and been more able to hold back the worst aspects. Thank you.

Another awesome video - thank you so much for taking time out of your day to make these! And I wanted to say, I'm a huge Harry Potter fan and learning about the types of the different characters from the books really helps me understand the Enneagram better. Maybe someday you could make a video dedicated to the Harry Potter series and the Enneagram - analyzing the different characters in more detail. Just a suggestion, though. I would love to watch that! Take care and greetings from Germany!

@e.B.FanFic

4 жыл бұрын

Ahahaah I would totally watch it!!

@twlahue

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, that is a great idea. Maybe do the same thing with other epic movies...Great idea. Thanks.

Oh wow! I thought I was a so 5w4 from a personality test. But the more I learn about type 1 the more it fits. Thank you.

@donnathedead7554

2 ай бұрын

Another enneagram expert, Abby says 1w9 are often mistyped as 5s. I am a 5 and thought my coworker was another 5 but, I now think he's a 1w9. He's very detail oriented, like all 1s. 5s are generally not so great with details, but see patterns.

Thanks for your hard work ❤️

@twlahue

4 жыл бұрын

My pleasure 😊

I'm a type 1 and I love your videos!

@twlahue

4 жыл бұрын

I am so glad. Thanks.

I’m a Type 9 but this video proves to me that I’m definitely a wing 1.

I'm all three...in that order. I know I'm not perfect, and that makes me feel vulnerable. I know you aren't perfect and the fact that you don't seem to place any importance on doing "it" the right way (my way) makes me really anxious (now we're both vulnerable) and then, to top it off, the entire world does "it" wrong and doesn't care leaves the entire world vulnerable... The good news is that after all these years I see my craziness and just roll my eyes at myself. Except when it comes to the dishwasher. 🤣

In many circles of enneagram communities they no longer look at wings and only look to sub-types. I have found the sub-types to be very helpful. Please keep in mind that if YOU are all of the subtypes, however one manifest most in your life and one "fades out of veiw". So for example I am a Social 8 w/ a self preservation that fades out of view. This means that if they were stacked on tip would be Social- One-to-One- Self Preservation. Thanks Tom for your insight.

I think a good character for the "Counter Type 1" is Negan, from The Walking Dead

Diane Nguyen from BoJack Horseman is the perfect example of one on one subtype one, and she's a pretty likable person in my opinion :)

25:45 Sounds a lot like me 😂😂 That is what is in mind when I do some work Infront of my brother and sister maybe my mother too lol

I really enjoyed hearing about the SP 1! I’m an SP 4w5, but my SP 1w9 cousin and my 7w8 dad are my all time favorite humans. (Not sure of dad’s subtype.)

My roommate is a social 1 and im a sexual 4 (two angry people). He's always pushing his ideals on me and im always wanting to do things my way. He sees an objective ideal, i see subjectivity. Hes not adaptable and im always adapting and open. Thanks for your work

@karissahammond4587

3 жыл бұрын

Oh my gosh that dynamic is familiar to me. I got along a lot better with that roommate once we no longer lived together 😂. I'm a sp 4, but she brought out that buried sx instinct.

Looks like I'm an sp1. When you explained 1's in your other videos, it really resonated with me. I started to remember how I used to feel, before I started acting more like a 7, and I almost went hog wild doing some of the stuff I used to. But I reconnected with the feeling I'm learning to feel always, to see myself how Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ see me, and I realized that I don't need to be "perfect" in the ways I was thinking for God to be happy with me. Which is good, because I was starting to list Christmas candle scents and thinking I should put up a new candle each day for all of December so my future children can feel the beautiful reminiscence you get from nice smells that remind you of holidays. And trying to perfectly implement my idea of an ideal holiday would be overwhelming for me. Not to mention the other stuff I was starting to go hog wild about. Definitely had the sp1 feeling when I did that. Memories of high school and middle school came back quickly with that. Man, this explains so much!

As a type 1 ENFJ-A , I approve...weir's how u mention anger n compared it to fire considering ima Leo Aka a fire sign. N boy when I'm mad. It's like a solar flare 😂

I am so disgusted right now by my type 1 mother. She has caused so much hurt in my older sister and me.

