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@leanen451

8 ай бұрын

Shame on you!

@riles_doodles

8 ай бұрын

Do not accept more sponsorships from Better Help. They violate HIPPA laws.

@leanen451

8 ай бұрын

He knows. People tell him every time. He just keeps taking their money cause he doesnt care@@riles_doodles

@magreden

8 ай бұрын

That company is a scam. Do NOT use them. He’s only advertising them because they pay him

@MADC-9116

8 ай бұрын

Why didn’t you capitalize the I today?

As horrifying as this story is, I want everyone reading this to take note: what the husband doing is gaslighting. Not just lying, not just keeping the truth obscured, but doing so in a way that made his wife doubt her perception of reality. THIS is gaslighting, a specific form of mental abuse that actually means something.

@Official_Doge

8 ай бұрын

Came here to say this. He sounds like a covert narcissist, because what the OP was describing is textbook gaslighting

@PyroRoadScout

8 ай бұрын

The term 'gaslighting' is way over used nowadays, so I'm glad you're pointing it out here. This was absolutely a real case of gaslighting thanks to the husband trying to convince OP that she herself bought the clothes and dressed the daughter, on top of everything else that he claimed was "all in your head"

@KirbyKips

8 ай бұрын

I feel like what OP’s husband did is gaslighting in its pure form. OP knew everything he said wasn’t true, but he still managed to convince her it was. I would say it’s insane how she fell for it, but I have ADHD and the same kind of thing can happen to me, even without any outside influence. If I ever ended up with someone like him who exploited that weakness to make me believe complete lies, I’d be gone in a heartbeat.

@Clairski3

8 ай бұрын

Right?! The term ‘gaslighting’ gets thrown around so often in the wrong contexts on Reddit. THIS story is the textbook example of gaslighting. Gradual, calculated and systematic.

@dinolover8183

8 ай бұрын

@@Official_Doge we are not doing the narcissist thing m8 anyone can gaslight

Oh God I remember reading the tampon story on BORU. This is the only "is my partner cheating" story that actually turned out to be WORSE than expected.

@Lara-hb1yn

8 ай бұрын

I know! I read it on Reddit and must have missed the update 😮 like I didn't think it would go that way in a million year's!

@logirl1975

8 ай бұрын

I had missed this reveal. Just absolutely gob smacked. The husband is literally just as bad as his sister.

@11epicnoob

8 ай бұрын

The one story that would've been better if it ended up with it being an affair

@Catherine.Dorian.

8 ай бұрын

I wish there was one more update telling us how screwed he was

@Lara-hb1yn

8 ай бұрын

@@Catherine.Dorian. me too, I really want to know what happens with the police and divorce.

It is literally illegal for sex offenders to be anywhere near minors. The Husband should be permabanned from his kids. And the sister should be AT LEAST life with zero parole.

@Randomness662

8 ай бұрын

"It's illegal for someone to do something against the law"

@diegomendez7112

8 ай бұрын

​@@Randomness662engaging in criminal activity is considered criminal activity

@chaosstripe9446

8 ай бұрын

No, the husband should be locked up too. He aided and abetted a crime.

@Darthlucy1

8 ай бұрын

@@chaosstripe9446 yes, and also permabanned from his kids

@Wendy_O._Koopa

8 ай бұрын

@@Randomness662 Nine one one what is your emergency? What do you mean you’re being murdered? That’s illegal people can’t do that!

Please do more research on the bad side of Better Help. There's a lot of shady and wrong things that they've done and promoting them isn't a good thing.

@JadeAnnabelArt

8 ай бұрын

Agreed! I've heard so many horror stories. Sure there's some good among them, but the majority is horrible.

@zerokyuuni

8 ай бұрын

The scammer known as rSlash does not care. This is not the first time he's taken a sponsorship from that company and got flak for it. This time, he hid the sponsorship at the end to hopefully sneak it by people

@splitinsanity1139

8 ай бұрын

​@zerokyuuni tbf r/slash has put many sponsorships at the start and end of his videos. But he may be legally required to still speak about better help because of a contract, perhaps the contract hasn't run out yet since they can go on for a while. Let's just hope no one signs up. Where I live you get mental health therapy for free so and if I remember correctly quite a few of his listeners live where I do so thats few people who won't have a a need for them.

@mossymosscreature

8 ай бұрын

@@splitinsanity1139 From what I understand they sign on for like 5-10 promos at a time. It's been a while since the last one so I'm assuming he's really spacing them out and put it at the end so less people would see it as a way of protecting them, not to hide his shame. I hope there won't be too many more

@sennievee6833

8 ай бұрын

I tried them and it really wasn’t for me.

The first story the husband is total trash. The husband's sister internationally left those tampons to either implicate Fiona as an affair partner or to otherwise get op and her husband to break up. Which good for OP, worked. And now there's a good chance the father and his sister will never be able to see those kids again. I'm so glad that OP stuck to her guns in her suspicions and is keeping her kids safe.

