Story 1 : So, OP says that her Fiance has big FOMO, which I understand. What I don't understand is how his Fear of "Missing the First christmas with all his simbling" is bigger than fearing "Missing the birth of his first child". You put the two on the balance, and unless you don't like your S/O, there's no way the first is heavier than the second.

@kaykay8855

7 ай бұрын

There’s an update for that post, op set up a video between her, him, his sister who’s a nurse and her mother and his mother. OP’s mother laid into fiancé’s mother and let’s just say fiancé is still a momma’s boy.

@Juju2927

7 ай бұрын

​@@kaykay8855 Yeah that's what I figured. It's less that he got FOMO and more that he's afraid of being chastatized by his mother for not bending to her will.

@bigjalapeno7061

7 ай бұрын

@@kaykay8855 Damn

@BT-ip8um

7 ай бұрын

Her husband had major conflict with his SIL last year that drove a wedge between him and his siblings where they no longer included OP and her husband in major trips/events. They just started mending the relationships a couple months ago, so that's a reason the sibling thing matters to him.

@dethmetelchik

7 ай бұрын

@@BT-ip8umthe birth of his first child should still be a priority and his family should understand this. Doesn’t mean that’s how it is but to most people the birth of a child trumps everything. Ops husband is deep in the fog from what i gathered from the Reddit posts update

The first story: he’s all “parents are so important!!” And completely ignores that HES BECOMING A PARENT! Shouldn’t children be equally important if not more so?

@veszekium5693

7 ай бұрын

Facts! This dude is stupid

@jaggedlittlepearl8635

7 ай бұрын

Exactly. Pregnancy is unpredictable, anything can happen. Also you can't exactly predict when the baby is born. That and traveling when pregnant especially 9 months pregnant is incredibly risky.

@lilydr9364

7 ай бұрын

Happy holidays RSlash

@lorilancaster5917

7 ай бұрын

@@jaggedlittlepearl8635and how ridiculous is it that people who’ve experienced pregnancy and childbirth are also blowing off OPs concerns. They’ve all showed OP that she will be a one woman show.

@ElkiaStellar

7 ай бұрын

Just like his parents, he doesn't consider OP as family. He has ''fomo about family vacations'' but he has no problem risking missing out on his child's birth.

I _loved_ the line from the OP doing the painting when he said, "Him _wanting_ me to apologize was in no way the same as me *needing* to apologize." Words to live by!

@bigjalapeno7061

7 ай бұрын

Lol yea

LAST STORY UPDATE: OP didn't break up with her because she seemed 'really sorry'. BIG MISTAKE! OP posted in r/legal advice over a week later... his girlfriend told him she didn't like him talking to a coworker (who is a woman) because she's jealous. He told her she's just a friend and a few days later she told her parents he ASSAULTED her because she was still angry. Her parents are apparently pretty rich and are threatening to sue. He's being blacklisted in friend groups and people are turning against him. He didn't do anything, apparently and she has absolutely no proof of any kind to back up her claim. So uh... just as nuts as Rslash thought. Ouch.

@dylanadavis2118

7 ай бұрын

Hopefully the op learns from this. It's completely unfair but when you ignore the signs what do you expect?

@sweetkairysweetkairy3952

7 ай бұрын

😮

@lacko623

7 ай бұрын

Sweet Jeeez...but if psycho GF has nothing to back up her claim, at the same time, OP really needs something good to save himself. R*pe allegations are really taken seriously and can mess up your life, even if you are proven to be innocent... Hopefully, OP will have justice on his side and can sue the crap out of crazy psycho Ex...

@audreym3908

7 ай бұрын

I really hope he has a shark of a lawyer for his case and learn NOT to put his dick in crazy.

@Simipourfangirl

7 ай бұрын

Yeah.. I really hope op gets out of this situation clean and no damage to his reputation or anything worse than that.

Story 2: The stepdaughter is getting a rather expensive lesson, you can't reap benefits from someone who you been nothing but antagonistic towards, no matter their relationship towards you. She constantly told him he wasn't her father, she can't expect him to fund her college expenses after everything she had done. Child, teenager, or not, bad attitudes have consequences.

@bigjalapeno7061

7 ай бұрын

Yep pretty much

@lorilancaster5917

7 ай бұрын

Hopefully there is nothing in writing which OP said he’ll contribute to her college fund. Otherwise he is completely in the clear. Heck! He could evict the brat and her mom and would be justified.

@danielbrant6740

7 ай бұрын

It sounds like the stepdaughter skipped out on that one KZread teacher's important lesson of, "...if you don't fuck around, you never have to find out."

@tawnyacosta9091

7 ай бұрын

Exactly!

@Stefisgarden

7 ай бұрын

I heard that, and all I could say was "if it isn't the consequences of your own actions."

There is Update to 1 story: - OP mom came to her to be with her - OP doctor told her to not travel at any cost. - OP fiance adjusted his date to come back at 22nd. Ofcourse his mother wanted him to fly to her on christmas. - OP informed her friend about everything and she was livind, she said she will be with her even on christmas if she gos on labor. - Op says his fiance family never threated her as family and not inviting to family gatherings. She is not even allowed to sleep in the same room with her fiance. - Op is expecting a girl.

@seforivera8678

7 ай бұрын

Thanks for the update

@sweetkairysweetkairy3952

7 ай бұрын

Thanks for the update Merry Christmas 🎄🎄🎄

@amalieshelby

7 ай бұрын

So I hope that the op's boyfriend misses the birth and op moves in with her mom because the boyfriend seems to not have his priorities straight and his family treats her like a stranger. So I hope she gets her life together and leave her boyfriend.

