I was a good girlfriend. I had my issues, but I tried my best to make sure he knew how proud I was of him, how much I loved him, I was always there when he needed me. I did everything I could to make it work. I tried

@audraelynnegrimmelhaussen8808

2 жыл бұрын

Hugs to us who tried to make it work

@myrwinarellano8346

2 жыл бұрын

its just sad that when you're tired and over its the time that maybe there will be a change.. so breakup is helpful to reflect to the relationship

@projectf025

2 жыл бұрын

I thought I was a great fiancee, I basically did everything for her emotionally and financially, I loved and still love her more than anyone. I am still trying to get her to come home and be a family again

@dennisray8904

Жыл бұрын

I knows and feels the pain of his choices.. I too took her for granted and prayed begged cried for another chance... So if he's being quiet believe he is thinking every day 🌹

@wesleybaker3802

Жыл бұрын

Let me tell u something i had a year relationship never cheated on her never talked to other woman behind but she always got mad at me when people followed me but i always told her i dont want them bc i only have you but then i ask her do u trust me she said yes n she asked me n i said yes bc im loyal to earth.but thing is that i told her i only work come home sleep n watch movies n work out i was there for her no matter if she got mad n sad but my question is if she was there all those times while being together for a year why give up at the end n not build a more healthier relationship for us but instead i was doing most of the work but why give up when u could of sit down with me n fix what was interupting our relationship bc i told her so many times im not cheating or seeing anyone else

The dumper will only miss an ex (or all exes) when they feel lonely and when they are single or in a unhappy relationship. Otherwise they don’t care at all. But believe me, a dumper who is single because they have not their shit together, is not the person you want back in your life. Level up and meet someone who also values the same things as you and has a good and stabile character. You will never be good enough to the wrong person anyway.

Think they start to miss you after the one they tried to replace you with fails!

@milagrosrodriguez4136

2 жыл бұрын

My friends told me the same thing

@blackwidow2679

2 жыл бұрын

YES! DA'a are notorious for jumping into rebound relationships.

@Razainthewoods

Жыл бұрын

Yep!

@ladymay7789

Жыл бұрын

That's usually when the reality of what they did will hit them hard.

@BlackoutPatriot

Жыл бұрын

Facts

30 day no contact rule is nowhere near enough in the majority of cases.

@TheTrickynicky13

Жыл бұрын

How long is enough time for no contact?

@vtchevalier

Жыл бұрын

I’m gonna try 30 years 🪦

@timelessr9407

8 ай бұрын

@@TheTrickynicky13indefinitely for me

I know I was a great boyfriend. I always went out of my way to make her happy. Ordering her favorite flowers when she was upset to make her feel better, getting her food and taking care of her when she was sick, listened to her problems,taking her out to dinner, the list goes on. I wasn’t perfect and we had our arguments; But I tried my best to make her happy and if she can’t see that or it wasn’t enough I know it will be for someone else.

@bootyjoel

2 жыл бұрын

It sounds to me as though you were her emotional tampon

@deportedsouls3165

2 жыл бұрын

You need to read Robert A Glover's "No more Mr Nice Guy". And also check out Rich Cooper's KZread-channel. "Entrepreneurs and cars". You're in for a rude awakening

@bootyjoel

2 жыл бұрын

@@deportedsouls3165 Alpha Male Bible is a great one too

@miamiboulevardbrunssum1763

2 жыл бұрын

I did really the same thing g did everything for her and her Daughter. She doubt, 3 weeks later she had this other guy. I also did everything out of my heart. No stres no arguments Suddenly it was over

@user-rb6wv4yq2u

2 жыл бұрын

Keep it up, King! It gets better

To be quite honest I’m at the point where I really don’t care if my ex contacts me or not. When it comes to break ups one thing I’m good at is keeping my distance and staying away. If my ex and I ever do reconnect sometime down the line it’s gonna have to be as friends. I’m not gonna set myself up again to have my heart broken a third time.

