As a single, never married woman of 43, I can say I made the exact mistake Matthew M described his friend making: trying to force relationships to work that I probably subconsciously realized would not work. I was just SICK of being single and dating, so I tried to accept things I knew I didn't want to accept about men I dated. Fortunately, none of those relationships worked out, leaving me still available to find the right man -- if he exists. That said, I no longer feel the same desperation to partner up because I'm willing to embrace the "single" label now instead of hatefully and shamefully shunning it and doing everything in my limited power to abandon it. Trying to abandon it left me in an emotionally abusive relationship with a covert narcissist. It wasn't until I saw the expression on one of my closest friend's face that I knew I wasn't crazy and his behavior was unacceptable. Yeah, I'm good being single. It's WAY better than being stuck with a man who sabotages everything for you instead of supporting you. To all my younger friends out there, don't make the same mistakes I did. There are TONS of single people out there. You are NOT alone. Don't rely exclusively on dating apps. Go out and live life. Make new friends. Enjoy life. That's when you attract the most interesting people. I certainly met some great guys in my 30s -- they just weren't for me. But I met them all when I was living life on my terms and loving it. Plus, that inner joy sustains you. It sustained me through that narcissistic relationship and continues to shine. He was never able to break it. And, for the love of God, stop perpetuating cruel dating practices. If someone is kind enough to ask you out that you don't like, politely decline instead of ghosting. Stop sleeping with men right away and take the time to get to know them. Develop friendships to know if you really like them and whether they will become reliable partners. The worthy ones will stick around even if you don't sleep with them right away. The ones who expect it up front aren't going to stick around for long anyway. They're usually in a hurry because they have other options or a wife/fiance/girlfriend at home. Figure out why they're in a rush. But, yeah, slow down, respect yourself, respect others, and enjoy the process. Life is good! Go enjoy it!

@sherriflemming3218

Жыл бұрын

Well said

@01happykat

Жыл бұрын

@@sherriflemming3218 Thank you!

@sherriflemming3218

Жыл бұрын

There are the window shoppers and intebtial daters. Susan Winters has a podcast on this.

@sherriflemming3218

Жыл бұрын

Intentional daters

@jamiesouza

Жыл бұрын

I'm 51... :/

As a woman in my mid 30s, single and ideally wanting a family, this was a timely watch. It reassures my perspective to leave it to God, the universe, etc. because while I would have loved to be married “by now”, I’m not willing to settle for prospectives who barely meet my moral baseline as Matthew M put it. If I’m meant to be a wife and mother, it’ll happen in due time. If not, life will have to trek ahead and I’ll do what I’ve always done when faced with disappointment - make the most of it. I will not attach myself to any single path of an outcome because the reality is that I cannot control it and hence will not force it. Much love and light to me and you (whoever reads this) on our journeys! 💫x

@Angiedelren

Жыл бұрын

Yes, you’re right. I learned this too. My only advice for younger women being now in my early 40s is to freeze your eggs in your 20s and 30s. This way you have options for later in life. I couldn’t do it because of money and then the pandemic then now it’s less effective. Warm wishes!

@acreocrimsonstar

Жыл бұрын

Thank you.. As someone who's been married before, and has been through a lot of stuff with recent relationships and disappointments, I needed to see this. I may have put too much weight on "finding my family" that I might need to actually let it go.

@cmhardin37

Жыл бұрын

Maybe your standards are unrealistic.

@acreocrimsonstar

Жыл бұрын

@@cmhardin37 Have thought about that. 👍

@Phoenix_Rising77

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts 🙏🏽 which resonates sooo much. I'm 45 years old and also still desiring to be married and having at least one child. This video is just on time for us all through this journey 🙌🏽 🙏🏽 Sending everyone love, strength and warm hugs 🥰. Keep rising and shining always no matter what 💛❤️‍🔥🌠⭐️

I recommend the audiobook of 'Green Lights'. It's narrated by Matthew McConaughey and it's like he's telling you about his life over drinks; part memoir, part life lessons.

@muzakdeep

Жыл бұрын

From somebody who is reached master level on Audible, I can attest to this. Out of all the books, I’ve ever listen to, it is one of the best, it is one of those books that’s better to listen than to read.

