Full episode here: kzread.info/dash/bejne/fWaoqdZriLrKabQ.html

@teresanoriega1522

3 ай бұрын

Thank you

@jamescarberry-todd4515

Ай бұрын

Hey Chris/his team, this link is not taking us straight through. Much love from the UK

@PureUniqueJewellery

Ай бұрын

I have to see this! This is by far 1 of the best shorts I've ever seen! So straight to the point ✨️

"You can't feel your way into acting better; but you CAN act your way into feeling better"

@elise9537

Жыл бұрын

no you cant :) some ppl with depression or no sense of purpose cant do that.

@freneticfanatic

Жыл бұрын

@elise I believe it was Confucius who said "He who says he Can and He who says he Can Not are both usually correct"

@JiMMY-my1ds

Жыл бұрын

Bang on!

@vaishakh6635

Жыл бұрын

But when the desired result doesn't come even after taking action...then action means nothing

@alexraymond-en4dd

Жыл бұрын

@vaishakh6635 You still feel better knowing you tried and gave it your best shot.

"Action breeds confidence & courage. Inaction breeds doubt and fear" - Dale Carnagie

“It’s more effective use actions to improve your thinking than to try and use thinking to improve your actions.”

@elise9537

Жыл бұрын

well I use both :)

@andre7767

Жыл бұрын

What I'm having a hard time considering, is how does the body move without instructions from the brain?

@vaishakh6635

Жыл бұрын

Yeah afterall emotions have nothing to do with what needs to be done

@elise9537

Жыл бұрын

@@vaishakh6635 actually men have emotions too and all the decisions we make are emotions and hormones based... depends on how we feel in that time line and if we are mentally balanced. yes we need to make a list on what needs to be done and how when we are feeling well rested and try not to derail from it when tired and angry but its still emotions based... if you are well you take better decisions.

@vaishakh6635

Жыл бұрын

@@elise9537 yeah,we control our emotions better when we know what needs to be done

“Stop breaking promises to yourself” YESSS

@scotthearts9634

Ай бұрын

It's easier said than done 😢 I struggle with this

@ant_davis3415

29 күн бұрын

@@scotthearts9634 well maybe stop it see what the problem focus you got this

@ant_davis3415

29 күн бұрын

actually real advice do some meditation or sommething take care of yourself have a purpose or say fif I break promises .im being the same. The pain of doing something is nothing compared to the pain of doing nothing meaning if you dont do nothing is way worse than the pain of doing something.

There's a line in the film "The Equaliser". Denzil's character is training his colleague to be a security guard, and he tells that guy: "Progress, not perfection." Perfection is very difficult to reach, but progress can be made easily.

Like many others in this comment section, it's like he's addressing me exactly. That's me. I sabotage myself and break promises to myself all of the time.

This is what I needed to hear. Watching endless videos in the name of 'improvement' won't help, but doing what you have promised to yourself will. Thanks mate.

There are days i dont wanna go to the gym but i force myself to go. Havent regretted that, not even once.

@jongreen9171

Жыл бұрын

The same with me with running

@bladelazoe

9 ай бұрын

isn't interesting that we never regret going to the gym, even if it was a shitty work out. But we always regret and feel bad if we miss 1 work out?

@StillAwesome21

7 ай бұрын

Same, not sure what hormones are being released, but the feeling after a workout you didn't look foward to, is amazing.

Action is the first step, no matter how small. I started this by making sure I went to sleep on time and woke up early 3 times in the week. Now it's every day, and it feels amazing

So simple, but such good advice. Learning to trust yourself and proving that you’re someone that you can count on is invaluable. I’m working on it.

@kalash_nikov

11 ай бұрын

It's a simple advice and it "makes sense" yet it's extremely hard to put into practice. It's the same as giving someone overweight an advise on how to lose weight - "eat less, eat whole foods, move". So simple. So true. So hard to do. There's a reason why so many people follow countless number of productivity, motivation, life, resilience, whatever else, coaches, creators, scientist. If knowledge was what helps create change this wouldn't be a multi billion dollar industry. It is, because people keep consuming the same content repackaged in different ways, because they think they need to learn just one more thing and things will "just click". Not how it works, unfortunately.

