People need to be chill. It's never good to let a man know he can get it that early on.

@quinmcmullen9437

3 ай бұрын

Exactly

@Elove450

3 ай бұрын

right!

@mommabear887

3 ай бұрын

She's just a youngin' yet. She'll get that initial heart break. Toughen up and learn a bit on how to deal with men. I feel like mothers don't give advice like they use to. My daughter is 16, and started to date. I'm sure it will be a teenage emotional roller coaster. I'm glad hookup culture is coming to end and isn't as popular. Women learning to stand up for themselves and what they want, is a great thing. The dating world needed a bit of course correction, and I'm glad it's happening for the younger generation. It was hard for our generation of women to find real love. In the age of dating apps.

@learningearning8385

3 ай бұрын

Facts! He will drag you

@adrianwillis66

3 ай бұрын

She gave him several gre 7:33 en lights. Put up some yellow and some red.

You know i think some people miss red flags cause they were raised to ignore them.

@Hubtones1

3 ай бұрын

Wow, never thought of that

@thatbeau1807

3 ай бұрын

EXACTLY SOME FAMILIES HAVE INTENTIONAL GROOMED CERTAIN PEOPLE.

@thatbeau1807

3 ай бұрын

EXACTLY SOME FAMILIES HAVE INTENTIONAL GROOMED CERTAIN PEOPLE.

@thatbeau1807

3 ай бұрын

EXACTLY SOME FAMILIES HAVE INTENTIONAL GROOMED CERTAIN PEOPLE.

@MartyMar-yk1ik

3 ай бұрын

Well Damn 🎉

A crush is just a lack of information. Wait till you find out he poops.

@kamivenus753

3 ай бұрын

Ohhhhh weeeeee imma remember this comment. Good stuff

@Ukrainian-woman-of-your-dreams

3 ай бұрын

...or has bad breath. 😂

@ImperfectKae

3 ай бұрын

His hairline is sprayed on

It’s strange that she recorded the interaction

@illegallygorguz

3 ай бұрын

Because it’s cap lmao

@SweetPhantom

3 ай бұрын

In this day and age, seems like recording your every move is the norm.

@ImperfectKae

3 ай бұрын

She gon record the whole process, date, engagements, baby shower when he clowns etc

She just seems really young and inexperienced. If she has boundaries, whatever he wants is irrelevant. As a Christian, that has to be the case. With that said, I don’t think a woman should show (or feel) any kind of thirst until she understands the man’s intentions.

@MsJoyce31202

3 ай бұрын

❤

A lot of people ignore the red flags because they start liking people instantly without getting to know them.sometimes that happens because they are lonely and other times out of desperation

@melodyvovan9205

3 ай бұрын

Codependancy makes them a target

It’s giving skit. You can’t tell if ppl putting on or it’s real life at this point

@Avianca33

3 ай бұрын

I think it’s a skit too because why record

If u look at a guy for 3 seconds they come running🤣. Works like a charm.

@AshleyMartinez_

3 ай бұрын

Like damn i’m just scoping out the room… ain’t nobody fixated on you boy 🥴😂

@rajorn2223

3 ай бұрын

​@@AshleyMartinez_Like it or not, Us Men will still approach even if we don't get them "choosing signals"

@maenad1231

3 ай бұрын

True lmao

@roxiespencer7251

3 ай бұрын

Well not always. Sometimes the guy will just stare back at you 😅

@ka8155

3 ай бұрын

Facts​@@roxiespencer7251

I literally have to stay away from guys. I've met some creeps in my life. And I've met guys who move so fast way too soon and don't even know me. I've been stalked, touched without permission pictures taken of me secretly etc it's just crazy. Smh

@asdfxcvbn746

3 ай бұрын

women have cut off men's penises, 70% of divorces are initiated by women, perhaps men should avoid all women too... u got some solid logic there.

@TheRealShanyeWest

3 ай бұрын

same

@gonegirl9114

3 ай бұрын

I had a coworker hug me when I walked up to him to ask him to stop cleaning my windows. He did it instantly when I told him he didn’t have to clean my windows. He said let me be a gentleman and do you need a hug? He put his arm around me. He had been doing the most opening my door for me. We’re truck drivers. I had to report him because he didn’t listen to my no and boundaries.

But I'm done with everything relationship related on these channels and podcasts because everyone contradicts themselves, and it leaves your head spinning. Men contradict themselves and women contradict themselves. Men will say they like when a woman is shy and coy like this, not aggressive, soft approachable, and smiley and all that. Then in the same breath be like oh, she must be crazy because she's too into it, be careful. I mean you can't win for losing. You got to be approachable but just approachable enough to not seem desperate or needy. But you can't be a strong, independent woman. You still need to need a man but don't need the man too much blah blah blah blah. It's exhausting.