@lorilancaster5917

7 ай бұрын

I hope fiancé realizes he’s far from being in the clear and needs to work his butt off to make amends.

@BT-ip8um

7 ай бұрын

Also her husband had major conflict with his SIL last year that drove a wedge between him and his siblings, so they started excluding OP and her husband from major events/trips. They just started mending there relationship a couple months ago, so that's a reason the sibling thing matters to him.

Pro tip: if someone ever tells you they already called the police, yet the supposed emergency is still happening, theyre lying. The operator stays on the phone with you until the police get there

Usually the due date isnt really that reliable.. so being there two days ahead and call that ample time is just plain stupid

@Annie_Annie__

7 ай бұрын

Exactly. My in-laws went on a month long vacation when I was almost 36-weeks pregnant. My MIL said that all first pregnancies are late, so they’ll be back home in plenty of time. I had the baby 3 days after they left. Even though they live 2 miles down the street from us, they didn’t meet their first grandchild until he was 3-weeks old.

@beautifulmidnight

7 ай бұрын

Yeah, the due date isn’t set in stone. One would assume that a woman with more than one kid (I don’t think it says how many siblings OP’s fiance has but given that it’s plural, I’d assume at least two) would know that. I’m gonna guess that OP’s future MIL doesn’t care. (But I bet she’d care if she wasn’t allowed to see her grandbaby.)

@lorilancaster5917

7 ай бұрын

Even the doctors call it estimated due date. Even if someone scheduled a C-section, there is no guarantees about the exact day the baby will want to come into this world.

@stormwright8300

7 ай бұрын

@lorilancaster5917 shit i cam out in May. I was supposed to be born in September

@sammeyDay

7 ай бұрын

I was 3 weeks early. Geez.

First story has an update. OPs OBGYN, and Friend are HARD on her side, as in staunch defenders, so to speak. Fiances family sounds... "Traditional" as they have been excluding Op from other things (Cant even sleep in the same room together during those family gatherings) OPs also expecting a girl. She mentions there should be another update post delivery, but that family sounds a bit... iffy.

@rosssettles7025

7 ай бұрын

Many wealthy family's only see women as a tool to produce the next generation of heirs. It's disgusting and dehumanizing.

@bladerunner3314

7 ай бұрын

Obviously religious nutjobs.

Story 3: His friend and his wife should consider themselves lucky that OP is even offering to help for free at all. Then the wife has to sabotage OP's work and waste the materials. And now, they are shocked he wouldn't complete their house even after telling him he isn't allowed back? No way, you guys played yourself. NTA.

@srenryttersgaard4729

7 ай бұрын

I thought the same.... ill help you, but you can use a brush or roller yourself

@Raikuthedragon

7 ай бұрын

Yeah, extreme hypocrisy

@danielbrant6740

7 ай бұрын

Let's not forget how negligent the friends were when they allowed a dog into a workspace with _potentially hazardous materials._

@lorilancaster5917

7 ай бұрын

@@danielbrant6740that’s been my main complaint as well. Screw the fact that the dogs could’ve gotten paint all over them because they thought what they did was funny. No professional painter would put up with their crap.

@curtisalex456

7 ай бұрын

There's a TikTok video, a woman was asked to clean up after the men (her husband and father in law) have finished for the day. The men were building her a house. It would have taken her less than 15 mins to clean up. Well, she did not clean up and made a TikTok video to complain about being asked to do it. 4 weeks later, she made a new video announcing that she was getting a divorce 😂😂😂

*3rd Story:* How stupid of a dog owner do you have to be to let your precious pooch _into a workspace with hazardous materials?_

@tawnyacosta9091

7 ай бұрын

I’d say a VERY stupid one!

@sourisvoleur4854

7 ай бұрын

Yeah, dogs get stuff on their paws their instict is to lick it off. This woman shouldn't own dogs.

@mothvile

7 ай бұрын

As a dog owner..no its not. My dog never instinctively licks things off his paws. None of my parents dogs did, either.​@@sourisvoleur4854

@Robin93k

7 ай бұрын

Sadly, that just generic stupidity of a pet owner... Not ever rare~

Story 4: Yeah, they were only there to defend their reputation, but they don't deserve that. They kicked out Chloe just for being pregnant, that is unforgiveable.

@tawnyacosta9091

7 ай бұрын

Agreed! Chloe's parents are awful people who don't deserve any respect, since they disrespected AND kicked out their own daughter when she was pregnant!

@bigjalapeno7061

7 ай бұрын

Yea it's stupid

@lorilancaster5917

7 ай бұрын

@@tawnyacosta9091I’m so glad OP gave those horrible parents the history lesson. Perhaps his wife needs a reminder as well. Even though I’ve pointed that out, OP wasn’t asked to walk her down the aisle to get back at her parents. She asked because he and his wife helped her when her parents wouldn’t.

@SailorMya

7 ай бұрын

@@lorilancaster5917 It really shows the difference in the "dads" of this story. OP felt it an honor for both of them while the other sees it as a jab at him that she would want them both to walk her like she is trying to rub it in his face what he did but it is not about him...

@humbleebumblee

7 ай бұрын

also likely want to be in the pictures as the "only" parent figures

*Stepdaughter:* _YOU'RE NOT MY FATHER, OP!_ *Same Stepdaughter:* Why won't you give me monies for college? 🥺 *OP:* I thought you said I wasn't your dad.