I know a One who does a bit of all of them. Probably sp/sx though, which doesn't seem possible to go together, but it's like the pride compensates for the shame, you know? Which is something we are all prone to. Just as a note, people usually see themselves in a combination of the subtypes. I think God has used me and others to show him grace and help him understand he is loved in spite of his flaws. That's pretty much the gospel, right? ;) Looking forward to more videos in this series. :)

I think I’m 1w9, definitely identify with the sx 1 a little too much... I used to mistype as 8. Maybe not as unhealthy as the description you provided, but still somewhat similar. The thing that’s tripping me up though, is the social preservation, because I’m still very perfectionistic with myself like most 1s are, however, my ideals probably come above that perfectionism... Thanks for the video!

@ayasafiya

Жыл бұрын

So curious, what made you come to realize you’re a sexual 1 rather than an 8? By description they sound so similar.

Claude Frollo from Disney's Hunchback of Noterdam is who came to mind on the last subtype

Omg i'm literally sx1. Thanks for the vid!

To 1s (like me) it is not about tried and true, or old or new. It is the one that aligns to the vision of perfection I have. If the old things are more aligned with my vision (Like old videogames having both local and online multiplayer), then I don't care about the trends. But there is also a chance something new becomes the new perfect (Like the Nintendo Switch hybrid console!).

Hi! I watched your video and I think your description of sp 1 and so 1 mentality is pretty accurate, but because I'm sx 1 and I heard your description, I just want to mention that I think sx 1 which is also the countertype of 1s have a different meaning in the sense that the energy is different. I'm not sure about other sx 1s but I'm a very right and wrong person and I like to say that I do try to follow what I preach although too often I succumb to my desires. However I do have a very strong sense of right and wrong and I'm not relaxed on my principles and values and I don't think it's ok to just ‘appear' as good because that's wrong (to me) or care less about right and wrong. In addition, I don't relate strongly to the sense of entitlement although I'll admit that I do have it when I'm telling people off. Maybe it's because I'm a healthier 1 :p Also, I seldom rationalise my bad behaviour because it's obvious to myself it's bad and I acknowledge that although I will never admit it, but I would not rationalise it and say it's fine or it's good. I don't know if I would call myself self-critical, but I do reflect and plan very often and have a good self-awareness that I can list all my good and bad points. I always question myself out loud when I had a bad argument with my family, always analysing and wondering if I did wrong in doing this or saying this. Don't get me wrong, I have no intention on condemning you. I really like your video because in there are very few videos that talk in-depth about the mentality of the enneagram subtypes and I feel that yours is fairly accurate. I just want to let you know and honestly I don't know how right my description of sx 1s are like, maybe it's just that I'm more different or healthy? Maybe it can be because I'm sx/sp 1? Anyway, thanks so much for this video! I anticipate to hear more from you :D

@twlahue

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for the insight. I am not sure I really understand the sx1 all that well. thanks.

The blame part got me tearing up😭😭😭

@donnathedead7554

2 ай бұрын

Why?

Thank you roasting my SO1 friend.

Josh Duggar comes to mind with the one to one 1

The character Ive seen for Type one that I think is very fitting is Batman ^_^

Stephan molyneux social 1 for sure the best phylosophical youtube channel

@twlahue

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks.

I believe a good character for the sx 1 is Strickland from the Shape of Water. People seem to believe he's an 8, though I'm fairly certain he's a sx 1--

Lawmaker ... Harvey Dent aka Two-Face in Batman The Animated Series was a 1w2 so/sp

Just realized my mom is a self-pres 1 and I'm a social 1, I feel so bad for my dad right now hahah

I think its because I'm a type 9 that I can only watch this thinking: omg you are gonna be in big problems when all the ones in your life watch this video and come to you saying I'm not like that!!! You are hurting my feelings! And I don't think I deserve that!!!

Would “do as I say, not as I do” apply to the 1:1 subtype?

I thought I was a self-preservation 1, but then you explained the social 1. You know I might bounce back and forth. Maybe I'm a schizo-social-selfprezONE. I might be the 'Obi-Wan Kenobi' ONE.

I don't know where the titles come from, but could "interpersonal" work as a substitute for "sexual" or "one-on-one"?

I always feel like i could be better and it never ends... 😥😓

Wow. Everything falls in place. It's suuuper hard to admid but I guess I need to consider being a 1:1 one... 😟 I was very convinced that I was an 8... For months. That counter-one really hid behind the mask of an 8. I don't like this. Any advice how to grow for a counter one?

Awesome content! 👍👍 Could you give me an example of self-preservation 1w9 vs self-preservation 1w2?