@vtchevalier

Жыл бұрын

Facts

@MrCheenibum64

Жыл бұрын

That's the no-contact working, i don't use it to get my ex back so much as I use it to recalibrate and find myself outside of that relationship ✨

@antilaw9911

Жыл бұрын

No such things as being friends with an ex. Friends do things together. You mean just being kind to them. But if your not together then this really doesn't matter. All being friends does is play into your egos. It's a support system. Your either lovers or your nothing no more

@Hendrixtanell13

Жыл бұрын

👊🏾👊🏾👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿

@ignazs.5816

11 ай бұрын

​@@antilaw9911I disagree. You can be friends, but it'll take time. It works with gay men. A few of my friends have been former lovers. It's all good. No hard feelings.

If they leave let them be !!! It ain’t worth it ! Go through your heartache , heal , & let go !! That is the best thing for you to do !!!

Dated a guy for a couple weeks this summer. He ended things because he ‘just didn’t feel it’… We’ve had sporadic contact over chat, friendly but that’s it… fast forward to this month, suddenly he’s sending videos, saying he misses the time we spent together, sending me ‘sleep tight’ and ‘morning sweetheart’. And honestly by this point? He’s the one asking and I no longer ‘feel it’. Took three months. So this works even for very short relationships!

@Crypto-Live

2 ай бұрын

Hmm. Short thing here where we got very intense very quickly but never met. Ended up being an emotional affair. She’s married and ended things between us. Broke my heart but ultimately is the right thing to do. Her husband should be the one she’s chatting to all day and night, not me but boy do I miss her. I genuinely hope she doesn’t come back because I doubt I could resist doing it all again.

@basicinfo2022

15 күн бұрын

Because loving relationships require commitment and discipline since the honeymoon phase or limerance is fleeting.

Even if that's true... I prefer to assume the dumper never ever misses the dumpee. I prefer to assume she just downright hates me now. And is an enemy.

@heather-df6nc

Жыл бұрын

i’m trying to think this way so when he comes back, which ik he will bc i am a good woman and loved him w everything in me, i will be shocked. he’s stubborn and this isn’t the first time we’ve broken up but it’s the first time we’ve done no contact. i don’t even want him anymore bc it’s time i love myself more, but i just want an apology for how he’s blaming me after the breakup and for blindsiding me. so i definitely agree w this one. it should save a lot of heartache in the future as long as the person still grieves

makes no sense when majority just move on and are intimate with someone else

I was dumped recently in a ghosted manner in a 4 year relationship. I will never ever forgive her nor allow her to contact me again. I’m not angry or hurt I am just disappointed that after all this time she lacked the courage to say goodbye or hey this isn’t working.

@edgardiaz2361

Жыл бұрын

We are in the same exact situation brother. Omg this is scary to read ur post I am in such disbelief that she actually blocked me on her phone and Instagram ( our only forms of contact ) one day I love u next day blocked after a 3 year relationship and we were talking of marriage and kids I’m devastated BEYOUND belief I can’t get around the fact that she actually did this and in that manner. We talked about everything in life so we would never end up like this and this is exactly what happened 😢

@mrreddington777

Жыл бұрын

@@edgardiaz2361 Damn brotha I’m sorry this is happening. That sounds so familiar to my story and wow just wow. All I can say is the pain is going to get really bad before things get better. If she blocked you then fight the urge to call her or look for her. God knows I had to do it and watching a lot of these videos helped me so much. My ex blocks me and unblocks me and last night I saw that she blocked me again. Im stupid because I check once in a while to see if I am still blocked. It’s going to be 4 months of no contact. At this point I dated someone for two weeks just to get it out of my system. You gotta let it go for now bro. No contact. Don’t put any sad shit on your ig or Facebook. Try to act like nothing is going on. Take some time for yourself and partake in doing whatever makes you happy. You gotta make sure it’s things you like and now what you liked doing together. If someone truly loves you and wants you they wouldn’t do this shit. It’s a sign of immaturity and lack of respect. Hope things work out in the end for you but make sure you come first.

