Watch the full episode - kzread.info/dash/bejne/hn6bm9mdaMTNgbw.html

@dansaber8435

3 жыл бұрын

Dude you just committed the original sin Genesis 3:5. The oldest one in the book. Have got to repent of that one and be born again.

@byronfoppola8676

3 жыл бұрын

Just eat meat and then get addicted to Clonazepam. He's not an oracle of well being.

@lalaholland5929

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Chris.

@williamckama8470

3 жыл бұрын

I like the title?😂😂😂

@balthazarvorobeitchik7169

3 жыл бұрын

@@byronfoppola8676 I think what they are doing is more philosophical and psychological in nature than you think

1:12 "People can be so self-conscious and so self-critical that they can't move forward." Yeah. Yeah. Yep.

@TheParanormalSarah

3 жыл бұрын

OCD

@NunoAlexandreMB

3 жыл бұрын

Yap.

@sheldonkerr

3 жыл бұрын

I once read a quote by (I think) Eleanor Roosevelt - "What other people think of me is none of my business". I was in my early twenties and it was like a revelation. It changed how I viewed people for the better.

@ajones9907

3 жыл бұрын

yep.

@edrice2621

3 жыл бұрын

In the common parlance of today's youth, I'll say, "I know that feel, bro." One could also ask what does one do if they cannot (completely, at least) overcome their faults?

“Your conscience will torment you for the things you are not doing.” That hits very close home. I’ve wasted so many opportunities in life due to inaction.

@bageshwaradhamanubhavreact12

3 жыл бұрын

kzread.info/dash/bejne/o6N1stR6hJunYso.html

@vickimann3262

3 жыл бұрын

On the other hand people like to put you in a no win situation making it hard to make choices.

@Pearse551

3 жыл бұрын

meditate and learn to ignore every shitty thought that comes into your head and feeling from your body, you're the master of the ship, thoughts and feelings are your subordinates... and if you figure it out then let me know please ;)

@mattdavis3741

3 жыл бұрын

I felt as though I’d had a jab off Tyson, when he said that

@j0tt0

3 жыл бұрын

On point. U tend to pay attention to the "bad" side of things

Dr.Peterson, not to be weird, but you’re the dad I never had. Thanks for all you do doc.

@heyhoe168

3 жыл бұрын

Web dad he is.

@cayleesmith71

3 жыл бұрын

Dude I've said that too! Im a female with 0 male influences. Its been life changing watching/following him.

@XtremeSuperJason

3 жыл бұрын

It's not weird. I think a large majority of his viewership feels that way.

@TheVineOfChristLives

3 жыл бұрын

I wish I grew up in a time with his invaluable content at my finger tips. But since the recent years of listening to him, I’ve gotten my whole life together.

@yawns3004

3 жыл бұрын

These replies are wholesome, so why do leftists think he's hitler?

“The point is to be whole, not perfect.”

@mikelisteral7863

2 жыл бұрын

be whole not good

@user-mc8wg6qq3b

2 жыл бұрын

Don't destroy your perfect goal for a hole

@rudolph1899

2 жыл бұрын

If you were awesome you would insert a time mark

Dr. Jordan b. peterson, a lot of our dad’s left us when we were young, they got drunk a lot, they beat us badly, they weren’t intelligent. A lot of our dads messed up. We forgive them. You are the dad we all wish we had. You are Intelligent, relevant, sensitive & deeply profound. We all pray to have 1% of your intelligence.

@SelfImprovement1111

3 жыл бұрын

I’d say we have 90% of his intelligence. People just don’t choose to use it.

@ariasalari540

3 жыл бұрын

Are deep and profound not synonymous?

@stephenoregan7367

3 жыл бұрын

Simp

@berlinbelllano4946

3 жыл бұрын

Look into Gabor Mate he’s my internet dad lol

@boazpatlur2

3 жыл бұрын

@@stephenoregan7367 hahhaha yes i is.

Powerful intro question “is it a blessing or a curse to feel things so deeply”

@AnnaLVajda

3 жыл бұрын

Yes because if you are a sensitive person you will seem odd in such an insensitive world that's something someone might become self conscious about. There are lots of abusive people too who minimize the abuse and say the victim is "over reacting" etc. even if their reaction is appropriate. You almost have to adapt to turning your feelings on and off like a tap in certain environments.

@lucialu833

3 жыл бұрын

@@AnnaLVajda :Anna you cant just on and off feelings,you can only train yourself to feel less.But still people who are sensitive they always feel.

@aprilsparks1111

3 жыл бұрын

@@AnnaLVajda well said. It’s exhausting to “human” sometimes; but well worth the expansion I suppose 🥰

@Hibernial

3 жыл бұрын

Blursed 🤔.

@aprilsparks1111

3 жыл бұрын

@@Hibernial LOL 😂

I continue to be blown away by JP's talent and skill in verbalizing thoughts and ideas, aside from the genius and wisdom of said thoughts and ideas. Absolute legend.

@northernhemisphere4906

3 жыл бұрын

Do you sound like you want to be like that but not willing to put in an effort to accomplish that?

@dark-starchemistryfabricat2405

2 жыл бұрын

The way he speaks though is almost like he is trying to figure things out himself on a deeper level as he is talking/answering questions about psychological and philosophical things....almost like he is teaching himself also as he is vocalizing it. Maybe we all do this to some degree...He is definitely an intellectual I admire.

@dark-starchemistryfabricat2405

2 жыл бұрын

@@northernhemisphere4906 made no sense.

@mcxo2774

2 жыл бұрын

It’s a direct effect of reading a lot, all your life. Also of sitting alone enough to gather your thoughts and put together your own ideas. A thing people don’t do much, generally speaking. Peterson is intelligent, but he isn’t that mind blowing deep. Again-when you read a lot you mind of develops that way. Doesn’t mean you’re a genius though. Just a thinker.

@o_mondi1274

2 жыл бұрын

Yea its impressive ,such an orderly library of thoughts

This doctor has nailed exactly how I feel. Such a struggle. Paralyzing. I just want to be a nice person and not come off as or be a narcissist, my biggest fear. I can’t have a five minute conversation with someone without spending the next full day analyzing it.

@TheCinematicGamer

26 күн бұрын

Have you ever spent an entire night overanalyzing one conversation? This was a year ago, how are you doing now?

@annestrada1724

7 күн бұрын

Understood. Surround yourself with loving, supportive people.

I was so self conscious and self critical after nearly two decades of drug abuse then this man explained.....today I use my self consciousness to better myself, once I fixed my faults it became very useful. I'll never be able to repay this man for what he's done for me, he's the father I never had❤️

@likearollingstone007

3 жыл бұрын

12 steps work ?

