And this is why many women are opting out of dating. No time for these lies and games 🤦🏾‍♀️

@StillWaters101

3 ай бұрын

Thank goodness. This has been going on since women got the right to be single, but they're JUST now being made aware of it due to the age of information. So now women can make more informed decisions about men instead of believe in fairytales. Its a blessing because women have been taking Ls left and right for not knowing and believing the truth about men.

@hotties3v3n

3 ай бұрын

Even this shumake guy is kinda weird. Passive aggressive against women. Smh

@Proposal12

3 ай бұрын

many females do the same thing and then some...thats why men are opting out.

@therealdallas4lyfe

3 ай бұрын

@@hotties3v3n you are the one who is weird. Why you taking time out of your day to watch a "Weird" man's video? Don't holler hit dog - no one cares lol.

@Frugal637

3 ай бұрын

Right protect your peace

The method hes using is called The hot 🔥 and cold 🥶 method. Its a narcissistic tool they are consistent in the beginning and once ur 🪝 hooked narcs switch up and become cold and withdraw their time and energy and the woman becomes confused wondering why the guy changed and became distant. If the woman is in ❤ she will become desperate then calling him and her in her attempt to get the relationship bk the way it was before then the woman gives the energy and the narcissistic just takes and takes and depletes her of her energy and all while hes entertaining other women or men. Once he gets all he wants, he will completely disappear and manipulate his next target, and u will become an afterthought🤦‍♀️if ur not giving the narc sex or anything he wants💯. If they feel he cant easily control u he leaves u for another target and moves on to his next victims.

@thpuma2589

3 ай бұрын

Yep, exactly

@danilaroche1156

3 ай бұрын

I never dreamed my ex would do this. I thought he was shy, quiet, even nerdy. Well, nerds can be demonic too. I was in shock and devastated by how he dumped me. I didn't go in blind. I thought I heard from God to be in this relationship & we started as friends. I thought he loved the Lord. WRONG!

@ifeawosika966

3 ай бұрын

​@@danilaroche1156 lot of fake believers out there

@ThatGirlMoi

3 ай бұрын

@@danilaroche1156smh those fake “godly” men. And they lay it on *THICK* when they know that you take Christianity seriously. I had a similar situation too. Then I prayed **that** prayer. And he started playing those games. he did the disappearing act and left me then came back with some sob story. Although I cried, it was a blessing when he left because God knew that I wanted him so bad and convinced myself that God told me he was the one when he wasn’t! Who God has for me, will not play any disappearing act or games. That does not look like Jesus.

@dashanee0390

3 ай бұрын

This is just too weird…why do all of that? Lol…

They’ll do anything but be better men smh

@AmericanDreamer

3 ай бұрын

❕❕❕🎯 Exactly ❕❕❕

@courtneyharris1006

3 ай бұрын

Better men lose everything if shes bored. This strategy is safer.

@123gollc9

3 ай бұрын

@@courtneyharris1006no that’s what happened to you. That’s not what happens to men. And honestly everyone get their heart broken i don’t allow it to turn me demonic

@AdrienneMoore-rr9xi

3 ай бұрын

Exactly 💯 and then when they run into a woman just like them then they wanna cry and whine about how ALL women ain't ish😂😂

@dashanee0390

3 ай бұрын

@@123gollc9exactly. Men are so sensitive and insecure…just because 1 Bih did something wrong…you have to take it out on the world. Get over it

A man that isnt really interested in you will play all kinds of games.

@Lyrielonwind

3 ай бұрын

Narcissists love no one. They are transactional.

@Ciyotnnakauebluzy2seanuh-pv6gb

3 ай бұрын

Exactly

@Mimi-xv6jm

3 ай бұрын

Those men are too busy being toxic, to care about love and commitment.

@moonlightstargem1006

3 ай бұрын

Because he wants sex.

@Alize.W

3 ай бұрын

Oh they are interested... in the benefits! Thats why they play the games in the first place. They benefit from it. This is why it is GOOD for women to be stingy and strict, men are designed to be TAKERS!

Notice when a woman gives great advice she looks like a hater or bitter but when a man says the exact same thing he is putting someone on to game and don't look like anything but a savior when really he is an abuser.. and beyond bitter and thinks its okay to psychologically and emotionally destroy women.. but will gaslight and say he is helping while laughing..

@tiah5881

3 ай бұрын

I've noticed a lot of men carry this weird evil spirit. It's not specific to them as they are not the only liars women lie to. But the weird abuse and toxic emotional manipulation is considered "game" to a lot of men. I find it very concerning how so many of them carry this specific spirit of emotional manipulation and mental warfare.

@michaelvalencia5211

3 ай бұрын

Remember the days when women used to get hit for getting out of line. Pepridge Farm remembers.

@courtneyharris1006

3 ай бұрын

Woman cosign toxic female advice too and some wont. Stop taking it so personal.

@brianstallings4252

3 ай бұрын

💯!!!!!!!!!!!! Dudes like this had a keen hand in the rise of feminism. Most Black Men be on that bulls#it too. How to Manipulate Women, yet jump straight victim when he gets played by a woman while trying to play her. Ntm how does anyone get something real based on a lie??????????????? You're dropping straight facts right here. This is why I stay to myself right here.

@brianstallings4252

3 ай бұрын

​@@courtneyharris1006although that's true as well, it wasn't a woman who made this particular video though. That has nothing to do with what she's saying. The video titled Man Explains How Easy it is to Manipulate Women.

I notice he didn't mention taking her out on actual dates or actually courting her. He kept saying "Facetime, text, and Instagram Stories ". Ladies, this is a lesson- if a man isnt even asking you out on a proper date or putting in actual effort to see you and be with you, dont even consider him as an option and ignore or block them. "Men follow their investments"- SheraSeven

That's why it's hard to be in a relationships today people play to many games

@DJRenee

3 ай бұрын

It's been this way.

