"Confidence is quiet. Insecurity is loud."

@akaryafrazier

Жыл бұрын

Definitely ❤

@Peacefulblissorelse

Жыл бұрын

Ooooohhhhh...... this is SO true!!!!

@nicoledavis6344

Жыл бұрын

This! 💯

@srfr8053

Жыл бұрын

Amen, beauty doesn't beg to be seen, it just is.

@nicolegilbert6339

Жыл бұрын

Well said.

Plot twist! "Plain Jane," IS the pretty girl🙋🏾‍♀️

@m.official8590

Жыл бұрын

💣 💥🔥

@mstricejones9930

Жыл бұрын

That’s true her beauty is natural and she doesn’t require much to be beautiful

@Ilayshaa

Жыл бұрын

Bingo

@naturallyfitbyj

Жыл бұрын

Period, from the inside out! The spirit of God is within her

@gloriasmith790

Жыл бұрын

Bingo

Because “plain Jane,” doesn’t look like everybody else😂🤡

@gordonallen9095

4 ай бұрын

For real, for real.

@seekingserenity1902

3 ай бұрын

Right? They all look the same.

@highlovevibration

17 күн бұрын

True story

@jamiefarrow5052

15 күн бұрын

Amen

@jenniferibarra7737

11 күн бұрын

Yes I refuse to get plastic surgery !!

😂 Plain Jane here! 👋🏾 I’m about to get married to my King! 🔥

@R-rr1

2 ай бұрын

What's funny tho ?

@srivera4339

15 күн бұрын

Congrats I found my king being a plain jane I don't all that fakeness

@TheNeen9

15 күн бұрын

@@srivera4339 I know that’s right! 😍❤️🙌🏾

@srivera4339

15 күн бұрын

​@@TheNeen9Because underneath all that girls Covergirl is a plain girl

@Deniseessex222

13 күн бұрын

Pop off sis 😂 congratulations 🥰

Just because someone is "plain". It doesn't mean they are not pretty. Not everybody is into ridiculously long lashes, weaves, and skimpy clothes.

@Loveispatient76

Жыл бұрын

And not every woman who wears lashes and nice clothing isnt ugly on the inside…. You extremist kill me….

@sg5720

Жыл бұрын

@@Loveispatient76 so you don’t need the extra stuff- and fine and confident without it.? 😐

@Loveispatient76

Жыл бұрын

@@sg5720 how can you even ask this question and really get a real answer? I could easily just say yes…. But to answer I wear make up on sundays not every day. And even if I do, so what….. that’s my choice. Bottom line men shouldn’t be commenting on what women wear on their faces…. This is a feminine behavior, and your worried about the wrong thing…. Looking back at a woman and minding her business when you could be starting a business of your own, you know “man stuff”.

@oceanlover2426

Жыл бұрын

I concur. I have my own style, but no one will ever see me with a ton of makeup, lashes, extra long nails, and certainly no BBL, etc. I’ve never felt like I needed OR wanted it. On another note, I respect and appreciate how the brother said that he would not tear a woman down. 🙌🏾 We as women and men can even disagree, no problem. Yet, we can deal with one another with respect and honor. Our continuity depends on it.

@Eleventyeleventh

Жыл бұрын

The replies are cute. We tend to avoid the truth. I’m very sorry but if I said that the specific style won’t last as long as a beauty trend and standard because women are failing to take care of their natural hair and lashes and skin, y’all would hate me. The hyperpigmentation around the eyes, the balding, the lack of eyebrows and 0 eyelashes is real. Real money and routine is needed to have such a style. Constant maintenance and self care. It is high value and not for a cheap insecure Gyal, which I’ve personally seen is the majority of ladies with that aesthetic.... Fix your edges and your mental health, gain confidence in your natural baddie self and then adopt whatever aesthetic to please the male gaze, which would actually stick it in anything really so don’t think this or that is winning. It don’t matter what you dress like but why...

Interesting, she thinks that eye lashes,weave & caked on makeup is the definition of pretty. Bless her heart. Once she figures out her true pretty, that "pretty girl curse" will be lifted.

@mizrelmizrel

Жыл бұрын

🎯🎯🎯

@AdorzAaliyahSince94

Жыл бұрын

She's definitely teetering around "PickMe" territory.

@tinacouch3531

Жыл бұрын

If you're naturally pretty. It won't. Pretty Plain Jane's are cursed still

@kemi1486

Жыл бұрын

I’m glad someone said it. I didn’t know how to say it without coming off as tearing down another black woman because even with all that she has on, she’s an average looking woman to me.

@loyanadale903

Жыл бұрын

@@kemi1486 the thing is, her referring to ladies who aren't caked with make up, eyelashes & weave, as plain Jane's is her tearing down other women. I don't wear weave, my hair is natural, my eye lashes are long enough without the bat wings, and I like to show off my freckles. I often get compliments & my dating life if ok. So yeah, she needs to figure some things out.

Plane Jane’s get overlooked by the wrong men. When I was single I was overlooked but I knew that those men weren’t for me. A mature man that knows what he wants doesn’t overlook us Plane Janes.

@baddiezone

15 күн бұрын

Yes and a mature men likes how you carry yourself and not your looks , if I were a men I would definitely pay attention to the girl who has the most dignity and respect , but also could be a 7 I’m just saying because she gotta be appealing lol

@laurenmoreno

12 күн бұрын

Amen

@calisongbird

9 күн бұрын

*Plain Not “plane.” 😄

@bobbys9853

5 күн бұрын

I don’t think it has anything to do with maturity. People have preferences, I’m not sure why putting labels on people just to make you feel better about why people over look others is a weird coping mechanism.

@HeartWritesINC

5 күн бұрын

Your picture is pretty not plain at all. 🤷‍♀️

Can we just give this man RESPECT on how he honors and adores his wife!!!

