"Someone I'm going to spend my life with is not someone I need to persuade to invest in me, or lookout for my needs." Awesome, Matthew :)

@deprofundis3293

4 жыл бұрын

I had to break up with him this week. What's sad is that he really did invest in me and wanted to make it work. At first I didn't think this video would be helpful bc my situation is different. But I guess it's true that he wasn't able to look out for my needs...we had somewhat different values, and he couldn't handle talking about them in a healthy way. He tries to change about some of them, but he internally resented me for it.

@madenew79

3 жыл бұрын

INDEED! I needed this truth 2day

@imonmyway317

3 жыл бұрын

How true this is. I left my relationship when I realised that I was often having to persuade my partner that it could work between us, as he wasn't sure

@jrrichard1977

3 жыл бұрын

Powerful isn’t it?

@elenaruiz160

Жыл бұрын

Someone I"m going to spend my life with is not someone I need to persuade to invest in me or want to be with me

three weeks into my breakup; every time I feel it creeping back up, I pop on hussy.

@ijustlovepuppies

6 жыл бұрын

Me too!

@DinaStrange

6 жыл бұрын

Same here.

@shaunaleessnackidies

5 жыл бұрын

Same. And I re-read my notes in my phone where I kept a diary and I remember all the reasons I left.

@LidiaPolishuk

5 жыл бұрын

amateur_ bug exactly

@blusaura7409

5 жыл бұрын

Amen

Don't let the pain convince you you were wrong.

"The fact that you like him and the fact that you care about him is why you feel some pain. But that pain and liking him and caring about him and caring about him in certain ways -- none of that makes him the guy that you should spend your life with." That is so profound. I'm going through a similar situation and of course you still love them and miss them, but people often forget that sometimes just loving someone isn't enough, and that loving yourself and putting yourself first is much more important.

@soulgirl62

8 жыл бұрын

+SunshineandSand88 yes i hear you... i have made the mistake many times of going back because i was in so much pain and i thought it was because he was ' the one' but now i know that doesnt even come into it or it matters... my fundamental truth is that it wasnt working and he wasnt prepared to invest and i was literally SICK of doing everything myself...

@SunshineandSand88

8 жыл бұрын

soulgirl62 so true. I gave and gave and gave so much, thinking of ways and doing things to make it work, yet he was always just "going with the flow" and not making any effort. Sure he liked me enough to make a small amount of effort to keep me in his life, but I learned that there's a difference between someone merely wanting you and someone wanting you keep you in their life, not wanting to lose you forever. Unfortunately I also realized you can't change someone and that relationships are a two-way street. Neither person in the relationship should give 50/50 or 30/70 or 40/60; each one has to give 100%. It's easy to think they're the one when you still love and miss them, but the only thing that reminds me that they're the wrong person for me is knowing that I'm settling for crumbs by remaining in the relationship even though I know deep in my heart that I want and deserve more than that.

@soulgirl62

8 жыл бұрын

SunshineandSand88 yes mine was always dangling the carrot or throwing me a crumb just to keep me there... i was there TOO LONG and its affected my life and health so much but ive made the break recentley and its going to be so hard ,. but its something ive got to do because i know also i deserve someone better that suits me personally and im never going to get it if i stay with someone who i have to beg to love me !! jokes were made from him regarding that too so there was a lot of mockery which is sick... im focusing on me now.. hes had so many and too many chances... hes not going to make a fool out of me anymore.. xx stay strong xx

@SunshineandSand88

8 жыл бұрын

+soulgirl62 Same here. Actions always speak louder than words, though. We deserve to have more than just crumbs; we deserve the whole loaf! I went through what you did a couple of months ago and it was literally the hardest decision I've ever had to make because as I've said, I was always just going with his flow and I knew suddenly going against it and standing by what I truly deeply desire is gonna be hard and it was. God it was so so so difficult and heart-wrenching (I cried every day and night for two weeks straight and felt like I couldn't get out of bed or sleep or eat and it felt like my heart was literally aching like someone just took it, ripped it to pieces and stomped on it) but after that it was the biggest relief ever and my heart slowly but surely pieced itself together from that day onward. I'm not the kind of person to get a rebound or fill the void with someone else so it's not like I'm distracted by a new guy either. Of course I still love him and miss him sometimes, but we're just not right for one another and I've accepted that. I am waaaaaay happier now not having to deal with him or the anxiety or the pain of being in that relationship when I was in it. When you just surrender to how things are in the present moment instead of how they were when they first started or how they should be IF ONLY he changed and IF ONLY he loved you as much as you love him, that's when you finally have peace. There's no such thing as being in it too long - you were finally ready and the timing was right for you to finally leave. At least you won't think about the what ifs if you'd stayed in it longer because the main cause for obsession is unfinished business. You too! We can get through this together xxx