@thehogusha4342

8 ай бұрын

The fact that she was possibly trying to break them up is terrifying, because the husband could found the footage, erased the evidence, have convinced the judge that op's mental health and false accusations made her an unfit mother, and gotten sole custody of the kids. Then, she would have had more time to do far worse things to them since he was even ok with leaving them alone with her.

@sophietremblay3795

8 ай бұрын

@@thehogusha4342 imagine that possibility holy moly terrifying I don’t want to imagine her touching the kids 🤮

@thehogusha4342

8 ай бұрын

@@sophietremblay3795 The worst part is that she wants to "reconcile with everyone she hurt", possibly including her victim. Hopefully the rest of the family isn't as messed up as the husband, I can imagine her showing up will traumatize her victim and terrify the other relatives who had kids while she was imprisoned.

@sophietremblay3795

8 ай бұрын

@@thehogusha4342 yeah Jesus Christ it’s so messed up

@AzureKyle

8 ай бұрын

​@sophietremblay3795 The sad thing is, it may have already happened.

2023: The regulatory body further calls BetterHelp to pay $7.8 million to consumers as a part of a settlement over allegations it shared sensitive health information with third parties such as social media platforms and digital advertisers. The FTC says the company doubled down on deception by falsely denying it had shared consumers' personal information - including their health information - with third parties. The eight-count complaint details how the FTC says BetterHelp's allegedly deceptive and unfair practices harmed consumers. The professional KZreadrs, who shared personal mental health struggles as part of their ads, faced backlash when it came out that they were paid for each customer who signed up for BetterHelp through their unique links-sometimes up to $200 per person. Do not trust the BetterHelp therapists. They are so sketch," said O'Hara. "My one session with a BetterHelp therapist retraumatized me to the point where I don't know if I'll ever go back to therapy again." O'Hara alleged the therapist was confused by her diagnosis of CPTSD (complex post-traumatic stress disorder), seemingly not understanding what the term meant, and expected the patient to describe the differences between CPTSD and PTSD.

@JadeAnnabelArt

8 ай бұрын

Digging everywhere through the comments to find people speaking up about this. I panicked hard when he mentioned the sponsor, but when I couldn't find many comments, I was worried I got the wrong company.

@crizmeow8394

8 ай бұрын

I don’t understand how they keep getting promoted in 2023

@audreym3908

8 ай бұрын

I agree, but he probably has a written contract that may not have ended yet. Some contracts with companies can be months or up to a year or two and they can't break it without legal precautions.

@kentario1610

8 ай бұрын

​@@audreym3908 I really hope that's the case instead of him agreeing continuously to promote them.

@Wendy_O._Koopa

8 ай бұрын

@@audreym3908 He probably doesn't know. So few of his videos are sponsored, I don't keep track, but it's like once a month, if that? This is almost assuredly a new sponsor.

Story 1: Not only is an offender the source of the problem, but the husband is putting the kids near her behind OP's back (which I'm pretty sure is a SUPER no-no when it comes to the registry), and then when OP finds out, he decides to gaslight? Cameras don't lie, why even try? The husband needs to go as much as the sister-in-law.

@xLostInFirex

8 ай бұрын

also, let's not forget he probably told the children to not tell mom or lie when asked

@TheHitsubasa

8 ай бұрын

I hope she is able to divorce ASAP if she hasn’t already and has full custody and moves far away cutting all contact with the husband. I would MUCH rather prefer an affair over THIS.

@Davtwan

8 ай бұрын

He probably thought his sister would never be dumb enough to use the door with the Ring camera. 😂

@littlesongbird1

8 ай бұрын

Makes me wonder...was he also complacent the abuse that got her in jail? Perhaps he also molested family members but was never caught? Why was he leaving his sister alone with these girls and letting her change them, etc.?

@HarmonyOC

8 ай бұрын

It's one thing to give someone a second chance, but don't do it in secret and let your wife know, the husband isn't just trash but straight up dangerous

I was so disappointed to hear you have partnered with better help. You realize they are just a medical datamining company right? They sell the data, even the transcripts of your sessions, to various companies. Please don't fall for this scam!!! They have multiple lawsuits against them right now for a reason!

@JadeAnnabelArt

8 ай бұрын

Hey thank you, I also left a comment, but it's one among many unrelated comments. I thought I was going crazy when I couldn't find anyone else bringing it up, but seeing yours gave me hope.

@leanen451

8 ай бұрын

yes he knows. last time he did this everyone in the comments let him know. And honestly even if they didnt, he should research before taking the sponsorship anyways... He just doesnt give a shit

@maris7457

8 ай бұрын

thanks for explaining. i was out of the loop. the other comments confused me. that's f'd

@wendy-zarate

8 ай бұрын

I've seen many content creators partner up with Better Help and I always get disappointed too when I see them talk wonders about the company followed by sign up using my code. Better Help is known to not be HIPPA compliant. Shame!

@TQuinn-yy9wy

8 ай бұрын

​@@leanen451 It could be the fact that Better Help traps people in sponsorship contracts and he could face massive fines and other legal issues for not going through with it?

It says a lot when a cheating husband is the *better* route.

