Please can you do a video specifically for FA and how to go about healing it? I blew it with an amazing man, traumatised myself by creating a self fulfilling prophecy - the messed up part is I am very self aware and had the knowledge of the theory but it was my first time actually experiencing it happen in real time with some one I dated who I had strong feelings for (I started dating a little later in life than others at 28/29) and all of my triggers and traumas came to the surface and it was as if alll of the theory and knowledge I had went out of the window in the moments of intense anxiety/fear/deactivation until he broke it off saying it wasn’t healthy to continue I went into a trauma induced dissociated/spiralling state for about 4 months after the breakup
@MorenitaBonita196 сағат бұрын
So I’m a black woman that loves femininity, class, and softness-which is not what mainstream “ratchet” black culture promotes…so I’m learning to be different even if other women of my race/community aren’t doing that.
@Elizafoust13 сағат бұрын
Do cigarettes help?
14 сағат бұрын
i love your videos, do you have any books you would like to share that have changed your perspective in a positive way/ helped you become a more feminine woman?
@eljofrva18 сағат бұрын
There are men out there who don’t have a lot going for them in their life and they’re not doing very much to secure their future so they have all the time in the world for us… They can text us multiple times a day. They may even try to see us every day or so… On the flipside - there are successful men out there working their ass off with multiple jobs or long hours, building their own biz in their spare time. Doing what they need to secure their future, and most likely thinking of us and doing it for “us” (you & him) but he may only text you a few tests in a day. Some weeks you will only see him once or twice a week. Ladies - The first man can give you all of the attention in time you need, but he has nothing going for him and his life. Whereas the second man is working hard to build a life for the two of you and he doesn’t have a lot of time but he does text you and spend time with you when he is free and he makes sure to do so. A lot of us will pick the first man out of ignorance thinking that he likes us more when in reality he he just has nothing better else to do. The second man is out there building a future for us, but sometimes we think he forgets about us or doesn’t like us because he’s busy. You may have to work extra hard to schedule time w/ him and schedule a weekend trip with him or a vacation with him. But, he thinks about you daily, will make time for you but he’s working his ass off for YOU ✨ Don’t fall for the illusion 💗
@plushpoison118 сағат бұрын
Even with all the acknowledgment and instinct, why do women still fall for the wrong partner?
@TheRoadzLessTraveled20 сағат бұрын
So grateful this video found me! 🩷✨✈️🧿
@sarahbegum219220 сағат бұрын
So many golden nuggets of wisdom and life-changing moments. The big sister I never had
@Myaussiehome21 сағат бұрын
No days and barely minutes to yourself with a newborn!!
@lucy-ferprofiler537923 сағат бұрын
Just reeducate yourself to be repulsed by men who ignore your needs, talk bad to you, mistreat you in any sort of way, show disdain or negligence. And learn about Princess treatment. Peace
@hollytaylor9421Күн бұрын
I would love to have a man like you described. I just broke off the most toxic 9 year relationship
@aprilmendoza3642Күн бұрын
You are someone i would love to support Thank you for your honest sister talk that will help empower our womanhood ❤
@keivon9171Күн бұрын
Thank you ❤
@luciazumbana5601Күн бұрын
Love your videos ❤❤❤
@christriplett4901Күн бұрын
Did she say Towel-ism?
@LuxuryofnormalityКүн бұрын
Girl you have serious red eye 😮
@lindalaini9448Күн бұрын
I have seen some of your videos and I appreciate them. Thank you for sharing them. I have seen you point to “the next video” but nothing is written. Can you help me better understand which video to go to when you do this?
@bluebutterfly5062Күн бұрын
If you notice, a lot of these "beauty standards" are from men. They want the women that are effortlessly beautiful-- the girls that don't care about make up but wake up just being gorgeous. This is only about 20% of women btw, so if you're not in the "best genetics" club, you are encouraged to hide and hate yourself. Remember, stop listening to society (and men) and listen to your heart
@realsidehustleideas2 күн бұрын
Number 1 is my biggest hurdle. I’ll even tell complete strangers my dreams and plans, and then either it’ll take me a year to take action on it, or those plans will just fizzle out 🤦🏻♀️
@ByGraceoftheHolySpirit2 күн бұрын
It's not fun to be caught in the web of people that draw you into pain and torment. Don't look into the eyes of a pained person for too long or you might be caught. I just had this dream from God. Oef... Run from people in torment, until the light in yourself is bright enough to see.