@soulgirl62

8 жыл бұрын

SunshineandSand88 ive sent you a private message xxx

I love the way he speaks with such understanding and empathy, it's just great. He really acknowledged she's hurting. Sometimes all someone needs is the acknowledgement of their pain. Great video, really needed this today.

@simonarasquinha

8 жыл бұрын

+hypergiggles14 empathy is bIG

@emeralddaughters

8 жыл бұрын

I agree. He is not just logical in his answers but he relates to the caller and gives such a hopeful assurance that it's OK and safe to feel what she is feeling and she will become stronger and survive this.

I was in a similar situation for almost five years, waiting for him to get it together. If you're doing the same, stop. If you wait for a person like that, you'll be waiting forever. The moment you leave them, they will start getting their life together. By the time they do, you will realize they weren't right for you in the first place, and you'll wish them the best, but not with you. :) Good luck to everyone going through this, you'll get to the other side soon, give yourself time!

@yvonnegitonga4076

8 жыл бұрын

thnks 4 this

@yeah.0.

8 жыл бұрын

I need this! Thanks!

@sabinahusic1555

8 жыл бұрын

You're welcome and good luck!

@theeleopardfighter

7 жыл бұрын

Sabina Husic thank you....you answered me....he is still finding himself 5yrs and 1 month into our relationship. eventually he felt the need to be honest that I was too successful as he was still finding himself.

@sabinahusic1555

7 жыл бұрын

You move on and continue being successful and find someone who's just as successful as you are, who will appreciate you and everything you have to offer! :)

1. It might get worse before it gets better and that's OKAY. that's expected. 2. you make excuses and view the relationship better than it actually was. 3. you suddenly become territorial because you dont want him to go to someone else. 3. you dont have to look for someone better, just someone better for YOU 4. i DON'T have to pusuade the RIGHT guy for me to do things for me. 5. IT SHOULD NOT BE THIS DIFFICULT WITH THE RIGHT PERSON 6. Don't let the pain (of leaving) convince you that it was wrong. you can feel pain too even with the wrong person. And I could go on and on with all of the things that he said that hit me in the head! out of the many videos he has done that spoke to me, this one spoke the loudest, it practically YELLED at me!! So when i find myself missing him, questioning our break up, wondering if he has someone else, getting scared of not finding someone like him (which is a bad idea becauae if my next is someone like him, we will have the same ending!!), enyertaining his pathetic attempt to reunite; i listen to this video to REMIND me that i dont need to waste more time to spend for him. because even if we are not together, everytime he enters my mind, everytime i look at our pics (which i should delete by the way!!) its time i could have spent working on myself or to put myself out there! grieve for the loss and then MOVE ON because time keeps ticking away.

@ivablasy9048

6 жыл бұрын

Maria Elda So true. Hope you're feeling great today 👍

@mariz09able

6 жыл бұрын

Aww this is me today 😢 Thanks for your comment it made me think of it too, move on and love yourself first :(

@livvymaher1162

5 жыл бұрын

❤️

@mily87ful

4 жыл бұрын

Going through the same thing. 😢

@helencheng9216

4 жыл бұрын

I found this video so powerful too. I am in a similar situation and feeling so much pain. Just wonder how are you feeling now ?

Fundamental Truth: "Someone I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with is NOT someone I need to persuade to invest in me or to look out for my needs." Thank you so much Matthew. I absolutely appreciate that he talked about the fact that in the real world, the credits don't just roll and everything's great.. we all go through the rollercoaster of the process.

11:40 - “It is really, really hard even to lose the wrong person...”

@leosun5952

Жыл бұрын

I agree...but I will also say it's hard to stay and continue to hurt. Pick your hard. Walking away for yourself gives you the opportunity to heal and move on. You have experience now and can be smarter with your next choice ❤✌️

It would be so interesting to hear people call in and do a follow up on how things went after taking Matthew's advice.