Hey Rslash. I love your content, but I'm really worried about your sponsor choice. I've heard so many nightmare stories about that company, people being incredibly unprofessional (Not knowing what CPTSD is, trying to market their religion to people who specifically asked for non religious therapists, blaming people for their depression, and even taking a sh*t during a zoom call). Some people have a great time, but when the amount of horror stories is as many as I've found, it becomes something you want to avoid. I encourage you to do some research please.

@zerokyuuni

8 ай бұрын

The scammer known as rSlash literally doesn't care. He'll take any sponsor's money

@neilschroeder7854

8 ай бұрын

@@zerokyuuniif he’s a scammer, why are you here?

@Wendy_O._Koopa

8 ай бұрын

@@zerokyuuni Okay, now that's too harsh. I'll ride Dabney "Slashy" Bailey's ass when he lies in his thumbnails, or gives a bad take here or there, but one thing he is _not_ is a scammer. -Unless you count lying in your thumbnails as a scam, but almost everybody does that.- Um anyhow, never attribute to malice what can be attributed to incompetence.

@magreden

8 ай бұрын

@@Wendy_O._Koopa typically I'd agree with you, but it appears he doesn't seem to care right now. I don't see him interacting with comments, he doesn't even acknowledge making mistakes anymore. It's starting to feel like a content farm channel

@magreden

8 ай бұрын

@@neilschroeder7854 the same reason people comment on Blair’s videos? To warn people

The only criticism I have for the first story is her calling her husband upon seeing this woman before calling the cops. If I knew a registered chomo was around my child idc who they are or who else is there, cops are getting called immediately to remove that person.

@cosmically4286

8 ай бұрын

I mean it sounds like OP didn’t know it was his sister at first , it makes sense that she didn’t know what she looks like since she hasn’t seen her in years and the sister rightfully got excluded from the family

@Sacred_Sabre

8 ай бұрын

Chimo*

@wowgek7

8 ай бұрын

the cops would have to remove me instead because I would unalive the culprits

@maxwhite8616

8 ай бұрын

​@@wowgek7I would say though it sounds like she wasn't doing anything shady to the children so in this case I have to disagree.

@wowgek7

8 ай бұрын

@@maxwhite8616I wasnt talking about her in this case but that guy who thinks its an good idea to leave 2 small kids alone for an whole night with an P.

Story 1: you mis spoke R/, a registered sex offender who assaulted a child in her own family, and had put clothes on one of their kids. But the worst part was his excuse for all of this, he hid this whole thing from his wife and made her think there was something mentally wrong with her, is because he knew she wouldn't want this woman around there kids. He'll be lucky if he gets supervised visits, hell he's already lucky you didn't run to your house and murder him for having his kids spend the night at her house.

@Megabot_6000

8 ай бұрын

😅😊

@Mewse1203

8 ай бұрын

People use the term Gaslight a lot and it's usually wrong, but this is one of those stories where dude absolutely gaslighted her.

@amazingspiderlad

8 ай бұрын

No, the husband lying about it is not the "worst part". Can we please hold female offenders accountable for their actions?

@justaperson4656

8 ай бұрын

​@@amazingspiderladof course we need to hold sex offenders accountable for their actions, but we also need to hold people like OPs husband accountable for not only allowing, but actively encouraging their behaviour. Giving a registered offender full access to kids like that is encouraging it.

@Wendy_O._Koopa

8 ай бұрын

@@justaperson4656 Okay, but​ @amazingspiderlad's point still stands. the husband gaslighting (while still bad) is hardly worse than the _literal_ sex offender. If it were murder, who would be worse the murderer, or the accomplice for aiding and abetting?

If the wife in the first story can gather enough solid evidence, that'll be an open and shut case for her to get full custody.

@chaosstripe9446

8 ай бұрын

She has the ring camera footage. That should be enough right?

@missvoorhees7964

8 ай бұрын

​@chaosstripe9446 I was almost killed by my ex and he never saw a single day in jail,if anything the courts tried to force us to do their version of marriage counselling. Even with all the evidence you could possibly get the abuser won't be punished so no,I doubt the ring footage will be enough

@abiean222

8 ай бұрын

@@missvoorhees7964 the justice system is so fucking corrupt.

@wmdkitty

8 ай бұрын

And put SIL back behind bars. OP needs to document, document, document!

@FearMyLadyBits

7 ай бұрын

​@@chaosstripe9446plus the woman's criminal record and registry status, plus any texts/ voicemails from hubby. 'cause most likely in family court, hubs will say stuff like, "I never left the children alone with her, I was present at all times" or "she never stayed the night" that OP needs to nail him on.

This is what gaslighting is people!!! That term gets tossed out so much that I feel a lot of people don't understand what it really means anymore. The husband was doing something bad that he knew OP wouldn't agree with and instead of coming clean about it he made OP think herself crazy to cover his misdeeds up. He is such a tool and his sister wanted him to tell OP about her hence the breadcrumbs she laid. If they really wanted to reconnect why couldn't they leave the kids out of it!? because it is not what the sister wants she wants to be forgiven right away for everything she did and have access to the kids as almost "proof" she is "not really a predator" when this is 100% predator behavior! If the husband really wanted his sister back in his life he could have done that openly and without putting his kids in harm's way but that would have been too to logical...

