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@devinnorman5296

3 жыл бұрын

Can’t believe you got him to n the podcast boy you a dog keep up the good work !!!!

@awesom2bemelonestar10

3 жыл бұрын

The best one yet you guys put out here. Thank you. Needed to hear this

@WhiteLivesMatterPL

3 жыл бұрын

I really would like to give thumbs up, but I'm racist.

@jaredfontaine2002

3 жыл бұрын

Never marriage... No family... Why would you?

@jaredfontaine2002

3 жыл бұрын

Plus I don't give a shit about what happens after I am dead...

Seasoned divorce lawyer here. Just my two cents: stay single. Become the very best version of yourself. Travel solo. Pursue your passions. Live your best life. You can still have terrific intimate relationships without entering the bonds of holy matrimony (marriage). If you want further proof that single life is best, go spend a day in divorce court to observe. Stay safe out there!

@subzfit

3 жыл бұрын

I'm taking your advice Sir

@crimsonite1524

3 жыл бұрын

ah recruiting i see LOL

@jcnlaw

3 жыл бұрын

@@subzfit Staying single will keep you OUT of my office! Go live your best life!

@jcnlaw

3 жыл бұрын

@@crimsonite1524 Ha! Enough business already! Stay single and enjoy your life!

@laurawilliams4087

3 жыл бұрын

Or marry the right person for the right reasons?

People see marriage as a status, not a lifelong commitment

@purplegirl8036

3 жыл бұрын

It is a status. It is both.

@PatrickMenesesYTOfficial4945

3 жыл бұрын

As it should be.

@zachb3573

3 жыл бұрын

They wanna update their Facebook relationship status, that’s it.

@BballNintendo3

3 жыл бұрын

finally i heard someone else say it. they see it something that have to do (not want to do) to complete their life. they want to create this wonderful image that does not represent what actually goes on inside their home. im so happy that i decided to never fall into the trap of marriage even though it's a social norm and everyone in my life is either married or planning on it.

@elchucapablas

2 жыл бұрын

An achievement, an item in a to-do list

When all the successful married men are telling you dont get married. It speaks a lot

@nothingnerdyNtertainment

Жыл бұрын

Except only a few of them are. There's also situations like Mr. Gates.

My marriage ended after 2 years. My advice is stay single unless you are 100% sure. If you have the slightest doubt and your friends and family are questioning it listen to them. It will save you worry, time, sadness, and most of all money.

@robertoayala809

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks man

@koahkoah1258

3 жыл бұрын

So far people in other countries/asia/south-east asia aren't that materialistic as long as you're faithful and have a job to make ends meet and raise a family, you're good. But there are also people who got married and who are in the aspiration to marry as part of life, not caring much about how difficult it can be in terms of financial aspect. There are so many cases of families here who have A LOT of kids that couldn't go to school because of poverty. But one thing you can blame it on is the fact that some people are never mentally and financially ready for marriage. For them, that is the way of life, you were born into this world and do what everybody does, everybody gets married as society's highest ideal and you can't get out of it because it's like a deep hole and you have fallen into it. Philippine courts forbid divorce. That's why Poverty exists as well in Asia, more specifically, South-East Asia. Although, now it's changing because the young people are now educated enough to unlearn all these things. In the West, I think people have been materialistic and the standards of living are too high and financially, it can be pretty demanding because of this pressure to have a SOLID ECONOMIC FOUNDATION, which I truly understand.

@iulianhodorog9979

3 жыл бұрын

Were you not sure when you decided to get married? It seems to me like a "don't get in the car and don't drive unless you're 100% sure you won't have an accident" kind of argument.

@t206kid

3 жыл бұрын

@@iulianhodorog9979 unfortunately for me I wasnt 100%

@respecthumankind333

3 жыл бұрын

What if they haven't met my partner and they say things out of fear. I know this is a men's video and comment section but I'm just trying to ask around. When in your opinion do you think I should take their concerns seriously. Right now it's just because they don't approve that the partner is a different race and he isn't rich like us. I love him for his mind and his emotional intellect. My family has very little emotional intellect. First man to understand everything I feel and think, that made me take him out of the friend zone lol. He initiated the idea of marriage before I did also. As I said, my family has never met him and refuses to. Makes the situation weird because I don't want to start drama on the day that he meets my parents. In my opinion they just demonize anyone who isn't a child of their friend or business connections.

Find someone that is willing to forgive more than one time because you will mess up a lot. If you can’t forgive then don’t even think about marriage.

@leofeza9325

3 жыл бұрын

Truer words have never been said

@profonicsgaming7870

3 жыл бұрын

Never in my life will I marry until laws change

@ajtaylor8750

3 жыл бұрын

Preach!

@bettermanchannel770

3 жыл бұрын

Forgiveness and precise communication

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you

I'm just gonna continue living life as a single man.

@victormeza1664

3 жыл бұрын

Same here 🤠

@maxless6655

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you, please do.

@richardramfire3971

3 жыл бұрын

Your a smart man. There are pros and cons to both though. I’m glad I did it because of my children.

@sofi1672

3 жыл бұрын

I’ll continue life as a single woman. (No pun intended)

@harshpatil3979

3 жыл бұрын

No bro make your progeny and keep adding value to the world via your son

I’m 40 and I’ve never been married. Watching all my friends getting their first divorce these last ten years, all I can think is: God I’m lucky.

@Fast_and__curious

3 жыл бұрын

Lolll

@nolanbaptiste358

3 жыл бұрын

Well said

@ataa69120

3 жыл бұрын

Well you are kinda missing out on life because you are not investing in a relationship and not leaving a legacy whereas your friends took a leap of faith in love and built a family

@gaialily7072

3 жыл бұрын

@@ataa69120 That’s actually not true - I’m living a very full and happy life. I have had great romantic relationships (many of my ex’s I’m still friends with), I travel the world frequently solo and make new friends along the way, have built a rewarding career and have been self employed since the age of 24 and was able to buy a house myself. My friends who started families early in life now are struggling to even find affordable housing, time with their kids and the financial burdens they face. Now that many of those same people are single parents, it’s a life I wouldn’t really wish to ever have. Plus, my siblings have all had kids so the gene pool will carry on and I don’t have to worry about any “legacy”.

@alanarzate93

3 жыл бұрын

You are smart marriage is one of the biggest financial traps

No wife No divorce No Alimony No child support Result happy life....😁😁😁😁

@harveyking5038

2 жыл бұрын

and you're a Punjabi??????????????? sikh? wow

@rohans7194

2 жыл бұрын

@@harveyking5038So someone’s religion has anything to do with his opinion on marriage?

@pipo7822

2 жыл бұрын

That's actually sad

@zyx7478

2 жыл бұрын

No wife Perfect life

@phenox7027

2 жыл бұрын

@@pipo7822 just like your comment

A woman will only leave you when she is convinced it will destroy you. -Patrice O’Neal

@xxxag1768

3 жыл бұрын

This is gold

@Louiependley

3 жыл бұрын

RIP the King

@BBFletcher4202

3 жыл бұрын

RIP to a fucking legend. If only he could see the world now 🤦🏾‍♂️

@alexlee8639

3 жыл бұрын

Damn

@higherthinking4143

3 жыл бұрын

Truth

The Recruiters point is so true! We’re all recruiters.

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

Indeed

@joycewatt800

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. I’ve never thought about it like that but I can see how that could be true. Perhaps it’s the “birds of a feather flock together “ mentality 🤔

@davorebo5790

3 жыл бұрын

WoW.. spot on...misery loves company

@fionay2014

3 жыл бұрын

So true.

