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  @vinderlalli29032 күн бұрын

  i hope to part of this group next time

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  @robinmoon237 күн бұрын

  I found this a helpful reminder, I particularly liked the word ‘spin’ as this is how my brain can feel when my mind is trying to protect me, by preparing me for different scenarios that may never happen, which is of course overwhelming. I need to catch / see my thoughts, …. and say to myself “Thank you you brain, for now we just need to take one step and not worry 💕” My brain is SO ‘trained’ to try to be helpful and protect! So it’s a constant challenge. Reminder much appreciated.

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  @miguelgalindo73028 күн бұрын

  Thank you so much for your cogent thoughts! It does occur to me that there are certain kinds of people who struggle to live in the present (like me), and those who struggle to adjust their idea of what their future holds, even in the face of overwhelming present evidence. What do you think? Might the shift in approach to decision-making depend a bit on our personalities?

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  @Lotuslaful8 күн бұрын

  ❤ 🙏🏻 ❤

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  @MartinKobia-oo3sp14 күн бұрын

  Excellent 🎉🎉🎉

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  @AsetRa-ki9ni19 күн бұрын

  💯🙏🏽🕊️

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  @zhcoopАй бұрын

  It's hard to get a real answer.. 😅

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  @nvcacademyАй бұрын

  Resonating with this experience, and mourning that our society conditions us to share "acceptable" answers to this question...

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  @nuriyecaglayan5509Ай бұрын

  🙏❤️🤗

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  @nvcacademyАй бұрын

  Thank you, glad you found it valuable!

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  @lyptus12Ай бұрын

  Thanks for sharing. I will watch as many videos can .

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  @nvcacademyАй бұрын

  Happy watching!

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  @LotuslafulАй бұрын

  ❤❤❤🙏🏻

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  @nvcacademy14 күн бұрын

  Thank you!

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  @isabellekeyzer3 ай бұрын

  too bad the video cuts just at the moment when it could get useful in the practice of life

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  @nvcacademy14 күн бұрын

  Hi @isabellekeyzer, are you disappointed and longing for more practical tools and tips? To share the reason why the video cut off where it did - we ensure none of our participants are visible in the video, and so the exchange that followed was edited out of this clip. You are welcome to watch the other videos in our playlists or visit our free resources section on our website for more!

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  @tomsimmonds5343 ай бұрын

  My ' rage-circuits' are working overtime, due to the societal collapse that l witness, day by day...

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  @nvcacademy14 күн бұрын

  @tomsimmonds534 would you like acknolwedgment of rage? And of the incessant nature of the impacts on our society and our globe? Is there some despair too?

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  @user-kp4xg3tc6x3 ай бұрын

  Lets maybe change "limitations" to something more inspiring? My "whereIamat-s" comes to my mind now but I hope for a better word))

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  @nvcacademy14 күн бұрын

  Thanks for that suggestion! <3

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  @Hendricana3 ай бұрын

  Diagnosing, denial of responsibility, demand, and deserve 💚

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  @rumi-tunes77273 ай бұрын

  you could be genuine by 1st turning your face blending Filters OFF....... seems that that is an auto "go to" these days...... why the need to hide aging - well I do know - because we are treated dismissively ! we all should start "changing the dynamic " regardless of whether other people catch on to why it is important or not. Otherwise it shows that YOU also are also hiding reality.

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  @nvcacademy14 күн бұрын

  Dear @rumi-tunes7727 are you longing for authenticity? <3

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  @rumi-tunes772713 күн бұрын

  @@nvcacademy what are you talking about ? I already said- be who you are and own it. LIFE is CHANGE . If you don't even possess minimal understanding, its' kinda pointless to clue you in.

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  @chandrika25253 ай бұрын

  It's nice to see you both

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  @isabellekeyzer3 ай бұрын

  hi from Belgium

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  @nvcacademy14 күн бұрын

  Hello, @isabellekeyzer, from the NVC Academy team!

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  @MiguelTrujillo14 ай бұрын

  How can I learn to ask more often from those around me. I do not ask very often, and I realize that I am living a smaller life than I could be living. Is there a checklist, or set of skills I can work on to develop a more healthy attitude toward the act of asking? I am aware that asking too much, or asking the wrong thing from the wrong people can land me in trouble, even if I am willing to hear 'no' as an answer.

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  @nvcacademy3 ай бұрын

  Thank you, Miguel for this question. We will ask one of our trainers to answer this and share the video here!

