The mini board game on the second Kingdom hearts! Not sure I've ever actually finished the main game 😂 LOVE puzzle games! Though flow, and flowers are really pretty hassle free games 💙
@Zebo26210 сағат бұрын
I think you should just get the cape anyway (^_^) 💙💙💙
@joshuawilson197911 сағат бұрын
Society has created crutches for broken people through labels and medications. "I dont feel good , oh then you must have this, so take this pill...i feel sad, so take this, im too excitable, take this pill". I suffer as the next person, but choose not to be a pharma slave.
@makeyourlifeaworkofart14 сағат бұрын
I explained it to someone sort of okay-ish the other day! I said, “I need to not.--------- For a while before I can meet you.” I think they might’ve said something in that blank space, but the fact that I stopped intentionally, they seemed to understand a little bit.
@samanthaw565214 сағат бұрын
So sorry to hear about your cat. I had to say goodbye to my 4 year old cat who had heart failure only 2 days ago. 💔
@KurtvonLaven015 сағат бұрын
Yes, there are differences in speech and body language cadence and timing that are evident to some in many people with autism, and I do notice some of those in your videos, Purple Ella. The differences are often not evident to people with autism in my experience. Many people with autism can probably simply not worry about this as it may not affect their life in any significant way. After all, this video has a whopping 679K views at present! If it's important to people, or impacting their life more significantly, my instinct would be to try improv acting or public speaking classes with good teachers since may be able to help you notice subtle differences in timing and delivery that can affect how others perceive you.
@Shaw737320 сағат бұрын
Real autistic person here. I don't understand half of these words. This is kinda cringe to me. It sounds like shes talking about cancer or something, not just having a different brain.
@antler801922 сағат бұрын
other than addictions (all of which i've now kicked), i am Always trying to find a way to make or stay on a routine. if i don't have external things like jobs, family members or addictions creating some sense of time, expectation or order, i forget Everything and end up hungry, dehydrated, and distracted. or focussed on things that have Nothing to do with what i set out to do.
@RadishTheFoolКүн бұрын
I love that pure joy in your eyes and smile and body language. 🥰
@Sunnyflower67Күн бұрын
😂Omg! How cute you are when all excited about Taylor. I think I'd rather throw myself off of a bridge than pull you away from a good Swifty conversation. 👍🏼 I wouldn't qualify as a Swifty, but I do like some of her songs. ❤ MY favorite thing about her is that she's a great human being. She's very sweet and treats everyone well. I'm in the States, embarrassingly enough, and some people here don't like her views. **Some very bad people who would like to see her harmed because of those views. 😕 [yet her views are nothing but peaceful]
@janekelly9968Күн бұрын
Also an autistic swiftie! Liverpool June 15th xx
@Sunnyflower67Күн бұрын
I wonder if a big concert like that is difficult for most autistics. I wouldn't go to a big venue. When I was younger, before I knew I was audhd, I used to wear earplugs to tone down the music. Although I think most neurotypicals agree that the music is really loud at rock concerts! 👂
@switchunboxingКүн бұрын
For me, they didn’t have me do any storytelling. My test was for ADHD and autism. First thing is, they sat me at a laptop and flashed a letter on the screen, and that would change every second. I was supposed to tap on the space bar on every letter, I saw a pop up, except for the letter X. I’m pretty sure this part was for ADHD, but who knows. I’m not sure if it’s part of the test, but during this, sometimes she made a little bit of noise like rustling some papers, nothing too out of the ordinary, it’s like she was working, but I noticed whenever she did that, I messed up, and I was pressing the button on the X when I wasn’t supposed to. Then I had a 20 page questionairre. Then we played a buncha games on the iPad like patterns and I had to pick multiple choice what would be the fifth pattern in the sequence. Or I had different colored blocks and I had to make them accurately show the design shown on the iPad screen. Then for the last thing she had a wooden peg and I had to put these wooden rings on it to match the stack of rings shown in the picture. It was called The Tower. Idk all the games were kinda fun. And she played an audio tape of a woman saying things like “78BG6” and ask me how many letters were there? Then she would give me 2 words and say “tell me what these words have in common”. Like “accept” and “deny” and I’d have to be like “they are words that can change the outcome of a situation based on which one you choose” stuff like that. And she would say “what else?” But then she asked me random things like “who is Martin Luther king” and “why is it important to study history?” and “who is cleopatra?” Haha shit idk. I felt like that was an IQ test. I already told them before, I never cared for history and geometry and stuff back in grade school. Then lastly I had a 400-question “self report” questionnaire to fill out that asked questions like “do you have anger outbursts” and “do you have a fear of driving on the highway” and “do you feel like you have friends you can talk to” “do you describe yourself as a loner” “do you think you could be a successful comedian?” “Do you wait until the last minute to get things done?” “Are you impatient?” “Do you get along with people” “is it easy for you to make friends”. Things like that. Idk I feel like they would have needed to just have more actual conversation with me so I could tell them my quirks but idk whatev.