@sweetfharcybaby9

9 жыл бұрын

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@livvymaher1162

5 жыл бұрын

Yes!!!

@laflaks

5 жыл бұрын

YASSS

"That someone I'm going to spend my life with, is not someone I need to persuade to invest in me, or to look out for my needs."

it is hard to lose the wrong person b/c it is hard to admit that 1. you made a mistake, 2. that the other person didn't love you, and 3. that you tried to "buy" the other person's love and commitment with your sacrifices (and even like that it didn't work, that sucks, right ? ;)

@siennavenezia792

7 жыл бұрын

good points

@dikshasharma2880

7 жыл бұрын

mssummerrose1 Perfect 👍

@mssummerrose1

7 жыл бұрын

Sienna Venezia thanks :)

@mssummerrose1

7 жыл бұрын

Diksha Sharma :)

@Shinee1316

7 жыл бұрын

What if I'm on the other side of this relationship. What if he's the one trying to buy me? What's the easiest way to let him know to stop without breaking his heart? (you know just trying to be the devil's advocate)

"it wont be this difficult." 100% agree. THANK YOU, MATT!

I've also been in the same situation. But I made the choice to get back together with my ex boyfriend 3 times, because the pain was so overwhelming that I thought he must be the right guy. I guess he also missed me (at least a bit) but the effort he put in was usually quickly fainting. Only after the third break-up and altogether 6 years later and a few psychotherapy sessions it dawned on me that he might actually not be the right guy for me. Now I sometimes see his posts on social media and I guess he still has not changed - although it I still miss him sometimes I am so glad I am out of this relationship. Great video, Matthew!!

Wow this is some of the greatest advice I've ever heard. And I'm 62 years old.

Yes really hurts even you losing the wrong people in your life but take it for lesson life and be careful for the next step in the future... When the wrong leave your life, the right things start to happen.

Don't get used to emotional abuse

@adelante3938

2 жыл бұрын

Yep its a slippery slope

Wow! This is therapy for me right now. He is soooo right on the $$$ with everything! Especially with the pain aspect. I am going through the worst pain of my life right now with a separation from my husband of 12 years. And knowing that this gut wrenching, stomach churning, curled-up-on-the-floor-crying pain I feel is necessary and that it doesn't mean that I'm wrong in the decision I've made is what I needed. I have felt, exactly like he said, "if I hurt this bad, it has to mean that he's supposed to be mine" but now I know that's not the case. Thank you SO MUCH Matthew for your wise words and insights.

@lyndsieannette957

7 жыл бұрын

Ashley Reynolds intense grief over the end of a relationship brought me here. Breaking up was the right decision. But grief is so so hard.

My God!... If I saw your video last year.... You could save me a year without crying almost every night!!!! God bless you for your advices!!! I'm going thru all your videos recently and realise how dumb I was all these years... Got me so many year of being miserable because of men and bad relationships!!! Thank you , Matt!

I change his name in my phone to the reason. So if he calls or when I want to, I see the reason it didn't work. Love your work Matt, thank you ✨

@munirahzahar9803

4 жыл бұрын

That is such a good idea! I’m gonna try that too.

@jesusitrustinyou4314

3 жыл бұрын

Haha Me too!!!

@bindicat9070

2 жыл бұрын

Great idea! Thanks for sharing

@junejewell6004

2 жыл бұрын

Brilliant!

@MauveBlossom

Жыл бұрын

Wow

I love your understanding way of talking to the people who call in. All people want to be listened to and talked to like this. Thanks for your awesome compassionate/kind help!

@shalomandrest

8 жыл бұрын

+Shasha8674 i know right!! id marry matthew like yesterday! he is awesome

Insecure people want security. BE the security, and then you will attract the man that reflects that.

@Luxeamirah

6 жыл бұрын

Paws of Mia yes self love!

@veronicahaney7934

5 жыл бұрын

Everyone wants the security of return on investment. Do YOU frequently invest in things that don't pay-out? Everything's an energy exchange.

@Shad0wC0mpany2

4 жыл бұрын

earth ocean Well said!