While I fully empathise with your mental health situation, ***please*** stop taking sponsorships from BetterHelp. They are not worth it. Please, please look into potential sponsors for issues, especially when it comes to sensitive things like mental health.

@sydneyslaughter7163

8 ай бұрын

What do you mean “not worth it”?

@rochie4865

8 ай бұрын

​@@sydneyslaughter7163better help is not a good company. There's a few KZread videos about it

@ButterfliesAreNinjas

8 ай бұрын

Agreed as there are three class action lawsuits against them. One of my RN psychiatric friends had them steal her credentials and posted them on their site illegally! Disgusting

@blakethememe3840

8 ай бұрын

@@sydneyslaughter7163 they sell sensitive data and many people have had really bad experiences.

@QueArres

8 ай бұрын

@@sydneyslaughter7163 There's been some troubling controversy with them, to start. Selling data, namely. Also, they don't have psychiatrists, but psychologists, which perform different roles in the practice of mental health therapy. It's complicated, but problematic.

As someone who was sold to a pedo for a pack of beer by my dad, do not let those kids near him. You never heal from it.

@mattybrunolucaszeneresalas9072

7 ай бұрын

Who?

are we really still taking sponsorships from *BetterHelp*? yikes.

@zerokyuuni

8 ай бұрын

Not only taking them, but the scammer known as rSlash is now hiding them at the end of his videos and now including the legally required declarations in text form because he can't take criticism

@ravenpoe7093

8 ай бұрын

Wow. I never heard stuff about that company. I guess I’ve been under a rock cause there’s so much said about them for a long time. Guess R Slash is under a rock too but hopefully these call outs will knock some sense into him. Even if they help him its a scammy company I wouldn’t want to promote

@leanen451

8 ай бұрын

it wont. cause the same call outs happened a month ago on one of his uploads. He doesnt care.@@ravenpoe7093

@SentaiYamaneko

8 ай бұрын

@@ravenpoe7093 Might be trapped in a contract. These companies do that; trick someone into sponsoring them and threaten legal action if they try to back out.

@ravenpoe7093

8 ай бұрын

@@SentaiYamaneko oh that sucks. But thanks to all who mentioned it. I guess i never noticed it or read the comments before

That first story is wild. Listening along was one hell of a rollercoaster. I was not expecting it to be his pedo sister

@CP-ho2wj

8 ай бұрын

And all of the gaslighting. My god.

So the problem with the sister in the first story isn't that she's a recovering predator, it's that all recovering predators have agreed what helps is trying to not have to be near kids again. The fact that she's eagerly going around the kids means she's slipping, and the brother wouldn't be able to tell he doesn't work around predators or recovery for such vices.

@mejimiky

7 ай бұрын

You work with predators?

@mattybrunolucaszeneresalas9072

7 ай бұрын

I mean some like little kids and some like teens. The more I think about it, this isn’t like avoiding alcohol because you’re an addict. This is just other humans and one needs to be …. Rehabilitated? Trained? Suffice it to say you can live without being near alcohol but kids?? Mmm more tricky.

@christopherjones8448

7 ай бұрын

She's not slipping. She doesn't give af. She jumped on a chance to be alone with and *dress* young children, I hope she is in prison again.

The first story spoke volumes on the character of her husband. Not only did he gaslight her for weeks, but he also knowingly allowed a sex offender near their children. Yeah, divorce his hide because you can't trust someone who endangers their own children.

@Urrarg

8 ай бұрын

Not just let them near the kids, he left them alone with her because he brought them there and lied to the wide saying they were at their grandparents.

Story 1: I never thought I would need to tell my bf that I would rather him let his mistress dress my child before his sex offender sister

Ow hell no, if I was the woman in story 1, the police, social service, every over protective uncle and grandfather would all get a call within the next 30 seconds.

OP’s ex bff did her a favor, if he wants to be Mason’s daddy then let him. OP lost nothing of value by ending those two relationships.

Damn that first story is wild. A cheating spouse would have been better than the actual truth. I'm almost certain that his sister isn't allowed to be near any children. That's usually how it is for RSOs. Can't be around kids, schools or playgrounds.

That first story is horrific. Parents who involve their kids with… those “people” deserve to never see their children again. I hope she gets custody and never has to see him again.

Story 2: Sounds like he was only after OP's money (NICU nurses in Minnesota make quite a lot per year), and it's possible that the streamer thing is a lie. Maybe that's why he was lying about his sexuality. Oh, and this is unrelated to the Reddit Post but it's been known that BetterHelp is not a trusted place for therapy. There's been quite a lot of evidence and testimonies Honestly more surprised that BH still gives out sponsors then people still taking them. Stubbornness can come from anywhere, I suppose

Story 1: Him losing the kids depends on the judge. There are plenty of judges out there willing to force a child/parent relationship with the child's abuser.

@tatkkyo9911

8 ай бұрын

She's registered and would be in violation of her terms of release.

