I honestly think that high schools should have a curriculum on healthy interpersonal relationships and how to spot red flags for domestic abuse. I remember seeing many my classmates in toxic relationships

@lisadiconti

3 жыл бұрын

I agree. Education is more than just academics.

@Sarablueunicorn

3 жыл бұрын

Most come from domestic abuse households. Do you think parents are interested? How do you think covert narcissists are made?

@lisadiconti

3 жыл бұрын

@Jeff Hook Well, if you give no sympathy, I wouldn't put you in the category of "nice guys".

@necrophagus9

3 жыл бұрын

They do now my 13 year old was telling me all about it a few weeks ago.

@novac1990

3 жыл бұрын

@Jeff Hook Nice guys most of the time are cowards that are seeking to lowkey manipulate and control. Just dont let a woman run you over. Make her laugh and pick on her a bit. Treat her good and as long as you dont put her on a pedastool to be worshipped it's not hard to find and keep a good woman. This nice guy shit makes you look weak.

"Young love doesn't mean safe love." That's so important for adults to keep in mind when a young person comes to them with concerns. Please don't brush them aside. They came for help because something feels off - and that feeling should never be ignored.

@lisabradford8180

3 жыл бұрын

this comment deserves a 💖 from the doctor himself. excellent advice, ma'am👍👍

@stephaniekanoun4409

3 жыл бұрын

@@lisabradford8180 As a teenager, my boss noticed I was distracted one day and asked what was up. I told her I was uncomfortable with how a "friend" was treating me. She listened, and then explained that his behavior was inappropriate, possessive, and could turn to stalking. She helped me so much. Thankfully, he did leave me alone after that, and instead I found and married a wonderful man who loves and respects me. A little help can go a long way.

@polarbearsrus6980

3 жыл бұрын

DUH!!! I wish people would just use birth control and stop having too many kids. There should be: 1. A battery of standardized tests (strong emphasis on mental health) before you can even get pregnant 2. 2 kids per family, period. Children are a job, a mostly fun and enriching job. You have to work at it and don't forget the planet is getting smaller and smaller. 😎

@stt5v2002

3 жыл бұрын

I think that is a valid point. In this case, her parents did realize that something was wrong and attempted to force the end of the relationship. Unfortunately this only resulted in a Romeo and Juliet scenario which inadvertently made the situation worse. One complication is that young love is often very emotionally chaotic. It is difficult to tell a relationship that will end in tears from one that will end in blood.

@polarbearsrus6980

3 жыл бұрын

@@stt5v2002 Well, that's taking it a bit far and I don't think it's that common. Went through it years ago myself but it didn't lead to murder.

Poor young lady and her poor parents. I don't know what else to say.

@elizabethgrogan8553

3 жыл бұрын

@@ambercrombie789 You are making some weird assumptions. Perhaps they were intimate but she soon learned that he was very possessive. That is hard to cope with. She did the right thing in leaving him. No man or woman owns their partner. I've experienced possessivness. It destroyed my feelings for my boyfriend as I felt smothered. I broke with him but endured several months of calls, messages and letters. A firm chat from a Detective, who is a family friend, put an end to the matter.

@dripkidd8572

3 жыл бұрын

Beautiful young woman is intimate with an abusive and possessive guy and ends relationship There's your comment

@elizabethgrogan8553

3 жыл бұрын

@@ambercrombie789 Think you've misread my comment.

@wentoneisendon6502

3 жыл бұрын

@Jeff Hook what a weird fucking perception of the situation

@familythomas2828

3 жыл бұрын

@Jeff Hook I'm a very conservative Christian and would never in my wildest dreams consider blaming a young woman, a child really, for her own murder.

It's tragic that Emma lost her life because her boyfriend couldnt keep his dignity together. Plus, it also looks like this young man had reasoning skills of a todler: throwing a tantrum because mommy said no

@globes179

3 жыл бұрын

It's really a textbook case of vulnerable narcissism - a fragile ego, sense of entitlement, aiming for retribution, etc. etc. One wonders how this guy ever had friends.

@malabuha

3 жыл бұрын

@@globes179 he had friends... most people dont show any red flags until things turn ugly. I had a friend for years. He was cool and respectful with everybody. But he made a move on me. While i was still searching my feelings for him, he simply assaulted me asking for intimacy. Who would have thought... i never saw him like that before. A shocker... so, we cant really tell true colors in people until we see them handle a boundary and they're our friends

@jaymanz9779

3 жыл бұрын

@@globes179 Of course he had friends. Most likely that they too, were Covert Narcissists and "supported" his view with confirmation bias.

