3 Negotiation Mistakes That Are Hurting Your Deals | Chris Voss

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  • @richers99
    @richers994 ай бұрын

    Totally agreed. Customer service people who mindlessly respond with “I understand” when I express a concern on a situation has become one of my many pet peeves.

  • @meltherecafe2394

    @meltherecafe2394

    2 ай бұрын

    I understand.

  • @roboliver9980
    @roboliver99803 ай бұрын

    That’s a valid point about listening to respond and useful to life beyond negotiation.

  • @CriminalScrutinyTV
    @CriminalScrutinyTV2 жыл бұрын

    This guy is the man, this information is so crucial I don’t think people get how crucial it is.

  • @meltherecafe2394

    @meltherecafe2394

    2 ай бұрын

    we get it.

  • @SwarfcastPodcast
    @SwarfcastPodcast2 жыл бұрын

    "Yes" Bad! No "good"! I use this every day! "I understand" so true.

  • @sbmh2001
    @sbmh20012 жыл бұрын

    Great video, Chris! A video with tips on negotiating with Narssicists would be great!

  • @margaretk5783

    @margaretk5783

    Жыл бұрын

    No shit Sherlock! That would be great!

  • @HowtoRestoreHeadlights

    @HowtoRestoreHeadlights

    11 ай бұрын

    Best way to negotiate with a narcissist is to delete their contact from your phone.

  • @andyn6053

    @andyn6053

    2 ай бұрын

    what if the narcissist is your boss? @@HowtoRestoreHeadlights

  • @bubbles7806
    @bubbles78062 жыл бұрын

    Happy Thanksgiving Chris and Brandon. "Voss is Boss". My gift to you.

  • @RyseMaxwell
    @RyseMaxwell2 жыл бұрын

    I need like a 20 to 100 go-to no-oriented questions.

  • @thomasr1051

    @thomasr1051

    Жыл бұрын

    I hear that you want a way to apply this new knowledge. My guess is because it's about listening a list would keep you in your head and focusing on your desires. I definitely responded imperfectly but I hope this perspective helps

  • @kirkhepburnmiddleagedwhiteguy
    @kirkhepburnmiddleagedwhiteguy2 жыл бұрын

    Is this a bad time to wish the Black Swan team a Happy Thanksgiving?

  • @murashanbyarugaba3294

    @murashanbyarugaba3294

    Жыл бұрын

    Nice one

  • @donnalesiv5079
    @donnalesiv5079 Жыл бұрын

    True. Don't you hate it when someone is only listening to respond.

  • @yshchrist3015
    @yshchrist3015 Жыл бұрын

    Stems from ecclesiastical training: removing all of the vanity; me, my, mine, & I out of one's speech. So in word: to deny self in the pursuit of our LORD Jesus Christ to adorn the master's perfection like armor and be an acceptable offering to our heavenly Father. For if the good LORD God could be for us, Who could be against us in any negotiation? God bless black swans.

  • @shaundowling
    @shaundowling Жыл бұрын

    I like these negotiation tips Chris. Thanks. One thing you should consider is that the majority of people in the world who negotiate in English are not 100% fluent in understanding. And I would suggest that negotiation between different cultures requires a more subtle view in able to teach people these strategies. Listening to understand is the first step for many non English speakers, then a listening to respond is the second. Time is needed and also time to think is a strategy we can benefit from. There was an article in the economist a few years ago explain the different cultures and strategies used by people whose first language is not English, which its about 90% or all people who need to negotiate I would guess, in the world. The article showed how much better non natives are at negotiating. Sorry I do not have the link but I used it with my diplomats. Listening requires an aspect of thought and silence or pausing, for want of a better word, and I would like to know, as a negotiation strategy, if you have anything that could help these people. Thanks again.

  • @jabezkikurui
    @jabezkikurui Жыл бұрын

    I'm from kenya 🇰🇪 and it seems you are the kind of persom that would look to hear 'that's right' from the person you're talking to just to make them feel understood.

  • @gabigabi9248
    @gabigabi92482 жыл бұрын

    Been a Black Swan student for a while and I still make these mistakes.

  • @ury2936

    @ury2936

    Жыл бұрын

    What is the collor of a young black swan?

  • @jt4369
    @jt43692 жыл бұрын

    Thanks, Chris. As someone who is more inclined towards engineering and philosophy, this all makes complete sense: I've been doing pretty much exactly the opposite of what I'm "supposed" to be doing. Basically, this tells me that sincerity and honesty are not sought. Says a lot about human beings.

  • @Julie-ns3vh
    @Julie-ns3vh2 жыл бұрын

    Happy thanksgiving 🍁 could you do a video on how to communicate with toxic family during the holidays?

  • @awalton9024
    @awalton90242 жыл бұрын

    Worse than "I understand" is "I hear you". That always irritated me! On the surface I thought: What are you usually deaf or am I a low talker? But the real problem is what it says underneath: "Yeah, yeah, I hear your B.S. and I don't care".

