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@TheWoodsyintroverts

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for these teachings. 🙋‍♀️🙌🏻

@rickchop3887

5 күн бұрын

Thank you for making this video it's very insightful. i really appreciate it

@billbradleymusic

2 күн бұрын

You're one hairy fella. Keeping the lady warm 😁

Imagine being hated because your quiet

@underated17

Күн бұрын

Well many people are quiet. That is not a logical reason not to like someone. It is more nuanced. I completely disagree that being liked is subjective. I know many people feel the same way about most people.

@user-ih7ij3ip9t

Күн бұрын

LoL yeah I've been there

@WildBillHickums

Күн бұрын

There's people who accuse people of being homophobic, racist, bigoted, simply for not speaking on something actually. I think that line of thinking and coercion is wrong also.

@michaelmcgee335

Күн бұрын

Or because you smile.

@Matt.Hurley

Күн бұрын

I've been called a creep for casually breathing near someone before lol I was just tired from working hard

"You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life." Winston Churchill

@krispycool1

Күн бұрын

or your just an asshole lol

I used to walk into a room full of people and wonder if they liked me… now I look around and wonder if I like them.

@billyboyd3493

11 күн бұрын

Hhahahah that's a great turnaround. Don't give away your self worth to others.

@gal1885

7 күн бұрын

It’s an amazing shift when it happens

@generator6946

7 күн бұрын

Thank You! This so obvious and very useful!

@Professor__S

6 күн бұрын

I don't want to be a product of my environment. I want my environment to be a product of me😎

@sebathi1

5 күн бұрын

Fabulous!!! I LOVE this point of view !

I would rather be alone than spend time in bad company

@michaelhandford2097

2 күн бұрын

All day l o n g.

@jonathanbirch2022

2 күн бұрын

Baa-aaad companyyy... till the day i diiiiieeee!

@lars-eriklarsson7826

Күн бұрын

Thats a rule everybody who wants to live a better life shouöd live by

@elminero49

Күн бұрын

Stop being so judgmental over other people's company.

@Angry-Lynx

Күн бұрын

amen brother. one of the best lessons of my 30+ years on this filthy planet

Imagine being hated for being creative. Imagine being hated for being a good dependable person.

@WildBillHickums

Күн бұрын

I think there's more to it than that. Intention is the underlying component worth observing regarding the motive that people are operating from. There are manipulative people who are highly dependable, creative, etc. and most of us who are socially grounded can see the difference.

I learned at an early age that people didn't like me. At first I thought it was my skin. What I wore. Where I was born. My accent. Then I realized all types of people don't like me. I began to ignore people, and focuse on myself. I stayed away. When others pushed me away I just took it from there. I focused more on my goals, and I accomplished every one of them without the negativity of anyone. I learned that I didn't need anyone. I'm fine with just one person liking me. It's really nice. I'm happy.

@thedavidboland

11 ай бұрын

thanks for sharing

@atfaithvalue

11 ай бұрын

Your comment resonated with me and gave me hope. Thank you for posting...

@paulpennington-mv7rt

11 ай бұрын

Just, one person liking you? Turn on your tv, look around a bit at what some (most!) call a friend. Look at the vapid, mindless fair that passes as info/entertainment. Your cell? Worse even, Twitter, Facebook, so many more. You have a friend, a human being? That's ok. I have zero and I am fine with... where I'm headed, you can't take any nonsense with you, none of that nonsense. 😎

@Tanner233

11 ай бұрын

Same man

@marthas.4456

11 ай бұрын

I'm sure more people like you, not only one.... You might be like a marmite - not everybody's cup of tea, as the English would say.

"The mob is fickle." Forget the crowd. Be ruthlessly authentic.

@lonewanderer_n7

2 күн бұрын

“Ruthlessly authentic”…I like that 😎👍🏻

It's not a problem if someone doesn't like me, as long as they leave me alone. But when they start persecuting me because they dislike me, then it becomes a problem.

@TinaLouise73

11 ай бұрын

👍 welcome to my existence!

@reneechaplin8686

11 ай бұрын

True.

@youtubeis...

11 ай бұрын

Yes, Haters.

@sarahk6254

11 ай бұрын

That is so annoying. That means they are obsessed with you.

@YagirlM

11 ай бұрын

They always do though. They try to make their single digit IQ my fucking problem and the s when shit goes sideways.

"I am free of all prejudices. I hate everyone equally." - W.C. Fields

@briano.1503

8 күн бұрын

LOL, I've been saying that for 40 years.

@guillermosanchez2797

4 күн бұрын

🤣

@Thegingerbreadm4n

2 күн бұрын

felt that.

It's been 30 years, and I have yet to find people who like me. And no, Family doesn't count because they don't like me either.

@aLightShines

3 күн бұрын

❤❤❤❤

@janetwestwood9194

2 күн бұрын

💅🫦💨🍷✌️❣️🇬🇧

@margaretwebb389

2 күн бұрын

My tentacles of feelings are sending their way of touching your life!!! May peace be with us! Blessings

@totallypreposterous

2 күн бұрын

My family don't like me either. The suck thing is I had to figure it out myself, since they craft well played out deception to pretend like they like me just the same as everyone else they know. But the truth is in the actions and outcomes.

@NelsonVanDweller

Күн бұрын

You must be a A hole. That's quite an achievement

Someone once said to me, "I don't like your attitude," I replied, "I really don't give a shit."