@jguenther3049

3 жыл бұрын

@@jaymanz9779 Lending him phones -- probably not a good idea.

@Bc-um9qx

3 жыл бұрын

@@jaymanz9779 but they are y he was locked up remember obviously they didn't agree but most people are cowards until it's to late

The minute a man started telling me what to wear I’d run for the door. This is 20/20 hindsight, of course, from previous toxic relationships. Therapy can be a lifesaver.

@katerina1064

3 жыл бұрын

Same. I've grown unbelievably neurotic with these things, but I think it's good. I had a situation with a guy not that long ago, where he sent me a voice message and I was too busy to respond. In an attempt to be polite, I texted that I'm super busy and will reply properly soon. I got a message back saying that "it's fine, as long as busy is the real reason you can't respond". This was the first time I did in years that I wasn't able to reply almost straight away. I ran for the hills.

@possumaintdead

3 жыл бұрын

@@katerina1064 Good for you! I’ve learned I have to listen to that voice that says “this is all wrong.”

@redsloane879

3 жыл бұрын

@@katerina1064 smart! Glad you ended that sick show!

@ransakreject5221

3 жыл бұрын

Half women are like u. Half clearly prefer guys that treat em like shit

@MissCaraMint

2 жыл бұрын

@@katerina1064 Good. That's a red flag right there.

I wish children could be taught in school about different personality types and the dangers too look out for.

@esteemedmortal5917

3 жыл бұрын

Or at least the common signs of manipulation and cycle of abusive behavior.

@Ali-kb8gr

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! O wish I could 👍 more than once. I talk my kids about the signs of an unhealthy relationships and personality types ( in an age appropriate way) It's an essential skill set to help them navigate life.

@tammyiswicked

3 жыл бұрын

They are in Australia. After all our domestic violence murders, we brought in a syllabus called Respectful Relationships, where we discuss everything from basic boundaries to rape. It’s compulsory for all students in all year levels.

@georgewagner7787

2 жыл бұрын

Do not let your 14 year old date. They have limited judgment.

@CowSaysMooMoo

Жыл бұрын

I wish they would learn MATH AND ENGLISH, and that their PARENTS would actually PARENT.

what i wish people of all ages would learn is that there is life after breakups, rejection, etc. at the time i know it doesn't feel like it, but you will survive it and go on to meet others. it doesn't have to end in murder. in my own life i've been down this road more times than i want to remember, suffered countless hurts yet i got through to the other side without harming anyone. it IS possible.

@raylaughlan5324

3 жыл бұрын

For most people. Remember that some people who have mental illnesses can have mental breakdowns that really do impact their ability to function after a breakup. I say that as someone who is diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and who has to take absences from my job/fails courses when I go through breakups. So yes, it’s possible to get through them, but you know yourself best, and if you need help such as therapy or antidepressants to get through it, take the action steps to get the help you need! Not everyone can just get through it by trying not to think about it, so it’s a good idea to make a real plan for what you’ll need to get through it if it happens

@Somegirl811

3 жыл бұрын

True. I'm so emotional, so when I was young, I really felt like I could not bear the pain of losing a certain partner. I knew a lot of people that seemed far less affected than me, so I dont think it's all teens, but it was rough for me. It has gotten better over the years, but now I avoid and downplay all relationships like the plague to avoid myself becoming unstable and obsessive and falling apart. I do feel those experiences were damaging in the long term but there is more to life than romantic love.

@Sarablueunicorn

3 жыл бұрын

Parents and caretakers taught them the opposite

@sarahholland2600

3 жыл бұрын

He learnt that behaviour somewhere. Children model & copy what is the norm at home.

@kathyclark8274

3 жыл бұрын

@@raylaughlan5324 All BPDs have been sensitised from an early age to anything they perceive as rejection. This feeds into their underlying, deep-seated, fear of abandonment. Sadly, unstable BPDs have been known to commit suicide and/or homicide when thus rejected. It's useless to try and convince them a break-up is survivable and its associated pain will diminish over time. When one's future time perspective is faulty, everything may appear as if here and now. Once a psychic introject or the object of adoration has fallen from its pedestal, all previous failures and disappointments return to haunt them. They may lack sufficient coping skills to protect their fragile ego from unrelenting attacks on already shaky self-esteem. The risk of anti-social and dangerous self-destructive behaviour should never be callously disregarded, minimised, or underestimated.

Emma deserved better and Riley should have just accepted that decision. She doesn’t have to stay in a relationship if she didn’t feel that relationship was good for her.