@ericwilliams1659

7 ай бұрын

No shit, I would have asked her when specifically he went from a stranger to her guardian. Because she can't expect strangers to give her money....

@katrinepedersen9660

7 ай бұрын

*surprised pikachu face*

5th story: NTA. Dude. You need to run away of this relationship. The crap test was awful,and the fact *she* start to cry about it makes it worse. ESPECIALLY A 29 Y/O Dude,do not run,instant teleport away of that manipulative beach.

@tawnyacosta9091

7 ай бұрын

I agree. OP, dude, run! Major red flags go off 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

@audreym3908

7 ай бұрын

I read a comment that said there's an update. It's worse. She was jealous of a coworker of his and she made false accusations of him and now he's in a huge pickle because his name and reputation is screwed.

@JamesDavy2009

7 ай бұрын

@@audreym3908 That is seriously [%$🤪!#] up! OP will need a good lawyer to file for defamation and slander.

*4th Story:* The DIL's parents should be grateful that they can even attend the wedding at all! OP has every right to call out DIL's parents on their evil behaviour that was most likely encouraged by their church.

@JamesDavy2009

7 ай бұрын

I'll never understand the cult that people call Christianity-they preach that God welcomes everyone and yet people abandon their children for being fruitful and multiplying out of wedlock. How delusional can one really be?

So in the first story- if OP is about to give birth there is no way she is allowed to travel on a plane. So even if she wanted to go to Florida with him- unless she has a note from her doctor, she can’t board the plane. And there aren’t many doctors that will approve a 9 month pregnant woman to get on a plane. Also, how is he expecting her to get to the hospital if her water breaks while he’s gone ?

@margaretjohnson6259

7 ай бұрын

uber, lyft, taxi, ambulance. lonely. it's horrible. poor woman. her fiance is worthless.

@RudesMom

7 ай бұрын

He needs to be the EX fiance. He's not marriage material. Even if they marry, she'll be a single mom for all intents and purposes.

@wmdkitty

7 ай бұрын

Well, she chose to get knocked up with some real bad timing, then. And now she's using her pregnancy to manipulate her Fiance.

@donnyshields4450

7 ай бұрын

Why would being pregnant prevent her from going on a plane?

@terestar1

7 ай бұрын

Because, I'd assume a NINE MONTH pregnant woman, would need a doctor's note to allow her on a plane, and not many doctors are going to approve that. ​@donnyshields4450

Story 2: "Actions have consequences" is a very important message, and apparently people forget this (or never learned about it) as they get older. I wouldn't support someone that calls me a "servant" and treats me as such.

@glennrishton5679

7 ай бұрын

I dont even see why there should be any expectation of OP paying in the first place. That is even aside from how she has continuously rejected OP.

@lorilancaster5917

7 ай бұрын

@@glennrishton5679and that wife needs a wake up call too! She’s passively told her daughter to not be rude to OP and quickly gave up when her nonchalantness didn’t work. I’m surprised OP kept her around too since she shows she doesn’t care enough for him.

@glennrishton5679

7 ай бұрын

@@lorilancaster5917 Good point, the wife wasnt much better.

@paulagoeringer9466

7 ай бұрын

I wouldn't have blamed him if he left her at school and called her mom to pick her up. FAFO.

Story 3 It's hilarious when people with no power try to do power plays. Don't come to our house until you apologize, but also we need you to come to our house.

@glennrishton5679

7 ай бұрын

He should go back with a contract for them to sign stating payment. No more friend helping friend.

OP in the first story deserves a better man to be her husband and stepfather than her fiance. What she's asking for is something reasonable, and her fiance wants to do his own thing instead of the right thing as a father.

@bigjalapeno7061

7 ай бұрын

I don't think I'll ever understand people like that

@sawyerawr5783

7 ай бұрын

@@bigjalapeno7061 you mean people with close families?

@GabrielleTollerson

7 ай бұрын

@@sawyerawr5783 You must love to abandon people

Story 2: you're her servant, she owes you money. If she doesn't like you then she doesn't like your money, after being such a little prick for 4 years she doesn't get to the man you open your wallet for her college. And since your wife is so concerned how much is she putting towards her college fund, and why does her actual father get to refuse but not you? I guess you'll just have to be one of the other thousands of people that don't get free college and will just have to get a loan, a job, and scholarship to pay for it.

Story 4: they kick their daughter out of their own free will no one made them, so they don't get to come back and overall anything. This isn't their wedding and they lost their opportunity to protest when they abandon their daughter, obviously she wants her parents there and want to be a big happy family but at the same time she's showing them that they don't call the shots anymore. They need you to back down because how is it going to look if they don't come to their daughter's wedding and another man is walking her down the aisle after they already abandon her, or that another man had the same place as her father because they abandoned her. Good on your DIL for not being a pushover to her parents, and they can get on board ir go away and never come back.

Last Story: That girlfriend should be thankful OP didn't dump her on the spot, but he definitely should. Sounds like she needs a reality check.

@Simipourfangirl

7 ай бұрын

Yeah if I ever had a boyfriend, I'd never do a "test" like this. Are we sure she's not following those Tik Tok trends to "test" if the boyfriend/fiance/husband is still going to be faithful to them, the same women who would probably be offended if their man tried the same thing? That's the vibes I'm getting.

@santiagosanchez7559

7 ай бұрын

Apparently in an update he didn't break up her, and she got jealous he was talking to a co-worker so now she's telling everyone he assaulted her.

