The reason for this is that the majority of women (who are averagely attractive) have had to take time to develop their character to be somebody and get somewhere in life. Exceptionally beautiful women have not had to do this since their beauty is their privilege. There’s nothing wrong with exceptionally beautiful women, it’s just most of them are surface level because their lives are surface level. Whereas the majority of women had their phases of not being lusted over and had to rely on who they are to their core to get through life, thus, developing their character.

@KaElSah

4 жыл бұрын

Anything worse than a baddie with no personality and character is a baddie with character and personality because some people just assume they are surface leveled.

@lydiaharp3393

4 жыл бұрын

Esmeralda Solano Not true at all. Never been true. Talking about the privileged should be simple statements of gatekeeping. How you just tried to intrinsically link a person’s privilege to their personality traits is beyond me. You’re missing several factors that lie in between.

@kaylasheppard7746

4 жыл бұрын

@@lydiaharp3393 looks don't link to characteristics, I agree. However truly drop dead gorgeous, absolutely stunning women are held to a higher standard and worth rather than the average woman, as far as society goes. I think that was her main point

@greendreem9684

4 жыл бұрын

Kayla Sheppard thank you.

@greendreem9684

4 жыл бұрын

Kayla Sheppard because of how highly they are held, I don’t think they have to pay attention to developing their character, it’s just not necessary to their social survival. They’ll get by whether they’re nice people or pieces of shit.

So, basically he’s expressing that he was once immature in his perspectives and preferences in regards to women but now being mature; it has given himself a new fresh perspective. That’s awesome. Hopefully men and women alike can & will benefit from this message because it definitely happens with both genders.

@rickymwilson9264

4 жыл бұрын

Orlando Simmons #preach

Facts! I remember when I dated my first “baddie”. Basic ass relationship.. I ended up dropping her for a pretty girl with a beautiful soul. Big difference!!

@novaj_dunn7221

2 жыл бұрын

I dated one that has noooo quality and makes everything about her, and now it ended

"Hell and destruction are never full; so the eyes of man are never satisfied." Proverbs 27:30

@skwilson34

4 жыл бұрын

27:20 Correction

@demarcusshipman6537

4 жыл бұрын

Shunna W Proverbs 31 “Beauty is vain..”

@TheRoommatesPodcast

4 жыл бұрын

UMMMMMMMMM

@xenaprince2717

3 жыл бұрын

This verse is so savage lol

The Bible said long ago: 30. “Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain; but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.” Proverbs 31 I came to this understanding in high school. I thought “is this it?” & from them on I have not had women on a pedestal bc they are baddies or beautiful. People are so confused on what will actually make them happy. ONLY a female who you can just chill with just like your boys will ever keep your attention. Why are you able to hang around your boys day in & day out? There’s no sexual attraction but there’s a mental connection, similarities, things in common & a genuine appreciation for who they are! Find this in a woman & you’ll never tire of her just like you never tire of hanging out with that dude who is your best friend 💯

@jayfromct5164

4 жыл бұрын

Pure facts bro you summed it up!

@TheRoommatesPodcast

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks bro.

@demarcusshipman6537

4 жыл бұрын

jovan4 M wisdom from above

@demarcusshipman6537

4 жыл бұрын

The Roommates Podcast Yes sir! Ditto

@sa_9731

4 жыл бұрын

God bless you brother ✊🏾

Most of the time it's a lust problem and a heart issue. The connection has nothing to do with the character of the woman but the obsession of the guy. There are a lot of "baddies" with character. Every individual has character but not everyone is compatible. Many men overlook compatibility to satisfy their own lust. I get what the video is saying but it really sounds like shifting blame over taking personal responsibility for a lot of closeted issues many guys have.

@BreenyLee

4 жыл бұрын

Akeila - Facts, totally a lust issue.

@michellehendrix7135

4 жыл бұрын

True

@toomuchinformation

4 жыл бұрын

Preach.

@marlonmoncrieffe0728

3 жыл бұрын

Yup! To quote Rosie O'Donnell in one of my fave movies: "You're all obsessed. If you had an once of self-esteem, of self-worth, of self-confidence, you would realize that as trite as it may sound, beauty is truly skin-deep. And you know what, if you ever did hook one of those girls, I guarantee you'd be sick of her. No mater how perfect the nipple, how supple the thigh, unless there is some other shit going on in the relationship, besides the physical, it's going to get old, ok? And you guys, as a gender, have got to get a grip. Otherwise, the future of the human race is in jeopardy." -Beautiful Girls (1996)

@medicineman7461

3 жыл бұрын

Women do this a lot more than men do😂😂😂😂😂 most men chase after these women with sexual intentions only, but women on the other hand only pick highly attractive men only to find out he was there only for the yams.... 9 out of 10 times both women and men know when it just won't work or if the person is not for them within the first few months, difference is women have a hard time accepting this especially since they're so obsessed with looks

Well said. And this also applies for women going for the pretty boys/fine good looking men. I’ve learned to not be shallow for those very same reasons. Good looks is not everything; character is. However, you learn that in age and experiencing life.

@vaniathomas8859

4 жыл бұрын

I woke up as well. If his character is shitty , and he has abusive tendencies, a shallow conversation, routine shit everyday, blow alot of hot smoke up your ass. What's the use of staying. I know of and dated attractive men, that had absolutely nothing in their brain, they literally sat there and looked pretty, with this mean snare on their face like look at me I'm bad. But you have no substance.