The way you describe him reminds me of my ex that stalked and harassed me after controlling my every move during the whole relationship. The constant texts and calls, threats, coercion, blaming the victim, etc was terrifying. I don’t doubt he would have done something worse had I not gotten a restraining order.

@dripkidd8572

3 жыл бұрын

At least you got away from that relationship. Other people, whether mem ore women, are in that type of relationship and either cant, or won't leave

@charliespleen7280

3 жыл бұрын

@@dripkidd8572 it was really hard to leave because he had entire control over my phone, finances, and transportation. It was a several month process, I had to cross state lines and he followed me the almost 800 miles and stalked me for months when I left. I’m surprised the restraining order worked but I think it broke his fantasy of winning me over and stopped the obsession

@dripkidd8572

3 жыл бұрын

@@charliespleen7280 How long ago was this? If it is less than 2 yrs, I dont think he will stop, and a restraining order is only words on a paper, and can be easily violated by just walking

@priscilalondon

3 жыл бұрын

Be careful. He won’t leave you alone completely, when your guard is down and you least expect, he will strike. Even if is just to show you that he knows what you do and to scare you. In my country men are really possessive and it is not rare for them to kill their partners when they try to leave, they just don’t accept the loss of the property, so I unfortunately have a lot of experience with abusive men, ranging from psychological abusive, control of every move, to physical abuse and almost being killed. Two of them kept tabs on me for years, they knew where I worked, even called me at my job. One even got a job at my company by dropping my name, saying he was my ex husband, which was a lie. The other one knew everything about me even after 10 years of the break up. Once you are on the radar of these psychos, trust me, they don’t let go. They may back off for a while, but be really, really careful. They don’t accept losing.

@mhs7219

3 жыл бұрын

I had a similar experience and looking at these stories just made me realized how lucky I am to be alive, I feel for Emma and her parents they did everything they could to protect her and still lost 😞

I’m at the point where I just go ahead and like the video before even watching it 🤷🏻‍♀️

@redsloane879

3 жыл бұрын

I always do as I KNOW it will be excellent!

It’s hard to believe people are willing to throw their lives away over essentially nothing. May Emma Rest In Peace.

How many of us take for granted our future days that poor murdered girl will never have? 😢

@HeatherHolt

3 жыл бұрын

Gives you a different perspective on life doesn’t it. Like don’t sweat the small stuff because at least you weren’t murdered before you were in your 20s.

@francesbernard2445

3 жыл бұрын

When I look back at how much I have been through there is no other explanation as to why I am still alive other than g_d and having enough other people around relying on the same. Like Mr. and Mrs, Grande.

Whats terrifying is that I knew Riley and had classes with him since I was in middle school. So many people from my home town ended up making terrible life choices

@Stewart1499

Жыл бұрын

You included Raquel. Keep Riley’s name out your mouth before I expose you in the comment section 🤷‍♂️

@Blodia1990

Жыл бұрын

@@Stewart1499 Oh snap... Please no need to spill her personal doings unless she murdered somebody

@olilumgbalu5653

Жыл бұрын

It's hard to believe how many of my former middle and high school (and even college) classmates are evil govt agents.

@isabellagomez4272

Жыл бұрын

​@@Stewart1499 I want to know

This is a scary time to be a parent of a child of any age, from toddler to teenager. Perhaps my view is skewed, but it seems that the world is a much more dangerous place than it was when I was growing up or when my children were growing up. In any case, I am so grateful that my two sons and one daughter survived their teen and young adult years intact and connected with sane, stable partners. The parents of this young woman did all they could to guide and protect her, but to no avail. How sad that two young lives were destroyed in this case, and I shudder to think of the collateral damage to their families.

@rejaneoliveira5019

3 жыл бұрын

I agree.

@2manybooks2littletime25

3 жыл бұрын

I remember when "free-range kids" didn't have such a term. We were all outside with friends and could walk, bike and play without our parents knowing exactly where we were, as long as we came home for dinner. Nobody had a care in the world.

@pacey5980

3 жыл бұрын

@@2manybooks2littletime25 I grew up in Knoxville TN about half a mile from that high school. I truly had a free range childhood as well, that neighborhood was very safe. Me and my twin sister were super friendly and outgoing and used to just go chat with any random neighbor and would go in some of their houses (the ones we got to know a little better). Now I'm older I think thank god we weren't molested or worse... I agree I think the world is getting more dangerous cause our planet and society is going completely crazy! I always say that when I have kids I feel so sad that I just wont feel safe or comfortable having the open and free spirited childhood that I was fortunate enough to have.