@patty-pat-pat

3 ай бұрын

theyve been playing these games forever, social media (or the age of information) just makes it possible that we're hearing these stories from all over the world now

@shaylamcgrady1048

3 ай бұрын

Yes. It’s been going on. Except we aren’t hearing rumors “through the grapevine” like our great grandmothers were. We’re seeing it firsthand on his phone, internet searching, and via social media from the other girls page and in her stories 🥴🤮🤧💔

@dialac1

3 ай бұрын

Unfortunately, this is why nice guys finish last. The straightforward guy that’s not playing games is usually seen as weak, desperate or women get the “ick”. It’s the sad reality. Most times, for women especially, the guy that’s out of reach is the more attractive. It also doesn’t help if you have messed up attachment issues from childhood

@StacyAnderson-eg2gf

3 ай бұрын

@dialac1 I wish I new where you were

So much energy just to use and hurt someone. It’s a sickness. And they be so proud. smh

@danilaroche1156

2 ай бұрын

It's demonic. It's an evil agenda. Only be with a true follower of Christ.

@AmberSumerall

2 ай бұрын

The Lord will handle them and it won’t be pretty.

@user-gu2pb7km8f

Ай бұрын

🎉bingo! Don't understand why it's NOT heavily promoted 😕 that hot &cold behavior to use wm, make a fool of ur, then dump her is evil psycho anti-God! Run 🏃‍♀️

@rahteljackson433

Ай бұрын

​@@AmberSumeralli mean unless they repent. Because that is what He wants.

@kristaquick941

Ай бұрын

Repentance is not a get out of jail free card for all the consequences of sin. ​@rahteljackson433

Alright Shumake😂 The new rule: Be slow to hire and quick to fire👏

@MultiG187

3 ай бұрын

Quick to hire

@kamivenus753

3 ай бұрын

Love that

@LarennPBel

3 ай бұрын

That’s from Tony Gaskins tho. He says that’s all the time

@danilaroche1156

3 ай бұрын

You might be firing someone who is actually a good person. I think we dispose people if they make a mistake. We are human. Ask God for wisdom.

@dahliaherrod4301

3 ай бұрын

​@@LarennPBelneither one of them coined that phrase. It's been around for a long time

And these same males will whine that women dont want relationships no more

@edt4080

3 ай бұрын

Men don't either they just want to smash n dash simple ‼️‼️

@oliviastar3812

3 ай бұрын

they not so secretly hate women or want to be one

@Of_infinite_Faith

2 ай бұрын

​@@oliviastar3812 they weren't loved by their momas so now they think being a woman Is easy somehow

@DavidMorales-em9qv

11 күн бұрын

Nobody says women don’t want to date😂, men are the ones leaving the dating scene. Also yes being a women is easy, women’s power is to manipulate, if they get manipulated that’s on them

@breannabaldridge6547

8 күн бұрын

Man these comments 😂 it’s all facts too!

The weird part is…why do ninjas like this think it’s a flex? If you have to do all of that, just to get some cooty cat…you’re not def not the man you think you.

@user-oz5vl2ho8v

3 ай бұрын

Because they were raised by single modern women, who thinks it’s a flex when they do it to men.

@jaswords6194

3 ай бұрын

Exactly!

@STAR-LIGHT.1111

3 ай бұрын

😂

@Stillunbothered37

3 ай бұрын

Its not about sex, for them its the game they in love with its cotrol they seek. Sex is so easy to get, women are totally so easy nowadays theres no challenge, so they create another type.of challenge.

@curli-lettey4319

2 ай бұрын

Narcs will put a pause in having sex as part of their plot for control.

Inconsistency get you left QUICK.

@StacyAnderson-eg2gf

3 ай бұрын

I feel the same about this

@mermaidmoney2794

Ай бұрын

real quick

@godislove1027

16 күн бұрын

More like blocked at the speed of light

@StacyAnderson-eg2gf

16 күн бұрын

@@godislove1027 got that right

One Bible verse I take with me when dealing with anything or anyone Never be anxious for nothing. Women and Men idealize (ideal worship) ideas that are literally just in their head. Be realistic and put God First!

@jappeeshetu

3 ай бұрын

What verse?

@NickysWorld88

3 ай бұрын

​@@jappeeshetuPhilippians 4:6-7 NLT Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. [7] Then you will experience God's peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.

@NickysWorld88

3 ай бұрын

One of my favorite scriptures

@annkelly6349

3 ай бұрын

Great verse to apply to dating, well ANYTHING lol.

@melissalisa9592

3 ай бұрын

​@@NickysWorld88Thank you

i need to stay in the word and stay off social media

@danilaroche1156

3 ай бұрын

I hear you but I learned alot about narcs & manipulators from social media. Im very selective about what I listen to. I knew little about how utterly demonized people are these days & I learned about spiritual warfare too. I mostly listen to Christian content and I love the word too.

@marylnmonroe

3 ай бұрын

amen

@RichCocoEntertainment

3 ай бұрын

Social media has taught me a lot of things it helps with looking out for red flags..so I'm staying here so I can keep learning about these dusty men

@jordanharris4164

2 ай бұрын

Facts.

@theejuicygoldengoose271

2 ай бұрын

Same 💯🎯💯🎯

I’ve learned to let people know I’m no longer interested anymore and keep it moving idc if a year been past. Know when to leave a job, relationship , friendship. “Hey, I’m no longer interested “ as a response when they text you

@MRLX54

3 ай бұрын

⁠@kendra4411Exactly give them the same energy they gave you which was nothing they don’t even deserve a response. Leave them on blue tick block and go about your day.

@chitlinjuice

3 ай бұрын

I used to do that too lol but I'm Christian now, so I do the same as @123golic9 and the southern part of me sprinkles in a God bless you. They reaaally leave you alone when you add that 😂

@123gollc9

3 ай бұрын

@kendra4411I do both

@jesikarabbyt2990

3 ай бұрын

Yea that is why the famous used handle to use is "Who is this" text in response. That has given the upper hand for many a woman that has been reapproached by these types of guys. Plus my thing is this doesn't a guy no about the "No contact rule" because if he ghost and returns. He literally just shown his weaknesses no matter what game was played on his part. He just lost in the dynamic of returning or spinning the block. That's why it's hard to believe they really don't like a woman if they play games. Games are done by the weaker party. They are trying to feel empowered and yet are really weak for the woman. It's all a self sabotage game

@ebonyeverything2751

3 ай бұрын

​@@jesikarabbyt2990no guys don't really ghost chick's they actually like. And spinning the block and games definitely doesn't mean he likes u, usually the opposite. Just means he's bored enough to play with you again and doesn't care how it turns out.

