He is very extroverted so I don't think he got anytime to think about our breakup, he always partying, hanging out with friends, meeting new people, even going on trips with barely known friend groups

Hahaha he isnt kidding about them thinking about their choice. My ex is extremely introverted and he sat and thought about it for 5 months... 5 months. He constantly called/checked in on me and constantly went from defensive to caring. Dont let them manipulate you 🤷‍♀️ find yourself someone who actually wants to be with you, a relationship isn't a debate if they should stay or not using a bulletin board

@agathasylvia9826

2 жыл бұрын

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@jennysalvador5342

2 жыл бұрын

@@agathasylvia9826 where is that

@DandyDuh

8 ай бұрын

Thank you 🙏🥹

It is not my place nor is it in me to repair or fix what he CHOSE to sever. That window is bs. If he wants to acknowledge the hurt he caused by disrespecting my boundaries than that is fine. But he has so much pride and so much time has passed I moved on. That’s what is not being discussed. When the dumper realizes what he lost it will always be too late. Feelings change. And time definitely helps with it all.

i reached her out after 1month of no contact and she happy to talk to me now we are both willing to take it slow .trust no contact but whether reaching out to them totally depends on your partner.❤

@Kongobongo526

Жыл бұрын

Who left, she or you?

@pokeyou4647

Жыл бұрын

@@Kongobongo526 we agreed on breaking up and i totally stop texting for a whole month..and when i was ready ive reached out to her and now we're back together

Been 5 years....I made the correct decision. I had my doubts, but the ex recently decided to contact me, pick a fight, and run off at the mouth.... I cut her off, told her to lose my number, forget I exist, and never contact me again. I informed her she'd be blocked and deleted on all platforms and formats. I was with her 5 years, she cheated, and I dumped her for it....that was 5 years ago.....a decade of torture....I'm done.....I told her point blank that I no longer care, and wished her the best, then cut her off. Never, ever date a chick with BPD.

Ur videos give me hope 🙃

Great video Chris. Thank you ❣️

@chrisseitercoaching

2 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it

It is very hard. I appreciate your words. Going through a break up where, 23 years ago his ex actually did some things to keep us apart that I never knew about. We ran into each other and in his words "it was like no time had passed"...sadly he had gotten pretty damaged from that, then having to leave his career to take care of his mother & brother who both passed from Cancer, his brother for 9 years. He was put on Paxil. He also has prostate cancer, though small, and had testicular cancer before that. He had not had a relationship since the 90s, and not had sex since 2008. So we cross paths, he grabbed me when he saw me and kissed me on the mouth. Then proceeded to have his arm around me the rest of the night. We began spending time together. So one of the things that happened, when we would begin to get intimate he would have a freak out and say "I don't understand, I thought it would just happen naturally but I'm not feeling anything down there." We dated for 5 months. I kept saying perhaps you know you haven't had sex in over 10 years, or maybe its the cancer or maybe its the Paxil. He refused to discuss it, instead deciding I can't do romantic relationship. I love you, I am crazy attracted to you, you're my best friend- but I just can't do romantic relationship. Then proceeded to try to keep me in his life as a friend. He called & pressed me to go to dinner "....just see if you can just be my friend." I went- I had to get high & drunk just to go. At dinner, our hands kept touching, he held me for the hug that went into 10 minutes, the holding me wouldn't let me go and when walking to my car grabbed me and kissed me on the mouth whispering in my ear, see it was awesome just like always, nothing has to change." So WTF. Am I supposed to play pretend and not discuss the elephant in the room? Am I supposed to pretend we are just friends- oh but you are my closest person, we love each other and are each other's companion, we kiss and touch but cannot call it couple because of the we won't mention the ED?? This is very hard.

Can you give us a video on what the signs of each of these stages are.

maybe a video about how to deal with the breakup after being a rebound... do dumpers miss their rebounds? was it all fake?

That moment when you realize you were the distraction all the time LOL

Can you do a video on when you break up with a guy, but it feels like he broke up with you?

@keynew2868

2 жыл бұрын

@@annastormhold1151 I broke up with him but since the break up it seems like it doesn’t bother him. We don’t even talk.

@annastormhold1151

2 жыл бұрын

Well let me give you a perspective from a point of view of someone who was broken up with. I don’t speak to that person now not because I don’t want to in fact even after 58 days of no contact I miss them terribly. But they made a conscious decision to leave and until they make a conscious decision to come toward me I will respect their decision. You say this because you expected him to beg and chase you, you left him!! so do you want him back or you just want him to seem bothered by the break up?

@rafeiamehboob488

2 жыл бұрын

I broke up with my ex partner because I found out he was cheating he is now with his ex girlfriend and he is trying to make me jealous to be honest I don't care im really happy im so glad I left him

@keynew2868

2 жыл бұрын

@@annastormhold1151 I didn’t really wanna break up but he was doing stuff and giving me signs he wanted to. The last straw was him taking my picture off his Instagram and acted like it wasn’t a big deal. Mind you my picture was the only one he took off. Then I thought we came to an understanding on what happened and I thought everything was back to normal. Nope he blocked me on Instagram and started texting me every 4 days being short. To only talking about sex.

