Bullying and toxic co workers are not in our head. It happens. There are people who are naturally bad and hate you for no reason at all. It is reality.

@deutschmitpurple2918

Жыл бұрын

I totally agree with you. I hate all of them

@K4D_E4E

Жыл бұрын

@@deutschmitpurple2918 Don't be. If you hate them for no real reasons, you are just like them. They are just a part of society to balance out. There's no ideal world where everyone is always friendly and kind to each other.

@dushala24

Жыл бұрын

These kinds of people are possessed one

@shrishnalin

Жыл бұрын

take legal action ,talk to your well wishers do anything possible but not let the negativity derail you from your target of achieving what you deserve in the life.nice topic but end statement is not good

@margaretdoliet1630

10 ай бұрын

That so true

You're describing a coworker I have perfectly like she just walks around with negativity and is always looking for a target to unload onto

There are people who are naturally bad, hateful and jealous for no reason and unfortunately this is very common. And there is no clear solution to this actually

@rosebud3466

15 күн бұрын

Ignore them like they don't exist.

So true. Set clear and healthy boundaries. Also, stick to your principles. Refuse to part take to anything that is toxic, not your part, or you do not really know about. Stick to good values and principles whatever happens. Shade is so good at addressing all that in such a truthful and positive way. Let's learn from that great coach. ❤🎉😂

I have just retired and I have worked in lots of places. I will tell you this. Be very careful in the workplace. Toxic people aren't always obvious and the ones trying to befriend you and are trying to get you to talk about the workplace and your private life are usually up to something. Just do this. Don't trust anyone. Keep your thoughts to yourself. Keep work and your private life apart. If the actual job is rubbish. keep it to yourself, look for another job, and then leave. Don't give people ammunition to go and tell management what you think of the company. I retired at 54 which was as soon as I could to get out of working due to all the toxicity I had encountered.

@kaiz_nscorpion

4 ай бұрын

I agree with you 💯 we all been through this situation but it only matters how you are going to handle this regardless of your emotions. Thus we should manage our emotions first!?

@allkindsamusicchick

13 күн бұрын

Sage advice.

This was a great video. My daughter called me crying at work yesterday because a lady who was on leave came back and is upset because my daughter has been praised for her high quality work. My daughter has been given more hours and discussed possible promotions with her boss. The toxic person came to her and challenged her as to why she is getting the things she (the toxic one) had asked for. My daughter just got transferred to that branch from another location so she is still building relationships. My daughter is young 20s and very kind and I know she felt personally attacked and she has nothing to do with the decision. I will forward this video to her. It says everything I told her plus more ways to take control of the situation. Thank you! ❤

Some co workers are so toxic no matter what you do the result is still zero! But great video, thanks!

@foodiesworldUSA

Жыл бұрын

I know right.. what worked us when I just simply avoid them and tell themIm busy and hang out with others just ignore their existence

@rajitspdstr

Жыл бұрын

Then it maybe you are the toxic one

yeah, I had this in mind since many days. Now, from hearing from you, it is confirmed that only I can eliminate toxic environment away from me by working on myself, creating boundaries becoming assertive and rising above it. Thank you so much,a

Thank You! I had to do this last month. I had a Lead that was bullying, Gaslighting, etc. I had told her that we could speak respectfully to one another, and I had asked if I had done anything to her and apologized just in case. She was also raging and doing a problem dump. I told her that we all have problems and that we can be empowered to find solutions. She got angrier, so I gave her space. She was looking for a fight. I continued to do my job. She kept trying to trigger me. I finally told her that the behavior was toxic and that it would be my last night working there. I saw her smack a resident on the hand a couple of times, I have no proof, BUT she was trying to set me up to lose my job. It was a toxic work environment with high turnover. The red flags were there at day 1. I made sure that all of the work was completed. One of the nurses told me that there were a couple of complaints about her and that I should report them. I did, but did not return and I do not regret leaving, it would have only gotten much worse with time. They can deal with their Lead hire.

I can’t thank you enough Shadeya. I work as a healthcare worker and deal with many people daily who are stressed out. Your videos have been helpful for me to feel heard and empowered to respond in a classy way. ❤

The last part where she mentions that you might be attracting toxicity is very true. If you don't respect yourself, you end up attracting people who would not respect you. If you don't love yourself, you attract people who won't love you.

@faizalshaikh6818

Жыл бұрын

Very true

@rajaramlokhande9087

10 ай бұрын

Shade I love your videos but you are talking too fast, can you reduce your speed of talking

@tmt8268

7 ай бұрын

Not true. Some people are just jealous.

@shellieperreault6262

6 ай бұрын

The easiest way to attract toxicity is simply to be "more" than someone at something- or at least they have to believe that you are "more". Jealousy is an ugly thing, and unless you are the biggest loser in every single category in life, you WILL bump into someone at some point who just can't stand you for whatever that one "more" thing is.

@moving.quotes

6 ай бұрын

@@shellieperreault6262 honestly sometimes I feel like go and live on a farm away from people.