This is why doing things God's way works. There are too many of us who don't fully live for God, like Steve Harvey and his 3 months rule. God's way is AFTER marriage. If we did it God's way, all the players will lose, because no player is gonna marry you just to get you into bed. He can go elsewhere too easily. But so many women want to jump into bed.... HOPING it's gonna lead to something more.

@user-dl7uj6fw4l

3 ай бұрын

I agree.. very insightful.

@winning3329

3 ай бұрын

Many women are not taught that men cannot be win over with s3x. Women use s3x to get love and men use love to get s3x. Many men view s3x like a simple hand shake.

@NicoleDaniella001

3 ай бұрын

It’s true. Went on a date with a guy and I told him I wanted to wait until marriage and he was upset and deleted himself out my life with no problem.

@tessw9744

3 ай бұрын

@@NicoleDaniella001 Yep. That's how it works.

@Hubtones1

3 ай бұрын

Steve Harvey tried to merge Christianity and Islam not knowing why they are different. One says the Virgin Mary is the sister of Moses, the other says Miriam is the sister of Moses. One says Jesus was God and part of the Godhead, the other says Jesus was a prophet alone

They will “act right” when they need somewhere to stay 😂😂😂😂 until they get on their feet or find someone else they can live with. Don't let them live with you either

@barbararichardson2747

3 ай бұрын

There's been a decline in marriages since women settled for shacking up.Yet they blame men for not committing.Make it make sense!

@user-oz5vl2ho8v

3 ай бұрын

Modern women won’t even act right then.

@mariahchuntae3368

3 ай бұрын

@@user-oz5vl2ho8v You're right in a situation like that, no one will act right because it's not supposed to happen anyway.

@corsicanlulu

22 күн бұрын

@@barbararichardson2747 but men wanted it that way too, they wanted women to be easy so they could get sexual access to her easier and not have to marry her like they used to for sex; theyre not these innocent creatures ur portraying

@nnn9854

14 күн бұрын

@@user-oz5vl2ho8vbecause of modern men. so be quiet.

The method the guy is talking about is called breadcrumbbing. After he withdraws his attention but then gives a little here and there,after you complain.

@rosedevereux2391

3 ай бұрын

🎯🎯🎯

I just go with the phrase "If it's too good to be true, it probably is." I'm instantly suspicious if a man is too perfect or sugary at the beginning. If he goes cold or acts funny after playing the Prince Charming act, I block them and act like they never existed. I remember blocking one fool after he went radio silent for a week and heard about his meltdown from a friend. 😂😂

@jesikarabbyt2990

3 ай бұрын

Yea that is how you return that energy. Completely disconnect and wait for their meltdown. Usually that's what is happening when they spin the block. I just heard the one that did that crap to me. I was moving quicker to end things and each time he argued me in some way to continue. Once he pulled his move. Did the ghost move. But still spent the block on me. And is now with Kidney failure for the trouble he went through 😅

@ThatGirlMoi

3 ай бұрын

Love this! When “Prince Charming” goes radio silent… block!!

@Holdup1986

3 ай бұрын

I can attest to how true this is. I did it before marriage. and even though we got married afterward, the damage is already done. had I waited and made him wait until we married I would have seen what kind of monster he was and not been stuck in the situation I'm in now.......A DIVORCE AND HEALING FROM DOMESTIC ABUSE AND A NARCISSIST!

@rosedevereux2391

3 ай бұрын

"BuhLOCKhTuhhh!!!" (a la Tony Gaskins) 🤣🤣🤣@@ThatGirlMoi

@proudly_precious

3 ай бұрын

😂😂😂

Everybody wants to be toxic and try so hard to not be hurt but forget that we are all broken. We looking for wholeness in all the wrong ways and things.

@jesikarabbyt2990

3 ай бұрын

Exactly, because why be manipulative if you not broken yourself. I have listened to numerous variations of these men on SM talking about playing with women and one narrative after another. It all points to there low esteem as men. Because they seem to put themselves in a proverbial trick bag doing these schemes and look up and are exposed for filth

@gogoldiego

3 ай бұрын

Speak life into your situation and put in the work. Exercise, have a healthy diet, go for that career, feed your spirit with God's discernment, don't depend on others for your happiness, strive for peace, practice self-awareness, and self love. We are not all broken. Many just don't put in the work to have the best experience on their journey in life.

@Sade-kh4xw

3 ай бұрын

Brokenness, does not justify breaking someone else that had no hand in the brokenness. When, possible go to the core source.

@Lalajewel

3 ай бұрын

@@gogoldiegothank u said it better , i am not broken .

@SamanthasUniverse

2 ай бұрын

Yep!

That's why it's also important to ask GOD to give you discernment and to show you people's heart's. So, you can know their true intentions. God will definitely reveal it to you in the early stages.

What kind of diabolical, demonic behavior is this? SMH 🤦🏾‍♀️

@patriciahercules6852

3 ай бұрын

Eve and the serpent

@KiashanLockley

3 ай бұрын

Normal dude stuff

@vanity5389

3 ай бұрын

Very normal i have experienced this a lot

@wandak1889

3 ай бұрын

The Cemetery behavior

@christinawhitfield1720

3 ай бұрын

It’s a narcissistic trait and it’s called the “hot and cold” method. It’s hellish and messed up.

Funny thing is, most women know when a man is doing that. The problem is, some feel so lonely that they will lie to themselves to the point of actually believing it. Sad but true.

@SamanthasUniverse

2 ай бұрын

Still doesn't make his games OK. He's lonely too or he wouldn't be doing the most to play all these games.

@priyasbelovedworld

Ай бұрын

It's not even loneliness. It's called attachment styles. God made us to bond with men and relationships of different kinds. So it's natural for someone to be confused by manipulation. That's something of the flesh, not of God, which is why we get confused by it.

@queenthings188

Ай бұрын

@@SamanthasUniversethank you!

@hereisayana8207

Ай бұрын

How can you tell or know how most women feel or know??? Some women grow up with men that protect and care for the family and provide for them. Some grow up with a man " grandfather " that raped 2nd generation and the women grew up seeing poor treatment towards women, so this is their standard for how a relationship looks. A lot of women that grew up with men setting good examples will say that " most women already know " because THEY grew up knowing and having an example of what is real and healthy

@elaahagostinho2009

Ай бұрын

@@priyasbelovedworld That's true and that's why the revelation of God's love is a must.