@2manybooks2littletime25

3 жыл бұрын

@@pacey5980 I understand your fear for your future children. In some ways, I think that the world looks more dangerous because people use their phones as cameras and videos to document the things going on now. That's one thing that we didn't have. Also, some subjects were taboo: rape, police brutality, etc. On the other hand, it seemed that people were trustworthy back then. Of course, terrible crimes were committed, but one rarely heard about them. The population has skyrocketed in the past 50 years, too. But, I agree with you that people are just sick mentally. There is one sociopath/psychopath in every 100 people. With the world population at 7+ billion, a lot of very dangerous people are out there! Not all with ASPD commit crimes. They are our first responders, surgeons, nurses, ER doctors, etc. They are called "successful psychopaths". Failed psychopaths are Ted Bundy, Jeffrey Dahmer, BTK, etc. I lean on my faith and a lot of prayer. May God be with you and your children!

@Chris-tg3qy

3 жыл бұрын

It is a scary time. I remember when someone called my house after dinner, they had to go through my parents before they could talk to me. No cell phones back then, just a house phone monitored by parents.

*David Attenborough voice* "And here, we see the Stage 5 Clinger in his natural habitat."

@erikparent8176

3 жыл бұрын

Funny 🤩

That poor girl, glad Emma got justice! Great analysis Dr Grande.

Sadly, if he hadn't murdered her, he eventually would have murdered some other poor girl.

@mytoesarecold5555

3 жыл бұрын

Yup. Gotta look out for signs w these types.

@stt5v2002

3 жыл бұрын

@@mytoesarecold5555 True, and his manipulative nonsense was a foreboding sign. Unfortunately there was a co-dependency here. This is difficult to discuss because it sounds like blaming the victim. I don't mean to do that. But she was participating in the on again / off again relationship when she should have completely cut him out. Teens and young adults do this often and I think it is due to the addictive quality of extreme dopamine boosts triggered by unpredictability, lust, and sex. They just keep going back for more even when they know that they shouldn't. I think that the same phenomenon might underlie many dysfunctional and abusing relationships.

@noongourfain

3 жыл бұрын

@@stt5v2002 Right...It's not her fault. But with these types of whiny, homicidal creeps.. Don't send mixed messages.

@patstaysuckafreeboss8006

3 жыл бұрын

I doubt it. She did something to provoke this

@cutehollygolightly

3 жыл бұрын

@@patstaysuckafreeboss8006 really? What did she do?

As long as Dr. Grande is around, we'll all be ok.

@kelligillespie1995

3 жыл бұрын

So true. He is always so calm. Its rather reassuring with what's going on in the world right now. Good post.

@BeckBeckGo

3 жыл бұрын

Yesterday I was listening to one of his vids while taking a walk, and was hit by a car. So I’m not convinced yet lol

@mlee81

2 жыл бұрын

At least we'll get a thorough analysis after the fact. Not as comforting

@gaiaiulia

2 жыл бұрын

@@BeckBeckGo hope you're okay. Sorry but that made me smile.

@bradchervel5202

2 жыл бұрын

@@BeckBeckGo maybe Dr Grande can analyze your incident and the driver who hit you

Im a simple man. I see alert for Dr. Grande, i click thumbs up before watching.

@erikparent8176

3 жыл бұрын

"Simple Man" is a profound song performed by Lynyrd Skynyrd. A song for right brained individuals ( Soul)

This is a scary and tragic case. Although Emma got justice, nothing will bring her back. I can’t even image the pain her parents had to endure. Really sad. Outstanding analysis Dr. Grande, I wish every teenager could listen to your final thoughts in this video. Thank you!❤️

This is so incredibly sad. What a huge loss!! Thank you Dr. Grande

Thank you Dr Grande. What a horrific case. I don't understand why we see so many "killer kids" these days. Its very scary. I love your calm demeanor. Thank you for your analysis.

In cases like this, I think: "where are the parents?" Specifically, Reilly's parents. What are they doing to help they obviously depressed, stalker son? Both sets of parents should have got together with the police and doctors and figured out how they were going to handle this.

@Kwildcat13

3 жыл бұрын

I do think teenagers can hide a lot with busy parents

@margaretr5701

3 жыл бұрын

It seemed her parents did intervene as much as possible. Depending on where you live, getting the police involved in a stalking situation is difficult. I'm not sure the police would have taken the issues too seriously, and would probably have seen the situation as teenage drama, especially as people described him as pleasant, polite and normal. I feel very sad for the parents, and I'm sure they'd hate to hear they didn't do enough.