Going through a breakup now, I go back to this video at least 5 times a day just to give me assurance that I'll be alright. I did the same thing last year with this video. It speaks volumes and has helped so many people go through messy breakups and go on the journey of finding and loving themselves again. Matthew is just brilliant ❤️

I just walked away from a 5 yr relationship....1 week ago, today I'm feeling specially sad, and confused. I know deep down that we needed to take the decision, but I loved him with everything I've got, which makes it harder. I'll update you if you want to know how everything turns out 😭❤

@juliettevardi1699

2 жыл бұрын

Hey, I wanted to know if you're doing better now ? If the breakup was a good decision ?

@erindeleon4982

2 жыл бұрын

Update please 🙁

@biancapomponio4099

2 жыл бұрын

Yes how are you doing now? I walked from a 4 yr situationship 3 weeks ago because he didn’t want to commit. It’s so heartbreaking hey?

@corrina9327

2 жыл бұрын

How did everything turn out?

@SimplyfknSavage

Жыл бұрын

She disappeared. Where did she come from where did she go? Scary.

Perfect timing! I'm going through similar questioning. Thank you!

@YourTrulyFriend

9 жыл бұрын

Terrey Hatcher I hope you're well and that everything will be OK as soon as possible.

@kairipulst4894

9 жыл бұрын

Terrey Hatcher Same here!

@abeille1217

9 жыл бұрын

Terrey Hatcher SAME! i don't know how he knows lol

@abeille1217

9 жыл бұрын

Terrey Hatcher btw, it's been 2.5 weeks for me, hope you're hanging in there

@abeille1217

9 жыл бұрын

Kairi Pulst same, 2.5 weeks, same scenario... hang in there

Wow! wow! He spoke from the heart. I hope she takes the message to run to the hills top. "You can feel pain with the wrong person bc you cared. God bless you because you have the ability to love. Thus, the pain should never justify your reasons to think he/she is/was the one to run back." Pa! The right one is coming. ::) I love it.

Two years on still feeling pain....but he still wasn't right!! And I was 49 at the time. It is not easy but staying was harder! You are awesome Matthew.

@aeb4690

8 жыл бұрын

"It's not easy but staying was harder". WOWWW. Thank you!!

@Zoe.TheBody360

8 жыл бұрын

+Annie Skywalker Your so welcome!

@aR0ttenBANANA

8 жыл бұрын

Sucks for him

@Zoe.TheBody360

8 жыл бұрын

***** Thank you for the compliment!

@Zoe.TheBody360

8 жыл бұрын

+Elle L Ha ha...well I will definitely take that compliment!!! Thank you

I wonder what happened with Tikka. I would love to hear that she had pain and that awful sorrow, and she emerged - and maybe she is happy now. And maybe part of her happiness has to do with meeting someone better. I wonder...

"it won't be this difficult" really hit home for me! thank you for your videos. you do make a difference!! will keep watching

I NEEDED this! This was parallel to my situation and I needed to hear you say these words. Thanks so much, Matt!

Matthew and Tica, I am going through this right now from me breaking up with someone just 3 days ago. I was actually going to email Matthew about this question and i'm so glad I found this video. It's so difficult letting go of the wrong person and feeling lonely and missing them and doing our best to not reach out to them to start a vicious cycle of confusion with them. My fundamental reasons are clear but they are being clouded with the passionate times we had. I just needed to stop thinking about and being aggravated about not being a priority of his and always waiting on plans. My self esteem is at it's lowest and I was taking any kind of affection that was coming my way, which is why i stayed. I have way more important things to do and think about and constantly thinking about him was taking up the space in my mind i need to do the important things i need to do. Thank you Matthew and Tica! I wish you both well.

I recently got out of a relationship and was so close to jumping back into it.. Matthew, your videos help so many people including myself, get through a break up. Thank you for doing what you do. I've been watching your videos for the past few days, and I'm truly feeling a lot better.

This video is going to help a lot of people, both man and woman. Thank you so much. you never stop to amaze me!!

this guy is perfectly right man. he hits every single feel in this subject and then some. every point he makes is like a bell sounding off in your head. he just makes you like its all going to be OK!

"It won't be this difficult." 6:06- 6:29. Succinctly put. Thank you Matthew as usual.

Watching this every time I feel down about my situation has been helping me significantly. Thank you Matthew!

I love hearing his words and how he reinforces some of my ideas about relationships, it tells me that I am thinking some things right. And hearing that we should find the right person for ourselves is beautiful.