@amberc2839

4 жыл бұрын

Indeed. Depth and substance is needed in order to sustain a fruitful relationship. Looks are charming, and character is glue that bonds two people together.

@purplegirl8036

4 жыл бұрын

Yup

@jaydrich8115

4 жыл бұрын

Elizabeth Cruz THE WALL 🧱

@rayseyeoman7540

3 жыл бұрын

Good looks is not everything, but attraction is important.

This makes us insecure girls appreciate who we are and realize that there are always wise guys who will love us for our heart.

@absndus

Жыл бұрын

Amen! :)

A bit off of the point but.....The uncomfortable truth is that we as men put women on too high of a pedestal. Many never feel fully complete unless they have unpresidented access to what is perceived to be the best of them. By best I mean the baddies. We need to stop allowing the idea of them to hold such much weight on our self validation. When this happens our relations to them will improve, we'll be able to see them as normal people who are not above us and improve relations with them.

@coachhbosoccer

4 жыл бұрын

What's interesting about your point is, these baddies are ruining it for men, AND women. Men fall for that type without a proper connection, then women of real substance run into these guys and are dissatisfied feel unappreciated. It just goes to show & prove women rule.

@KaElSah

4 жыл бұрын

The double edge sword is the physical appearance. I feel bad for the baddie because she's not reaching the depths of character or if she does have it, there will be the men who are enchanted by her appearance and not look past that. It may not always be a privilege to be attractive.

@regulus6773

4 жыл бұрын

I don't think they heard you man lol

@Belihoney

4 жыл бұрын

@@coachhbosoccer isn't thy the man's fault. Self awareness is the start to transformation

@TheRoommatesPodcast

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you

My roommate(pardon the pun 😂) is going through this. He dates baddies constantly but is never satisfied with them and he ends up cheating on them with other baddies. He is 24 but he is always looking for more and more. I told him what you gonna do when you get married and he was like he don’t know. Sometimes the baddie isn’t all that glows. Most of them are shallow, have no personality, have no or wifely motherly traits. The problem with a lot of dudes is they ignore the dope 6 and 7s but shoot for the 8s,9s and 10s. And most dudes can’t handle a baddie. They say they want one but it comes with a price. You have to deal with dudes trying to get at her. She gets hit on everyday on social media and in person. Most dudes would be in a state of constant paranoia. To maintain a baddie your mouthpiece better be on point, sex game on point, masculine frame on point, physical attributes on point etc.

@LumpiSpacePrincess

4 жыл бұрын

It's not even about all of those things. There are levels to it but guys forget that at the end of the day she is not an object, she is a person. They need fulfillment and character too. The problem probably lies with guys thinking you can satisfy all women with "things". Y'all need to be able to communicate and relate to her. A "baddie" is not an object and I feel like too many guys treat them like an item. Really should be looking at any person you date like a best friend.

@Belihoney

4 жыл бұрын

How do you know they aren't holding back themselves? Maybe they clock he is with them for the visuals and share that mindset?

@almightypush9767

4 жыл бұрын

Im sorry. But I don’t consider myself to be a baddie. But if a man doesn’t take care of himself and isn’t wanting to satisfy me as much as the baddies he had; then it’ll be a no. Because no doubt; the same will be expected of me.

@michellehendrix7135

4 жыл бұрын

Money on point....guys always wanna leave that out

@coachhbosoccer

4 жыл бұрын

Damn bro you put them in grades😂😂😂😂😂 lmfao but I understand your point

Not sure why some women are offended by this video, I completely understand what you’re saying and I’ve had a similar experience with highly attractive men. I finally got what I thought was the crux of all men (tall, smooth dark skin, muscular, nice car etc) and once the physicality wore off, he was like any other man that I might pass by and ignore on a regular day. The lack of connection couldn’t be covered by attractiveness no matter what angle I looked at him.

@yayah7510

4 жыл бұрын

Darren Jackson looks still matter lol but they’re not the ONLY thing that matter. They’re the icing on the cake

@purplegirl8036

4 жыл бұрын

I agree. I had the same experience at 17 and I’m glad I was over it so young lol.

@RoniiiB

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly 🔥🔥

@marlonmoncrieffe0728

3 жыл бұрын

@V A Hey, at least she is honest about her hypergamy.

@nunyadambiz8034

3 жыл бұрын

They wish they were baddies

Y'all can have the baddies. I'll take the adjustable 7.

@bray1149

4 жыл бұрын

FACTS!

4 жыл бұрын

KjGotBeatz 😂🤣

@Nicolsol

4 жыл бұрын

This man said adjustable 😂😂😂

@christonsharpshootersmith6297

4 жыл бұрын

My nigga ✅

@madslasher18

4 жыл бұрын

You and me both . Sign me up for the 7’s all day

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What someone might consider a 6 someone else might consider a 9. It’s all up to the individual

Wow. This was such an encouragement to me because I have spent my whole life developing my inner self and I have become so discouraged lately because the baddie gets so much attention and she seems to be the unattainable standard that most guys require. Thank you for this Hafeez.