@floraposteschild4184

3 жыл бұрын

@@margaretr5701 Yes, I hear her parents did all they could at the time. But I'm referring to HIS parents. Dr. Grande has time to refer to some incidents, e.g. the fake kidnapping. But in fact there were many more incidents of harassment and social media stalking, not to mention depression and tears. (See longer docs and write ups) Stalking and harassment, even among teens, is illegal and I refuse to believe he showed no signs of being unbalanced at home. SURELY his parents must have been contacted and informed at some point. And yet he was free to drive around at night, text, steal grampa's gun, etc., with seeming impunity. Unfortunately, there's still an onus for the the victim to deal with an ex's mental issues -- especially in the case of teens, when they're supposed to eventually "grow out of it". And, you know "boys will be boys".

@jillwalker9974

3 жыл бұрын

@@floraposteschild4184 His family’ would not listen and did nothing . They didnt teach him the word NO

@Sarablueunicorn

3 жыл бұрын

His parents raised a Narcissist. Narcissists aren't born, they are made.

If you are looking for a guy with a good personality then you are in luck! Welcome to Dr Grande

@ejb2865

3 жыл бұрын

Be careful. You never really know someone. Especially over the internet.

@GelatinousCube-jw8vg

3 жыл бұрын

@@ejb2865 exactly the reason why I’m not going to listen to you

@jaymanz9779

3 жыл бұрын

@@GelatinousCube-jw8vg ZING! 👏👏👏

@redrumtruecrime

3 жыл бұрын

Does he know you're fitting him up? 🤣

Please cover Julius & Ethel Rosenberg? Thanks Dr. Grande.

@historian2394

3 жыл бұрын

Great idea!

@shinrin-yoku-

3 жыл бұрын

My request also

@GabrielTheMagolorMain

3 жыл бұрын

Love this idea, glad he saw it!

@RRonco

3 жыл бұрын

I've often wondered about this case

I'm lost for words....Thank you for your compassionate analysis, doctor.

So this is why my parents didn't let me date as a teenager...

@jillwalker9974

3 жыл бұрын

Kids will find ways .

@martinsloan9785

3 жыл бұрын

@@jillwalker9974 "Mom thinks I'm at the movies" yup

@rydz656

3 жыл бұрын

So you kept it in the family? That's not the answer either you perv.

@ReverendBenzo

3 жыл бұрын

Uh huh. Your parents "wouldn't let you". THAT'S why you couldn't get a date.

@dogcabbageboy467

3 жыл бұрын

Emma's parents said she wasn't allowed to date Riley, as they said in the video.

Okay this is funny, I've watched enough of Dr Grande's videos to recognize his shirts haha

@alimar0604

3 жыл бұрын

This is one of my favourites 🇬🇧

@sarahholland2600

3 жыл бұрын

Same. The dark green & the peach are my personal favourites on him.😁

@DaisyLee1963

3 жыл бұрын

@@sarahholland2600 Yeah, the peach 🍑 is really nice on him. He also does well with white with subtle stripes. He has a teal shirt I really like, too. But my absolute favorite on him is a pink one he has. Pink is a color sometimes under-used by men, I think, but depending on the complexion of the man, it can be an excellent color.

@joturner2125

2 жыл бұрын

I’m pleased to see he’s chilled out enough to leave the top button undone these days. And not so many buttoned down collars either. 👌🏻

Unkind terminology - what a beautiful euphemism.

@Zeldarw104

3 жыл бұрын

I'm sure it was rated -NC-17! Yikes, Or, NSFW.... Dr. Grande is a classy guy. 👍

Dr Chill good to see you. 🌵🌵🌵🌵

Wow, your analysis of him is a real eye openner... What a psychopath...

@coweatsman

3 жыл бұрын

I don't know that he was a psychopath. Rather then not feeling emotions he was overpowered by his emotions.

@michaelarojas

3 жыл бұрын

The eyes never tell lies

@moondog7694

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like borderline personality disorder to me.

@Jo-lp1px

11 ай бұрын

I was thinking NPD with borderline traits. I know personality disorders can overlap.

Astounding closing statements. Thank you, Dr Grande.

I experienced a teenage relationship with someone who became possessive but fortunately his personal values and respect for me were ultimately a stronger influence. I really feel for this girl and her family 🥺 thanks for the insightful analysis, Dr. Grande.

