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*A relationship is like a house. When a light bulb burns out, you don't go and buy a new house, you fix the light bulb.*

Every man i was with fell head over heels for me and i didn't even know why i was thinking ok i understand i am good looking but it had to be something more than that and that's it because i'm so feminine i am strong woman but appealing soft gentle i want my man to protect me i have a slightly childish personality and that's it i want to be protected i am good at showing my appreciation for them i thank them i give compliments.. i make them feel like a heroes by just being myself. Thank you for clearing this out

@heyitsla_raib3837

9 ай бұрын

How to be childish without needy/clingy some real life examples please?

@lilblizzy

5 ай бұрын

​@@heyitsla_raib3837 I believe she means child-like innocence, not childish, in an immature way.

"He will if he is going to" - simple, brilliant, and super true!

@williamsbarkley2637

2 жыл бұрын

Yes dear 👍

This is spot on! I always knew there was something off with this whole manipulating men into giving us what we need, I hate playing these games. Thank You, great message!

@user-di4hn3ok1e

2 жыл бұрын

cause of that i hate modern women.

@autumn.despaghetti

2 жыл бұрын

EXACTLY like that seems so manipulative and wrong by tricking them into liking us

@NaomieThompson

Жыл бұрын

I love how you recognised your gut feeling on this :)

@NaomieThompson

Жыл бұрын

@@autumn.despaghetti yes! I believe that being real will attract the right people and the deepest love to us.

@earthwormjim3269

3 ай бұрын

I've seen women on tiktok and even "relationship experts" talk about getting the man stressed out to make his body release vasopressin, which is the male bonding hormone.

I agree. I was also in masculine energy too much, and like you said, returning to feminine energy was such a relief..

@NaomieThompson

Жыл бұрын

Yes! That's exactly how I felt when I discovered this work, a relief to come back to my true nature. :)

Thank you! So true! I have been obsessing about this man, but after this video, I just want to go back to being my confident self. It's hard because my last relationship was long and painful and when I went into it I looked great and in shape and came out of it stressed out, overweight, and it has been hard to meet good guys since then. But I used to be so feminine and just let the man be the pursuer, and I want to take care of myself and my well-being and just let men be real men.

I’d never heard the term “hero instinct” before. I’m familiar with the basic concept, but decided to look it up in case I was missing something. I’m so glad that your video was the first one that popped up! It solidified what I already knew in my heart, that my man really is my hero. he’d be able to see right through any silly strategy to make him anything other than what he is. I consider myself a strong woman, but I don’t have to keep my defenses up with him. I can be soft and vulnerable. Hs will always be my hero, and i let him know it every chance I get! 🥰

@NaomieThompson

Жыл бұрын

Danielle I love hearing that! When a man feels trusted and respected his urge to cherish and protect grows. It sounds like you have a beautiful relationship.

You're so articulate, knowledgeable and no nonsense. Subscribed!

This is great advice. Especially the part about being less strategic and more genuine.

I was extremely stressed from a situation I’m in right now but this calmed me and made me feel grounded thank you.

I love the analogy of wearing the trousers in the relationship. If I want a leader I need to be able to let him lead.

Thank you, this is exactly what I needed to hear!

Amazing and I felt that at only 2:33 seconds. Living in your feminine energy is amazing and is something I am working to continue to evolve in💫 Thanks for your words of wisdom💕

Thank you for saying that it sounds strategic, I believe in real love and how natural it should be... Beautiful video 💓

Ladies, if he wanted to he would. There is no secret, men are actually extremely simple, if your the one you will know it. I will say it takes them alot longer than us to settle down. If you REALLY love a man, & are willing to waste two years that's how long it takes alot of men to get their shit together. Those men that are great and do everything right from day 1 are far and few.

@jqthegirl

10 ай бұрын

It’s worth to try too. If things don’t work you have valuable lessons and experiences too, so? why don’t we learn and try, even we don’t want somehow we all have to face these issues. What to do?

My goodness, thank you. I needed this!

Thank you so much for explaining it so clearly! I just need to feel, and be myself ☺️ I was in my masculine energy for so long, and my partner of 12 years left, he felt like something was missing in our relationship. Now I am healing and learning to be myself, such a relief to know, it’s okay to embody feminine energy ☺️ and let the men be masculine 😅 so simple haha thank you.

@fluffae

3 жыл бұрын

@@NaomieThompson Thank you again 😌❤️

Wow, this was helpful! Thank you!

