This was super helpful. I’m in my late 50s. I grew up in an isolated fundamentalist religious community, so I was mostly just punished for my autistic traits. I carried around a lot of anger, but now I’m thinking I will try to turn my experience into empathy instead. Well done!

I’m autistic, and memory (absorbing and retaining facts), and being analytical (breaking things down into detail) are my superpowers.

The more you unmask, the more I see myself. Great vid!

Beautiful video. Wow, I had a similar breakthrough yesterday. It was about purposely being positive rather than constantly revert to my usual negative/ beating myself up mind set. I'm thinking more curiosity and self compassion can bring more spontaneous joy. Basically, being childlike, We don't need to grow up too fast. Heck, I'm only 59 (in May)

i got diagnosed with autism 3 days ago with 25 (and 2 months ago with adhd) and it made me question every social skill that i ever gained and used my whole life. I'm a social worker and I'm so very capable of being compassionate and read people and understand social contexts and I'm funny and all those things, and i just thought for a moment, that all of this is somehow not real or just masking or fake, bevause i know now that i am autistic. It calms me so much to hear and understand emotionally that those fears are not based on facts, but hurtful stereotypes and stigma on autistic people. I love how you own who you are and these videos are so so important and empowering and such a great ressource, other than the pathologizing "information videos" from doctors and psychiatrists who say we are not compassionate and should work in IT. I am legitimately just so thankful a fellow frined with AuDHD recommended your channel. Thank you so much for your work!

I love this, I so feel autistic people are so beautiful ❤

My own journey of self acceptance without anyone else’s approval has begun very recently for me also and it is indeed joyful and beautiful!

Ohh , my goodness, I love everything about this video! Thank you for sharing your spark and your joy with us. I’ll gladly join in to the self-acceptance journey. It’s hard for me, still. ❤

I really needed to hear this today. I am hyperfocusing on something people do wrong at work.

I am autistic and just got diagnosed today with adhd and it’s significant. Very high t-scores in every executive functioning category

YOU ARE SO LOVABLE ELLA! We love and appreciate you so much (my nuerodivergent spouse and l, they are a non-binary ADHD late diagnosed autistic male and relate to and appreciate you so much)! Thank you for sharing and making this channel 🙏🏼 Peace and love to you our beautiful friend! 😊 Wishing you more and more joy for everyday!

Hi, i'm currently dating a guy. He told me he has aspergers. So ( as always) i'm studying about ths subject. I ran into your video and you just disrcribed me ( and him too) completely... And it just made me cry because i always tought i'm the only thinkibg like this. So confused right now. But also happy... Am i someone with asperger and adhd too?

superdooper video - joy and super incisive thinking all together - wahooo

Please don’t worry about being weird, you are awesome! I’m also in-masking and I worry too. ❤😊

Unmasking is always nervy the more I get used to it because I have, without fail, been asked what I’m doing or why I’m doing something every time. But there is a lot of joy and general pleasantry that comes with doing it! Turns out I happy-bounce whenever I eat something really good. The few times I’ve done it in front of people I mostly trust with my audhd, their reaction was to ask but then get joyful with me. It was almost confusing but mostly really relaxing and exciting to eat things I love and fully experience that instead of masking it. 😊

I laughed so hard because I'm literally in the middle of playing Disney Dreamlight Valley while listening to your video where you mentioned loving to play it 😂

Please don’t worry about being weird, you are awesome! I am trying to un-mask as well and I’m trying to not worry about it either. ❤❤❤😊😊😊

I love seeing you be more of yourself

What a wonderful video! Ella we can see the joy radiating from you and it’s such a pleasure to watch 🥰 I don’t think anyone will be worried about you unmasking and being more yourself because you’re brilliant (well I think you are brilliant) your videos helped me discover I had autism and adhd too ❤️ Also love the freckles you’ve put on your makeup is really pretty ✨

seeing you glow with pure joy ✨ & listening to what is said - perfect start to my morning. Thank you for being you Ella🤍

Summed up what I have to do and, more importantly, accept. The number of people around me that comment on what I’m good at but I’ve always had a thought train of it needs to be better.

Ella, I have really been enjoying seeing you happy in your videos! I had found your channel some years ago when I was researching autism. However, I left that topic behind for a while, and found you again, now that I'm back research autism and adhd. I saw that you cut your hair so I watched that video and I loved it! I feel like I get to see you come into yourself and it is so inspiring to me to find ways to come into myself as well. Thank you for sharing and I wish you the best.

Definitely most of this applies to me also.

You seem so happy and comfortable. This makes me feel happy and comfortable too.