@bageshwaradhamanubhavreact12

3 жыл бұрын

kzread.info/dash/bejne/o6N1stR6hJunYso.html

@shiningdawn8578

3 жыл бұрын

It's true, isn't it?

@brotherben4600

3 жыл бұрын

​@@likearollingstone007 12 rules is great, especially after the first chapter.

@joaitken123

3 жыл бұрын

@@likearollingstone007 yes

Damn he's getting in shape again, a joy to behold

@northernhemisphere4906

3 жыл бұрын

do you think he’s using gel to make his hair? i always wondered how it looks so undisturbed,like it’s a mold of sort

@AryaStark47

3 жыл бұрын

@@northernhemisphere4906 I think so because it wouldnt stay so undisturbed with your term

@northernhemisphere4906

3 жыл бұрын

@@AryaStark47 what you mean my term?

@AryaStark47

3 жыл бұрын

@@northernhemisphere4906 i meant undisturbed

"If you're self conscious about one of your inadequacies, you want to remove the inadequacy, not the self consciousness"

@sinity8068

11 ай бұрын

Unless being self-conscious is inadequacy's own cause. Like with social anxiety undermining being successfully social.

@Mashfan6507

27 күн бұрын

What if you’re wholly inadequate? And you’re too old to change? That’s my situation

@nathanbaldwin7002

22 күн бұрын

​@@Mashfan6507you still have some neuroplasticity until the day you die. It may be more difficult, but you can definitely change

@Mashfan6507

21 күн бұрын

@@nathanbaldwin7002 maybe so, but there’s really no point. I’ve given up on my hopes and dreams. Just have to accept that I’ll never have the life I envisioned and that’s that. Just have to trust in God to sustain me and hopefully He has mercy on me and I won’t have to deal with life much longer

Peterson has a tendency to completely articulate everything that I’ve been thinking and having been going through. He helps me understand my emotions, he validates my emotions. But, he also shows how to heal. I created a routine. He has saved me from some really dark, disturbing thoughts. I am forever grateful. 12 Rules for Life is a life changer.

@nahCmeR

2 жыл бұрын

Don't let your emotions control you (if you do) You can control your emotions.

@Grenaden86

2 жыл бұрын

I just finished it a couple of months ago. Great read. It feels good to be oriented towards life again.

@heavenlymonkey

2 жыл бұрын

Cheers

@kalash_nikov

2 жыл бұрын

@@nahCmeR You cannot control your emotions. But you are in control (to a degree) how do you react (guided by emotions or despite them).

@nahCmeR

2 жыл бұрын

@@kalash_nikov Yes you can, you absolutely can. When you feel any negative emotion start, you can control that and calm yourself down. You can learn to control your emotions just like anything else.

Self consciousness - strictly speaking - is not experiencing yourself, it is non-experiencing of yourself as an anxiety, worrying how you apprear to others. It is the antithesis of self awareness - it erodes your ability to be, or to make your own choices.

@tiffinysanchez2312

Ай бұрын

Very well said.

I swear ive saved thousands in therapy just listening to jordan peterson

As a father of 3, I think that a big part of my responsibility is to fill my kids heads with positive messages about themselves and their capabilities. I want them to always think, "why would I not be able to do this thing",,,not,,,"I can't do this thing". Personally, for me, achieving things and then rewarding myself (within reason) has driven me and allowed me to ignore negative voices in my head. Now...back to work. :-)

@rivers118

3 жыл бұрын

you WANT them to think "Why would I not be able to do this thing?" haha why?

@nemishasharma5737

3 жыл бұрын

Like Dr. P said, those negative voices can be extremely useful because they point out your inadequacies.. so you don't wanna get rid of them per se.

@rivers118

3 жыл бұрын

@@nemishasharma5737 I actually read that wrong thought he said instead of "I can do this thing" not "I can't do this thing"

@Bibleguy89-uu3nr

3 жыл бұрын

I bet you didn't go back to work you just clicked another youtube video and checked social media

@nemishasharma5737

3 жыл бұрын

@@Bibleguy89-uu3nr or he's getting distracted by notifications of our replies

Today will be productive day for me. Im going to get things done, fuck my low self esteem I'm doing it

@adhip0574

Ай бұрын

OORAH - hows it been sir?

@maicoxmauler2825

Ай бұрын

It's been two years. Did you do it yet?

The voice of reason young people desperately need at this moment.

@nurtured-channel2953

3 жыл бұрын

Rebecca there's nothing new in what Jordan Peterson argues and defends ...it is all in the Bible.

@rebecca6764

3 жыл бұрын

@@nurtured-channel2953 Regardless, most young people have no Faith. They must hear it from somebody, anybody.

@nurtured-channel2953

3 жыл бұрын

@@rebecca6764 Jordan Peterson emphasizes more about morals and fundamental principles than Faith.... but I understand what you are saying👌

@Gerardo-dt8xf

3 жыл бұрын

@@rebecca6764 I have faith if I 20 is considered young in your book lol

@KP-ej7gc

2 жыл бұрын

@@nurtured-channel2953 Jordan is the reason that most of us have any interest at all in Christianity. Most of us have been turned off from church members, but Jordan makes us see that there is reason within religion. He makes us understand that faith is not always blind, but I feel this is something that christianity deeply struggles with

Jordan Peterson and Adrian Monk: "It's a blessing, and a curse." Good stuff this.

@xentiment6581

3 жыл бұрын

'We are both blessed, and cursed. Same things make us laugh, make us cry"

@Sopranohooper

3 жыл бұрын

Obligatory " google the HSP test by Elaine Aron"

@corynorell3686

3 жыл бұрын

It brings me joy that someone else on the internet is even aware of Adrian Monk in today's day and age.

@ay8292

3 жыл бұрын

It’s a jungle out there

As Iroh asked Zuko, “Who are you, and what do you want?”

@RubberBand223

3 жыл бұрын

I want to be the avatar but instead I'm momo :(

@ymwo97679

3 жыл бұрын

Ayn Rand said something similar.

@rachelpops9239

3 жыл бұрын

This question should be asked to God by us through prayer in a childlike humility

@Chroizt123

3 жыл бұрын

This is such a powerful scene. Zuko finally starting waking up from misleading ideals imposed to him by his father / and family. I love these series, it really goes deep into psychological themes like few of those mentioned in this youtube video. The thing abput checking in on your foundation that Chris is mentioning in the ideo, is basically the same thing that Zuko is confronted with here.

@ChubbYJimz

2 жыл бұрын

I'm on my Avatar run and this really surprises me.