@twlahue

4 жыл бұрын

Great suggestion! I'd have to think about that...

@abstract-thoughts

3 жыл бұрын

Great question. I identify as a 1w9 sp. But I have doubts whether I'm really 1w2.

I thought the reformer tag went with the social subtype, not the sexual? Maybe it's all in the how of the act of reforming with the two subtypes.

Having a type 1 so/sx or even sx/so father (he's quite balanced) when you're a sp 5 it's not nice. I don't know about any other ones, but sometimes I look at him when he's explaining basic things to me and acts perfect even tho he does some really nasty actions, and I'm thinking "how can you know many things in different domains, but still be this stupid" (or maybe more correct would be hypocrite). I'm amazed but in the same time terrified.

How can i know which one i am sp8 or sx1 cus it's very confusing

god I hate social 1s😭 I would be pouring water in my glass and they will make 10 comments on how it’s wrong and try to make me do their way something lik that

@minnie9083

2 жыл бұрын

i promise healthier social 1s are less like this 💀 esp when they have a 9 wing

i never got along with sx1 i am always in conflict with them. I am Sx5 and going to challenge them till EOL enod of life xD

The type one needs to understand that no matter what they do not I have the TRUTH

I'm a 1w9 and 100% the social 1. I can totally see how I can relate to the sexual 1 too, but only as "dark thoughts" without actuallly acting on them. Ironically enough though, since I'm absolutely not a social person (well, 1w9 intj, that's kinda expected), and asexual to top it off. Self preservation 1 sounds like someone that would really piss me off as a person and represents what I specifically don't stand for, which may sound mean, but that's not my intention, I'm just pointing it out to mention how interesting/funny it is that I can probably relate to most of the other types than the literal same type as me, but simply with a different subtype. About 27:33, I definitely do take pride in who I am and my ideals and principles being right and will not let them be changed by external factors; I think that's what is meant by that, not that we're traditional or reluctant to change or innovation. That's the exact opposite for me at least, when it comes to real life and not concepts in fact I need constant change and welcome new things because there I don't believe I hold the absolute truth.

@jamesspartin117

4 жыл бұрын

Im INTJ 1W9 as well :D Thats so weird how you dont mind the sexual one. Personally the thought of someone taking credit for being just and fair then going and doing the opposite triggers me immensely. Think i just really have a thing against hypocrisy.

@buchelaruzit

4 жыл бұрын

@@jamesspartin117 Oh I absolutely can't stand hypocrisy either; someone pretending something for selfish reasons is annoying to say the least, but that's not the case here. I think I'm talking for the sexual one as a whole when I say that I completely accept and am fine with being what I tell other people not to be, it's just that I don't want them to be influenced by me.

@jamesspartin117

4 жыл бұрын

@@buchelaruzit yeah that makes sense. I was probably thinking more of the whole double standards thing that some people have lol.

@danielchausse5159

4 жыл бұрын

James INTJ 1w9 as well! Nice to know there are more of us out there. I think, after listening to this video, I am the Social subtype. Sort of hard to tell, though.

@annieh2794

4 жыл бұрын

@Buchêlaruzit Hey, maybe you can help me, I'm trying to understand your perspective. I recently found out I'm a sp2 with a sp1 wing. Someone in my life I care about has I think a similar perspective as you (as far as not putting up with some of the sp1 charecteristics some of which I display). What is it that is distasteful about sp 1? Cause in my opinion that's the one that is easiest to get along with, probably because I can at times be that way lol. Genuinely curious and appreciate your perspective.

is audrey hepburn self preservation 1?

I used to think that my father was an 8 because of how he acted, now I realized that he is just a very unhealthy sx/so 1. I kind of understand him better now, thanks for making these videos, they are really helpful 💜

@ayasafiya

Жыл бұрын

What made you decide he is a sexual 1 rather than an 8? I’m so curious how to differentiate because they sound so similar

@octavio4309

Жыл бұрын

@@ayasafiya sx 1 and 8 may feel similar because they can explote in anger, but they reasons are different. But they act in order of different things. 8 satisfact their inner passions even If they broke the law. 1 sx just shows how anger he is by already attemping to change another person.

What if you see yourself in all 3? I think I’m a hybrid of self-preservation and social. Is that possible?

@coolhip100

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah it is - the book Wisdom of the Enneagram talks about it

I'm 135 sp/so.