It is never easy to manipulate any woman when she is intuitive and has God on her side

@aidenair

Ай бұрын

That sounds nice, but isn't true. Anyone can be manipulated esp. when dealing with master manipulators like most men are.

@miabrown621

11 күн бұрын

​@@aidenairyou underestimate the power of God, when God gives you a gift of discernment, you can see straight through a person

@LavendarRoseMint

3 күн бұрын

SAY IT!!!!!!! 💃🏾 🎉❤

“Be slow to hire, and quick to fire 🔥 and no double backs” 👏🏼👏🏼

The performative fake jealousy “Take that ish down” 😅! Man I can’t 😂. On a serious note let God lead because the discernment He gives will not steer you wrong about these crazy manipulative people out here.

And you’re partaking in witchcraft when you do things like this to be petty.

@AmericanDreamer

3 ай бұрын

@joanarc7963 yes, exactly that!💯 People like think that God is a bully but He is not!!! His rules are for our protection! 💛💛💛

@brianstallings4252

3 ай бұрын

Yep. Meantime The Universe works on 3's, that includes Karma.

@XyThree

3 ай бұрын

​@joanarc7963 how many testimonials are there of people sharing how their marriage was revealed to be nothing more than a lie??(Books, tv shows, interviews, social media confessions etc) Courting and marriage aren't preventative measures for this and they're harder to escape from once solidified. This isn't a "rules" issue - this is a POOR CHARACTER/ DECEITFUL PEOPLE issue. If those type people weren't a "thing", psychologist and therapist wouldn't be a thing. People need not wake up and choose an identity for the day, that way, pure hearted people aren't constantly in the midst of the being an investigator just to be in union

@Seen_not_heard

3 ай бұрын

@@XyThreethat last line snatched my pearls because the way I’ve gained investigative skills just trying to date. 😢

@Seen_not_heard

3 ай бұрын

11:03 yea, wing stop stock is up. A couple thousand is nothing.

"Sly, Slick and Wicked" - Lost Generation

@kamivenus753

3 ай бұрын

Yupppp wooooo

@MsJoyce31202

3 ай бұрын

Yes.

@iriswood3744

3 ай бұрын

He'll pick up his shoes and walk out and say it's all your fault🎼🎶🎶🎶🎶🎶🎶🎶🎶🎶🎶

@teascobie6557

3 ай бұрын

lets not act like narc behaviour is a new thing. It has always been there. We just have a platform to hear about people's experiences globally because of the internet. Pretty sure in Jesus' possy there was a narc...

Yesss, most important relationship is GOD!!! We gotta stay focused & keep our eyes on our creator 🙏🏾

Honestly I wish there was a way to make these wicked monsters who play games accountable. Like sue them for this crap. This narcissism is rampant now. Honestly what’s the point anymore to try. It’s exhausting.

@danilaroche1156

3 ай бұрын

I think they should be prosecuted. In court.

@hotties3v3n

3 ай бұрын

God will get them.

@courtneyharris1006

3 ай бұрын

Then you would have to hold women accountable and thats against this countrys religion. Its why there is no mandatory paternity test to protect the interest of predatory women.

@juliaarambula3153

3 ай бұрын

@@courtneyharris1006 I have no issues to hold those demons accountable. Male or female.

@akeishaharris

3 ай бұрын

Believe me, TMH will take care of them. They'll have all types of bad things happening to them.

The moments the “consistent” guy starts disappearing is the moment I start losing interest. I’ve cried very hard!!! But then I imagined what my life will look like without them or without me being so *attached* and start accepting it. By the time they come back, I’m done ✌️😊 and they always do…

@user-oz5vl2ho8v

Ай бұрын

@TharGirlMoi So you have a history of picking sh!tty men?

And this is why I'm cool with being single, I am truly too old and don't have time for anyone's fuckery and foolishness. I have two 13 year olds that I need to save my energy, time, and attention for.

Intermittent reinforcement, I was ‘dating’ the narcissist for only two months and it started happening towards the end of the second month, it didn’t work on me thank God. I called him out very politely I might add and ended it that very phone call and never went back. I told him at the beginning that I value consistency so his games didn’t get him far with me. Praise Jesus for opening my eyes ❤️

@aoc092

3 ай бұрын

👍🏾 Being firm and polite.

@akuasalaam490

3 ай бұрын

Yaaaaasssss Boundaries!!!!!!!!

“If a person doesn’t look like Jesus, stay away from him! If they are going to scare you away from God, stay away from them!” This!!! 🔥🔥🔥

@teascobie6557

3 ай бұрын

bad advice because the pastor himself is cheating on his wife while preaching to the people he cheating with. Religious or not people who want to deceive will do so. Women need to listen to their intuition and stop ignoring it. You want to call that intuition god, no problem.

@ThatGirlMoi

3 ай бұрын

@@teascobie6557 We should definitely assess deeper than how someone “looks” because they can always portray themselves in a deceptive manner. I agree with that. This is why prayer and reading the Bible is important, because it helps with discernment and intuition.

@RichCocoEntertainment

3 ай бұрын

Very bad advice, I had a ex that was always in the church praying and acting like he's the man of God then I found out he's a player.. People would fake their personalities to get what they want! After the break up I learnt a lot a true man of God wouldn't want sex before marriage.. It's wrong to go through life using and hurting people

@ThatGirlMoi

3 ай бұрын

@@RichCocoEntertainment you’re so right! We should do beyond the *looks* I had a guy I was talking to that did the pretense, knew spiritual principles, knew all the Bible verses, spoke in tongues and everything!! That’s why we need to be *obedient* relationship with God ourselves and not get deceived by their facade. We, too, as women of God should be obedient not have s3x with these men before marriage either. So if we come across a man who still wants to engage in sin, we don’t fall for it because he *looks* “Christian”. And our discernment will tell us that they are pretending and possibly have deeper issues (like a player for example).