@insu_na

8 ай бұрын

@@tatkkyo9911 The husband's sister, yes. But the husband is not. There are a lot of judges that force kids to live with their abusers by using the "parental alienation" pseudoscience argument

@PaintSplashProductions

8 ай бұрын

And the kids end up cutting all contact as soon as they are legally able to

@Wendy_O._Koopa

8 ай бұрын

Unfortunately, yes. My dad got every other weekend in the divorce, despite (among many other things, including an affair) having his buddy, a registered child sex offender, babysit us on multiple occasions. While I don't remember being molested, when it came up in court, the judge waved his finger at Dad and said, "Now, you really shouldn't do that." That was the extent of his punishment.

@Urrarg

8 ай бұрын

It's honestly unlikely a judge would side with the dad because even sketchy judges don't like addicts so "I left my kids alone over night with a known drug addict" is not going to go over well even if that person wasn't also convicted sex offenders. It also sounds like they're in the US, so even if a judge did make that ruling there's the Court of Appeals. And they don't tend to have a positive view of parents who knowingly bring children around registered sex offenders (nvm leaves them alone overnight unsupervised with one). They either deny them custody or remove their parental rights altogether for that. There's almost no other outcome once a custody case hits the Court of Appeals when a registered sex offender and children are involved. Especially when the sex offense itself involved children.

Second story, it isn't his sexuality that made him a POS. There are a lot of people in the closet who are still a decent partner and person. He was just a leech 🙄

Okay but the way he read "in our house, with our children" as "in MY house, with MY children" gave me chills LMAO

Here I was thinking "could this be even worse than your typical cheating story?" And OMFG, it was. Yeah, scorched earth is the only acceptable answer here.

Story 1: Well…i would say that the video footage of Op’s stbx bringing his young children around a REGISTERED SEX OFFENDER is pretttty much all Op will need to get full custody. Hope that relationship with his creep sister was worth loosing his family.

@sytherwusky

7 ай бұрын

This would be a dream case for a lawyer

Story1 Not a single word can ever be trusted from that man's mouth again. Ever. Op should have the kids speak to a therapist to make sure SiL didn't mess with them as well. She did, after all, change the toddler's clothes.

Oh no, not better health. They’re so problematic….

Hey R/Slash, I'm not sure if your current sponsorship with betterhelp was pre planned before all the current information we have on them. But, just in case, it's better not to take sponsors from them as they're not a trustworthy source for mental help/assistance.

@ShadowReignhart

8 ай бұрын

Most likely he signed a contract a while back and is locked into it. I've seen a few channels who unfortunately had that happen.

@sealo1351

8 ай бұрын

@@ShadowReignhart i assumed as much, but he hasn't outright said it thus far

@distorteddivine3638

8 ай бұрын

@@sealo1351 They can't until the contract is up, if that's what's happening. There's a couple companies who've done the same thing in locking people into ad reads for a year and threatening legal action if not completed, even if the victim tries to forfeit payment to get out of it. It's why you've got to do your research thoroughly before accepting any sponsorship, because the same thing basically happened to a lot of people with that Established Titles garbage. Say what you want about the Raid Shadow Legends sponsorships, but at least they're just a silly mobile game with some optional micro transactions and not outright lying or scamming people.

Happy birthday R/Slash Though remember better help is a scam and it’s better to not be promoting them, thank you and have a good day ❤

Seriously how dense could ops husband be around his register offender sister? And basically hide it from his wife?!?, im also 100% sure she wasn’t supposed to leave her state without filing the paperwork

@kaylawoodbury2308

8 ай бұрын

Let's be real here, chances are he's either a victim with borderline Stockholm syndrome towards his assaulter, a willing participant or an accomplice helping her access children. Maybe I'm just jaded but I just get the same vibes off this as I did hearing that infamous story of the op saving his two sisters after discovering the men in his family have a "tradition" of SA'ing the female children. Where even the women who married into the family were so abused and gaslit that they were trying to justify letting all the men SA their daughters and tried to coerce them to lie. She needs to get those girls physically and mentally evaluated by professionals asap.

@SasoAkasuna

8 ай бұрын

Yeah and OP mentioned there was a restraining order too, so it's just worse and worse

@missvoorhees7964

8 ай бұрын

​@@kaylawoodbury2308no,he's most likely aiding her in abusing kids himself. Let's not pretend he's any kind of victim here,he knew EXACTLY what he was doing and he enjoyed it while convincing their mother that she was crazy

@kaylawoodbury2308

8 ай бұрын

@@missvoorhees7964 Did you just skip the rest of my post to justify your comment or....

@wmdkitty

8 ай бұрын

Not dense. Knowingly providing his own childrren for her to victimize. And gods only know what he, himself, did to the poor babies.

Rslash, my dude. You keep taking sponsorships from BetterHelp even though so many people keep trying to point out how terrible it is. We understand you need money (obviously; i mean you've got a kid and everything else you gotta pay for) but it puts you in a bit of a bad light. Ignoring the comments wont make the problem go away. Stop taking sponsorship deals from shitty companies and vet them out. Taking one amd then realizing that they aren't good is one thing but this is consistent and its just... Unfortunate, i guess.