@SentilongJamir777

Ай бұрын

Women cheat and run away from the truth because they don't want you to know cheap they really are.

I am the fearful avoidant dumper, and I am just gonna say 3.5 months was bang on!! 🙄🤦‍♀️ Massive nostalgia going on currently, and it hit hard knowing he is in a new relationship. However, I acknowledged my attachment style a few months ago and have beening going to counseling & working on my core/childhood wounds. So let's hope I can move to secure over the next few months. 🤞🤞🤷‍♀️

@rwentfordable

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your confirmation.

@dylanmatipa136

Жыл бұрын

Nah. You’re damaged for life

@ThongNguyen-ro9ul

Жыл бұрын

My ex also an Avoidant, when she said the lose feeling and she brokeup with me but I just not accept it and begging. Now she hate me can I comeback after 3 months I still love her so much

@kaachsports

11 ай бұрын

Can I ask, how long were you together for?

I am fearful avoidant, which means I have anxious and dismissive avoidant side. I have acted anxious in the relationship, but not that much. My ex is dismissive, now that I have my heart broken and with some time after the breakup, I became avoidant. I am trying to heal to secure but it's difficult. At least I understand the feeling my ex had, which brings me peace in a way. Give them space, I swear it's the best thing to do for them to come to their senses, otherwise they'll really feel 'choked/ suffocated' by the anxious, needy behaviour. Trust me, no matter what you say or do, that'll make them run for the hills.

@fawn8258

2 жыл бұрын

Same... I noticed iv become avoidant, it as though I took his attachment style, I kinda realized how he feels now.. So weird.

I had a school sweetheart who dumped me, I moved on with my life and a year later he came back asking for a second chance. I didn't get back with him back then, because I had no interest to be with him anymore. Yet, it didn't end there. 8 years later, we met accidentally again and started dating. Relationship failed, of course, it did because there was a reason we weren't good for each other in the first place. I think people keep coming back into old relationship until they get a closure. I got back with him out of curiosity that maybe, just maybe, we could be something after all. He got back with me because I rejected him in past and he wanted to win me back. As soon as we figured out that there's nothing past was holding for us but the closure, we walked away happily. It was a calm decision that felt right. Most relationship didn't get the closure to feel peace with, especially if you're a dumpee. That's why we're dwelling on it. It's usually one-sided decision to end things up. But once *you* decide it's over, it's really over. Don't choose to be abandoned, choose to move forward in the direction of your future where you'd be appreciated by someone new who would definitely know your value not to leave you.

@dylanmatipa136

Жыл бұрын

What made you guys incompatible?

One of the best videos online 🙌. Couldn't be explained better. Great job 👏 👍 👌

Except when the Avoidant fills the void with someone immediately, handed another woman via friends, so no idea any more if I was missed. He cut all off after a decade. All is gone, and I adored him, it’s heartbreaking but I don’t want a man right now. I want to focus on me. We share no social media for him to see anything I do, so am on my own. Sad to think you can be replaced just like that. I have a heart and it’s hurting, after 5 months now, after he did return last year, but I’m glad I’m not that person.

@miamiboulevardbrunssum1763

2 жыл бұрын

Got the same ...I loved her and her Daughter with all my heart. In 3 weeks after she dumped me there was this other younger guy. My heart broke at that moment. No stres no fight. Just ...I doubt.

@dr.options

2 жыл бұрын

You're kind of missing the point about No Contact..him filling that void with someone else is purely a distraction. Give him space and he'll come running back when he gets nostalgic about you.