@adriantoogenuine

3 жыл бұрын

kzread.info/dash/bejne/nWp73K2NhsyYoqg.html 🙏

Love when he said we need to stay in shape and be sexually attracted to each other, i hear many woman say he should love me for who i am which i hate that statement, you can't put on how many pounds and still feel im gnna be sexually attracted to you, madness on both end, not bringing your best version of urself.

@clairefitz3147

3 жыл бұрын

Those women are fat and hate themselves 🤣 Can’t love anyone when you hate yourself 🤣

@leann1234

3 жыл бұрын

It will come as a shock one day when you realize that everyone gets old. Looks fade, personality stays. Health & fitness are great, but no one stays "the same" forever.

@clairefitz3147

3 жыл бұрын

@@leann1234 they do if you look after yourself. No reason why not... KAREN

@leann1234

3 жыл бұрын

@@clairefitz3147 looks like you forgot the 'S' ... let me help you, there... KARSEN :) My grandparents sure changed after 50+ years of marriage & I notice some of the same happening, going on 10 years with my man. You can believe what you want to tho ;)

@tumelomothoa2860

3 жыл бұрын

@@leann1234 love it 🤗🤗

"Married people like to recruit to the married community," Holy sheet, that's a golden nugget of knowledge right there! Thank you!!

@andersonandrews

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, misery loves company.

@roythousand13

Жыл бұрын

Like the old saying goes "Misery loves company!".

Marriage troubles me because of how vulnerable and risky it is for a man. We are loved conditionally while everyone else women, children, pets are loved unconditionally. Even if we try and do our best we may still end up being cheated on or have a divorce. There isn’t only a mental risk but a major financial risk. I’ve come to the conclusion that I want kids and I want to bear the burden of a family although finding the right partner especially in today’s society is very difficult. In conclusion, be picky with who you choose and keep improving yourselves.

@BM-fz9yc

3 жыл бұрын

I’m a woman and I definitely agree with you on that.

@shaina9169

3 жыл бұрын

The financial part is true and it’s one of the big reasons marriages don’t last, that’s why it’s important to build a strong foundation of economical freedom before you settle down, that will set a solid ground. The cheating part is tricky because there are so many causes, but it sums down to desire and decision making from a “self respect” point of view. And it is hard to find a partner with a self respect that isn’t affected and reformed by society and its new standards of human rights that misleads the people. The chances for a committed relationship is getting harder to create With the new vision of the free “man”

@EkTwRLoveGarlic

3 жыл бұрын

@@tannerjoust1263 In a sense the vast majority of men are victims, we are treated as disposable by society, we still have to conform to traditional gender roles otherwise we won't progress in our working and relationship part of life, meanwhile women have both options to be both traditional and modern, and they can achieve the same. I grew up thinking women are victims, and that we must protect them at all cost, I am and unfortunately still go along better with women, and as I grow older I am realising more and more how disposable I am and how much shit I'm fed every day. I should talk about my feelings, but at the cost that most women will see it as weakness and the moment I did it with a friend with whom we had something going on, it took the downward spiral, and because it was a bad time in my life I admit I got a bit needy, but now I'm just friend. The patriarchy , this needs no explanation why it's bullshit. Wage gap, same. It's ok not to be sexually experienced, yet I've been rejected for that and I unfortunately know my sister has only been with fuckbois and even told me she prefers someone inexperienced which is clearly bullshit. And whenever I point out to a feminist who says she fights for equal rights why she doesn't care about some men specific issues, she says fight for them yourself. My dad had an affair, which is very wrong, and for 4 years after that my mom was emotionally and physically abusive to him, she tried to blame him for my own mental problems, everything was his fault, luckily they have stopped now but knowing that if my dad, which what he did was very wrong but that's not the case now, would have asked for help after all the abuse he would be ridiculed and told to man up. I've always wanted to have a family and get married, but as said the older I grow, I'm 25 now, marriage seems like a prison which according to many, it is.

@marcusthomas3130

3 жыл бұрын

I’ve been there and I was so pro marriage before. I found out in the end that there is literally not one benefit to a man getting married. Before I could only see positives but I was blinded. There literally isn’t one benefit. It’s even worse in the social media age where people will feel there is always better out there. Prenups dont work and the risk is all on the man. If not the man it is solely on the higher earner. I’d only get married in future if she literally is worth significantly more than me. Oh and yes I did believe in love etc. But as any lawyer will tell you ultimately it’s a contract and you signed everything away as a man when you signed that contract. All the best in your search. Just don’t get shamed into marriage.

@howardbello3764

3 жыл бұрын

@@tannerjoust1263 Oh no I didn’t mean to come off as a victim of have a victim mentality I was just being realistic and the wording may have been off but the responsibilities of taking care of a family can be very fulfilling if done correctly. I think people should continue to improve and take care of those around them. In my opinion and I don’t think it’s that controversial people should be 100% fine with themselves before a relationship much less a marriage. As a kid everything’s black and white the older we get the more we see all the shades of grey in the middle.

Marry someone who was raised in a stable family. Always check the woman's relationship with her father and mother.

@san-lx3xy

3 жыл бұрын

No LTR , No marriage , No cobabitation.

@StrokaReviews

3 жыл бұрын

Facts

@cambelasben

3 жыл бұрын

So true. I can't disagrer

@laaa210

3 жыл бұрын

@@FidoeFTW why? So they can loose everything they worked for

@MobileAura

3 жыл бұрын

@@laaa210 I literally anybody who doesn't love you unless you marry them isn't worth your time, P E R I O D. What that guy said reminds me of those old sayings that further perpetuate generationally passed down sorrow. My grandmother stayed with my grandpa through thick and thin, he's been a hardcore alcoholic since he was 12 sleeping on the street she's been with him ever since it told me she's suffered just because of "tradition" for reference my grandpa's 70 and he's still hammered 24/7 acting like a kid, don't try to change people just get as far away as possible.

I learned some difficult, painful lessons in my last relationship and it's made me stronger and resilient. I think relationships and marriages don't work out because we all have trauma that we don't deal with. If your parents had a dysfunctional relationship when you were growing up it's more than likely that you will too. You say to yourself 'i will never be like them' and years later you end up in the same position. The past is prologue. Unless you have learned from your mistakes and gone through self development and therapy you will keep making the same mistakes. Repeating the same pattern. So deal with your issues on your own and improve your relationship with yourself first. Then think about a relationship with someone else.

@capo-amg6755

2 жыл бұрын

You hit in on the nail !!

@alphabeta3105

2 жыл бұрын

D

@TirianOfNarnia

2 жыл бұрын

Well said

@_A_M_I_T_

2 жыл бұрын

Wise words 🙏🏻

@shaamir4443

Жыл бұрын

💯

The risk is too high for men. There needs to be two changes. 1. Limit alimony to one month for every year of marriage. 2. Limit child support to 10% of your net income per child, (DNA test upon request).

@fooni7400

3 жыл бұрын

10% for the first child with the additional percentages getting progressively smaller for additional children. (Assuming all of the children are with 1 women)

@skylarwright6019

2 жыл бұрын

Father’s don’t always pay child support. Men should also reevaluate the way they relate to women so they won’t get left.

@andrewevans6826

2 жыл бұрын

@@skylarwright6019 lmao? 95% chance men pay child support. Maybe yall wo-men should watch your damn moutg

@MSBOYARDEE

2 жыл бұрын

I'm not even a dude but I agree. I saw my male cousin get used and abused by his gold digging status and attention seeking wife and now the aftermath is heavy. That isn't right at all

@gibbletronic5139

2 жыл бұрын

Im way past these sorts of half measures. If women want men to return to marriage, then the price is in the event of a divorce, the father automatically receives primary custody with no exceptions, and alimony is limited to five years. That's it. And I won't bother wasting time trying to bargain, either.