@erikparent8176

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds like he was in touch with his Soul communication. It's the ultimate mirror and without it terrible transgressions are made. The strength of ones Soul grows over time. The older the Soul the greater the restraint!

Please do a video on Austin Harrouf. He suffered a psychotic episode so acute that he brutally murdered a woman and started to eat her husband. He somehow managed to withstand getting tased, being attacked by a police dog, and kicks to the head. He'd just fight the officers off and continue eating his victim. He was examined by doctors hired by both the prosecution and defense, and both doctors found that he didn't know what he was doing was wrong as a result of his severe mental illness.

As a parent this is a nightmare ..

Pointless loss of life. Hope the guy rots in prison for the rest of his life

How sad. Narcissism runs so rampant anymore it's scary & disheartening. Excellent points...you help us understand so much Dr G!!😊❤❤

Everybody thinks their kid is normal.

@brucejohnson9696

3 жыл бұрын

You apparently never met my Mom.

High schools should have life skills classes that cover financial, physical and relationship guidance. For example what traits and characteristics are red flags for an unhealthy relationship.

Toxic relationships are one of the worst things can happen to an individual. We should learn better how to recognize bad people.

Thank you Dr. Grande for being brilliant as always!

Very insightful, as usual

I have the feeling he tried again the strategy that somehow worked before: to scare Emma to call him back for assistance. I dont think he was so good to calculate the shoot so perfectly to kill her... Just was he very lucky or unlucky with that shoot.

@pistachioonut6683

3 жыл бұрын

This is very possible

@pastorpresent7774

3 жыл бұрын

I think so too. The guy was a meathead with a stupidly inflated opinion of his own ability to think ahead, he's not robocop. He had one plan, scare and come to the rescue. Like mick philpot killing all of his kids in a fire that he lost control of. Good vid Dr G!

@coyoter9691

3 жыл бұрын

Except he would have been aware of where her head rests on her bed, I'm sure he'd been in her room many times. If he just wanted to scare her, he would shoot the gun literally anywhere else in her room, but he specifically shot in the spot where he knew her pillow/her head would be. I don't believe this was a scare attempt. At least if I was on a jury, I would have no problem believing this was intentional given what he knew and the spot on the wall he specifically went up to.

@pistachioonut6683

3 жыл бұрын

@@coyoter9691 I can see it either way to be honest. He had made several attempts to scare her back to him, so this could have been another. However I've do see your point that he knew where she would be positioned in bed but also I've since learnt that he shot from two different angles so it does seem likely that he was trying to kill her

Heart strings are tugged... Thank you, for handling these difficult cases, with respect, and compassion!

Thank you so Munch for this one Dr Grande❤️ For all the hard work and for all the the knowledge you have, and share with all of us. It is highly appreciated . You have such a great knowledge and a passion for the mental health. 🌹 Actually I would enjoy to hear you talking about the most boring things; like how the grass grow.. and so on. Just because you are you. 😻and the wonderful sarcastic comments are the best.

Good morning Dr Grande. That was a sensitive and unbiased analysis. Thank you Dr Grande.

Such a sad waste of two young lives. Great to see you Dr.Grande

@jayuhoo4806

3 жыл бұрын

one young life was wasted, the other is a waste of oxygen

@carriefawcett9990

3 жыл бұрын

A waste of ONE life

The comment section is full on "blame on the victim". It's normal to start your first relationship at 14, and NO ONE should blame Emma's parents. If you try to overprotect your children, they will simply go against your back, sneek out and other things. Your children need to trust you. Emma's parents did everything they could, but Railey was out of his mind. He killed her in her home while she was sleeping. It's a tragedy and the only one to blame is Railey

Excellent analysis. I think young love can be particularly dangerous when a person lacks emotional stability and/or emotional support from their family. Emotional regulation then hinges on the relationship, with any break from the relationship feeling overwhelmingly destabilising. I think self regulation is an important skill that should be taught to children from a young age. And as someone else mentioned, interpersonal relationships and healthy boundaries

Your analysis is right on the money! I really enjoy watching you break things down!😎👍

Yes thank you so much! I asked for this one! Your so awesome! I love your content and channel!

Such a great explanation of vulnerable narcissism and definitely heed the warnings! I half expected the one I dealt with to come after me, they threatened to ruin me, but I made them an offer they couldn't refuse. Narcissistic supply more even more important than their bruised ego I guess.

I love your lessons Dr Grande! ☺ Thank you for your analysis on this tragic case.💙

Excellent once again. Thanks Dr Grande.

Love the new bookcase Dr. Grande!