Tried going full positive for just one month straight. _Everybody_ around me, home, work, strangers & my own children were _absolutely_ ready to kill me! So, I had to stop, for my _own_ safety. 😂😂😂

ACTION HAS TO COME FIRST HELL YEAH

Action conquers fear…

This is some good advice. Here's the best advice I can offer to someone who suffers from procrastination due to depression: make a written list of all your tasks that you need to complete, even if it's as simple as cleaning out your room. Make sure you complete at least ONE task a day. Problem you face by leaving tasks to compile is that the list gets bigger and you're overwhelmed. If you do a few of these tasks, starting with the most basic, you'll end up having an empty list. This will relive so much pressure off your shoulder and reduce your anxiety.

I feel what has always worked for me is changing the way I say certain things to myself. What many people do is that they plan to make changes or improvements in their life by saying the phrase "I am going to do this" or "I have to do this". As human beings what happens when we do that is we subconsciously feel like we are forcing ourselves to do something we don't want or need. And as creatures of free will we can never give our best when we feel like we are being forced. So we have already made the act to improve a lot more difficult than it has to be before we even start. What I think is a better approach is to change the phrase from "I am going to do this" to "I want to do this". "I want to wake up at 7 am tomorrow", "I want to go the gym today", etc. And it might be difficult initially because our words are not really matching the way we feel. But after repeating this a few times what this ends up doing is gradually programming our minds into thinking that these are not things that we have to do but are things that we want to do, hence making it a lot easier.

Thanks Chris, i think i needed this. Amidst alot of turmoil and fickle life circumstances one needs words that kick you in the ass from time to time...the way you word it also makes it easier to accept, thanks for that man and your awesome work :)

@elise9537

Жыл бұрын

hugs! hope life gets better for you

Yo this is actually really good insight and advice. Thanks dude.

I agree if you had to pick between affirmation & action, action is the more crucial of the two however some people are crippled by fear & need affirmation to get going & keep going.

Winning action have to come first

This is so true it comes down to self betrayal, you have a soul and it wants things use your brain to figure them out and your body to go do and experience

Looking back at items checked off of one's "To Do List" (even if they are small items) can help tremendously in this regard.

Chris, you are a godsend. Watching your podcast and clips that are posted by you or your team are just a breath of fresh air and motivate me to thrive to be my better self.

And break things into smaller pieces and do it piecemeal. Chris is right about what he’s saying

I think there's a saying that goes actions speak louder than words and a good night's rest comes from a hard Day's work.

I don’t watch Chris religiously every day or every week but somehow he has this habit of popping up on my feed with the exact info I needed to hear when I needed it. Great content man, really inspiring and guiding

This is so true. Little successes lead to big ones. If you haven't had a win in a long time, it creeps into your mentality. You can just build yourself up with little wins which will give you the confidence to reach further.

This gets tricky when you're a scapegoat raised by a narcissist. Their very survival was dependent upon taking on the role of being a failure. Feeling anything good about themselves will feel like a mortal threat. Feeling pride, or confidence, or accomplished is too dangerous, and will be crushed which will further reinforce the tragically necessary feeling of worthlessness. Gotta take it slow, be aware this will happen every time you start feeling good about yourself, and slowly retrain your nervous system that these feelings are safe. Internal Family Systems is an excellent model to help with this.

Move a muscle, change a thought!

Doing what you say you're gonna do is key

I think this kind of advice is great for people who aren’t already very high achieving. In college I was extremely high strung and high achieving, stressed as fuck, as had an intense hatred of myself. In that circumstance it wasn’t about proving to myself I’m a good person by doing more. I was already doing too much. In that instance it really was a slow and brutal process of consciously recognizing my negative self talk and deliberately correcting it. Over and over and over. For years. Now I’m in a lot better place.

I needed to hear this today!

True! Facing fears and taking action!

I needed this !! Yess to all he said

This is why i looking up mental health videos. You will find the one you need to hear and the ones you cant unhear!

Omg. I feel called out. Even when i try to think positively and try to be nicer to myself, i just think im gaslighting myself into being ok with my current state. Like i need to be harsh to myself in order to be honest and objective.

Spot on!!!! Great advice.

(FACTS OVA FEELINGS). The key is not to bee silent so az to avoid hurting someone's Confidence the key is also not to shower a person in only positive feedback that wud build their Confidence r worse to lie to a person so that their Confidence increases the key is to communicate the tRUTH to them in a way that considers r caretakes their Confidence

Great tips. Thank you for giving examples.

^the thinking man no one but himself thought we needed

I love this man.