This guy dished out so many gems in such an elegant way wow

@asapmarq7185

3 жыл бұрын

Agree now I understand why he’s worth 9 figures

@123JWheezy

3 жыл бұрын

There's plenty more where that came from, he's a really fascinating guy. I suggest you check out his KZread channel Valuetainment. I've learned a lot from watching him and the guests he interviews

@ANTHONY_727

3 жыл бұрын

that's called great life experience and plenty of introspective thinking for ya

@LUX_8

3 жыл бұрын

Sadly, many of his "gems" will be left on the ground because some dudes are too blind to see and too lazy to bend down.

@dlitefulone

3 жыл бұрын

Notice he didn't degrade the women he dated before....

This guy Hafeez is really smart and has a good air about him. Hope he's doing well

I look back at life before the internet and think how clueless we all were.

@Skynightburst

3 жыл бұрын

What you dont know can, and will hurt you ;___;

@yr2180

3 ай бұрын

People were happier

i love how real he is. although the truth does hurt. like he said you can do everything “right” and still get your heartbroken. it scares me.

@MSBOYARDEE

2 жыл бұрын

I understand. I'm a woman and can relate. I tried to love unconditionally and put my all into it but it wasn't enough and I was heartbroken left in the dust

@CynthiaAlorney-kh8hq

Жыл бұрын

Am looking for a serious man white who will not break my heart

Don’t get married before 30 at least. Couldn’t agree more

@untouchable360x

3 жыл бұрын

Don't get married period until they change divorce laws.

@crimsondragon18

3 жыл бұрын

@pap pana Don't get married, ever.

@sophiademure

3 жыл бұрын

@Eitan Rabinovich lol

@1974GreekTiger

3 жыл бұрын

I have a better idea.NEVER get married and never stop banging 304's.

@worldgonered4854

3 жыл бұрын

Why get married when most of yall not even religious

This conversation is so deep. Every man should operate the same way this guest has operated when choosing a wife. A man must look for a woman who is not only beautiful, but who will be an asset and not a liability.

@JohnSmith-cz3us

3 жыл бұрын

That’d eliminate 80% of women. You understand this right?

@SWIFTzTrigger

3 жыл бұрын

@@JohnSmith-cz3us Thats the point mate... the more selective a collective becomes the more it raises the bar and the higher the quality over time. We currently suffer the opposite problem, men have no standards and aren't selective, many just want sex at all costs, so the market is saturated with entitled single mothers, usually over weight and have nothing to offer that expect a lot. 100 years ago no man would accept that, so the quality of women was higher.

@JohnSmith-cz3us

3 жыл бұрын

@@SWIFTzTrigger perfectly said. I agree. 💯

@taylorthenatural5509

3 жыл бұрын

@@SWIFTzTrigger Most women like me would make damn good wives but a man wouldn't look at me that way because I'm not Instagram model level hot. Guys want their cake and eat it too, and don't comprise which is why they will stay single or in busted relationships.

@SWIFTzTrigger

3 жыл бұрын

@@taylorthenatural5509 why do you think you would make a good wife?

The real test comes when you get your first child which has constant belly pain and is awake all night. The 2nd test comes when u both are middle aged and the kids are no longer living at home..

@alexisvillar2960

Жыл бұрын

First child was a walk in the park. Having my second child was challenging because Having to manage both.

I’m 29 and I’m reminded by my older peers (40+) to never get married. They also say if i must marry, don’t even think about it until 40. Also, they say the single best thing in life is freedom and being single.

@vblam6604

3 жыл бұрын

I d simply suggest you to start reading your Bible and communicating with God/ listen to His advices towards you more, than you listen to your friends...)

@Mark-go7qm

3 жыл бұрын

@@vblam6604 can god you a better wife ?

@Eaglejake

2 жыл бұрын

See past Friday. You can share your life with someone, but not be committed to the Government contract. Stay single, and retire in your late 40s and early 50s. Life is great.

@Eaglejake

2 жыл бұрын

@@aphiwemncube1550 Asking for a friend......define "selfish" by deciding not to sign the government contract (aka marriage license)?...How does that make one selfish? I'm curious... Selfish, to me, would be getting married, and then "taking the pack off" because "I got him/her". I can gain weight, not look my best, not have to be on my best behavior, and "accept me for the way I am". Living with someone without the government contract requires each party to be on their best behavior, improve themselves, not let themselves go physically.

@haselbasil2488

2 жыл бұрын

They might regret that latter in life. Also at 40 no one may want you and having kids are less likely.

You hear how this guest went into marriage with purpose and a mature masculine growth mindset. A relationship will evolve and individuals will change, therefore, Marriage is only for mature individuals who mutually accept responsibility and respect towards themselves and one another in the knowledge that both individuals are flawed and imperfect and both individuals need to hold each other respectfully accountable. Furthermore, if you don't know self or have a strong identity, you will never know how to choose a suitable mate.

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@shes_setapart

3 жыл бұрын

🎯

@DesignerMom

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, a level headed mature man who is not emotional about marriage.

@marishajames3581

3 жыл бұрын

@black wolf101 haha you’ll still find a reason to cheat if that’s what you want to do. I personally know a couple that had a threesome and she left him for the woman lol. He would also be the point of contact which created problem. You won’t be problem free at all.

@craiver00

3 жыл бұрын

Marriage is just business sold by the church. You don't need a piece of document to build deep relationship or family. I think people want to add "extra security" on their relationship because they have doubts or trust issues on their partner.

My Pops has been married to my mother for over 40 years. One thing he taught me about marriage is that if everything is going well, the man gets no credit but if it fails the man is to blame. We have a burden to carry

@TIMAYYY88

3 жыл бұрын

This is facts! Hes a wise man

@OHCAM5

3 жыл бұрын

not always

@luxuriousmindset1906

3 жыл бұрын

@@OHCAM5 yeah it is I never seen otherwise

@mauricedavis1740

3 жыл бұрын

@@OHCAM5 your in denial...

@BlackWolf207

3 жыл бұрын

From my perspective, men in marriages have some to gain and everything to lose, while women have little to lose and everything to gain, ESPECIALLY with divorce. That said, you have people getting married not understanding that it’s a commitment for life, and that both people are supposed to support each other. You got people marrying after having met like 3 months ago, or just cuz some guy knocked up his girlfriend. Basically they’re marrying for the wrong reasons and are too stupid to realize the gravity of their decisions.

“My mom was a Communist, My Dad was an imperialist.” “The Divorced community wants to recruit into the divorce community.” “Win your existing loyal people over, and NEVER disrespect them.” Bruh...that’s some God-Level Insight.

@MrDCMiami

3 жыл бұрын

“The Divorced community wants to recruit into the divorce community.” The single most powerful and insightful comment of the entire interview.

@chamber1083

3 жыл бұрын

Just want more clarity on this statement. Does that mean people just want to create echo chambers of people just like them because misery loves company?

@47shadows76

3 жыл бұрын

@@chamber1083 It's more that people trust their judgment and experience more than reason and resonate with those in similar circumstances. Trust me, if you've ever been cheated on by someone that you loved and this led to a divorce where they happily moved on, when your kids/friends speak of "falling in love" or find trouble in their relationships, your trauma will usually 'recruit' them to your mindset.

@serioustalk6912

3 жыл бұрын

Patrick Bet-David is a monarchist, too. He hates Iran, and fondly remembers the days when the Shah was selling the country to the Western powers.

That's a real woman, it takes a lot of guts, humility especially for a female to let go of the pride and ego returning the BMW and settling down cheaper for a better day, much respect.