@JB-ro7kq

3 ай бұрын

Facts! 😩

@valarmorghulis4801

3 ай бұрын

Well said. Our parents and grandparents and their parents didn't make it this complicated. We setting up to be the most single generation in the history of humanity's creation

@tiffanyyisrael7989

3 ай бұрын

It's literally a crock of bull 💩, that's why you have to do what's best for you and stop listening to these people on KZread, they will have your brain melting. I have shown interest in men plenty of times by smiling and being nice, but it literally didn't mean it would lead to the bed and it didn't. 😏🙄This dude isn't making sense at all.

@misslady5029

3 ай бұрын

Social media has created psychopaths! Gone are the days that our parents, let alone grandparents, lived in It wasn't perfect, but at least they knew how to act!

@bonafide_forever

3 ай бұрын

@@misslady5029this the one❤

This is why being friends first is important. Get to know the person first please

As a man her posting this stuff would be more of a red flag than her behavior. I think her behavior is innocent and its honestly very normal when a woman actually likes you or finds you attractive. I can understand tweeting about it but posting vids showing how I approached you or the end of our first date would be weird for me.

Sbe looks young, shy, naive and probably doesnt get alot of attention from ppl she's actually attracted to. Based on her body language and approach looks like an easy prey situation

@raewaywilliams4458

3 ай бұрын

Wow

@godislove1602

3 ай бұрын

@@raewaywilliams4458😂😂😂

@BN-fu3zy

3 ай бұрын

Lmao huh, she’s gorgeous y’all play all day😭😭😭

@Veracityseeker7

3 ай бұрын

​@@BN-fu3zy She is, but she might not know it.

@Veracityseeker7

3 ай бұрын

​​@@BN-fu3zyJust because you were gorgeous, doesn't mean that you're going to get the attention from the men that you actually want. It's really difficult for me to find the type of men that I actually want (My type is rare), though I do get attention from others.

Wait, so people are now chastising the girl for being friendly and approachable? But if she had a no nonsense approach she'd still be chastised for not being friendly and feminine 💁🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️ my advice to people is to just live their lives off social media. Coz the amount of contradicting messages on SM are just too much. Everyone has an opinion and it has nothing to do with our lives.

@illegallygorguz

3 ай бұрын

It’s called balance baby. Can’t do too much of either one lol.

Man, I pray for people with good intentions find other folks who have good intentions and live in peace. It’s very scary out here.

You can like a person to much and sometimes you just can't that goes for a woman or a man because they might not like or want you the same so instead you should just move on its just a waste of your time

Question is, who is video taping her and why???

@imway2kool4u

3 ай бұрын

1. 🚩

@theflower869

3 ай бұрын

She is and yk why to upload it straight to social media 😂

@chenanigans

3 ай бұрын

That's what's weird and I'm so jaded by social media that I think it's all fake cuz who does that?

@bonafide_forever

3 ай бұрын

@@chenanigansright! It’s a bunch of shenanigans!!

Same thing happened to me recently. I told him I wanted to save myself for marriage. He told me "What if I'm your husband?" Then he proceeded to SA me on the first date. We still dated for 2 monthsbc of the trauma bond. Then, I got the worst heartbreak of my life. I still cry at night, unprovoked. 😢

@learningearning8385

3 ай бұрын

I’m sorry that happened to you sis. Virtual hugs. I’ve been date graped by a guy I trusted from high school. These guys can be wolves.

@LYYD.

3 ай бұрын

@learningearning8385 Thank you! It's been very difficult, trying to disconnect from the whole ordeal. Sorry for your situation also. Sending you lots of love and hugs. xoxo ❤️🫂❤️🫂❤️🫂❤️🫂

@SmallBobby

3 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry hun, this is so sad. I hope you fully heal one day. You didn't deserve to to be treated so wrong at all! 🫂

@LYYD.

3 ай бұрын

@@SmallBobby Thank you for your compassion. ❤️

@LadyAngela678

3 ай бұрын

Help me understand dating someone two months after that. 🤔

Giving “choosing signals”. Never heard of that! Thanks for sharing. Now I know to reduce that

@Erica-cf1xb

3 ай бұрын

Nobody knows what they are in a society where the brain is popping like popcorn and the attention span isn't there. Nor is morality.

He could also be a cheating husband, a serial rapist or killer, a pedophile, a career criminal, gangbanger, human trafficking baiter, and lots of other messed up things. The key is not to move too fast. How much you like a guy is just attraction. You find him attractive, which isn't anything to jump on. You step back and do nothing. No matter what happens, you're not moving fast. Always remember, that the amount of attraction you feel for someone is up to you to get a handle on and control. Don't spring out on a limb over feelings of attraction. Take some deep breaths and let those feelings pass bcuz that's not where you want to be dealing from.