@anag4552

2 жыл бұрын

Same here

@andreaa6179

2 жыл бұрын

Same thing happened to me. She replaced me after ONE WEEK after breakup with a guy she went out once when we were still together. I definitely know how you feel right now. Everything you gave him seems just meaning nothing and you probably ask yourself is you were enough, if you are enough. You ask yourself if he has ever truly loved you. And so on…

By the time he (Aviodant) misses me , I am so done with him, I am gone and emotionally disconnected.. I will not be anyones " emotional tampon " Life is too short to get into a connection with an avoidant...I love my independence and freedom too and will not be "saddled" by their hot cold, wishy-washy, BS...❤

Wow! Thank you Chris! I can finally see myself in your video. Thank you for making me feel not alone for once since my break up.

@boobobobo9256

Жыл бұрын

Susan you are not alone. I hope there can be a group therapy for those of us who are dumped so we connect and link up

Your videos are awesome 👏 but one thing that’s not covered in every no contact video I’ve watched on KZread is what it means when your ex is still in connect with your family members but avoiding the dumpee.

Very helpful!

My observation of the comment section here is that there is way more than 10% of men commenting. In any event, I never pleaded, begged, chased. I gave him the break-up. I am an adult, mature female. I was a good, loving girlfriend. I'm human, so fallible, but I'm not into drama, too old for that nonsense. I always work on myself regardless of being together or separate, e.g., yoga, meditation, watch inspiration videos, very physically active, regular gym goer, kayaking, hiking, biking, etc., see my friends, family, etc. Currently, I am abroad, having rented an apartment for almost two months on the Mediterranean. He was supposed to come, but oh well, too bad for him. I'm doing amazing activities here and meeting wonderful people. I have not abandoned myself for him. I'm not on social media, plus my phone service does not work here, I have a European sim card and phone number while I'm here, so will not even know if he ever does contact me. Nevertheless, the break-up had absolutely shattered me. Healing is so very slow. Good luck and positive vibrations and blessings for you here who are hurting. You are magnificent!

@sophiaspadafora9167

5 ай бұрын

Love this for you!

Really like this video

Very informative

Wish I could heal all your broken hearts, stay strong, you are loved for the way you are ❤

As a dumpee, my dumper never asked me what happened with a situation that really happened, I'm more heart broken about it but I hope she talkes to me about my side of the story

What if the dumper is the one who loved the dumpee but had to break up because the dumpee took he/her for granted and disrispected the dumper (playing with my emotions)...

@lyynaadh

Жыл бұрын

That’s my situation. Did u regret for breaking up with her? How long did it take pls..

@martincarroll5405

6 ай бұрын

You did the right thing.

@alexanderfinlayson3555

4 ай бұрын

Yeah, same...

@Ytdeletesallmycomments

4 ай бұрын

And sometimes the dumpee is still in love but also feels happy and free and knows it was the right thing and moves on quickly.

Well he dumped me 1 month and half ago and I started the no contact 2 weeks later a weeks later he called to ask why am i not talking anymore. I continued the nc and he called 6 days after that again. Then 7 days after that again but he refuses to see me in person I didn't do anything wrong i guess he just having fun or have a rebound. Then its been almost 3 weeks and he haven't called me again. Im still hoping no contact works I really love him

I'm missing them 12 hours later. It had to be done. I loved him but I ignored my own deal breaker. I wish I felt good. For me, apart from that deal breaker..., He was perfect for me.

I have had a dumpee hate as long as 25 years after the incident, they're still living in that moment... my ex was angry for over ten years until her health declined...it ate her up.

@Hendrixtanell13

Жыл бұрын

😯

just a little note they may miss you but this is coming not from empathy and compassion FOR YOU but rather, how their choices have now affected them ..either left them empty handed after the rebound failed or in a relationship where they have figured out that the grass wasn't greener at all and has its problems also (because they themselves have done no work to level up their relationship skills) them missing you is NOT a good thing. It's them rebounding from the rebound and no doubt the cycle will keep perpetuating unless they engaged in deep ongoing therapy

@alchemicalsoul

10 ай бұрын

Yep. My ex returned after the woman he swore was "the one" didn't have her life together. I assumed erroneously that his return was due to actually missing me. Nope, was a placeholder rebound return, and then after almost three months of wasting my time, asked if he could still date other people but use me for sex. These are severely, emotionally damaged people. Until there is therapy, you'll be stuck in a groundhog day loop of heartache. I used the time of being ghosted to achieve secure attachment. The moment the shenanigans started up, this time I walked away for good.