@dshoultz6110

7 ай бұрын

​@santiagosanchez7559 Wow, poor guy, she is full-blown crazy

@OldsmobileCutlass1969Va

7 ай бұрын

The girl suffers from tictoc brain rot! What a beta for not permanently dumping that huge red flag!

@JamesDavy2009

7 ай бұрын

@@Simipourfangirl Anyone who wants to "test" their SO is insecure to the point of toxicity. I'm never getting married and a song by INXS called _Devil Inside_ sums up my opinion.

Story 2 nta. No child is owed a college education. The mom has ZERO say on this one. She should get a second job to pay for her own daughters college if she wants it paid so bad

Merry Christmas! *First OP:* Lol at OP's fiance accusing OP of putting her needs over his family when OP is _pregnant with his baby._ OP is NTA. Cut that guy loose. *Second OP:* OP was right to tell his stepdaughter to ask her "real dad" to pay for her education. I would've added, "I would, but servants don't get paid enough" just to be petty. OP is NTA. *Third OP:* This wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. I legit thought OP painted graffiti on the side of his friends' house. OP is petty, but NTA. *Fourth OP:* Great comeback from OP! OP is NTA. *Fifth OP:* Normally, I'm against men calling women the B-word, but OP is justified in this case. OP is NTA, and I hope he sees this as the Red flag that it is.

@your_local_questerian

7 ай бұрын

Merry Christmas to you too! :)

@lorilancaster5917

7 ай бұрын

Story one: in updates OPs fiancé will come home earlier than intended. He’s still an AH to me. OPs mom and sister who is a nurse plan on coming over asap. In-laws are still AHs for wanting son to stay with them the full duration. Story three: I find it funny how everyone is giving OP grief but refuse to help their friend. If you won’t help then stay out of it! Story five: OP is insane and took crazy girl back.

@audreym3908

7 ай бұрын

​@@lorilancaster5917and S1 OPs friend is also gonna be there too

*1st Story:* I've heard in past that the percentage of a baby being born on their due date is only as high as 4%. I shudder to think that if the fiance saw that statistic, he'd say something to the effect of "I like those odds!" 🤦‍♂️

@stormwright8300

7 ай бұрын

I was supposed to be born around September, but I was born in May

@LilyoftheValley1616

7 ай бұрын

You.... what???? There is no way you can be off by months. That's 4 months early, which means you were delivered at 24 weeks, which is only ever done on purpose. I wouldn't say that's normal to go into labor that quickly, most of the time if someone were to naturally go into labor that fast the doctors would give drugs to stop it.@@stormwright8300

Update to story 1: I'm sorry for not updating sooner, everything has been overwhelming and I'm trying to deal with alot. The good news is that my mom arrived home yesterday! When I had explained everything to her, her sister (who is a retired nurse) insisted she come too. I'm so thankful to have them here. It's hard to get my feelings across as there's a bit of a cultural barrier. My mom is from HK and without getting into details, the grandparent situation was very much an emergency. But she has siblings and my dad who is staying there atm. As for my fiance...I scheduled a virtual appointment with him and my obgyn to update her and told her this whole situation. Lke all of you, she was appalled and strongly recommended he not travel during this time. Her words were, "In my professional opinion, I'm going to VERY STRONGLY recommend you reconsider your plans. In my personal opinion, I'm going to insist it." It was probably on me for not alerting her sooner re. his travel plans. After that, he is still going but adjusting his dates so he will be back on the 22nd. There will be one day overlap with his siblings. His mom isn't too happy he won't be there for Christmas. She suggested he fly back later on the 25th instead so he can spend a part of Christmas day with them but he said no. It's still not ideal for me, my mom and aunt has insisted to speak with his parents so we've scheduled a call with them later today. I reached out to my best friend too about this after I read some of your responses and PMs. She was livid and informed her husband that she doesn't care if it's on Christmas day, if I go into labor, she will drop everything and be there. She's also been kept up to date about who will be with me while he is away and will be visiting. I know there were alot of questions regarding the family but I can't address all of them, it's too much to write out. Yes, I know they don't treat me completely as family, there have always been small passive aggressive things that bothered me (not invited to Mother's/Father's Day events, left out of family Secret Santa, not being allowed to sleep in the same room when we visit etc.). -Yes, I know that his mother must be aware that he shouldn't be leaving me at 37 weeks. She's not dumb and I update her after all my appointments so I know she knows this too. I don't know why she's saying it's ok, but I have an idea why. My mom has made it clear she will be addressing all of this in the call. -Some of you wondered how they can afford to go to Florida for a month. His parents are retired and snowbird there. His siblings and SIL all have 9 to 5 jobs that are partly remote so they are lucky enough to take their work to Florida and work there. My fiance is a gig worker so he dictates his own schedule. Obviously, their schedules don't always align. -I haven't shown him this thread yet. Atm, it's just one more thing I don't want to deal with with him. I may in the future but I have suggested we go to therapy before we set a wedding date...he agreed. I am also seeking counseling for myself. Lastly, I am incredibly grateful to all of you who took time to respond, offer to visit me and bring me food...I have never posted on Reddit before but I appreciate the support you've all shown me. Once again, thank you all so much. I'll try to update again after the baby comes. It might be awhile but please know that I am safe and have lot of love surrounding me. Please have a safe and happy holidays!! Also, I am expecting a girl 🥰

@manhathaway

7 ай бұрын

Pics or it didn't happen

@michellebrown5462

7 ай бұрын

​@manhathaway Just go on the post, it's not that hard 🙄

@manhathaway

7 ай бұрын

@@michellebrown5462 I'm glad you believe things with 0 evidence. It's a common trait.