@4u2cre8

Жыл бұрын

Ah ok. Narrated by Matthew McConaughey. At first I wondered which Matthew, lol

@willardSpirit

Жыл бұрын

While also selling you a Lincoln car? 😅

@estherolajide9960

Жыл бұрын

Link please

@sarahw5075

Жыл бұрын

thank you i have been thinking about this book lately

The past few months I literally let go like Matthew speaks about “finding someone”. I stopped looking and being obsessed. Focused on my life and literally someone that I connect with on every level walked into my life

@MattCantRap

Жыл бұрын

That’s a fantastic testimony! How’d y’all meet?

@NordyCane

Жыл бұрын

@@MattCantRap yoga studio 🧘‍♂️🧘‍♀️

@soraiasakkaidou1588

Жыл бұрын

Wow beautiful 😍

@stephaniesanchez6582

Жыл бұрын

💯

@MattCantRap

Жыл бұрын

@@NordyCane that’s what’s up! I’m working on myself currently so I’m not rushing for anything, but I work yoga into my routine a good amount! great to here that there’s good connection opportunities down that road. Happy for ya Nordy!

I stopped searching, relaxed and got on with my life deciding I was ok and chose to be happy at 47...then one day met my perfect man in a cafe❤ it was natural, easy and turned out our lives had been parallel and synchronistic our entire lives....both travelling and living all over the world but we met when we both returned home at the same time. 5 years later its better than ever together. Trust in yourself and life.😊

Main theses: 1. Be less impressed, more involved 2. Let time to be on your side: you live your life - on your schedule not someone else's. 3. Forgive yourself: forgive yourself if your life is not gonna be the perfect way you've dreamed about. 4. Lean back: don't be in a rush. Did I miss something?

@Minnesotayankee

3 ай бұрын

Number 2 is hard in society now days

@beingfullyme

3 ай бұрын

Love yourself more than the one you are with…

One of the reasons we disregard “red light” or flags or our gut feeling is because we don’t want to judge. That’s a bitter pill. Gut feeling is not judgmental it is a warning.

Happiness has never been something one can find in another person… It comes from within. Realizing THAT is the game changer. Nothing else.

"Less Impressed, More Involved" is such a wonderful 'mantra' this world so desperately needs right now...Sending a warm hug and a sincere thank you to Matthew McConaughey for putting that energy out into the world...

Repeat with me: I don’t chase I attract ❤️🙌🏽✨ This content always inspire me ❤🙌🏽✨

@mr.t993

Жыл бұрын

I hear the same bs from male Pickup artists. In the end *somebody* has to do the *chasing*😂.

@kflecha1

Жыл бұрын

@@mr.t993 😂 well.. good point, but when there’s a mutual attraction is different you both would be there for each other. I believe That mantra is more for people that keep chasing without receiving anything in return or continue in toxic patterns getting back with their exes and chasing people that at the end is not a good match. When you attract and interact with people with your same energy is different 😊 I don’t know if that makes sense 😄

@erin3292

Жыл бұрын

Good explanation

@mgway4661

Жыл бұрын

@@mr.t993but when you do, it will be from a genuine place instead of ego

@MrKrushgutz

11 ай бұрын

You’re just lazy and expect everything handed to you

"Let the art of what you do be what you love"