@thedavidboland

10 күн бұрын

haha

@Octomaggot

4 күн бұрын

And then you wonder why people don’t like you. Maybe your ego is the problem honestly. I learned that myself the hard way.

@guillermosanchez2797

4 күн бұрын

Epic.

@steelheadstalker

3 күн бұрын

@Octomaggot words I live by: "Your opinion of me is none of my business."

@titaniumcranium3755

Күн бұрын

I replied with no you just don't like that my attitude is better than yours

it's the bullying that is out of control. So tired of those with Narcissistic abuse and disorder.

@MusclesNOTtattoos

3 күн бұрын

so many nasty people out there. and it just seems to be all passive aggressive back sniping now

@Thegingerbreadm4n

2 күн бұрын

for real, tired of people leaving nasty replies under my comments for literally no reason whatsoever...

@spaceycaveco.698

Күн бұрын

It’s because they’re encouraged by having distance between them and the people they bully, but in truth, the ones who do that aren’t nearly as brave enough to do it to their face.

@tonylangridge3003

Күн бұрын

It's easy to be nasty and arrogant it takes more effort and energy to be nice and have manners I can't be arsed with people who are horrible to me or others

@ginger8655

9 сағат бұрын

My kids And their spouses are that to a T...

What really grinds my gears is that my own family were not my people.

@DoodleDoo

4 күн бұрын

Many of us can relate to that.

@trinity5842

4 күн бұрын

Mine too unfortunately.

@nicolethompson2234

3 күн бұрын

I can so relate! Nevertheless we are supposed to be here! We are worthy!

@user-zp7wh8en5g

3 күн бұрын

This is not uncommon. The reason it upsets, depresses, and 'grinds our gears' is because we love them. Let it be a reminder that we're normal human beings.

@alanbeckham9093

3 күн бұрын

I'm right there with you. My family DESPISED me growing up. Never failed to remind me. I miss them because of the blood tie, but it's best to stay away. Draining sometimes though.

Insecure people fear confident people. Those with self love, are the most hated. Find strength in solitude. A weak person can always be found in a crowd. A strong person can always be found alone.

@deborahbarnes8377

Ай бұрын

Well said.

@shilobenefraim1974

25 күн бұрын

Thank you sir.

@JohnDoe-pd4jo

23 күн бұрын

and they won’t stop at nothing to make others feel how they feel instead of going to live in the woods alone somewhere. Can’t stand this type makes you wanna do something crazy cus they won’t leave you alone.

@jmobrawler

21 күн бұрын

Love this. I need to write it down and frame it on my wall.

@dafne_rdz

20 күн бұрын

🥹🥹💗💗

They are insecure and perceive you as a threat

People do not like me because I do not like bullsh**😱😂

@firesign4297

18 күн бұрын

🎤

@royferguson3909

6 күн бұрын

welcome, I can not tolerate bull shit , any longer my virtual friend

@user-sj3fp2xq2m

2 күн бұрын

Sounds about right xD

@totallypreposterous

2 күн бұрын

Let me guess. You can't stand lies, you pick up on them quick, and you find most people not only lie to others but themselves? If so, right there with ya.

@derekscarrsr2688

Сағат бұрын

That's me also.🤨🤣😎♌️🐺💯🔥

I used to love everyone, but I fight to keep others out now. It's a learned trait

I need to stop jumping from man to man and stop relying on them to dictate how I feel.

@shirley9066

5 күн бұрын

Goood idea! 😊

@juliana.x0x0

3 күн бұрын

Put all that love and invest it into truly loving yourself.

@totallypreposterous

2 күн бұрын

If you've got guys trying to offer up solutions or tell you things like "ok this is how i'd handle it" and such, rather than simply seeking to know how you feel, then wrong guys. They're controlling.

I’ve been disliked all my life. I trigger something in people. Lately I have started viewing people as monkeys. If we had tails we would know the truth. For a couple of years now I simply stopped caring about what people think. It’s very hard to break out of the people trap. It takes work. It takes time. I have noticed they pick up on it! They somehow know I don’t care; that I will not bow down and serve. But when I totally ignore one of them and just go about my business it’s so so good! Wake up

I rather be respected than to be liked

@Sealust50

21 күн бұрын

AMEN!!!!!

@ryugavegeta5734

15 күн бұрын

Thats the aim for me as well . Power should be gained as much as we try to gain money.

@spirg

8 күн бұрын

Refreshing ❤, Thank You 😊

@juliana.x0x0

3 күн бұрын

@@ryugavegeta5734power and respect are not the same. Power corrupts.

@romeowandrainbow1040

15 сағат бұрын

Everyone likes me but barely anyone respects me … what’s that about ?

When people don't like me...I say...I Love YOU, to myself.

@BeYounique...Maryanne

13 күн бұрын

That's beautiful. I'm not quite there yet :)

@amandabartell1502

13 күн бұрын

❤

@beyondallreason-du4pq

5 күн бұрын

😊

I would rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I am not ..

@sylviacarlson3561

15 күн бұрын

Brilliant! I'm sure you have lots of people who care about you!

when I stopped caring what others thought about me I started to be free for the first time in my life

I've never fit in, now I'm an adult I love my solitude, I physically hurt when I'm forced to be in social situations

Most of the time, it’s because they don’t understand you.