@cynthiastevens8302

5 ай бұрын

Well he hison you tube she will see it so he better 🤣🤣

@SantiagoVeraLoor

9 күн бұрын

Ameen

I am going to say this in a nutshell. BEING PRETTY IS NOT ENOUGH TO SUSTAIN A RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE. You will get use to anyones looks.

@jaxcoss5790

Жыл бұрын

Indeed!

@Chyna65

Жыл бұрын

amen..I heard that..🎉

@nello8630

9 ай бұрын

Looks fade. My wife is still beautiful, not as beautiful as she was 23 years ago. Her beauty is not what keeps us together. A woman's attitude is her secret tool. She gave me the best gift of all, our son.

@jhssmith2004

7 ай бұрын

thank you.

@GeeBee212

6 ай бұрын

@@nello8630 I hope that you didn't tell her that she isn't as pretty!

I think she is mistaking pretty with high maintenance. Cause if she is to remove all the extras, she will see how fast she turns into the plain Jane she is describing. A pretty girl is pretty with or without the extras. Now this is not to reduce this woman in any way. But I understand the difference between low and high maintenance and what it can do for a woman's esthetics.

@f3042

Жыл бұрын

That’s the actual issue right there. If she wiped that stuff off her face and had natural good looks men would be all over her because natural good looks/genetics is what attracts men. All that extra stuff is fine but if you don’t have good looks without it, the men aren’t considering you a “pretty girl” 😂

@jenn4082

Жыл бұрын

Don't see pretty all I see is delusional

@Abundantone444

Жыл бұрын

I ain't a hater but she said that is pretty girls kinda strong and I'm like ma'am... She not ugly but still.

@FrauMase

Жыл бұрын

👏👏👏👏👏😁 well said

@penelopesanchez1679

Жыл бұрын

Well put

We live in a volatile era where people are addicted to anger and seeing others "humbled" or torn down. So seeing a calm and level headed reaction without negative emotions is breath of fresh air

@La-la_

9 күн бұрын

I agree alot of guys I've met are so keen on tearing down on women who don't follow these trends and alot of girls are so keen on tearing down other women for not following their flow of life,it's even sad that it's getting more attention and likes these days cuz I feel like it's just trashy and stupid 😅

He's working really, really hard not to cut down this young lady and I give him props for it.

We’re not plain Janes we are beautiful decent, classy women who love the way we naturally look. ✌🏽😁

@jalisabradford6201

Жыл бұрын

Facts!!! That girl in the video just made herself look foolish.

@teewashington1987

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely

@4GODiswithus

Жыл бұрын

Say that again for the people in the back!!

@kimjones1007

6 ай бұрын

Amen

@JamieModelvsDirector

6 ай бұрын

It’s the way we carry ourselves ❤ 😊

Translation: The dude she really wanted to want her, married someone who is opposite of her.

@Noname-qk3hr

4 ай бұрын

Damn

@Shininglight83

13 күн бұрын

That’s exactly what I was thinking…smh

Men want a woman who doesn’t look like a different person in the morning.

@jessybelle

5 күн бұрын

U want a barking rabies dog next to you in the bed - just say it

@Babyduzzit

2 күн бұрын

@@jessybellewhere the fuck you get that from? He said he wants someone that wont surprise you in the morning, he wants his woman to look the same in the morning as he mett her. He wants pretty girl from the beginning, not a pretend pretty girl lol

Pretty is not skimpy!!Showing skin and body parts doesn’t mean a woman is beautiful.

@Jazlover101

9 күн бұрын

Just say your overweight and you cant dress like that lmao

@SantiagoVeraLoor

9 күн бұрын

No, it means she belongs to the streets 😂😂😂

@Jazlover101

9 күн бұрын

@@SantiagoVeraLoor no it doesn't

Ladies, don't focus on asthetics. Don't focus on fitting into vain, fruitless categories. Focus on God and prepare for a man of God to be your husband. Don't settle for less. Be the woman of God that a man of God who's focused on the Lord and His purpose would desire to marry.

@toastEDmrshmello09

Жыл бұрын

Thank you. Now I can leave this video that I was temporarily nosy about lol

@porschenator

Жыл бұрын

This right here is the one.

@DanyDarling22

Жыл бұрын

Boy bye. Ladies, do BOTH. Be your best aesthetically & spiritually. Men will cheat & breed you either way. It really has nothing to do with aesthetics. It has everything to do with who they can AFFORD, CONTROL, & who STROKES THEIR EGO the best. Being an awesome, kind, nurturer, & forgives as a woman, in general, is a given.

@Herbeauti

Жыл бұрын

My goal everyday F everything eles ❤

@Loveispatient76

Жыл бұрын

I’ll do all of this, as well as look my best ❤

You’re actually the first male creator I’ve seen who doesn’t bash women no matter how many wrong points they can make (cause this lady had a few). It’s all respect, and I appreciate and value that. 👏🏾

@smooothsynergy652

Жыл бұрын

Yess

@lavi7521

Жыл бұрын

Mtr, rom wills and there're others

@discardedlotus1014

Жыл бұрын

same here. we can all be able to disagree respectfully as mature adults

@LarennPBel

Жыл бұрын

TONY GASKINS DOESN AS WELL AS RC BLAKES JR.

@kimjames6028

Жыл бұрын

Agree 💯

I’ve been called plain Jane before due to the fact I don’t wear makeup often and I rather where my natural hair and rock my nails short ect; but it’s all by choice and I’m most comfortable this way, but funny thing is every time I’m around the girls that where a ton of makeup and 35 inch weaves and long colorful nails, they always get uncomfortable and insecure. I never understood that but this lady here just confirmed what I was thinking.