I really needed to see this video, thank you ❤️

It's basically just being yourself... I'm a type of girl where I thoroughly appreciate when things are done for me and when I notice someone is putting their effort into me, and I appreciate that, however I also like to give and do things because I feel it's fair..and I do out in a lot of effort with my ex's they took that for granted... But I was young and one was immature... But then again maybe I've been more on the masculine side even though I am feminine with my emotions... Doesn't help by mainly my younger years was being around my dad and brother, I'm not sure I'm just being myself, like I'm not trying to be in the "pants" of the relationship, I just also agree with things being equal but with a guy I like at the moment, maybe I just need to step back.... Just play it cool and just try to let things will happen naturally.

@alexdavis1463

Жыл бұрын

You can still do things if you feel you need to be fair and do your part but try doing things that are more feminine and let him do masculine things. Let him know you appreciate things he does and compliment him often if he’s a real man he will do all the things you need when you treat him like a king and boost him up

Best advise I’ve heard so far!!!

Great advice! Thank you! 😊

Thank you, Naomie Thompson! Definitely helped me to answer some questions I had earlier ..... :)))))

You said it so so lovey and clear!

Wow, great video! Thank you 🙏🏽

Naomie, I love what you say, may that be, more women sees that HUGE potential in their lives ...

Excellent advise. Thx so much, I get it!!!

It goes back to my love language...I get it..thanks!

Omg women that was amazing... thanks so much for this xxx

This is all the answer I needed. Thank you.

@NaomieThompson

Жыл бұрын

@Adilah I'm so glad this was what you needed to hear :)

Amazing advice! Thank you! :)

i like you so much! you explain everything so well and in-depth. I have seen videos on feminine coaches where I get confused. Pls do more :D

I looooovee you ! you just brought me back to life. i cant believe it.

You deserve more subscriber

I totally agree with this woman.

Thank you! This is just what I needed to hear today. I am in the midst of a very difficult relationship and just started to think possible strategies but it somehow felt wrong. And I now understand why.

@NaomieThompson

9 күн бұрын

How wonderful that this video found you at just the right time! I have another free resource if you want it? 5 Keys To Have The Love You Want audio training naomiethompson.com/freeaudiotraining

good for you for pointing out that we should not have an agenda, because ultimately that’s selfish and it’s not good for anybody involved.

@NaomieThompson

Жыл бұрын

absolutely! This is about being real and authentic always :)

Best answer ever!!!

This is something I had issues with my partner - he wanted to “help” me but I did not need help. I do not like the feeling if not being in control. I can’t fake ‘needing help’, it is not the way I am.

@xoxomangakcorxoxo

3 жыл бұрын

Same, I hate feeling weak it makes me sad

@rchgtm

3 жыл бұрын

Same 🥂

@lunalinn6570

3 жыл бұрын

Same here

@NaomieThompson

Жыл бұрын

Mosq0 i totally understand. I used to feel that way myself. Learning how to let go of control in a way that feels strong and grounded feels amazing!! It depends what you want in a relationship. If you want to be the strong, controlled partner in your relationships, that's no problem. You'll find you'll attract men who love having you lead, want you to be the problem solver, they'll want you to listen to their feelings and take action to make things better for them. But If you want a man who'll cherish your feelings and lead the relationship with love and devotion , take pleasure in surprising you and making you happy, then you'll need to learn to receive the gifts he brings... help, stepping up to solve the family problems, provision, protection.

@NaomieThompson

Жыл бұрын

@LilyZhou I feel you. Read my reply below

This makes me happy 😊

Finally...a woman with common sense...thank you for this! 💗🌷

@fr3atlast448

3 жыл бұрын

Naomie Thompson I did! And I sincerely hope you start posting more...You’re level-headed and in touch with your emotions, and have the ability to help others, get in touch with their’s. There are SO many sites that are so ridiculous and filled with erroneous information. Thank you for trying to get it right...🌷💗

It’s wonderful to come across your site how interesting I love what you said about staying in your feminine energy. I think that’s brilliant. I will look forward to looking into your site and having a wonderful time exploring on your thoughts on Dating and Men…. and especially remaining in my feminine energy, which is so important for me because I am Greek!

@NaomieThompson

9 күн бұрын

I'm so glad this resonated with you. I have another free resource if you want it? 5 Keys To Have The Love You Want audio training naomiethompson.com/freeaudiotraining

That was perfect! Thank you!