@dougwilliamsIII

3 жыл бұрын

They not built like that anymore these days. She’d argue with you about why you can’t just pay her bills

@cryptohouse1676

3 жыл бұрын

Well, we can never know her real thoughts. Maybe she just realized how it would look if she asked for money.

@shadehadagaming9892

3 жыл бұрын

Facts

@ninawillow2429

3 жыл бұрын

Is financial literacy not a thing anymore?

@machupikachu1085

2 жыл бұрын

@@cryptohouse1676 truth. maybe she was playing the long game. Either way, it looks like it worked out for her.

This guest speaker is saying so much truth, especially the part about who you would call in a fight. I remember getting into an argument with my fiancée and I called my mom to vent. Not only did my mother put me in my place, she also took his side. That was very eye opening for me. My parents have both been married for 25+ years lol.

@yonisali3879

3 жыл бұрын

Mums who G check their daughters whims are in short supply today if anything they encourage the fuckery. Luckily I have achieved my goal of not to have kids out of wedlock(am weirdo like that ) So no need to ever go down that rabbit hole ever again. Rather try my luck Dodgeing raindrops while being fired upon by machine guns from all sides. Kinda sad tho cuz kids really do thrive in marriage. Maybe best thing to do is not to give each other dilemmas so close to home.

@andremotivation6561

3 жыл бұрын

We neeed to normalize telling women when they are in the wrong, or need to get a reality check, i think society allows women to believe theitmr perfect even when they do wrong, you never learn.

@vibes8924

3 жыл бұрын

It’s better when you’re parents are married! My mom is single and bitter! Not going to work.

@naps3386

3 жыл бұрын

Wow...if we had a whole society of fathers and mothers that were this wise, what would we have as society? Count your blessings.

@martinogbuigwe7813

3 жыл бұрын

That's Bet David. Check out his KZread channel he's very popular and SPEAKS COMMON SENSE. His KZread is Valuetainment Podcast

As a man of 25 years old I refuse to get married or have children until I know I made it in life! By that I mean, I have to a house, a truck and my own business making money for me every week! That’s the criteria I set up for myself. My parents ask me if I’m every going to find a woman and I say yes! All in due time! I’m not ready for a relationship but I am ready for sex. Two different things. That’s why I have to continue working on myself! I told myself that I wasn’t going to waste my 20’s. I was going to work hard up until my 30’s so I can have a better life.

@KingzCODM

3 жыл бұрын

Ur coming from that. With. A. Negative mindset and remember everything. That starts. With. Sex. Will. Get. You burned

@romeotraettino2290

3 жыл бұрын

Perfectly said

@grizzlybear2702

3 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately most wives become extremely apprehensive to intimacy after the honeymoon is over while your obligation to provide for her and show her affection is still legally enforced. When ever a wife wants her husband to buy her designer handbags or jewellery his response should be “not this year honey I have a headache” that will give her a dose of her own medicine.

@jackdeniston59

3 жыл бұрын

Keep your eyes open for a marriageble women though, keep it a guide rather than a rule.

@newaveride3396

3 жыл бұрын

I have 3 sons. Me and my husband said the same things to them. Two are now engineers and getting ready to purchase a home. No girlfriends in sight. But they are now in a position tobe successful when they choose a wife.

That story he told about his wife is the reason he married her 💯😤💪🏾I would’ve did the same thing

Being tied down to someone you might no longer be attracted to especially given how common obesity is becoming, is a scarier prospect to me than the financial stuff.

@blakeh8582

2 жыл бұрын

Obesity is high with US women, average weight for women is over 170 pounds.

@ifyouwantoreplyjustclickth5063

2 жыл бұрын

Its true. So many men mainly want their wives to look good but dont do anything about their own looks. They have a beer belly, bad skin, dont care for their dental health, dont keep up with modern fashion, and dont do anything with their hair. They still use 3 in one body wash (body, face, shampoo).

One of the few men who has MASTERED all the major aspects of manhood. 🐐

Wow, so many misconceptions here. Here some reasons why I got married: - She loves and respects me and I love her. - She gives me confidence, she is my biggest fan, she makes me feel like a real man, which helps me in the workfield too. - I have someone to share ANYTHING with, whether it is temptation through porn, something difficult at work or my dream of having a sailboat. She doesn't judge me and helps me to get through things. Someone who knows your soul is priceless. - You don't have to go through challenges alone. - You have a best friend to do fun stuff with. - We can have and raise children together, give them love, confidence and a toolkit to be worldchangers. - Sex is soooo much more intense, authentic and passionate if you do it with your soulmate who never judges you or walks away. You have time to explore also. Even if you have a bad session, just improve next time and celebrate it. It's a nice process. - Lastly, a big reason for me (maybe not for you), I honor God and understand more about what unconditional love is. Guys, don't be fooled. Think for yourself. It's not all an economic question. Also, take your time to find a high-quality woman. Don't have sex too quickly (maybe even wait until marriage?), because then you are not blinded by your lust or her appearance and see the red flags much earlier. Cheers!

@quishia

3 жыл бұрын

Well said and very true! The biggest point that I got out of what you said and is by far the most important thing to have established in our lives is allowing God to be our foundation. If we are building our house on a rock then it will be solid but if we are building it on sand (worldly standards/values) then it will fall.

@thessbest123

3 жыл бұрын

We are not afraid of marriage man we are afraid of DIVORCE. Tell me man what is the benefit of the government getting involved in a marriage which is supposed to only be between a man and a women AND god??

@jbrown2180

3 жыл бұрын

Because he’s a Christian.

@desiderata108

3 жыл бұрын

Congratulations, you have an awesome wife! However, we are complaining about the current divorce laws. We are scared of losing our children and being financially ruined. Like you, I have significant faith in God and in my afterlife. However, I need fair laws for my earthly existence.

@vikki8699

3 жыл бұрын

You sir, are a rarity! Never change that. Congratulations on you and your wife's marriage! :D

I am not even married but this is the best advise anyone can get!!! THX PBD

@mrx-od3ji

3 жыл бұрын

im 36 years old i never dated i was singel all my life i dont need kids i dont need a wife i dont need to get married. im already doomed to be singel forever i dont trust a woman to be with and i enjoy singel life.

43 yo, wrote two books, run a learner driver school and built the app for bookings , admin etc and plenty of teaching materials sold. Not married and don't want to.

@abdullahnisaar4084

3 жыл бұрын

And you have to tell the world that shows you want affirmation

@abdullahnisaar4084

3 жыл бұрын

@Nenenne Yws Good point but not all women are the same, there are also good women out there who will value you and show you sincerety

Man I'm grateful I was born and raised in the Caribbean…family values and loving homes were the standard for most of us with fewer influences...things have changed now but at least there were some great women available ....social media and the urban influence has distorted what marriage was truly intended for. Now everyone out here being shiesty.

@officiallydreama4412

3 жыл бұрын

Being from The Bahamas I 100% agree. But I now live in the u.s and for the most part that’s not the case here at all.

@abroadstateofmind5571

3 жыл бұрын

@@officiallydreama4412 same here !!🇧🇸🇧🇸🇧🇸🙏🏿

@blackfolkssavior3294

3 жыл бұрын

Yea family values is still here and feminism ain’t take over and most likely never will power to all my bruddas💯✊🏾

@Simba365

3 жыл бұрын

Where in the Caribbean are you from because its the same way not as bad as America but its not sweet either.