@Khushi-66962 күн бұрын
What if women don't want her ex 😌 and puts her ex in dustbin and consider that her ex died in her mind???
@janelle_godin2 күн бұрын
binge watching your videos while cleaning my car and my room right now 😎
@janelle_godin2 күн бұрын
i resonate with the way you think so much!
@janelle_godin2 күн бұрын
do you know if you have the hot couture eau de toilette or the hot couture eau de parfum?
@sarnaroy90302 күн бұрын
Had to rewatch so I could take notes 📝
@user-xf1xm7yx8c2 күн бұрын
This is so helpful I’m glad I came across your channel ❤️
@janvihari12 күн бұрын
You are an angel😘😘😘😘🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰i need this badly
@Storyofme.saraaa2 күн бұрын
Thanks!
@shybaby8082 күн бұрын
Breast implants cause hundreds of thousands of women to be bed ridden
@Dimebreezy2 күн бұрын
hehe you said do do (idk if thats very feminine for me to think is funny lololol)
@brittanyann8692 күн бұрын
I LOVE YOU! lol Your videos are helping me so much! Keep the inspiration up!! <3
@brittanyann8692 күн бұрын
I use to be like this ALL THE TIME! And then I started being with my bf, had kids, and over time he would say I'm ditzy and stupid. But for the longest time, most men thought I was attractive because I was always funny and laughing at myself lol. So I started analyzing everything and got into my head and the last 6 years of my life, I lost myself trying to prove everyone. FUUUUUKKKKK. THAT. Going back to my old me, and going back up into the clouds! I love this so so much and I'm going to watch this over and over and over again until it's me again.
@ElizabethRori2 күн бұрын
You’re amazing! I’ll be on your page alllll dayyyyyyyy- ❤
@ElizabethRori2 күн бұрын
I CANT EXPRESS HOW GRATEFUL I AM FOE THIS VIDEO!!!!!!! ❤ thank you, thank you, thank you
@SosoAl-br9hs2 күн бұрын
Love your vibe!!
@bunbun200622 күн бұрын
I clicked on this video because my friends with an existing dating life were discussing about attachment styles and girl, the way I screamed when I realised that I have an avoidant-anxious attachment style when I started this video!! 😭 I'll try my best to be better, thankyou vickita ji
@hathorsheathen2 күн бұрын
I laughed so hard when you said if your neck is like "this" because my neck WAS scrunched over
@sarahcook87933 күн бұрын
The way you explain things is spot on real!! There are so many connected truth bombs here, rewatch or play at half speed and take notes. Things click into place with self development learning, growth with reflection in all experiences, and figuring out how to live more confidently
@SOFIA_V_MD3 күн бұрын
This isn’t related to this vid it’s related to feminine and masculine energy in relos .. I just have a burning question and want to hear other people thought :) I’m currently in a relationship we’ve been together a year he never asked me out he was just my best friend and confessed his love for me one night. I’m working on my self confidence but my lack in the past has caused me to DO EVERYTHING FOR HIM and he’s stopped thanking me and I wish I went into this relationship knowing everything I did now I want him to see me with someone with expectation I’m working on communicating them do you think there is a possibility he will ever see me in another light (I also feel like he nrly knows everything about me and I’m not mysterious enough for him to stay in love with me ) 😂
@mmhmm19743 күн бұрын
1:40...u did have ur family.
@yaizavelez2503 күн бұрын
Moving in silence is something I definitely need to work on because when people tell me things, I am genuinely happy for them, so I expect the same when I say it. But after years of the same results of people either steal what I want to do or fail after telling them I am done. This is the year of beginning to move in silence
@realsidehustleideas2 күн бұрын
Yes 🙌 same! 🤐
@botanwichuda7853 күн бұрын
thank you so much I love your Chanel help me a lot to love myself
@shadowshilling94983 күн бұрын
I am getting so much insight thank you
@peerpaulin84863 күн бұрын
How to achieve princess treatment is quite easy: Be the princess he wants. Simple as that. If you do not know how ask your grandma.
@anetaimbierowska3 күн бұрын
Finally somebody said that you need to do another 50% of healing in relationship. Y E S! I had a little bit of anxious attachment in the past, I started working on it by myself. I thought that I am completely healed and then when I went on dates with different people - random things in me got triggered, that otherwise wouldn't get triggered just by me sitting at home. I was able to look at what is happening in my brain, what thoughts are coming to me with calmer mind - and I was able to work through them much, much more. You are not gonna heal completely by yourself, and so many people don't say this out loud.