@TheRoommatesPodcast

4 жыл бұрын

You're Welcome

Usually love watching the podcast but for the last couple episodes I’ve been really annoyed by your perspective on women/baddies. In this video you unconsciously referred to baddies as “IT” many times and it just shows how you see them. Baddies or beautiful women are HUMAN, the issue is that men like yourself put these women on pedestals. Y’all objectify them in your minds and then turn round and call them “empty” i think if we are honest with ourselves *you* are the empty one. Your like or “lust” for them sees them as nothing more than an object. You don’t care about their soul or their personality no wonder you never get to see it.... I have a video on my channel called “Why you shouldn’t date hot guys” you should check it out. It explains why “baddies” don’t feel the need to develop their character because men worship them no matter what. I don’t think the issue is with baddies I think the issue is with you hafeez. Let’s stop pointing at others and take a good hard look at ourselves. Blessings bro.

@trickytrini2200

4 жыл бұрын

Breeny Lee I think you are missing the point though. Because he may have the courage to voice an opinion that is pretty prevalent doesn’t make him a problem, rather he is opening a topic to deal with a backward point of view that should be changed by many men. Societal perception of women and physicality is the problem as there are many men that think the way that he does myself included, and in him being fallible enough to admit his behavior it allows other men to learn to treat women and more to the point, themselves, better. It boils down to human greed and before making a change we first have to admit that there is a problem. I wish more men had the decency to step up and admit that they too perpetuate this backward form of thinking.

@TheVegasbadboy

4 жыл бұрын

you mad because he isn't placating/pandering to your black female sensibilities like so many other SIMPS on youtube.

@BreenyLee

4 жыл бұрын

@@trickytrini2200 Thanks for your response, I have not missed his point at all. I understand everything he is saying and I agree with most of it. I'm also grateful for his transparency I just feel like he is not being ALL THE WAY honest, it still comes across as fingerpointing. The alternative to "going after baddies" is not going after the average girl or the girl with substance (which by the way I advocate for in all of my videos) the alternative is learning to see ALL women as valuable *first* and then managing the way you treat women in general, Hafeez said he was only able to appreciate the average girl when he had ran through all the baddies. I'm sorry but baddies have feelings too and until you can love all women you don't deserve any. Many men find it difficult to love women that can't do anything for them instead of loving women for who they are, Gods daughters. Hafeez has not admitted that his way of treating women is bad he has just tried to rationalise why "baddies ain't shit" If it sounds like I'm speaking Japanese then you'll never understand me. I'm speaking on a deeper level than what was being said. I think it's important that before we speak or try to teach others that our fundamentals are in place i.e. respect for humankind. Blessings x

@TheVegasbadboy

4 жыл бұрын

...just stop

@michellehendrix7135

4 жыл бұрын

@@BreenyLee I see your point too. I think guys that disagree either are unattractive or broke so they hate hot women and want to hear that these women are no good to feel better.... and the woman who disagree with you are not high on the food chain, so they want to hear bad these about exceptionally beautiful women because they know they'll never be one. You made some good points and I can't wait to check out your channel.

Thank you for sharing this Hafeez. What you said shows maturity and growth.

@TheRoommatesPodcast

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

THIS IS SO REAL THANK YOU 👏🏼

@TheRoommatesPodcast

4 жыл бұрын

You're welcome

Your delivery is amazing. Very respectful, genuine and sincere.

*"If you have one, then you have them all, but most guys can't get any at all."* If a guy finds that one woman who he's really attracted to, she is a beautiful individual on the inside and she complements him - especially his core values - then he has finally met his match and she is the ultimate baddie in his eyes. There are many men who want women who are extremely attractive, but these baddies may not be attracted to them and they'll never be able to get them. However, if men chase nothing but the physical aspect and they make that into the main goal, then they will miss out on the right woman that's truly meant for them as they're more focused on the sex appeal only rather than making the substance of a woman the main thing.

@matgamer5916

4 жыл бұрын

Yh but if a man does not find the woman attractive from the get go it will never work.

@eugeniyah8078

4 жыл бұрын

@@matgamer5916 That's why at the very beginning of my statement I mentioned: *If a guy finds that one woman who he's really attracted to...*

@TheRoommatesPodcast

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the comment

@faa1412

3 жыл бұрын

Shadow yeah but funny how a man will keep chasing after a woman who’s not attracted to him, hoping to wear her down. Men expect women that’s not attracted to them to fall for them but won’t do the same in return.

@lilrabbitcuz

3 жыл бұрын

This right here!!! Exactly what I’m seeking. I ask questions and listen deeply. I have not met that girl that matches my core values. Maybe one day but until then.

Every woman becomes sexually boring after a while. Secondly the maintenance on these chicks is expensive even if its just them getting nails done all the time etc. Thirdly, the nonsense you have to put up with is crazy because she is in high demand. Fourth, many of them have serious trust issues because they have ALOT of dating experience. Lastly many of them have no substance because they never had to develop it.

@bobbys9853

4 жыл бұрын

also to add, they cant pair bond properly cause they have been ran through.

@thedust850

4 жыл бұрын

@@bobbys9853 yep agreed 💯

@demarcusshipman6537

4 жыл бұрын

Facts💯

@TheRoommatesPodcast

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing!!

@miha1497

4 жыл бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🐐

Its simple brothers.... focus on your goals to improve and bring a benifet to others and do it Very Well. Objectification of women is lack of foresight and a solid foundation. P.S. a "baddie" lol is in the eye of the beholder

@uanip1341

4 жыл бұрын

facts!!!