@sylviacarlson3561

15 күн бұрын

....and they aren't taking time to do so

@jasonenglish4531

14 күн бұрын

No time for them anyway

@poetsrear

14 күн бұрын

@@sylviacarlson3561 Too busy being the only one that matters. Because you know, other ideas are just waste of time that could be used to "do something actually useful".... like making THEIR dreams come true, lets say. And if you do not see that, you're probably a person that "needs help" :---------)

@spmoran4703

14 күн бұрын

Or dont want to understand you

@spmoran4703

14 күн бұрын

​@@jasonenglish4531Me also

People don’t like you when they realize that you could not care less what they think and they have no power over you in that way. Then they become jealous of the freedom you have from not caring what anyone thinks.

@English_Rose4

13 күн бұрын

In point 💯

@CobraDove1111

11 күн бұрын

EXACTLY

@gal1885

7 күн бұрын

Wow that is so true and deep …thank you for posting ❤

I feel like it is worse when it is family members who dislike you. And that dislikecomes with envy. and you cannot get rid of them easily.

@casper12365

2 күн бұрын

I agree to some point. But after the hurt is gone, you realize you are better (safer and happier) without them around. I discovered this the hard way. And this knowledge made me stronger. It also drew me closer to The Most High God (Yeshua). I would call that a plus.

I always find it difficult when you meet someone, they act really nice and you get along but then all of a sudden they start getting all weird, go cold and don't pick up the phone to you. In reality if they were a real friend they'd discuss the issue with you and if it's the type of person who stands round in silence getting offended then perhaps it's best for the both you to go your own separate ways.

I like me, and that is all that matters. I don’t mind my own company.

@user-zp4lf3lv6x

2 күн бұрын

THATS RIGHT LOVE UR SELF I DO THAT B4 FOR I GET OUT OF BED EACH MORNING 😅 HANS SOLO FLIGHT

Kindness costs nothing. Be Kind.

Somebody once told me I'm an asshole , I replied that when someone I like and respect tells me that I pay attention and reflect on myself . But as it's just you , its as irrelevant as you are to me.

@user-zp4lf3lv6x

2 күн бұрын

JESUS LOVES U EVERYONE ELSE THINKS UR A ASSHOLE

People liking you was a survival technique as a child to be safe. As a sovereign adult, people not liking me is great so I don’t have to ghost them.❤

@Lyrielonwind

11 ай бұрын

I'm still struggling with my people's pleasing behavior ingrained in my brain. I can't wait to get rid of it but I have been doing it for such a long time in order to survive in my family and later in other environments that it comes out unconsciously and it doesn't help me at all. I feel I'm disgusting nice: I'm a repellent for normal people and a magnet for narcissists.😢

@peeweelickdoughal639

11 ай бұрын

@@Lyrielonwind bless you!! Stay strong! You are a light in the world. Vampires love saints, but so do other giving people like you!

@Lyrielonwind

11 ай бұрын

@@peeweelickdoughal639 Thanks for your kind words 💖

@GrumpSkull

11 ай бұрын

@@Lyrielonwind Remember that it is not your job to fix other people or solve their problems. Maintain firm boundaries rather than the elastic ones you have for others to stretch for their own convenience. Use the worlds most powerful word, 'No' when necessary. You can't be a successful Empath if you let your guard down and let the demons in.

@vapeking466

11 ай бұрын

​@@LyrielonwindPlease don't confuse your femininity as niceness. Femininity makes a woman attractive and whole and part of that is being nurturing and nice but only to those who respect you I suppose. I just mention this because so many women have become masculine today and it's not good for them or the folks who know them. Love yourself is the most important thing. May God bless you in everything. 🙏

I don't want people to like me. That's not my purpose for being here.

@teaacustardcream2868

Жыл бұрын

Go you

@Thegingerbreadm4n

2 күн бұрын

i mean biologically our only purpose is to multiply and breed.... so yeah it kinda is your purpose for being here...

If you're pissing everyone off you're trying too hard...if you're pleasing everyone you're also trying too hard...

@thedavidboland

11 ай бұрын

that's a really cool perspective - haven't heard it before, so thank you!

@jdt8983

11 ай бұрын

@@thedavidboland thanks for the compliment. I've spent most of my life in bad shades of mental health and have finally stumbled on the succinct cure for my personal development. Now that I'm healthy - I care so much less about what others think of me (although as a species we have to care a little in order to survive). It's not even a choice - it's just what happens when you have healthier energy

I forget who said this but someone famous once said "How other people feel about me is none of my business."

@MadonnaGrogan

2 күн бұрын

Absolutely

Some people will hate you simply because you are what they are not strong enough to be. They nurture their weakness as a comfort rather than tear it down as a barrier and do their best to weaken others, because only in wounded weakness csn they feel superior.

@VideoGameStarChannelSupreme

20 сағат бұрын

I feel like this kinda happens to me in the DanceDanceRevolution community. In the game there's certain "levels" called stepcharts that tend to trip over most people, and a whole lot of people would rather not have to play them, while I am more than thrilled to take on the more challenging stepcharts even if they are only a nuisance for others. Oftentimes people overlook the details or intention and complain because it makes them think more. Add to that the fact that most people play with the bar, thinking it's easier and me playing without it and yeah, that would make sense as to why I'm disliked by some... but that's envy, ain't that right?

Am more bothered that people are so quick to dislike me without giving me a chance... their prejudices and judgemental attitude which get to me more.