@sujatamajumder51063 күн бұрын
One question is it okay to take too much supplement at the end its drug as a satvic diet follower i am confused
@maliachannel97464 күн бұрын
You are just reading me at this point, I’m tired of being so emotional
@PfEMP4 күн бұрын
Ok, this was golden 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@irisgroen22964 күн бұрын
When you said: “does that make sense” I just said “yes” out loud. I have never felt so understood. I am someone with an anxious avoidant attachment style. I always heard people talk about one or the other but never felt quite understood like this. The run around. The anxious part of me want to smother my partner in love, the avoidant part just wants to push him away as far as possible. When I give into the anxiety, the avoidant part of me feels so much shame and almost sick of what I did. Im sorry if my English isn’t perfect, but I wanted to share this because you really helped me so thank you.
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Def do the dem hygiene routine queen plz
Thank you
Please can you do a video specifically for FA and how to go about healing it? I blew it with an amazing man, traumatised myself by creating a self fulfilling prophecy - the messed up part is I am very self aware and had the knowledge of the theory but it was my first time actually experiencing it happen in real time with some one I dated who I had strong feelings for (I started dating a little later in life than others at 28/29) and all of my triggers and traumas came to the surface and it was as if alll of the theory and knowledge I had went out of the window in the moments of intense anxiety/fear/deactivation until he broke it off saying it wasn’t healthy to continue I went into a trauma induced dissociated/spiralling state for about 4 months after the breakup
So I’m a black woman that loves femininity, class, and softness-which is not what mainstream “ratchet” black culture promotes…so I’m learning to be different even if other women of my race/community aren’t doing that.
Do cigarettes help?
i love your videos, do you have any books you would like to share that have changed your perspective in a positive way/ helped you become a more feminine woman?
There are men out there who don’t have a lot going for them in their life and they’re not doing very much to secure their future so they have all the time in the world for us… They can text us multiple times a day. They may even try to see us every day or so… On the flipside - there are successful men out there working their ass off with multiple jobs or long hours, building their own biz in their spare time. Doing what they need to secure their future, and most likely thinking of us and doing it for “us” (you & him) but he may only text you a few tests in a day. Some weeks you will only see him once or twice a week. Ladies - The first man can give you all of the attention in time you need, but he has nothing going for him and his life. Whereas the second man is working hard to build a life for the two of you and he doesn’t have a lot of time but he does text you and spend time with you when he is free and he makes sure to do so. A lot of us will pick the first man out of ignorance thinking that he likes us more when in reality he he just has nothing better else to do. The second man is out there building a future for us, but sometimes we think he forgets about us or doesn’t like us because he’s busy. You may have to work extra hard to schedule time w/ him and schedule a weekend trip with him or a vacation with him. But, he thinks about you daily, will make time for you but he’s working his ass off for YOU ✨ Don’t fall for the illusion 💗
Even with all the acknowledgment and instinct, why do women still fall for the wrong partner?
So grateful this video found me! 🩷✨✈️🧿
So many golden nuggets of wisdom and life-changing moments. The big sister I never had
No days and barely minutes to yourself with a newborn!!
Just reeducate yourself to be repulsed by men who ignore your needs, talk bad to you, mistreat you in any sort of way, show disdain or negligence. And learn about Princess treatment. Peace
I would love to have a man like you described. I just broke off the most toxic 9 year relationship
You are someone i would love to support Thank you for your honest sister talk that will help empower our womanhood ❤
Thank you ❤
Love your videos ❤❤❤
Did she say Towel-ism?
Girl you have serious red eye 😮
I have seen some of your videos and I appreciate them. Thank you for sharing them. I have seen you point to “the next video” but nothing is written. Can you help me better understand which video to go to when you do this?
If you notice, a lot of these "beauty standards" are from men. They want the women that are effortlessly beautiful-- the girls that don't care about make up but wake up just being gorgeous. This is only about 20% of women btw, so if you're not in the "best genetics" club, you are encouraged to hide and hate yourself. Remember, stop listening to society (and men) and listen to your heart
Number 1 is my biggest hurdle. I’ll even tell complete strangers my dreams and plans, and then either it’ll take me a year to take action on it, or those plans will just fizzle out 🤦🏻♀️
It's not fun to be caught in the web of people that draw you into pain and torment. Don't look into the eyes of a pained person for too long or you might be caught. I just had this dream from God. Oef... Run from people in torment, until the light in yourself is bright enough to see.