@BreenyLee

4 жыл бұрын

Facts

@iamshoni

4 жыл бұрын

Facts!!

@candacechambers2003

4 жыл бұрын

Accurate! 💯💯💯

@BadAuntBB

4 жыл бұрын

I like that a baddie is in the eye of the beholder

For me , as a woman I am encouraged by what he is saying because I get it because a lot of men don't think like this and a lot of times women who have substance and who may not be the "top ten percent" of women are kind of overlooked because men are distracted by women who invest so much in their appearance they don't work on the inside and as a result they may look good but lack substance. He's not generalizing and saying extremely beautiful people don't/can't have substance so you shouldn't date them. That's what a lot of people are not understanding. All he is really saying to men is, don't just date body parts, look at the whole woman, insiders and out. Make sure she has beauty and substance and not just one (regardless of which one it is). So I am glad to see there are people who see it in a balanced way. No one is trading beauty for substance he's just saying makes sure the girl has both that's literally it.

@kickheavy8982

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly! You're one of the few people that actually listened to what he said. The fact that people are angry at this video shows that people don't like to listen and are quick to project their own feelings on to others. Some of these comments had me wondering "Did you even watch the video?" lol

I like Hafeez videos, he’s so mature and spot on. Truth teller 💡

It’s all about depth and value to me! I need someone with a good heart and the right mindset! A godly woman!

alright so i only came across your podcast recently and ive really come to enjoy it and learn so much from it and i just watched your video "The sad reality of beautiful women today" and i completely agreed and then i clicked on this one.... bruh all i gotta say is im glad youre not longer comparing women to new car smells and christmas gifts... much love and glad to see you grow.

Umm a baddie is no difference than a bad boy. Like some men can't see their own contradictions. If you like shallow people that's on you

@vanessaroper3028

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@diplomat2623

2 жыл бұрын

💯💯💯🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 AMEN!!!

Been watching a lot of these videos, first time I had a aha moment. 👏👏👏

This is so good bro . I appreciate the truth !

Great video Hafeez !!

Finally somebody TELLING THE TRUTH!

Thank you for saying this! Feed your soul and find your peace

Can i just say thankyou so much for this video..opened my eyes to alot of the male perspective and experience 🙏

The realest! This is the truth

This story was hella educational mane 💎

Very accurate. Wise words brother 🙏

I agree with you. It’s the same for women wanting the richest , finest guy. It’s more about a soul connection that’s going to make the relationship last.. being equally yolked matters because looks only last so long

@frenchellew2857

4 жыл бұрын

That’s it!

As a woman I can relate from the female side too. Baddies = Daddies. If there’s nothing of value on the inside, they’re all the same too.

I've dated very attractive men that had no substance, there was one that would just sit there and look pretty with this mean snare on his face, like look at me I'm bad. But had absolutely nothing in his brain. Turn off. Pretty fades and your breath is gonna stink In the morning like everyone else. 🤔

@TheRock-zf3jp

4 жыл бұрын

Vania Thomas but you’re still made him smash tho 😒 right ? Yea aiii

@TheRock-zf3jp

4 жыл бұрын

Vania Thomas those men will always win . It’s more masculine and y’all are biologically attracted to those type of men . You guys say u like funny guys cause it sounds like the right thing to say but you guys really do not .

@vaniathomas8859

4 жыл бұрын

@@TheRock-zf3jp 🤷🏽‍♀️ I mean I was sexually attractive to him yea, but long term , No, I could not have a deep conversation or broad topic , because it was only surface. That gets boring real quick

Well said!

I could sum up this video quickly. I objectified idolized and worshipped beautiful women who are only human, and I learned they are only human. I learned this by having bad dating sense and a shallow vetting process for the women I spent time with. Accountability is quick and easy. Now my question is, after sleeping with all of these women for nothing but the way they look, on what planet are you a good man? Imagine if a woman made this video. Talking about all the wealthy guys she could finally sleep with and how she finally did it, she slept with them all. Wtf?

@LizNeptune

4 жыл бұрын

lmaooo right!

@AB-vb4sv

4 жыл бұрын

Women refer to it as securing the bag, leveling up...you name it. That’s one of the things wrong with this entire dating/relationship dynamic...nobody wants to hear shit. A man is detailing his mistakes in his youth and the first thing most do is criticize him. You mean to tell me women of the world go to the sweetest man with full intentions of giving this unassuming, probably very kind, man her time? If that was true then why are there so many broken women? Accountability from both genders is needed. Let’s not be hypocrites.

@ShreddyMan

3 жыл бұрын

But women do it anyway😂. They just don’t talk about it no ether do they learn from it.

Great vid

Thanks for sharing your experience! What I take from this is that the way you describe ‘baddies’ is de-humanising. Just exchange the word ‘baddie’ for the word ‘black’ or ‘tall’ to see what I’m trying to say here. I promise you your ‘baddie’ is a human with feelings that run as deep as yours, and if you and your ‘baddie’ partner both felt safe and respected you may have seen another side beyond the shallow brush you’ve painted them all with. I found the income comparison fascinating, and saw it from another angle to what you got from it as well. The money was growing and it was getting bigger and better! You just didn’t feel it because you thought the happiness was coming from spending the money. The common denominator was you and your mindset. The wisdom would be to keep your outgoings at the level of your initial/lower income to receive the benefits of the higher wages; in other words it’s the realisation that your desires need to shift but not necessarily expand. Find other things that bring you joy to experience true contentment.