@ThatGirlMoi

3 ай бұрын

@@RichCocoEntertainment it’s so sad how much people fake personalities to get what they want and use people! That’s why we need to be *prayerful* and *obedient*

I’ve been single and situationship free for 2 years now. Im not gonna lie, I still have my moments where I feel like omg what’s wrong with me, but im so much more clear on what I want and need. I see the manipulation when it comes at me and I just pass on it. I don’t think there’s any real love out here anymore.

@MelaninVibess

3 ай бұрын

😂 Same!

@chassy1191

3 ай бұрын

Stop looking for love. Find Shera7’s way and live the soft sprinkle life 🤗. Love him after he benefits you only.

@xclusively_meh6631

2 ай бұрын

Not everyone is looking to engage in the Sprinkle Sprinkle lifestyle. It’s exhausting trying to portray a certain image when you’re more willing to peacefully be alone.

@icequeen491

8 күн бұрын

There is real Love, Just pay attention to Consistency in action and words.

I learned that most men’s efforts in dating starts at 0% then work their way up to 100% as they begin to like you more. So if he started at the 100% from the jump more than likely he’s playin. Sad but true in most cases.

@destroyraiden

3 ай бұрын

Men are gay and won't admit it.

@BlackSmoke515

3 ай бұрын

I started to type this long ass response up, but ima just sum it up with I agree. What you said is pretty valid. People romanticize the idea of what I call "dating backwards" and in most cases I feel it sets them up for failure in multiple ways.

@th3azscorpio

3 ай бұрын

I mean, that's true for both genders. Why would I give you 100%, if Im not sure if I like you like that? For one, I don't even entertain people I don't like like that, so Im fine if the outcome isn't to my favor. But everyone, and every woman ain't exactly built like me, lol.

This is a really strange generation of men these days. Ugh.

The Ressa Tessa series set the bar so low of women, everything looking good, God ways is the only way.. Read and Stand on B.I.B.L.E!!

@annmariegood37

3 ай бұрын

I'm sorry, but the bar has been in hell for a long, longgggg time now

@squirrel670

3 ай бұрын

Her story just helps people see how far scammers are willing to go.

@TrishaBurris

3 ай бұрын

@@annmariegood37 Yes, you're right and that series proved it. Now the bar broke 🥹

@TrishaBurris

3 ай бұрын

@@squirrel670 That's why it's so important to follow GOD! And put no one above GOD. Then the story wouldn't exist

ladies-when you feel butterflies RUN!!!!!!!!!

@squirrel670

3 ай бұрын

More like when you see the red flags

@hotties3v3n

3 ай бұрын

Yep!!! And if now he wanna be your friend, RUN!!!

@danilaroche1156

3 ай бұрын

I used to think butterflies were a good thing. Nooo. You should have peace.

@redpilledchauvinist3638

3 ай бұрын

​@danilaroche1156 Aww, your learning

@nomorecrocs

3 ай бұрын

@@danilaroche1156 IKR!!!!!

Standards and IQ's have dropped 🤦🏾‍♀️🙄

@raegen5618

3 ай бұрын

People are very different. (To keep it concise.)

@MsJoyce31202

3 ай бұрын

Right.

@MsVoiceOfReason

3 ай бұрын

Below Hell

@hereisayana8207

Ай бұрын

I believe that people that manipulate have high IQ's which is how they can manipulate and use people etc.... but they do it for evil

@babydii3487

Ай бұрын

Big facts 💯

I meditated yesterday and something I didn’t even realize I was conflicted about ncame up and immediately I was given clarity. Inconsistency the FIRST time is a sign. Not dealing with it. Pouring into yourself will help these realizations come faster. 10 months of celibacy, a year .5 being single, on day 52 out of 75 of conscious eating & regular exercise, and my mind is so clear. My spirit is at ease. And I’m the happiest I have ever been in my life. Rejection is God’s protection, don’t force anything!

The fact that men take the time to play this game.

A dude start playing games he cut outta my life quick aint nobody got time for immature childish games

@Michtopretty

3 ай бұрын

💯

@jesikarabbyt2990

3 ай бұрын

A lot of these men aren't pass high school maturity level

@brittaniegray2089

3 ай бұрын

1​@@jesikarabbyt2990

@Bri-nc8yp

3 ай бұрын

@@jesikarabbyt2990and they be in their 40s and 50s still acting like middle school boys. I kid you not last year I was at work and this woman said the men wanting to date her be straight bums …with nothing to offer can’t even bathe properly. These are 50 year old 🥷🏾men

@babydii3487

Ай бұрын

💯✌🏾✌🏾

Men play all these games and laugh, but when the feminist movement suddenly returns with a vengeance, it’ll be a whole lot of pretending it just fell out of the sky for no reason…just like last time.

@hotties3v3n

3 ай бұрын

Its literally happening now!! And they deserve it!! Look at videos and articles of them complaining they are lonely!!they dont know why or what happened between men and women!😫😫😫😂😂😂

@courtneyharris1006

3 ай бұрын

if bad relationships is enough to justify some wrath of a movement then men are just as valid to wish the same venom on women. Just be glad your hearbreak doesn't come with you loosing half of everything or raising kids for years you were fooled to believe was yours. Women swear they're all innocent fairys

@AdrienneMoore-rr9xi

3 ай бұрын

Women need to stop giving birth to them

@abrahamlincoln8913

3 ай бұрын

Top 20% of men are getting the woman and playing. The rest are trying or are in relationship aleady.. So woman look at the 20% that everyone pursues and make the batch that 20 rule. Those 20% guys play games because they know they are winning. Feminism takes all men and judges they are all the same. Men in the 80% want a relationship. But woman don't want them.

@wilsmith3898

3 ай бұрын

You're a fool.. the feminist movement is at its climax.. quick to decline... Grow old, single, alone, and buy a cat 😺 😂

I have a father and five brothers this BS he's talking will not work on me. Men having money and spending it on you or me doesn't mean anything I can get my dad to do that. If I want to drive in a nice car I have five to choose from there's nothing a man can give me but love, loyalty and respect. You can tell me I'm pretty all u want but my dad told me I'm beautiful so thanks for the compliment. I've been with mine for 22 years and he didn't have to do any of those things. They'll treat you how you let them bottom line.