@switchunboxingКүн бұрын
Other weird things that may have been on purpose… She gave me a choice between blue pen and purple pen. Then 30 min later when we did forms again she was grabbing the pen and said “Was yours the blue one?” And I said yes haha then felt like woahhh was that a test? Then like 30 min later before a word test, she told me she’s gonna give me the pen back. If I promise not to play or fidget with it. Hahaha WHAT THE FUCK. For context, I had not fidgeted with it before or anything. Maybe she was testing my anger. I said “Okay. Wait why??” and I felt offended. Then it clicked that it was a test. So I made sure to not grab it and play either it while doing the verbal word test. And I did great. Never picked it up or anything. Also I hope this was a test too… It got colder and colder in that room. As it can do in office buildings. I’m only there for a few hours so I didn’t say anything. I wanted to, but I had already asked for a cup of water and taken so many bathroom breaks. I didn’t want to be another. Towards the end she says “sheeeesh it’s getting cold. Do you feel alright?” And I told her yeah it’s superrrr cold. I told her my hands are numb. And she said “oh you should have said something sooner” and gahhh I felt like a loser. Then she goes “well I shouldn’t put that one you. I should have asked sooner.” And I didn’t say anything. That stuck with me though. I felt so blamed and shamed for not telling her I was cold. I told her everybody has their own body temps so whatever. And lastly, sometimes when going over instructions, she said it VERY quickly. But usually when going over the non important parts. I think the first time I didn’t say anything. But the second time because I wanted to do it right and get good testing results, I told her “okay you’re saying that wayyy fast. Would you mind saying that again slower?” Then caught on that she was just going through stuff that I had already understood because I was quick to get the puzzle right anyway. So idk she did it again later where she read fast but whatever. But really thinking back, that was really abnormal how quickly she was reading, so that has to have been part of the test haha. Maybe testing my patience and trying to see if I will speak up for myself or see if I will have a meltdown or get upset or have an anger outburst or something. But no I just kept it inside. I still feel insulted and offended that she would read so quickly and blame me for the cold room.
@switchunboxingКүн бұрын
Just did my assessment yesterday and I felt it strange that no one shook my hand. But I kinda liked it haha
@switchunboxingКүн бұрын
Adult Autism assessment starts 5:08
@suprhomreКүн бұрын
Have you guys ever wanted to turn it off? Because, sometime it feels like my head and instinct is working opposite each other.
@orangesnowflake3769Күн бұрын
I love jellycat too!
@paulwatson7411Күн бұрын
I think she is girly because i heard on the radio that florence is going to perform with taylor ❤❤❤❤❤❤ Im a swifty if you camt tell❤❤❤❤❤
@toothless4799Күн бұрын
I am not going but PRAYING this happens for you! ❤
@puppet2090Күн бұрын
Wooo i’m so excited too girly pop
@victoriaclarkson8421Күн бұрын
Hi
@vegandollsКүн бұрын
taylor is your special interest. holy shit that's lame. you and every 11 year old white girl with liberal parents
@girafflesКүн бұрын
not as lame as you posting something like this, didn't your mother ever tell you if you don't have anything nice to say then you shouldn't say anything at all?
@JennaCielaКүн бұрын
Is there a word for this when you have this response but to objects instead of sounds? I used to get the sensation from seeing balls of metallic candy wrapper after it’s been eaten and bottlcaps without the bottle.