Great vid dr...

Good video. Thanks Dr Grande.

People like Riley are the same type of person who tries to scare and guilt their partner into staying with them by threatening to kill themselves or, like in Riley’s case, pretend to be in danger or injured for sympathy and so they will stay with that person out of guilt. If there’s anyone who is in a relationship like that and you are reading my comment and watching this video, this is your sign to get out. Doing crazy stuff like this can easily, and most likely WILL, lead to more dangerous behavior and potentially murdering you as a result. People like Riley have the mindset of, “if I can’t have you, then no one can.” That mindset is such a dangerous thing to have and please get out if your boyfriend OR girlfriend displays behavior like I have mentioned. Get out now while you still can, get a restraining order and press charges, then move or go to stay somewhere else that they cannot find you as well as change their number (since blocking their number isn’t good enough because they can use burner phones and even texting apps that will make it seem like they are texting you from a different number). Stay safe, y’all. ❤️

I recently saw this old case on Dateline. Your version was much more interesting Dr. Grande. Thank you.

Thank you, Dr. Grande. Hello, from Nashville, TN. 🙏💔

I remember this! I'm around that area. Just got your book in the mail! Doing to start getting into that after this video! Thank you!

I'm so glad you did This Case! Very informative and appreciate You! When Yuu talk about Riley and Emma relationship that sounded like a few of my during that age. Yikes! Sorry for her outcome! Scary world, sometimes. TFS 💕😘

When you peak at 15.

Such a professional, unbiased presentation!

Was there any history of steroid use/abuse while he was playing football? I wonder if this amplified his aggression. The pictures of him at the court proceeding appeared like he had an estrogen spill over after not being able to stop his cycle "safely."

@erikparent8176

3 жыл бұрын

Good take I noticed he had big muscles on a sort of tall lanky frame. His body seemed too developed for his age. Insightful information!

@EricDodsonLectures

3 жыл бұрын

Moobs at 7:20, for example.

@energybiz8890

3 жыл бұрын

Or a CTE ?

Can you start making t-shirts that say "I'll leave the link to Patreon in the description............................for this video"

Sad story for all involved. Also, Riley has 51 years to perfect his relationship skills.

I’ve heard this one on a couple of channels … we always need Grande’s view.

Can you give your views on the life and death of the musician Nick Drake? Thanks for all your hard work!

Brilliant analysis.

I’m working through your narcissistic videos (haha) and this guy sounds about right.

I enjoy your videos they are very interesting. I believe you are right about the different ones you have talked about on your videos. You are wise!

So insane that he killed her through her window while she was sleeping. Feel so bad for her and her poor mom finding her daughter like that

@HC-sb5ck

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah and the mother supposedly didn’t even hear the gunshots going off flying into her house...

@AmethystEyes

Жыл бұрын

It wasn’t a window is was actually through the wall of her room. Which makes it even scarier.

@AmethystEyes

Жыл бұрын

@@HC-sb5ck it went through the wall of the house I bet that muffled some of it.

@Jo-lp1px

11 ай бұрын

Just agonizing 😩

Dr. Grande, thank you for your analysis! We never get tired of tuning in to you! It's almost summer and you've been relentless with your countless videos, all espousing brilliant 💎 points of view btw)! I am hoping that THIS YEAR, you can put up a 'gone fishing' sign and relax for a week or two! I really want you to think about it! Even if all you do is stop shaving and wear nothing around the house, except your briefs! Give it some thought. Burn out isn't good for the soul! God bless you dear Doctor! Thank you Sir, for all you do!

Good analysis about vulnerable narcissism in connection to this case!

this case is terrifying. great analysis

Very sad, but your coverage was excellent. I feel you handled a difficult story with care and mercy. Your warnings at the end were right on. Young love can be dangerous.

@moondog7694

Жыл бұрын

Why would young love be any more dangerous than older love?

no doubt, he is still stewing in anger over her and blaming her for his horrific act

@LDiamondz

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, the old "She made me do it" way of not taking any responsibility for his actions.

@ryanmcandrew2748

3 жыл бұрын

Two side to every story. Probably an abusive bitch and dude did what he gotta do

If seen teenagers with dangerous "broken hearts" its a new and confusing life experience for them and parents should take their emotional state very serious.

Just subscribed! Your videos are really interesting!

Would you consider doing a video on Robert and Michael Bever? Thank you and keep up the great job!