@beautifulmidnight

7 ай бұрын

OP should make sure not to include them in any grandparent events.

@sweetkairysweetkairy3952

7 ай бұрын

Thanks for the update Merry Christmas 🎉🎄🥳🎉🎄🥳🎉🎄🥳🎉

Last story: I would leave that house SINGLE after a sick joke like that! This is 100% break-up worthy!

@clarky23

7 ай бұрын

sad part is there was an update: he didn't, gave her a second change. She saw him innocently talking to a coworker, went balletic, accused him of assualt, her parents believed her, parents are rich and threatening to sue OP. Not good.

Happy Holidays everyone! Absolutely love this community of fans and supporters of rSlash and each other!

That man is not ready to be a father. He is way too immature.

@paulagoeringer9466

7 ай бұрын

Yes. He's not even mature enough for a relationship.

@karenneill9109

7 ай бұрын

Yeah. His pregnant wife IS more important than his parents. How is that even a debate?

First story: it's so sad that OP convinced herself to never ever put her needs over her husband's. Whatever he wants, will be done and OP isn't allowed to have any opinion at all. Every christmas will be spent at HIS house, no arguments. HE will go to his mommy because OP and her child don't matter to him AT ALL. It's gross how OP is going out of her way to excuse his actions and never blaming him for anything. "He has fomo and he misses his mommy" he's a grown ass man who's wife will give birth.

STORY FIVE UPDATE: UPDATE: After talking to her about it, I have decided to give her a second chance. She's apologized a lot and promised to never do that again. I'd be more careful, of course, and I won't be trusting her blindly. But I have thought that I'd give her one chance, especially since she's shown herself to be regretful. My opinion: He didnt run when he had the chance. If THAT did not open his eyes, this guy is doomed. EDIT. SECOND UPDATE Please help me urgently: my girlfriend (29 F) is falsely accusing me (29 M) of assault. I should've listened to the signs as I made a previous post about it somewhere else & everyone was asking me to break up. But, I thought she was genuinely regretful about it at the time as she'd apologized. I am in huge trouble right now, though. I really don't know what to do, so please help me. She reached out to me two days ago to say that she doesn't like me talking to a specific girl at work, and I laughed it off by saying that she's a friend. She asked me whether I am sure, and I said yes. She did get into an argument in the beginning, but in the end she said she understands. But today she apparently told her parents that I'd assaulted her yesterday because I hadn't listened when she said that she doesn't want to have sex or something, and called her names. She also informed her friends about it. The gist is that everyone's mad at me, I am a pariah now. Her friends have turned against me, and her parents are threatening to sue me (she said that she's going to sue, and she comes from a rich family). I am basically black-listed from everywhere now and am a pariah. All of this has happened in a few days time' since the first incident which was her attempting to test my relationship or something, which has me shocked. Anyway... she's going to sue me, can afford the best lawyers, and I am expecting to receive a letter from her attorney anytime now or something. What should I do? Should I just look for another lawyer? I really don't know what to do. Please help me. POOR BASTARD

@glennrishton5679

7 ай бұрын

I agree with your assessment, He's doomed. Dont test men, we dont take that childish shit well.

@Lady0Grayson

7 ай бұрын

@@glennrishton5679 AND if you do. Then you are doomed. That guy saw the red flag and decided to stay. Poor bastard

@lorilancaster5917

7 ай бұрын

Who bets she pulled her stunts two months later at the latest? We all know she didn’t learn her lesson and even if OP broke up with her, she still would pull this crap on to others.

@ajjamsen694

7 ай бұрын

She may say "I will never do that again" but that doesn't mean she won't do something that fucked up again. And I'm fairly sure she will pull another ridiculous stunt to make OP prove some bull. 😮‍💨 welp, OP is an idiot as well as his psycho gf. "I won't be trusting her blindly " THEN WHY ARE YOU WITH HER?!?

@BadassHater1

7 ай бұрын

Well. Looks like someone is going to post yet another "my wife is acting crazy and controlling - HOW DID I NOT SEE THAT COMING?!" post

Story 3: Op is SOOOOOOO NTA, any of the friends who think he should “keep the peace” can volunteer THEIR time and money to help out. Op was doing them a favor, but the wife happens to be a spoiled brat. I also love the line “you wanting me to apologize is not the same as me needing to”

@Simipourfangirl

7 ай бұрын

Yeah and what he did was a small petty revenge

@JamesDavy2009

7 ай бұрын

It deserves the classic, "THEN YOU DO IT!!" from R/.

The first story about op who was about to have a baby is that she needs to dump her deadbeat future husband and run for the hills because there is no coming back from what the future husband was doing by going to Florida with his family and extended family but he can't stay home with his future wife and child

Last story: she woke you up in the middle of the night scared you have to death for some sick little test? I think I would have dumped my BF on the spot if they did that, and I don't understand why she thought repeating that it was a test was going to do anything. That's the reason you're mad saying it over and over will make you more upset, anything to avoid admitting your wrong and apologizing I guess.

What is the logic of people who totally cut off their children when they become pregnant. Do you really think thats not going to backfire spectacularly? Like when you decide youre not mad anymore and you want to meet your grandchild that it's all gonna be bygones? Good luck with that. Even if your kid lets you back in, youre 100% not going to have the relationship you could have had, and it's all your fault.