@abroadstateofmind5571

3 жыл бұрын

@black wolf101 yea man it isn’t the same anymore because of social media it use to be amazing though ...God bless all my brothers in the US but it seems like family values has gone out the window for good ..and the world has been affected by it

Patrick Bet-David is a very smart man. Eloquent, clear ideas. He should be more famous. His youtube channel is a gold mine

@ananiking4488

3 жыл бұрын

I couldn't have said it better. Patrick is great. Love watching his podcasts on youtube

@spookynuts7148

3 жыл бұрын

They forgot to mention the reasons why relationships & marriages fail. Is because the sex wars that go on social all being fueled by heartless man & woman who have failed at relationships so now everyone has the same fate according to them. Now add 2 narcissistic people or 1 narcissistic person to what you think would be a loving relationship and your just fooling no one but yourself since your letting the devil in. That goes for both men and women who can't control their emotions and anger and can't balance decision-making out in a relationship. Everyone is willing to brag about marriage and relantships about how good or bad they can be. But not many will understand about the long-term commitment sacrifice and teamwork that so-called friendships involve to keep evolving. So if you're already dealing with a person who can't understand these things or maybe you're the one who can't understand these things. Why do you go raw during sex and end up in the same bandwagon like everyone else you knew before you? What did you think having children would change the equation and fix your marriage or relationship? Why did you both not seek counseling before making such plans?

@clementoghosa9839

3 жыл бұрын

I wanted say the same thing about him about him he so insightful and brilliant.

@goldwerewolf8651

3 жыл бұрын

I'm proud to say he's my CEO

@Megabimol

3 жыл бұрын

Don’t get married unless something big changes in family court

Pat: We as men want to live thousands of years Depression: Allow me to introduce myself

Patrick is unique person.. he talks in details ..deeply hits to my soul..

Damn that story about his Wife and her debt is crazy!

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

Indeed

@lightbringer9940

3 жыл бұрын

Lol most women are in debt. I have a friend. She's drowning but not sure she's realized it yet

@jmoney2610

3 жыл бұрын

@@lightbringer9940 well ur supposed to be her Beta Simp and save her 😂

@ifeelhalfnaked484

3 жыл бұрын

her wife follows his frame, just like rollo talks about HIS WIFE ASKS HIM whether she can buy a gift for herself. SHE MUST FOLLOW YOUR LEAD.

@eski_truv

3 жыл бұрын

She knew he was testing her😂😂 women know exactly how to secure a long term bag especially at close to 30 years old

Men should get married only to women who know how to add value to a marriage; someone who wants to build a life together, not just someone to pay her bills.

@ilikepancakes2368

3 жыл бұрын

Too bad no such women exist.

@zak6093

3 жыл бұрын

Nothing but symbolism.

@ruthn2054

3 жыл бұрын

Just wondering , what would men like women a bring to a marriage that is valuable?

@profonicsgaming7870

3 жыл бұрын

Lol

@Kenny-Ross

3 жыл бұрын

@@ruthn2054 Fidelity, being supportive, very nurturing, thoughtful/giving, being able to cook and carefree.

I am 50 and still single and lived to tell about it. Perhaps someday I will find the right person but if not I will live to tell about it when I am 80. So glad I have a positive perspective.

@gokulkrishm51

2 жыл бұрын

Tell me a bit more about your single life, Matt? Not to troll, just curious :)

@mattgonzalez4151

2 жыл бұрын

@@sbc4434 hmm you might have something there

@mattgonzalez4151

2 жыл бұрын

@@sbc4434 I don't agree that every woman is that way but I do agree getting married is very risky. Getting married is a roll of the dice and sometimes you get snake eyes and for some guys the venom also.

I stumbled onto this video by curiosity on my path to bettering myself, and this guy is so authentic and well spoken, and it makes so much sense having your close circle tell you to support your partner, and if both of you are getting that response, it will only bring you closer instead of separating you

My last girlfriend was always complaining about money. But she had not 1 but 2 Mercedes. When I suggested she change them for a Toyota she got very angry. At that point I realized she was not good for me. 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

@marciloni12

3 жыл бұрын

I think you were attracted to her 2 Mercedes more than you were to her.

@amarelogan7081

3 жыл бұрын

@@marciloni12 nah he made a decision based on logic, often times people ignore red flags because they are in love or infactuated, all red flags no matter if they big or small needs to be really looked at and not glossed over love will never and never will be enough and if u think so then thats toxic

@BRBallin1

3 жыл бұрын

You don’t have to tell her to go for a Toyota when she has 2 when she only needs 1

@mtpta4947

3 жыл бұрын

@@marciloni12 ???

@Fresharoni

3 жыл бұрын

Lol this happened to me years ago. Glad it did. Bitch is still paying 600/mo for a jeep of unhappiness 🤣

Just don't get married. A contract with someone who benefits from breaking it does not make sense

@crazybruno3850

3 жыл бұрын

@Nóra Jánosi it’s depressing. Divorce rate, affairs, broken families & single parenting is too common. Probably why it’s like that now. Kids are growing up with liberal extremists mindsets from their mothers without knowing the cons of them.

@naturalmystique1237

3 жыл бұрын

right

@billwalter5092

3 жыл бұрын

Doesn’t make sense not even a lil bit

@chadbaker2224

3 жыл бұрын

Perfectly said.

@kəanıncupıdo

3 жыл бұрын

@Nóra Jánosi i hope you find your happiness, Nóra.

The more I grow up, the more I understand how incredibly lucky I am with the happy marriage I have right now...

@MrGengad

2 жыл бұрын

I said the same thing, but it won't last long, furthermore enjoy it before she takes to the court.

@mathisnotforthefaintofheart

2 жыл бұрын

....right now....uh oh.

@arianalushtaku4329

2 жыл бұрын

Enjoy your marriage man these 2 men who replied to your comment are just mad that they don't have a woman who loves them like you do

@rpatel6461

Жыл бұрын

@@MrGengad lol that was cold, but truth

@rpatel6461

Жыл бұрын

you are funny man

It’s not tough to be faithful, especially if you have faith🤣

Two-time divorce' here, first was 18 years which almost broke me, the second was 5 years and purely out of loneliness (The WORST reason ever!). Fast forward 7 Years with no marriage and no LTRs, focusing and becoming the best version of myself, and couldn't be happier!

@itsmike9227

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing

@thatguy9088

3 жыл бұрын

@@aidan9656 - Going to take a wild guess here and say that if he was a female saying the exact same thing, your comment would be much different.

@electric_sand

3 жыл бұрын

@@aidan9656 Aren't you victim blaming?

@ThothTheAtlanteanK

3 жыл бұрын

Outstanding Jeff!!! Glad to hear it!

@ThothTheAtlanteanK

3 жыл бұрын

@@aidan9656 amazing! The Guy made a comment about how happy he is, and all you can do is somehow try and find a way to blame him for waking up. Wow. Just wow.

35 y/o here, never married or had kids. Paid off house and growing portfolio. Couldn’t picture life with the burden of a wife or kids.

@iud3110

3 жыл бұрын

Just remember you can't take none of that with you.......money and wealth are great but with no one to share it with. Just misery in a nice house.

@jbrown2180

3 жыл бұрын

Your poor parents... no grands to look forward to.

@desiderata108

3 жыл бұрын

Why the shaming guys? There are many guys who wanted a family but actually live alone in financial ruin due to divorce.

@David-fw4ly

3 жыл бұрын

@@iud3110 You can’t take your wife and kids with you either, so not sure how that’s relevant. I’m single and I share my wealth with my girlfriend, just never going to get married. We’re going to Hawaii in 2 weeks and going to have a blast.