Excellent message. Toxic people are real hazard and should be away from them.

@deutschmitpurple2918

Жыл бұрын

True 👍👍

I've posed this question before "how can we make this a more positive environment?" And everyone acted like they had no idea what I was talking about. Then I became the target after that.

@Malery

10 ай бұрын

I feel like there's got to be a better way to word/pose this question. Something that helps people understand and dip their toes into the concept. It's sad that it's necessary, but so many are used to some level of toxicity they can't even register this question.

Toxicity in the workplace is consistent for me. It's not just a one time event, it's every day.

1. It could be on your head. (Recognizing your power is the best place to start.) 2. Set limits and establish boundaries. 3. Rise above the Toxicity. 4. Manage your Emotions. 5. Know your Worth. (Be Assertive and Speak Up)

@deutschmitpurple2918

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for that

My coworkers on construction always mock me. Yes I’m not really fast at thinking but every time I try to get better at my job they always keep their first impressions. It’s so frustrating. There are so many narcissistic people in the company

You are awesome!

Such an insightful video!! Can't thank you enough for sharing these tips with us. I recently experienced something similar (as mentioned in the video) at my workplace with one specific colleague. And this time I didn't let this person control my emotions, instead, I pulled myself out of the situation and gave time to cool it down. Then I immediately noticed my growth and development. Thanks again!

Hi Shadezahrai, Great tip. I experienced the same.I have been a victim of two egoistic people . They used me as puppet. I don't know what pleasure they get when hurting people.

This channel is seriously underrated. Thank you Shadé!

The intangible property of human emotions makes it extremely deceptive and the true strength of an individual is in learning how it functions and harnessing the positive elements of it's functionalities while letting go of the negatives. Amazing tips.....you definitely have my subscription.👍

The way you express & explain your content along with your personal experiences is very relatable & engaging ... 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

Your first point reminded me of Stephen Covey's words, "Seek first to understand, then to be understood." I know from experience that that's a wise way of handling things. Your second point reminded me of Stephen Covey's words too, "The deepest hunger of the human heart is to be understood." Your third point was something new to me, that's really an out of the box strategy; I have downloaded it into my heart for a rainy day! Your fourth point was something new to me too, what a holistic approach! Your fifth point taught me that having inner self-confidence makes me unbreakable. Your bonus point taught me that there's a civilized, peacemaking way of speaking up to toxic people. Your last point reminded me of the lyrics to Katy Perry's hit song, "Unconditionally," "Acceptance is the key to be truly free." Thank you so much Shadé, for educating us! 💛💛

You are the definition of BEAUTY ! Take care ! Cheers and Peace !

Shadé you are always on point. Cant stop listening to you

Yes, these types of people are living surrounding us.

Making it a point to see this video once at least per week to keep my action-reaction on track. Worth million $. Thanks

Absolutely LOVED this. Wonderful work. 👍🏾

Hi Shadè, Thanks for addressing another important topic. I want to share my experience also... there may also be another toxicity at home as well. Sometimes you've difference of opinions WITHIN HOME as well. And I've found that in this type of toxicity, one should not always try to change others. There's only one person in this world who can be changed.... that is... ONESELF. And the things become better.... Change which can't be accepted OR accept what can't be changed. Regards, Dr. Kalsi

Thank you so much Shade!

Amazing pointers Shadé.im grateful for you on sharing your wisdom.More power and love to you.💗👏

I love the way you simply simplify the info and the explanation, keep it going up One of your true followers 💐🙏

@clahamma6201

3 жыл бұрын

hello dear do you need any help I. can help you out it worked for me.. whtsap me let's chat better

Omg ! You dont no how much i needed this ! Literally 🙄

Thank you for sharing it's so inspiring I hope one day they will have expert in the companies to teach all coworkers emotional intelligence

I'm new to your channel and I've seen a few of your videos, a lot of good tips. The way I deal with toxic people is I just kill them with kindness. It took me a while but I just do that. Works for me. Thanks and God bless Shade

This is the best thing I saw today!!

I so needed to hear this I appreciate this videos. Thank you for sharing

Again, another inspiring video! I can find a strong link with the first tip you offer: sometimes, we could have built an imaginary enemy, which is why it is so important to recognize ourselves. There are more to learn about ourselves than we think :)

@pegahmovafeghi3019

2 жыл бұрын

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Another amazing video, Shadé. God bless you

Thank You for sharing your knowledge.

As always Shadé, , , Very practical solutions 🤩👏

Every word you speak is gold.. the content on this channel is just amazing.. thanks for sharing.. hope to keep learning from u❤🙏

This is all very good advice. I wish I’d watched this 6 months ago! Onward and upward. I appreciate these videos. I’m gonna watch this one a few times! 😊

Thank you Soooo much for this awesome video , it was well needed. Also the last two points were Soooo relatable. 🙏🦋🙏

Thank You Shade Zahrai...GOD BLESS YOU...THANK YOU SHADE

Bullying is sucks. Its happening also in health care industry. They are nurses and health personer bullying other at work.

i happy to know you shade you make me feel strong and confident ❤

All points covered by you were awesome and more practical.