Story 3: the girlfriend is a toxic, narcissistic, spoiled princess who will steal this man’s life and peace. He needs to go as quickly as possible

@JamesDavy2009

7 ай бұрын

Unfortunately according to an update, the GF got super jealous of OP talking to a coworker who is _(gasp)_ female and so she lied to certain people and OP's reputation is shattered. She stole his life alright.

Someone already posted the update for the first story but all of it is making me wonder if it's actually worth trying to work things out with the fiancee's and his family. From what she said in the update, his family is have been super passive aggressive with her and leaving her out of stuff and they now she's well into her pregnancy. She also mentioned the two go to therapy before marriage and he agreed, but so long as his family is around? Again, I'm wondering if it's worth it because his parents don't see her as family and have him picking them under his future wife and child. But on the other hand, OP isn't in a position to just up and leave without needing a ton of help for her and her daughter

He doesn’t even love his fiancé and unborn child enough to cancel his trip altogether he’s shortens it, but it doesn’t cancel

@terryfilkohazi2237

7 ай бұрын

I love how he has FOMO. On what? You go to Florida every year. What are you missing out on?! It's not like you are going to a different state or country every year. THAT would be FOMO!!! Edit to say, is he a kid and worried about missing out on Disney world? He sounds like one.

@EmilyLennoxchannel

7 ай бұрын

​@@terryfilkohazi2237he's worried about missing out on sibling time but doesn't give af about missing the birth of his first born child?! Priorities all out of wack

@JamesDavy2009

7 ай бұрын

@@EmilyLennoxchannel The blood of the COVENANT is thicker than the water of the WOMB.

Last story: NTA "Being commited to help your partner is important in a relationship" You know what else is important? Trust and not lying to eachother. And you've just violated said trust. To OP - this is a point where you should reconsider the relationship. Especially since she didn't even apologize.

@bigjalapeno7061

7 ай бұрын

Yea really

@tawnyacosta9091

7 ай бұрын

Absolutely!

Hey before I even finished the fist story I googled it, and there's already an update. OP's OBGYN called him out so he came home (Despite his parents chagrin), OP's mother and sister came down, and OP's Best friend told her she'd drop everything to be there if she was needed. So OP's okay.

Story 1: NTA, fiance is, but I think OP hits it right on the head with "FOMO", and I think he might be straying into phobic territory, so I think he might need to look into therapy, but unfortunately he doesn't sound like he realizes he has a problem.

Story 4: NTA. this is such a 🍆 measuring contest full of bs. The bio dad needs to concede and just let go of his pride. He and his wife abandoned their PREGNANT DAUGHTER for 9 years and then slink back (probably because they were stalking her social media and saw how much happier she was) and overcompensate for their trash behavior. Now the bio dad is trying to swing his “authority” around cuz he thinks he has that right. I myself have 2 dads (bio and step) and don’t have this issue. Both danced with me at my sweet 16. Both have prominent roles in my life. I intend for both to walk me down the aisle for my wedding as well as have my father daughter dance with.

For the last story, that "test" goes both ways. It showed the guy was good husband/boyfriend material, but also showed the girl is not wife/girlfriend material. Not hard to imagine what would happen should the roles be reversed, and he would have tried to "test" her.

@Simipourfangirl

7 ай бұрын

She would have been furious no doubt. Or crying about how he's a terrible person knowing what kind of person she is.

As the daughter of a teen mom, it always surprises and appalls me that so many parents would kick out their pregnant daughter. It was the exact opposite with my mom. We both lived with my grandparents for 13 years. Between my mom, nana, and great grandma I basically had 3 mommies

He'll be back with plenty of time before the baby is born? I had my son 6 weeks early. I don't wish a preemie on anyone; it's heart-wrenching having to go home without your child, but I hope OP from story one has the baby two and a half weeks early.

Story 4: That is not something you test someone with. If anyone did that to me... well... they'd probably need to check into the hospital afterward.

Sad thing is I’ve been in OP situation and sadly it just ends up in divorce because they’ll continue to put their parents and their siblings before you and the baby

Chloe sounds like such a sweet, grateful, well adjusted young woman. Not totally sure how since the first 14 years of her life she was raised by those idiots. Papa Sam and Mama Carol are blessed to have Chloe, and Chloe is blessed to have them.

Story 3: They can finish the paint job themselves. Painting isn't that hard.

Damn RSlash you’re posting on Christmas? I hope this is pre recorded! Merry Christmas man, I hope you, Yugo, the wife and daughter all have a merry Christmas and a happy new year :)

@goober_gamer2024

7 ай бұрын

As RSlash said in one of his posts, it's he prerecords his videos before uploading them. I forgot if it's a day or two ahead of time or it's more than that.

@ohnosmoarlulcatz

7 ай бұрын

@@goober_gamer2024 It's way more than that. He has had enough in backlog for vacations before.

@shestolemythunder

7 ай бұрын

He usually pre records most of his videos, so yeah, he probably spending the day/week with family and friends!

@hiroshi7025

7 ай бұрын

Of course it's pre recorded.

@sabersz

7 ай бұрын

He prerecords them like a week in advance lmao, we good. I'm thankful for it though because I believe he has taken a Christmas or two off before (2019 i believe) and I didn't have the video for my early morning shower

THIRD STORY: DOES ANYONE REALIZE THAT THE WIFE IS A CHILDISH ADULT AND ACTS THAT WAY BECAUSE SHE GETS HER WAY BY ACTING THAT WAY. KEEP THE PEACE ALL YOU WANT IF THIS IS HOW YOU WANT TO LIVE.🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

last story I take it the gf hasn't heard of "Peter and the Wolf " .