@melodyvovan9205

2 ай бұрын

❤

If you pace yourself and let the "relationship " go slow this wont work. Also, just be yourself and enjoy your life. If you are enjoying your life and are your true authentic self guys will see that be attracted to that and the right one will eventually come along. And if he dont, its okay bc you are enjoying your life anyway ❤

Im so grateful i got a good man a man thats been persistent and consistent since i got him

@jacquelineess1141

14 күн бұрын

Cherish him!!! ❤

While some “Christian” men can be pretenders as well, I would be more comfortable with dating, vetting over a lengthy period and slowly trusting a man of God than I would an unsaved man.

@jodezod

3 ай бұрын

Then they are not Christian. Anyone can say they are Christian just for the sake of saying it but be living a whole different lifestyle.

Church ninjas do it too😂 the world is going astray baby. When I realized what this church brother was doing, took me 5 months, just recently blocked him and I don’t feel bad. I was a little hurt and asking why would he choose me? Now I say no one can hurt me if I don’t let them. I pick and choose who I want to have closure with, if I feel like someone never thinks they are wrong I will just block them. Call me the block queen.

and they wonder why we dont date them anymore....

We live in a social culture of broken relationships, and we celebrate the person that has the most game. So when we think we're meeting someone who cares about us, we fall hard because we're connection-starved. I am convinced that we are living in a curse.

@melodyvovan9205

2 ай бұрын

Yt supremacy is a curse

It's amazing to me how ego causes people to make public statements that can be used against them later. The bad boy era is over. Brag about being a good man. Let's make that a thing.

Yes! A nerdy narc and an undercover agent. CHILE...... He says he loves me and wants sex. I replied " I'm not your wife". That did it. He flew the coop. I was hurt but no soul tie. Guurrrllll......

@dequetta_lashae

3 ай бұрын

Girl I had one of them and I stayed for 2 years just to find out everything in the end was a lie

@danilaroche1156

3 ай бұрын

​Always, I mean always listen to your gut & intuition. God will show you. No sex because you will be bound in a soul tie, sugar. Shumake is doing God's work.

@dequetta_lashae

3 ай бұрын

@@danilaroche1156 yes I definitely learnt my lesson with this one because that is the only thing that was holding me to him and when he pulled that last stunt I felt nothing so that’s a good thing my feelings are gone . And he definitely is and he is doing a great job at it because this just happened yesterday to me and I saw the video as soon as I opened my eyes

@jenniferklopman2557

7 күн бұрын

The soul tie is real. It's important to wait

I'll pray for yall because there is so much pride and conceited people in the dating market. As a married man I took my daughter to watch the sunrise on the beach. There was another gentlemen there who praised me for being in my daughters life. He then preceded to tell my how he is a single parent and raised his daughter alone. Now in his 50s as his daughters will find another man he is left to himself. We need to focus on these kids and the choices we make. No one is perfect. GOD BLESS YOU ALL

I can not be manipulated. The best have tried

When you make a man an idol over God and Jesus you will never win the game. You will always need someone else to make you happy . It’s that simple . Give your life to Jesus and watch everything change for the better ❤ Bless you all

@debbiebarrow7557

3 ай бұрын

AMEN 🙏💯🔥

This is the textbook definition of Narcissism. What he’s referencing is a gaslighting sequence. It causes a trauma bond to develop.

The thing is every thing is developed in childhood. The environment you grow up in. And let’s be honest the type of love you got from your parents you are drawn to the people that treat you similar ways your parents did.

I have experienced this by a few guys it’s very hurtful. I quickly get hip. I always end up getting disrespectful and look like the bad guy. I don’t like my feelings played with. But trying to not let another persons evil actions make me look evil

@jesikarabbyt2990

3 ай бұрын

I know what you mean by you looking like the bad guy. You have to become so aggressive with these types that it can appear that way

They'll lie and manipulate you...then when you fall for it, they'll say "you should've chose better.."

It's witchcraft believe it or not

@JohnDoe-gf5gm

Ай бұрын

🎯 💯

I recommend staying friends first for awhile with people I cannot speak for All men this is just personal experience I’ve noticed men seem to have more respect for their male and female friends more than their long term wives , girlfriends, and baby mommas It seems if you stay their friend longer and possibly enter into a relationship it will work out better that way than rushing off of oh I think you’re fine and I’m fine let’s be together

@toscadonna

3 ай бұрын

Nah, it’s just that when romance enters the equation, that’s when the lying really starts. Never date a man who’s been your long term friend and knows how badly other males have treated you. He’s waiting for his chance to abuse you for years.

@minglewithbrown

3 ай бұрын

Facts🎉

@juliaarambula3153

3 ай бұрын

Exactly. Sadly these men see or hear the word friend, he feels friend zoned and he is gone. It makes no sense the way people date. Two complete strangers playing relationship but no label.

@brookealicia92

3 ай бұрын

Nah, as soon as they have sex with you they no longer can treat you like a human for some reason.

@hotties3v3n

3 ай бұрын

I dont want a "friend" who would otherwise abuse me. Friend and partner are different things. Pass.

It’s important women who believe in the most high of course look for a man walks “after God’s heart.” Meaning that he is focused on the most high. If you aren’t doing that or don’t believe in the most high then all I’ll say is good luck. Yes, physical attraction, similar interests, complementary strengths and weaknesses, and the desire for children are things to consider. These things, though, must be secondary to the spiritual qualities a woman should look for in a man. A man you can trust, respect, and follow in the path of godliness is of far greater value than a man of good looks, fame, power, or money.

@danilaroche1156

3 ай бұрын

I agree. People talk about high value but that is a person after God's own heart.

@stephanieadim5010

3 ай бұрын

Wow 🙌🏾

Soon as I feel the energy shift muah 💋 blocked.😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 then months later I miss you so much😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 after he had to go through hoops trying find me on social media😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 shit be funny asf😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@danilaroche1156

3 ай бұрын

This is a Christian channel & it's not a good look to be cursing.

@jesikarabbyt2990

3 ай бұрын

See that is how you know what they are doing is a weak positioning. It's what losers do

This is why they are angry, it's not that easy anymore!

The devil is a liar.. stay with discernment 🙌🏾 🤗❤️

The Most High Sees It All Family!