@smilergal89

4 жыл бұрын

Zoesstuff 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@PrincessRell09

4 жыл бұрын

Spot on.

Exactly the reason why I used to be careful with ‘too good looking guys’. Values, character & substance are so important. Let’s all look deeper. There is everyone for everyone & beauty is in the eye of a beholder.

After meeting the last guy I dated and the connection we had nothing can compare to him. I can’t ever settle for less ... the most attractive man can come my way and if he lacks the depth and mental connection it’s not happening

@octavia703

4 жыл бұрын

Moon Child exactly

He speaks the truth. I've never had a problem getting with "baddies" or joking my fam up with them, but in my experience unique personality comes rarely with them.

After your description of a "baddie." I don't have to experience it, I understand what you mean. It's admiring only her beauty. However, there is so much more than that. There's personality, character, intelligence, etc. Also what came to my mind after you describing this is "Do not lust after her beauty in your heart, nor let her allure you with her eyelids-proverbs 6:25. Instead what I look for is, "Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies-proverbs 31:10. No one is perfect, I understand this. I look for character, integrity her faith, is she genuine? Yes there are good women out there, they're more difficult to find but they're out there.

Glad you shared that the average looking woman that you've finally decided to make a connection with because you stop lusting over body parts is what's important. Good for you. You've matured. Hopefully she's happy.

Spot on!

A very spiritual message that's 100% true that nothing in the external world can ever satisfy you in the long term.

I really appreciate your candor here. But I'd like to remind you and men like you that you are trying women on like shoes at THEIR expense. You are stomping on someone's heart and causing them to waste their time, emotions and 'cookie' on a man who is just running numbers. I hope you are upfront with these ladies about your intentions. If not, you are just as another reason why so many women are bitter.

@JMAN11ization

4 жыл бұрын

You should re-watch the video if thats all you go from this.. Also, sorry that someone hurt you :)

@TheEnigmaticBM39

4 жыл бұрын

@@JMAN11ization lol

@mairaveg

3 жыл бұрын

Nakia Jeanelle Cruz woman have the capacity of setting boundaries too, it’s a two way street, a woman who values herself should know when to walk away

@ritchersonm.pattersen1702

3 жыл бұрын

All I can say to you is, speak for yourself don't come here to defend women, there are plenty out there doing the same, trying on men like shoes they enjoy it and do it with no regrets, and most of the time these women are seen as a free spirit, liberal, independent and heroes in this feminist era., and I know for facts women including you don't want men with no experience, if a man comes to you and say he only has been with 2 women in his life, you'll find him weird and surely will reject him.

All he is saying is men put so much on looks and obtaining the best looking woman possible, but at the end of the day, it's empty. It's not all it's cracked up to be. It's a deep point actually and it's a shame that so many women get triggered by their in securities when these brothers are being raw and real. Or would you rather pretend that they don't care about looks and just look at a woman's personality, lying to the women and themselves by playing into feminism's shaming men strategy for not liking all body types.

If anyones offended thats your fault. Excellent words my man! Keep it up 😎

Beauty fades away 🌞 what meters is what a woman has in her soul, and how she treats people ,and the love she has for God ❤️ that’s beauty on it’s finest ♥️

@novaj_dunn7221

2 жыл бұрын

🙌🏽

You've answered a question I was wondering about for a long time. Why do men cheat on beautiful women? Thanks for this revelation.

Great video!! I am a woman I agree with this. Looks aren't everything character is.

"and this is just my experience so if you're offended it's your fault because this is just my experience" 😂😂😂 using this from now on. Line of the century

How many of us here follow some IG model based SOLELY on looks?? I would say many and that is because media images program us into believing a baddie is the ideal woman....til we meet one🤦🏾‍♂️

@TheRoommatesPodcast

4 жыл бұрын

We have

@toomuchinformation

4 жыл бұрын

I don't. Not on IG and can't be arsed.

I want my 13 minutes back. There are so many beautiful, extremely gorgeous women who are highly educated, ambitious, with great personality. All the women in my family are very good looking yet they are also very accomplished and decent human beings. This dude used to be a teacher but I’ve never seen anyone indulge in sweeping generalizations as much as he does. Go in any hospital in any major cities in the US and you will see countless of gorgeous nurses and doctors. Homeboy need to pick up a book on fallacies

@LizNeptune

4 жыл бұрын

that's not his type... his type is the hyper-sexualized, desperate for attention, video vixen and Instagram model. The likelihood of a nurse or doctor, no matter how beautiful she is, being on Instagram/in a music video spread eagle or taking and posting photos of her ass on the sink is very very small.

@justinakinsola3305

4 жыл бұрын

Liz Neptune he said baddies are not always cracked up to be. The outside is not always better than inside. Beauty is not always everything without connection. Watch the whole vid again so you can understand, I truly think something is wrong with you if you can’t. He learned his lesson before when actually dated someone who wasn’t a baddie and realized the women is worth than 10 baddies.