@David-fw4ly

3 жыл бұрын

@Sareem J Thank you. I don’t plan to have children, and to clarify I do not cohabitate with my GF. I’m 40 and feel like I’m good not reproducing, as I can live a happy and full life just with GF(s). If a man wants to have children then I do believe marriage is the way to go. The only good reason to get married is to have kids and start a family, as I’m not a fan of single mothers and broken homes, as kids do poorly in that environment.

The love between my parents taught me marriage is about being happy and successful and decided to share them with your significant. So start with yourself first

Thank you for I introducing me to Patrick Bet-David! He enlightened/incorporated me to some wisdom that I feel changed me in a way I didn’t even realize I needed change in. I now want to practice his practices, so wise!

I got into a huge debate at work saying that you should keep yourself attractive for your significant other and the whole room said I was wrong it shouldn’t matter! Thanks man you proved my point

@JGLCSW

3 жыл бұрын

With all respect I think you and your coworkers are both wrong. Stay in shape and be attractive for yourself. Women come and go.

@kentaronagame7529

3 жыл бұрын

We live in an era that's trying to normalize laziness and mediocrity. Expect any idea that requires people to have to get up and do something to be met with a response like that. They all know it matters. They're just terrified of the idea of having to invest time and energy into keeping themselves healthy. It's a chore. When they say it shouldn't matter, they're actually saying "but I don't wanna I don't wanna I don't wanna 😭"

@morebass6644

3 жыл бұрын

@@JGLCSW Pretty much the same thing by being attractive for your self you benefit from your significant other and the next woman.

@localjunckieasmr9207

3 жыл бұрын

@@JGLCSW and that’s why your single” woman come and go” maybe look at the reason you can’t keep a woman n offer anything to allow her to stay

@JGLCSW

3 жыл бұрын

@@localjunckieasmr9207 How do you know I am single? People/women come and go in your life. Be better for yourself, not to impress anyone else. Workout, eat healthy, read, etc for yourself, not for the Gram, or for someone else. A good version of you will be attractive to others.

My wife and I are having a son- due April 13. I’ve never been so excited in my life. I went from living at home and unemployed with my parents to getting an MBA, great career, marriage, bought a house, and now with a kid on the way in 5 years- and I’m only middle of the road intelligent ect. It’s possible for all of you.

@Mary-dk7mc

3 жыл бұрын

Amazing!

@blasiomuhinda5913

3 жыл бұрын

You are just at the beginning. Pray for your future, that whatever challenge comes you will pass through it, because they will come. I have seen friends have kids and immediately have problems afterwards, so am hoping for the best for you.

@dullknifefactory

3 жыл бұрын

I don't care about your wife or children

@sharenalynn

3 жыл бұрын

If you don't mind me asking what is your Ethnicity?

@Macheako

3 жыл бұрын

bro......plenty of divorce happens 10+ years into the marriage.....ya'll gotta stop acting so goddamn arrogant. Stay married for 50 years THEN COME TALK TO US

I have been searching high and low for this type of 'Talk'!!! Finally, I have something that I can relate to...Thank you!!!

I’m the product of two outstanding marriages -> parents’ and grandparents’. Grandparents have been married for 63 years. Two amazing people. I know marriage can be a lifelong wonderland and I wish my friends the best when they go down that road. BUUUUUUT definitely not my thing lol

His wife is a great listener. Also, take note that he had somthing real important to say that he can back up. As a woman, she has to feel that conviction when you speak to her and that comes from having your shit together. A wise woman will not follow a fool.

@belindabruno-piverger2069

3 жыл бұрын

Wow- felt that

@Mary-dk7mc

3 жыл бұрын

Yes sir!

@melatbrhane8577

3 жыл бұрын

Factsss

@Macheako

3 жыл бұрын

dude, whatever, you guys are still in love with your make believe picture of these girls. Never wanting to join the rest of us in this very very harsh REALITY....... Women ain't "wise" dude

@Macheako

3 жыл бұрын

if you have to lie to a woman to earn her love..... then I think you're a joke....and so is your "Love"

13:30 I compromised my ''NO MATTER WHATS'' before getting married and that's what was the cause of dying marriage that finally ended. A lot of that comes down to sex before marriage as it has the ability to clouds your judgement. I think that sex before marriage is a really bad idea, especially for a man, because you are unable to assess a woman on her character and you don't marry sex appeal you marry character. You enjoy sex appeal but you deal with a character most of the time.

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing

@kingukoha8484

3 жыл бұрын

Amen.

@munyumbamutwale2985

3 жыл бұрын

@Gus Fring Los Pollos Hermanos Chicken, Crystal Meth Well I am currently finishing one divorce where we started by being active before marriage so I guess I can only tell you about how it works out the next time when i get married to someone without sex before marriage.

@munyumbamutwale2985

3 жыл бұрын

​@Gus Fring Los Pollos Hermanos Chicken, Crystal Meth And no Sex After Marriage is not the silver bullet to save marriage. That is picking the right person, at the right time and still putting in the work. In order to pick right you have to know her well and also you need to know yourself because you will be able to deal with red-flags better. However, if you are in a place where you lack an IDENTITY and then you engage in SEXUAL Relationships without the ultimate commitment you are highly unlikely to do a proper character assessment simply because you have now put sex and booty on the table and matched that against her character and that is a case of your short term mind battle with long term factors and short-term gratification mostly win in that battle. Added to this the Domapine rush of SEX is higher than work and Alcohol and thus its ability to dominate your mind especially with her as the source is very difficult to assess her long term and objectively. Your decision making process will be compromised.

@munyumbamutwale2985

3 жыл бұрын

@Gus Fring Los Pollos Hermanos Chicken, Crystal Meth Calm down. I am saying it creates a barrier that stops or impedes you from being able to spot or deal with red flags before going in. That's what I mean by clouds your judgement. When judging whether to stay in a relationship or progress to marriage sex should not be a factor. Its something 2 people can work on in a marriage but it should not be the selling point because it can blind you from things you desperately need to fix and deal with... Also it becomes an easy way to get out of FIGHTS.

I wish I could up-vote this twice! I'm 27, I was together for 6 years, engaged for two when she left me at 24. The part about instant venting and scarring hit deep. this has given me a lot of insight. I'll take the advise and wait at least 3 more years. After that, now I know what to look out for. Thank you guys. EDIT: Subbed

What a great interview!! As a guy who settled my first marriage this is gold

His women is great because she listened to him, women don't want to listen. This man is great, his woman wanted a great man

@HanselHessUnfiltered

3 жыл бұрын

Man good point

@jeremerydelancy9808

3 жыл бұрын

Most women would get mad, that a man doesn’t want to help them pay their bills

@sylvesterhurt447

3 жыл бұрын

Also, take note that he had somthing real important to say that he can back up. As a woman, she has to feel that conviction when you speak to her and that comes from having your shit together. A wise woman will not follow a fool.

@passthecollectionplate

3 жыл бұрын

@@sylvesterhurt447 🎯

@drea0523

3 жыл бұрын

The reason the guest speaker's wife listened to him is because he made her feel comfortable, secure and protected. When a woman feel those things then she can be vulnerable. The guest speaker also provided his wife a practical solution her problems. His wife is able to be submissive because he exemplifies strong leadership abilities. The reason this dynamic works is because they are not in a codependent relationship. You are worthy of the love you desire. However, when you say that women don't listen. You are simply telling the universe that this is type of woman you want to attract in your life. So speak a different narrative.

It's funny my parents will be married for 40 years come June. My dad always ask how come I don't have a girlfriend, and I tell him that things are different now, compared to the time my parents meet each other, back in 1979. What's even crazier, is that they meet at their job, which today is a big "NO NO".