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  @barakgooroo50824 ай бұрын

  Gold ❤️

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  @nvcacademy14 күн бұрын

  Thank you, we are glad you found it valuable!

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  @lyptus124 ай бұрын

  Interesante

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  @alexdavila13564 ай бұрын

  How do I respond to a female supervisor who keeps making fun of my white colleague for being white? For instance, he's new to cooking and doesn't do it that often but sometimes my supervisor will notice what he's eating for lunch and make a remark "Can you stop being so white? That is the blandest looking food I've ever seen". Or he'll make a joke to our other office buddies and she'll make a remark that kind of puts him down "you sound like a white dad telling that joke". We'll be talking about dancing and she'll remark "he can't dance cuz he's white". He never rebuffs it because she's his superior.

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  @attunedliving4 ай бұрын

  Thanks so much for being willing to share this with us--I really hear your care and commitment to doing this work and to creating a workplace that works for all. I'm imagining when you hear the supervisor make those comments you feel uncomfortable, because you're really wanting a greater sense of safety and choice in the workplace. You also say that your colleague never rebuffs the statements because the person saying them is his supervisor. I'm taking that to mean that you believe that your colleague also feels uncomfortable when he hears these statements--and that you want him to have more choice about how he is being spoken to and for him to be seen for more than just his race. In my response to you, I am starting with this because the tools we offer in this workshop are based on the idea that everyone is worthy of understanding and compassion--and giving that to yourself first is a powerful place to begin. So I'd encourage you to start there. The next steps would then be to expand that understanding and compassion to all people in the scenario you've described and then to speak up from that place about your own values, about what's important to you, and then making your request. I hope that's helpful. And if you'd like to see what that looks like and to learn how you can do it yourself, I hope that you'll join our upcoming series.

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  @arnaVck5 ай бұрын

  9 yeras now.. WOW. RIP Marshall! Forever in my memory.

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  @lets.78605 ай бұрын

  What are the needs for self empathy? My situation is this, every time someone in my house I get nervous, I even dissociate. Now I noticed I feel relieved because the person who cleans my house is on holiday. It sounds weird but still, I get affected by this events. I think it’s because I feel, I don’t have authority in my house. And the feeling is fatigue and tired and procrastinating.

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  @nvcacademy5 ай бұрын

  Dear @Lets.7860, thank you for sharing this with us. We're hearing that when you see someone else in your living space, you dissociate-are you exhaisted, and are you longing for safety and comfort?

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  @lets.78605 ай бұрын

  @@nvcacademy dear ones, thank you for the reply. Yes that is exactly ! Much appreciated!

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  @nvcacademy5 ай бұрын

  @@lets.7860 <3

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  @barbraesher5 ай бұрын

  So powerful!

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  @AsetRa-ki9ni6 ай бұрын

  💯

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  @englishbpo47396 ай бұрын

  So beautiful. Thank you so much!

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  @rabbitcreative5 ай бұрын

  Water finds its level.

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  @robmancer52866 ай бұрын

  For me most of time "how are you" stands for "Lie to me". 😅

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  @antonigalon6 ай бұрын

  In Poland we treat this question seriously.

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  @paulamasterson76287 ай бұрын

  ❤️

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  @Jetman1237 ай бұрын

  This is a beautiful take and I'm going to try hard to internalize it.

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  @nvcacademy6 ай бұрын

  <3 <3

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  @lyptus127 ай бұрын

  Now we talking

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  @consciouslykayleigh50167 ай бұрын

  Where can we find the resources?

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  @nvcacademy6 ай бұрын

  Hello! the resources are available in the NVC Library to all subscribers, in the "In the spotlight" section. You can access them by becoming a subscriber (Link in bio)

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  @magplin7 ай бұрын

  “Are you angry because you would like my government to use its resources differently?” “So you are furious and would appreciate some support in improving your living conditions and gaining political independence?” “Sounds like you’re feeling very desperate and you’re wondering whether I or anybody else can really understand what’s like to be living under these conditions. Am I hearing you right?” “I hear how painful it is for you to rise your children here; you’d like me to know that what you want is what all parents want for their children - a good education, opportunity to play and grow in healthy environment…” “You’d like more Americans to be aware of the enormity of the suffering here and to look more deeply at the consequences of our political actions? NVC by Marshall Rosenberg p. 13-14

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  @nvcacademy6 ай бұрын

  Thanks for sharing this - Marshall Rosenberg offered us a transformative way of looking at differences and at conflict.