Ella this was such a beautiful video! You described me to a T, and it made me feel loving towards myself for also having these traits. Thank you so much!

Same, same! Unmasking does end up helping with releasing the humor, too. Even when the play on words made might seem dark to some people who miss some of the joy release in it. Helping others is how we are made - which also includes neurotypicals, that much is nearly universal. I have found that I can help others and avoid avoiding my own stuff in that helping others MAY give the brain a rest from overthinking. Instead of hurtful avoidance, I avoid the OCD of thirty variations on my stuff every moment. Brain rest from that part allows to hyper creative to escape and do good. To say it weirdly. [PS my diagnosis for years was "you are weird," and so noticed that "weird is wired differently" (spelled). Thanks for this. May you recall this joy time next time you struggle and so grow even stronger!!!

A wonderful video. I found understanding exactly where you are coming from.Thankyou for being You. You are such an encouragement. God bless. I have subscribed. 😊👍❤

this is good to hear. I've not yet learned to stop being hard on myself but I'm getting there. some just won't understand. I think that is half the battle with me

Beautiful - or in the words of the fast show character Brilliant!

I just had to watch you twice over! That must be the best video I have seen of yours 🥰 I feel really cheered to see the difference unmasking is making to you, and I am hopeful that my efforts at unmasking will make as much difference to me!

I love you. I have helped me so much. I feel so much relief watching your videos. These videos have changed the way I feel about myself and gives me hope that I'll be able one day to stop beating myself up for being me. Thank you so much. I hope all good things happen to you, forever. You deserve all the love. ♥

I'm so happy you finally found your inner joy, Ella 😊 I am presumed autistic/adhd, and I too love to research. I may not always retain it 😂 but I love to learn also. I appreciate you and your videos

I love you, Purple Ella! You just described me, and I used to hate myself. If I love you, I can also love myself :)

Your videos and your way of being in them make me happy! Thanks

AuDHD and 44 too Ella, amazing video thanks! I dont know Lizzo but I will check her out!

Love this video Ella 🎉yes I want to celebrate being my authentic self too❤

I always smile and cry at you videos. Thankyou for sharing your experiences. It resonate with all of it. I had a diagnosis of borderlines but I havnt related to anyone as much as you .

I have that special power too! That’s why I went into a clinical mental health counseling grad program and the job I’m in now allows me to practice counseling and I get a lot of fulfillment from it.

this was so beautiful, and reflects all of the things ive been feeling recently. sending love :)

Eeeee! I love this!!! This video was lovely and made me feel bubbly! But also reminded me of the value in my own joy... which I've been struggling with extra recently. 💜💜💜

I feel so reliable with you expressing so many emotions while talking about something you like I suspect I’m in spectrum too You are beautiful! Thank you very much for this video

Such a lovely video Ella 😊 Thank you for sharing in such a beautiful and joyful way.

I have been wondering if I have these in the last couple years and feel like things are finally clicking with why I am the way I am. Looking forward to watching your other videos!

This brought a little happy tear to my eye! Thank you so much 💜

I'm honestly starting to believe that ASD is somewhat of an evolutionary advantage, if it wasn't for the social traumas and social deficits, it would be a superpower.

Oh I tried to play DreamLight Valley, currently playing Sims 4 or Taonga, but my bro introduced me to Forge of Empires.

I really appreciated you sharing your joy! But I'm curious, what's your happy stimming? 😍 I usually clap my hands, but like a pretty tense clap where the bottom of my palms are "attached" during the entire period of clapping, if that makes sense. 😅 I think I also have some body movements and sound that would like to come out but due to a lifetime of masking I don't even know my own stims. I'm really looking forward to seeing you stim more, your a great inspiration in so many ways! It's beautiful, you're beautiful, we're all beautiful! ❤

Hi Ella! I am so glad that you have found these solutions. I have been listening to ADHD 2.0 on audible (Edward hallowell & John J Ratey) and I have found it to be very helpful. He talks about ADHD from a neuroscience perspective in a very clean and digestible format. Thanks to it, I now have a special interest about the 2 neural networks TPM (found to be more prevalent amongst neurotypicals) and DMN (found to be more active amongst neurodivergents). I feel, this knowledge and much more that they talk about in the audio book, is crucial for me to harness and also helps me calm down when things get out of hand.

Refreshing way to look at it, it inspired me hearing that...amazing how consciously looking at all the pluses of it changes the feeling of having these conditions into a better thing.

Your content is a godsend. Thank so much 🙏🙏🙏

I love this video and all the honesty! I’ve spent so much time beating myself up too but there are so many positives about being AuDHD! Thank you for reminding us! I’m sharing this!