@adiddy911

3 жыл бұрын

I feel you bro. My family is always bugging me about a girlfriend. Kinda hard to find a good woman nowadays. They all seem to be on that onlyfans app. I aint tryna get with a girl like that.. this generation is messed.

@Skelstoolbox

2 жыл бұрын

My mom is just getting it now, how modern women are and how dangerous it is.. Sure, we are of the white community but it's still the same across race, marriage being such a risk to us and thus our mothers.. She will not see the home we worked for (2500 sq. Foot duplex so we have very seperate living spaces and entrances, on 3/4 an acre lot) go up in smoke to some floozy in a divorce court...

Wow. Cant believe I just stumbled upon this hidden gem. This guy had super insightful points. The Who would you call during a big fight and the trading the car in story were both really great things to hear.

THIS WAS MAJOR!!!!!!!! Pat ALWAYS comes through!

Get married if you are willing to take on the risks that come with another human being having divorce laws in their favor. If you are comfortable with that, have fun.

@princekazhila2003

3 жыл бұрын

also dont minimise the risk of over indulgence or the value of a good woman.

@brianbouf8303

3 жыл бұрын

@@sharenalynn can be trowing out the window in court room, and its not only fanatical risks in marriage, emotional risks, and freedom, she can accuse you of physical abuse or sexual abuse, if she want to revenge, and they will believe her, talking from experience.

@bugiereacts

3 жыл бұрын

@@sharenalynn they get thrown out daily.

@trinab9587

3 жыл бұрын

Women take risk by having their husbands child. The risk of death for black women during child birth is high. In addition, the time she takes off work to raise the children puts her behind professionally. So, let’s say she walks away with half the proceeds of the sale of their home and part of her now ex husband’s retirement because he wanted a younger woman, totaling about $50,000 after say 2 kids and ten years of marriage. Now let’s say he wasn’t a high earner, child support around $400 a month for both kids, and she’s been out of the work force for ten years helping him build but things didn’t come into fruition. Now this divorced mom of two needs to start over at 40 something to find a home, employment and stability for the children who only sees the kids on the weekend when him and his new play thang ain’t busy. There’s risk in every thing, but I think death takes the cake!

@brianbouf8303

3 жыл бұрын

@@trinab9587 thats another reason why men should avoid marriage, so you dint risk during pregnancy and dont fall behind in yoyr career, win win.

If you are going to get married, just make sure you have been dating the girl for a long time.. Most of these problems stem from guys marrying girls on the basis of attraction rather than logically analyzing how good of a life partner they would be, and using a solid, long track record for that.

@devin4613

3 жыл бұрын

Even that won't save you, there are still women that want divorce after being together for like 5 or 10+ years

@leveledfeats

3 жыл бұрын

It's still a difficult situation. Regardless of how long, a girl can fall out of love anytime at a flip of a switch. I've seen it happen more times I can count and it's happened to me with my ex girlfriend. It's more based on, trust and respect I feel. If she can't respect you enough she is bound to leave.

@jbrown2180

3 жыл бұрын

If you don’t want a divorce then maybe don’t act in ways that get you kicked to the curb.

@mrjet15

3 жыл бұрын

She can and most likely will pull the bait and switch. Trust me I know first hand.

@BRBallin1

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. A lot of women make great girlfriends but bad wives

This guy talks like one of those dudes who can persuade anybody...definitely convinced me and taught me a lot just now 👌🏽

It’s very rare I watch a 15+ minute KZread video... I got to say: the content of this channel has got me hooked!

The quality in this 15 minutes is unbelievable! Forwarding this to all my young kings! #Nonnegotiable

“Politics is even more important than religion” And there you have it folks, the reason I’m still single.

@KiranSundarkdog97

3 жыл бұрын

Politics is an extension of your value system to an extent, as is religion. The husband and wife have to be on a similar enough page for the relationship to work.

@bettermanchannel770

3 жыл бұрын

Both carry corruption

@bettermanchannel770

3 жыл бұрын

@@KiranSundarkdog97 boom

@Anthony-wk7cn

3 жыл бұрын

@@KiranSundarkdog97 right. And it’s deeper than about which way you vote. Comes down to values and how you see the world. Same with religion but he’s got a point on different religions having overlap.

@gregb7337

3 жыл бұрын

Jesus is the only way to heaven

11:42 Wow that is fantastic advice. That will surely stick with me to consider this in the future.

If I think about the worst points in my life it has been involved in a relationship and when I think about the highest points in my life it has been as a single man handling my business!

This literally has to be the highest value in a podcast I have seen. Just amazing. Keep it coming guys:)

@maxb9315

2 жыл бұрын

Omit 'literally'. It's superfluous.

I'll be 61 this year. Single my whole life. I do not regret a day of it. I am not suggesting no one get married. I admire people who have long, healthy marriages. But, let people live their life as they please & don't judge. Not everyone has to live the same way.

@vturner

3 жыл бұрын

do you have kids ?

@neilwagner4100

3 жыл бұрын

What kind of old person puts a naked pic in his profile. Please be genuine about stories.

@emaildump6532

3 жыл бұрын

@@vturner I do not. I knew it was one of the things I had to take into consideration if I stayed single. There are compromises no doubt

@emzywillrich7243

3 жыл бұрын

I'm right there with you and my life has been very enriching with incredible friends. I have pursued my dreams and reached them.

@emaildump6532

3 жыл бұрын

@@neilwagner4100 As I said in my original post; not everyone has to live the same way

Beautiful advice, guys. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

I love listening to this guy Patrick Bet David, he's so smart and gives great advice! I watch his KZread videos all the time.

Hello Brother Hafeez, This is your brother from East Africa. This is content is so great and insightful. I have learned a lot from Patrick. Ahsante sana.

@michaelmwiti4619

3 жыл бұрын

Jambo kaka. E. A representing

I've listened to this man interview people, talk about finances, give life advice, but never have I heard him talk about relationships. Truly a fantastic person to listen to.

Came for Patrick Bet David and discovered your channel! I’m an avid follower of him. Awesome content.

Great conversation, bumped into your channel as I was browsing KZread. Love your content keep up the great work 🙂

The amount of value in the podcast is unreal💯

So long as the risk of divorce remains astronomically high for men to end up in financial ruin the lower marriage rates will continue to go.

@Kenny-Ross

3 жыл бұрын

Yup! That’s the reality of it.

@mwafrika4

3 жыл бұрын

This. Divorce can destroy a man's wealth

@Kenny-Ross

3 жыл бұрын

@@mwafrika4 It's super risky. I don't believe in divorce but today's Western women will do it in a heartbeat or cheat.

@U4ia28

3 жыл бұрын

@black wolf101 likely because marriage rates are down. Can’t get divorced if you don’t get married in the first place.

@tsaunders4684

3 жыл бұрын

@black wolf101 No its not. The pandemic caused it to increase quite a bit last year. A lot of couples got tired of being in quaranteed together and had to call it quit. Domestic violence increased too

This was eye opening for me. I think a lot of people can benefit from this conversation.

I’m going on 17 years of marriage with a good woman and I still don’t recommend marriage to men. Whatever so called benefits you get is under cut by what you give up in return. Also the benefits aren’t continuous or even a given but your part of the relationship is. Let me explain, about half of marriages end in divorce, about 80% of divorces is initiated by women, about 90% of those women get the children, child support and alimony. On top of that they get most to the property like the home with the furniture, car and about half of the savings. So after the relationship is over women still benefit and in most cases even do better while you do worse. She can get a job, another man and create 3 sources of revenue. Now if you defy the odds, you will have to work at the relationship day after day, year after year while still protecting and providing for her. On the other hand she can deny you the amount of children you want or children at all. She can deny you the amount of sex you want or sex at all. She can let herself go (Get Obese & Lazy) neglect the home, can disrespect, belittle you and there’s nothing you can really do. If marriage wasn’t a contract and the government stood out of it that would make it better but it is. Since divorced court, family court and even the police/authorities side heavily with women it’s best to voided the whole situation.