Iv heard of this case b4! Crazy one!!! I realy enjoy the advise at the end… i think its verry helpful!!!:)

This is why sex is not for teenagers. Within two years of serious dating one of three things will happen. One) You get married. Two) You don’t get married but you get pregnant. Three) You break up and one person is left saying what’s wrong with me. None of these are well tolerated by teenagers

Thanks for the videos Dr. Grifter

I loved getting done with a swim to find the good doctor had posted.

So sad for both and especially The parents !! Thank you Dr Grande. You are such a Blessing I appreciate your Knowledge and all the hard work and study you put in to bring us wisdom and education on the dangers of some relationships. Red flags ..Lord help me!!! I am living something similar.🙏

Your conclusion - the power of emotions - is really interesting. It can be translated in many aspects of life. Emotions have to be processed or faced or akcnowledged, otherwise they can be lethal...

@erikparent8176

3 жыл бұрын

That is the fundemental message of non-dual teachings and meditation. Always feel your emotions or what Jesus refered to as ones "Inner life" If your continuously following your emotional body you're ancored in the present moment( the body) and not mentally percieving or the thinking mind, which gives rise to past and future. Animals don't think so they have no comprehension of past or future.

@framboise8845

3 жыл бұрын

@@erikparent8176 so true. Better learn it late than never. However it’s immensely difficult to do at first.

@erikparent8176

3 жыл бұрын

@@framboise8845 🙂 🌻

Heart breaking for the parents. They lost a child for an ego.

Yeah, my first breakup was terrible. And I was the one who did the breaking up. THEN I was lonely and heartbroken. I begged her to come back. She told me to take a hike. I was never inclined to hurt her, but I sure hurt myself. Beat myself up every day. A hot mess for months. Though I was college age, I was too immature to handle a relationship. Thank God I had a moral compass!

@Sarablueunicorn

3 жыл бұрын

People are stupid

This dude's interrogation is so funny. He unironically talks like Krush (the turtle) from Finding Nemo

Wow! Thanks! 🙂

Thank you Dr Grande. I was wondering about how much his being a jock might have contributed to his ego and sense of entitlement? I’m Australian, so have difficulty understanding the jocks and cheerleader dynamics.

@visassess8607

2 жыл бұрын

You do realize real life isn't like a 1950s highschool movie, right? You talk about cheerleaders and jocks as if highschool has perfectly defined cliques going by stereotypes.

@moondog7694

Жыл бұрын

I'm not sure if he was a typical jock in that he was described as "shy", which means he has low self-esteem. But some jocks have high self-esteem, like in the profile named "Mr. Ego" in the book "Red Flags! How to Know When You're Dating a Loser".

I am 2 minutes in and it's really nice video. It's always good idea to listen to Dr Todd Grande. As I feel I may have similar tendencies as Riley

My husbands coworker grounded his step son for a unreasonable time of a year. Sadly he committed suicide. I went thru hell for my daughter just to keep her safe.

@moondog7694

Жыл бұрын

What does your daughter have to do with your husband's coworkers stepson?

Ladies if he’s controlling leave him alone cause being controlling can turn into something else. Always put yourself first ladies

This case brought to mind two similar murders that occurred here in upstate NY. Brandon Clark and Clayton Whittemore killed their girlfriends because of twisted "love" and jealousy. Although this scenario exists with women the "If I can't have her, nobody will" seems to occur much more frequently in men. Perhaps you could explore this.

@mcd5478

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! I just requested the Whittemore case. So upsetting and heartbreaking.

@moondog7694

Жыл бұрын

And yet they always say borderline personality disorder is more common in women than men. Yet it's men who more commonly commit these types of acts.

Funny how everyone is blaming Emma's parents when RAILEY'S parents didn't raise him well and prevent him from stalking a 16 year old girl.

@Jo-lp1px

11 ай бұрын

It’s so weird, there’s like no info to be found on Riley’s parents.

@brianogrady9031

8 ай бұрын

Riley mentions a stepfather when talking to the police when they interviewed him. He also said that he lived with his grandparents. He stole his grandfather’s gun and used it to murder Emma.

Also, his claim that he didn't want to go to prison rings hollow. Emma didn't want to die either hers is way more permanent than yours.

What a terrible tragedy, my heart breaks for her poor parents! So chilling that he actually marked where her head would rest in relation to the window! What a great analysis, and advice that you gave, Dr. Grande!

Poor Emma. She tried and so did her parents! I was in a similar "relationship" in high school and it ended terribly but, I did not die. I almost did but, thankfully, pulled through. My parents did absolutely nothing to help me. My friends, aunt, and teacher tried to help but my parents turned a deaf ear.