@LizNeptune

4 жыл бұрын

@Flora lmaooo

@lclark3279

3 жыл бұрын

Liz Neptune Well that is a generalization too , I’m in school to become a pediatric Neurosurgeon and for me there are a lot of beautiful and smart women in other professions as well . But the reason why I don’t go for nurses or doctors or surgeons is because of family life . I would someday like to have a family and kids of my own and knowing the scheduling of both it’s not necessarily feasible for that dynamic unless a nanny or another family member is involved to watch them . And that’s not the dynamic I want , if I’m on call 72 hours out the week , I can watch the kids the 4 other days no questions asked . But with a nurse that could work just as much , if not more hours than me it’s not a good family dynamic in my point of view . It’s not just not liking nurses or doctors because I’m sure there are plenty of high quality women in those perspective fields , just for a family dynamic in my point of view it’s not the best and my standards are very high when it comes to that .

@iladixon4911

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. This guy is a lame. He seems real upset that he cannot land the baddie he desires and feel entitled to. His entire platform is generalized dating bull crap. He is nothing but a younger version of Kitten Samuels, less spicy.

A connection is a connection, the ones that last the longest, last the longest.

Brilliant conversation, LUST HAS NO SATISFACTION...........1 John 2:15-17 says it best!!!!!!!!!!

Human nature - you always want more.

A friend of mine dated a stripper (I know 😒) anyhow, this chick was a baddie, looks, body the whole nine...a few months later he dropped her. He said she was more trouble than she was worth and outside of her looks and sex nothing was there🤷🏽‍♀️

That’s awesome Hafeez. I’m glad you’ve matured and now able to teach from your experience

@TheRoommatesPodcast

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Kaya

Truth. Except for the fact that there is no April 31! 6:36

You just described life itself. Superficial things do not have depth or fulfillment and obtaining them only leads to emptiness and disillusion. I would rather have the old, beat up item I love sentimentally than the shiny new object I don't care about but bought just to impress someone else because they said I should.

Back in the day parents and other adults used to teach you these things. It wasn’t such a revelation to most people. Now, it’s like discovering a new planet.

I was waiting for u to have a alter calling after u paused lol “Jesus is the answer”

Most women that are simply just pretty naturally could be a "baddie", it just requires working out, weaves, make-up, in some cases plastic surgery (breast augmentation, Brazilian butt lifts, tummy tucks) and good fashion. Essentially, that is what most "Baddies" are composed of. You are putting "Baddies" on a pedestal and most have simply been created in the factory. I will say Nicole Murphy is an example of a natural baddie, but most are not, but again that is an individuals opinion. Beauty is also in the eye of the beholder. Now I can understand a man being a so called "baddie", because their is only so much a man can do to alter his looks. Guys can literally be born a baddie without any major enhancements, to me that's a baddie. For example, Smokey Robinson in his Hay day, Boris Kojdoe, The Rock, to name a few.

I think that what is most problematic about this commentary is: #1 This commentary purports that being extremely attractive or a so-called "baddie" and being a person of substance who is intelligent, charming, kind, loving, loyal...etc. are somehow mutually exclusive. Nowhere in science has it been proven that extremely attractive women are all empty vessels who hold no other value than their physical beauty, and this is an unfair generalization stemming from the limited experiences of the commentator. #2 The commentator fails to place adequate emphasis on his own inability or unwillingness to do his due diligence in forming connections with these "baddies" that were based on more than just physical attraction. Relationships are not unilateral interactions. Therefore, these women are not solely responsible for making the commentator see them as whole persons rather than mere physical objects. This is my first visit to this channel, so I would have to explore more of the content here in order to get a better sense of who the intended audience is. But based on this video, I can't imagine that individuals who are capable of thinking are intended to find any value in this message. As a secure, confident woman always open to gaining insight, I find that this commentary reflects a lack of maturity that is probably more irresponsible than it is offensive to those of us who can think. If I do return, it would be motivated by an appreciation of Hafeez's physical beauty. He is indeed a cutie with nice muscles. 😘

@TheVegasbadboy

4 жыл бұрын

.....shut up

@PrincessRell09

4 жыл бұрын

Great analysis, this is exactly how I felt but could not articulate it.

@kickheavy8982

4 жыл бұрын

So many people on this thread are completely misinterpreting what he said. He's not saying extremely attractive women don't have substance. He's simply saying men have to stop placing so much value on physical appearance. Instead, men need to focus more on who a woman is on the inside. That's literally all he's saying. I have no clue how people are mad at that. lol. People are skipping over his message and projecting so much personal pseudo-psychology onto him.

Hi Hafeez, I'm not sure if you read these comments but would you mind doing a video on how to test for a quality women? Or perhaps do a video on what things should I be looking for a woman to do in the beginning of a relationship to prove that there is substance there beyond her looks? Since the average looking good girl and the baddie both want men to court: approach, ask, plan, pay, and romance them; then exactly what is the good girl you have spoken about doing that the baddies isn't? Is it their attitude or lack of enthusiasm when they're with you? Is that what you meant?

Feel you 100%

Baddies? I attracted these types before. They're okay. They have the looks but lack charisma. No different than a Macy's mannequin.