Hello Purple Ella! This was the best best video you've ever done and I think it's because you're being yourself. I love the unmasked you! And you're helping me to see how I could unmask too! Thanks so much. Love it. Continue to be you as you are great! I could totally relate to what you were saying too. ☺️🌟

Thank you so much for making this video!!🤍 as an autistic person, it made me feel much better about myself!!

Thanks Ella. Love this

People take us for granted because they don't understand how we think & they don't bother asking either, which is hilarious to me, lol.... Thank you for sharing!

Yeyyy 🎉 love this! Beautiful 🌈💖

We need to make our society more inclusive to everybody.

⚡ YOU GO ✨ Loved witnessing this joy and i felt it ❤️

Great video Ella, thanks so much for sharing your experience. Best of luck on your journey.

Relate relate relate :)❤

plis transalte this Purple Ella: no sabes cúanto te admiro @PurpleElla es que ahhhh, me alegra saber que en tu vida has logrado mejorar, eres un ejemplo a seguir para mi, para mi eres mi celebridad y espero que sepas que lo eres para muches aquí. Te deseo todo el bien del mundo Ella, cuídate, con cariño, Ellie el autista de Ecuador mis pronombres son él, ella y they/them (elle).

I absolutely love this video! I'm so glad you're starting to feel more positive about yourself. Right now I'm going through the same struggle you described: beating myself up and not feeling good enough; focusing so much on my flaws and just having really low self-esteem in general. But, your positive energy makes me realize that I _can_ do this. I'm going to stop making myself miserable and let myself be happy and proud of who I am. Oh, and I'll tell my inner critic to shut the f**k up, as you said in a video 😊

Thanks for an awesome video!

I can see your joy.

Ella, you are truly amazing! Don't forget that. If over 50,000 people's opinion doesn't prove that, I don't know what will. :-)

You are awesome, I like who you are. :)

This was one of your best videos. I feel Happy watching it. Also I hope I can unmask to the point to allow similar stims to happen naturally. You seem so happy on your journey now. It gave me hope that I'm getting closer to accepting that I am AuDHD and also funny and fabulous and fun. I am also thrilled when someone wants me to problem solve for them! 😅

❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥✊❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥 *You* are ✨BEAUTIFUL✨ and your joy is radiant and infectious.😄 Thank you for sharing openly -and I’m so happy for you- about being in a new place where that mask has slipped away even further and you are allowing who you truly are to shine through even brighter. (I’m here just 40mins after the premiere. Nice!)

@alextris3596

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Ella’s not a girl though - Ella is nonbinary - I bet there’s a gender neutral version for this

Beautiful. ☺️

This was great! I'm glad you are feeling good about yourself lately! 💞

Wuhuu Ella!! :D :D :D You're awesome, Your work is influencal and really helpful. Besides that you are a wonderful and super intelligent person. You deserve all the pride and joy and love you want to give yourself!! I'm sure many of us autistics are in a similar position (I certainly am), so seing that we're not alone through your channel is a huge huge help. Thanks so much! :D

Thank you for sharing, your video mirrored alot of my experiences. It feels good to know I'm not alone. 👍✌️

So many of your videos I think- I've just got to that too. I think we're the same age too.i like your face sequins

Thanks!

@PurpleElla

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Thank you 😊

Yeah. You're pretty awesome.

Joy 👍

You are beautiful 🥳❤️

I'm excited to see the whole unmasked you!

Asking whether a person wants to do problem-solving, or just needs to vent and be heard, is great, and helpful. But what do you do, once someone answers "I just need to vent" for the HUNDREDTH TIME? It's like, "Do you value anything about me besides my ability to listen to you non-stop?"

@Cvjyxd44

4 ай бұрын

You have to set a boundary and not let them emotional dump on you. That’s what therapists are for. This is what my therapist told me 😂

What she said in video basicly. Ability to research topics very deep when interested. Enjoy Listening to other people's Special interests. Able to remain calm while other peoples emotions are all over, because Your own emotional dysregulation. Listen to others problems and be non judgmental and be able to help people through their problems.

Love trust honor value!

Love all the side notes! This was really helpful. I struggle so much to see the positives in myself after so many years of trying to fix the negatives. It's really helpful to hear some of your positives. I share some of those but also it helps me know what to look for...and sort of, what counts? Anyway, thanks.

im scared to ask my mum for an Autism test because I have an autistic friend and I don't want my mum to think I'm copying her. Now, my mum doesn't think I'm autistic but I still want to get a test

😊

❤🎉🌌🤗🤗👏🏼🥰

why do u have glitter on your face

@PurpleElla

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It’s not glitter. It’s eyeliner heart freckles. As for why - because I felt like it ☺️