@mylovelyman2

8 ай бұрын

​@alchemicalsoul how did you achieve this lady?

I wish I had this video before now. My anxious behavior has surely damaged my chances of getting my FA ex back. I finally went NC about 4 months post breakup. I’d reach out every week or so hoping he had missed me but all I was doing was preventing that very thing. He even said I wasn’t allowing him to miss me 😢. I am currently day 14 NC and finally working on myself and focused on being a better me.

@budlit6853

2 жыл бұрын

I am currently in the same boat. I can see now that I have been trying to fix our marriage too much. Its been a year, we jave kids so I would bug her everyday, not using the kids of course. But I never let her go. I am there now but ....... we'll see where it goes next. I have to let go.

@remmiwilliams

Жыл бұрын

How are you feeling now? Hope you're better off 💕

@crystopher-aaronricafrente1103

Жыл бұрын

Happy for you just stay in nc and keep moving forward you’ll do great I promise(:

@not_soprecious7937

Жыл бұрын

Any update Regina?

@JACKPOTTT777

Жыл бұрын

How did it all end up?

It's likely that the dumper already missed the dumpee before breaking up but they never spent much time together so it didn't make much difference at the end of the day. Some people just want to be in a relationship that consistently delivers.

She knows I’m anxiety attached and not hearing from her made me question things and she used it against me. At first I thought she just didn’t care, but it was worse. She knew. She disappeared and probably hasn’t thought of me once and I spend my nights watching videos to support my delusion she cares.

Years ago I dated an avoidant man for 2 months. ALL of the warning signs were presented before our first date, but I ignored them! Anyways, he ghosted me after those 2 months… received a text from him exactly One Year later, but dear god- was sooooo not interested.

I wish you all the love your heart's longing for. ❤

My ex jumped into a relationship in a matter of just 3 weeks!

@babypanda3630

2 жыл бұрын

@Marie no

@swimjaneswim1

7 ай бұрын

Mine took 3 days..

@jessfenwick7356

Ай бұрын

Ha ha ha, me too, fresh out of a10 year relationship with 3 kids, 3 weeks later he went with the first person he found online. They're still together 18 months later but far out, that hurt!!!

for an anxious avoidant - what is the general timescale of the death wheel thingy?

When my ex (now my fiance) dumped me before and I used the NCR it worked lol. He came back and I told him about the NCR lol then we broke up few months after that i was the dumper and he used the NCR on me and it worked again lol and now we are now getting married lol

@madlen3015

2 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@lovemywife698

2 жыл бұрын

Good luck

@splitzyentertainment7995

2 жыл бұрын

Nice success story but I'd never admit this technique to my sp

@splitzyentertainment7995

2 жыл бұрын

How long were you two broken up for?

@dr.options

2 жыл бұрын

It certainly sounds volatile...odds are obviously that it won't end well. You might want to seriously reconsider the engagement.

Never ! Guys move on ...

I am a fearful avoidant/disorganized, I don't have nostalgia unless I like the person I dumped or dumped me.

Why is it that he’s not interested in you but still keeps on following you on social media? No blocking, no unfollowing but he never talks to me either as if I’m nonexistent. More than 50 days no contact and he’s still following me and never interacting with me. It’s weird and I feel awkward posting now.

@TheGreyAreawithTiffany

2 жыл бұрын

Delete him from your followers and unfollow him, too. Give him zero access to your life (he hasn't earned it, clearly) and move forward.