@Luvvserena111

13 күн бұрын

As a girl that’s not a plain Jane I love beauty. As a kid I loved makeup and playing dress up, a lot of women were like that as little girls so when we get older ofc we love wearing makeup getting our hair done and fashion. It’s not about being superficial or insecure it’s an expression of personal style and what you find beautiful at the moment. For some women it’s for show bc they are insecure but for a lot of women they actually just love it.

This is such a good topic. I am an older woman and it's really shocking to me how low majority of women have fallen. Decked out in make up, false lashes, false nails, false hair and who knows what else is false. Sad state of affairs.

I personally know of 'plain Janes' struggling to find love while so-called pretty girls (weaves lashes makeup nails heels etc) who are getting married. In my opinion it's a personality or reputation issue mostly. There are also countless married 'plain Janes' being cheated on for other types of women (i.e. Derrick Jackson) This occurs daily. Men will always carry the carrot on the stick when you care too much.

@mesidye

Жыл бұрын

And let’s also not forget plain jane married ones get cheated on as well. So 🤷🏽‍♀️

@aprillife333

Жыл бұрын

Facts

@deliteful1991

Жыл бұрын

Bingo!

@jalisabradford6201

Жыл бұрын

@@mesidye let's not forget those ones with all that makeup, weave, lashes and BBL, are getting played too

@yotajames4145

Жыл бұрын

@@jalisabradford6201 absolutely 💯

“Beware of people who have to make a declaration of who they are when you see them” ‼️‼️ well said 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

@churchsbiscuits

Жыл бұрын

💯

@CPT_Pepper

Жыл бұрын

Case and point: Self-declared "Alpha" men...😒

@sabir1208

Жыл бұрын

@@CPT_Pepper right I was on a dating app over a year ago and this guy said on his profile, he was "hands down one of those dopest people you'll ever meet" I swiped left so damn hard, I was like egh cringe

@DanyDarling22

Жыл бұрын

@@CPT_Pepper 🤭😂🤣😂🎯 This keeps happening to me!! Their almost always insecure, hyper sensitive, easily triggered betas once I get to know them. Lol It’s ok tho. I adore betas too. They have high emotional intelligence. Alphas & sigmas do too but in a different way.

@DanyDarling22

Жыл бұрын

@@sabir1208 😆😆😆

Pretty girl using the word nigga….as a description word. On the same breath looking to be taken serious. The irony 💀

@yprimrose

19 күн бұрын

That part. She doesn't understand she's turning good men off.

@nowlaterkiss9811

5 күн бұрын

who said she was pretty?

I've never worn wigs, weaves, make-up, or clothing that advertised. What I discovered to be the attraction was proper character building and maintaining that which I was blessed with. It's also amazing what being a well rounded conversationalist and a genuine smile can accomplish. 🍃😊🍃

Black female, here. An observation: I shaved off most of my hair and wore it short a few years back. I hated it. But, it was the 1st time in my life that I received so many compliments from men.

@starrjohnson1327

Жыл бұрын

❤

@dbig48d

Жыл бұрын

That's because BW are so beautiful in thier natural state that God blessed you with

@mimineren8787

7 ай бұрын

I loved my era of short hair. I also received the most compliment with short hair.

@ultimateenigma6038

6 ай бұрын

Ladies we are women.....after age 13....normalize...that. referring to us as "females " is derogatory. Listen to men.....do they call each other "males"? Love and light to all blk women

@justonetime6179

6 ай бұрын

@@ultimateenigma6038 a 13 year old is a child, but I agree with your point… call yourself either a girl or woman, not a female.

Being a “plane Jane “ female is also a lot of effort .let’s not act like it’s not something you have to work at. If you not wearing makeup you’re working on making your skin look as good as possible. You’re making sure that your natural hair is healthy and looking good. Just because your not doing “the most” doesn’t mean that you’re not doing anything at all. I have vigorously made an effort to look good I just focus on looking good naturally. I dress more simply but I look very put together and stand tall . It makes me feel good to know that I look good even when I choose to keep it simple. If I want to do more I can do that but being more simple is what truly makes me feel good and confident. I used to do the wigs and all that but I feel better the way I am now. I’m pretty naturally and I lean in to that. I turn heads (not bragging) just saying . I’m a very modest women and I think ALOT of women can benefit from leaning into their natural beauty at some point. I’m telling you , it frees you and allows you to do more with less. It’s a great feeling.

@starrjohnson1327

Жыл бұрын

You are speaking facts. I invest in my skincare, hair products and health. I get compliments all the time. I made water, supplements, exercise,sleep and peace my top priorities!

@avababyy775

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@marciawade9101

Жыл бұрын

I'm the EXACT same way. EXCELLENT commentary, Ma'am! 🌹

@A.Light33

Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@SamRabbitx

10 ай бұрын

This right here! Us "plane janes" DO the most. Just in a different way. Being presentable and respectable requires effort. Because there's definitely a difference between "natural beauty" and "women at walmart" levels of "low/no effort" lol

I love the hell out my plain Jane that why she got a ring because she don’t do nothing but bring me peace

People are delusional.. Who told you, you was pretty? 😂😂😂😂 My grandma said you got let somebody else tell you that.

@idakelly3567

10 күн бұрын

🙄😳😩🤣

@nunusmith3320

10 күн бұрын

@@idakelly3567 i’m sorry if I was being mean.

@ellyjessy5044

10 күн бұрын

​@@nunusmith3320but you are absolutely right

@disneymama7548

7 күн бұрын

Amen

This is why we can’t go based on looks. Just cause a woman likes to wear hair and make up doesn’t mean she has a bad personality or is vain. AND ITS OK FOR WOMEN TO LIKE FEMININE THINGS LIKE THAT. and just because she’s a plain Jane doesn’t mean that her personality is great! There’s too much emphasis on the outside, whether people wanna admit it or not.