@thedavidboland

Жыл бұрын

I hear you. When this happens, I see it as an opportunity to let go of my judgement toward the people judging me. Thanks for sharing your thoughts ❤

@jfo3000

11 ай бұрын

That's all on them, not on you.

@shewolf8771

11 ай бұрын

I used to think the same, then I realised, why am I upset that trash naturally keeps itself away from me? I dont need to get my hands dirty 😂, think thank you for the favour. ❤ their opinion is non of your business and the beauty of that its vice versa 😉

@invizoman

11 ай бұрын

Yeah !!!! Don't go down to their ass wipe level !!!! Walk away with a smile on your face and that will piss em off coz you don't look pissed off ! Yeeha ! And ride off into the sunset !!!!! Thank You !

@spice8831

11 ай бұрын

Maybe u can be annoying.. I know I am incredibly so some days and I can drive even my closest people bonkers on day where I’m a pain in the butt and let’s face it we all have those days. lol.

I realised as a child I don't fit into most groups... Of course I had some friends (not many) and people who loved me as I'm, but most of the time I had a hard time to fit in. When I was young I tried my best to be accepted, sometimes I succeeded, sometimes I didn't. Now as a 51 years old I came to the realisation I don't need anybody except my husband and one good friend.

@SashaPrettyVacantPunkHour

2 күн бұрын

Same origin story. But you’re a friend and a husband ahead of me. Go you!

"You can be kind and honorable and still upset people." I needed to hear that. Thank you.

I'm often disliked because of temporary reactions i have, my honesty or many flaws or differences i know i have. I've been fooled by many likeable, horrible, evil people who are very charismatic.

Nobody likes me. But more importantly, nobody hates me. Nobody knows me at all. There are lots of benefits to nobody knowing me. I am nearly invisible. To maintain this, "invisibility," I simply do not make efforts to get to know anybody. The security, freedom, independence, self-reliance, resourcefulness, and economic ease, I have gained by being, "invisible," is unparalleled by any social person. I thought it was a curse never to be noticed nor acknowledged. I was wrong. It is extremely advantageous.

@iaincoldwell4678

2 ай бұрын

Preaching to the choir!

@indridcold8433

Ай бұрын

@@iaincoldwell4678 It is a myth that everyone must be social to live successfully. I have not had any, "friends," since 2000. I do not even have coworkers on my shift. After the adjustment back from late 2000 to early 2001, I can not believe how much better I am now. I do not understand why public media demonises isolation.

@poetsrear

14 күн бұрын

@@indridcold8433 Because isolation is a means to finding the Truth Within. And media is made for the exact opposite purpose: to engulf your mind into neverending barrage of external stimulus and worries, so that you would not have time to find the Truth Within, because that would set you free of this loop of mental slavery.

@sxwrtr918

5 күн бұрын

​​​@@indridcold8433 People demonize and vilify what they fear or don't understand. People are terrified of being isolated and alone.

@indridcold8433

5 күн бұрын

@@sxwrtr918 A lot of people do seem to be terrified of being alone. However, not all are fearful of isolation. I go weeks without seeing humans. I go longer without speaking to humans. I have had no fiends, nor acquaintances since 8 August 2000 at 18:34. It was a life altering adaptation that I believe most can accomplish. However, the adaptation made may be irreversible. Almost every aspect of life changes very radically when one lives alone and rarely sees humans. After a year living in such a different manner, one forgets how to exist in a herd. Everything you do is changed drastically. You learn to do things completely alone that you could have never conceived of being able to do without the effort of others. This rewriting of your mental programme is down out of necessity. However, if ever you return to being part of a human herd again, you will not consider asking for assistance from others, giving assistance, nor even be able to socially assimilate the customs and protocols associated with successful interpersonal, social, interactions and bonds. Night shift was to be closed for two weeks because of some sort of equipment exchanging. When the return to working days was offered to me, I thought I would like to meet the day shift coworkers because I work completely alone, at nights, and live in a very rural environment. It had been over a year of isolation. My return to an environment with humans around me was confusing, rather frightening, and they seemed to be more hindering me than being of any aid to me. When given the choice to stay at day shift and to hire a new third tier mechanic to work alone during the night, I demanded to return to the isolation I had grown so accustomed to living and working. I have no knowledge on how to be social, have friends, nor meet candidates for friendship. The rare times I see humans, it a night clerk, or two, in the region's only all night petrol station and grocery store. One can become self sabotagingly independent, self-reliant, and adapted to being alone and never recover.

One thing i always keep in mind is that Jesus himself was hated. When he stood before the crowd and pilate asked who they wanted to release and who they wanted to crucify and kill, The crowd shouted to save barabas(a known murderer)and crucify Jesus. He did nothing but good, healed the sick, cast out demons, raised the death, made the blind see and the deaf hear. He did all of that and yet they still hated him and chose to release a murderer over Our Lord and saviour. Thats what youre dealing with.

@thedavidboland

11 ай бұрын

love this

@Markovka-nk8qe

12 күн бұрын

Amen!! Jesus knows what's best.

@420_momentum

2 күн бұрын

Very true even King David, King solomon and Paul had plenty of haters. Point is you can't please everyone

@eoinbrennan3949

2 күн бұрын

@420_momentum in fact as a strange rule of sorts, the more haters you have the more you can be reassured that you're doing something right

@casper12365

2 күн бұрын

EXCELLENT!!!!! BRAVO.