I've been watching Matthew's videos for years, but it wasn't until about 6 months ago that all of those lessons finally hit me. As a 29 year old female that was very on track to commit the same mistake that McCanaughey's friend had made (i.e. rushing to find "the one"), I'm here to be yet another voice to reassure any one who is currently single and in the same place that I was this time last year that letting go works! The minute I "let go" and just focused on my life, what brings me joy, and began coming to terms with the potentiality of being single for a very long time, the doors swung wide open. I had tried letting go in the past, but it wasn't until it was truly embodied in mind and body that I experienced that switch. I met more quality men to date than ever just by happenstance. As a result of staying true to myself and doing away with the scarcity mindset, I'm now in the happiest and healthiest relationship I've ever been in. A lot of dating simply boils down to serendipity, and believe me when I say the more time you spend chasing a "maybe" or trying to force something to work, you're losing the time you would otherwise have to meet the right person. I made this mistake over and over, and can attest that saying "no" now is far better in the medium and long term. The right person will make things feel effortless, and will consistently go above and beyond for you. It's worth mentioning that what helped get me here was a period of celibacy. It's not the right answer for everyone, however it's what worked best for me. I felt a lot of societal pressure to go out and explore my sexuality in my early 20s through promiscuity despite knowing deep down, it just wasn't for me. I didn't succumb to the pressure via my actions, but it definitely altered how I looked at myself and what I prioritized as I was dating. Once I stopped looking down at myself for not wanting to have casual sex and embraced that side of me, vetting men became wildly easier and more enjoyable. I was able to stay clear headed and truly get to know the men I was talking to without letting the flurry of physical chemistry cloud my judgement as it always had in the past. As another commenter said, life is good! Go enjoy it :)

@annebowles550

9 ай бұрын

How do you let go??😢

@dani300391

8 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this 💛

@bm5_5_5

7 ай бұрын

Wow as a 29 year old woman who has just about let go I needed to see this 🎉❤🙏☺️ I’ve completely focused on me in 2023 and I have THRIVED like never before! Dare I say this has been the best year of my life so far. No coincidence. I’m all geared up for this new incoming decade 🎉

@ms_beastie

5 ай бұрын

@@annebowles550 meditation

Such a true aspect. You see red lights and you don t run away, you stay thinking it s a red light to fight more, to sacrifice more of yourself...but it never has an happy ending.

Very comforting advice. At 38, I can relate by accepting my life as it is and be at peace (single, no children yet). I must remain positive and open though, to allow the right man to enter my life. Thank you Matthews 😊 x

@sundancerday2278

Жыл бұрын

39, no kids, never married, still believing I'll find love, BUT this time with the right mindset. I try openness, vulnerability and optimism instead of thinking badly of everyone... ("he's just gonna hurt me anyway..." Well, what if not?)

@MrKrushgutz

11 ай бұрын

Geriatric pregnancy is where you would be if you get pregnant now

@rabblerousin8981

10 ай бұрын

@@MrKrushgutzlol at thinking you have something to add to these two ladies’ knowledge of pregnancy after 35. Go get back to making your woman miserable or chafing yourself.

@LeifGarretstein

6 ай бұрын

She never said anything aboot pregnancy. That was really mean spirited, coach. You dont think she is aware of her age and what having progeny now entails? Lol

Glad everyone is loving the conversation I had with Matthew. Thanks for being here and sharing a little of your time with me as always. I hope you’re having a beautiful day and that this video helps you find just a little more peace today. Sending love to everyone. ❤ P.S. For anyone asking, the link to Matthew’s free online event on the 24th of April is www.MHLivin.com

@zizi4372

Жыл бұрын

Which matthew now? 😂

@theresamarie714

Жыл бұрын

I was already signed up but this was a great video too💝🙏 ps: I figured out your theme song & now it’s on my fave list❣️

@hannahvee3497

Жыл бұрын

How did you drop back into my feed/life when I needed building up the most 😭❤️ can I join the 30 day community still? I'll just keep going afterwards on my own to make up the time?!

@lulublue5680

Жыл бұрын

How can we ask a question or in contact

@jaxlok

Жыл бұрын

I Wish Matthews event was on the weekend, I had to work that when he had it 😢

You guys have had this conversation at such a good point in your lives, where you’ve learnt from past experiences but have a youthful hunger for growth. Thanks for sharing

The timing of this dropping is crazy for me. I’ve been following since 2016! And STILL learning. Thank you so much for this! ❤

I’ll be there ! So excited to be apart of this. Thank you Matthew for being someone I continually lean on over and over again through the last couple of years of my life going through one of the most difficult break ups that took me to dark places and crippled me. In the car, doing laundry where ever I had a chance to listen to your voice and advice it literally helped me get through the toughest days. Thank you for being you! ❤

his kids must learn so much from him. what a man. he is so wise.

This was a powerful podcast for me. This is exactly what I needed to hear at the moment. Thank you both Mathew. I took the day off for the Art of Living event. I cannot wait to dive in.