@emmany2767

3 жыл бұрын

Damn 💔💔

@jvjustvibes9103

3 жыл бұрын

Then why’d you get married?

@jvjustvibes9103

3 жыл бұрын

As a MAN you sound kinda sexist and ignorant

@NYC1E1

3 жыл бұрын

@@jvjustvibes9103 I got married young before I knew anything about life, relationships, marriage and how men are treated by the government because of divorce. Then I found Dr Warren Farrell, MGTOW, The Red Pill, lived a little longer and now I know the harsh truth about relationships. Like I stated, I’m married to a good woman, yes we have our ups and downs but I consider myself luck so far. However I wouldn’t recommend marriage because my experience isn’t the norm. The risk out weigh the benefits in my estimation.

@jvjustvibes9103

3 жыл бұрын

@@NYC1E1 ok

Short answer : no Long answer : NOOOOOOOOOOO

@zak6093

3 жыл бұрын

Hell NO!!!

@TalksWithYeisie

3 жыл бұрын

hilarious

@LB-zd5yh

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂

@thabesttheris

3 жыл бұрын

You must be young lol

@zak6093

3 жыл бұрын

@@thabesttheris I was 21 when I decided to never get married, now I'm 47 and that was the best decision of my life.

This is advice is priceless! The real life examples are great lessons for a man to use in his own life

Imagine you fall in love with a girl n you 2 get married, buy a house together, n have some kids. 10 years down the road everything seems great until one day you come home n she hands you divorce papers. Now your forced to move out of your house n still pay for that house that she n your kids can still live in. On top of that you lose primary custody of your kids n have to pay child support monthly n are reduced to limited visitation to your kids. She also claims to the court that she can't maintain her lifestyle that you once provided for her in the marriage n your now ordered to pay monthly alimony payments to her so she can achieve that lifestyle. Your also financially n legally responsible not only for your attorney fees, but hers as well. Now while all this is being handed down to you by the judge, he urges that you better make payments on time n in the full amount or you'll be subject to jail time for lack of payment. Now when someone asks me, "Why don't you wanna get married?" I look back to this scenario!

@manelo.8906

3 жыл бұрын

I'd like tp comment on : ``She also claims to the court that she can't maintain her lifestyle that you once provided for her in the marriage`` I feel like men like to be ``providers`` and therefore go with women who make less than them (sometimes by a long shot). The reality is this ``provider`` midnest is outdatted (coming from a woman hersefl), it's exteremly hard to live off one income (so let the women contribute as much as you do) so you have to find someone who makes as much money as you (if not more) so both of your lifestyles allign. That will remove the burden of financial contrainsts which is one of the major causes in failed marriages (I'm a daughter of divorced parents and my dad was the main provider until he couldn't beacuse he lost his job and decided to just leave us on our own beacuse he couldn't take care of the family anymore, if my mom had a salary like him or close their marriage would have worked out but my dad was facing too much financial problems and my mom was not doing much about because she couldn't make as mush as him and setlled for a life that was above her means ). Once that constraint is removed from the equation, the rest of the marriage depends only on how the 2 will behave, unfortunantly futur can not be predictied and people will change but if you remove any fiancial, material or physical problems (yes looks matter) when starting to date someone you'll have a good chance to be happy in your relationship. That's all, I just wanted to pinpoint the ``money problem`` :)

@GhettoJohnWick

3 жыл бұрын

@@manelo.8906 Lemme pone a hole in your logic here. When a man makes more money, he spends it on his wife. When a woman makes more money, she thinks she doesn't need a man. Marrying a woman who makes more is always gonna be a long shot anyway. But, when a woman makes more, she usually thinks she's better than the man she's with

@blackreign351

3 жыл бұрын

@@GhettoJohnWick exactly. She’ll get tired of always being “the man” and find someone who she think is better and will make more than her so she doesn’t have to work and provide anymore. It happens all the time

@NidgeDFX

3 жыл бұрын

You forgot to add "sooner or later some other man is in your house plowing your ex and living rent free".

@SamSam-mv6gf

3 жыл бұрын

On top of that you will discover the kids are not yours so by the time you are retiring you lost the women the house the kids the saving

A very profound conversation from an enlightened man. More men should be like this.

3:42 GREAT POINT! Especially how a lot has changed in the last 40 years, specifically with this becoming a more connected world via these apps. Overall, this man is very insightful. All of his points are super valid

I am a 33 year old and I am getting divorced from a 5 year marriage this year. But I agree with what he said about the importance of marriage to a young man.

@King_Arthur_

3 жыл бұрын

Sorry to hear that. I'm on the verge of getting a divorce myself at the same age as you. Only two years however.

@munyumbamutwale2985

3 жыл бұрын

@@King_Arthur_ Sorry to hear that. Its something I would wish on no man but I think we all need to be there for one another. I am through the worst of mine its just that in my country you have to live apart for 2 years before your divorce is approved so we are just waiting out the clock for the remainder of this year.

@munyumbamutwale2985

3 жыл бұрын

@SOUL SEEKER Keeps us from jumping in and out of marriages at will and gives optimal chances for cooling tempers to improve the chances of reconciliation.

@munyumbamutwale2985

3 жыл бұрын

@SOUL SEEKER I wish. we are still experiencing a rising divorce rate.

@visionforetold4568

Жыл бұрын

Marriage is meaningless to a young man. It literally offers him nothing except problems and headaches lol

I feel sorry for all the couples who rely on sex to keep them happy in a relationship.. a medical condition one day could stop one or the other from being able to and then what? All those years are thrown out the window I guess .. such shallowness in relationships nowdays

@Sona77.

3 жыл бұрын

So true. That’s why nothing works anymore.

Wow bro I just found this podcast yesterday what a great content. Every clip I’ve played is great

this guy is beond wise. 14 minutes of him talking and I could sense an energy within me that I have lost over the last 5/6 years of my life. (I am 25 btw.)

This guy was very enjoyable to watch. His articulation, voice, content, everything was great.

@andrewcallahan1642

3 жыл бұрын

@Anurag Chakraborty Ummm, he's right though. It may be a simple contract but it's very difficult to keep a marriage together nowadays.

I was married 25 yrs. In the last 15 years, she let herself go and kept spending/giving away all our money. I hated to... but I pulled the plug. Now I am debt free, and I get to build my wealth. Marriage is work for both parties, if just one stops major problems begin. Otherwise, the rewards are wonderful.

I just started listening to your show and I love the topics. Great job man. And yeah thx for the insight on marriage, it’s good food for thought

62?!?!? I thought my man was in his 30s, hope to be successful too one day

@juanitaf.m

3 жыл бұрын

He's not 62. He was giving the hypothetical example of someone who is challenging him by saying they were "happily married" at 22-- with different a set of external conditions four decades ago.

@BigSizzle88

3 жыл бұрын

He’s 42

Man this advice is gold.... Wish I heard this 3 years ago! 😂

The court system has ruined a man's reasoning for marriage. Too often we are the one's who get screwed regardless who is to blame.

@mikeb3717

3 жыл бұрын

In my state, there is an official alimony calculator - if you make $45K a year and you get divorced after ONE YEAR of being married the man (typically) has to pay his ex $1237.50 a month for 4 months. Meanwhile your take-home pay for $45K a year is probably only $1900 after tax so you got about $600 for all your expenses.