@NaomieThompson

2 ай бұрын

I’m so glad 💗

I’d like to add if you let him “wear the pants” and fill that hero role you will notice your relationship take a turn for the better I promise that if you take the feminine role and compliment him often and make it known you appreciate the things he does and be his cheerleader and sidekick he will give you the world and will go out of his way for you if you do those things metaphorically speaking he will fight the battles if you will mend him when it’s over (he will be the soldier if you be the medic) I always think of a relationship as hero and sidekick like Batman and robin and people say they need to be equal and criticize me but Batman wouldn’t be Batman without robin. People think the sidekick is not as important when that’s not true at all the sidekick makes the hero a hero and without the robin batman is just Bruce Wayne. What I’m saying is be the sidekick, (who is as important) let him fight the battles with you right behind him giving him what he needs to fight and win if you do that you have him at your service to do any and everything for you. I promise it will work if you find that your relationship is not what you want. Do these things and watch things change in an instant

@ShellysLivingLife

5 ай бұрын

I saw your comment- you sound like you know what your talking about -I need help getting my relationship back where it was in beginning when he wanted and made me feel loved. We been together 5 years we were married for 1.5 but he divorced me bc my mom passed and I went in a deep depression and neglected and ignored him but not on purpose but later on he told me he felt that he was the problem and he was a disappointment. We stayed together when I got on my feet and was ready to move out after divorce he asked me to stay so here I am but nothings been same like it was. I tell him all the time I appreciate everything he does. What am I doing wrong that I can’t trigger that hero instinct? Any advice please

@NaomieThompson

9 күн бұрын

@alexdavis1463 I love this analogy. Thank you :)

@NaomieThompson

9 күн бұрын

Hi Shelly, I'm so sorry you're going through this. sometimes no matter what we do we can't change the way a person feels. I have another free resource that may help you if you want it? 5 Keys To Have The Love You Want audio training naomiethompson.com/freeaudiotraining

Thank you. Love your video. Just subscribed.

I believe that's where a lot of us "thinkers" mess up, we feel the femininity when we're with men and enjoy it but when we're not sure where the relationship is going we start to overthink then once he leaves we're stuck wanting that femininity to return but it left when he left

I loved your answer thank you

I never subscribe on just watching one video, you're my first! 😉

Excellent! Thank you! A friend sent me the Hero Instinct video. I just watched it. Then looked for something else. Amazing, I came across your video. Spot on. Exactly what dr.Gray talks about

@NaomieThompson

9 күн бұрын

That feels wonderful to hear! I have another free resource if you want it? 5 Keys To Have The Love You Want audio training naomiethompson.com/freeaudiotraining

I really like your advice! Just be yourself and let go of strategies and tactics, in favour of morr authentic connection. What will be, will be ❤️ live your best life regardless, we only have one life to live!

Sometimes we also don’t want to be masculine.. but the fact that you have been providing for yourself for a long time , you are your own counselor .. it becomes even hard to tell your man what you’re going through, it feels hard to ask for help. Sometimes also men need to make us feel comfortable around them so that we are open to them

@NaomieThompson

9 күн бұрын

I totally understand darling. I found it agonising to ask for help and sometimes still do. We can fear being let down, again and again. And you're right... an emotionally mature, solid, kind man will want to make you feel safe and comfortable around him. And there are tools that you can practise to help you open up and also communicate what you're going through in a way that the right man can really hear you. I have many paid programs that teach this but there are some free tools in my 5 Keys To Have The Love You Want audio training naomiethompson.com/freeaudiotraining I'd love you to have it.

As a man I agree with this 100% my ex was so masculine with her energy and then would yell and scream at me for not being the “hero” and it’s because she wouldn’t let me all my girlfriends before were very feminine and they were the best years and relationships I have had. They let me be the hero and it made me feel amazing and love them deeply. Tbh I still think about them (2 out of the 4 long relationships I have had) those 2 are the ones I still think about years and years later and I still dream about them and honestly I still love them. The other 2 I hardly ever think about because the relationship was missing things so ladies if you want a man to love you honestly forever be feminine and let him be in charge.

@HempressBelle

7 ай бұрын

Most boys are lost and dont know the meaning of loyalty and monogamy...

Great video!

Fantastic video. I so agree, strategy does not work. More about being. Thank you so much!!

Thank you Naomie!😍

@NaomieThompson

Жыл бұрын

Julia You are so welcome!

Oh wow, you are amazing!

God bless you! This has absolutely helped

@NaomieThompson

Жыл бұрын

Wonderful!

Im so glad i saw this beautiful woman! Great advice 🫶🏻

@NaomieThompson

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!