@AutisticAwakeActivistКүн бұрын
I have had public melt downs that got me arrested. On the occasions I was in the right. It police abused me with handcuffs for following onbudsman procedure in the shop. And I had been scammed by someone claiming I owed money. This turned out to be an actual scammer and 3-4 months after that melt down which posted in these scams. I had a few scams that caused me to lose some money. People are cruel.
@lewis8290Күн бұрын
You’re an adult. You shouldn’t be having melt downs in public? All you had to do was ask for a manager, explain and get your money back for the drink. WITHOUT getting emotional.
@1renegadegeekКүн бұрын
I never thought about it before, but no. Everything is a to-do list, checklist, or routine that I have to consciously choose to engage in. It's that way for my whole family (We're all on the spectrum so it's our normal to have timers, alarms, and lists for everything.)
@rxrexe2687Күн бұрын
as an autistic recovering addict idk about that one
@moonyfruitКүн бұрын
I suspect I have ADHD & autism. Nope, never. I have to actively think about it, always.
@Chaotic_PixieКүн бұрын
I have ADHD and I do form habits. When I get home from anywhere I immediately get my phone out of my bag. And I know this is a habit because when I do get distracted & don’t, I can tell something feels off with the universe. And I know this is a habit because I do it at hotels, staying with family, or even visiting a friend or going out to a meal… if I’m sitting down, I get my phone out. I may not look at it, but it’s there. It’s visible. Same with going to bed & hugging a specific stuffed toy. If I don’t have it… I can’t find it… nothing is right with the world… and this holds true regardless of where I sleep. Or when I leave the house and I twist the knob to double check I did indeed remember to lock it. I know this is a habit because I do it at hotels too… they automatically lock! I would argue your spouse’s tea thing isn’t a habit but a ritual. If you take him out of his environment, does he seek tea? If not, it’s a workplace ritual. It’s no different than my spouse drinking coffee when he gets to work but never touching the stuff at home. Do you have a specific place you always go to sit? Like a certain corner of the couch? Do you try to get the equivalent corner when sitting at other peoples’ homes? If so, that’s a habit. For me, it’s the left corner.
@labellissimabritneyellis7230Күн бұрын
Nope, not a single one. I can do the same thing at the same time in the same way every day for a year, but the moment I cannot complete that routine it is gone. Everything is though out and deliberate all the time. Exhausting.
@ItsunclegabbyКүн бұрын
The blue axolotl is GORGEOUS
@bingus4118Күн бұрын
well shit you right
@camellia8625Күн бұрын
Thank goodness they will be out by late January
@prettybird29Күн бұрын
I LOVE THE PICKLE!!!
@rainbowmonkMCКүн бұрын
as a nonbinary transwoman, i also masked in all the ways you claim "afab" act. i want to say that transwomen are women and are socialized as transwomen -- i.e. we pay very much attention to how girls and boys are socialized and we internalized all of it. esp as someone with autism.
@gqauspice7634Күн бұрын
NVLD - The closest thing I get to having a habit is the impetus to sleep when the sun is down and eat occasionally. It’s been a difficult challenge learning how to build routines to ensure I get everything I need to done. 😅
@jaimemartinez-wt1ieКүн бұрын
Exactly!! going thur this right now
@AmandaYoung-mi5xeКүн бұрын
I love this Simplicity by planning and it is taking care of yourself. Love it I am going to create a book too.
@kizzyface5653Күн бұрын
I'm dying of laughter. 😂 Had to restart video three times cause I kept zoning out. Then got to that "and if you're not paying attention now, enjoy that sweet, sweet irony."
@BliffleSplickКүн бұрын
DBT has its issues but I have found the Radical Acceptance to be a life changer. Its hard because it butts up against the sense of fairness aspect we have, but letting life be a bit unfair actually eases things a bit. Fewer battles to fight and such.