@nmhoskins

Жыл бұрын

With the high divorce rates in the black community, who are the 'plain janes' marrying? Plan Jane women may have high ambition, higher incomes than their husbands, and higher education. These women may have settled for low tier men to marry. I like his channel, but he talks as if these level-headed, smart, hardworking men are plentiful and easy to find. She may not have the best message, but he is overstating the caliber of men in the Black community.

@SparklingOnyx

Жыл бұрын

I think in the blk community too much emphasis is placed on superficial characteristics and these assumptions and ideologies we have as a culture. We like to place ppl in these fixed categories that we've created instead of just going through life and examining each individual situation and person separately. We complain about stereotypes but we constantly use stereotypes against each other and make decisions based on those ideas. I've been guilty of unconsciously doing that as well before, it's cultural but needs to stop. A plain Jane woman is not being treated any better than a more glamorous looking woman when it all boils down to it in our community. Just look at Derrick J soon to be ex-wife. This man put her through the ringer and she's as plain as it gets. A man will treat you right if that is his desire. If he is a mature and respectful man with his priorities and heart in the right spot.

@ELamy802

Жыл бұрын

I agree Sis. It is ok for Women to invest in themselves and look good for them. Because I love makeup 💄

@AdorzAaliyahSince94

Жыл бұрын

@@SparklingOnyx preach! I just typed something similar! She's in competition mode and she needs to stop it. Too many of these men are actors anyway! They will play a role & switch up on you midstream!

@tautianacox4400

Жыл бұрын

1. All he did was use the categories she used in order to comment on it. 2. He definitely said he is referring to quality men who care about things like building a legacy and Derrick is not that. 3. He even went as far as to say that he loves his wife's appearance and loves when she does get "extra",he didn't marry his wife for looks and then followed up with non-physical reasons why he did. It's about not having to lead with pretty being your primary "personality trait" so to speak. Sometimes we have to stop filtering what's being said through our emotions and listen to what a quality man is telling you about other quality men (really of any race) instead of referring back to what the others do/did in order to get different outcomes so that our daughters don't have to be in youtube comment sections trauma bonding over trash men.

Her looks isn't the problem. it's her speech and what that gives way to about who she is.

@TVwriter23

Жыл бұрын

That's what I was thinking. Guys may have been interested until she opened her mouth. It also.could be she's in the wrong places. The club you damn near have to be someone else. Most people in the club ain't looking for no spouse. You also have to dress for where you are.

@MissNJoy

Жыл бұрын

Exactly! Not intelligently spoken at all.

@85russellkrystal

Жыл бұрын

I agree, she explained what she was trying to say incorrectly

@SarahEvansCunningham23

5 ай бұрын

S. Tx you for pointing that out. I couldn't keep listening

@RM-cw1ix

4 ай бұрын

Idk, I hear lots of girls from Southern states sounding very "country" and unintelligible (like the female version of Larry the Cable guy.. or the female version of that guy from King of the Hill who nobody understands) but they have no problem finding people to love them. I wonder if there's a stigma to the black version of accents and, I guess, *_dialects_* that deviate from the classic Euro-English one? (not sure yet what each dialect here in America is called, sorry..) It does seem like they get criticized harsher, as if they're willfully commiting an offense/crime/sin.. and as if they are undeserving of love, respect and any form of humanity due to the dialect. Like, we seem very, very angry at them for this and mildly disgusted at them for this.. On a mildly related side note, I also wonder if this happens (consciously or _unconsciously_) to other people with other accents and/or dialects (jamaican pattois, nigerian pattois, hatian accents, african accents, middle eastern accents etc etc)

My Brother, your commentary on this young Woman's video is so spot on. Thank you for sharing your sage wisdom and maturity on this subject. Additionally, this young woman needs to be prayed for. She is just an average looking Sister (nothing wrong with average) trying hard not to look average. She should be more concerned about her attitude and what vibe she is giving out to the brothers.🌷

Thank you for esteeming those who choose to be "plainly" themselves. You give me faith that there are still good men who look deeper than surface to find someone.Blessings, sir!

What happened is, she is the plain Jane, but wasn’t getting the attention. She studied what she perceived men were paying attention to and tried to mimic/dress herself up like “that girl”. She’s frustrated because she’s still not getting the attention. Truly, she does clearly have low self esteem and nothing much to bring to the table. We can hear that she’s unrefined in her speech and the facade she has built up is easy to see through. She needs to step back, self reflect and build character, value, respect and love for self.. first. I do feel really bad for her and it’s a bit embarrassing to watch. I wish her the best though in her healing.

@rosiewills2431

Жыл бұрын

I fully agree with you. Her vernacular is not in par with where she wants to be.

@erehistruth2356

Жыл бұрын

I agree.

@karencussoutaboy6214

Жыл бұрын

💯💯🎯

@tonyacarpenter9033

Жыл бұрын

It's not so much her vernacular as it is her not understanding who she is. She feels as if she's entitled and she conflates and assumes. I need her to ground herself and have some contrition.

@keyonnakd

Жыл бұрын

💙🖤

She has a lot of growing to do. Why is she so focused on what a man want? Many men have different needs and wants. Heck, that’s half of the human population. Stop worrying about men and focus on your elevation, mentally and physically. Enlighten yourself, laugh, enjoy life and your person will see you. I don’t know what a “Plain Jane” is bcc women can transform their look. Her perception of other women are off, misleading and wrong.

@AdorzAaliyahSince94

Жыл бұрын

She really does!! She's giving off big PickMesha energy. Dudes are turned off by low-lying fruit & chase women they can't have. They'll gas PickMes up to the moon, though. They also like to try & "humble" women that intimidate them instead of leveling up themselves. At the end of the day, a majority of these dudes don't even know what they want anyway. Life has shown me that PickMeshas rarely get picked! Many end up being lifelong cheerleaders and friend-zoned! She's definitely worried about the wrong things. Hope she finds self-love and self-worth one day soon.