I think he's describing me. I can't get out of my own thoughts and my self consciousness prevents me from being decisive and also from living in the moment in social situations. I've always struggled with this. It's amazing to me that I've been able to apply myself in the past and find a way to be reasonably successful, but thinking about what I'm going to do to improve myself and where I want to be in the future makes me feel scatterbrained. I tell myself "do something that will make you more equipped and a better person in the future" and I just can't decide what to do and just think I'm not good enough to apply myself to anything.

@northernhemisphere4906

3 жыл бұрын

the hardest thing is to just start they say. so um,you’re a cosmic actor,time to act!

@summerrose5886

2 жыл бұрын

How about doing something that brings you joy? What makes your heart happy?💗

@TorMax9

2 жыл бұрын

Start by getting in great physical shape. Get the dopamine and oxytocin and serotonin and endorphins flowing. Realise that no one gets anything perfect and complete, that everyone is throwing out observations, interpretations, suggestions, etc., preferences, ideals, values, etc., learning, improving, growing, etc. Laugh. Lighten up. Don't take yourself or other people too seriously. Just put it out there. And if people don't like it, then they don't, no big deal. And by doing that, you will find people that resonate with you, are on the same wavelength, appreciate your humour. Just go for it! And f*ck 'em if they can't take a joke. Enjoy!

@iamzay4938

2 жыл бұрын

Start with the small wins bro like cleaning your house. Reading getting up at the same time every morning. It’s the small wins that lead to the big ones. You’ll start winning the war in your mind and gain more control

If you want an example of how crazy extreme self-consciousness is, at 1:35 Jordan used the word "litany". It reminded me of an English exam I took in highschool where I was to find a suitable word to replace "litany" in context. I'm very familiar with the term, but for the life of me I could not think of an appropriate synonym, so I left that question unanswered. 13 years later, it still eats me up when I hear the word.

@northernhemisphere4906

3 жыл бұрын

still haven’t found it?

@Isaiah--vj2xu

3 жыл бұрын

???? What's the word???

@kaideeke7953

2 жыл бұрын

@@Isaiah--vj2xu Endless monotone enumeration.

@kaideeke7953

2 жыл бұрын

@Joocey Pale Boi Maybe. Which often comes with being spoilt for choice.

@ProfessorSnack

2 жыл бұрын

Multitude?

The thing that haunts me each day and many restless nights is the Evil that people do without moral consequence. Its hard to move forward knowing it.

@lanayashina

3 жыл бұрын

I feel the same

@nickgoodwood4812

2 жыл бұрын

Peterson did did an outstanding short lecture about that. People will get get away with nothing: kzread.info/dash/bejne/o6iK3MZ7dLvTY6g.html

@Shelly-kx2wz

2 жыл бұрын

Humans are scary for me with what they are capable of hiding

@thunderandrain09

2 жыл бұрын

People who do evil to others may get away with lots of stuff and it may seem like an escape path is always open for them, but rest assured that they will ultimately pay for what they do, and the most evil person in the world would not wish that suffering on their worst enemy. They will have a bright recollection of all their guilt. Make sure you are not one of them. To do this, we must treat others as we would be treated. That is the law no one will escape From.

@satoshinakamoto7253

2 жыл бұрын

Read more

I am drowning in reasons to be self conscious like no one could begin to imagine. For the intense bullying that i have experienced on a daily basis in front of my entire school everyday In highschool and outside of school... And for the seemingly sudden truth to the words they spoke that werent true at the time but have become true at a supernatural level. 😂😂😂 Things ARE GETTING BETTER. I WILL find answers. I already have 1/2 of the problem solved!

@dariofromthefuture3075

3 жыл бұрын

Good luck my friend! I send you Love --from me to you!

@TheCatchProductions

3 жыл бұрын

Good luck dude 👊🏾👍🏾⭐️ stay strong 💪🏾 you’ve got this 🔥

@janaenae1338

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheCatchProductions 😪😢😒🙂🤗🤗🥰🥰

@annjames1837

3 жыл бұрын

Though our feelings come and go, God’s love for us does not.” C.S. Lewis

@janaenae1338

3 жыл бұрын

@@annjames1837 when you are the most aweful and disgusting unloveable Creature to ever inconvenience the earth you have to be the creator of the love that you never recieve. Or you have to teach the world how to love in order to recieve any. Or to at least not be destroyed because of your terrible existence

"the inevitable consequence of a creature who's continually being socially evaluated"...this is absolutely bang on. I feel this generation more than any other generation, despite having access to lots of choices and opportunity, can become so self-conscious and so mired in choices that they become paralyzed. We can't help but feel whether X or Y decision will be seen positively or negatively in the social landscape, but this is damaging to a lot of people.

@bageshwaradhamanubhavreact12

3 жыл бұрын

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@snoozyq9576

3 жыл бұрын

Yes I feel like we're meant to be amazing and versatile and mobilized but where and how? So confusing

@nate9198

3 жыл бұрын

@@snoozyq9576 yes indeed. And it doesn't help when you are constantly bombarded by the highlight reel of other people's lives, not their failures or imperfections.

At this point I just wish I can get a new frontal lobe 😩

@Apollothekid

Ай бұрын

Bro what 😂

@EmilioMendiolaJr

Ай бұрын

@@Apollothekidi can take a guess, and can relate if this is true, that rae attacks her brain so much and fights herself so much she wishes to have a new head. I’ve personally described when I go through a time period where I attack myself with awful words rapidly and consistently throughout a day as a nightmare. Overthinking and hating every big and small decision, feeling regret no matter what I pick for something. Being a huggge critic of myself. It’s happened on and off for years for me, I’ve worked with friends and therapist to not let myself be such an enemy in this way. It’s definitely been a process

@biswajeet9826

Ай бұрын

😂🤣

@slm2021

Ай бұрын

That comment is just so profound and covers so much for me as well! Are we sisters ????😊😮

@devoncarterburns

29 күн бұрын

Aye yo yeah can I get one too

The heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked. Who can know it?

@stephenvankleeck4801

3 жыл бұрын

I can. I can know it.

@mazklassa9338

3 жыл бұрын

He or she whose heart becomes broken by some set of mutually destructive tragedies, falling over on them like a set of dominoes. And nothing accrues more powerfully than time itself.

@SashaFierceBadass

3 жыл бұрын

Amén.

Man I struggle with this hard. I’m incredibly self conscious and it’s led lots of insecurity regardless of talents or skills

@Isaiah--vj2xu

3 жыл бұрын

Not you alone.. Let's commit to working on them.