My husband did this. Completely love bombed me in the beginning and quickly gave me less and less of him. But he also married me super quick because he was leaving for deployment soon and wanted his checks to double. But our marriage has been hot and cold the entire time.. never fully living together. So many fights and manipulated abortions.. I'm pregnant again for the fourth time. But idc, this time I'm keeping it. He's pissed but he shoulda got a vasectomy. I'm tired of having abortions.

@bee12452

3 ай бұрын

I really hope you get out of that situation or at least living arrangement soon.

@adeOLUWA

3 ай бұрын

💐💐💐💐💐 The Lord Jesus is your strength

@GHO5tMod3

3 ай бұрын

Oh honey I pray you can divorce him and secrecy and leave some states allow you to divorce or separate without the other person knowing. I’m so sorry I hope God blessed you with better idk I stay away from military men most of them carry the “same spirit”

@MissTiffany01

3 ай бұрын

Why would you keep harming innocent babies and tearing up your womb for him? Do you not have enough sense to understand a baby is the last thing you should be trying to use as a mechanism to fix your marriage? You all should be in counseling and you should be on birth control until your marriage is in a better place.

@tessw9744

3 ай бұрын

Abortions? Oh NO, girl. Please go on birth control. Ending your babies is not going to help your soul in any way, or your mental health.

How can women choose better if they don’t know they are being manipulated

@Erica-cf1xb

10 күн бұрын

That's where the Holy Bible comes in. Any other book gonna derail and brainwash her into believing she is supposed to be beat like a dog or treated like a throw away. God will never want that for His girls. These Frauds on earth is about that life.

❤😢This game has been ran on men and women since the beginning of time Bruhs and Sis. Kings did it. Pimps did it. Queens did it. Harlots did it. Politians do it. Working class men and women do it. Wealthy men and women do it. KZreadrs do it... and so on... Manipulation ONLY works when you idolize people and place them on unrealistic pedals . When you give someone more of yourself than you give to your actual self, you'll ALWAYS allow unfaithfulness, lies, abuse, neglect, etc... from people. NONE of these tactics work on a person who is secure. And that security is found in seeking God, so that you can understand your true identity. We're created in His image, but if you don't understand that, you'll conform to the image that people will place on you. Social media is an illusion (fake image). MOST of these KZreadrs pull this same game to get money, and subscribers.

16:38 I literally got off that emotional rollercoaster late last year from liking this man that I thought would be good for me. I met him at a very unstable time, I had just moved to a new apartment, I had to suddenly change job locations within my company right before I moved, my mother and I had just had a falling out a few months prior and I was just getting on good terms with my dad and then I was already in a kinda romantically desperate headspace before I met him so it was a recipe for disaster. This guy barely did anything but I liked him almost like I that woman did in your last video. I felt like an addict chasing that first high craving for something that wasn’t genuine. But I look back and I’m still learning from that situation, I truly feel like God placed him there for me to grow!

@danilaroche1156

3 ай бұрын

I don't think that God wants heartbreak for us. I certainly don't believe he wants His children tied and bound to the wrong people. The devil wants us hurt & broken with numerous soul ties that destroy our lives.

@deasyastarr

3 ай бұрын

@@danilaroche1156 no I don’t think that God wanted heartbreak for me but I feel that there are things that he puts in our way so that we can learn and grow. I’m a better woman from that situation and things didn’t go far enough to where it tripped me up, I take accountability for how far I let things go too so I say that to say, I want marriage, but I struggle with codependent tendencies and I’ve been self aware about it for a couple of years now. The man from last year taught me that I can’t keep going down the same path and that I need to change my taste and criteria for a man so that I can be a healthier minded person so that I could appreciate and look for healthy romantic relationships and to slowww down instead of rushing a relationship.

@yvonnewilson2242

3 ай бұрын

GOD DID NOT PLACE THAT MAN THERE. YOU DID. I wish people would stop using God to justify their mistakes. He didn't put that man there, He *allowed it to happen and guided you through it.* Him guiding you through your mistakes is what He does, but He doesn't personally put horrible people in your life like that. We have free will, and the Lord doesn't trump that unless you ask. The only instance I recall God putting a bad relationship together was when He commanded the prophet Hosea to marry a Harlot to demonstrate His relationship with Israel. That's the ONLY time. The rest of Scripture cautions us to AVOID SUCH PEOPLE. He brought you through and at least you did learn the lesson.

@deasyastarr

3 ай бұрын

@@yvonnewilson2242 I explained why I feel the way I feel. KZread deleted my comment. I never said God sent him to break my heart. He sent that man to teach me to be a stronger woman and to realize that certain traits of mine were not healthy and that if I’m praying to Him and asking for a healthy relationship to come my way, I need to develop better habits and let go of the toxic traits I had that would sabotage the good relationship I’m praying to have or worse, leave me wide open for an ab usive relationship. God isn’t going to give us anything we aren’t ready for so yes I believe that he will send things to help us grow (1 Peter 5:10). I ask God for the lessons so that I can grow. I’m very self aware and can look back on that situation clearly to know where I went wrong. We also were not in a relationship at all. And the guy didn’t break me. I’m still cool with him to this day and am still learning things as I reflect.

@stephanieadim5010

3 ай бұрын

@@yvonnewilson2242🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

I am so grateful to hear this! As a woman trying to express how some guys will play this game with you to my friends or family, they give me the side eye until it becomes too late. Loving yourself, working on the areas while being single is vital. If you want a healthy relationship, you need to show up healthy as well. As women we are not required to raise a man. If he is ready he will show up that way, if not it’s okay to feel a bit disappointed but that should not stop you from moving forward.

Damn I feel bad I definitely have used the “been dealing with a lot so I isolate” type lie before in my past as an excuse for women I didn’t take seriously, now I’m more mature now I should have been honest and just told them what was up.

I feel like this is psychotic. Why would any guy do all this instead of just pick someone they like.

If a dude fell off from communicating with me and said "I'm going thru a lot," I'd just believe him. Life happens. I stop talking to people all the time because I need to reset and get myself together. This doesn't make me desperate. It makes me human. I'd also note that the constant character assassination of the victim (calling her desperate) is just another tactic evil people use to excuse themselves. It doesn't matter if someone is desperate or not-- it's never okay to mislead, or manipulate ANYONE. And this dude still seems rather proud of himself. He's still calling it a "game." No-- pure evil is what it is. He's enjoying telling everyone how well he did at the "game." Sad.