I'd like to say if someone says they don't like me or whatever, "Sounds like a you-problem"

@user-ih7ij3ip9t

Күн бұрын

How dare you?! 👿Why I ought to!

Most people are superficial as hell and don’t know it. When I wear a suit, I get treated like it. It’s funny because I don’t really care, I’m a jeans and T shirt guy. But I’ve got a job that requires me to play dress up. As soon as the same person treats you differently because they don’t recognize you and you’re not in ‘uniform’, you can’t unsee it. Why seek the approval of people like that? Money. Does anyone like me? Personally? I frankly have no idea.

@Pabliski577

Күн бұрын

Strongly agree with this. People have wanted to start fights with me because of how I look. I just went out to get some Hershey's and orange juice.

@dortek882

16 сағат бұрын

I have more than one education, but at the age of 58 choose to work as a cleaning lady. I am positively surprised that most of my colleauges treat me like i am just as important as them. Especially the office workers are nice.

@Mantelar

14 сағат бұрын

@@dortek882 the something called dramatalurgical theory. Spelling probably wrong. It’s the idea of public life as a theatre. So there are lead actors, supporting, etc., but also the backstage people that keeps things running. Each group has a different culture and the basic rule between cultures is to be nice and supportive when you interact. The fact your superiors are like that is a sign that the culture is healthy. Have a nice day.

Perfect advice. "What other people think of me is none of my business." Don't waste time 'fitting in.'' You don't fit in. Focus on standing out as who you really are. After all it's YOUR life, is it not?

@kimsherlock8969

11 ай бұрын

When your time is in the last phase of life it is so important to Live what we love to do, alone in our love of creating, a life independent of pleasing others. That's all we have finding ourselves and our happiness without seeking others opinions about us.

@missfreshair

11 ай бұрын

Aye Aye 🫡

Once you have the courage to express your true self even if you are disliked for it, you have gained true freedom. Great video!

@name5876

10 ай бұрын

Unless they want to see you as something desperately. Then it doesn't matter who you are.

A lot of people don't like themselves. If you do like yourself, you will feel everyone else's projection. But don't be swayed or deterred. Just remember that

You can be a perfectly loving human being in every way and people will still nail you to a cross.

Being raised by a toxic family teaches the opposite. Can only imagine how having access to the Internet or YT could have escalated my healing.

I'm not liked at school much and that spcific town is very judgemental and I dont really fit in with everybody else I've tried to make new friends and they dont like me as much as the friends I have...I'm just hated on for just existing...Its to a point where I want to cry and people are just dickheads to me 24/7 but thank god Ive found my people and going out of highschool soon...

@casper12365

2 күн бұрын

Go ahead and have a good, long, hard cry to get it out of your system. Afterwards you will feel angry, but after the anger reached its peak you will feel refreshed. You will then accept "what is" and find your inner peace. Being alone is not a bad thing, trust me. Being liked and having a ton of "friends" is highly overrated. I've been on both ends and chose solitude.

I never like seeking anyone’s approval

99% of people being stupid is a fact, and you are amazing ❤

I'm not loved by anyone, but I'm completely fine with that. Stoicism and faith heals everything

@spmoran4703

14 күн бұрын

Since knowing about Stoicism my life as change for the better.

@rsviews2167

5 күн бұрын

You could consider time, also. Time does amazing things.

I'm a 53-year-old man. In my life, everything that is my fault is my fault. And everything that is not my fault is partially my fault. I have been surrounded by Liars who dislike me because I tell the truth. I am not greedy, but I've been accused of being greedy by greedy family members. I am even a second-class citizen in my own home. And I am comfortable with the idea of people not liking me, because not only am I used to it, but I don't like them back. You come into this world alone, and you leave this world alone. It's not so bad being alone in the middle even if you're surrounded by a lot of people.

I recently got into college and have been having trouble making friends. I realized that most people don't like me, i have no problem with that right now. If they get disrespectful though, that is when i draw the line.

My parents are narcissistic. Growing up I was conditioned to be good all the time and had to please them. . .so I have had a hard time with being rejected and criticized by people. I have come a long way lately and try not to take the haters personally. "Liberated" is the perfect word for not caring what others think. Thanks.

@TheBlackPlatoon757

5 ай бұрын

Truth.

People hate me because I am successful, and I feed off of it. There's nothing better than actually being better and people hating you for it. It's energy that I feed off of.

@rsviews2167

5 күн бұрын

Please define BETTER. Enlighten us.

@AN-jz3px

5 күн бұрын

​@@rsviews2167 Look around you - few have success, most are menial, and even more are incapable. The people at the top of that list are who are, quite literally, born better.

@rsviews2167

5 күн бұрын

@@AN-jz3px Thanks for taking the time. I guess you're part of the ones who can describe themselves as being better. In the meantime, how about the successful billionaires who look at you like dogshit ? What will you bring along when you die ? Ohh, the same as the rest of us, a big nothing. Bravo for your "success". Keep on licking your way to heaven.

@ItsTemper

2 күн бұрын

​@AN-jz3px I think everyone is important honestly ❤

@AN-jz3px

Күн бұрын

@@ItsTemper important is different from effective.

A woman I know constantly “reads my mind”, and gets angry that “I don’t like her”, when in reality, I try to stay out of her way because she constantly misinterprets almost anything I say, do, or don’t do. Does that make sense? Some people think they’re intuitive, but are actually projecting their fears or dark thoughts on you. I know the world is full of chaos, but I try to have a mindset of love, regardless of what people may think. Peace to you out there.