Matthew is such a gifted storyteller. It is always a pleasure listening to him. One message that really resonates with me is that we should learn from our crisis. What did we do wrong and how can we shift our behavior to get back in line? An insight that we learn from past experiences is much stronger than mere resolutions, Thank you Matthew!

I am SMILING with the love and peace I feel in my heart listening to the conversation between Matthew H and Matthew Mc. Thank you! 🙏❤️

Loved this interview. Ordered the book and taking part in the event on the 24th. Looking forward to it. So inspirational hearing Matthew McConaughey’s phrases. Thank you for sharing this interview Matthew Hussey.

Making peace and acceptance of how things are, where you are and what may be. Absolutely hit me! Walking through that journey now. Brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing this conversation!

I attended this and it was so good. I feel energized. I'm going through a divorce right now. I've been married for 26 years to a covert narcissist and I'm breaking free and am going to live my best life. ❤

@lilliepad24

2 ай бұрын

Good for you! You will not regret it

@pinkwater4891

Ай бұрын

How was he acting with you?

It’s amazing how synchronicity works. I started following you on Instagram a few months ago, then watched true detective S1. After that discovered Matthew’s seminar and finally noticed you two knew each other and share so much love. Definitely walking the right path!

Losing my Dad this past January has lit a fire under me to close my business and start living my bucket list. A gift! Loved Greenlights- listened to it twice.

We always get the story of the “loser” on high school but rarely of the popular kid, really interesting point of view 👏🏽

If more people in the world went about their lives with these level headed perspectives it would truely be a better place. Awesome interview thanks 👏

I haven't even finished watching but wanted to comment how much I'm enjoying this candid chat with Matthew M! 😊 It is inspiring.

Big fan of this dude, read his book through the pandemic and have watched all of his movies. Such an interesting person! Matt interviewing Matt...GOLD!!

This was an amazing interview 👏 Thank you for sharing it 🌸 Just signed up, and will most definitely be attending this event ✨

“We" attract this "Moment" 🙏🏻phenomenal moment, realistic message for life ahead of us, such a precious moment.. Thank you Matthew Hussey and Matthew McConaughey⭐️👏🙏🏻

I also took from this video that although we need to live in the moment and be “less impressed and more involved” we need to be strategic with our time in order to set ourselves up to be in that head space. To me, this means not wasting time in relationships that we know are going to hit a dead end, and not waiting to do the things we’ve always wanted to out of fear. The world is our oyster but we don’t have forever to do it.

@Christianvaldez12

25 күн бұрын

Haha I messed up with my ex she’s thinks we are a dead end

I'm in!! Can't wait!! I've always loved McConaughey's work and many of the interviews he's done over the years have been incredible! Looking forward to it!!

Thanks to both of you, the insights were so worthwhile and being given the opportunity to finally hear what really speaks to my current situation as a positive path in my decision to "Be Still and reflect on what's of value to me for my future". Less impressed and more involved is such a gem 💎 will keep it in mind as I move forward within my relationship with myself and others. 😊

This was amazing! Thank you “Matthews” for this so helpful work🙏♥️

What an amazing interview ❤ I had already signed up but thx for sharing this moment anyway🙏🏻

Thank you for your valuable advice you won’t imagine the impact your videos have had in my life, God Bless you

Matthew Hussey I listen to you almost every day….. I Love your dating advice!!!! My dating life is a work in progress for sure ❤️😂

My two favorite and most genuine Matthews in the whole world ❤

Loved this video so much!!! Thank you Matt(s)!!! Coming in peace with the present and reality instead of fantasizing- daydreaming when the future is unknown … it can be a very dangerous & toxic cycle. Glad I found happiness within myself. Peace with being alone. Loving myself immensely… & now… I’m smitten with someone with all the green lights! Slowing DOWN is key!!!!

Matthew is dead on about parents passing away. It sobers you up. It truly life changing. And dead on about that pedestal stuff too.

An interesting synchronicity… This past week I signed up for both of the Mathews’ retreat and challenges that they had this week. I’m so excited to be part of their inspiration!

