I look up to you Ella! You are one of the first channels I found on autism. You have more followers than there are people in the city I grew up in. So you are influencing a city's worth of people. That is pretty amazing!

I struggle with comparison. It's gotten me into depression before. It's really difficult in a school environment because school is all about evaluation of your intelligence and comparing yourself to the "average". I'm still in school and I cannot escape it. I failed a test today and it caused me to spiral. I just want to give up.

Thank you for stating out loud some thoughts I harbor secretly and feel shamed. I shut down all my social media to good results.

Ella, thanks for being honest about feeling jealous about other people's successes in your field! I really relate to this and its something that I don't like to admit. But I am finding it helpful to focus on my own successes and accept that those will look different than the ones I see in others. I think under the jealousy is a feeling of failure so recognizing my owns strengths helps combat that.

Yup! Fanx Ella. Just realized I was jealous of your capability to do what you do for us. Ohhh the irony! Good stuff! Being thankful ain't always easy, but gettin' there. You a good egg. X

Thanks for keeping it real Ella. Even offline, as an EDSer I have to remind folks all the time: "You only see me when I'm up and out". You'd be bored to tears if you came over when I'm down... lots of resting and sleeping involved! Rock on.

Lovely girl, I am much older than you but everything you talk about has been my experience also. There is no doubt that we, as autistic women, struggle with all kinds of things. But all of this struggle has made you, and I hope me, wiser than those who have it easier. Those who have it easy have not developed phillosophy and skills needed to get them through crises. We, however, have become resilient, empathetic and skilled. Never doubt that everything you have been through has contributed but YOU alone are responsible for using those experiences to become better and better. I know I am not saying this well. But you have MY support, utterly and completely. When I first started to realize that I am autistic I found your videos first. They helped me to understand myself in a way that I did not know because I had been asking the wrong questions. Your videos helped me to frame my questions in a more salient way so that the answers finally made sense.

Ella… your authenticity just puts me in aw again and again…. Thank you so much, for showing up the way you do. The Ella way. Btw… I think you were one of the first neurodivergent channels I followed…. And after these years I can say: you are also one of the “steadiest” for me… other channels might grow faster, and it must be so freaking heard seeing that, while pouring your heart out, I totally hear you! Nevertheless for me personally, I also noticed, that I can binge watch a bit some other creators for a while, those who grow faster probably, but then I leave them… somehow your dedication, realness and humbleness really let me connect to your channel in way more loyal or steadier way, than the others… I really hope, you can keep on sharing your light your very own way and with your very loyal Community… take care ❤

I have just been diagnosed at 64. I compared myself all of my life because I was so different wondering if people found life as hard as me and why they were popular and fitting in and trendy and why …… now I know. life starts at 64. the carnage and chaos left behind was a learning curve. what a roller coaster I have now been able to get off. thank you Ella. you are vibrant and I love your videos. xx

Thanks Ella for talking about this, im somewhat in the middle of gaining self confidence and being the best me. Therapy definitely helps guys! Especially if you find one that ur comfortable with (mine is autistic like me so they understand my feelings better!) also it helps to stop watching social media that upsets you, like those fake influencers who fake their lives. Also having gratitude for things helps feel better about urself (eg im very grateful for my parents and cat 🐱) be proud of ur talents and accomplishments even if they’re small🤍🌟

Thank you so, so much for your videos and shorts. The way you explain things, and the topics, experiences and symptoms that you address, resonate with me so deeply. Your videos and shorts are now a must-watch for me on KZread and I am so grateful for them because they help so much. So once again, thank you.

I don’t know you but I can see that you are really finding life hard. I was diagnosed autistic a month ago at the age of 50. I’d like to give you a positive, your videos have helped me very much and I thank you for continuing to post content even when things are difficult for you ❤ ( I hope I’ve worded this well )

Even when I’m told how good I do things or how knowledgeable I am on a subject I will think that I’m only doing what I should be or anyone can do what I can do! Too much (any?) praise and I nose dive. I started a positives list last year, the longer it got, the worse I felt! I rise to and meet challenges that need to be dealt with in day to day life. When no longer a challenge, I get bored. Others build me up, I bring myself down.

Thank you Ella…your amazing. Ima total newbie but finding an ME, Autism ADHD twin has given me hope!

I enjoyed this video very much, Ella. You clearly do your best to be authentic, and I appreciate this. I've been watching your channel for several years now and find your videos both informative and helpful as I navigate my way through my own ADHD autism while adjusting to being a pensioner.

You speak to me a great deal! I’m newly diagnosed and am currently wandering blindly in a strange new world. I love learning my way from you! Thank you! My favorite video of yours is the one about irritability!

Great advice and I love that idea of sharing your positives with your partner in the morning and discussing challenges. I always say ‘I’m doing my best or I’m doing what I can and that is good enough!’

I can assure you that the other content creators in your niche who have more followers etc have troubles in their lives you don’t have. And that you don’t want to have. Keep doing it the way feels good for you. A content creator’s success is just a new sort of fame. And to get famous you need to sacrifice a lot - and keep doing it - to please the masses. Eventually making you a slave of your own success and stressed all the time. (Well “no, thanks” I would think) You have a niche within the niche and that is your strong point. Please stay real and true to yourself.