First story: if the fiancee is putting his parents ahead of his pregnant girlfriend (not to mention the baby), then he's not ready to be a father. Too bad it came out this late. Third story: "We frustrated you, you expressed your frustration in a way that left absolutely no trace, and now we're offended and won't let you back in. When are you coming back?" Last story: just leave her, too many red flags. But if you want to leave with a bang - test her in the same way. Either she won't come or she'll be so mad she'll break up with you herself.

Merry cristmas to all the Christmas celebraters. And happy Hanukkah to those that celebrate. And happy Kwanzaa to the Kwanzaa celebraters. Happy monday to everyone else! I hope you all have amazing days!

Merry Christmas!

@NunButTheTruth

7 ай бұрын

Merry Christmas!!! 🎅 🎄

@millymaker7836

7 ай бұрын

Merry Christmas

The first story has an update. oPs mother came back early to help her out and her dad is still with her grandparents in the other country. Her friend also said that she'll help out anyway she can, even if OP is due on Christmas. Her fiancee is still going (🙄 but is shortening the trip.

My sister was born 3 weeks early and I just know everyone reading this knows someone who was born more than 2 days early. Dad-to-be is a major AH.

Story 3: They can kick rocks, you don't need a friend without a spine.

"You wanting me to apologize is not the same as me Needing to apologize" I need to remember this one.

Merry Christmas Rslash. Thank you for this.

OPs husband in the first story actually had his flight ticlets fro. the 15th to the 28th this year due to the baby, OP is wonderinf if shes the ah for wanting him to just stay home with her because of how unpredictable and doesnt wanna be alone on Christmas Day this year

The parents don't consider OP family. Looks like they don't see the grandchild as family either.

Has that last women never heard of "The boy who cried wolf"? What if she really was in a dangerous situation and dying on the floor and he was like "Ugh, another test. Grow up" hangs up on her and she dies on the floor cause she wanted to "test" him. Childish and OP deserves better. Don't test your significant other, don't ask them stupid questions and get upset at their answers. Just enjoy being together with them. Good gracious this generation...

For story 3, the friend's wife allowed her dogs to go into a room that was ACTIVELY BEING PAINTED. What if the dogs tracked paint all through the house? Would the wife then go nuts at OP for "Allowing the dogs to track paint all over the house"? In that scenario, if I was in OP's position, I'd simply look at her and deadpan, "I wasn't the one who gave the dogs access to the room being painted with paint sitting in a roller tray to be used for said paint job." 1000% NTA. If anyone is here, it's the friend's wife.

I was truly hoping that, because it's Christmas, he would finally read updates to a story. With story 1 it's practically necessary. But alas, no Christmas present.

“Him wanting me to apologize was in no way the same as me needing to apologize” made me giggle hard lmao

First story: Father needs to spend time with his wife and kid. I’m with Reddit, divorce him. He isn’t putting you as first priority

Story 4; "He may be your father, but he ain't your daddy/papa."

Last one obviously missed a tale of a boy who cried wolf.

Story 2 Family means giving unconditional love and support. 12:13 this is unconditional love and support meanwhile her parents are willing to end the relationship at a moments notice

Wedding story: It's easy enough to explain the two guys thing without it making anyone look bad, so I don't believe her dad was trying to save face. I think it's more from her dad being a narcissist and not wanting to share "the spotlight" with anyone else. That, and possibly feeling that it would prove that Chloe will always pick him over OP as her dad. Possibly to prove who the alpha male is in her life, or overall.

Story 1. For a due date of the 30th, the 28th is NOT 'ample time' to come back since, the due date is just a best guess. The baby could come days earlier than expected (I was a whole MONTH early-was supposed to be early November, came early October-and my sister about a week-she was supposed to be on Valentines). So like, yeah sure the due date is Dec 30th, but that's no guarantee that the baby will come on the 30th, it could come on the 25th for all they know, it's literally an 'any day now' at this point.

I think r/ miss understood the first story op wasn’t upset that their fiancé wasn’t gonna be spending time with her family she was upset that she’d be spending Christmas alone while 9 months pregnant and that things can go wrong in that time and she wouldn’t have help / he could miss the birth of his child

The painting one - part of the fun of painting is that you get to mess around with primer and such before you paint. It's the perfect time to be childish. Lol

About first OP's fiancé: I'm getting fed up with those people lightly deciding to bring children into this world and then suddenly realizing: "Oh shoot, this comes with responsabilities, why did no one tell me before?" Or, even worse, never even realizing it...

Okay I don’t usually comment twice on these videos but I have something to say about the last story. Any romantic partner who tears you is not a romantic partner you need!

On the last story - What if OP would've gotten into an accident trying to rush to and reach his girlfriend? OP could've been seriously injured, seriously injured someone else, or even killed someone else as well as died Himself! Stuff like emergencies are not a game that's to be played like that! That girl isn't emotionally mature enough to be in a committed relationship! Run OP, Run. DON'T WALK, RUN AWAY! RUN FAST AND RUN FAR AWAY!

The last story: I had a friend that tested her boyfriend's loyalty to her by seeing what he would do when the two of us were alone at a party. We (her boyfriend and I) were just having fun drinking and talking when she came bursting out onto the patio and accused him of cheating on her with me and tried to fight me to see what side her boyfriend would choose. Needless to say, I ended my friendship with this crazy bitch that night and have refused any contact since then. She tried to apologise to me in a text message with the whole 'I thought you'd understand' spiel. I didn't even respond to her. Just left her on read and blocked her. Heard from some mutual friends that this girl's relationship with the guy didn't last longer than a year before he bailed out on her and went on to date somebody else that I hope he's happy with.