@icequeen491

8 күн бұрын

It’s a Game to them. The way I see it, if someone said they were ever too busy for me I would take that as they are not as interested. Thing is a lotta ladies don’t know what Love looks like, if many have experienced love they would no that a man in love would Never Ever say he’s too busy to make his woman feel special always. When he’s going through a hard time he would want to hear the voice of that woman to make him feel good, he does not act avoidant. Problem is most women don’t know what love looks like so they believe the fake love thrown at them all the time.

😂 I’m anti social as they come and only man I want is Jax teller 😂… these games don’t work on woman who don’t mind being alone and have a good group of friends .

Absolutely ❤ there is nothing wrong with being alone ! Until you are mentally !!! Ready ❣️

I ghosted a guy after a month. He tried to play in my face. 😊

Meanwhile everyone hates sheraseven the sprinkle sprinkle lady. She teaches you how to deal with men like this. Also Keep the most High God FIRST. Seek him look for him in a man.

@danilaroche1156

3 ай бұрын

Don't hate her but she's not saved.

@Lo289-im3ip

3 ай бұрын

@@danilaroche1156There’s a lot of “saved” men that are devils in the church! Have better discernment pls

@danilaroche1156

3 ай бұрын

​Yes....yet I know plenty of great, Godly, righteous men too. God can't be mocked. Let's not be too cynical. As for me? I aspire to be a woman of integrity and character. Always.

I definitely experienced this before with a guy. I gave him a couple of chances then I respectfully told him to lose my number. Know your worth people. I have no problem being single.

Like Tony Gaskins says “caveats and nuances “ every situation, although similar, can be very different. Nothing is black and white

@squirrel670

3 ай бұрын

True. My friend would say hey what about your guy, he had issues and got better. I told her that I don't put up with BS and I can keep boundaries. I was desperate to warn her but she didn't want to listen to me. My bf was early 20's as we were. Her man was 10 plus years older with the most red flags I've ever seen but he'd lie to her about everything and she'd believe it.

@OrganicallyYahs

3 ай бұрын

Yep. Tony the truth

That kinda dark magic always backfires

Bless his heart a woman’s intuition is stronger and sees through all ur games we just choose to play along 😂

I’m the type person who is like “it is what it is” and “God’s plans not mine” so like yes I want to be married to a wonderful man of God and have a family BUT if that’s not God’s plan for me then i’ll be happy single and die happy single. As long as I make it into Heaven man 🙏🏽❤ I don’t have time for the games and unnecessary stress. I’m busy with what God wants me to do for Him and His kingdom.

Clowns have way to much time to play with women. Dude went into the percentages of the bait and switch 😂 wow

Thanks homie. I keep trying to explain to the blacks it’s not a gender issue between black men and women. It’s the spirit of narcissism. Empath blacks dating the narc blacks. Like a moth to the flame 🔥

This is a powerful PSA. When ppl are fake to us , we maintain the relationship when there is even a fraction of gallery on our part. Ie. You don’t like smoke? It burns your eyes. Yet you sit up in the house with a fine smoker? It seems petty but your well being makes you better and attract better! Makes you treat ppl well too.

This so toxic it’s scary.

I wonder if this man has only given up this game because now he sees he can get attention and maybe money talking about it online. I don't see how someone can purposefully use such a mean spirited, manipulative tactic to break someone down and just be done. The tone he used just sounded too light-hearted about what was being done. It's good he said something, but... I totally agree that having a firm foundation in Christ, being filled with the joy, hope, and love from God to sustain you, helps you through. Because everyone needs love. We just can't rely on humans for the kind of love that can heal us. I also agree that being fulfilled and whole can help you to avoid, or at least leave situations like this man sooner.

@AmericanDreamer

3 ай бұрын

good point/observation. He just wanna/gonna make some money now off of "giving the game"...What he is doing in his personal life we will never know.. But let's not trust players. Period.

@squirrel670

3 ай бұрын

It's very profitable. Misogynistic guys will pay top dollar to hear what they want to hear and to feel good about blaming women for their problems. That's why they think it's okay to use us. They are bold and disgusting.

I adored him and didn't mistreat him. He left because i wouldn't sleep with him. I wanted marriage in Christ. He didn't.

My mother brought me here and I’m grateful …. I need to work on me . Maturity and self esteem and a journey with god Needs to be a first priority

It’s all just entertainment at this point. Jesus can return now or another 2024 years from now 🤣😌🤷🏾‍♀️ it’s a wrap. Stay up good people 💜 create from an authentic place and space. Stop expecting yourself in others.

@g.i.4144

3 ай бұрын

This one right here… when we stop with the expectations and start to exercise discernment through objective assessment, a lot of our problems will cease to exist.

Heavy facts! Ladies. LOVE. YOURSELF!

What warlock, or witch taught him this? Pure demonic behavior!😢

The first commenter was absolutely correct lol. It is a head spin with all this dating bull crap put in our heads. Everybody contradicts themselves. We forgot what it’s like to touch grass! Sick of this internet crap lol

Ive done heard it all. And I fell for it 😢

Bless you brother for sharing this on your platform. It is truly valuable and needed information.

What I've never understood is why? What's the purpose or benefit to the man to do all of this? Access to a woman or multiple women? Is it fun?

@B_addie

3 ай бұрын

They want to impress other men, most of the time they don’t even like the women

Thank you for doing this video. This helped me. I been working on myself and I been in this situation, I had to walk away. Thank you for dropping knowledge.❤

I'm okay with being by myself I've been single for years my issue is finding somebody a good spouse and it's not easy to find it's almost impossible and that's the reality of it that's what I'm saying with my own two eyes

@spekialcay1

3 ай бұрын

Let him find you

@winning3329

3 ай бұрын

A good man is going to find you and not the other way around

@godofdestructiondiecast6756

3 ай бұрын

@@winning3329 I'm a male

@godofdestructiondiecast6756

3 ай бұрын

@@spekialcay1 I'm a male

@spekialcay1

3 ай бұрын

@@godofdestructiondiecast6756 I understand it’s hard but you should be careful to make a good choice. Are your expectations of her realistic and attainable? Ask God who His choice is for you. Promise you’ll be glad that you did…