when someone slips in a negative remark, I often pretend to not have heard them and ask them to repeat it. Either they shy away from the situation or attract judgement to their own negative remarks! Thank you for the impressive handling technique in this video!

@josephhale9198

6 ай бұрын

I used to react. Now I ignore or tease them. 😂

@blusquirrel

Ай бұрын

🤔 What if they DO repeat it?

Without being rude we can easily get rid of such people filled with so much negativity....

@ranu6982

3 жыл бұрын

Your directions will definitely work mam... Thanks

@ranu6982

3 жыл бұрын

@@fredschell8051 pls. Summarize it in just one or two sentences...

@mirianalogara2909

4 ай бұрын

Not everyone has the privilege to let go of those people. Sometimes we are stuck with them and there's no other option than dealing with them.

Me: So you are married. Her: That's interesting, what made you ask that?

@nickj2554

3 жыл бұрын

LOL.... nice catch... she's certainly off guard here

@AzraelPercussionNEO

3 жыл бұрын

😂

@TheCicada007

3 жыл бұрын

Ah!

@mcethan

Жыл бұрын

So whats your answer gonna be? "Cuz im a weirdo"?

I really loved it when you said that people generally expect us to give a negative response. I have noticed that a lot but instead we should smile or be calm and ask “oh really, that’s interesting tell me more”😀🙏🏻

@jayani6584

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. Some people triger you purposely expecting negative response.

@spiritualfairy999

Жыл бұрын

Correct

I can't stop smiling because you made a complex problem so simple. Reminds me of Peter Drucker.

Thank you so much for this! I am dealing with an extremely negative boss, and as of late I have been retaliating to her bullying. I am afraid that my behaviour might be considered rude/insubordination. I will definitely be using your method.

@ShadeZahrai

3 жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry to hear that you have a challenging boss - it can be so difficult to navigate situations like this. Definitely try this approach - I hope it might help!

I really love this idea. I have been struggling for all my life with passive aggressive people who say something short but stingy, in a subtle way, but I don’t know should I call them out or just ignore as a “no biggie”. But that thought stays with me… why did she say that?… Why was I not able to defend myself…It is always hurtful in retrospect. I now know how to acknowledge and respond with assertiveness.

Thank you, Shade Zahrai. This truly makes dealing with negative people and hard situations a breeze. Just having those questions in my mind is giving me peace. Asking is better than assuming or judging :)

I often face this issue,it triggers my emotions, while at that moment I get confused what to say them back. Thanks a lot to share this, I'll surely apply this next time.

Wow. Shade. You’re a great coach. I’ve heard the “that’s interesting...” communication technique taught a number of times but you added another level of genius and to it that has helped me understand it more. God bless you

This is a big topic, you're changing lives! Thank you for these magic phrases, they'll come in handy! Your videos are so exciting. When dealing with difficult people, I exercise empathic listening, before my Mental Health was in check, I was quick to get angry, quick to get bitter, but now i fight fire with water, if it is possible on my part, I make and peace with everyone; I say things such as, "I see. I see." Thanks for making this video! Have a great weekend! :)

These are most generous way to respond politely in a humble way to limit the negativity to spread and affect us and anyone.Really good. Thank u so much.

Ive always resorted to youtubers to find answers for such situations but its the first time I actually feel you taught me something and not vaguely said “take a breath in and out and you should be good” without any explanation - looking forward to more videos - wish you can do one about putting boundaries with people close to you

@ShadeZahrai

3 жыл бұрын

Wow, this is such a beautiful comment! Thank you 🙏 I’m so happy you found value in this video - it’s a super simple hack I love to share. It’s served me very well, and I hope it does you too Rach!

Let me be honest, the way you say it softly and a gleam your eye just calms me over and learn a new tip in a positive way! Thank you!

Sometimes I’m staring at them, without saying anything, expect from them to thinking more. But today I learned another cool strategy. Many thanks Shade🙏

I never used to respond well to criticism, I moved on to just complete silence, and ignoring it. More recently, and, mostly, I clapped back with sarcasm, even with the statement *Mmm*... "Sounds very interesting..." I will most certainly use these statements moving forward - in a positive way of engagement. Thank you 🙏♥️

Thanks Shade for making my day.💓 The level of positivity that I can gain from your videos is insane.Perfect way to start my day.

Very well structured and informative. ”Always respond with a question” - ☺️

The way you said it is absolutely blissfull. Just enough to Know in 1 video what kind of Aura you have. Will follow your steps to optimize myself towards the finest things in life.

I swear this is one video I absolutely needed. Thank you so much Shade.

@ShadeZahrai

3 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

Its a very unique analysis. This thing actually causes a lot of distress to the people.and they don't even realise it.. You have shown the animal instincts present within us..and it is a decent way to encounter it.. Very good.keep it up.. God bless you

@ShadeZahrai

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, not knowing how to deal with insults and negative communication really does cause a lot of suffering. And you're absolutely right we all have an animal and a spiritual nature. Such practical tips can really help us conquer our animal nature and to respond with wisdom and dignity. God bless too 🙏🏽😊

Thank you Shadé Zahrai ! Awesome magic phrases, I will use them wisely.