31:35 I think not! Some counter-culture heresies perhaps but nothing that SHOULD be illegal. In fact they should thank me that I do such a fine job discovering the societal dirt that others miss.

How do I know whether I'm a 1 or a 4? The eneagram is reduccionist.

Great video! I’ve got a few 1’s in my life and this is really helpful! But, I’m a 4sx, and I don’t understand what the problem is with calling the sexual instinct, sexual. It’s very much a procreative instinct. And I don’t see why (the Church especially) has a problem calling it sexual. God made the sexual instinct and he made sex, so I’m really confused why we try to change it. It makes us with sx as our primary instinct feel like you see us as dirty, and and we’re not dirty.

@twlahue

4 жыл бұрын

I don't have a problem calling it sexual, I just don't want my videos to be flagged by KZread and removed...so I at least need to keep the word out of the titles. I guess.

@epscaling

4 жыл бұрын

I didn’t even think of that 😂 that makes total sense. I wish we didn’t live in a world where we had to red flag that... but that’s certainly not your fault at all! Your content is amazing and so helpful!!! Thank you again for doing all the hard work for us!

I thought I was an sp, but now I'm not so sure. I thought sp was more about focusing on themselves, bit looks like sx is also that way? I always put my needs first. I've never been about easily connecting with others...I'm more of a distant person because I have my own things going. Currently identify as 1w9 sp

An example of the unhealthy counter-type One (i.e. One-On-One subtype) I think would be the Mayor in the film Chocolate. Extreme moralist but ends up doing everything he crusades against, and ultimately being exposed for it ?

Another example... Dorothy Zbornak of the Golden Girls is a Self Preservation One...

@twlahue

8 ай бұрын

Thanks

So the Amish would probably also be selfpres ones???

I’m wondering if to an extent you are not mixing up levels of health with subtype. What you describe as the sexual 1 sounds like a very unhealthy version of that subtype. There can be unhealthy and healthy versions of each subtype.

@villegasguerreroantonioale6416

4 жыл бұрын

That's the problem, everyone believes subtype descriptions must be balanced in good and bad qualities. Problem is, some subtypes are naturally nasty people because that is their mechanism to dealing with their vices, some that come to mind are sx 4, sx 1, sx 6, sp 8, etc Then there is the other side of the coin, types that are naturally sweet like sx 7, all variants of 9, sx 3 So yeah, Part of the learning experience is recognising and owning our nasty behaviour

@coolhip100

4 жыл бұрын

@@villegasguerreroantonioale6416 agreed! Plus what sets the enneagram apart from other personality systems is that the goal isn't to stay identified to our type. Our types are COPING mechanisms, they are not who we truly are. We have covered our true ourselves with the protective type as a shield. As we become more aware of our type as a coping mechanism and realize its uses and its limitations, we free ourselves to discover who we really are. We self-actualize - the highest, most complex human need there is

@thesevenkingswelove9554

2 жыл бұрын

@@villegasguerreroantonioale6416 I agree.. Sugarcoating really won't help some enneagrams are prone to being bad ( doesn't mean people who have those enneagrams are bad people )

I’m ré listening to this and I’m not even a type 1

any other type 9s out here trying hard to understand type 1's cause they tend to be the type disrupting the peace haha

How does the sexual 1 look different from an 8?

Totally random but just realized you are Always wearing a black shirt in your KZread videos. Any particular reason why? Lol just curious!

@twlahue

4 жыл бұрын

Yes... I am a 7 which wants to experience everything and try everything... but I am a social 7 which is the counter 7...So I resist the tendency to try everything. I wear the same shirt every day because, if i didn't where would I stop? I park in the same section at the grocery, because if I didn't where would it stop. I order the same food at the same Mexican restaurant...because my impulse is to try everything on the menu... Crazy, huh?

@hecatesnightfall9121

4 жыл бұрын

Oh come on there doc. I think it’s good to step out of your comfort zone on occasion. Why does it need to stop? Why not indulge, just a little 🤔

My husband's a 1wing8.. I'm a 5wing4 and all ears🤔😁 Edit: you're great btw! Thanks💚

@Zzehra95

3 жыл бұрын

1w8? That's impossible

@maevealthea2621

3 жыл бұрын

@@Zzehra95 maybe she meant 1w9

@EH_888

3 жыл бұрын

You can be 1w2 or 1w9

Unhealthy ones cause so much damage

Thanos might be a Social 1.