Thank you Matt! Honestly, there's so much wisdom in your words. I was clueless how to deal with emotions after a break-up and hearing this was so refreshing and uplifting. Keep doing what you do best - encouraging, coaching and changing people's life xx

WOW... WHOA!!! absolutely Amazing advice☺ Someone who loves me should not have to be persuaded to love me and invest in me... that was groundbreaking😂😁😀

Matthew, all I can say is GOD BLESS YOUR GIFT!

How did I not see back when I found Matthew and he helped me through my pain. Yesterday in my Snapchat memories from 2 years ago my all time favorite picture of my ex and I came up. Those ridiculous smiles on our faces reminded me of how magnetic and beautiful we were in that moment. For part of the day I thought about texting him, knowing he now would gladly come back and “everything will be better” but I held off and I think it’s because I needed to see this video now and not 2 years ago. 💜 Matthew, there is someone coming better for you too.

I keep coming back to this video, listening to it over and over to let it sink and marinate because this is the truth!!

Thank you for being so real with the understanding of the person breaking up , fighting for value in a relationship.

This is probably the best video you made. You have no idea how much I nees to hear that!

I love your words here and your honesty, that is exactly what we all do.. the fear , the doubt after the break up .. Thanks for sharing your gifts with people .

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Divine timing Matthew. This call was my exact situation. Thanks to the caller for calling in. I hope you are doing amazingly now ❤

Great points! I initiated the breakup because the same issues could not be resolved over and over. I thought I would quickly lose feelings, but in the beginning I cried a lot. I realized that sometimes the sadness is more due to the disappointment of things not working out as well as strong attachment than wanting to continue being with someone for the right reasons. I realized that missing someone and caring about them does not mean that I should try again. The truth is a breakup is very painful to both parties involved. What you said makes a lot of sense. We often confuse strong feelings and even caring so much about someone to be a sign that they were meant to be. I cared about this person very much, but the investment and energy put in by both parties could not fix the problems in the relationship. In my case, both of us tried hard to make it work for many years. The hope became very detrimental as we were too focused on wanting to make it work than enjoying our time together. Not everything in life is about trying and trying again. Putting in lots of effort does not necessarily mean it will work out. Sometimes trying over and over drains you. I think when things didn't work out a first time, its understandable to want to try again but only if problem areas are identified and possible solutions are looked into. Time apart helps with clarity. The decision should come from wanting to be together, not from feeling lonely or needing them. I think if two people decided to try again after some time apart and they have a better quality relationship the 2nd time around, that is wonderful. Pay attention to how you feel most of the time you're in the relationship and if you are trying again, ask yourself if issues are being worked out or if you keep running into the same issues. Every relationship is an opportunity for growth. I learned a lot during the process, improved myself and became much better at problem resolution. In the past, I tended to run away from things. The relationship helped me face my fear of confrontation and become more loving.

God Matthew! I cannot thank you enough for this video. I made the relationship with my ex so much better that it was in mind and by watching this video 2 BIG important situations came to my mind. The saddest one was when he left me alone in a open event full of people and after a fight I started to cry felling ashamed and alone to finally ended up chasing him..we hugged and made up but it was a horrible situation.. I cannot believe that I erased so many sad and painful fights where I felt so alone and not loved... It is so true that we put them in a pedestal after the break up and our mind plays us tricks to remember only the god part..Find inside of you the sad moments and remembering those fellings will help you get through :)

I've been in a very similar situation 3 years ago and I broke up because he didn't invest enough and he had the most boring priorities ever! ... great advise: *You can't work on his relationship homework for him... *

this video changed my life..I heard it 6 months ago...it kept me going. and now I forward it to everyone going through this situation... it is a gospel! @Mathewhussey you changed my life for the better and I couldn't be more happier! :)

I love the way how Matthew Hussy communicates with his words and encouragements to his listeners.

Thank you, Tika for your candid honesty! I had a similar situation back in August and I still feel the pain. Thank you, Matthew for your heart-felt answer. It has helped me greatly to simplify my one reason for ending my relationship, and self-examine the fundamental standard that I want for my long-lasting love in my life.

Great topic and such an important message. I'm writing it down and reading it every day, thank you!

This session is impromptu and not scripted! Well done Matthew! You are the best! Thank u so much for making these videos to mitigate our pain!

Matthew helps me so much. Broke up with a narcissist for the second time recently. I have been struggling quite a bit with the self doubt etc. Really difficult to pull myself together but this has helped. xx

Sometimes going back to the person you loved the most might not be the best decision you make because instead of moving forward from heartaches but you will see yourself starting over again from the bottom. Give yourself a chance to explore maybe great things are waiting for you.