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  @ab780017 ай бұрын

  I agree that anger is a protective energy and it wants to protect life. I'm just not sure it's accurate to say that there is no such thing as a wrongdoing, or if we believe someone is wrong we are acting like we are God. Sometimes someone did do something wrong. For eg, the abuse of a child. Narcissistic abuse especially from parents. There is rage and even hate in the child which he or she is forced to repress or turn on themselves, and it shows up as anxiety or depression later in life. As the now-adult is helped to explore their feelings, a tremendous amount of unexpressed rage is encountered at some point in the journey. So I guess I'm wondering how it's possible to heal unless it is also acknowledged that something wrong was done to the vulnerable child.

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  @nvcacademy6 ай бұрын

  Thank you for this comment. Is it that you'd really like for there to be an understanding of how much harm has been experienced as a result of someone's actions? And that this is such an essential part of the healing process, and supporting the child to make sense of their experience?

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  @aurelienyonrac7 ай бұрын

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  @nvcacademy7 ай бұрын

  hi Aurelia, thanks for your comment. We didn't get you...could you share more?

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  @caitlin73257 ай бұрын

  I love this process. 🙏

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  @nvcacademy7 ай бұрын

  Thank you, glad you found it helpful!

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  @Hendricana8 ай бұрын

  This makes me think of connecting with the needs of parts, in IFS. When I have emotions I need to explore, I bullet out all of my thoughts in a notebook, like a list of parts within me, with no order other than how they come to me, until I feel clear and constructive and in greater harmony, with myself and humanity. It is often important for me to do this before engaging with people. You don’t know what is inside of you until you listen to yourself! 🧡

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  @nvcacademy7 ай бұрын

  So resonate with what you say there: we don't know what's inside us until we listen to ourselves! Thanks for sharing!

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  @Libresencia8 ай бұрын

  I admire Roxy

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  @vforvillain778 ай бұрын

  My last comment about this ideology poisoning NVC was just deleted. Clearly it's already been poisoned. No speaking against the viewpoint allowed. Now we'll see this one get deleted as well.

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  @nvcacademy6 ай бұрын

  Hi @vforvillain77, thanks for bringing this to our notice. We haven't deleted any comments here, and you are welcome to re-post your thoughts here. We value feedback!

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  @caitlin73258 ай бұрын

  This is so beautiful to me, your calming voice, Mary Oliver poem, the subject of vulnerability. Thank you. 💛

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  @nvcacademy6 ай бұрын

  Thank you! it's sweet to hear how that has supported you!

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  @sinyud8 ай бұрын

  The practice of replacing “My need for x is not being met” with “I’m needing x” or “I’m longing for x” is also about focusing and experiencing the physical sensations and beauty of the need? As opposed to trying to make the feeling go away?

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  @nvcacademy6 ай бұрын

  This is consistent with our experience-that when we focus on our need or the longing, we are no longer resisting the experience, rather allowing ourselves to go deeper into what's so dear to us about the experience we're having, and the essence of the need itself. Is this helpful?

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  @msandrearobinson8 ай бұрын

  I like this.

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  @michalbrywczynski92348 ай бұрын

  Thank You for that ❤

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  @Compassion33338 ай бұрын

  This is literally the most wholesome view on anger. Sooooo sweet to listen to, it inspired a gentle shift in perspective and allowed me to relax into my heart more 💗 thank you bless you!

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  @nvcacademy8 ай бұрын

  Thank you for your feedback <3

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  @AsetRa-ki9ni9 ай бұрын

  💯💚🕊

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  @ConsciousMoney9 ай бұрын

  I just quoted LaShelle in a video I made on my channel recently about money boundaries. I am a big fan of her work. Good to see this!

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  @nvcacademy9 ай бұрын

  So glad to hear this!

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  @oceanasistermoon50699 ай бұрын

  I find nvc's take on anger to be incomplete. I'm still looking for the words to express what is missing.

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  @nvcacademy9 ай бұрын

  Thank you for your comment! We would like to hear from you when you are open to sharing!

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  @Ancestors-of-the-4-Directions10 ай бұрын

  I have been looking for a way to get in touch with you.

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  @nvcacademy10 ай бұрын

  Hello! You can write to us: helpATnvcacademyDOTcom. Thank you!

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  @woodwork241510 ай бұрын

  Good insight!

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  @nvcacademy10 ай бұрын

  Thank you! Please follow us for more videos like this one!

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  @carlaleejohnston703811 ай бұрын

  Love you Inbal and the blessings of NVC you have brought into our world of parenting and relationships!