@satoshinakamoto7253

2 жыл бұрын

Fight food and shelter and grow up

@janpavel1441

2 жыл бұрын

@@satoshinakamoto7253 ok caveman

@susan9835

2 жыл бұрын

Same, same. I'm constantly so worried about how others perceive myself and their opinions and it's so damn hard to just ignore it

@AC-kk3vo

Жыл бұрын

I'm not necessarily interested in what others think of me , actually the older I get the more disappointing I find most people when you really get to know them , but if there is any little thing, I mean any , and I don't act on it or do what I think is the right thing be it in public or home in private, I will literally dwell on it and feel much guilt for many days

Self consciousness is the assumption that someone else's opinion is more valid that your own. Live up to your own expectations. Don't give up on your belief that you can reach the goals you set for yourself. Don't waste your life trying to live the life someone else has mapped out for you. Trust that you are the only one that can find the path you should be on. Your time is limited, don't squander it.

@aspartns

3 жыл бұрын

Unless of course if you are actually running away from something that you are trying avoid (but maybe shouldn't). So also be honest about the goals you set for yourself and how they became goals.

I had a complicated childhood and was often psychologically abused. I also happened to be an extremely sensitive child and felt hyper aware of other people's feelings, or at least my interpretations of them. I frequently assumed full responsibility for things that had nothing to do with me and took everything people said to heart. I used to spiral into thoughts of self hatred and worthlessness when upset, and had no understanding of boundaries or self care until in my twenties. I genuinely thought I was the worst person I'd ever met and looking back now, I'm so sorry younger me had to endure that. To truly believe that is tragic. As an adult I've come to have thicker skin, am more self assured and am immensely proud of how far I've come. But I still struggle a lot with self doubt, especially because of my OCD. It seems instinctual to revert back to ten year old me and all the thoughts of shame, guilt and codependent tendencies that came with my childhood. It's very hard to grow beyond the ramifications of abuse, I'm proud of everyone that does

That one hits home. I wish I was less self-conscious. It's so hard for me to make progress on this frontier.

@richrich2862

3 жыл бұрын

Listen to Dylan James Limitless tape here on YT whilst sleeping. Also check out his community tab and his subscribers success stories on how the tapes worked for them

I planned to workout today, but I am very tired and its Sunday. I really take weekend serious in resting and having fun because otherwise I burnout during the week. I usually do 5 sets of each exercise, and today wanted to give up. A voice appeared in my head "i can't do 5, but I will do 1 one because 1 is better than nothing" so I did one set and then rested. Usually would have beaten myself about not doing anything, but at least I did one, and that made me feel way better than none. So I guess what he is saying in this video is true. You don't have to be perfect, you just have to start and do what you can in that moment.

@northernhemisphere4906

3 жыл бұрын

variety is key here. there is always change.what you encountered was the very manifestation of change and you embraced it by introducing something. different into your routine which in your mind perceived as something constant which is not,that’s only how our mind work trying not to drown into the chaos by ordering things into abstract concepts. powerful mechanism indeed. as i view it, by this acting of yours you are stepping into the zone of worrying less and being afraid less frequently, because if you keep thinking about those things you will come back to them no matter what. and i think that’s the feeling worh cherishing.

@RaduP3

3 жыл бұрын

@@northernhemisphere4906 nice

@RaduP3

Жыл бұрын

@@KabertaKneeGr0wCxntman ik m8, good luck to you too

@tommyoneill9761

Жыл бұрын

Do what you can in the moment. I like that. One is better than nothing.

I was never a big reader or particularly good student. However, Dr.Peterson’s book 12 Rules for life had me laughing at some parts and a little emotional at other times throughout the read. A real page turner for me and has helped me mature in many ways. If someone told me in high school that I’d enjoy reading Dostoyevsky, I’d outright laugh at them.

I was going to watch this video but then I became preoccupied about how others might regard me if I did.

@andreasp3452

3 жыл бұрын

Well we regard you as a misogynistic, racist, transphobic, bigot, Jewish Nazi !!!

@DrinkinMars

3 жыл бұрын

I love this.

@T-Y-

3 жыл бұрын

hahahah

@dianadias3

3 жыл бұрын

I wish I worried about that, but I can't care less and that is why I am addicted to youtube

He looks so God damn good it makes me cry. I love this man.

@Thibaut_Guerquin

3 жыл бұрын

"Not all tears are an evil" Gandalf

@Anthony-tw3oi

2 жыл бұрын

What makes him look so good?

The greatest blessing and curse for all of humanity, it's our super power and our achilles heel. With some of us being more disposed to it than others.

Well, this is extremely well timed. I've just been comparing myself with my GFs exes. And I suffer from extreme body dysmorphia because I'm a bodybuilder.

@monkieassasin

3 жыл бұрын

You aren’t weird or weak for this. Being able to admit this speaks volumes to your internal strength. Keep up the journey brother

@garintj1547

3 жыл бұрын

@@monkieassasin Thanks, my guy. Means a lot.

@od2528

3 жыл бұрын

You’re strong for speaking out bro! You’re a king and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

@georgehancock2307

3 жыл бұрын

Everyone has a history - she is with you now because she wants to be

@Smartrinse24

3 жыл бұрын

Hey King, you dropped this 👑. Be conscious of those self-negative thoughts and work on them taming them - don’t let your confidence issues interfere with your relationship (I made that mistake once). She is with you now and that’s all that matters.

I watched the full podcast, but still find myself reviewing this cuts. It's always pleasing to see Dr. Jordan Peterson explain things.

It's a blessing once you realise its a blessing.

I had a period of painful self conscious anxiety in public and the litany of self torment was unbearable. Constant judgement of failure, unworthiness and worrying what other people thought of me felt like psychic death. And it wasn't just a mind thing, the body's excess adrenaline, cortisol, insomnia, exhaustion and chronic pain all conspired to run rings around me to make me feel trapped. The compulsion was to dwell on it and fix it which amplified the vicious cycle. It wasn't until the conscience turned from torture to opportunity that the message came through to make adjustments in my life to bring more balance, things like a set wake up time, morning routine of energy work and devotion, business, music, gym classes and pleasure. It is helping when no amount of mentally fixing the problem could help!

@hanh7395

2 жыл бұрын

I feel you. And yea it's not just the mind for me either. Sometimes I get this physical 'spasm', or I'd clench my fist.

@sarahelo9656

Жыл бұрын

I like your solutions! I also would, and still get, physical symptoms when felt conscious. My entire face would go flush, and I would turn an obvious beat red. Now my ears will just turn extremely red. I stopped turning red, but now I have intermittent idiopathic hives on my face so it morphed into something worse and uncontrollable.

Very few things are truly one-sided - good & bad are only valid relative to a goal

@northeastslingshot1664

3 жыл бұрын

No absolutes in the cosmos. Can't have one without the other.