@ayo-pc4cfКүн бұрын
Literally going to see frozen tomorrow, I'm going to bed now SO EXCITED
@joannehabeggerКүн бұрын
Thank you! This is very hard for me to apply at the moment because I have to work for a few more days with someone who won't let me have even 5 minutes to check my whatsapp messages (which helps me take my brain away from the work). But I did see today and yesterday that taking a full hour away from work people did help me a lot to get to the end of the day without feeling like I was gonna explode or yell at them. Yet, when I do that, I somwtimes feel like people are gonna judge me for staying on my own at lunch, thinking that I'm an awkward lonely person who doesn't try to fit in. Truth is I don't if I don't feel comfortable with the people 😅
@RadishTheFoolКүн бұрын
I recently shared some advice with my daughter that is based on a realisation I had when I was in my early twenties. It's helped both of us immensely, so maybe it helps you and/or people in the comments. Emotions can be real without being right. If I feel sad or angry or scared, that feeling is real. And maybe I can't get rid of it. But that doesn't mean my thoughts have to agree with that emotion. So, we can consciously place a thought NEXT to that emotion. So we can feel sad AND we know mom isn't really angry with us. For example, my daughter can feel scared from a movie AND know that the movie isn't real. The feeling is valid and may make her not want to watch the movie anymore. That's valid. Telling her the movie isn't real doesn't remove the fear, doesn't mean she has to watch it anyway, but may help her to learn over time to watch movies with a scary scene in them (but only if she wants to). Then recently we discussed that sometimes both her emotions AND her thoughts were lying to her. She felt scared to play outside AND her thoughts were also telling her something bad would happen. So then we talked about how there is no limits to thoughts. We can add another thought next to the emotion and that first thought. That second thought can be that it's not likely that anything will happen. If that's not enough, we can keep adding thoughts. We thought of some more common things that could happen, and how bad they would actually be, as well as what she could do if those happened. Etc. Has she started playing outside by herself yet? No. But she feels more at ease with the thought that she may want to in the future. The idea has become less scary, but most importantly: the emotion plus that first thought have become less scary. Because she feels more control now. She knows that emotions are real but aren't always right. She knows she can always add a thought next to what's already there. Just because the feeling didn't disappear, nor that first thought, doesn't mean she has to keep feeling and thinking it until she can completely believe it's not true. It doesn't make the emotions go away, but it makes the emotions less scary. Less absolute. They can lie to us, they can be mistaken, they can overwhelm us, they can linger. But we can always place an extra thought next to them. Because our emotions are always real, but they're not always right.
@MsTachkeКүн бұрын
I can imagine this I try to prevent it just by drinking a nice cup of thee and covering myself in soft blankets or taking my cuddly toy.
@abstracttrxp5659Күн бұрын
Is it normal to feel overwhelming frustration that no one noticed?
@EmOrganically2 күн бұрын
PS I am SO SO sorry to hear about your pet -losing mine was ridiculously hard so I do understand.
@EmOrganically2 күн бұрын
I SO relate with all of this. <3
@adventuresofdouglasandwall15532 күн бұрын
I had and still have a shock from the loss I experienced. I’m sorry to hear about your cat loosing an animal companion is hard. No one was understanding about my type of sadness
@k.willis48002 күн бұрын
Do you ever just not feel anything? People will ask me how I feel and I'm just like I don't know right now. Or they'll ask me my opinion and I don't have one because I don't favor either choice nor dislike either choice. It makes it really difficult to connect with people and people get really uncomfortable with me because of it.
@TheCambra2 күн бұрын
I have severe chronic fatigue syndrome which I can't even function. There's no possible way I can ever find out the reason
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Noface! (^_^) 💙
The mini board game on the second Kingdom hearts! Not sure I've ever actually finished the main game 😂 LOVE puzzle games! Though flow, and flowers are really pretty hassle free games 💙
I think you should just get the cape anyway (^_^) 💙💙💙
Society has created crutches for broken people through labels and medications. "I dont feel good , oh then you must have this, so take this pill...i feel sad, so take this, im too excitable, take this pill". I suffer as the next person, but choose not to be a pharma slave.
I explained it to someone sort of okay-ish the other day! I said, “I need to not.--------- For a while before I can meet you.” I think they might’ve said something in that blank space, but the fact that I stopped intentionally, they seemed to understand a little bit.
So sorry to hear about your cat. I had to say goodbye to my 4 year old cat who had heart failure only 2 days ago. 💔
Yes, there are differences in speech and body language cadence and timing that are evident to some in many people with autism, and I do notice some of those in your videos, Purple Ella. The differences are often not evident to people with autism in my experience. Many people with autism can probably simply not worry about this as it may not affect their life in any significant way. After all, this video has a whopping 679K views at present! If it's important to people, or impacting their life more significantly, my instinct would be to try improv acting or public speaking classes with good teachers since may be able to help you notice subtle differences in timing and delivery that can affect how others perceive you.