This rivets my soul. I am having this lesson for the first time ever, so Matthew's advice articulates all those foggy emotions that have been hanging around me for 2.5 months since breaking up (and I still live with my ex). I am so deeply greatful. Seeing how generous Matthew is with his advice, I am wondering if he knows he is likely saving many people years of haunting emotions from unfinished business, because people can process intense emotions and move on. This time I was in the seat to break up with someone, but one time it took, a full 3 years of intense mourning to let go of someone that broke up with me. No one should be in emotional pain for extended lengths. Matthew you are awesome!

"We feel the need to build a case" 😂😂😂 He's so right 😂😂😂

This is my first time ever I wrote something somewhere on youtube. But today, I feel the need to say something: I cry like a baby when I listened this video. Im broken-heart , It's so hard let it go someone that u still love or u not yet ready to let him go , Im not ready to let him go, even if I know it's the right thing, tears are still there.. I just found videos​ of you Matthew this week, found it in the moment I most need it, you are so helpful, u are so right.. I still loose someone and I still cry a lot but in your way, with the videos I know there are hope somewhere and I cant thank you enough @Matthew Hussey

@RachyNoodleNest

4 жыл бұрын

How do you feel now?

@musicaacisum7803

4 жыл бұрын

@@RachyNoodleNest honestly still sad. I'm still not over it. But I'm trying to. I'm a bit less of a mess but this brake up shook me like nothing else never did and I've had crap big time in my life. I still miss him. I know it is silly and whatever but sometimes surprisely I still cry over him because I miss him . I miss his company and I never miss anyone company in my life lol. What about you ? What's your story if I may ask ?x

@RachyNoodleNest

4 жыл бұрын

@@musicaacisum7803 I'm sorry to hear that. I'm fully over my ex and realise that sometimes you gain someone's absence!

@musicaacisum7803

4 жыл бұрын

@@RachyNoodleNest I'm so glad yoy feel better though! X

This is brilliant ! I’m going through a break up as well with someone I fell for and he didn’t want me back and broke up with me. This is what I really needed to hear! Thank you Matthew, you are brilliant!

Reasons, seasons and lifetimes. Getting ghosted by my hopeful Mr. Right was the first step to learning more about my misunderstandings of relationships, male/female communication and how I need to grow. Better now than never! Thanks Matthew!

this brought me to tears. I needed to hear this. thank you

Thank you , I'm so glad for the caller who broke off the relationship and now second guesses her choice !! im right in the same spot.

Matthew, I just want to say that I admire you so much more because I saw in this video how genuinely you care for a person in general. I was only listening to your voice and I heard so much passion in your voice for the well being of this woman. I am inspired by you to really be passionate about each individual who I come in contact with. Thank you.

I love how he threw her question back at her and asked, what do you think the answer is, without my validation…Genius. God bless! 🦋

One of THE most important videos on youtube ive ever seen... you should never have to persuade someone to love you or even ' see ' you... the right person would do that naturally... this video is just amazing and i needed to see it... Thank you

I’m grieving in a similar situation and This hit home SO hard. He is truly amazing and his advice is priceless. Truly amazing

I just broke up with my boyfriend for very similar reasons and this was so incredibly helpful. I’ve been so depressed, lost, moody, and confused and this helped me so so much. Thank you for all of your amazing advice.

My favourite message of yours. I come back to this video every time I need it.

Wow, just wow! I really enjoy your videos. You are the first one on KZread that makes any kind of sense and everyone that you speak can feel that you are genuine. You are the Guru of Love & Relationships.

Great advice, thank you for keeping it real!!

Thank you Matthew for this awesome conversation. I had a relationship which was not right for neither of us but the leaving experience was just hard. Everytime I feel vulnerable I will watch this video and some of your other videos. Your voice has been the one which helps me go through my inner struggles. What you are doing right now is great and meaningful and I would love to join you if I could😝 Thank you again for helping everyone who needs that be strong!

u always have the perfect timing in giving these advices. thank you for opening my eyes, again!