  • @YoshevElazarMikael
    @YoshevElazarMikael5 ай бұрын

    Listening is the tool that drives empathy, and empathy is the key, to getting the most out of the deal, for everyone who is involved.

  • @Dabu-Dabu
    @Dabu-Dabu2 жыл бұрын

    This stuff is awesome. I've been droping No oriented questions at work; looks like stuff that previously wouldn't even budge, way above my paygrade will now change signifficantly (it was about delegating entire process to anohter team, so that ours could focus more on core responsibilities). And that knowledge is free.. I mean, come on

  • @jabezkikurui

    @jabezkikurui

    Жыл бұрын

    You sound like you will be using this stuff in the future because you loved how it made your team stay focused on core responsibilities at work.

  • @zeropain9319
    @zeropain93192 жыл бұрын

    Love your videos, thanks Chris

  • @kjo7256
    @kjo72562 жыл бұрын

    Chris, you are the master!!

  • @carloseduardonaranjosuarez5917
    @carloseduardonaranjosuarez59172 жыл бұрын

    Thank you very much Chris, great content you have recorded on this video, thank you

  • @figward
    @figward2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for sharing.

  • @xpansionteam1537
    @xpansionteam15372 жыл бұрын

    Amazing thanks chris

  • @allanmeloam93
    @allanmeloam932 жыл бұрын

    I watch and laugh. I am really happy to hear you Chris.

  • @AfricanFlightStar
    @AfricanFlightStar Жыл бұрын

    Absolutely brilliant stuff, much appreciated Sir! 👍🏼👍🏼💥💥👏🏼👏🏼

  • @clifblake
    @clifblake Жыл бұрын

    Thank you !

  • @DianeLeon
    @DianeLeon2 жыл бұрын

    Ola. MR. Voss, Gracia for sharing and Feliz thanksgiving to you and your familia.🙏

  • @munyabrownn
    @munyabrownn Жыл бұрын

    The way you speak alone is enough to capture me... Thank you for the channel. It has helped me a lot in my businesses

  • @NegotiationMastery

    @NegotiationMastery

    Жыл бұрын

    Glad we can help! For more incredible and ground breaking information visit our website www.blackswanltd.com. Thank you for watching!

  • @markg5986
    @markg59862 жыл бұрын

    Thank you.

  • @bubba0701
    @bubba07012 жыл бұрын

    Love the content Voss is boss!

  • @joryiansmith
    @joryiansmith2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you boss man!

  • @Mista1deep
    @Mista1deep2 жыл бұрын

    Steel-manning the other sides argument. Great bits of information.

  • @kamaalmcilwain3449
    @kamaalmcilwain3449 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you man 🙏🏾

  • @ekahlanuza7421
    @ekahlanuza74212 жыл бұрын

    Happy Thanksgiving to the Black Swan Group

  • @EJSimonsen
    @EJSimonsen2 жыл бұрын

    That's right!!

  • @mrdibujante
    @mrdibujante2 жыл бұрын

    That's right

  • @nathanbanks2354
    @nathanbanks23542 жыл бұрын

    Biggest Takeaway: seeing Ego, Authority, Failure featured prominently on the bookshelf. I've only read Never Slit the Difference.

  • @baconseggs
    @baconseggs2 жыл бұрын

    Happy thanksgiving Mr V!

  • @zivatouitou1196
    @zivatouitou11969 ай бұрын

    Brilliant 👏

  • @NegotiationMastery

    @NegotiationMastery

    9 ай бұрын

    Hey Thanks!

  • @karengates925
    @karengates9252 жыл бұрын

    So awesome...

  • @T..C..M
    @T..C..M2 жыл бұрын

    I had to up the speed to 1.25, audio seems slow on this one. Good info as always!

  • @Cheesecake99YearsAgo
    @Cheesecake99YearsAgo2 жыл бұрын

    9:32 Great examples

  • @AlexDonnett

    @AlexDonnett

    Жыл бұрын

    What made you pick your name?

  • @danieljduchesne
    @danieljduchesne2 жыл бұрын

    Good stuff my friend

  • @rml1643
    @rml16432 жыл бұрын

    Great! When is your next book coming?

  • @TheBusinessRenovator
    @TheBusinessRenovator2 жыл бұрын

    I have been a fan and a student for about 3 years - The Masterclass is gold , recommend and I coach others on the Chris' Black Swan methods, oral and written has been a game changer... Thank you Chris

  • @dbultrowicz

    @dbultrowicz

    2 жыл бұрын

    What did you learn and what did it give you?

  • @thequeenofwitches7943

    @thequeenofwitches7943

    2 жыл бұрын

    Oral and written has been a game changer?...

  • @TheBusinessRenovator

    @TheBusinessRenovator

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@dbultrowicz was able to get all of the proposed amount on a 6 figure contract. It’s given me a way to diffuse resistance in possible conflicts and moved people along the buyers journey with ease, low if any resistance.