@annieharris1923

8 күн бұрын

thank you for this, i had a friend who i projected these 'you dont like me thoughts' unto only to realize it was me dragging things down due to my own insecurities, toxic thoughts and behaviours

"he who tries to please everyone, pleases no one"

I found that people do not like me, because I do not like them.

@BeYounique...Maryanne

13 күн бұрын

I thought about that too. 100 percent of the time when a friendship ends I feel more relieved than sad. I just hate that uncomfortable middle part. I can't let things fade out, as much as I try I need closure.

@oppo-tune-nitty8043

2 күн бұрын

happysolar69 says fuck yeh

Best advice my momma gave me was this gem. She said “some people will not like you and it’s ok”. Thanks for sharing. 😊

@thedavidboland

11 ай бұрын

that is a gem! good momma.

@amg9163

11 ай бұрын

Similar advice I received from my mom about 48 years ago when I was a kid: _"@Not everyone is going to like you, and you will never know why."_ Surprisingly, this didn't make me paranoid but gave me more freedom to just be myself and whoever liked me had like me for me. 😁

If people actually said they don’t like you that would be a lot easier. They don’t they ignore refuse calls emails gossip abuse rant play games. Depends on how u are travelling how u respond or react. Animals are the best just Love

@BeYounique...Maryanne

13 күн бұрын

BINGO!! I agree 100 percent. I had a friend and she was calling me 3x a day. I never had a friendship like that before and it was odd. I wasn't used to the attention. But then it was fun. We did everything together, travel, concerts, dinner, etc. Then for some reason unknown to me, she started avoided me and only contacting me if she wanted something. I picked up on that and asked her, "Do we need to talk? Did I do something wrong?" She said, "No, you're crazy, everything is cool." And even after that, it was the same thing. She pretended she didn't see my emails. Didn't return calls. THEN when she wanted a favor, I'd hear from her. I finally did "no contact" and stopped emailing and calling. Then she texts that she misses me. I didn't answer because I knew she wanted something. Sure enough, she did want something. I wish she'd get the hint. I now blocked her emails.

It’s hard especially if it’s your own family that hates you. You’re expected to like them but they don’t respect you.

We are actors in the stage called life.Be free like a bird dare to be authentically unique!!! Be true to yourself no matter what....Blessings,understanding & boundless empathy!!!!!...

Problem is every time I try to set a boundary - people get angry. Its as though I’m only allowed to exist and be accepted as long as I’m amenable to what everyone else wants. I think people generally assume they are above me in the social hierarchy (which I do believe exists) and so if I express any preferences they think I’m stepping out of line. I’m 51 and really sick of being unable to state what I want without the backlash from people. I might be overstating it but that’s how it feels. I’m always deferring to what everyone else thinks, wants needs.

@thedavidboland

11 ай бұрын

if people are angry when you set a boundary that's quite normal. if they are unwilling to honour your boundary then that would indicate to me they are not the type of people I'd like to be around.

@Awake-Free-CT

11 ай бұрын

I agree with everything you say in this comment. I feel exactly the same. Just know that you are not alone

@jilliantatum769

11 ай бұрын

​@sammiplant5683 that is very good to hear. My issue is how do I find my people? I have been searching since elementary school. Thought I found it over 10 times just to be disappointed by them stealing from me and finding out they talk nasty crap about me behind my back. I got rid of everyone in my life hardly see family bc they have done the same ya'll talk about. How does one find their people? 😢

@Awake-Free-CT

11 ай бұрын

@@jilliantatum769 I'm in my early 40's myself and I have yet to find any real friends. People just end up using me, trying to take me for a fool, I have also been stolen from. I just keep to myself at the moment. I do suffer with mental health issues, depression and anxiety, as well as manic episodes. So I'm either so depressed I can't bring myself to speak to anyone, or anxious which stops me from going out alot of the time, or I am just manic, make bad decisions, end up spending money that was for bills etc. I have 2 cats and I got a dog a year ago which did help me to get out a bit and sit over the park, as I have mobility issues, I can't walk far because of my back problems and sciatica, but I did meet some dog walkers who always pass me as I'm sitting on the bench throwing toys for my dog to fetch as that's the only way I can exercise her! To be honest getting a dog does make you meet people. I know it's not always right for everyone, as not everyone likes to have pets and dogs can be hard work, but I tell you it's definitely a way to meet decent people as people who like animals are generally nice, not always but mostly. I'm in the UK, where are you from?

