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At 51 years old I came to the realization I don't need anybody except my wife of 13 yrs and one good friend my mom, then my wife of 13 yrs passed within 3 mths of cervix cancer tumor 8 1 23 we/she thought was menopause n butt pain, now what to do? .. Now at 52 loneliness is awful n compounded by used to having someone 24/7 to love n be loved, feel so broken... no friends n only a sis that comes by here n there n has her own life.

When I lost my ability to train and compete in triathlons, I lost that entire network over time. Then I was heavily discriminated against in corporate and stopped working due to my disabilities and lost that network as well. I never had a supportive family. I'm not a feminine lady, so I repel most men. Women in disability communities have a terrible victim mindset so I don't fit in there either. I'm autistic, but not autistic enough to fit into support groups. I'm just rowing my little boat along, financially independent, chillin with my little dog.

@thedavidboland

5 ай бұрын

thank you and say hey to your dog

Im 56 and 24/7 alone no friends no family i can really relate.

@thedavidboland

5 ай бұрын

@MadonnaGrogan

23 күн бұрын

Worse to be with awfull company

@tomasmigmon2751

18 күн бұрын

No worse to not be able to socialize and be likable because you have autism

Most people are quite shallow and superficial so the more intense you are the harder it will be to connect with others. For one thing, dull normal people think that bright people are weird. And then also the older you get the more isolated you tend to become. Old people are pretty much impossible to get together with even if you have aged into being one of the old people. Then if you outlive your relatives you’ll become a hermit for the most part.

I used to go shopping or drinking with my friends and I hated it. We were wasting hours in shops and that supposed to be an entertainment. I was doing this because I wanted to have friends and that was what they wanted to do in their free time. During pandemic when shops and pubs were closed I was the happiest person because we started to cycle together. Today I have totally different group of friends and I feel so privileged to know them and spend time with them, which never feels like a waste.

@thedavidboland

5 ай бұрын

I feel similar about my friends, it's beautiful

This video feels like a warm hug 🫂

I didn’t have any friends but I’m a runner so I started running with other people but I’ve always enjoyed running by myself. Today, I ran with friends and then ran by myself. Best of both.

@thedavidboland

5 ай бұрын

nice, I like running too

It's a part of life. People can sometimes be right for us at a certain point in life. As years ago by we change and so does our priorities, outlook on life and interests. People will sometimes come and go. Being in the wrong company can feel lonely too.

Very uplifting. I've been craving companionship lately. Romantic and platonic. My mentor says if you're lonely, there something about yourself that you're still not OK with. Kinda like what you said about needing to know your self worth. I had that issue before starting therapy and meeting my mentor. I've done a lot of self improvement and now need to find events to go to so I can find like minded people. You kind of just gave me the motivation to do that.

honestly, im so glad i stumbled upon ur videos! i found one of ur videos about how not everyone will like you and your words helped me bring a lot of reassurance and comfort to be okay with being disliked. i struggle with people-pleasing tendencies, so for me to just be able to find a peace of mind and not craving the need to be validated by everyone's opinions felt nice. thank you for that and for ur wise words. it means a lot to me.

You are incredible and wonderful. I'd take a friend like that in a heartbeat.

This story feels so similar to mine. Was fortunate to find a wife in the midst of my falling out with friends and family after my “awakening”. I quit drinking (plus more) daily in 2018 and have been building a new me and a new life since.

Thanks for sharing, David! As a 10-year solo traveler, this struck a chord with me. When I go back to my home town, I often feel like I've outgrown my group of friends too. And drinking is the one thing we all have in common. I'm almost 40 and my body just can't take that sort of pace anymore. When I travel, I'm able to take it easy on myself a little more. A work in progress. Thanks again!

Brilliant!

Loneliness stays with you, sometimes always

@thedavidboland

5 ай бұрын

@JustDontCare406

23 күн бұрын

There's comfort in loneliness.

I think, that you need to be your own friend first to attract folk that align with your values. I am in a poaition where i can go travelling and dissapearing physically to find myself. However, my gut feeling is saying no way it wil help me. So what i did, i deleted everything from my phone. Especially the contacts. And told myself that folk wjo are meant to stay in my life will reach out. Boxed all the possessions in the house, when unboxing i binned everytjing that does not serve me anymore. I started running, meditating, dont have a tv, no netfilx, no prime. I dont even have internet. It has only been a week, but i am feeling so much betterm And it is interesting how the act of letting go started bringing peace and amazing folk into my life, at the speed of light 💚✌️

@thedavidboland

4 ай бұрын

wishing you peace on your journey my friend!