@clydemcphee400

2 жыл бұрын

I’m on the same boat but she still has us as boyfriend and gf and didn’t delete any of our pictures we been broken up for a week

@ana-pq3cs

2 жыл бұрын

​@@clydemcphee400 In your case, I think it's a good sign and it shows she somewhat still cares. If she's the one who broke up and depending on the reasons she gave you, go no contact and she'll come back eventually. If she was mad at you, she would have blocked or unfollowed. If you want her back, don't ignore her when she contacts you and just be friendly but not overly excited she's back just chill. During no contact, work on yourself mentally and physically. Try to remember what she didn't like about the relationship that you could improve and work on. In my case it's different. This guy wanted to date me but he rejected me for a relationship when I told him I was overweight. He only wanted me for a secret sexual relationship and I said I'm not interested but we could be friends. He didn't want to be friends. Now he is still following me while ignoring me. He has unfollowed many girls but is still following me even though he's technically not interested in having anything with me. It's very confusing and weird.

@ponmudimpghssindranagar6641

Жыл бұрын

@@ana-pq3cs he is a narcissistic

@nikimckinney860

Жыл бұрын

@@ana-pq3cs what if it ended off on a good note? what if the guy was too overwhelmed and had things going on in his life and did what was best for us..he still talks to me sometimes in person but never contacts me. Him and his family and his friends still follow me on social media as well. I'm not sure whether to wait or not..bc i do want to be with him again but I'm not sure what's going on through his head because he's giving off such mixed signals. I think he's conflicted and he's just focusing on his school and sports but idk if I keep being friends with him or ignite him..bc I don't don't want him to move on while I'm just suck here but I don't wanna push him away or want him thinking I'm over him either.

one month after. he wants to come back. I just wanted him to leave me as I I'm still healing. I was not ready to talk.

3,5 month. Got it.

@8:09 I first thought the hypothalamus but actually it's the the nucleus accumbens. There is an interaction with the hypothalamus resulting in increased heart rate and the such. Also, it's very interesting to see the perspective from a female point of view. However my last relationship things were completely different than other girls I've dated anyway and I've given up trying to understand what the hell happened there 😂

She's a DA at 57 years old, no kids, never married.... She dumps me, we go no contact, she reaches out , continues to be disrespectful.... 3 years of this, so today she gave me an ultimatum, and I left for good!

I was dumped all because I’m moving to a next state it really do hurt was there for him at his lowest. His only option was to let me go I don’t know what to expect next.

Helo frnz, for me she. Broke up with me, I spent 2 weeks of no contact, later I become anxious to talk to her, but she blocked me in all platforms.third week I reached out using another number, but she gave her new man to talk to me, and later even told me happy with her new boyfriend. From that day it's now 4 weeks have not contacted again, now I don't know whether she is even going to miss me and cm back to me if I don't reach out again, pls advice me

Hello - great video and content to help so many people out there and a concept that can happen - the dumper missing the dumpee.... Can others relate to this topic?

The dumper misses much than the dumpee. Dont complicate yourself.

@OGTrollTroll8

Ай бұрын

Facts💯

He did missed me. After all the anger subsides. i play it cool when he reached out. but before i begged and I freaking plead. Yep, that ugly cries. But when I started to focus on myself and with the people who truly loved me.. I started to live my life again. It took him 6 months to finally reached out. we talked about the happy memories, he asked me.. if I am still mad at him and forgave him. I told him yes. I needed to do that for my sanity even tho he never apologised(due to cheating). And he said he really missed me. He said sorry and this time I finally felt the sincerity. We’re cool. I still loved him. But, He’s in a rebound relationship with my friend and to be honest they’re both fucked up and toxic with each other. I don’t know if karma is serving them right, but I still wish him well. But me? I found my peace and I’ve learned that even if he doesn’t missed me and he will never come back.. I will be okay. Thank you for making me sane.. you really helped me.

@tiffanypr.9448

2 жыл бұрын

Can I ask how long was the relationship? And how many months did it take you to find that peace?