@FightsRightsAlways

Жыл бұрын

Best response on her. Idk, why she's so worried about a man. All this tells me, is that she NEEDS a man in order to function.

@lanid4B

Жыл бұрын

This girl on girl hate pick-mes engage in is insidious. I pray these women get chosen and leave other women tf alone.

@nancybreaux9684

Жыл бұрын

Agreed.

@laceykanda995

Жыл бұрын

Best comment on here 🥳🙏🏿! This woman is delusional 🤦🏾‍♀️.

Honestly, they're probably scared of her because they dont know how she looks without the lashes weave and makeup. Fr!!

He knows he wanted to say that she is NOT PRETTY. And I don't think she is pretty

I love how No one is talking about how whether we have makeup/weave or plain Jane we all getting played 😪 I’ve been both and the grass is only greener where we water it. Dudes get plain Jane and neglect them then get the ones with lashes then try to make them plane Jane it doesn’t matter what matters is how they treat you no matter what season they’re or you’re in. Stop letting them lie to you looks do matter as long as they’re “natural” looking to them . Thank me later!

@PrettyIRL0926

Жыл бұрын

I’m so glad I had my ugly duckling stage before I reached my peak/prime. I had plenty of time to work on my personality/intelligence before looks was ever important for the day and age now I have both beauty and brains +humor and these ninjas dk WHAT to do with it

@sxyteesa0890

Жыл бұрын

@@PrettyIRL0926 same 😂

@f3042

Жыл бұрын

@@PrettyIRL0926YEP!

@obaaAkos02

Жыл бұрын

That's terrible. I hope you're not get friend anymore.

@rosseryankeegirl

Жыл бұрын

Exactly!!!!! It doesn't matter pretty or plain...they do not like us either way. They seek, then destroy.

He is absolutely right when he says some men will hurt you on purpose to crush your ego...that's what I think Diddy is doing to Yung Miami

@lavonnealexander6936

Жыл бұрын

🤔😨I think your right ?! That dude keeps on seeing different women everyday.

@danilaroche1156

7 ай бұрын

I always suspected this. Men crushing a ladies ego. This happened alot when I was a successful model. Men assumed I was conceited and tried to hurt me.

It is true that many men (and women) who get off on breaking egos. I appreciate the tenderness and respect you/this man exhibited and projected here, alongside the authenticity.

Thank you for this post KING!!!!!

Some women are naturally pretty without all that. So what she’s calling plain Jane may be drop dead gorgeous. I rarely wear makeup unless I’m dressing up for something and dress fairly bohemian/laid back and I’ve not had a shortage of attention. Honestly sometimes I’m shocked because I’ll be feeling like I look a mess and get more attention.

@Mo.1988

Жыл бұрын

Same here

@kairizeeshoopuf

Жыл бұрын

Needed to be said.

@whatever7639

Жыл бұрын

Inner beauty (thoughts) may have something to do with it...

@lulu-bp5qv

Жыл бұрын

Me too Sometimes when I am dressed up less men talk to me

@PrincessJewels08

Жыл бұрын

Girl same. I’m like who are y’all looking at cause it can’t be me and my sweatpants 😂 I just take care of my skin, hair, hygiene, and have confidence no matter what I’m wearing. Plain Jane doesn’t mean less than or less attractive

A women does NOT have to purchase and wear weaves, lashes, etc to invest in herself 🤣 some of y'all wild with these comments. For the record, us Plain Janes are not in competition with you Baddies. We're just different.

@LaLa_856

Жыл бұрын

🙌🏽🙌🏽

@teewashington1987

Жыл бұрын

Preach

@Nirobiscloset10

Жыл бұрын

I thought all women can be both? 😂 I'm both..I think us ladies are so more. Now plain vs made up.😂🤣

@SharayaMW

Жыл бұрын

@@Nirobiscloset10 Absolutely can be, but some women feel that plain Jane's are boring and some feel that Baddies are too much.

@Nirobiscloset10

Жыл бұрын

@@SharayaMW 😆 Baddies...a plain Jane can be wilder than a baddie. People are regressing badly. Your outside appearance can't be the only thing, if so, than your not as gorgeous as you think.

You’re a real one for this!!!

My brother, thank you for breaking it down the way you have! The focus is so off among many of my sisters that they keep missing out on their own blessings!

Why does she assume that she is pretty just because she spends money on her hair and makeup, nails, etc? There are women who have natural hair and look beautiful without anything on their face or any enhancements. She is wasting funds to just look average.

@Toni-id2pv

3 ай бұрын

Agreed. She okay looking

@dashiajames1882

2 ай бұрын

Good afternoon: It's crazy that some women believe they look better w/makeup. A pic without make-up looks great or the same. They wear soooo much make-up they literally look ashy & old. But she is spending money just to look average 🙄. That whole video makes her look like a insecure person. And a airhead..!!

@zxcccccc1

16 күн бұрын

Yes, because men don’t just approach women because they’re beautiful it can also be because you’re accessible.

@nowlaterkiss9811

5 күн бұрын

PREACH!!!

@LeeLee-fr4um

2 күн бұрын

Agreed. Who told her she is pretty? Not being mean, but she's very average looking.

Just because a woman is extra, nails done, hair done, weave extension, eyelashes etc., Doesn't mean a woman is pretty. She takes care of herself. As she should. Taking care of yourself and being confident is attractive!

This page has blown up! Proud of your success!

You earned a new subscriber 😊 You respectfully broke down that video. Usually black men just love to tear down women but this is class right here👍🏽💪🏽

Whether she's a Plain Jane or a Fun Girl, both have the potential to be toxic. Without God as the Root of her life, her fruits will be toxic to the soul. Fellas, focus on God & prepare to be a husband for the woman of God coming.