Yes, it's an amazing way of responding to negative people or situations.

That's interesting Shade.I'm grateful to you for this awareness video in terms of bringing a bold approach to face any challenging situations in day to day life.I definitely have a takeaway message which can be practiced daily

I desperately needed someone to suggest me to handle this situation. Thank you so much

Thank You Shade. Needed this. I am a shy, introvert kind of person and used to either react aggressively or let the other person have the Win. This is very helpful.

Finally there is someone to help us dealing with toxic people in a practical way

Simply WOW...a beautiful addition to my newly found understanding of 'respond, not react'....thank you!

This is my FIRST comment EVER on KZread. I'm more than willing to share your channel on ALL of my social media sites, with ALL of my family members and friends, but then, on the other hand, I don't want to share at all just because you are such a treasure that I want to keep it to myself! Why didn't I come across you earlier?? Thank you for sharing so much insightful info with us; please keep going!

Amazing as always! Thanks for sharing Shadé!

Totally love this woman and how she is changing the lives for Many.. She is picking up the Best Practices from her experiences/ observations and whatever is being taught to us; by our elders too.. But we always need a kick-in-the-back.. to learn and implement the lessons. Thank you @Shade..

@saketsaurabhjha

Жыл бұрын

Ya- TOTALLY LOVE THIS WOMAN 😍😍😍😍

You're a life saver

@tejasgaikwad5253

3 жыл бұрын

I agree

@shikhakushwaha2807

2 жыл бұрын

It's also another way to say "Thankyou"!

Thank you very much for posting this video. You have no idea how helpful these phrases you just shared. Stay incredible in everything that you do! 😍

thank you so much shade, you are my life saver. Keep up the good work.

Thank you so much Shade. This is going to really help. Keep up the good work.

Amazingly precise in handling and solve most challenging situations or conversations that can cause lingering emotional issues

Love this! Meditation has helped me be centered for stressful situations and it's step one here with breathing but having phrases in my arsenal as a next step sure helps. Thank you.

@profbfc

Жыл бұрын

Imo phrases and action points for various situations is more important that meditation. Meditation is either a long term solution to be resiliant to stress or a short term mechanism to reduce symptoms of stress . Addressing the issue head on is far more effective.

Beautiful and highly useful video! Thank you, Shade!

I really like your videos😊 . My family members are a bigger triggers than my co-workers. Regardless, dealing with their negativity causes me a lot of stress, aggravation and general unhappiness . Thank goodness there are people like you who share their skills with the world for free😊

I can’t thank you enough for sharing this. Love this video! 😃

I like this...and my prefrontal cortex is advising me that this information is easily more digestible coming from such an attractive person!

Happy You created KZread & appreciate for your positive, beautiful Coaching 🙏🙏

At times when overcome tough situations we are not prepared emotionaly to respond in a dignified way, but definetely, I feel a lot gratitude for this tips :)

That's interesting :) I usually use flattery and then try to extract details so that the confronting person feels valued and assesses himself/herself properly. Example : I love to hear when your ideas, can we listen to how you arrived at this? Thanks for sharing the video. It gives a plan to approach such situations!

Fantastic shadé . This is truly helpful and brilliant tips . Thank you so much 🤗💖💖💖

That’s interesting indeed, thanks a lot For all the golden tips and videos ❤️❤️

She is so well spoken jazakAllah

Will it work in a scenario where the manager goes, "You're fired!" Me: "That's interesting, what made you say that?" lol. Thanks for the amazing tips though.

@Ap-zq7lb

2 жыл бұрын

thats interesting, what made you say that?

@MichaelrAngora

2 жыл бұрын

The boss will then reassess his reasons for firing you and explain them in more detail (if he hasn't done it already). You now have an opportunity assess if you can make adjustments to yourself and possibly offer your boss to reconsider his decision. If you can't adjust, this is where you politely accept the decision and leave in a dignified way. If all that doesn't work, just say "I'll see you outside when your shift ends". That 2nd phrase is very effective.

@abdelhakim8269

2 жыл бұрын

@@MichaelrAngora i agree with you Mikey about second phrase 😀

@karandonga9326

2 жыл бұрын

@@MichaelrAngora what if the boss asks "that's interesting, what made you say that?" 🤔

@IAMBlessed811

2 жыл бұрын

@@MichaelrAngora wow 🤩

Love this! So easy, and will be very useful to me, thank you!!

Perfect. Right what i need and when I need. Thank you!

That is interesting. Why didn't I think about this? Thx you Shade for such a useful YET simple to do advice!

Thanks again for lightning me up ! ✨💖🙏🏻

What a marvelous tips to defuse antagonism, perfect and more practical approaches. I bubble at workplace quite often , now will apply these techniques to cope with my problem while responding to an antagonizer , thanks for sharing your thoughts and knowledge. I will take it as an “ Advice”

In the story 'The Adventure of Three Gables', Steve Dixie comes in the room like a mad bull and threatens Sherlock Holmes. Holmes simply says: "Keep on talking, it's fine". Isn't it amazing that these practices existed ages ago but no one cared to learn or use them. Shadé Zahrai you are the Wonder Woman mankind has been waiting for ❤️. By the way more on communication/ relationship please 🙏🏻

It's nice to have some tools when it comes to communicating with negative people but I really can't recall a single situation where asking any of those questions could've helped. I believe that such situations require a lot of social skills and experience. I think the real useful take away here is the concept or main objective, which is simply trying to "find a way to shift the spotlight on them". Thanks for the video.