@jilliantatum769

11 ай бұрын

@@Awake-Free-CT I can relate co.pletely to what you are saying. I thought I had manic mental issues until I found the empath channel on KZread and realized I am just a severely traumatized Heyoka Empath. I have anxiety due to PTSD. I had to get rid of every friend I ever .add bc every one of them stole from me, tried to use me as a pawn for so e reason or another. I have no clue how to find my people. I have 3 cats. 2 of them came from the Ukraine a few months before the war started. I am trying to breed them but I had a vet office I used to board them while renovations were happening in the home. So they would be safe. I paid 6000 dollars in boarding fees just to have the place give my babies the worse roundworms infections it took us 2 yrs to get rid of them then the anti diarrhea medicine got in one of the cats eyes so for 8 months they had to wear a cone abd the girl I want to breed is so depressed being away from him she has gone anorexic. She is so skinny I am sooo worried. Going back to the vet fir a third time with her not eating well. Just seems friends or just business acquaintances I can't get no respect. Just like Rodney Dangerfield from the US movie Ladybugs. I am in the US. I want to go to the UK very badly. I am going through the motions of enrolling and getting funding to get into school for a major and minor bachelor degrees so I can get a life I want to live I have healed thousands of people on my career and with Covid hurting my business bc no one here cares of possibly infecting someone else and ruining their life- doing so by the refusal of mask wearing during treatment. I have stopped many of bulging disks, disk degeneration disease, and sciatica just to name things similar to your issue. As long as it's honest I can understand you very well. Been through alot of the same experiences. Do you like living in the UK?

Inner strength defeats all. Those who attack, show their own weaknesses.

@thedavidboland

2 ай бұрын

nice words!

A Narcissist can smell out an Empath when they enter the room the Malignant 1s when the Empath pulls in their driveway. And there's nothing anyone can ever do...to change that.

I am 41 years old and just lately I have been accepting these truths

I just don't care who or who doesn't like me.

You have a good heart and that is all what matters. Toxic people don't like that because your light disturbs their darkness ;-) Greetings from germany

@thedavidboland

Жыл бұрын

greetings thanks

@The_Life_Explorer

9 ай бұрын

"Toxic people don't like that because your light disturbs their darkness" - the truth!

The message you're putting out there is very powerful. Fantastic content and massively appreciated.

@thedavidboland

Жыл бұрын

Cheers David 😊 I appreciate the feedback

- I'm going to be alone and single and suffering forever - there's nothing to live for - total utter complete hopeless DESPAIR, endless, dark, perpetual despair - I wake up with a trillion pound weight on my chest - HORRIFIC PTSD FLASHBACKS - loneliness - I just don't want to keep living, I feel my whole life is just suffering - I feel like I'm a prisoner Basically all my thoughts and feelings are some variation of the above.

@julianterris

10 күн бұрын

Say these words "Are my thoughts useful, how do they behave" It's an ancient Sanskrit phrase, and I can't tell you why it works, but I can tell you that it does. ☮ #PassItOn

@vickysimpson3750

9 күн бұрын

@@julianterrisi agree 👍 my subconscious literally said this too me yesterday when I was stressing, a few years ago just before lock down, I underwent a transformation I started to eat better meditate and read scripture, along with counselling and cutting the baggage out of my life. I found value in myself that I never knew I had! P.s a book called the happiness trap, and codependency no more. I managed to start again in life at 40. You are worth it invest in yourself you will be thankful you did ❤️

@Jovialme6262

4 күн бұрын

I sympathize completely. Damn it’s lonely.

To many people in the U.S all that matters to them are two issues, 1. that you represent their views and beliefs and if not that, than 2. that you work full time no matter the cost to you nothing else matters to them

It takes strength to be disliked by most people around you, yet still maintain your authentic self. In this case, you might be better off moving country!

@paulbrown5839

11 ай бұрын

@iNSTAGiB True!

@user-zp4lf3lv6x

Күн бұрын

I AINT MOVING THEY CAN MOVE THERE ASSES OUT OF MY WAY WHEN THEY SEE ME COMING

I'm concerned about if i like them, idgaf if the like me or not...

I have autism. So most people don't like me anyway. And I am okay with it!

@ItsTemper

2 күн бұрын

Yeah it sucks sometimes though

Everyone deserves love, even if it’s from a distance. Just because you sent me hurt I won’t retaliate, instead I’m going to change the narrative. I hope you’re having a good day friend. Live strong!

@garethmorgan3665

25 күн бұрын

You too mate :-)

Normally, I wouldn't be bothered, but there are times when a professional person takes a dislike to you and MAN, it makes life really tough. A few months ago, an Endocrinologist that I'd waited months to see, did a few cursory blood tests and long story short, a week before my next appointment, which I also waited weeks for, I got a letter saying I'd been discharged. This man is very prejudiced against anyone who is not woke and he really pushes the COVID vax. I'm not v a x x e d and I have t shirts and badges of feminist speakers who are standing up against the compulsion to include men in our single sexed spaces. I don't expect everyone to agree with me, but I also don't expect it to affect my medical care.

@Unsound-Engineer

11 ай бұрын

Hold the line ❤❤

I am turning 55 in two weeks. I am finally in a really cool space where being with myself most of my precious living years has been healthier than sharing my time with others!! I know myself better from this experience! I am no longer entertaining relationships that are not willing to put in 50% of the efforts! Good content, thanks for sharing!

One blessing about getting older is going from "nobody likes me" to "nobody likes me!! Thank god!!"

Funny part is it's the authenticity that will draw more people to you.

@CM7777...

3 күн бұрын

I find the opposite to be true. Authentic people make inauthentic people uncomfortable.

It doesn't bother me at all because I don't like people.

There is no such thing as "my truth" or "your truth". Truth is universal. Something is either true or it isn't. People have different opinions, different philosophies and different values but they don't have different truths.

Thank you, for a very long time I have had a struggle with society in general where I have found myself not being liked and severely abused. At first I thought I was the issue and would try and change so society sees me in a better light but now I realise that I am not the problem, people generally have an issue where they will force their reflections on to others. I now find that whatever people say it doesn’t bother me because I understand that they aren’t happy in their own situation so when they see someone who has things going for them they become unhappy.