I've given up on trying to make friends. Atleast for now.

Great video mate, I'm in the same place after drinking less, having children and concentrating on my music. Some of my circles are still acting like there in there 20's when were all middle aged now. I feel like I don't fit there vision of me anymore because I'm not the same, some accept it, even encourage it and are like family, will always be, while others are upset with me for moving on. Life always changing, enjoy the ride and you drive the car, not someone else.

@thedavidboland

5 ай бұрын

thanks for sharing

We on the journey with you brother

@bhangg_high

5 ай бұрын

100%

@thedavidboland

5 ай бұрын

It's soooo hard to have anxiety and make friends. My only local friend is moving 😢

@thedavidboland

5 ай бұрын

I hear you.

I simply love that full stop at the end of LONELINESS. 🧡

@thedavidboland

5 ай бұрын

me too!

Dude! 10/10 I can relate 100%. Being this open to fellow human beings not only gave me the level of inner-calm I was looking for, but also helped me grow to the peson I am suppose to be. To do what I was made to do.

@thedavidboland

5 ай бұрын

Always something good to reflect on - thank you, David.

@thedavidboland

5 ай бұрын

thank you too

just to share a bit about myself. i know i used to really hate being alone and i'd often cry about how pathetic i was for just being alone and hating myself for it, but i learned to practice being uncomfortable and learn to make amends and be comfortable with being alone. this soon became a result of me just isolating and also feeling unworthy in making connections. but i recently had a therapist appointment and she helped me see that i do have value and the more i put myself out there in uncomfortable social situations. i realize it's not as bad as it may seem to me before and that i am not as boring of a person as i appear to be when i begin to enjoy the connections and people i interact with. im currently in college right now so getting involved on campus like joining extracurriculars help me by a lot. in all honesty, i still do struggle with making close friends, but im also just learning to be okay with just having a lot of acquaintances too. so i really appreciate how insightful you are when dealing with topics such as these.

@thedavidboland

3 ай бұрын

thanks so much for sharing

So very true, when we no longer resonate with anything we energetically repel it and it repels us to move onto different timelines for different experiences once we outgrow certain patterns, belief systems, ways of being. We are constantly evolving and changing as an individual, especially if we so choose to embrace the bigger changes that the outer has to change and reflect out current inner state of being :)

@thedavidboland

5 ай бұрын

thanks jamie :)

Beautiful stories and positive reminders. Thank you David.

@thedavidboland

5 ай бұрын

thank you

I have voluntarily given up all people - we just don't fit for each other. On Monday I intend to waive my unemployment benefit. I don't want anything to do with this system anymore. I don't wanna work or even live anymore. I'm disappointed to myself, people and this world and what it represents to me - money, money, money & power. Nothing else. And I have absolutely nothing to offer to this world. I was a songwriter but nobody appreciates this only gift I thought i had. Maybe I was wrong. Well, anyway, I'm too depressed to go further with this complaining - i shouldn't even have started - so I just say bye.

Some great advice mate. Most interesting

Your latest videos are very related to my recent life situations. It is as if God or universe sent it to me. Thank you David, this was very eye-opening video.

@thedavidboland

5 ай бұрын

glad you're finding some solace :)

But when you keep moving, and you travelled a lot, how you do ? Who wants a friend they never see ? We are in a society where we are consumers, friendship, relationship is also about that, we just want friends that make us important most of the time (pareto law). And as an adult, over 30-35... When everybody around is married, have kids, a house, a settled life, well, it is even harder, my point of view is we live in the most connected period with the most easiest way to reach friends, but in the end it is the most loneliest for most of human kind. But at the end, I know nothing about friendship 😅

@thedavidboland

5 ай бұрын

it's possible, you can do it if you want to

Excellent David! Followed you for over a year now, great channel and always sage advice!

@thedavidboland

5 ай бұрын

aw cheers

if youre watching this please dont have children just because youre lonely dont be so selfish too many people do this and dont marry someone thinking they will always be there.get a dog. its ok to be lonely you should be able to be alone and be ok.settling down is also something you dont have to do ever. we are not our parents.theres no expectations for your life. be authentic.

Sometimes maybe it's you.

Excellent video

@thedavidboland

5 ай бұрын

cheers Michael!

I would say life is a very strange adventure.. I did not notice any accumulation of anything at all....

this doesnt exist. just computer code algorithms showing me , guiding me like gods. i am just david.

@thedavidboland

5 ай бұрын

:o

all all all fake.... XD 🌛🌜🌛🌜