@degla232

3 жыл бұрын

well said

@catified2081

3 жыл бұрын

Said Stalin......the ends justifies the means. Incredibly dangerous concept. Or perhaps.....the final solution said Hitler. Again if doing unpleasant things gets you to the goal so what?

@northeastslingshot1664

3 жыл бұрын

@@catified2081 Ever see a hyena eat a deer ass first?

@bigbaby9189

3 жыл бұрын

@@northeastslingshot1664 the goal of the hyena is to keep the other animal alive as long as possible to keep the meat fresh for longer. This is a good strategy for the goal. Right?

I wish I could go outside for a walk and not feel like people are laughing at how I look. I'm a 39 year old man and had this problem for most of my life. Some days I feel ok about myself, other days I can't wait to come home and hide away from people's eyes.

@mann8283

Ай бұрын

Get up and fight brother

@meta45354

Ай бұрын

You’re not alone fck what people think. 41 now now letting this happen anymore.

@walkonstilts1

Ай бұрын

To me this has been helpful: “who the fuck are you (am I) to think everyone around is spending their day thinking about you?” It might sound weird, but it’s a relief in this context to realize no one gives a flying fuck about you lol. If you think people are giving you “looks”, they are reacting to your expression, your uncertainty, and probably having the same thought themselves, that you’re the one judging them and feeling bad about themselves.

@hadassah6085

Ай бұрын

Sorry you are having a hard time. I pray you find your confidence. It’s nice you found safety at your home, but I pray you also feel safe to be yourself outside too.

@Novous

Ай бұрын

Most people don't think about you. They're too busy being self conscious about themselves. And even if they were you HAVE to be okay with the idea some people won't like you. People in traffic that cut you off? Do you care about them? Build a boundary to only care about people who care about you. And confront it. Actively. Go outside. Go outside. Go to Public events (anything that gives you anxiety) and force yourself to just stay a few minutes. And then a minute more each time. The way through anxiety is willing confronting a tiny piece of it at a time. Even forcing yourself to have a job where you just walk through a big room of people to get to your job. Winning leads to winning. Giving in leads to giving in more. And we both know what happens when the box gets smaller and smaller as you feed that anxious voice. Eventually you have nothing left. I went from having panic attacks just to shake someone's hand, to standing on stage in front of over a hundred people. And I'm still nervous. But I'm also coping enough to be on stage. That's winning. It's not about having no anxiety it's about building habits and trust in your past wins that you can do the things you want. Treat your life like a videogame and do quests to level up. You do not defeat the boss at level one.

I’d like to say that I am incredibly aware of everything except the one desire I want. To be socially confident, charismatic, and well spoken. I’ve been wanting to do everything that involves social interactions because I find the idea of getting what you want through verbal communication fascinating. However, I am cursed with being an extrovert with social anxiety meaning my thoughts when being translated to words, are always being questioned and judged every time which I find ends up draining me more than I can get; making me forget how to speak. Occasionally, I do manage to succeed in progressing a conversation, making them laugh, or solving a problem; I am rewarded a temporarily view of what I’m striving for until once again, my overthinking and anxiety comes back in a few hours or next day. How my body likes to tease me. Haven’t even mentioned my other disadvantages against me like ADHD and ADP smh

@andreyrosinskiy9796

3 жыл бұрын

I like numbers. Nobody is going to remember Shakespeare when they die some might in-fact will and continue to do. But pie is infinite learn pie and you will be infinite.

@milkyym8891

3 жыл бұрын

@@andreyrosinskiy9796 I love pie so the last thing I’d be is infinite because I’d die from overeating it.

@sanlimawritingcenter880

2 жыл бұрын

What kind of job do you do?

@meta45354

Ай бұрын

I believe my ‘adhd’ diagnosis is misdiagnosed extreme self consciousness..

Its amazing how Peterson pushes his observations just a step beyond what the rest of us see as common sense. Great insight abilities!!

@MotivationalStormvideos

3 жыл бұрын

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Thats 12 minutes of pure gold!!

@bageshwaradhamanubhavreact12

3 жыл бұрын

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I have been dealing with self conciseness most of my life. The only time I wasn’t self conscious was probably when I was kid - when I wasn’t smart enough to care about what other people thought. I have been working on it and one thing I’m going to do is to document this journey (similar to what Jordan Peterson mentioned about his self authoring program). I’m gonna write down and record some of my thoughts and force myself to do things that I truly want to achieve, despite it could be uncomfortable during the process. Hoping I’ll be able to learn something from it!

I was self-conscious from a young age, thanks to good upbringing - "do onto others..." and that sort of moral rhetoric. Then there's self consciousness developed from bullying. Later I started drinking too much and discovered nootropics. In particular Modafinil, its hypervigilence as a side effect, was a catalysts for the self critical thinking and boy did I deconstruct myself. I was void, questioning everything. My ego was very much dead. 3 year's sober now and rebuilding myself is a second by second torture every day, as the self critical thought was so engrained in my memory it's difficult to turn off. How can I get rid of this and rebuild some confidence. How do I stop impulsively questioning everything, even the most irrelevant and mundane things in life?

@skypekai

3 жыл бұрын

Have you ever done any therapy?

It's useful when your inadequacy can be overcome. When it's something that cannot be changed, that's a different story.

@tqbf

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. What then?

@lightworker4512

3 жыл бұрын

What can’t be changed, embrace and accept. It’s all part of your lifetime learning experience for reasons unknown to you.

@tqbf

3 жыл бұрын

"Just be confident bro" - Alpha Chad with genetics of a Greek god.

@iliveinsideyourhouse3943

3 жыл бұрын

While most of my inadequacies can be changed (and it's required a lots of money....) The thing I find that is very hard to change is my brain. It's processing information super damn slow and it's definitely taken a toll on my life...

@Kay-cp8tg

3 жыл бұрын

This is how I felt, now I’m finally saving for implants lol.

Ive found that arguing with anxious thoughts work once but then you just keep repeating the same things over and over. At that point its better to just acknowledge the thought is there and then let go of it without hiding from or fighting it. Deep breathes to relax the mind are also important

@bageshwaradhamanubhavreact12

3 жыл бұрын

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@wurmholewizrdree3475

3 жыл бұрын

I agree. judging the feeling seems to glue it in place , even amplify it . It's best to just notice it and let it go .

The utility of attending church regularly to evaluate and make course corrections cannot be overstated

@lordepichax3755

3 жыл бұрын

Now that I think about it, all my best ideas appeared when I went to church. I never knew why, but this sheds a sliver of truth on the matter

@astoriansound5048

3 жыл бұрын

For some people, this is true. For others, the church might feel like an oppressive father, and a place where the judgement of others is so intense, little space or desire for self-conscious exploration remains.