I admire Matthew McConaughey as an actor and as a person (well, at least those traits that he demonstrates during his interviews or in books); Thank you for this fruitful conversation. I enjoyed every piece of it☺

Delightful. Just brought Matthew McConaughey's book while travelling interstate. Only two copies left at that shop. Really grateful. Thank you so much. Great presentation :)

I simply LOVED this amazing conversation you had with Matthew.

I have only just come across you in the last 2 days & watched this as i just admire Matthew McConaughey so much - I have watched a few of his podcasts, he is so grounded & spiritual I am gutted I missed the seminar, but i have ordered his book & subscribed to your channel Thank you for all you do

This really spoke to me! Here i am thinking that my issues were unique because no one can relate to me on said issues. Apparently Mathew knows exactly what I'm going through. Thank you!

Wow, awesome! Just signed up. I absolutely ❤ seeing authentic conversations like this

I was married for 10 years in my 20s, I would love to have a partner but if it doesn’t happen I’m still going to be ok. Amen.

Matthew is magical... he can somehow understand and clarify Matthew's obscure ideas.

Thank you for this conversation you had w/ Matthew McConaughey. Altho I have admired his acting for years, I never found him relatable until this conversation. Perhaps it's because we are the same age, I can relate to his perspectives on personal growth & love life in our later years. Thank you!

Always the best to keep it real and incredibly honest. Mathew is awesome.

This was wonderful. Thank you for sharing! ❤

I want to remember and live by every word of this because it is SO true.

Hey Matthew, fantastic video! Thank you so much for everything you do. I had my girlfriend of 4 years break up with me 3 months ago and I’ve been struggling everyday since, but I’ve been watching your videos now everyday for the last month and a half and everyday I can say they make me feel better and more motivated! So thank you. Also what an amazing interview thank you for getting McConaughey to do this interview and letting all of us hear his words along with yours. I can’t wait to read his book now, and I can’t wait for your book to come out so I can read that too!

Already booked to be there ….totally loved the book & absolutely excited for this event w/ Mathew & have been following Tony ..Dean for years !! ❤️ Also great guests that I also follow …Marie & Trent !! See you on the 24th !! ⭐️💕

What an incredible and inspiring conversation, thanks Matt

"This neat and tidy way is the only way I can be happy" - that is it right there. That belief system can destroy the possibility of happiness (and growth and truly living life) so quickly! What a great conversation - thank you!

This was simply and amazing video, I've always like Matthew McConaughey. Just a very laid back and really puts my life in words perfectly. Great job Mathew Hussey ! Thank you for sharing this incredible video!

Listening to my 2 favorite Matthews is great ! So much wisdom... loved Greenlights.

This is awesome. I have registered. I love the energy in your conversation.

Thank you sooo much for this very poignant and significant conversation!! It made me cry at my core from a place of real awakening!!

YES!! Start enjoying the moment and appreciate Life!! Great advice Mr. Mathew!!

This was great. I didn’t realize that men get nervous at a certain stage in life also. Thank you!

This man is amazing. I've seen some of his interviews and he is so authentic, wise and humble.. Thank you for this video!! It was a pleasure to spend this half an hour with you, Mathews😃🥰❤️

Very beautiful conversation I loved it thanks for sharing the link yes I attended the free MM live event and I loved and appreciated what every speaker had to say😍

I was married twice to the wrong women, it was better to be single then suffer in a loveless marriage. Now I am divorced and happy, I think they are happier too!

Love the fact so many of MH latest vids are titled 'Don't chase!' Obviously MH is reminding us how important it is to not chase, a friendly reminder!! ♡♡ If they show interest then simply show interest in return xx🩷🩷🧚‍♀️🧚‍♂️

@coolbreeze5683

Жыл бұрын

Reminds me that scene in "My Best Friend's Wedding" when Rupert Everett tells Julia Roberts "Michael is chasing Kimmy and you're chasing Michael but who's chasing you? No one, get it? He wants Kimmy." It sounded harsh but she had to accept that her attempt to break them up for her own selfish reasons was useless 😂 I always think of that when someone says they are romantically pursuing another person. Are they pursuing you back? No? Then move on 😆

Matt is incredibly engaging, and conveys an enormous amount of experience

When I turned 30 I met a guy I thought was “the One” but after some time there were red flags. I wanted so badly to be married and start a family I ignored them. I told myself if I have to start over it could take years to find the right person and I may miss my chance to become a mother. Fast forward 23 years I had a daughter but I had a very unhappy marriage. It ended in divorce. now I’m 55 and feeling a different kind of pressure to find the relationship I always hoped for because I feel like the best years are behind me. It’s not a good mindset I know!! But hearing Matthew talk about being at peace if it never happens is what I need to find first before the person. Thank you for that.