What if women don't want her ex 😌 and puts her ex in dustbin and consider that her ex died in her mind???
binge watching your videos while cleaning my car and my room right now 😎
i resonate with the way you think so much!
do you know if you have the hot couture eau de toilette or the hot couture eau de parfum?
Had to rewatch so I could take notes 📝
This is so helpful I’m glad I came across your channel ❤️
You are an angel😘😘😘😘🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰i need this badly
Thanks!
Breast implants cause hundreds of thousands of women to be bed ridden
hehe you said do do (idk if thats very feminine for me to think is funny lololol)
I LOVE YOU! lol Your videos are helping me so much! Keep the inspiration up!! <3
I use to be like this ALL THE TIME! And then I started being with my bf, had kids, and over time he would say I'm ditzy and stupid. But for the longest time, most men thought I was attractive because I was always funny and laughing at myself lol. So I started analyzing everything and got into my head and the last 6 years of my life, I lost myself trying to prove everyone. FUUUUUKKKKK. THAT. Going back to my old me, and going back up into the clouds! I love this so so much and I'm going to watch this over and over and over again until it's me again.
You’re amazing! I’ll be on your page alllll dayyyyyyyy- ❤
I CANT EXPRESS HOW GRATEFUL I AM FOE THIS VIDEO!!!!!!! ❤ thank you, thank you, thank you
Love your vibe!!
I clicked on this video because my friends with an existing dating life were discussing about attachment styles and girl, the way I screamed when I realised that I have an avoidant-anxious attachment style when I started this video!! 😭 I'll try my best to be better, thankyou vickita ji
I laughed so hard when you said if your neck is like "this" because my neck WAS scrunched over
The way you explain things is spot on real!! There are so many connected truth bombs here, rewatch or play at half speed and take notes. Things click into place with self development learning, growth with reflection in all experiences, and figuring out how to live more confidently
This isn’t related to this vid it’s related to feminine and masculine energy in relos .. I just have a burning question and want to hear other people thought :) I’m currently in a relationship we’ve been together a year he never asked me out he was just my best friend and confessed his love for me one night. I’m working on my self confidence but my lack in the past has caused me to DO EVERYTHING FOR HIM and he’s stopped thanking me and I wish I went into this relationship knowing everything I did now I want him to see me with someone with expectation I’m working on communicating them do you think there is a possibility he will ever see me in another light (I also feel like he nrly knows everything about me and I’m not mysterious enough for him to stay in love with me ) 😂
1:40...u did have ur family.
Moving in silence is something I definitely need to work on because when people tell me things, I am genuinely happy for them, so I expect the same when I say it. But after years of the same results of people either steal what I want to do or fail after telling them I am done. This is the year of beginning to move in silence
Yes 🙌 same! 🤐
thank you so much I love your Chanel help me a lot to love myself
I am getting so much insight thank you
How to achieve princess treatment is quite easy: Be the princess he wants. Simple as that. If you do not know how ask your grandma.
Finally somebody said that you need to do another 50% of healing in relationship. Y E S! I had a little bit of anxious attachment in the past, I started working on it by myself. I thought that I am completely healed and then when I went on dates with different people - random things in me got triggered, that otherwise wouldn't get triggered just by me sitting at home. I was able to look at what is happening in my brain, what thoughts are coming to me with calmer mind - and I was able to work through them much, much more. You are not gonna heal completely by yourself, and so many people don't say this out loud.
One question is it okay to take too much supplement at the end its drug as a satvic diet follower i am confused
You are just reading me at this point, I’m tired of being so emotional
Ok, this was golden 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
When you said: “does that make sense” I just said “yes” out loud. I have never felt so understood. I am someone with an anxious avoidant attachment style. I always heard people talk about one or the other but never felt quite understood like this. The run around. The anxious part of me want to smother my partner in love, the avoidant part just wants to push him away as far as possible. When I give into the anxiety, the avoidant part of me feels so much shame and almost sick of what I did. Im sorry if my English isn’t perfect, but I wanted to share this because you really helped me so thank you.