@Thebatcavepetfriendlybakery

3 ай бұрын

Betterhelp releases/sells personal information so they get more money, barely pay therapists they hire and falsely promise bigger paychecks to get people to apply, they hire pretty much anyone that applies and that includes horrible therapists that can push people over the edge, etc. They neglect their patients AND employees in so many ways and lots of people are unaware still

@SpicyRainStorms

3 ай бұрын

Womp womp that’s life😂

Story 2: I was thinking the entire time, 'why is she with this bum?' right up until he said about moving to LA to be a streaming then rSlash said what I was thinking, streaming doesn't require being in any specific area aside from good internet, and even from collabs you can still do those online as well as in person. He's either lying or is a true blue moron, and seeing as he broke up with his meal ticket, who I still don't know why she was with him, I'm leaning towards the latter.

Call the police. If she's an RSO, she probably isn't legally allowed around children, and you have proof she was.

Betterhelp no only mines your personal information and sells it but it’s therapists are also know for not being very good. I’d advise against using it.

Story 1 I AM ABSOLUTELY FURIOUS I CAN’T BELIEVE THAT THE HUSBAND IS LETTING HIS SISTER WHO IS A CRIMINAL NEAR THE CHILDREN op divorce his sorry butt asap

Oh my God! Story 1 op needs to talk to oldest about inappropriate touching seeing if she experienced any or saw her sis get touched inapropriately and take them both to Dr/and or therapy. Asap

RSlash MN resident here. I got a kick out of how you pronounced Minneapolis (Mini-apple-less or Mini-ah-pull-less are the 2 common ones) XD Also idk for sure but if OP is an NICU nurse in Minneapolis, there's a chance she works for/with some of the top ranked clinics in the nation. Not important to the story but wanted to point that out :3 Also Happy B-day!

@TheHitsubasa

8 ай бұрын

Is that NOT how you say it?

@thomasj3701

8 ай бұрын

I don't understand why it's so hard to say... I've tried to say it that way and I can't.

you know the husband of op 1 is a monster when the thought of adultery sounds better than the end result of the story

I remember reading the tampon story on BoRU.... I didn't think it was an affair, but worse than I thought it would be. Sometimes the victims of pedos become abusers. If I were OP, I'd get the kids examined by a professional-just in case the husband abused them.

I’m could imagine being one of the husbands friends in the first story “whyd y’all get divorced?” “I let my chomo sister around our kids” “….yea so you’re not gonna try and fight right?”

Stop accepting better help sponsors

Is BetterHelp doing good now? I notice a lot of my fav KZreadrs keep them still as sponsors so are they using actual real therapist now that have a degree and aren't selling your personal information anymore? I haven't heard any positive news about them recently so I'm just wondering if YTers are just still promoting them just for the money even knowing they aren't a safe company.

@leanen451

8 ай бұрын

no, they are still and always will be shitty. Most youtubers are just too greedy and selfish to turn them down. They know.... they just dont care.

@JadeAnnabelArt

8 ай бұрын

Nothing I've heard of from them is positive. I just worry people aren't doing their research. The same happened in the past with 'Wounded Warrior.' People were singing their praises, while the CEO's were using the funds for a party. I feel it's a youtubers responsibility to do their research before accepting a sponsor, especially BetterHelp.

Never heard a story where cheating is a better alternative

"Ruined Life": I don't think the ex wanted to move to LA to be a streamer. My guess is that his "like a brother" BFF was going to be moving and he HAD to go too, so he made up the streamer thing.

@survivedandthriving

8 ай бұрын

This is good thinking. I was puzzled why the guy 'had to' move, because, as rSlash and others have pointed out, streaming is online so can be done anywhere. I think you have solved the puzzle. Very good thinking - thank you.

Story 1: I agree. Honestly, cheating would have been much better that her husband leaving the kids with a literal child predator.

1st story: Damn, that is the craziest story of gaslighting I have ever heard. I hope the husband gets jail time for enabling his predator sister to be around their kids. 2nd story: Good for Mason in coming out and being truthful about who he is and all, but he's still a lazy unmotivated jerk who will probably end up ruining his relationship with his new partner because bad habits die hard and he thinks he's entitled to have someone take care of him without returning the effort.

The OP should drop the husband and get the kids out of their ASAP ya it’s no affair but this is a 1000 times worse

First story: it’s always a bad sign when the husband lies to you and brings his sex offender family member close to your kids.

Imma need OP to disappear. Change their names, contact info, try and scrub all major websites of their info (BeenVerified, etc), change continents. Just run. The sister is unhinged. She started with small things and then escalated pretty quickly. Stuff that seems harmless and petty, but it’s a warning sign that she’s capable of much more.

Story 2: word to OP. I am a doctor who would absolutely kill for a partner like you. You're an amazing person.

Please research on Better help. They are NOT the kind of company you want to be associated with.... I support mental health and therapy, but not them

First story: I hope that as soon as the wife heard that the SIL was in the house with the girls she should have immediately called the cops and said "there is a registered 's' offender in my house with my husband and two minor daughters" The cops JUMP on that

Story1: I'm wondering if the husband is an earlier victim, and is easily manipulated by the sister. Of course, even if that's true, he can't be trusted with the children's safety, and has to go.