You ALWAYS attract what you put in the atmosphere. Sometimes men and women are “eager and anxious” because of an attachment issue. If you don’t take the time to heal(and I mean REALLY heal)you will just spend your life trying to “FILL” voids when they are meant to be “HEALED.”

Whoa I didn’t know you were 114k now! I remember when you had 20k! You’ve done very well!

First of all why his first question is what kinda work does she do? Really?😮. She should be asking him where he work at. He might just want her for her money. He could be a bum. Ive never drooled over any man i first met.These young girls are not being taught nothing from their mom.Lawd help this generation

@rejectionisprotection4448

3 ай бұрын

I'm a lot older and my parents didn't teach me s--t; this is nothing new.

I hear what you’re saying. However, as someone who has great discernment I wasn’t getting any of that from these clips even tho’ I did question why she was taping their initial meet and first date. After going to her Tiktok it seems they’ve been successfully dating and double dating as well. Seems as tho’ the man is reciprocating energy. Based on her TikTok she seems to have a good head on her shoulders and seems God centered. So yea, this was sort of a reach love.

This is why its a terrible idea to restrict your teens from dating. You must teach them how to date and how the game goes. You set them up for total failure for locking them up in a tower.

@melodyvovan9205

3 ай бұрын

💯

@roxiespencer7251

3 ай бұрын

I don't agree with your statement. Just tell them how the game goes. They should be focused on their pursuit in Jesus Christ, The Word, schooling etc the most important priorities. Not dating and hooking up...

@thrill102

3 ай бұрын

I agree! If kids date in high school they will most likely experience heartbreak and learn to navigate those emotions with the help of their parents. Once they’re legal they could be in college or away from home giving them very little support in those situations.

@MsJoyce31202

3 ай бұрын

You must teach them too and not let them go willy nilly.

@phenitagomes1292

3 ай бұрын

​@@thrill102 iv seen teen pregnancy and girls that never learned. It was only in their early 20s when i ran into a few of them that they seem more experienced but already had two to three children. The struggle is the same if you're still a single mother at 22.

I wish her all the best. My heart truly melts for her. I hope and pray the puts parts of her wedding on video as well.

Definitely, have be careful with being to nice( friendly). I had old manager last year who was unattractive/married tell me he could have gotten me in bed in three days and I start up told him no and he talked talking about his style outside of work. The whole time, I have a sense of humor/ down to earth. Ever since then, I have what do you want to have an attitude because I didn't even carry myself as easily. However, to them, if you're extra nice, you appear easy. I'm glad I told on him because he came back and apologized and said he wouldn't want a man doing that to his wife or daughters.

@dede02024

3 ай бұрын

Wow, proud of you speaking up. They never want what they do to other ppl’s daughters done to theirs. 🤦🏽‍♀️

Instant attraction is real, though it may not be reciprocated. A good friend (who’s married, BTW) loss her father and “feel in love” with a funeral assistant who worked her father’s funeral…. Nothing happened between them because he stopped texting her and I talked her out of starting something with this man. All this to say: We don’t know her backstory. It’s possible that she’s going through something and is looking for an emotional connection.

@rejectionisprotection4448

3 ай бұрын

Grief makes you do some weird things.................

This first interaction would have been the perfect time to have a conversation with him and ask some important foundational questions.

Thanks Shumakey for sharing your crazy story about that type of people. Yes, people who go crazy like that is real ❤❤❤😂😂

Okay I'm sorry but I'm getting very strong yandere vibes from that girl and I'm a woman myself saying this😂

Wow I wish I heard this before 😢 I see the red flags and now I’m stuck

She is too happy. It could be nerves. Maybe guys do not approach her in the right way. Men can be rude and she is pretty so.

Its ok for a person to like you but when they start trying to plan your whole life together RUN!😂😂

I love your content. Just a suggestion, can we watch the whole video before or after you react to them

The heavy makeup is more of a red flag

Straight Facts Women fix up !!

This girl must have a mental problem! Who gets this excited for a men taking them on a date.

1.) Love at first sight is real sometimes 2.) it doesn’t mean you’re gonna sleep with them before commitment 3.) Yes I’m biased because my autistic ass fell in love with my now-husband at first sight and his autistic ass blurted out he loved me before the first month and by some incredible odds we were ACTUALLY did end up being the person of one another’s dreams and better and didn’t have sex until we were basically engaged 😂

Now me and my boyfriend says we are obsessed with each other, but never to this point🤣🤣🤣

Like my mom says all the time “You don’t know what web you getting yourself in.” Eyeballin some dude

It's called stalking when a person so overly obsessed with a person sitting outside watching the house & if they get reported to the police their lock them up!

@Erica-cf1xb

3 ай бұрын

Not if they are connected to the help. That's back up...just in case.

wtf is she doing wrong lol...im so confused!