That's interesting!😃 you can definitely get team mates( toxic ones) to revisit their limits and rethink before giving you annoying remarks, good one. If you have FAMILY that is so toxic then you are WAYYYYYYYYYYYYY BETTER OFF without such suckers. Leave them alone and ask them to suck it up hahaha. Peace and much love. Keep up the good work 🍀

Thanks Shadé.... Totally applicable for me.

U r a goddess. U help me to ease with myself, when it's most uncomfortable and annoying.

Love your radiant positivity🕊

Hello. I really like the simplicity of your style of communicating the information. It gives me confidence and makes me realize the power I have within to make necessary changes to improve my surroundings. Great job. And I just subscribed.

After the video I was like" that's interesting plz post more videos" 😂❤️

That's interesting, I would definitely use these 4 magic phrases in my life

Great input....can never thank you enough for this ❤️

@ShadeZahrai

3 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful! 😊

That is a great advice, thank you!

Splendid 7 minutes , thanks. 🤩 Just in time.💥🤩

That is interesting and helpful Shadè, amazing how the brain michanizm and the amygdala kicks in as part of the fight or flight warning system, I think those words need to be thoroughly practiced to be used in real scenario, Thanks fr sharing that ❤

Great tip, I like to call this technic "Reply with a question" which gives you time to prepare.

Thanks for the tip! I’ll try to experiment with these techniques!

@ShadeZahrai

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, its all about testing what works for you! Good luck!

Amazing 🤩 Thanks again I appreciate your help. I used these magic phrases. It’s really works.

Not only you're beautiful but you are very intelligent and a good explainer with full of life hacks in short you're amazing I've learned alot from you thank you so much keep uploading so i can learn more from you teacher.😊

Thanks a lot Shade. Its so Crisp and clear and will prove very helpful.

@ShadeZahrai

2 жыл бұрын

Most welcome!

This is very very useful Shade! I wish I had known this earlier! Now I have a tool to deal with all those negative comments/insinuations gracefully! Thank you so much!

@ShadeZahrai

3 жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome 🙏🙂

It Was the best reaction I have learned in the entire week

I have ideas to tackle negative people by making the situation funny and teasing them indirectly but not implementing them instead I quarrel, later I regret and think why didn't I used my ideas. but yours is better with reasons. great job

Great tips!!!! Thank you :)

Thanks for sharing the video,, your videos helped me out so much

wow, so nice to address the bullying guys

Amazing tips Shadé! You're great! ♥️😍👌👍👍

It was a great video. Really much needed help. 👏🏼💯

Thanks for sharing.....this sounds simply interesting, gonna try

Thank you for sharing this wonderful wisdom very helpful

I wish you do more videos on the prefrontal cortex!

This is so useful. I usually stand red faced and not knowing what to reply and then I would take a long walk until my Adrenalin reduced. I choose to use these sentences when dealing with difficult people.

THANK YOU SHADE ZAHRAI...YOU ARE WONDERFUL MOTIVATOR...WISH YOU LOTS OF SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS...THANK YOU...GOD BLESS YOU SHADE

That's interesting and then the phrases you gave in workplace..also we can modify them as per our convenience. Great way to channeling all the burn up and anger that the person's degradable remark can cause

Awesome.To gather my thoughts or understand in depth, i respond, “Great question. Can you give me an example so that i can answer it better?”

That's interesting, thank you for sharing it with us.

Thank you mam❤️very helpful this video

Thanks I can't thank you enough that is so true for me, this can definitely help me and my family out i will definitely try this out. You are so good 👍

Kid, You are a GENIUS!!!! I'm learning from You at the age of sixtynine!!!!! It always Helps if someone is Willing to Learn!!!! This is a whole new perspective for ME!!!! Thanks!!!!

Hey lady this is really a motivational video for me.Learnt a lot from it, expecting a few more from you in the days to come in future.Well done girl.Keep it up.Bye🎉🎉

Boy! she's going to hit a million now!

You're a gem. Super. Loved that video. Love all your videos. Thank you.

Thanks a lot ! I really appreciate your work ! 💜

@ShadeZahrai

11 ай бұрын

You're welcome 😊

Was very good. Thank you!

Thank you so much for this💗❤️

Wow thank you for the reminder I really needed that today.....

@ShadeZahrai

3 жыл бұрын

You're welcome. 🙏🏽 I'm glad this reached you when you needed it.

Omg!! just what I wanted today :) I hope your video goes viral :)

@ShadeZahrai

3 жыл бұрын

Glad this video hit the spot!

That's interesting, it was wonderful

Thanks a lot Shade'!!! this is really useful.