I already knew all of this before watching those videos...It worked! But, he still left

Damn that's my problem..im too logic. I need to feel more hahah

You are such a funny lady this video made me laugh !!

I agree so well with you 👍

Thank you so much. 🕉️🙏🏽

Thank you so much. ❤❤❤

can we say that not every time he can be capable to do it... and if he is lying to you... you can feel it .. and your instinct close you for him... if you don't feel save with him...if he changes what he talk with what he do.... i think yes...he can't be that for me...and things doesn't work...

@NaomieThompson

Ай бұрын

I agree. If a man is lying to you, he’s not creating safety in the relationship and you will feel it on a deep level. It then becomes impossible to soften into trusting him to be a good leader in the relationship. The good news is that by having clear boundaries you can walk away from such relationships.

Interesting. Thank you very much.

Subscribed

Thank you!!!👍😌

Thank you 🙏. I have a very strong personality. Thank you for explaining this...

Thank you so so so so much

You are 100%.

Thank you, really!

@NaomieThompson

Жыл бұрын

My pleasure Mahitab!

Great video

@NaomieThompson

Жыл бұрын

Mia I'm so glad you enjoyed it!

I agree with you it’s just too much work

I'm in a relationship with a man that is not capable of stepping up or being a hero. In fact if I had to count on him to come through I'd gamble fail every time.

@NaomieThompson

Жыл бұрын

Indigo darling, i'm so sorry you're in this situation. I remember feeling this way. The more I focused on loving and caring for myself above all else, the easier it was to walk away and follow my relationship dreams.

@indigodande4345

Жыл бұрын

@@NaomieThompson Thank you for replying. Hope you are well. 1 year later I am doing really well and have worked hard on personal independence and my own happiness.

This is exactly right. It's not complicated. I'd be drawn to you and you're diffently not my age of attraction, but you're right. I am drawn to very feminine... Period. Hence why I been single so long. Please don't take that offense; but I have been called a bitch my whole life from men because I don't sleep around. I settle for non of the best. Ladies there's is dudes out there don't give up... Good things come to those that wait. Liked and subbed.

@Bigweiner1

Жыл бұрын

🙏

Wow. Simple truth

Ty so much

@NaomieThompson

Жыл бұрын

My pleasure darling

Thank you

@NaomieThompson

Жыл бұрын

You're welcome Nichole :)

Hello, I just came across this. I love what you said about being in a feminine energy. I feel like I need to have more feminine energy, how do I achieve that? what would help? thank you for your video.

@janamahlich6406

3 жыл бұрын

@@NaomieThompson thank you!

Its so hard to be in my feminine q my husband, he is literally allergic to feelings and emotions, coming from me, himself and everyone else.

Thanks

@williamsbarkley2637

2 жыл бұрын

🙏

Now I know how to know if a girl is a fake one.

@NaomieThompson

Жыл бұрын

Real is where it's at my friend! :)

Can you make video on how to get lover back

HahahaHa... not sure hubby would look good in a skirt lol, nore that he would put one on, thank you for the talk and words of wisdom and your humor. :)

@williamsbarkley2637

2 жыл бұрын

Such a funny lady 😂😂

How could I find a man who doesn't mind a woman with higher masculine energy unless I just need to wait to find a man who accept a my natural masculine energy...

@NaomieThompson

9 күн бұрын

Yes! There are more feminine 'arty type' men who will feel good about letting a masculine woman lead the relationship. This will only work if you both feel truly fulfilled in those energies

💯

Wow as someone who not only loves strategic thinking, but also uses that to make a living that really spoke to me! :) As thinking back to my last successful dates with men or women I definitely didn’t have any agenda and was just enjoying wearing a skirt and having a fun playful time over drinks. I especially liked how you mentioned same sex as well! :)

@NaomieThompson

Жыл бұрын

Jessica I'm so glad this resonated with you!

How did you do this when your a single Mum with 3 kids though ? It’s so difficult 😣 Every day is a task and a challenge to not become the masculine role clearly not present enough in my kids life and to top it off. The state officials, the external pressures of bringing up your kids, finding work that fits around them. Juggling this and that puts you in masculine energy. I’m fully aware of it and I try to get my feminine back. Men clearly see this energy in me because all they do is look at me, they might smile and that’s it !! Exchange and receiving over. Maybe they think she looks like she’s fine on her own and coping but believe me. This situation was not what I truly wanted but it was necessary for my soul to become single. The government don’t appreciate Mothers. They want you to turn Mothers in to men. Make them productive and valuable in society. Make you leave your kids for someone else to look after them so you can become even more tired, vulnerable, washed out, stressed !! I wonder how it is possible to be walking around in my sensual feminine energy with this stigma on my back ?