@sarahyoshida1542

2 жыл бұрын

@@tiffanypr.9448 2years.. it took him 6 months. I can still talk to him. But I respect myself more this time.

@tiffanypr.9448

2 жыл бұрын

@@sarahyoshida1542 Yes as you should! You deserve better, someone that would fight for you:)

Does this include an ex when married

I am the fearful avoidant dumper 😭

What if the avoidant is the dumpee?

Have you got a test for guys to see if they may get their girlfriend back? I was in a relationship for 12.5 years and she dumped me. She has contacted me off and on sometimes positive and sometimes negative. We recently had a FaceTime for 4.5 hours and there was a lot of different emotions, but we ended with both of us laughing hysterically. Any help here would be nice.

@davehasenford3985

10 ай бұрын

sounds like you are back together

My girlfriend for 15 years left me because she was worshipping the devil. That was kind of weird for me because when we first met we both was Christian.. do you got any advice I don't know

@pinkpigot9564

Жыл бұрын

pray for her

I definitely did something stupid by saying OK and went on tinder, she must have seen and I instantly regretted it. I fell apart and after she came back she went very cold I sent far too man begging messages and she got worse. Not I know I've messed it up so much she's gone for good! I do still miss her!

What if the avoidant is with a rebound and it's killing you. You have kids and they use that time to go be with their rebound even though you're still married....how should I proceed when I know I enabling my wife's affair while I watch our kids....?

💯👍🏆

WHO IS THE GUY AT 05:38?? most good-looking guy ive ever seen!!!!!!

Can the betrayed spouse feel like the dumpe because she just had to react after you "decided" to be unfaithful?

@alexanderfinlayson3555

4 ай бұрын

I mean..... in that case she would have the RIGHT to be the dumper and the other person would have to make it up to her.

Im 9 months of no contact without any sign of contact from her. Last week was horrible I felt like all the confidence that I have in the beginning was shit and with no hope anymore. Im trying to hold on because I understand that no message that I can send to her will cause any change because she left me and hasn’t contact me is because she doesn’t want me.

@sammillerlivee

2 жыл бұрын

You’re good bro keep pushing

@theviper123

2 жыл бұрын

At this point you should reach out to her, you have nothing to lose. You can’t do no contact forever, otherwise your putting your life on hold for someone who may not come back. Just start by sending a subtle msg, hey, hope you are well, and just add a little question which would or might make her curious enough to respond and be anticipating how you would respond. But 9 months is way too long for no contact

@ericlee419

Жыл бұрын

let go

@dylanmatipa136

Жыл бұрын

@@theviper123 what do you mean someone who might not come back? She’s definitely not coming back

@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473

Жыл бұрын

Most definitely! By month 3-6 month he should have reached out at this point it’s an Ego and Stubbornness..Coach Lee is sooo good he tells people to do no contact but if dumper reaches out by 3rd text call answer He speak about being in no contact maturely which I love 🙏🏿❤️

just for my knowledge: does this regret means they would want you back? I mean it's not making sense to me. You must move on so that they feel the security to miss you or think that they have actually lost you? and then they would want to come back even they know that you have moved on? why would they want that especially when they were the one who messed it all up? I don't understand

@humanistology

9 ай бұрын

You won’t understand because you are reasonable…they are not:it makes sense TO THEM! Hope this helps!

I'm a dumper ... and I can say that after 3 months I really miss him, but also the question is , what if in the brake up asked to work through and he tells you he does not see that further and he can't commit... Is he a dumper too? The last text we exchanged was me thanking him for some money he sent and from there out I got the client treatment! I experienced exactly what is shown in the video. I was dating an avoident, I was trying the best I could , but now after grief and anger is gone I feel to reach out. Anyone has a idea what to do and should I ? or will they contact me ?

@mylovelyman2

8 ай бұрын

Definitely reach out. I am sorry, think I got it wrong, would you be open to conversation?