@charlesh817

Жыл бұрын

100%. I'm exactly the same. It really doesn't bother me now. I'm actually happier without them

@bunnyboo6295

11 ай бұрын

So fun you say that people reflect. I have that effect on people I find how people see me as I get study them they tend to be describing themselves. The people that automatically take a dislike the mean things they project seems to be true of them so not a lost. As for the ones that take a nature likely they see to list things they like about me that is traits they have. Is it really so bad that bad people rather stay away they sense you're not like them makes them uncomfortable. Where even if I can't measure to the great traits of people with good qualities is it an issue that you get to be in their presences over the other types of people

I don't go where l know lm not wanted and be around someone who openly doesn't like me. It is that simple to me but people expect you to hide your discomfort and be fake, l just can't do that.

The first 30 seconds of this video is pure wisdom. Words to live by.

I developed a sort of superpower when I went away to college. Spending so much time alone I started to embrace solitude. Yes it still hurts when someone I love betrays me, but ultimately I move on and will never look back.

Waw why noone told me this before?! So many people that disliked me and took advantage of my goodness. Now climbing slowly but firmly from under my rock.

"We are all walking, talking projectors." - So true.

@thedavidboland

11 ай бұрын

The most ultimate freedom ever is to not care about what people say or think.

“I am not for everyone and everyone is not for me.”… my personal opinion.😊

Omg. Totally me. This demon assigned to me hasn't left. I'm 42 yrs old now. My whole life, I've been dealing with people who become jealous of me, created false rumors about me and even obsess over me and my personal private life, and I don't have much, or gorgeous looks, or college educated. I keep to myself, and still, people hate me for no reason. If there is a "reason," it's from their own lies about me. I think I'm cool with everyone but end up hated and people turn against me. I felt like I lived in a cave my whole life, but now I've become a prisoner in my own home. Totally makes sense. Even people from church and my own community. I even have stalkers who are aware of what they are doing and I'm sure there are some people who aren't aware of what they are doing to me. No one tells them the truth. No one speaks up. Thank you for posting and praying for people like us. I came across this random video by divine appointment. Amen.

@sharonloveschocolate

5 күн бұрын

Oh wow!I kid you not but i'm a 45 year old Dutch woman from Amsterdam and your describing my entire life.I haven't been to church in a long time,i just watch livestream because some sisters and brothers have treated me like garbage.All i can say is,pray for strength❤

I have zero friends. I haven't made a single friend since I got sober. My parents are the only people that voluntarily spend any time with me. I am so alone. It used to hurt, but now I'm so used to it that I don't really know if I want to be around people anymore.

@mollytremblay1396

11 ай бұрын

So sorry to hear your experience in your sobriety. I became sober about 30 yrs ago and lost"friends" including family. My husband and I rarely socialize. Even in my 70s I am told I can't be any fun because I don't drink. 🤷‍♀️. It used to bother me but I got over it. I volunteer with animals...lol they don't care if we drink or not. Stay strong. Try some volunteer work if you get the opportunity. Be grateful for your clarity and pray for those who are to stupid to see the good in you.

@tamas8222

Ай бұрын

Hey buddy. You are valuable. A persons self esteem partially comes from their own thoughts of themselves what they think that others think about them and how they behave. For suure you are valuable,somebody who needs a hug can curl up to you and get hugged. You can give food if you feel like volunteering. My perspesctive is even if you do some nonsense. That might be non productive or not beneficial action. But that does not make you any less valuable and for fucking sure less lovable. If i was there id give you a big hug. (And be available for a hug whenever youd like one)

@barbinohio.3153

15 күн бұрын

Go to meetings, go be around people that are living life happy without drugs or alcohol whatever your drug of choice was. I have 30 years and that's what I did. I wish you serenity. The people get you they felt the same way. ❤

@johenderson3742

9 күн бұрын

Same here. 2 years sober. Family not in contact either. Great video ta!

@devilsoffspring5519

Күн бұрын

First of all congrats on quitting drinking/drugs! Second, there's a reason you have no "friends" now and it's REALLY obvious what it is: Again, congrats on quitting drinking/drugs :)

They laugh at me cos I'm different - I laugh at them cos they're all the same

Poignant point here. We have to slough off the dead skin if we intend to flourish. Some people won't know who you are but will have the gall to tell you who you are. These people live in their own minds and their emotions are their reality...steer clear of any of these people.

We get judged by our looks often. I went to a school worker and asked if i could walk my dog around the perameter of the field to get into a trail network and she said sure you look non threatening.

There is a guy 54 at the time in 2005 I think, he was charged with 15 years of crimes against a child age 5 till age 15 and he had started on another 5 year old when the child's mother caught him and he was sentenced to 15 to life. But because he worked fill time all his life all most of his friends had to say was, they seen people commit murder and get less time, that is why I pay no attention to what people say

I am enjoying being the villain in someone story these days....i am tired of trying to be something I am not just to please someone...

Thank you for such a positive and very much needed video as I spent a lot of my life caring about what people thought of me and including my family. I bent over backwards being a "door-mat" for many years for my family constantly putting my life aside to appease them and when I fell on hard times and needed help, they were nowhere to be found. I no longer care what people think of me and I mind my own business and keep to myself. I believe that KARMA is a real concept and it does come around!! Kudos!!