Amen. Thanks to Matthew for giving me strength to overcome hard time couple of months ago. Thank you!

great video. wish I had stumbled across this 2 years ago. just 6 months out of divorce, after 28 years of marriage. I did make my decision to leave based on 3 major issues in the marriage. I made my lists, and like you stated, when one reviews the list of lesser issues, one tends to say, "oh.. that's not so bad" and so on. bottom line: he was not willing to do what I needed to move past the 3 major issues! I decided, I had to cut myself loose, and take care of myself. my greatest sadness is that he didn't feel I was worth the effort. I know that I will be better off in the long run. (tearing up just thinking about all the pain) now I can focus on me and doing what I need to move on to a positive, happy life. keep up the great work!

@juliegamboa1883

6 жыл бұрын

mickyunit wow. it's been 2yrs, I hope you are doing well. I know it wasn't easy. sending you love. And it's weird to hear from a stranger but with no condescension I say that I am proud of you :)

This is so perfect right now - what I'm experiencing TO THE T. Thank you! 🙏🏻❤️

@AllThatKazz

8 жыл бұрын

Matthew is so straight up and true. Pain and hurt and sorrow hurts like a knife.

My favourite video and advice of yours. Pure gold. Thank you Matt! 👏🏻

This was so amazing. I'm going through a breakup right now and this was so enlightening. I appreciate this truth and hope. I hate the hurt and the drama. But fear is my worst enemy. Things will get better.

Matt you give me such hope!!!!!! I've been on a binge of these videos this whole weekend to get through these feelings and I just have so much hope. Thank you!

The frustrating part about being the dumpee is never really feeling like there was reason enough for this to happen. I know there were issues in my relationships, but I just can't see them as being the problems my exes saw. It's heartbreaking even more this way...

I love that you offer your callers a follow up . that in itself helps to keep others on track because they know someone is in their corner. That somebody cares enough to say keep me up dated. This helps us stay strong and heartfully focused on our right and self care track. You are kind and giving, a wonderful trait to have in a dear friend of which I am positive you are to a lucky few. May your life always be radiant with loving protection and full of many moments of joy ; )

I'm crying. I didn't break up with anyone but this touched me on a deep level.

Oh, I am so happy that I've found this video! It's such a great relief!!! Now I'm feeling much stronger! Thank you so much!

Wow, this is so relevant to me right now. I am so thankful for this and keep coming back to watch it again. Thank you for this.

You nailed it, Matthew! I've been out of my last relationship for more than 7 months, and even though i miss the good times we spent together i know i did the right thing. Loneliness is a bitch, but being strong is our shield. Someone much better is waiting for me, i can feel it. Thanks for all your advise. XO

this is so me in this moment! thank you for the advice! !

I needed this today. Thank you

Thanks so much Matthew for your wisdom which you unselfishly shares to all of us heartbroken people who definitely need this advice! God bless u!

Thank you Matthew! I can totally relate. I really needed this. THANK YOU, Thank you; for what you do & for being you. XX

this video made me see things so much differently. I already quoted your words so that I can keep them as a reminder to be strong and move forward. You are awesome Matt, thank you!!!!

Matthew. .. this post is powerful.....you are a true gem of a Beautiful human... the connections you make through all your posts, touched and helped many ... I can almost feel you are there journeying with me.. every word goes to the core of our being. ..I tear... God bless you and thank you for you. ❤

This video just made my day! 😊 I'm glad I was able to watch it until the end because I could just relate to Tika and I needed your move on advice too ☺ Thank you so much Matthew Hussey 🙏 You're an angel 😇 God bless you always ❤

Thank you!! This is exactly what I needed to hear!! Mr. Hussy-everytime I happen to see your one of your videos in my feed and listen to it, it's divinely timed and I am sooo grateful for the work that you do!!!!

Thank you Matthew for being the voice of reason. I almost texted and begged him to come back

Thank you for that video and that message, those are just the words I needed to be reminded of right now. And it's so true but so easy to forget when you're in a downward spiral.

This one hit home.. thanks tikka for asking about this because I needed to hear that answer. I appreciate you so much Matthew

Oh wow, probably needed to hear that. And will put a note at my door as well. Thank you, Matt.

Mathew Hussey you are the best coach I have ever heard thank you and know what an impact you make !!

Matthew Hussey you are so helpful and amazing. This girl's story is the same as mine. Thank you for sharing your story Tika and thank you Matthew- you're amazing!!!!!

wow just what I needed to hear and understand. perfect timing Matthew! thank you so much!!