Thank you so much, I am waiting for this. you are awesome

@ShadeZahrai

3 жыл бұрын

You're welcome 😊 Glad it's what you were waiting form.

Thank you for sharing good thoughts.

I have worked with a few people like this and not a one of them were top performers .They were not cable of focusing in on results or not capable either. When I was an Account Executive on co worker noted at a meeting they had signed seven new accounts in two weeks. I stopped our regional managers office ( our old DM) told his assistant this news and then asked him if this made any sense. The next morning he was fired for falsifying records. As a Leader I do not beleive no matter the education level people have a hard time understanding work in the end is about results and exceeding those results. Provided the goals our reasonable and attainable.

Excellent video. Thank you.

Spot on.. very much appreciate your insightful approach. Not ignoring our own responsibility to the situation. Cheers.

Thanks for the tips!

Great advices. Thanks a lot

I agree with some of your points Shade

Perfect solution to deal with toxic people thank u ..☺️

Thank you Shade) This video found me on time. Much love

@ShadeZahrai

11 ай бұрын

Glad it helped!

I wish I could’ve seen these tips before. Very helpful in my workplace.

Being assertive and speaking up is exceptionally important!!!! Call it out! Do not allow anyone to bully you or think they can bully you. Know how to hold your OWN power and OWN IT! ❤ Be extremely selective about your energies. Observe everyone sharply. Don’t give away your trust to ANYONE freely. Everyone should earn it! Prove they are worth your trust! On priority protect your own honesty and integrity. Really really really KNOW your WORTH and enhance it!

I love your advices and experiences Thanks sweetheart

It's weird being around of such toxicness 😎

Very well explained how to avoid toxicity .

Beautifully explained..... ♥️😊

I lov your taking styles

Thank you dear🙏🏼

Every now and then, I come back to these gems😎😎🤗🤗

Shade has gone to next level on guiding professionals,killing two birds with one stone 😊 Very well explained to avoid toxic person as well as personal development, Excellent video as always, Cheers

@bakhtiarahmed8960

3 жыл бұрын

No killing please. ☹️

Thank you so much ma'am

Thanks Shadé

Thank you ❤️

I needed to hear this, I’m going through this now

Took some good notes from this video. I have a team lead who has been triggering me all week since our manager is out. She's a micromanager who is new to the role. But I recognize I have my own negative bias towards myself since this role is not a good fit. I am capable and able to do this job, but my work style does not mesh with the team (workaholism for it's own sake). After watching this video I've come to the conclusion we both have some opportunities for improvement.

Toxic people /co workers are exist in everywhere. We just need to tackle from our own ability. I have experienced during my role as a Branch Manager, where toxic co workers always do backfighting about work but they dont show such behaviour directly. Sometimes, they use another co worker as mediator for creating such environment where the supervisor will be in a position and state of mind where he/she may have the confusion what to do or what not to do. The toxic people/ co worker always want to make failure to BM or his/her supervisor.

Marvelous tips❤

Thank you 🙏

Thank you for the very last sentence you said

Useful tips!

I am nothing like my toxic coworker and do not see myself in them at all. They are incredibly insecure and use bullying tactics to undermine me and other coworkers abilities.

So thoroughly addressed like always.. 👌👌👌 Very fruitful and practical.🙏🙏🙏

@ShadeZahrai

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks a lot! Enjoy 😊

Thank you 🙏🏻 you the best

Yes many bosses / coworkers / clients are full.of sacristic talks and fully of toxicity inside them.. Which makes people go away from them... Don't be sacristic to people based on there past life It show the person cheap characters if some one always sacristic to other person bullying him or her based on past. Sign of dirty humans . Not good work places with such sacristic bosses people around

I cut out a lot of ambition killers and now they’re trying to surround me because I became a millionaire in the stock market.

beautifully explained🙏🎊

Great video! Thx

Great video Shade 🥰🥰❤❤

Nice explained...great video

Pretty fascinating video 👍 Love from Iran 😊

Thnks shade.

The problems when the boss is toxic!!

You are fantastic 💝

Vooow admire your work ..keep it going

I have personally experienced a situation where i was deemed to be toxic and in fact the last point of Yours was true it was the negative behavier towards the work, I was team lead.

A trait of these workplace jerks is also to make you feel 'it is all in your head'. Emotional Distancing yourselves in conversations is a great idea, enaging with them in hopes of making them see the reason almost never works. Also watch out for tactics to form groups and isolate etc.

Thank you.....

You decoreted well .and good speaker

Wow. Amazing. I love your videos

your lovely talk is expellant bahut danyavaad

Does throwing them out the window count as distance? 🤔

@venkatkrishna8278

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@sophiesoapbox

8 ай бұрын

🤣

Great!