Real autistic person here. I don't understand half of these words. This is kinda cringe to me. It sounds like shes talking about cancer or something, not just having a different brain.
other than addictions (all of which i've now kicked), i am Always trying to find a way to make or stay on a routine. if i don't have external things like jobs, family members or addictions creating some sense of time, expectation or order, i forget Everything and end up hungry, dehydrated, and distracted. or focussed on things that have Nothing to do with what i set out to do.
I love that pure joy in your eyes and smile and body language. 🥰
😂Omg! How cute you are when all excited about Taylor. I think I'd rather throw myself off of a bridge than pull you away from a good Swifty conversation. 👍🏼 I wouldn't qualify as a Swifty, but I do like some of her songs. ❤ MY favorite thing about her is that she's a great human being. She's very sweet and treats everyone well. I'm in the States, embarrassingly enough, and some people here don't like her views. **Some very bad people who would like to see her harmed because of those views. 😕 [yet her views are nothing but peaceful]
Also an autistic swiftie! Liverpool June 15th xx
I wonder if a big concert like that is difficult for most autistics. I wouldn't go to a big venue. When I was younger, before I knew I was audhd, I used to wear earplugs to tone down the music. Although I think most neurotypicals agree that the music is really loud at rock concerts! 👂
For me, they didn’t have me do any storytelling. My test was for ADHD and autism. First thing is, they sat me at a laptop and flashed a letter on the screen, and that would change every second. I was supposed to tap on the space bar on every letter, I saw a pop up, except for the letter X. I’m pretty sure this part was for ADHD, but who knows. I’m not sure if it’s part of the test, but during this, sometimes she made a little bit of noise like rustling some papers, nothing too out of the ordinary, it’s like she was working, but I noticed whenever she did that, I messed up, and I was pressing the button on the X when I wasn’t supposed to. Then I had a 20 page questionairre. Then we played a buncha games on the iPad like patterns and I had to pick multiple choice what would be the fifth pattern in the sequence. Or I had different colored blocks and I had to make them accurately show the design shown on the iPad screen. Then for the last thing she had a wooden peg and I had to put these wooden rings on it to match the stack of rings shown in the picture. It was called The Tower. Idk all the games were kinda fun. And she played an audio tape of a woman saying things like “78BG6” and ask me how many letters were there? Then she would give me 2 words and say “tell me what these words have in common”. Like “accept” and “deny” and I’d have to be like “they are words that can change the outcome of a situation based on which one you choose” stuff like that. And she would say “what else?” But then she asked me random things like “who is Martin Luther king” and “why is it important to study history?” and “who is cleopatra?” Haha shit idk. I felt like that was an IQ test. I already told them before, I never cared for history and geometry and stuff back in grade school. Then lastly I had a 400-question “self report” questionnaire to fill out that asked questions like “do you have anger outbursts” and “do you have a fear of driving on the highway” and “do you feel like you have friends you can talk to” “do you describe yourself as a loner” “do you think you could be a successful comedian?” “Do you wait until the last minute to get things done?” “Are you impatient?” “Do you get along with people” “is it easy for you to make friends”. Things like that. Idk I feel like they would have needed to just have more actual conversation with me so I could tell them my quirks but idk whatev.