@NaomieThompson

9 күн бұрын

Darling Sophia I totally get it! I was also a single mum for many years and had to become fiercely independent. There are so many pressures in life that force us into our masculine energy. And parenting is, by it's very nature, masculine problem solving energy. The key here is to find 'feeling moments ' throughout your day. Imagine your thoughts dropping from your head into your body and just feel what's there. That will be a feminine energy moment right there. One baby step. I have another free resource if you want it? 5 Keys To Have The Love You Want audio training naomiethompson.com/freeaudiotraining

I would feel like I'm depending on him to much..

@NaomieThompson

Жыл бұрын

Hi Nina, I understand. In my experience the strength in a woman's feminine energy is when she's learnt to let go of control and be vulnerable. True vulnerability is a woman's superpower. I had to learn this myself! Most of us are raised to do the opposite.

Now I know, I'm a demon. Fuck being a hero.

Idk how to get there 😭

So with modern women either you are too soft or you aren't feminine enough, so damn confusing

@amyj.4992

6 ай бұрын

These feminists don't know what being feminine is

@amyj.4992

6 ай бұрын

I feel like there is a certain type of man, for certain types of women

@NaomieThompson

9 күн бұрын

I know it can feel confusing with all the information out there! In my world feminine energy is strong and soft. It's about being about to feel and express our feeling. I have another free resource if you want it? 5 Keys To Have The Love You Want audio training naomiethompson.com/freeaudiotraining

Im very féminine women. At the moment I am wanting to create a new career and attract a masciline partner. How do I focus on making my career happen in my feminie?

@NaomieThompson

Жыл бұрын

Juliana that's a great question. I'll do a video about this as it's such an important subject. I lead the Rori Raye relationship coach training, I teach the coaches to be led by their dreams and desires. If we could wave a magic wand and you had the career of your dreams how would it feel?

Like hell.Not gonna blow smoke up anyone's butt. Got to be enough for yourself before you can be enough for anyone else. So please don't be something you r not just to get a man to do what he should be man enough to do in the first place it gets exhausting and it's never ending. It just suggests a fragile ego and sounds too manipulative.

how can i get into my feminine energy?

What if a person wants to embody both energies???

@joshuabyrdvictorious8609

2 жыл бұрын

My thoughts exactly. No one talks about the possibility of a man not wanting to be the big tough one. Everyone only talks about getting the man to be more active, and the woman choosing what to do. I wish more sources would let individuals speak for themselves rather than assuming that all men want the exact same thing. Honestly, I'd be offended. I would leave the relationship because of the obvious incompatibility. She thinks I want to be respected for a magical "hero instinct" more than I want love, when the opposite is actually true, all because too many sources try to speak for everyone while putting down on those who don't live up to it. Some of us are fed up with gender rules. Some of us are fed up with mind games. I want a partner, not a damsel in distress. I want a partner, not a subject to rule over. No one speaks up for the men who are not into what a lot of these people say all men are into unless it's to shame them for not being into it and not living up to it. For the woman: whatever you want. For the man: man up, more money, risk your life, lead or else, show off for respect, prefer respect over love or you're unmanly, do more, fix yourself, stop being yourself, follow this instruction book that all men are obligated to follow, x, y, z.

@joshuabyrdvictorious8609

2 жыл бұрын

By "use these energies in our lives", it means for the man to ditch all vulnerability and play the stronger one at all times awake or asleep even if it falls out of alignment with what he actually feels within and if he falls out of line with what is expected of him and opens up what is within him even for a moment, then he is less of a man, weak, fragile, w0rthless. Even if it forces him to be inauthentic, he has to live up to the gender or else he doesn't matter. That's basically the summary of it.

It's not that you need to trigger hero instinct to be successful. It's that you need to see things as they are. Hero instinct is just a catch phrase. It doesn't actually mean anything. There is no actual hero instinct.

@seanleastria4478

3 жыл бұрын

@@NaomieThompson The problem is that there's no need for anybody to feel like anybody's 'hero' either way. Yes you want to be there for each other emotionally. Which goes both ways. The actualized individual independent of any sort of masculine/feminine constructs is a hero to the planet and the poor. But not trying to feel like any sort of hero due to already feeling integrated in himself/herself.

You didn't tell us how so why post this?