@glennrishton5679

7 ай бұрын

A word from some old guy: While a woman may see this as a test as mentioned in the story of the mans commitment to the man it is just a stupid game women play. It becomes a FAFO moment.

@danielbrant6740

7 ай бұрын

I'm sorry that happened to you. That sounds like a worse scenario since you were an unwitting punching bag in that particular 'loyalty test'. Shit like that should be publicly called out.

Fourth story: NTA. They kick their daughter for a child they didn't want, then probably after some shame when the news got out they scumly crawl their way back on probably repair their gross image and then tey to piss territory with the parents who steped up in their place. I say they got back into their daughter's life flr selfish reasons because the kid isn't if they kicked her out for their grandchild.

Liar: NTA - The only acceptable answer to a 'test' like that is, "I may have passed, but YOU didn't."

Servants don't pay for their patrons' educations

Liar: As your break up gift, give her a copy of "The Boy who cried Wolf". You may also want to consider adding a "Drama Llama" t-shirt or sweater.

Last story. Making calls like that are a great way to get the worried person to drive badly and get in an accident and then we do have a true emergency.

My mother wanted both her dad and stepdad to walk her down the aisle. There is a long list of things my grandfather, her dad did including cheating on my grandmother, not paying the full child support, etc. Only her stepfather walk her down.

Story one, I agree with rslash that OP needs to run while she still can. If she has the baby early, or has late-stage complications and asks him to come home early, her fiance's family will likely accuse her of doing it selfishly for attention because she "couldn't stand to be alone for a few days." And if she DOESN'T have the baby or any other emergencies before he gets back, they'll feel totally justified in keeping him. They'll say she was worried for nothing or just being selfish. It's truly a lose-lose scenario for her, one no pregnant person (first time or not) ought to ever be put in.

Story one: nta but ops partner is the bigger ahole for putting his family first than the one he started, so whats going to happen next year if she stays with him are his parents going to just invite him and the baby?

Curse words: Tell them you'll apologize to the wife when you come back to set up a Cask of Amontillado for her.

Story 5: OP, get away from that sick woman now! If that is not a blindingly glaring red flag, I don’t know what is! Run dude, run 🏃!

First story: remember in Indiana Jones and the last crusade when people are supposed to choose the right cup?. Well, men are like cups and OP; you chose poorly.

I like what you've been doing, Dabney, cursing on occasion and, in effect, calling out KZread's stupidity about 'naughty' language. I wish everyone would do this. Keep pushing the envelope, I'm sick of the whole world being governed by the oh-so-delicate sensitivities of the American Bible Belt.

S5: Run. This isn't going to be the last time she "tests" you.

In the fourth story: I'd say that he should let the deadbeat dad be the one that sends her "daughter" down the aisle to further proof that the he is much better of a person than the deadbeat dad. Of course, respecting the daughter's wishes is important, but do you honestly think the daughter would stay quiet after her bio dad made a fus about the OP being the one to send her down the aisle? And then the score would be turned from OP 1 - 0 daedbeat, to a OP 2 - 0 deadbeat. Double your reputation in front of your basically stepdaugter and those attending the wedding.

The walking down the aisle story: here's a simple/petty solution the Chole's parents get what they want, but they have to wear name tags that read something like "we abandoned our daughter for having a baby too you, but now we're back now to claim all the praise on her day, SO PRAISE ME" or alternately make it apart of the bride and groom speech.

Story 1 Had an update: OP scheduled a virtual appointment with her OBGYN and her doctor was rightfully appalled at the fiancé and essentially told him that leaving OP like that is abysmally stupid and dangerous. Fiancé was not happy but listened kind of. He is still going but adjusting his dates so he will be back on the 22nd. There will be one day overlap with his siblings. His mom isn't too happy he won't be there for Christmas. She suggested he fly back later on the 25th instead so he can spend a part of Christmas day with them but he said no. OP also reached out to her best friend too about it after reading some of the comments. She was livid and informed her husband that she doesn't care if it's on Christmas day, if OP goes into labor, she will drop everything and be there. She's also been kept up to date about who will be with OP while the loser fiancé is away and will be visiting.

RSLASH, I love your AITA videos, but I was hoping for a "yOu RuInEd My KiDs ChRiStMaS!" choosingbeggars video today. Oh well, maybe next year lol 🤣🤣🤣

Fifth story: NTA. My girlfriend pranks me like that and the next second her stuff and if she refuses herself is going outside through a window.

Story three: He is not in the wrong, but he is childish. Like, dude, just be the bigger person and then don’t deal with them again.

I’ve never understood “testing” your partner… my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years now and supported each other through thick and thin. He has severe anxiety and I would feel HORRIBLE making him worry I was in danger! Even if he didn’t have anxiety that’s so cruel! Imagine driving to your partners house wondering if they’re gonna be here the next day only to find out it was all some kind of cruel test or joke… best case scenario and they stay with you but when you’re actually in trouble there will always be the question in their minds of “is this a trick? Is this real?”

Honestly, I get kind of mad when able bodied people don't want to paint their own space. I've painted many a room, and it isn't hard to do it well.

The last story, TRUST and RESPECT are essential for a relationship. If you don't have those two things, you don't have anything. It's doomed.