@diannegwillis

Жыл бұрын

Right! Cause plain Jane gets cheated on by so called "Fun Girl"

@tanikawashington8246

Жыл бұрын

Amen

@TrickstoThrive

Жыл бұрын

Facts

@rhondapope4361

Жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏

@brittanythornton8408

Жыл бұрын

❤❤❤

Plain Janes get married simply because they know they bring to the table so much more than just their looks

@lifewithaja911

7 күн бұрын

Right. Just being a woman in itself holds so much power

This was such a great video! Even I said the same thing in the beginning to first listening to her rant, men don't want u cuz they prob think u trying too hard, doing too much to "look good". And it's always the girls that are so focused on making their outside look good, that become lower quality on the inside. I wish there were more KZreadrs like you and less like Kevin Samuels. This girl is so full of herself yet u addressed everything that needed to be said without having to disrespect anyone. Ur a real man!

Very astute, insightful observations from a young man delivered in a respectful, loving way. We need more of this. Your wife is a lucky woman.

I tuned out her voice and "logic" as soon as she said "females." 😒

@TheNaphisa03

Жыл бұрын

A woman calling other women "females." Very derogatory way to address women. Goats, sheep's and horses are female, not a good word for women.

@mizrelmizrel

Жыл бұрын

🎯🎯🎯

@AdorzAaliyahSince94

Жыл бұрын

I have come to loathe the term female!

@gigif169

Жыл бұрын

Right!!! It's low class to me and removes womanhood from a gender that's female.

@pajdesign

Жыл бұрын

So you missed the part where she said “What is it gone take fo’ a ni&&@ to realize dat we da one???” 😂🤪

I think she’s confusing the word “pretty” with “glam” or maybe “high maintenance.” Not trying to put her down, but I would not put her in the category of pretty. If you’re really “pretty “ you’re pretty even if you don’t have on makeup and nails. The men are “scared” of her because she comes across as high maintenance.

@aprilclover2429

Жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@teewashington1987

Жыл бұрын

Agreed

@user-pw3bl1zv4g

Жыл бұрын

This!👏🏾👏🏾

@charmainebell7188

Жыл бұрын

Truth...

@moniferk

Жыл бұрын

Agreed

Preach it Brother. Tell it like it is. Well said.

I find natural beauty to be more attractive.

Here we go..I worked with a girl who always gave me HELL for not dressing up and not applying make up everyday. So one day, to prove a point ( I was being petty) dressed up and put on my makeup and took my fine azz to work. She didn't bother for the entire day. Problem solved because she thought, I was unattractive because I did not wear makeup everyday. She stopped referring male customers to me as well. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

@mzyotruthnlove8263

Жыл бұрын

🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣 you became competition to her. I bet she didn't bother you anymore either.

@mariahsmith9283

Жыл бұрын

@@mzyotruthnlove8263☠️☠️

@mzyotruthnlove8263

Жыл бұрын

@@mariahsmith9283 hi Mariah, would you translate the meaning of the skulls please?

@shalawndudley2094

Жыл бұрын

@@mzyotruthnlove8263 Dead. Like funny or crazy

@mzyotruthnlove8263

Жыл бұрын

@@shalawndudley2094 thank you. Have a great day.

You are telling the truth. My husband loves me as my natural self. Lady’s it doesn’t take all that! Keep your body healthy and skin glowing, take care of your natural hair! Even if you decide to put weave in it! Being a women is already a gift!

@victoriousneish429

Жыл бұрын

That's right! 👏🏾

@applecandyfolks7979

Жыл бұрын

BUT FKS WITH WOMEN WHO ARENT,

@Mo.1988

Жыл бұрын

Is that your real hair?

@sashua4

Жыл бұрын

I love that “ being a woman is already a gift”

@rolindabeck

Жыл бұрын

Yes Love being a woman to be plain Jane or petty we are blessed to be here

I know this vid is over a year old, but man you were spot on with all your takes! Good stuff bro!

Plain Jane here. Natural hair that I straighten maybe no more than a handful of times a year. (I don’t do weaves, 30-40 inch bust downs). I only wear make up for special gatherings (and that is very light and natural looking). I get dip power nails that are short, never wore (nor care to wear) lashes. I was the “boring” book worm that was overlooked all throughout school. Now that I’m older, I am now coming across more men that appreciate the natural beauty.

Just because you wear eyelashes, makeup, and weave doesn’t make you pretty, yes it might enhance your look SOME but I feel some women or a lot of women are jealous of women who are confident in their own skin. Meaning they rock their natural ,they might not wear makeup and lashes, and some women I feel are intimidated of others who have such confidence. Not all men want women that their friends do too. Plus if all you have to offer is looks well that’s not very much. Beauty fades and dumb is forever I’ll take brains over beauty some women have to realize you might have looks but you lack in conversation.

@HiSweetieyourenotimportant

Жыл бұрын

She is definitely a beautiful girl! You can tell when people are pretty with or without. She clearly is lonely. No need for y’all to add more fuel to the fire! She’s still human at the end of the day.

@raynettescoggins702

Жыл бұрын

Preach. As I said, most of these women aren't pretty, they're just made up to look that way. Make-up is very transforming.

@miamiflutist

Жыл бұрын

Conversation is soooo important

@adriennethompson3382

Жыл бұрын

@@HiSweetieyourenotimportant she shared her insecurities to the world trying to shame the plain janes

@joycewatt8289

Жыл бұрын

@Teil Fox I couldn’t agree with you more! You hit the nail on the head.

Whether a madeup pretty girl or plain Jane, you have to ask yourself “What comes with that?” Integrity, nice personality, character, caring, loyalty, intelligence, empathy, understanding, etc.

@kaytaylor1766

Жыл бұрын

Well said !!

@Melly16yr10

Жыл бұрын

Truth same things to look in a man

So glad you have a channel

I appreciate the fact that more men like You and Tony Gaskins are filling us in with the truth. I appreciate that.

I'mma take a shot every time she says "us pretty girls" until it's true.