@kalruggs1719

3 жыл бұрын

@@astoriansound5048 Fair enough, I would say to that person keep seeking, you may just be in the wrong place (literally). But then again JP says any ideal we set to aim for becomes a judge. It’s frightening to honestly take inventory of our inadequacies but isn’t it necessary ?

@frankbroker726

3 жыл бұрын

Finding a good one not easy....if you have a Harley or other generally there is a biker church near you...

@wyleecoyotee4252

3 жыл бұрын

Never been, never will go. It's not for everyone.

This really speaks to me! I’m highly self- conscious and have negative chatter in my head all day long, I interpret everything people do in a personal way. It’s exhausting! My therapist told me once, about my thoughts- is it helpful and is it true? I’m constantly asking my that to challenge my very unhelpful thoughts.

I am becoming really into this guy's output.....quietly influential in a good way. A positive influence over coffee. You end up carrying it around.

@northernhemisphere4906

3 жыл бұрын

you see,that’s the peculiar thing about it. he’s not trying to be influential,just conveying what you gathered in his knowledge puch over the years. so it seems,that is you who are influential for yourelsf by rendering his words as valuable. now isn’t that a majestic feeling. have a good day!

God bless Jordan Peterson! Thank you!

I've become so self-conscious in these past 2-3 years that I have forgotten my true self. I get self-conscious in everything I do and that's so annoying and I can't stop it like it had become my unwanted habit. I want to live freely as I used to do in past. I get so anxious and self-conscious in public that I start to shiver. I can't even laugh freely. I always think that is it just me? or any other person is dealing with such things too. I just want my old self back that's it.

@SpreadLove173

Жыл бұрын

Hey how old r u? Im dealing with the same problems have you stopped talking to ppl for some reason?

@venzwoo6795

Жыл бұрын

@@SpreadLove173 I'm 21. okay, I've someone who is dealing with the same problem as mine😭. Cuz looking around me and watching people live their life so freely and then looking at me who is dealing with self consciousness had made my self-esteem very low. I can feel you🥺. And no, I haven't stopped talking to people. I still speak to them but only if they approach me first. Cuz my anxious self won't allow me to do that.

@anonymous-nu9vs

Жыл бұрын

@@SpreadLove173 same.. Btw do you also feel like someone is noticing all your mistakes and judging you 24/7?

@smurfedratio249

Жыл бұрын

Feels good to know that I'm not alone,i feel so fake and pathetic because of it

This is very accurate. During the covid-19 pandemic my company started to work mainly on home office. At first was good because I could work better and could also rest more. The thing is my mind realized I was too happy and hit me hard with a crazy production self consciousness cycle (Goggins video's did no good also) and I became this blind productive animal worried about "not wasting" time. I started to unnecessarily take more tasks at work, overtraining my body, reading 3 books a week, started to learn french and some day trade in the stock market. And after all that I was 100% miserable and even more self conscious.

@fredybony2336

Жыл бұрын

OMG this is sssoooo me….I always feel like I need to take on new things…need to start my company, travel, have a job, learn an instrument and I get overwhelmed at the end of the day

every single word seems to be describing myself down to a tee. God bless minds like Mr Peterson that come to the spotlight of the internet.

Age has taught me to use it as a valuable tool. WOKE unfortunately sees it as 'everybody but me must change cause I can't be embarrassed'.

@jakedo4577

3 жыл бұрын

People who called themselves “woke” are blind to their own truth, therefore will never truly live their life that they’re desired.

@davec.3198

3 жыл бұрын

@BIG HEAD Because it teaches victimhood instead of personal responsibility/action.

@harrynac6017

3 жыл бұрын

Like "woke people are ruining my life" 😁

@DJWESG1

3 жыл бұрын

@@davec.3198 plenty of ppl out there are actual victims of actual crimes committed against their persons. It's the denial of such things that leads to a conflict.

@davec.3198

3 жыл бұрын

@@DJWESG1 What crimes are being committed that the existence of is being denied?

It's amazing, just the first three minutes of this video have been enlightening in a way that in my experience is extremely rare... and I've been listening to Dr. Peterson for years. It's awesome how a truly world-class educator can make something so elusive so clear, and then just casually provide a positive solution. Thank you as always Dr. Peterson. Hail Lobster!

@LittleMissHoop

3 жыл бұрын

Well said!

@user-fr6pt1kt8f

2 жыл бұрын

Does the solution work for you?

After assessment I realize that being unsuccessful in a sick society can actually be good as long as I don't have the symptoms society has.

@grahamanddianedevey1688

3 жыл бұрын

Wonderful idea. I often feel this way, and hopefully it's a healthy way to feel...

@danielbezjak1479

3 жыл бұрын

"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society" - someone

@christinesmyth7785

3 жыл бұрын

So true I feel like a loser most of the time. However I believe that having an eternal perspective has a lot to do with that. You cannot make an omelette without breaking a few eggs. They failed to tell us that the eggs were our counterparts dignities. I refuse to take advantage of other people that is why I am unsuccessful. Living by the golden rule does not make you rich,butit does make you conscientious of others around you thus making you a better example of Christian living. God bless you folks

@northernhemisphere4906

3 жыл бұрын

@@christinesmyth7785 i like this way of thinking. in my view it’s kinda cool that you made a typo in external(?), that way it makes it eternal perspective and in that term lies your answer to achieve what you strive for.

@christinesmyth7785

3 жыл бұрын

@@northernhemisphere4906 I am liking the way you put that. I realize that wondering if the way I think is healthy becomes pointless especially if we don't see the long term outcome. You are correct about external. Caring for others comes first. We have to live in this world with compassion and seek to exhort each other to live uprightly, without compromising our personal beliefs in search of understanding someone else's which may or may not be founded upon truth.

I tend to compare myself to others and punish myself mercilessly for not being as wealthy, or smart, or strong, or as charismatic. This feeling of insecurity has crippled me in my life and I would do anything to overcome it.

I was just thinking... "Am I going to waste this summer away getting pissed about things out of my control" Then I came across this today. I'm going to my sisters for the first time after over a year. We got into a petty argument about something totally meniscal. I decided I'd be the bigger man/woman and just suck it up. It's my Ma's and niece and nephew's Bday today, I plan on having fun.

@jobo9693

3 жыл бұрын

Have fun man, life is to short to not enjoy it

@Bibleguy89-uu3nr

3 жыл бұрын

@Careful Icarus "I decided to be the bigger them/they"

@thorwarth

3 жыл бұрын

Wtf why everybody in your family has the same birthday lmao

@kubasniak

3 жыл бұрын

Dude you on crack or something?

... The hero's journey is towards having an impeccable conscience.

