Echoing, in my case, was a result of attempting to sidestep passive aggressive "punishment" that would result. The malignant narcissist in my life would hide and damage or destroy personal property. His favorite targets were gifts from my children and grandchildren. Any compliment from a friend or mutual acquaintance would result in negative consequences for me.

NY state tuning in. My ex narc/addict will never go inward. I recently left him emotionally, many relapses, addictions to social media, gay porn questionable behavior. I’m living a peaceful life now. What you explain,the anxiety, was so spot on. I believe he will always self medicate other than do a deep dive. He’s on to new supply now. I think I’ve done more therapy in trying to learn about this. We had yrs of therapy due to addiction. Thank you for the information. In the end, of course I was to blame and his brother & sister. Heal the trauma.

@CraigMalkin

11 ай бұрын

So sorry -and glad you’re out and healing!

@carolinelaronda4523

3 ай бұрын

Gay porn ..😐🚮🏃‍♀️

Thank you , very informative video !

How do know if they’re telling you the truth in therapy? They believe their lies.

@CraigMalkin

11 ай бұрын

Genuine feelings resonate. You feel them too. I go by process (and felt sense) not content.

@hectorperez1380

5 ай бұрын

This response filled me with so much sadness and, at the same time, understanding.

Where is the URL for the book...I'd love that. Thankyou for this interview.

@CraigMalkin

11 ай бұрын

Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret to Recognizing and Coping with Narcissists a.co/d/6QsEQxX

@wasode20

11 ай бұрын

I read the chapter, and it was so good that I've ordered a copy. Great interview.

@CraigMalkin

11 ай бұрын

@@wasode20 Thanks! Hope you love it :-)

@janehale4402

8 ай бұрын

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I know borderlines that also are very self absorbed with their pain.

@dgsmith9969

7 ай бұрын

I don't think borderline is a personality disorder. The people I know who were given this diagnosis went through horrific situations or have bad chronic illnesses that are quite painful. It's the people around them who have the problem. Disabled people face this judgement all the time. Thing is, a person can be in great pain and society tells them to tough it out and don't bother others, and even, die quickly and quietly.

@pauladuncanadams1750

7 ай бұрын

@dgsmith9969 I think it's a combo of genetics, personality, and environment. Sure, it's PTSD from untreated and unresolved trauma that is ingrained to the point of dysfunction and disorder. The trauma is very real and very raw. I'm not discounting that. It's so raw that it blocks out everything and everybody else, often creating issues for loved ones and making loved ones also feel unseen and unheard. That's what happens when someone is in pain. When you are in pain, you aren't thinking about much of anything else, nor are you very rational. You just want it to stop. But when the pain is relieved, your focus and empathy can turn towards others. With BPD, the pain never goes away, especially if untreated. Therefore, self-absorbed.

Nice wishes from Germany

@CraigMalkin

5 ай бұрын

Same to you!

I can identify with covert narcissism in myself. Are there things I can do to help myself?

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First of all, you have approach from Individualism society, in Europe will call you narcissistic county. In Eurpe we have collectivism, we dorn hsve to think that you have a choice to help other person, you just simply help. Canada is highest narcissistic county i have ever seen. People in there are using rasism as to provoce and them they call that joke, they are using blatantly provocation and then they use that as a joke.