@DivinePurpose838

3 ай бұрын

i feel the same. Still wondering

@naturalsincebirth2

3 ай бұрын

Moving too fast….put it this way, allow a man to pursue you, like he said it’s ok to show interest but not to the degree AND SPEED she is doing. Most relationships don’t go past four months because they are moving too fast. Do you want a crockpot relationship or a microwave relationship?

@WithloveTrinize

3 ай бұрын

@@naturalsincebirth2 that girl is smiling and blushing that’s it why people acting like she took him home. I married my first husband in 4 months 2nd in 8 months and I left them both! If he’s for you he’s for you! Hell I guess they didn’t know who they met… marrying me! Please stay off the podcast and touch grass people

@naturalsincebirth2

2 ай бұрын

@@WithloveTrinize see that’s just it, really assess it! No one is saying she’s wrong for her behavior (blushing, giggling) it’s the fact that initially you don’t need to express like that so easily. If a man that is talking to a young woman, that is acting like that, and he may have negative ulterior motives, he knows he can easily manipulate a woman who acts like that upon first interaction. Be wise as a serpent, but harmless as a dove. Be interested, be feminine, but don’t be so “silly” minded. Women who are approached by men and are sober minded (not giggling, barely talking, blushing) are able to truly assess the man that wants to talk/date them. Ok, you are saying we should “stay off the podcast,” and “touch grass” but based on what you said (“I’m confused”) and shared (left 2 men in a short time) I believe you’re seeking out understanding/wisdom concerning dating/marriage, so maybe take the time to think about what everyone is saying here, including what “The Shumake way” is saying in his video.

😂😂😂😂😂😂this crazzy

She’s clearly intoxicated

@kerrimorton

3 ай бұрын

I definitely thought so too…

This is how my now wife acted when I first met her and now her only job is to 1. Stay in the gym (and make my overworked butt go too) 2. Makes sure I have fresh cold brew coffee / marinated steaks. 3. Keep fresh fruits laying around for us. 4. And plan our vacations....... What are you ladies so scared of? It's like you've seen all the Tyler Perry movies and think they'll come true... but what if you're wrong?? What if you're supposed to have the best? What if you can have a great husband and everything's going to work out great and he loves you and you love him? What if you can write your own story?

I don’t know about not showing a man you’re interested coz Ruth was in that man’s bed before they even had a conversation making her desires known 😂😂. No but seriously, I don’t see what she did wrong, they are having a pleasant conversation and he’s matching the energy. Just because you show someone you like them doesn’t mean you’re going to sleep with them on the first date or be easy. I’d rather have someone be obvious about how they feel or better yet tell me instead of having me guessing. I want to go where I’m wanted and I want someone who shows me that I am where I’m wanted.

The Baseball bat had a name?💀💀💀😂😭😂😭😂🥴

Did it go well? Before they said they'd continue dating the look she gave him was doubtfilled.

She’s desperate

She almost resembles Chantel on "90 Day Fiance" series. 😂

Clearly she is not the sharpest tool in the shed.

💯💯

Easy target

❤

Women stay missing red flags and then want to turn around and blame the man for being toxic. If you saw these red flags and still got with him, you are just as toxic. Women need to stop putting all the toxicity on men. Because I get tired of being that woman that they run to and want to keep on the phone all night hearing about how she got done wrong. Girl, I'm about to cut these phone conversations short. You ran after that flaming red flag man.

I met a guy and he was liking me too much on like day one and I had to curve them because you don't even know me that well to be that infatuated with me so back to me was a stalker type of dude he's going to be come obsessive and I just wasn't giving him the chance to become that just because of his first actions hanging with me the first day

She already looks a little down

She acting like this man is a celebrity! Lol kind of cringe 😬 hope they work out

I'm sorry but this is funny, Lol

😊

She mentioned that she kissed him on that first date. He probably already hit cus she was talking about how fine he was.

First q what u do for work

Mr. Shumake, I mean this with love......... you're really reaching on this one. All this wan did was smile, act shy and show she's interested in this guy. You went into some random stories over people getting run over by cars and some woman stalking you outside of your house. 🥴🥴🥴I don't think it was that deep. Sorry. 🤷🏾‍♀️

@tiffanyyisrael7989

3 ай бұрын

Woman

@LilDusty5528

3 ай бұрын

I think his point is just to say take your time, be cautious and careful because in the video the girl met him that night and then you see them what looks like the next morning as the sun comes up still together She’s being too easy basically

@savannahhouston730

3 ай бұрын

Wait. She said she spent the night with him or you just made that up? In each video she's wearing a completely different outfit, and her hair is parted differently in the second video than it is in the first one. Do you happen to know the exact day that the first video was recorded and the exact day that the first date happened?

"The warning signs are always there EARLY in the relationship. We choose to ignore them." (Oprah Winfrey)

I must say this is the best that I've seen/heard in a long time. I can actually take lessons from this one.Thank you!

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