Other weird things that may have been on purpose… She gave me a choice between blue pen and purple pen. Then 30 min later when we did forms again she was grabbing the pen and said “Was yours the blue one?” And I said yes haha then felt like woahhh was that a test? Then like 30 min later before a word test, she told me she’s gonna give me the pen back. If I promise not to play or fidget with it. Hahaha WHAT THE FUCK. For context, I had not fidgeted with it before or anything. Maybe she was testing my anger. I said “Okay. Wait why??” and I felt offended. Then it clicked that it was a test. So I made sure to not grab it and play either it while doing the verbal word test. And I did great. Never picked it up or anything. Also I hope this was a test too… It got colder and colder in that room. As it can do in office buildings. I’m only there for a few hours so I didn’t say anything. I wanted to, but I had already asked for a cup of water and taken so many bathroom breaks. I didn’t want to be another. Towards the end she says “sheeeesh it’s getting cold. Do you feel alright?” And I told her yeah it’s superrrr cold. I told her my hands are numb. And she said “oh you should have said something sooner” and gahhh I felt like a loser. Then she goes “well I shouldn’t put that one you. I should have asked sooner.” And I didn’t say anything. That stuck with me though. I felt so blamed and shamed for not telling her I was cold. I told her everybody has their own body temps so whatever. And lastly, sometimes when going over instructions, she said it VERY quickly. But usually when going over the non important parts. I think the first time I didn’t say anything. But the second time because I wanted to do it right and get good testing results, I told her “okay you’re saying that wayyy fast. Would you mind saying that again slower?” Then caught on that she was just going through stuff that I had already understood because I was quick to get the puzzle right anyway. So idk she did it again later where she read fast but whatever. But really thinking back, that was really abnormal how quickly she was reading, so that has to have been part of the test haha. Maybe testing my patience and trying to see if I will speak up for myself or see if I will have a meltdown or get upset or have an anger outburst or something. But no I just kept it inside. I still feel insulted and offended that she would read so quickly and blame me for the cold room.
Just did my assessment yesterday and I felt it strange that no one shook my hand. But I kinda liked it haha
Adult Autism assessment starts 5:08
Have you guys ever wanted to turn it off? Because, sometime it feels like my head and instinct is working opposite each other.
I love jellycat too!
I think she is girly because i heard on the radio that florence is going to perform with taylor ❤❤❤❤❤❤ Im a swifty if you camt tell❤❤❤❤❤
I am not going but PRAYING this happens for you! ❤
Wooo i’m so excited too girly pop
Hi
taylor is your special interest. holy shit that's lame. you and every 11 year old white girl with liberal parents
not as lame as you posting something like this, didn't your mother ever tell you if you don't have anything nice to say then you shouldn't say anything at all?
Is there a word for this when you have this response but to objects instead of sounds? I used to get the sensation from seeing balls of metallic candy wrapper after it’s been eaten and bottlcaps without the bottle.
I have had public melt downs that got me arrested. On the occasions I was in the right. It police abused me with handcuffs for following onbudsman procedure in the shop. And I had been scammed by someone claiming I owed money. This turned out to be an actual scammer and 3-4 months after that melt down which posted in these scams. I had a few scams that caused me to lose some money. People are cruel.
You’re an adult. You shouldn’t be having melt downs in public? All you had to do was ask for a manager, explain and get your money back for the drink. WITHOUT getting emotional.
I never thought about it before, but no. Everything is a to-do list, checklist, or routine that I have to consciously choose to engage in. It's that way for my whole family (We're all on the spectrum so it's our normal to have timers, alarms, and lists for everything.)
as an autistic recovering addict idk about that one
I suspect I have ADHD & autism. Nope, never. I have to actively think about it, always.
I have ADHD and I do form habits. When I get home from anywhere I immediately get my phone out of my bag. And I know this is a habit because when I do get distracted & don’t, I can tell something feels off with the universe. And I know this is a habit because I do it at hotels, staying with family, or even visiting a friend or going out to a meal… if I’m sitting down, I get my phone out. I may not look at it, but it’s there. It’s visible. Same with going to bed & hugging a specific stuffed toy. If I don’t have it… I can’t find it… nothing is right with the world… and this holds true regardless of where I sleep. Or when I leave the house and I twist the knob to double check I did indeed remember to lock it. I know this is a habit because I do it at hotels too… they automatically lock! I would argue your spouse’s tea thing isn’t a habit but a ritual. If you take him out of his environment, does he seek tea? If not, it’s a workplace ritual. It’s no different than my spouse drinking coffee when he gets to work but never touching the stuff at home. Do you have a specific place you always go to sit? Like a certain corner of the couch? Do you try to get the equivalent corner when sitting at other peoples’ homes? If so, that’s a habit. For me, it’s the left corner.
Nope, not a single one. I can do the same thing at the same time in the same way every day for a year, but the moment I cannot complete that routine it is gone. Everything is though out and deliberate all the time. Exhausting.