This is SO true. You can only think so lowly of yourself when you know for a fact that you’re taking meaningful, impactful action on a regular basis. When I first graduated from college I was jobless, aimless, and constantly battling crippling self-esteem. Since then, I’ve become a teacher (I had basically zero qualifications to do so when I first started.) 1) My work is truly difficult, but I do it and do my best anyway, and 2) I’m committing my daily life to cultivating growth and success in others. I can’t imagine doing more tangibly meaningful work, and the respect I have for my work has translated into respect for myself. ❤

Thank you. Truly Grateful Struggling with this at this Moment

Thank you for this!

Thanks Chris. I needed this reminder.

Very helpful information! Thank you! 🎉🎉

Don't try to think positively, just act.

@CJ-fl4em

7 ай бұрын

Facts don’t think just do. consistent actions will tuffin yo mind make yo thoughts more confident positive long term discipline 🧠💪💪💯

This is such a GREAT piece of advice!

Needed this ❤️🙏🏿

Chris, thank you, inagine the amount of people on the verge who you are helping. Is there even anything greater than that?

From the bottom of my heart, thank you I did not know that's what I needed

Thank you, liked and subscribed. While I'm a successful software Executive this is the first time I've ever heard of, "Imposter Syndrome" which after receiving coaching from my COO this morning, I realize that's what's been ailing me my entire life. Now it's time to fix it. Thank you again.

Thanks Chris

Needed this today

Solid advice!

Great advice 👍 ❤

Exactly! 👍🔥❤️⭐

solid advice.

Can’t express how much I needed this…

finally! someone understands

Totally agree, I’m sick of being told to live laugh love myself into confidence when I hate myself more than anyone ever could. I try to tell myself I accept myself into believing it but I never will, I came here for the final straw of trying to help myself. Let’s try it your way and see what happens I guess, I’m at my end limit.

So true.

Actions speaks louder than words

I’m that person as well. Thanks for this. Very informative

It would never cross my mind that you've dealt with this feeling.😢

wow, thanks i needed it

Amen to that.... I've had that for 40 years...

Where is the full episode?

action speaks louder than words, even to your own mind

Don't make up the positive talk. Start with what is true. I suck at keeping my house clean. But I'm smart. I have a good job. I'm successful. I'm kind. Then, the things you don't like, work to change those. Become someone you can be proud of. And keep the true positive self talk coming. Don't bullshit yourself. But notice your strengths.

Awesome advice

Have the condidence of being yourself.

I have found the best way for me to deal with insecurities is to get stacks of cash. The more stacks, the better I feel about myself. No relationships, no happiness, just stacks of cash to throw at every problem. So far it's been working, but to each their own 😆.

Competence builds Confidence

Yes, thats what i have learned the hard way over the last few years

JUST DO IT

Deliberate doing nothing is deliberate doing something

Great words

That's epic Chris 💪🙏 How I make everyday a great day 🎉

Thank you.

Bro!! You spoke to me on this!!! Is there a long form discussion of this on your channel?

Thank you. I know this is right

That is the cold hard truth. It’s our actions that make a difference, not wishful thinking.

Agreed!

I'm always glass is half empty kind of guy, I have to fake being positive till I make it. But we can't change who we are at core, we can only manipulate it daily.😅

@zsanettangyal-fekete1969

Жыл бұрын

You can change your unconscious thoughts. You can. ❤

Yes!!

Thanks gang

It's all about having unwavering self respect and self love. You need to do whatever is required for you to esteem yourself. Whatever will make you feel absolutely 100% self assured, happy, at total peace, and totally comfortable in your own mind without anyone else.

Emotion follows action, not the other way around.

I dont know who you are, but you seems very smart! Love your Videos

You’re right, Chris

Yes

Fair enough

Wish it. Want it. Do it.

Truth

I hate how much this resonates

The guy is speaking of complete experience

So I'm doing this thing where I'm just trying to look at various sources that tell me about confidence. And I'm starting here. What do you need to build confidence: 1) Action: Eat the biggest frog first. Before showing anyone else, show yourself that you're in control.

"Action Builds Confidence and self-esteem, Regardless of any Outcome" the late ARC Example: I say hello to an attractive woman I pass in the street and she snubs me, it takes nothing away from how I feel good about myself having overcome any anxiety to act.

I don't understand why so many successful people are talking surface level things like this, maybe they haven't explored themselves enough. Lack of confidence is a problem of lack of power, not lack of motivation. You have motivation, but don't have power to act upon your desires. You feel like loser not because you hit the snooze button. You feel like loser because your feel you are doing something wrong for hitting the snooze button and you have to explain it to others. To gain confidence you need to stop explaining your actions to others. For that you need to be independent with money first. The sense of autonomy is what you need.