@crisisjack

3 жыл бұрын

No such thing

@EltonoutoftheclosetOfficial

3 жыл бұрын

An impeccable *relationship* with your conscience.

@joedavis4150

3 жыл бұрын

@@EltonoutoftheclosetOfficial ... Good point. And this leads to an impeccable relationship with all other things. Personally, I like optimal substantive interaction with everything and everyone.

@kevinc721

3 жыл бұрын

@@EltonoutoftheclosetOfficial could you go more into detail about that please?

@TJ-kk5zf

3 жыл бұрын

but an ever developing one

literally don't even need to pay for therapy anymore... just take JP's cbt tips from this interview and his other psych lectures (that's thankfully published on youtube for free) and take full control of my life

There is something about Jordan that feels like an inspiring friend. ❤️

I fell from grace early last year, I was lucky to somewhat rise, but I made terrible decisions and had to learn harsh lessons because of it, but ever since I’ve done nothing but beat myself to a pulp every day over it, I often say that I hate my life or I hate myself, my life has only become worse because of it, we have to be kind and loving to ourselves. It made me think of this wisdom. If we do not treat ourselves how we would treat our children, then we will treat our children how we treat ourselves.

Is he a mind-reader? I would have found this helpful many years ago, but great to hear someone who understands what I feel/felt and say it so well. Go to church!

@MotivationalStormvideos

3 жыл бұрын

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I'm just gonna put it out there. It's pretty fucking hard not to be self-conscious and feel like a total failure, when you are medically discharged, and can't work full hours because of the PTSD you brought home from Afghanistan. There is no amount of therapy or thinking, that can make you think that you are an asset and not a liability to society. Not to speak about the embarrassment when you have to admit to people, that you couldn't handle going to war. I became a medic so I could help people, not the fucking other way around!

@ShipofThumos

3 жыл бұрын

I don't think you're a failure. Thank you for your service and having the courage to even attempt something most people couldn't.

@Miguel.R.A

3 жыл бұрын

Johnny you’re definitely not a failure. You have a purpose in this world and I’ve been working in emergency medicine for 6 years and I’ll say you going to Afghanistan and doing what you could do takes a lot of courage. Be kind to yourself brother. Sending positive energy your way.

@c.karnstein3299

3 жыл бұрын

Who's to say you are liability to society? You inherently bring value. You went to war for your society and your brothers. That is more of a self sacrifice than most will do in their lives and not to be taken lightly. And even now, like you said, under suffering, you are self aware and thoughtful. I wish you peace.

@stevewitt135

3 жыл бұрын

Ok, so you are a liability right now. So was Clarence Thomas when he was in school. Do something with your real life education. Take the time and use it to become an asset again.

@snoozyq9576

3 жыл бұрын

Noone can handle going to war. It fucks everyone up. Most of us are struggling and traumatized from far smaller things than that ❤️

Hey, I have to say this interview was my first time watching you Chris, and I must REALLY commend you for your questions. Very thoughtful and important questions.

One important thing is to realise the difference between guilt and shame. Guilt - a remorseful feeling for what you've DONE Shame - a self conscious feeling of being bad because of WHO YOU ARE I realised after a while that my own "voice in my head" was making me feel self conscious about utterly trivial inconsequentialities (shame)- yet had completely failed to arouse my conscience at far more serious times in order to prevent me from doing things which I now regret. All shame, and no guilt. I can see where Peterson is coming from - that this type of self consciousness exists as a distillation of morality - but often it works really, really badly. It can do a shockingly poor job of highlighting genuine inadequacies, whilst leaving you worried about pointless things. I once heard it said "never accept criticism from someone who doesn't have your best interests at heart" - and I really think it's worth internalising that ethic. You kind of have to have a shield around your tender inner side - one that you will open to those who will respectfully and fairly criticise you, but leave 100% closed to those who will spread doubt and paranoia. And that includes yourself! Give yourself the freedom to get really angry with your inner "shame monster". Imagine giving the Voice that whispers poison in your ear corporeal form - and drowning it in a bucket. It doesn't deserve to carry on as part of you. What needs to replace it is the equivalent of a trusted friend who will tell you when you are really doing something wrong - and be proud of you for stepping back in time.

I would rather be self conscious and miserable with my life than blissfully unaware of my faults and failures. It looks like happiness is a worthless emotion after all.

@sirjared21

3 жыл бұрын

I think contentment is a more meaningful goal than happiness. It's so much more enduring and a better signifier you've "made it."

@Thibaut_Guerquin

3 жыл бұрын

Maybe part of the ideal is between those two ideas : Being self conscious enough to learn and adapt from experience, and forgiving enough to let ourselves build our life through trial and error and not paralyzing ourselves with perpetual guilt. But that's a hell of a goal to achieve, that's for sure !

@northernhemisphere4906

3 жыл бұрын

why disregard either of those.implement both in your everyday life and there you will notice where lies equilibrium between the two. after that you learn to be the master captain and steer your ship of life,maneuvering marvelously. it’s a skill and your mind and intelligence are your slight of hand. don’t forget that everyone makes mistakes along the way,that’s how we learn. best regards

Wow… I have been looking for an answer to this for a decade. I am extremely self conscious and have that exact tormentor. I think that strategy would be of great help to me. I’ve seen so many different people seeking help with my anxieties. This exercise may be the solution I’ve been looking for.

I like the short snippets from the interviews. Very useful.

I think speaking to Jordan Peterson for an hour, half hour ever 15 minutes would be life changing

I just went down a Gary Vee shorts rabbit hole, and I needed some meaningful, thought provoking ideas. Thanks Jordan Peterson.

*"We are blessed and cursed"* - Big Smoke.... and Jordan Peterson

@CaDzA818

3 жыл бұрын

"All we had to do, was clean the god damn room CJ!"

Great interviewer - calm, to the point questions, absolutely superb.

Jordan is a true example of ‘knowledge is power’.

holy crow I needed this today.

First question was a good one.. I think it depends on the perspectives. In these times, while trying to minimize the damage, its a curse for sure. But also within the days there are a lot of possibilities to create. I approach it as unwritten. Keep up the good work!

@bageshwaradhamanubhavreact12

3 жыл бұрын

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I hear these things from my grandparents I read it in books I listen to Peterson talk about it I listen to a few more guys that talk about not believing your thoughts and staying out of your mind but no matter how many times I hear the same things from different people in different ways I can't stop.. I always fall back into believing the thoughts ..

10:34 "Even the statement 'I want to be happy' is actually not an accurate reflection of what it is that you want." Wow. That's so true. Discouragement is a huge contributor to that, specially with young men like me who haven't had much breakthrough in many pursuits... yet. But what's encouraging is the fact that being responsible in itself helps bring out what's important at the moment before any breakthrough, let's say hanging out with your peers of the same temperament and goals. This is an amazing segment Chris. Thanks for sharing.