@dontme4132

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. She ain't pretty in my estimation

@teewashington1987

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@tomorrowsworld3674

Жыл бұрын

😂

@Praisingthecreator

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@uwishuknewwishbones

Жыл бұрын

I’m ngl I was looking for this comment because are we confusing eyelashes and weave w/ pretty cause WTF😳

Elegance is not about being noticed, it's about being REMEMBERED. Thank you for posting this video. Your wisdom is and willingness to teach how men feel/think about us woman. I believe you!!! 🌹🌹🌹

🔥🔥 commentary!

Just saw your video. Really cool. Thanks for your commentary.

This video irked my soul and I’m in Facebook jail and couldn’t chime in on the debate lol! The fact that she thinks “pretty” is associated with fashion, lashes, hair, and makeup is sad. It’s also a clear indication that you don’t think you’re pretty without any of those things. That’s why they play with the “pretty” chicks.

@AdorzAaliyahSince94

Жыл бұрын

Preach! Hope you make bail ASAP!

@songbird8404

Жыл бұрын

@@AdorzAaliyahSince94 January 11th chile 🤦🏽‍♀️ I been in about 60 days now 😂

@Royalgazlite

Жыл бұрын

You must have done something real bad to be in Facebook jail that long!🤣👍🏽 Cant wait till You see freedom!

@songbird8404

Жыл бұрын

@@Royalgazlite in response to a post that asked “if your mom and aunt got into a fight who would you help” all I said was “I’m whooping my aunts ass” and they got me 😂😂😂

@saladandcake7103

Жыл бұрын

@@songbird8404 😂😂😂 I'm with you on that one!

He put it so nicely “it’s weird that you put yourself in that category”

@Mo.1988

Жыл бұрын

😂 😂 😂

@queenreg7

Жыл бұрын

Such tact.

Very well articulated.

Thank you for keeping the respect for the women. I do appreciate your platform.I watch you and listen in silence. I appreciate you called her a cousin and u have the best integrity to give her words of wisdom. 👏💯🙏🏽Kuddos

I honestly believe in doing both and I've seen women on both sides get married. We're all beautiful. But it's important to understand that healthy people attract healthy people. It's not about how you look it's about your character. I hate the whole "plain jane" vs other women trope, it's tired. Let the categories go and be who you are, work on your health and someone will come and love you the way you need to be loved. We all deserve that and this whole ideology needs to be abandoned.

@MrTheone919

Жыл бұрын

Thank you!!!! 🙌🏾👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽drop da mic!!!

@essence____beauty_92

Жыл бұрын

💯💯💯💯❤️❤️❤️ perfectly said!!!!

@suzziek2999

Жыл бұрын

Exactlyyyyyy!!! I’m tired of hearing women say “men don’t like it when we’re natural…men don’t like Afro hair…men go only for these type of girls” no sis have confidence in yourselfff. As soon as you change to fit someone else’s standards, you loose yourself and eventually the relationship because that isn’t you! There are men out there that will like all that, you just haven’t found that person yet

@lynne4948

Жыл бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@elsiem7295

Жыл бұрын

Girl yesssss, I hate the fucking categories, especially when it’s another woman boxing woman in, just to make herself feel more at ease within herself. Like no ma’am!

I’m what’s considered a plain Jane female. I used to think I was ugly unless I had weaves and makeup and fake nails on. It took a long time for me to show my man my real hair. He brought me out of my shell and now I’m natural. He always told me he likes me better natural. The most compliments I’ve ever gotten was whenever I looked natural. I never went back to how I used to be and that’s because of my man. That’s why I’m getting married because I’m a plain Jane and don’t have to look like somebody else to be pretty mad my fiancé helped me understand that.💯

@Savage4Lyfe

Жыл бұрын

That’s nice. 🫶🏽

@PrincessJewels08

Жыл бұрын

If that is you in your icon pic, then you are very pretty

@richievanessa85

Жыл бұрын

@@PrincessJewels08 thank you❤️

@FinishTheRaceVL7

Жыл бұрын

Same here. Last year I FINALLY decided to let go of the weaves and wigs. I feel more Beautiful and Free...Amen!

@Knowledgeispower276

Жыл бұрын

By looking at your pic you are a natural beauty!! Nothing needed, you’re gorgeous.

This just found its way into my feed. If I could give it 10 👍 I would. Thank you for posting this. ❤

This was me the whole time "🤨🤨🤨" lmao

Just because a woman doesn't wear the entire beauty supply store every day doesn't make her not be attractive just like Clarabelle the cow lashes and adult baby hairs make anyone else pretty. 1st of all it all depends on who's looking at you. Beauty is subjective. Secondly I never hear the really breathtakingly gorgeous women refer to themselves as pretty every other sentence. I've known quite a few and what they said is that they've been told that their entire lives and quite frankly they get tired of that being the only thing people notice about them. They're already convinced. They don't need to convince others.

@kailapeterson1650

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂Wear the entire beauty supply store😅 You are hilarious

@mommafoxxdiaries6509

Жыл бұрын

Wtf not you having a whole roasting session in the comments ..!! Cow lashes wtf 😂

@Thuglifebabyy

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@BriBri256

Жыл бұрын

not the whole supply store! 💀😂😂😂

@Mo.1988

Жыл бұрын

😭😭😭

So according to her, us plain janes are not pretty 😂😂😂… wow

Great subject! Refreshing to hear someone with some sense 🎉🎉🎉

Excellent brother! I appreciate this video so much! God bless!

My brother loves natural looking women. Natural looking doesn't just mean no make up or fake hair. For example, if you get extensions get extensions that would naturally look like your hair or wear lashes that look like they belong to you.