Wow! Just clicked this vid, but I love your hair and earrings Ella. Excited to watch this video :)

Good points, useful reflection and perspectives especially dealing with negatives. Short , sweet and to the point --- sometimes any more would just be more and the thread lost. At times "meeting in the hall much more valuable than "in the classroom" where getting lost is a real loss and the benefits just too much information.

A very interesting topic and some good advice here, particularly about not following "competitors". On the whole I feel it's better to avoid access to metrics such as numbers of views, followers, likes, dislikes, etc. Sometimes I feel it would be better not to have "like" buttons (and definitely not have "dislike" ones) because of the unhealthy competition and anxiety they can create. Even as someone who just watches videos I can feel anxious about whether I should "like" a particular video or someone's comment. Often it's better and more informative to offer your thoughts including appreciation in a comment rather like than a "like" (or even worse a "dislike") which gives no explanation. Even posting comments though can lead to comparisons and anxieties. We've all posted comments we thought were really clever, insightful or funny then found no likes or just one or two and an adjacent comment that for no clear reason has a hundred likes. Those feelings though are going to be much stronger after spending a lot of time and thought making videos. Perhaps the best approach is whatever you do, do it primarily for yourself and regard any response from others as a bonus. The easy thing is always to do nothing and take no risks which is safe but leads to no creativity or development. We all need to remember is it takes courage to put your creative work out there and that is always to be commended however many views, likes, comments, etc it gets.

dont compare, compete -Hamza Ahmed

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Ohh I identify with this so much. I absolutely do exactly what you suggest about follows and feeds, in my relatable area. It’s so so affirming to hear someone else say the same (and an autistic someone as well). Also have “morning meetings” with my household someones! Love that time. ❤ Mostly-I have to say. Your eyeshadow today is _spectacular_ ✨✨✨

All the things you described here are so relatable, Ella. I think it's good to give yourself permission to avoid those comparison triggers. I've always been really hard on myself for not being able to "take it" when it comes to watching people in real life or online and feeling bad about myself because I perceive their success as my failures. It's caused me a lot of unwelcome stress over the years. Hearing you talk about having similar experiences is very comforting.

Thank you, Ella! That's much needed!💜

You are enough just as you are and I wish you all the very best with the continued growth of your channel and audience reach. Content creation can be hard but as a small creator, I find it is so uplifting to know we've reached at least someone with our experiences and thoughts. Please keep doing what you're doing, making honest videos that show who you are so there is more ADHD and Autistic representation. Much love from Australia 💙🧡💙

Thanks so much for sharing so authentically Ella 😁 All your videos are so wonderful and I've really found them to be helpful and insightful ✨

thank u for the video Ella, muchas gracias, lucho con ello, hoy pensé en lastimarme feo físicamente, el mundo ha sido muy estresante, tengo que ser sincere, pero es verdad, el éxito es subjetivo y seguiré tratando de ver mi luz... Eres un ser increíble Ella, soy audhd y dios lo que daría por tener una mamá como tú, no soy pequeño pero tampoco grande, lucho con una familia tóxica pero seguiré dándole, saldré de esa, tengo 21... y sí es difícil ver la luz más allá cuando tienes tanto en tu cabeza, es feo estresante cansado, pero vos y tu canal la re pinta que han sido mi esperanza mi ángel guardian, Ella quiero que te cuides porque por lo que he visto de tu canal el cual sigo ya unos años, es que sos un ser único, un ser iluminoso, ayudas, eres fuerte, no te rindes, eres compasiva contigo misma, y si uno es compasivo consigo mismo creo yo es el mejor ejemplo que le puedas dar a alguien, me inspiras, cuídate en sí con todas las energías del mismo universo, saludos desde Ecuador. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------- thank u for the video Ella, thank you very much, I struggle with it, today I thought about hurting myself physically, the world has been very stressful, I have to be honest, but it's true, success is subjective and I will continue trying to see my light.. You are an incredible being Ella, I am audhd and god what I would give to have a mom like you, I am not small but I am not big either, I struggle with a toxic family but I will continue to give it, I will get out of that, I am 21... and yes it is difficult see the light beyond when you have so much in your head, it's ugly, stressful, tired, but you and your channel repaint it, they have been my hope, my guardian angel, I want you to take care of yourself because from what I've seen of your channel which I've been around for a few years now, you're a unique being, an enlightened being, you help, you're strong, you don't give up, you're compassionate with yourself, and if you're compassionate with yourself, I think it's the best example you can give someone. you inspire me, take care of yourself with all the energies of the universe itself, greetings from Ecuador

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Im watching you in this thinking I wish my face was more suited for short hair like yours 😋 it looks good!

You are the best. BTW: I like the new hair colour. Suits you better than purple, but I don't want to compare...

I thought your butterfly earrings were Thor earring originally.

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I can't say that I've ever really had this problem. I think it's got to do with the fact that I've never really paid much attention to other people, and that I rarely come across people where there's a similar level of ability. Either, I'm either crushing them or being crushed by them, but rarely close enough for it to be a reasonable challenge. Then again, I'm also not particularly competitive anyways, so who knows.The fact that I didn't get on social media or really interact with people online until I was an adult might also be a factor.

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Can I send you a DM here on KZread? Can’t find a direct link to your email and am not able to dig deeper atm…

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