The blue axolotl is GORGEOUS
well shit you right
Thank goodness they will be out by late January
I LOVE THE PICKLE!!!
as a nonbinary transwoman, i also masked in all the ways you claim "afab" act. i want to say that transwomen are women and are socialized as transwomen -- i.e. we pay very much attention to how girls and boys are socialized and we internalized all of it. esp as someone with autism.
NVLD - The closest thing I get to having a habit is the impetus to sleep when the sun is down and eat occasionally. It’s been a difficult challenge learning how to build routines to ensure I get everything I need to done. 😅
Exactly!! going thur this right now
I love this Simplicity by planning and it is taking care of yourself. Love it I am going to create a book too.
I'm dying of laughter. 😂 Had to restart video three times cause I kept zoning out. Then got to that "and if you're not paying attention now, enjoy that sweet, sweet irony."
DBT has its issues but I have found the Radical Acceptance to be a life changer. Its hard because it butts up against the sense of fairness aspect we have, but letting life be a bit unfair actually eases things a bit. Fewer battles to fight and such.
Literally going to see frozen tomorrow, I'm going to bed now SO EXCITED
Thank you! This is very hard for me to apply at the moment because I have to work for a few more days with someone who won't let me have even 5 minutes to check my whatsapp messages (which helps me take my brain away from the work). But I did see today and yesterday that taking a full hour away from work people did help me a lot to get to the end of the day without feeling like I was gonna explode or yell at them. Yet, when I do that, I somwtimes feel like people are gonna judge me for staying on my own at lunch, thinking that I'm an awkward lonely person who doesn't try to fit in. Truth is I don't if I don't feel comfortable with the people 😅
I recently shared some advice with my daughter that is based on a realisation I had when I was in my early twenties. It's helped both of us immensely, so maybe it helps you and/or people in the comments. Emotions can be real without being right. If I feel sad or angry or scared, that feeling is real. And maybe I can't get rid of it. But that doesn't mean my thoughts have to agree with that emotion. So, we can consciously place a thought NEXT to that emotion. So we can feel sad AND we know mom isn't really angry with us. For example, my daughter can feel scared from a movie AND know that the movie isn't real. The feeling is valid and may make her not want to watch the movie anymore. That's valid. Telling her the movie isn't real doesn't remove the fear, doesn't mean she has to watch it anyway, but may help her to learn over time to watch movies with a scary scene in them (but only if she wants to). Then recently we discussed that sometimes both her emotions AND her thoughts were lying to her. She felt scared to play outside AND her thoughts were also telling her something bad would happen. So then we talked about how there is no limits to thoughts. We can add another thought next to the emotion and that first thought. That second thought can be that it's not likely that anything will happen. If that's not enough, we can keep adding thoughts. We thought of some more common things that could happen, and how bad they would actually be, as well as what she could do if those happened. Etc. Has she started playing outside by herself yet? No. But she feels more at ease with the thought that she may want to in the future. The idea has become less scary, but most importantly: the emotion plus that first thought have become less scary. Because she feels more control now. She knows that emotions are real but aren't always right. She knows she can always add a thought next to what's already there. Just because the feeling didn't disappear, nor that first thought, doesn't mean she has to keep feeling and thinking it until she can completely believe it's not true. It doesn't make the emotions go away, but it makes the emotions less scary. Less absolute. They can lie to us, they can be mistaken, they can overwhelm us, they can linger. But we can always place an extra thought next to them. Because our emotions are always real, but they're not always right.
I can imagine this I try to prevent it just by drinking a nice cup of thee and covering myself in soft blankets or taking my cuddly toy.
Is it normal to feel overwhelming frustration that no one noticed?
PS I am SO SO sorry to hear about your pet -losing mine was ridiculously hard so I do understand.
I SO relate with all of this. <3
I had and still have a shock from the loss I experienced. I’m sorry to hear about your cat loosing an animal companion is hard. No one was understanding about my type of sadness
Do you ever just not feel anything? People will ask me how I feel and I'm just like I don't know right now. Or they'll ask me my opinion and I don't have one because I don't favor either choice nor dislike either choice. It makes it really difficult to connect with people and people get really uncomfortable with me because of it.
I have severe chronic fatigue syndrome which I can't even function. There's no possible way I can ever find out the reason