  • @mimo1983
    @mimo19832 жыл бұрын

    IS it ridiculous for me to say that I enjoyed this video immensely and got a lot from it?

  • @Words_in_Action

    @Words_in_Action

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes! Because I know what you are doing. Lol

  • @add_Ilija31
    @add_Ilija312 жыл бұрын

    It seems like you've given up all your energy to make this video successful ? Professor Voss, you are unstoppable. Keep moving forward. I am rooting for you! :)

  • @dontaesteel5748
    @dontaesteel57482 жыл бұрын

    There Definitely is a top 3.

  • @T..C..M
    @T..C..M2 жыл бұрын

    Question! Is there gonna be a sequel to NSD? Even about another topic? I've listened to the book around 35 times and know it by heart, it's like I'm chasing the dragon to get that feeling I had during the first read in 11/2019! Life changing book!

  • @scottsears5545

    @scottsears5545

    2 жыл бұрын

    Masterclass on his website

  • @beanrunnerWA
    @beanrunnerWA2 жыл бұрын

    Voss is boss!

  • @anthonyborg1990
    @anthonyborg19909 ай бұрын

    Late to the game. In order to get me out of the habit of i understand because everything you said about it is true. I substituted it with. my understanding with what your saying is...

  • @davidlinehat4657
    @davidlinehat4657 Жыл бұрын

    "I understand" is a great phrase when your boss has given you your marching orders, not during a negotiation

  • @xeeshankhan2020
    @xeeshankhan20202 жыл бұрын

    Hi there Can anyone suggest what Late Nigh DJs sounds like? any DJs recommended by The BSG

  • @NegotiationMastery

    @NegotiationMastery

    2 жыл бұрын

    Here's how to do the Late-Night FM DJ Voice: kzread.info/dash/bejne/hH6e0M2xpsXekaw.html

  • @abrahamshabatee4384
    @abrahamshabatee43842 жыл бұрын

    thank u mr. voss where can i get personal traning ? thanks in advance

  • @NegotiationMastery

    @NegotiationMastery

    2 жыл бұрын

    We're slated to have brand new courses for 2022! You can see a list of our current courses here: www.blackswanltd.com/services/training-for-individuals

  • @omare5383
    @omare53832 жыл бұрын

    What is a good alternative for " I understand" ?

  • @deltaraider87

    @deltaraider87

    2 жыл бұрын

    A label would work... It (or you) sounds/seems/looks like...

  • @thequeenofwitches7943
    @thequeenofwitches79432 жыл бұрын

    I wonder if this works on someone with a Narcissistic Disorder.

  • @TheBusinessRenovator

    @TheBusinessRenovator

    2 жыл бұрын

    On Narcissistic Disorder?

  • @thequeenofwitches7943

    @thequeenofwitches7943

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@TheBusinessRenovator I am going to recommend you a You Tube channel, it is called, Snake diet with Cole Robinson.

  • @dividedwefall652
    @dividedwefall6522 жыл бұрын

    “ Happy Thanksgiving 🍁!” Chriss! Are you okay?

  • @shortdog876
    @shortdog8762 жыл бұрын

    Are there other words or phrases that we should remove from our brains? Removing "I understand" is going to be very useful.

  • @dividedwefall652
    @dividedwefall6522 жыл бұрын

    We are dealing with criminals, these people have no ethics!!

  • @user-mj6sl9qv8j
    @user-mj6sl9qv8j Жыл бұрын

    Great content as always - delivery seems strangely sleepy/ drunk - everything ok?

  • @ingridchristensen9523
    @ingridchristensen9523 Жыл бұрын

    It seems like there is a lot of Sun Tzu mindset and skills in your method.

  • @laurahankins8183
    @laurahankins81832 жыл бұрын

    Will I ever meet you

  • @TheObserver567

    @TheObserver567

    2 жыл бұрын

    Ask yourself how can i and work on making it happen

  • @Cheesecake99YearsAgo

    @Cheesecake99YearsAgo

    2 жыл бұрын

    Become his next customer to meet him lol

  • @chuckMvideos

    @chuckMvideos

    2 жыл бұрын

    Open ended question 👆. "Is it a ridiculous idea to meet face to face soon?"

  • @outlaw1179
    @outlaw11792 жыл бұрын

    Let's go brandon

  • @artofverity8791
    @artofverity87912 жыл бұрын

    The book should be called "Like your life depends on it" Never split the what? Confuzzling..

  • @user-pw8fd6ce8e
    @user-pw8fd6ce8e Жыл бұрын

    Someday Someday you'll be at 69 comments 😄

  • @MikeHunt-rw4gf
    @MikeHunt-rw4gf2 жыл бұрын

    Algorithm.

  • @JohnOwensgoogle
    @JohnOwensgoogle Жыл бұрын

    Can you please make some new videos instead of repurposing the old clips.

  • @ivyking4149
    @ivyking41492 жыл бұрын

    How about that übermacho manner of speaking. I wonder of that hurt any negotiaton he's been in? Black swan....pfff

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