The fact that the husband LIED about his SEX OFFENDER sister, endangered his kids with the offender AND tried to gas-light and manipulate OP into thinking she’s wrong is ABSOLUTELY DISGUSTING! And he was FINE and SHRUGGING OFF the fact that his daughters could’ve been MOLESTED OR SEXUALLY ABUSED by a stranger, let alone a FAMILY MEMBER as if it’s “normal” to him! OP, not ONLY should you divorce the a-hole scumbag Husband, but ALSO file a restraining order against the guy AND his sister! At this point, you should also warn his family about what happened. And if they’re MORE decent and human than the husband and sister, then hopefully they’ll cut all ties and disown those two scumbags!

Story one, best he can hope for is supervised visits where the sister isn't allowed to be.

I feel like there are a lot of people out there who feel the need to "wish their ex well on their journey" or whatever after being treating like garbage, cheated on, lied to and used as an unwitting beard just because the horrible ex turned out to be gay. To me a garbage person is a garbage person, being gay doesn't absolve you of shitty behavior.

@Robin93k

7 ай бұрын

If he even is gay... And not just the guy that does anything for 20 bucks as long that it isn't work. But yes, if a person's sexuality changes your view of them or your behaviour towards them, you are an ignorant asshole, not a supporter!

The fact that the husband in the first story left the girls alone with the pedo is the worst part. He has no idea what might have gone on. Or worse, he does

@wmdkitty

8 ай бұрын

Oh... why did you think he left the kids with _her?_ It wasn't for their health and safety!

At that moment, she wished her husband was a cheater.

Story 1) As soon as I saw the legally restricted person on the camera and my husband didn't pick up the phone, I would have called the cops to report a registered sex offender at my house, around my children. There wouldn't have been multiple calls or a text. My marriage would be ruined, but that damage was already done. My next call would be to my boss to tell him I had to leave due to an emergency. Then a call to my family members to meet me at the house to get my children to safety. This is an easy slam dunk for any divorce lawyer regarding custody.

Story 1: Honestly, my first call would've been to the police. "Hello, 911, there's a pedo in my house with my kids who's not supposed to have left her state."

First story, unfortunately there hasn't been any updates since then but I hope the best for her and nothing but hell for her future EX and ex-SIL until they're back in hell where they belong. Second story, I'm surprised the trash took itself out and it made OP's life much easier but now the leech is going to suck someone else dry and not in a good way. But what does location even have to do with streaming? Does this loser think that by being in LA, he magically begins to get followers and subscribers? That's not how it works, it takes actual effort. The thing this loser refuses to do.

The first story somehow would be better if he actually was cheating. I cant believe I'm saying that, but thats how I feel. I 100% would rather the husband be cheating that what the truth actually is.

Haven’t even heard the video yet but after reading the title I already have my crowbar ready. Oh my god it was so much worst than I imagined!!!

Wasn't Better Help the center of controversy a few years ago? Strange to see that sponsor.

Op shouldve just called the cops and told them that a certified sex offender has her kids. That police report would look so nice in court. Judge would tear him a new asshole.

Oh my goodness, now I remember the tampon story and I couldn’t believe that cheating would’ve been the better ending.

Holy crap, OP. *_Document EVERYTHING._* Divorce. File for full custody. File _any and all_ applicable charges against Hubby and SIL. And once it's gone through the courts, move as far away from there as you can afford to, change all y'all's names, stay off socials, and pray that whole side of the family just forgets y'all exist. Hubby and SIL are a _danger_ to OP and the kids.

Yep, in story 1 an affair would have been preferable to what was actually going on.

The streamer bf reminds me of an old roommate. He was awesome as a fun friend to game with, and had a good attitude… but he didn’t pay rent or chip in, and said he was writing a book about how to be successful and improve to reach financial goals (while sleeping on the couch)… and he would pay back rent once the book (that he never started) became a bestseller. He also said an entry level job was below him. Ugh… Some people I want so much to succeed, but it’s frustrating when they “put the cart before the horse “

I really want to know what happened next for Story 1, because unless there's profound consequences for the husband and his sister I might just lose all faith in humanity.

11:30 for those thinking "but she is their aunt" go watch "perks of being wallflower"

Ya know when a story is too crazy to be made up? That’s story 1 in a nutshell

Story 1: I'm surprised that OP didn't rain hell upon her husband and her sister in law and spared them, had i been in her situation, I would've went full on Doomguy on those two, and made sure they never escape my wrath

Story #1: Somebody's ass would have been lying in the dark North Carolina woods beaten beyond recognition!!🤬