@michelleg925

Ай бұрын

Totally relate to this situation. Remember you don't have to accept being single until you die. The right partner was meant for you and will find you if you're open to it. 🙏

Thank you. I really enjoyed this interview. Matthew has a way of being in the world that radiates outward. The red car story made me laugh.The truck definitely suits him better.

I am so excited for this event! and I'm going to find his book

I am going to keep coming back to this. It's exactly what I need to hear and yes such a pressure valve release! Thank you to both Matthews. I very much believe that it's better to let life flow rather than resist what is, but I'll need to keep forgiving the part of myself that finds it hard to let go of the control.

Oh my word!!! Epic stuff! Thank you Matt and Matt! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

Matthew, You did a great job interviewing MM. It was so refreshing that you weren't the typical sycophant because MM is a famous Hollywood actor. You were warm and genuine. And as a result, your brought out the same qualities in MM. Nicely done.

I agree % I wish Matthew McConaughey had his book out a lot sooner. Not now that I am 50 years. Lol… This was one of the best interviews I have ever seen. I learned so much. Thank you both. Blessing and much light in all your successes.✨🙏🎼

amazing episode! thank you ❤

Thank you so much Matt! For inviting Matthew Mc to come have a talk like this. This is definitely refreshing. And make me reset my paradigm for my life. Thank you! It is a pleasing and wonderful video. I learned a lot. 🙏

Thank u so much ♥I joined the event, can't wait for it😍

I really like the prospective that Matthew put out. Like the forcing yourself into a relationship to beat a timeline

The red light part of the conversation is amazing!

I will be at the beginning of the event. I hope it's recorded and we have access to the playback. Unfortunately I can't take 4 hours out of my work day. 😟 Thank you for making this available to us!

One of the things that made the most impact on me in this conversation was when Matthew McConaughey talked about his dream and him realising that all he needed to do was surrendering. I think that's a powerful thing to do to simply surrender and trust oneself, trust the process, life and natural way of life.

I loved this so much! Everything he said, tell me I am doing the right thing. That’s exactly we’re I am right now. I am loving and happy with myself! I had stopped looking around and then like magical! He appeared! And we are talking and getting to know each other! He speak with Gods language, and so I do! Before loving anybody is God and myself! Sending many blessings to all of you!

My 2 favorite Matthews with great minds! You can not beat that.

Totally signed up! Thank you😊

I don’t know what Matthew had the biggest smile. I think my baby did. Keep raising the bar 💗

Thank you for this video. Good luck Matthew!!

Just finished reading the book (after I enrolled in the event, and looking forward to participate in it!) Great to have the processes (and Tony Robbins knows how to create). Just as one of the messages in the book says: Live a life more interesting then the life of the persona you created (your current movie)!

Taking the afternoon off for this! Can't wait!❤

I definitely want to watch his class on April 24th!! This interview is so good! I really like the concept of being less impressed and more involved, and also Matthew McConaughey gave great relationship advice.

Great interview I registered joining the VIP room can’t wait to get some insight how we can reinvent our next chapter ❤😊 wisdom from experience

I love this so much & how Matthew Hussey connects the little events i the boom to love & relationship! That must have taken a lot of work 👌

Thank you for the 40 Mins of delights of two beautiful Matthews :)

"I forgave the possibility of that not being the outcome...". "Forgive your own ideal that there is only one way...". ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ this, and yes, this "forgiveness" is divinely liberating!

Which a good interview!! Proud of you!! 🎉

Thank you for this wonderful video. ❤

It's so cool. I believe I discovered you in high school, or early college. I am now in my 30s and I still come to your page after every breakup. Lol