@keynew2868

2 жыл бұрын

@@eseneebosetale7459 yeah

My Ex is very introvert but he seems to still push everything away after 4 month. Hey said he didn't start processing the break up yet. At the same time he projects all his problems on me and is very mean and not empathetic at all. Amazes me how you can exist that long without processing - I'm kind of done with the worst though.

@Atlin.

11 ай бұрын

I've learned that they don't process the breakup because we keep reaching out. letting them believe deep down they can have us anytime. you have to make him see that YOU are done. then he will go through this

My ex is unpredictable, he is really hard to read and that frustrates me.

@chrisseitercoaching

2 жыл бұрын

I can imagine that being difficult

He ghosted me after 7 months. Ball is in his court to reach out to me

What if, he was seeing someone the whole time and I didn’t know it..but when I found out, he left me for her?

@Jean__J

2 жыл бұрын

I’ve been there before. And I think the worst part of it is beating yourself up for still loving them (and possibly wanting them back) after they’ve committed the ultimate betrayal. What you’ll come to realize is that regardless of the time and feelings invested in that relationship, nothing comes above your own self-value and worth. You deserve someone who sees value in you. Someone who is wholly committed to you and your happiness and will never have you second guessing if you’re good enough in that relationship. But that is something you’ll have to fully come to terms with on your own. And unfortunately from personal experience, only time heals that wound. Be patient with yourself, love yourself, and I promise you things will get better 💚

@coolcatsandthe70schick71

2 жыл бұрын

Only if you feel insecure and doubt your own worth. Otherwise, no. Check out videos on Everyone is you pushed out. You can get anyone back you wanted to, even years later. But only if you change your self concept. Nobody will ever leave you if you love and value yourself

I broke up with my ex boyfriend a week ago and i miss him but he is not just bothered. He has moved on i guess. He has anger issues and it stress me out emotionally and mentally. I was drained and i had to tell him we should end it. he did not even say anything other than good bye!

@coolcatsandthe70schick71

2 жыл бұрын

You did not understand the video at all, did you?

@Atlin.

11 ай бұрын

what happened did he ever come back?

@user-ve9ny3dp7b

11 ай бұрын

@@Atlin. yes he came back and he is still hanging around to see if he would get me back but I have already moved on.

12:10

Can someone clarify what he said in the nostalgia stage…he said this is where you want to time it right and reach out to your ex during this stage…does he mean dumper reaches out to dumpee or dumpee reaches out to the dumper. I’m kind of confused. I don’t see why a dumpee would need to time anything. They dumped you it’s pretty much up to them when and IF they choose to try and come back.

@fabulouskatiepie9441

2 жыл бұрын

Correct dont contact the person who dumped you, if they are worth your time they will come to you. There actions will determine their value to you, if they dont want to fix they are of no value to you. Go watch the love chat he gives great advice on this. Goodluck x

@spedhead218

2 жыл бұрын

@@fabulouskatiepie9441 Thank you

@AYA-ob7hk

2 жыл бұрын

I am a dumper, after 1 week of breaking up I apologized to him and gave him a chance go apologize too for hurting me, but he did not, and confirmed that we are an exes now and no need to apologize. He is now In the nostalgia period, stalking me from a fake account, sharing about our memories together. Shall I contact him?

@ke1tor

2 жыл бұрын

@@AYA-ob7hk You can't afford to be petty if you truly think this is true love. If you're the dumper, swallow your pride and reach out. Wanting an apology for something they've done to you, is something you need to communicate to them, as people can't read minds.

@AYA-ob7hk

2 жыл бұрын

@keltor we are back now ❤️ and things are getting better, you are right we should have had a conversation instead. Thank you 🙏

why did my ex -wife agree to have phone sex with me, even though she said she doesn't love me anymore. and we both enjoyed afterwards. we broke up more than a year. what does this mean? she still luv me? thnks.

@ConceptHut

2 жыл бұрын

People go for what is easy and safe when they have a want. Means nothing.

@AYA-ob7hk

2 жыл бұрын

She was missing you, and missing you does not mean wanting you back.

Me, whose ex is introverted😑😳 👽

Stop talking about both me and my ex! We are both separated and dated. We are a mess. Lol

Hey Chris ! What if after our breakup we’ve continued to talk as friends. After learning about NC, I started to go ahead and practice NC. After a couple days she stated she was worried I didn’t text back. I kept it short and polite and ended our conversation. She then said “Well text me whenever you want”. It’s now been 4 days of NC. Do I contact her or continue to practice NC? Please help anybody, thanks!

@marciabravo7483

2 жыл бұрын

She needs NC or she won't feel the break up. You don't want to be her friend, you want to be her boyfriend. Good luck! 😀

@jacobt.4663

2 жыл бұрын

@@marciabravo7483 thank you sm Márcia! Your response gave me more hope ❤️

@coolcatsandthe70schick71

2 жыл бұрын

If you keep in contact she won't value you and will get used to being single while you are her emotional support as she finds another guy to date. Have self respect and cool off. People need to value us but they can't until we value ourselves

@coolcatsandthe70schick71

2 жыл бұрын

@Gift Cynthia Scammers are NOT our friend. Go away !

@alyciamarie4163

2 жыл бұрын

You need no contact for at least weeks. 4 days is nothing. The longer you do mot contact the more they want to contact you/ . When you continually answer then there is nothing for them to worry about