@ashleyharrison4560

Жыл бұрын

Yup that’s it right there

@rhondapope4361

Жыл бұрын

Right Vicki k ❤

@lovethetruth953

Жыл бұрын

yes

@camilleyvette9269

Жыл бұрын

And boom 🤯 🎯🎯🎯🎯 enhance yourself slightly 😊

I can answer this. 🙌🏽 1. Most women now days (like the one in the video) all look the same & have the same aesthetic. Same fake looking lashes. Same makeup. Same fake hair. A lot of men like natural beauty. 2. A lot of women now days talk like men and carry themselves like men. Men like softness. 3. MOST women in today’s generation only care about money & “getting the bag” and will leave that same man the minute he’s going through something real or isn’t making enough.

@lasantuzza777

2 ай бұрын

very true. number 2 is the biggest one i swear. and it can tie in with number 3, always talking ab “chasing the bag” sounds super masculine and honestly gross coming out of a woman’s mouth especially. it’s just a turn off. truth be told whether you’re into makeup, nails, etc or go completely natural most men don’t really mind too much either way. it’s almost entirely about the way you carry yourself and your energy that will determine whether or not someone sees you as a wife. ❤ and that being said i’m not advocating for people completely changing themselves or living in authentically but it’s certainly something to consider if you want to be a wife so bad but nobody sees you fit for the role. growth and self reflection are so important!

First video I've ever seen of you but I love the way you think! I also really liked how eloquent you presented all your points here. Plus, the things you were saying about your wife at the end made me tear up. 🥹 You two sound like you have a beautiful union and I'm here for it! ❤

This was so good and a no brainer 🙌🏽

Somebody she was interested in played her for a plain girl

@arianalovelace1133

9 күн бұрын

Plain or naturally more attractive 🤣

The man she really wanted probably chose a woman she feels is less attractive than her but she has to realize beauty really is in the eye of the beholder and it takes more than looks to keep anyone, man or woman.

@oceanlover2426

Жыл бұрын

We don’t have to suffer through all types of processes and procedures to be beautiful. Don’t have to spend a ton of money or place so many layers of artificial fixings on top of us to be beautiful. Beauty, in my observation, comes from The Creator and it flows from within on out. One thing I love about embracing my natural beauty is that it’s never out of style for me, I matter what people around me are doing. People say being thin is today and then being thin is out, designer bodies are in.. Then they’re out and the natural “look” is in and so on. No thank you. I am myself and I embrace this through the coming and going of all fads. I feel that we all have qualities, traits, attributes, and characteristics, that make us uniquely us. When we see the beauty in this and embrace it, it can be transformative not only for ourselves but also for those around us, even for generations of beautiful ones not yet born.

@yelloe

Жыл бұрын

She "feels" yup 😂. Many American women also seem to think they are hotter stuff than they really are. It's the overly self love, you're beautiful no matter what size or shape, look, fed into them from the media. She might think/feel she's hotter than the other woman but in reality, objectively the other woman is more attractive. I've seen this irl among coworkers. Women put another woman down or gossip about their look, even though the other woman is CLEARLY more attractive and everyone else would agree.

Thank you so much for this video.

Great video. Awesome channel 😊👍🏾

She was taught and told if you look good all the time, men will love you and marry you. That is why some women will get BBL Women need to work on logic, critical thinking, and the inner self. Judge Judy said: "Beauty fade Dumbest is forever". You can make the face prettiest as you want but your mind will stay with you forever.

@jessicascreenwritingservices

Жыл бұрын

Yes! I remember the episode when she said that. So true!

@pattilightmayo

Жыл бұрын

Amen!

@faa1412

Жыл бұрын

THey also need to work on being easygoing, warm, soft, and feminine. You can be dolled up and still be very masculine and live in too much of your masculine energy and be hard to deal with.

@amerokeewiya1320

Жыл бұрын

@@faa1412 There needs to be a balance of both.

Some men are very visual and care more about a woman’s appearance than personality cause they’re shallow.

@artsbybware4790

4 ай бұрын

Exactly

@carolinebcollier

3 ай бұрын

Bingo.

@thebluebooklife

2 ай бұрын

And

@ln8396

Ай бұрын

@@thebluebooklifeloser

@zxcccccc1

16 күн бұрын

Maybe they know you’re wife material.

I just came across your channel and I just want to say, Much Respect to you brother. I appreciate your intellect and your respect for women. I can also appreciate how you don't bash women. Love your channel. I just subscribed. Peace and Blessings.

excellent video - well said !

The real question is why does she care and why does she think good looks mean she deserves a good man.

People think they have options they don’t have. That’s men and women. You could have a million people in your DMs but if you wouldn’t date any of them and they are not compatible with you then none of them are actual options. I think we would all be better off if we humble ourselves and realize that .

@thatimokoena8357

Жыл бұрын

Word

@SK-le4lj

Жыл бұрын

That part!

@TVwriter23

Жыл бұрын

Or what are the true intentions of the men in women's DMs? Folks be like dudes be checking for me in my DMs.

@velasquezcarter2963

Жыл бұрын

This part !! Omg

@courtneytyree-jones8563

Жыл бұрын

Facts!

WORDS OF WISDOM...THANK YOU.

Well said and in a tactful way 👏👏!

A naturally attractive woman doesn’t have to do all of that girly stuff. I wake up pretty much looking good. I’m not a beauty queen but I’m cute as is.

@pattilightmayo

Жыл бұрын

❤️ I love the confidence! ❤️

@aprilclover2429

Жыл бұрын

I’ consider myself somewhat attractive but I don’t consider myself pretty.

@Savage4Lyfe

Жыл бұрын

@@aprilclover2429 girl you’re pretty. Me too. As is

@tiffanyskinner

Ай бұрын

“Girly stuff” there’s nothing wrong with being a woman lol

7:02 - "Beware of people who feel like they gotta make *a declaration about who they're everytime you see them."*

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

You definitely spoke truth- many “extra” women need to hear this bc you really don’t have to do all that to try to get a man especially a husband❤