“One girl girl is worth 1,000 bad b*tches” - Kanye West which you quoted

They usually easy to talk to because most dudes afraid to approach them, ive talked to quite a few, never dated, but approached and had convos, you just gotta have confidence

@Shaddyraddy92

3 жыл бұрын

Pretty much

Sounded like you had inflated ego because you got one and decided to try and get them all instead of focusing on that one

I have to share one more thing...it’s about getting a woman with substance. Looks do not guarantee that not limit substance. I consider myself sexy, but I’m also an attorney. I work out am adventurous, like trap music, travel and to meditate. People have to be interested and expected to come to the table with more than looks or cars (for the men). Men and women need standards going into the interactions. It’s not the looks but the lack of substance that’s the issue.

You are NOT made for a baddie....You are too kindhearted.

I've only dated one very beautiful woman in my entire life - she was tall, slim and had a very beautiful face. And long story short, it didn't work because I messed it up due to my insecurities. However, I'm also surrounded by beautiful cousins, men and women, who have dated beautiful people. To be honest, one thing I learned about beautiful people, as cliche as this may sound, if you could look pass beyond their looks and not be intimidated, a lot of them are just humans who shits and breathes like us. My only advice is to value chemistry (the positive one, not the negative one) and peace (because you will be dealing with a lot of their exes who wants to get back with them or strangers who would blatantly or subtly flirt with them even right in front of your face).

Wow this was so cringy

@TheVegasbadboy

4 жыл бұрын

i bet you a women

@decentdave68

4 жыл бұрын

no it wasn't, it was truth

@purplegirl8036

4 жыл бұрын

Decent Dave yes and the truth is cringe.

hmm.... 6:37 I haven't completed the video, but around this point I see the problem as "you", not the baddie. When we do not know what we are intrinsically seeking, we grasp any thing that brings light (new shiny boo, etc). That's the problem. Yeah, you can say the relationship lacks connection, but you can't "find" the connections if you are aimlessly looking. You have to seek with desire. - Signed a Typical Thick Baddie that guys seem to "know" but really only gaze at the surface; her depth is usually missed. 🤷🏾‍♀️

@purplegirl8036

4 жыл бұрын

PrincessRell09 this time is really his point

I respect your view, the next video should be why men will complain about baddies but, cheat on their "average" wife/girlfriend with them? The only reason why there is a supply of baddies because, there is a demand.

@isabellalora6533

3 жыл бұрын

True!

So true

Honestly when you think about it, the women who are considered the most physically beautiful women in society right now seem to have a lot of issues. Some of the most beautiful women in today seem to be getting divorced more than average looking women too. Women like Halle Berry, Scarlett Johannson, Kate Beckinsale, and even Angelina Jolie have all been divorced at least once.

Yeah, our brains are able to get used to the best and worst things imaginable. There have been psychological tests where lottery winners, months after their euphoric high, are as happy or unhappy as they were before winning. There have also been people that have been paralyzed, but months after their crushing injury, they are just as unhappy or unhappy as they were before. Looks GET you inside but personality KEEPS you inside. P.S. This video reminds me of my fave scene in one of my fave movies, 'Beautiful Girls' (1996). It is the one where Rosie O'Donnell's characters blasts Matt Dillon's and Timothy Hutton's characters for having pathetically shallow expectations of women; "You're all obsessed. If you had an once of self-esteem, of self-worth, of self-confidence, you would realize that as trite as it may sound, beauty is truly skin-deep. And you know what, if you ever did hook one of those girls, I guarantee you'd be sick of her. No mater how perfect the nipple, how supple the thigh, unless there is some other shit going on in the relationship, besides the physical, it's going to get old, ok? And you guys, as a gender, have got to get a grip. Otherwise, the future of the human race is in jeopardy." P.P.S. 😅 April 31st, man!

This goes back to the saying of money cant buy happiness

I remember his old video about he described women stereotyping and chasing men based on the 80/20 rule. 20% of the men are the most desired and 80% of women are chasing them. So I guess men do the same thing.

April 31st??? Lol I had too. All love brother

He is 100% right I’ve dated all kinds of women baddies of all types, had two of my dream girls and even the baddest girl that I ever could’ve had I messed that up because I didn’t think she was attracted to me but one common denominator aside from that one was true and that is what he is saying right now in this video