Story 1 was such a ride. Mark covered it a while ago

Man I hope she gets a good lawyer and judge for her case... I 100% agree the aunt does not get to be around those kids, esp not while they're still that young, and the husband is a sack of excrement for not only encouraging it because "family", but also actively hiding it from his wife and gaslighting her so she can't stop them. However, some law systems also take the "but family" approach. I know a couple who took in their nephews and niece cause their mom was doing drugs and bringing sketchy guys around. The boys were older (young teens) and had to get moved because they were bringing pot in the house, but the girl was just 2. They adopted her, but her mom still has some rights. There was a lot of fighting because she was allowed shared custody, even though there was no proof she was clean. Still had sketchy guys around, and the girl came home with bruises or acting secretive, like she'd been told not to tell. The mom recently had a baby boy, and the BABY tested positive for drugs in his system. But the courts here are all "bond between mother and child is sacred", even at the cost of the health of the child. I'm not sure what the custody looks like now. I try not to pry, most of what I know is being an ear to vent to when things get frustrating. Pretty sure the baby was taken from her care. I'm hoping her rights got terminated, but given the flaws in the system it wouldn't surprise me if they STILL ruled she has visitation.

10:37 Wow, just wow... I always hated people who would resort to gaslighting others, but this sorry excuse of a human being (the husband) is the worst of the worst.

Been watching your channel for a while and love your Reddit videos! Pretty disappointed to see you partnering with better help when there’s lots of sources and info that shows how terrible betterhelp is. I understand you provide free content and need to support yourself and your family but please consider your sponsorships more in the future ❤️

Story 1: the court will NOT love the fact that sister in law is a registered sex offender, custody is gonna go fully in her favor if the the judge has any sense of reason!

Did Rslash just say "minion-apolis"? lmao

You know your marriage is fucked when Cheating is the better alternative to what's really happening.

Screw that first guy

Happy birthday Dabney, and thanks for the videos! Best whishes from Sweden!

Honestly , if the sister was on the registry due to something like public indecency, public urination , or solicitation, I could understand his urge to let his daughters reconnect and then hiding it from his wife. He’d still be a dick , but he wouldn’t be a danger to his kids . This man is a danger to his kids , and a monster .

1st story - a tampon in the car is usually an accident. A tampon in a sock/underwear drawer is a purposeful notice from the cheater to the victim. So the sister meant to do this. Next point: the husband is "high on the list" of people that the sister needs to make amends with? She molested HIM. Wrap the tampon incident with this and this takes an ugly turn. Now - the onesie incident is the WORST. The child had to be undressed and then dressed in the new one. This takes a dark turn in the light that it was done by an incestuous child molester.

Oh my god!!! That first story is worse than an affair!!!!

I don't often comment on these, but DAMN!!!! Story 1: OP's hubby is a World Class gaslighter-- he actually had her second-guessing her own sanity/intelligence/etc. Bad enough... but the man was acting as a PIMP for his own children to satisfy his sister's sick desires (whether she made any physical contact with the girls or not). She got to play "dress up" with one of the kids-- at the very least-- and the kids' FATHER sanctioned it! Sick! Gotta wonder... was he getting some "side nookie" from her for all this? If so, MEGA sick!

Story 1: I agree that Cheating was somehow the _better alternative_ to this situation. And personally, I wouldn't have even called the spouse, I would have (hopefully) called the cops only and told them "A registered sex offender and child molester is going to this house with kids, her name is (blank) and she's supposed to be 2 states away and be stuck there.". Calling him gives him a chance to delete the footage and destroy evidence. Having the police show up and arrest the sister gives proof that it happened. Story 2: If OP was my girlfriend, I'd be the stay at home husband/caretaker. I'd learn to cook, clean, and do everything else so that she could focus on her job. But no, turns out he was a leech.(Edit: I can cook and clean, but I mean I'd take the time to perfect the habits and skills)

I see people on other videos comment stuff like, “the biggest dealbreaker is cheating!” And I’m like, “uh, nope, there’s worse.” This story is an example.

Glad to see you're taking care of yourself in the chaos that is the world at this moment.

As someone who lives near LA, I can’t help but laugh at the ex bf in the last story God freaking luck finding a decent place to live when you’re unemployed and only play video games. LA is insanely expensive and unless you make really good money you either have to live with 4 other roommates or with your parents if you want a roof over your head. I would not be surprised if he moved back within a year

@jack_stone

8 ай бұрын

He's probably going to piggyback off his new boyfriend.

@RhiannonSmudge

8 ай бұрын

@@jack_stone probably

First story: I'm a fan of the growing "justice against your local sex offender" movement. Last story: my ex-bf was really big into controlling me. In the last two years, he tried to make me believe that my child is a problem (he hates children or at least finds them inconveniencing) and frequently kept telling me what I will do after I retire in my career in the next five years. He wanted us to move to a state where I'm even further away from any family of mine, no friends, just a home maker who also pays the mortgage cause of my retirement pay. The guy wasn't using me as a beard, he is bi, but felt more connected with his bf (he is poly, I'm not) but loved me for the passionate hugging. Fuck people like that.

@Robin93k

7 ай бұрын

Your Story: Sounds more like you loved him for the passionate hugging, while he loved your money and/or submissive behaviour. Like, why does it take one 2 years to break up with a person that obviously tries to subjugate you?

Nobody: Absolutely Nobody: Dabney: "Minionapolis"

@ZanderMaddenn

8 ай бұрын

As a Minnesotan it hurt lol