Me having a conversation with my 6 year old son, is how Peterson must feel talking to everyone that interviews him.

@shatner99

3 жыл бұрын

So what you're saying is I can never have ice cream again?

@mizuslayer

3 жыл бұрын

@@shatner99 lmfaoo shatner, you so get it. hail lobster

@shatner99

3 жыл бұрын

mizuslayer Hail indeed.

You described me within the first 5 minutes. i am that guy. And i don’t know how to break out of, or transcend, this Hellbox in which i can’t reach out & engage, or feel worthy of someone’s attention. i am absolutely disqualified on every level & i SUCK at relationships. But i don’t want to. After a lifetime of trichotillomania, & a Hellish childhood, i am alone, & lonely at 45. i want so much, to find a way out of this awful place, & see a path to being Loved... before i am much older. i feel like 20 more years of loneliness, being invisible to Women, & dying alone, will be more than i can bear. i’m deathly afraid of that prospect.

@MrKillswitch88

3 жыл бұрын

There is a whole generation of young men who are living what you've been going through that is for the most part invisible to society until the opportunity to gas light then beat down in some way or another. I do feel this world wasn't designed nor was it meant for everyone to be able to enjoy it leaving part of the population that doesn't even have to adapt being natural to it while everyone else struggles sometimes deeply so. I ultimately found hope in there being life after death and reincarnation after a couple of years of research.

@dwaynebarksdale5937

3 жыл бұрын

@@MrKillswitch88 Interesting avenue out of the Darkness of that despair. It’s good to have hope. As for me, i have very, very little. The only thing that goes “right”, is that circumstances always line up for good things to not work out, but perfect for things to fall apart... things i can’t control, bc i can only control my own conduct & life. i am so over it... i await the end of my life, & the only hope i have is that my Creator will welcome me into their arms forever. There is nothing & no one for me here. i am sure of it. i hope against my own demons, that there is something after this.

I needed this. Thank you.

This is one of those videos you should watch every week. The amount of knowledge and gems dropped in this insane. Please Chris more interviews like this!

I “Just Dropped In (To See What Condition My Condition Is In)”

I think Chris Williamson is a humble but a very strong and independent enquirer; really, really wanting to know how true the truth really is and he is wise.

Each time i listen to Dr.Peterson i discover a new way to understand and sometimes heal myself. Thank God he is available on internet😊

You two are golden thank you thank you thank you 😍

The tragedies in personal relationships I've witnessed because people I've known have been worrying too much about avoiding pain is heart-breaking. I also lost the love of my life because of it, and when I finally broke free of some of the mist that surrounded me and had me living only to survive that heartbreak, I began trying to understand my unconscious motivations, all while trying to be more present, and less being pulled apart by the sadness of the past and the fear, uncertainty and stress of 'doing something' in the future.

JP and William Lane Craig. Together they have helped me greatly, to put it lightly.

Thank you for this video

God bless you, sir. Thank you

I suffer from body dysmorphic disorder and it’s robbed me of over half of my life now. I am 28 and I have spent my life sitting in a box inside of another box. I’m very fortunate that I have been able to work, aside from a rough 2 year period, but that’s the only thing I’ve been able to do outside of the home. I don’t let people into my life and I haven’t accomplished anything for myself. I don’t even drive. I don’t know how to start a life now because I’ve become so isolated and weird. It’s caused me so many other deeper problems beyond just being self conscious. And my BDD became a self fulfilling prophecy...switching from a more delusional type of BDD to the type where you are obsessed with and ruined by your actual flaws.

@Ton1956Y

3 жыл бұрын

I wish for you to have an encounter with the inventor of life. And to know by heart you're loved beyond your imagination regardless your abilities or disabilities.

@joshe1465

3 жыл бұрын

The main reason behind this message is mainly for your sake, so if I sound like I'm comparing myself to you in anyway, it is not my intention. I'm over 40 and have been battling severe depression for most of my life. I wouldn't say I believed I accomplished anything at 28 either but have come along way since. I can relate to not letting people in. I struggle there as well. I can relate to not knowing how to start a new as well. What has taken me along time to come to terms with is as follows... You don't seem to be running away from your pains... that takes strength. Choosing life with suffering (and the more you suffer the greater the accomplishment) is perhaps the biggest accomplishment... For anyone. In that you've accomplished plenty. To understand further read Viktor Frankl. From my experience I can say, you don't know what your capable of, what you mean, or what you will mean to others, and you're more valuable than you realize. To be clear on this imagine seeing something tragic happen to a stranger on the news. How would that make you feel? Now imagine being someone helping that person in the same scene. How would that make you feel? To me you're the former, but there's no reason you are not or never will be the latter for someone else. If you haven't already, get in touch with your own personal values and find ways to live by them (however small). They may not ease your pain, but they will provide direction, and give a sense of earned pride. Wish I could say more, but there's too much to unpack. Best wishes.

@linzlu7051

3 жыл бұрын

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It is punishing.

@Dumbbellwarrior777

Ай бұрын

I understand friend. I will keep you in my prayers. May you know The Lord is with you through your burdens

I need that voice, it helps me understand my limitations, I don’t let it get out of control though like I used to, anti depressants, meditation and learning constantly, from philosophy, religion, psychology, economics to history, it has all helped me understand myself better, helped me integrate all the little personalities as Peterson puts it, into one over arching personality, hopefully I can help my son do the same one day.

Amen to blessing an curse to FEEL everything as man in this world. Its really starting to hit me how alone I am in the world already at age 34, idk what I did to get here but my life could def be worse an im thankful as all hell for what I have if I just could love myself. It’s bad when other peolel have told you “ when you smile on stage it makes the whole show for me “ but yet you still are alone an dont understand why you seem so alone an hate yourself… I’m one of the most empathic people I know an I use to be more proud of it, now it just feel like I set myself up for it.. hoping things get better..

"Jordan Peterson reveals how to save western civilization from ending up like China under communism" Jordan Peterson: We need to start to read the Bible again to find the truth in the stories in it. (12 rules for life)

I always was very laid back now I am getting rigid and easily annoyed! :(

@in3033

3 жыл бұрын

What are you holding onto that makes you feel this way? You don't have to comment it, just contemplate. Make a bubble map for yourself if it helps

@Snibble

3 жыл бұрын

@@in3033 Yes!! Thanks!! You’re awesome!!

@in3033

3 жыл бұрын

@@Snibble You are too!! Take care, good luck!

My ex boyfriend talked about Jordan Peterson so much and applied a lot of his ideas/teachings. Here I am finding myself trying to do the same.