Interesting video for sure, I appreciate hearing different male views on the term "baddies." That being said, I find that most if not the majority of men who want and or call certain women "baddies" find out that most if not majority of these "baddies" are extremely insecure about their natural appearance. Most can't even be seen in their natural form. Think about it, the overly dramatic lashes, face full of way to much make-up, fake hair not to mention the shape wear etc. Don't get me wrong, I know there are women in this world that do these things that are still very beautiful without make-up etc. and have an amazing figure without putting on shape wear if she needs one at all to begin with but still it's very rare to find "baddies" who can be seen without any of these "enchantments." Nothing is wrong with make-up, lashes and fake hair etc. if that's what a "baddie" chooses to do. But most if not majority of these women who refer to themselves as "baddies" over do it. Less is more and judging by majority of the pictures on Instagram alone most go way over board. Let's not forget about those "baddies" who lie about getting some type of cosmetic surgery done to their face and or body be it legal or illegal. As a woman myself, I know so many women that are extremely insecure without these "enchantments" yet most men call these women "baddies" if being insecure about my natural face, hair and body is what's called being a "baddie" than I'm extremely thankful to God and his son Jesus Christ that I'm not a "baddie" it's way to many women in this world who fill insecure about their natural self, hints the reason why the "enchantments" are over done on top of the fact that they can rarely if ever be seen without any of it. Many of them have sad stories to tell about the reason why they started putting on all this enchantments to the point where they're insecure without it. Chances are it all started by being picked at by family members and or kids at school etc and or ex boyfriend(s). This is normally where the insecurities began, but of course T.V., Social media and magazines don't make it any better. I pray for women who fill the need to constantly do these things, especially the one's who are too in denial to admit it. Unhealthy habits about one's natural self definitely don't need to be passed down to little girls for those who have daughter(s). It's hurtful because most of these women look unrecognizable without the lashes, make-up etc. To the point where they look sick, but of course the famous excuse is "oh I don't have my make-up and lashes on" so..it's normal to look sick without make-up and lashes on? Make it make sense. Smh God bless these type of woman to properly heal. I know men who've said they've never seen their girlfriend without make-up, fake hair and lashes on. Sounds pretty insecure to me. Women who constantly have to be seen with all of this on are normally very insecure about their looks. Social media alone is filled with women that refer to themselves as a "baddies " yet majority of them don't have not even 1 picture of themselves all natural, meaning no make-up, no lashes etc. I understand not all women who refer to themselves as "baddies " wear fake hair but they definitely have on way too much make-up, overly dramatic lashes etc. Majority of these "baddies" need to properly heal and be confident in their own natural appearance.

I’ve never agreed with this position. What’s ironic is that anytime you don’t look average, whether you’re above average looking or below average looking, ppl either go out of their way to treat you very well or very poorly. It’s not a personality thing (as some other chick on here tried to suggest). I’ve been in numerous situations where men and women were not capable of treating me like a normal person. I’m talking about simply saying “Hi” or “I don’t think we’ve met before, hi I’m so and so”... they would try to purposely make me feel uncomfortable or just respond to my simple existence in the most inappropriate way. That’s the curse of being attractive (or unattractive), you literally become a side-show, uh... attraction! Every man doesn’t worship “baddies”, and this video is proof of that, a lot of men make assumptions as to how many ppl have told us that we’re beautiful, and that becomes enough motivation and justification to communicate the exact opposite message to us.

@amberc2839

4 жыл бұрын

Lydia Harp ... it’s interesting how life will bring about balance automatically. Nothing is what it seems. 💕

@toomuchinformation

4 жыл бұрын

For a beautiful woman the negative approach is called "begging" designed to bring you down a peg or two from the pedestal you've assumed to have been on.

It's a horrible cycle but when you're a baddie or really cute guy you only want someone that's, "on your level" and those ppl have soo many options and high standards that it's hard to settle down. I actually am cool with a good enough looking guy that has the other qualities I'm looking for and strong family values since that is much more important.

@daryledwards9070

8 ай бұрын

These baddie who who broke no job the get money buy ther looks

I have literally walked away from top shelve baddies mid-conversation. I'm not one for rudeness and am usually very patient but boy, I surprised myself on those occasions. I'm not proud of it but I felt like I was losing brain cells talking to them. What glitters ain't always gold.

@novaj_dunn7221

2 жыл бұрын

So so so true.,

Comments prediction: All the men will know exactly what he is saying and we will be able to relate. All the women will hate it because it's a dose of reality that men are hard wired to care mostly about looks. You can't even get to the part about loving a woman's character or personality if you aren't attracted to her physically.

@peacejones7648

4 жыл бұрын

randy wood I’m a woman and I actually agree with what he says 🤷🏾‍♀️

@TheVegasbadboy

4 жыл бұрын

so try and help other women see the light.

@toomuchinformation

4 жыл бұрын

@@TheVegasbadboy To what end?

@TheVegasbadboy

4 жыл бұрын

@@toomuchinformation helping women understand that this is very heartfelt and logical story about perspective.

@toomuchinformation

4 жыл бұрын

@@TheVegasbadboy "heartfelt and logical". Isn't it a contradiction in terms?

I love his skin 💯🔥

I dated a male baddie, but he was a liar, he was full of himself, and very immature. Never again. Give me a sweet, honest, loyal, average dude with humility and I'll be happy.

Where are you going to meet these women? The City? New York? California?

Totally agree. I left a guy I was with for 2 years because I didn’t want him because he wasn’t considered the it guy. I wanted another guy that the other women were drooling over. Because he was handsome light skinned with pretty hair. I kept saying he gonna he my baby daddy. Sure enough I got with him had 3 kids with him. I was surprised he even messed with me. I was with him off and on 7 years. He abused me physically emotionally and financially. He doesn’t help with our kids. He always put me down telling me men only want me for money or material things etc. I finally left him alone. Every now and then he contacts me and gets mad when he hear about me with other guys. He still puts me down and try to hurt my feelings. I won’t ever be with a man or put up with their bs just because he is handsome

You wanna know something though...Dudes chase joints they want but how many times in life we find that something you WANT is not what you NEED?

@Hafeez : Young man. Let me ask you this. Did it ever happen that when you finally found one of these "baddies" that you desired so much that something about her appearance or personality or attitude was not what you desired or asked Him for?

It's a phenomenon called "Hedonistic Adaptation". I would assume that attractive women experience a form of this due to the amount of guys that approach them, leading to higher expectations. Attractive men also experience this in a way. This seems like a good problem to have, though.