@mylovelyman2

8 ай бұрын

You dumped.

@Any66134

8 ай бұрын

@@mylovelyman2 We did have a conversation after I broke up. And he told me he is not ready for a relationship, I did reach out after 9 months asking him basic questions! The conversation was polite and basic , at this stage the message staid open , and his message was last send ... There was no space for more conversation , and I didn't push it ! I guess I need to leave him to continue ... But it has been a month's since then! I guess he knows by how I'm open to conversation ...?!

The title is missed up. It’s miss not misses lol

he is my fience all we were waiting is my visa interview so I could be with him but he ghosted me for 4 days then june 14th he sent me a long message saying I'm better off with someone else and i begged and pleaded it only took me hours to decide to go NC now it's day 1 of no NC wish me luck. I wish the pain would go easily

@tanushchandra9182

4 күн бұрын

Wishing you luck.I hope everything’s better now.

Its been a year after my breakup of my EX. She left me for dead n turned her back on me after a 4 year relationship going through thick and thin. To this very day i have not heard or seen her. i know she aint coming back, afterall she left me with an open wound. p.s i have gone no contact for the one year she was gone

Why does your ex make contact when he's in another relationship?

@Kabecat

2 жыл бұрын

Same happening here

@eddycolumbusohio6063

2 жыл бұрын

Same here

@blackwidow2679

2 жыл бұрын

Because he jumped into another relationship to get over you and found out the grass is not greener. This actually puts you in control. The next time he contacts you, tell him you don't think he's being fair to his girlfriend by contacting you, then wish him all the best. Hang up or end the text. You basically just told him he doesn't get to have his cake and eat it too. You are also sending the message, I'm ok with out you. Now he's going to wonder why you're so calm.

Om guilty and blame myself.i vould have done more to make my feelings known. As a new relationship, was trying to take the time to know her. However, next thing i knew she was dating someone else. A lot of women have way more giys hitting on them. Especially attractive women.

She already slept with another dude. I don’t care anymore now

It's been 5 months of no contact feel like I have to energetically pull away.

We dated around three months she kinda lovebombed me for months and then she left with no explanations , she is definitely a dumper I decided to go silent and control my emotions,,but she decided to contact me after 1 week, i lost my composure since then , sometimes I feel weak because i contacted her twice , My ego is aching me , Knowing that i had so many options but i chosed her , I have so many opportunities to date 3 months after her, i still can't date or give another girl a chance, i start myself dumping people to..

@davehasenford3985

10 ай бұрын

man that sucks

…you do realize a vast majority of time it’s the woman who does the dumping…

I think if your going to talk about attachment styles u have to include the fearful type. Was disappointed that the video was primarily focused towards only the anxious and the avoidant when that’s not the only attachment styles

Can the dumper still go through these general stages of the monkey branched?

I miss my ex’s phat dumper

What if you work with them?

@brenagade

2 жыл бұрын

It was a mistake starting something with someone you work with so learn from it. As for what to do, find another job, or just accept that it's going to be a living hell because it will make it so much harder to move on because you'll be triggered each and every day. Having them constantly in your sphere will keep your limbic hooked which will make it virtually impossible to follow the healing process. Sorry.

@dionbernard3033

2 жыл бұрын

My ex cheated on me with a coworker and i have to see them everyday. Its killing me on the inside and she doesn't give a damn. I can't sleep at night at all.

@sarahsummers4093

2 жыл бұрын

@@dionbernard3033 that’s my worst fear! I’m so sorry you’re going through that 😞

@dionbernard3033

2 жыл бұрын

@@sarahsummers4093 Thank you for your kind words Sarah.

@fashionjoy4569

2 жыл бұрын

Resign

The dumper never misses the dumpee.

What about same sex relationship??

@danhle1537

Жыл бұрын

gay

you can eat a. pet

I love this video and this calming voice 🫡. I’ve learned that my ex is an avoidant.